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Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/19/20 11:28:23AM
1,446 posts

Electronics


Empath

@soothsayer4,

     My experience has also been that electronics malfunction around me when my vibration is lower, though for me it is usually just that they will not turn on at all. I can try to turn something on several times, give up and get my spouse and tell him it's broken, only to have him walk over and turn it on easily. Then I get teased about being so weak, I can't even push a button, lol. 

     I also have fibromyalgia (FMS) and used to run a support group for people with FMS. I heard this same thing about electronics not working from an awful lot of people with FMS, some of them not empathic at all, so I wonder what else could be gong on. The most common issue with FMS patients was having a watch stop as soon as they put it on. People with FMS are hypersensitive to physical things like chemicals, bright light, overly noisy places, just like we empaths are, and lots of empaths have FMS, so it may be an overlap due to the autonomic nervous system being on hyper alert to threats all the time, which I think occurs with both FMS and empaths.

     I wish I was Zen enough to keep my vibration high all the time, but I am not nearly there yet. Thanks to @hop-daddy for the suggestions on how to help raise it. I find watching animal videos helps me, or you can try dancing to happy music for awhile. Best of all is to go outside for awhile, if you can, and just sit and watch nature, concentrating on the little things, like sunshine sparking off leaves, a bird flying, the path an ant takes along the ground, the direction a cloud is moving, etc., anything that forces you to be totally present. This sounds weird, but if weather makes me stay in, I watch videos of chickens, since their cackling soothes me. Whatever floats your boat!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/13/20 04:29:29PM
1,446 posts

New coworker triggering me


Empath

Hi @sandy,

    @hop-daddy is right to tell you to deflect the questioning back on them, and in a way that forces them to answer. Try asking "Why do you want to know that?" If they have any manners at all, it will shut them up.

     If that doesn't work, you can also ask them the same question they asked you and make light of it. Example: If a nosey person asks if you cook your own dinners and what kind of food do you eat....say something like, "Oh, my food is boring, but what do YOU  like to cook and how often do you cook dinner for yourself? If they tell you, look bored, then say, "Oh", and walk off. The bottom line is to refuse to play their game. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/13/20 04:21:31PM
1,446 posts

Just Joined- Sad Movies


Empath

Welcome @grapeape,

    I will start crying half way through a sad movie and still be crying two hours after it ends. I cannot take violence and horror though and the noise in action movies is unbearable. I also do not like romances, since they are illusions of what love really is and I think they are responsible for a lot of divorces. real pain, like starving dogs in ASPCA ads, makes me cry buckets though.

   I agree with @hop-daddy that it gets worse when I am down for other reasons and under stress or sleep deprived. 

   If you want to be able to tolerate some of it, it may help to rest up in advance of the experience and have light, non-stressed out days for a few days before and see if it helps. I no longer watch news at all, for example. We empaths are 5%  of the population and have deeper feelings than the average person. There is a lot you can read on this site to help you out. You may want to read the Empath Survival Guide at the top of the Home page....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/26/19 02:47:01PM
1,446 posts

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Nocturnes-Angel.

That is not what I wanted to hear, but I know it is what I needed to hear....I was just thinking about how tired I am of the endless discipline needed to deal with my serious illness, and I have been slipping up on it during the holidays, seeing everyone else do whatever they want to do....I've also spent a lot of time daydreaming about my goal in life, which has become impossible now, so it's time to let go of that. Thanks for jarring me back into reality! Amethyst is my birthstone and your reading was right on target. :-)


updated by @cheshire-cat: 12/26/19 02:48:13PM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/26/19 09:06:26AM
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Hi Nocturnes-angel,

    Happy Holidays. If you are willing to do one more, I would love a single crystal reading. When I read this post, the word "crystal" jumped out at me.... 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/19 12:38:03PM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

Hi GEH,

Just looked up Hypothalmapath. I really wish I could try this, since I have severe problems in regulating my temperature to the point where it has become dangerous on occassion and prevented any sleep many times. I also have all the other issues mentioned. However, it has Panax Ginseng and Glycyrrhiza which both raise blood pressure, Ginkgo which makes me jittery, Vit. B6 which I was forbidden to take ever again due to toxic neuropathy, and Senna which is a potent laxative. I know it is homeopathic, so it is unlikely to produce any of the symptoms that those actual whole products do, but I would love to see how you do on it first before risking all of that!

If you decide to try it, please do keep in touch and let me know how it goes. I read some reviews, and while mostly very good, they were not specific at all as to what it did.


updated by @cheshire-cat: 11/30/19 12:38:31PM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/19 12:01:17PM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

I can't speak for all of those herbs, but dropping Ashwagandha produces a mild withdrawal for me. Rhodiola raised my blood pressure a lot, which might raise your energy, if yours is normally low. Milk thistle can remove your meds, so if you were taking any, they may seem stronger now. It also heals the liver, so if you needed that, you may want to take a substitute like NAC, MCP, or S-acetyl glutathione. I am currently lowering my dose of Mg threonate and the withdrawal has caused me to go back to only 4 hrs. sleep. 

I have not heard of Hypothalmapath, but it sounds very interesting. Thanks. I will look into it. As you know, the HPA axis is strongly implicated in both of our illnesses, since CFS and FMS are "sister" illnesses, with a 70%  overlap in symptoms and almost certainly the same etiology. IMO, that would be dysautonomia. Finally there are some researchers focusing on this idea, and 2 programs to treat it, though they both require a large time commitment and lots of self-discipline. One is called ANS Rewire, and the other is Gupta Amygdala Retraining. 


updated by @cheshire-cat: 11/30/19 12:03:28PM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/19 11:03:28AM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

I hope your tooth extraction went well! I don't even know what the periodontal ligament is, but in the book Root Canal Cover Up, they say to ask to have a certain amt. of tissue removed all around the hole, in case the infection has spread into it. I can't remember the exact amt. after such a long time. 

I have to report that things have not changed for me in my sleep, despite asking for that all around protection during waking and sleeping. I do feel more protected during the day though, and more joyful, but that may be because I added a second dose of ashwagandha during the day.

I still have nightmares. Writing them down for this experiment has helped me notice a definite theme I had not noticed before though...In most of them, I am fighting evil, while others stand passively by doing nothing. My dreams used to be all white and now they are all the blue that occurs just after sunset. 

If you have had success, please detail how you did it. :-) 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/18/19 03:11:25PM
1,446 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

FWIW, since I stopped reading the work of people like Tom Montalk and watching videos about the dark side, the reincarnation trap, etc., my health, general life quality, sleep and mood have all improved dramatically. I agree with what Hop-daddy said about how giving the dark side your time and thoughts only increases it in your life.

I will even consider that the reason there has been no full scale, open takeover on earth yet may be due to the complete ignorance of most of the populace, and waking them up may not be the good idea many think it is. It may be that we have to think about them and invite them in for them to come in significant numbers....not sure, just thinking out loud. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/18/19 09:29:13AM
1,446 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

Try Jesus...

When I am sleep deprived it affects my mood, when my mood is low, I tend to see  skeletal beings, grey type aliens, large black 2 dimensional spiders, and random shape shifting faces and vertigo causing color swirls, all right before falling asleep and upon waking up during the night.

I have always seen animal shapes, etc. in wood patterns, tile, and this, I believe is just a product of being a part time artist. I  think anyone seeing those patterns might want to try their hand at art, if they've not already...they may be very good at it. 

I've tried  several rituals, candles, salt, crystals, etc. but the only thing that works for me, and works almost all the time, is to call on the name of Jesus to enfold me with protection and imagine him hugging me from behind and covering me all around, or to tell the apparition to leave in the name of Jesus the Christ, or both. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/14/19 08:44:39AM
1,446 posts

So easy to forget: You Are So Loved


Library of Light

Bing -

Thank you so much! Just like Zacharias needed to read exactly what Elise had to say, I needed what you posted. I was raised to believe that I must be perfect in order to deserve love, so a message like yours is a reminder that perfection is not part of life on earth. THANKS!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/19 12:53:13PM
1,446 posts

When you pick up on self-deception, how do you handle it?


Empath

Hop-daddy,

    Yes, physical harm like the liver cancer I mention above, but what abut mental harm like the suicide that was not prevented when I did not speak up? His wife told me it would not have mattered, that once he made up his mind, nobody could change it, but I could have tried at least. For me, mental harm has been harder on me than physical and as you know, I've had both to deal with. It is really hard to draw a line for sure, which is why I am asking for others ideas.....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/19 12:47:06PM
1,446 posts

A revealing look inside the life of a sociopath


Empath

Hop-daddy,

    Sociopaths come from abuse and/or neglect in the early childhood learning years, which  makes them the way they are. They learn to abuse and "act out" against others, just as you imprint your parents hopefully warm and loving behavior, and they do not learn empathy or caring. They may be brought up into a gang situation or organized crime where they are taught to love  a small group that meets narrow qualifications, like only other Mafia members, for example. The gang may become a family substitute, since their blood "family" is addicted, mentally ill or both. 

    In the article, she talks a lot about how crazy and violent her father was, a great example of how this happens, both from learned and inherited behavior...this is called "epigenetic". Her father probably experienced violence from his parent(s) but research is showing a genetic basis for a lot of this as we do more genetic research. Epigenetic means you have genes for an issue present, but something in the environment must turn them on to cause problems. 

    Psychopaths are born with smaller brain areas for both empathy and conscience. I've heard one psychopath say that they are another species, sent here to rule us, since they are not burdened by our "weakness" of having emotions and that if we doubt this, we should look at nature, which proves them right. Chilling. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/19 11:34:54AM
1,446 posts

When you pick up on self-deception, how do you handle it?


Empath

Hi So-exhausted-from-users,

Thank you very much for your opinion. :-)

I agree when it comes to the small stuff in life and it's mostly small stuff we all deal with, but it reminds me of the Law of Attraction, which my former church teaches. I  see the belief in not interfering due to karma, carried to it's end point, as justification  for walking past starving people in the street, and going home to meditate about how spiritual they are in a fancy house in their $200 yoga pants, which is why I quit my church. I am not saying that you do that! I am saying that I see others doing that and it really scares me about this way of looking at things. It is spiritual bypassing. 

I totally applaud you for letting your kids fall down and pick themselves up from all the screw ups that teach them who they are and how to function. They will be good adults, not snowflakes who cannot handle the real world. Bravo to you! 

My problem with ignoring what I pick up is with the really serious issues, and I take those case by case, like:

1) A friend of mine is literally starving and going w/o any heat, because most of her hard-earned money goes to a religious cult she was brainwashed into. She is a superb human being, but gullible with low self confidence, so was easily sucked in, and if anyone criticizes this cult, they are ordered to cut them out of their lives, so the only way I can ever be there for her is to shut up about it, and it breaks my heart. In this case, I agree about not saying a thing to warn her, since that would do more harm than good, but boy, is it tough.

2) A friend of my husband's who was clearly very depressed had all the signs of impending suicide, and though I was a therapist and maybe could have changed his mind, however small the chance, my husband told me not to interfere. Three weeks later he committed suicide. I'll never forgive myself for not speaking up in this case.

3) A lovely woman at church whom I could "see" had liver cancer. I did not tell her for fear of looking like a nut and because I did not know her well at all, and she died almost one year later of liver cancer. I will always regret this one too. 

I was looking for criteria for how others handle this. For me, it matters a lot how serious the issue is, but not so much how close I am to the person. If I see someone may have cancer, I feel just as much obligation to tell them whether I know them or not. I am wondering how you all feel about this, so thank you very much for your honest opinion....my husband agrees with you 100%. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/19 10:59:29AM
1,446 posts

A revealing look inside the life of a sociopath


Empath

Yikes. I had to take notes while eating, I got so upset with the sloppy use of terminology here.

She starts out saying she is a psychopath, but right away it is obviously not true, since she says she loves some family and friends. Unlike the poetic license taken on TV shows like Dexter, psychopaths cannot love anyone. The numbers she quotes are for sociopaths, not psychopaths.

Later, she switches to calling herself a sociopath, which is the correct diagnosis based on the abuse she endured at the hands of her mentally ill father, and that is confirmed at the end of this long article, though shrinks have been fooled by these people too, especially the smart ones can fool them sometimes.

When she writes of sneaking into homes to move items around, a psychopath would probably not take that risk, because they don't have to do that to get what they want.

About 70% of the criminal population qualifies for a diagnosis of sociopathy to some extent. Psychopaths hardly ever get caught. Instead, they get elected to office, promoted to CEO, allowed to operate on your body as surgeons, and put in the pulpit! Yes, those are their 4 top professions. They love having power over people and won't let anything stop them from getting it.

Not so for sociopaths, who are over represented at the bottom levels of society, so in that sense, she has achieved the operational level of a psychopath by becoming a professor, if most of this is even true. I did not see any sources for much of her claims and grandiosity is common in all forms of ASPD and NPD.

There are so many clues to who she is in the article, the names and many circumstances must all have been changed, or she'd have been outed by now. It does not say the author name given is an alias, but I cannot see how it could not be one. 

It is an interesting account of the life of an unusually smart narcissistic sociopath. I just wish it had stated that and not wandered around into other territory. I am sad that Psych Today has sunk so low that they apparently do not even proofread their own articles. I'm not surprised though, since I see this all over the place now. Journalism is dead. Just my two cents, or maybe ten cents, since this post got too long....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/19 10:03:47AM
1,446 posts

A revealing look inside the life of a sociopath


Empath

Hi Hop,

Not had time to read article yet... will read it while eating lunch, thanks. Here are some stats for anyone reading this though: It will be interesting to see if this article posts different percentages that are more recent than ones I've seen....

Narcissists = full blown NPD, not just selfish people, are 1 or 2% of the population.

Sociopaths = made, not born, due to abuse/neglect, are 4 or 5% of the population.

Psychopaths = born, not made, have 2 brain structures unlike the rest of us, are 1 % of the population.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/19 09:44:47AM
1,446 posts

When you pick up on self-deception, how do you handle it?


Empath

As an empath, I often can read  that someone is making decisions or about to make a bad decision based on being very self-deceptive about what is actually going on. This may be a false idea about themselves, a situation, or about someone else. The most common is that they cannot see how dark someone is and that the person is lying to them, but I can see it and could tell them what the other person really thinks.

I've been subjected to "kill the messenger" if I say something, and often this is recurring every time they see me, as they are reminded that they did not listen to me, and now they feel like a fool, and they prefer to see it as my fault. I am also chastised for being "too negative", thinking that people are bad or that some of them cannot change...this even includes Narcs, who really can't change, and I get this from people with none of my psych training, who have decided that they know more about my own profession than I do.

On the other hand, I feel a moral obligation to warn them, especially if the situation is dangerous. My husband says to keep my mouth shut and let them learn the hard way, and this sure works for him. He expresses his sorrow after the fact and everyone loves him, but two people close to him have died when I did not speak up. He says it would have happened anyway, since they would not have listened to me. It seems to me people should love those who actually care enough to warn them and are willing to risk their anger in return to try to save them from pain.

If you see that someone is about to jump into a swimming pool with no water in it, or some other big risk, what do you do? Does it depend upon how close they are to you and/or how serious the issue is?


updated by @cheshire-cat: 11/12/19 09:50:00AM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/11/19 07:15:16AM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

A dead tooth could cause these issues from toxicity. Do you have a copy of the book "Root Canal Cover Up" by George E. Meinig? If you can get ahold of one, there is a process for removing an extra slice of tissue throughout the excavation area that can be done in about 3 minutes after the tooth is extracted to greatly lessen any chance of further infection issues. It cost me only $20 extra to have the dentist do it and was worth it, since mouth infections can cause heart disease. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/11/19 01:15:55AM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

Despite asking for the protection through all times and places, I had an unpleasant dream, after which I woke up depressed. So, I did some research and found out to my surprise that nightmares are very often caused by the bedroom being too warm....that is definitely the case in the hot place I live in, since nobody here can afford to crank it down to the 66 degrees doctors recommend. I doubt that is your issue, since you are in a cool place, but thought I'd throw it out there for anyone else who reads this and sleeps in a 76 degree room like I do.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/09/19 07:52:49PM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

Congrats on the success of the "clean your room" philosophy, lol, and in going to a party w/o anxiety. 

If fear is a way to lose part of your soul, then I am indeed in trouble. I have one major fear and it has kept me prisoner for almost 15 yrs. I will keep working on this protection and see how it goes....I hope it keeps working for you.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/09/19 07:40:03AM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

I've read some on the idea of restoring parts of the soul, but I don't really understand it well. Most of what I read was by Mateo Sol at Lonerwolf.com. The other stuff I read was from  montalk.com in regard to how dark entities use the reincarnation trap to steal souls at death, which is terrifying, so I put it out of mind, since there seemed to be no solution, IF it's even true. I would welcome suggestions for understanding this concept better.

I tried this last night and slept much better than usual, but that may have been due to it being our first cool night in months. I don't remember any dreams, very unusual for me. One night is not nearly enough though.....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/08/19 10:06:31AM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

Please keep us posted on results you get by asking for protection across all time lines. I will try it also. 

Also, in psych, there is something called "morning depression", thought to be caused mostly by low blood sugar. It is suggested to keep a handful of nuts on your night stand and eat them right away on waking up. One YouTube spiritual teacher has said this is especially important for empaths!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/08/19 09:05:33AM
1,446 posts

Time Chakra!


Empath

Hi GoodEnergyhealing,

Long time, no see! I agree with you. I think our other lives can strongly influence this one, since time does not really exist outside our 3rd density reality, and they are all happening at once.

Sometimes, learning what happened in another life can end some kind of problem in this one.....see Dr. Brian Weiss's books and/or videos for past life regression cases that may prove this.

I also think 4th density entities that cannot get at us here in 3rd  density when we are awake may be able to affect us much more strongly when we are on the astral plane during sleep..... I experience the same thing you do and often have depression when I awaken...I can literally be a different person at 8 am than I am at 8 pm because of this. I think we may need stronger protections when asleep, but so far, have not found any that work for me.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/17/19 01:10:59PM
1,446 posts

Learning From this Forum


Empath

Welcome AJ.

I would start with Elise's Survival Tips on top of the Home page. There are lots of good videos on YouTube that are by and for empaths as well. You can read previous postings here or ask specific questions.

It is wonderful that you care so much about your friend...that is exactly the type of friends we empaths wish for, but rarely find. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/11/19 01:57:15PM
1,446 posts

Cute t-shirt for when you've been "peopled"


Empath

As a cat, I definitely approve. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/02/19 09:01:38AM
1,446 posts

Just Joined! 😊


Empath

Hi Emma11,

Glad to have you here at EC!  You may want to start with Elise's Empath Survival program on the top of the Home page. It has lots of good tips. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/30/19 08:08:33AM
1,446 posts

Newbie ✌💖


Empath

Hi melody.moore,

   In the center of the top of the Home page here, you will find Elise's Empath Survival Tips. It can help you learn shielding and grounding to avoid absorbing too much of the negative energy out there. I agree it is bad and has gotten much worse recently. I dealt with it poorly for far too long before realizing I was different and learning what an empath is, and learning these techniques. I am mostly a hermit because of it...just can't take it anymore or play those games and over react to the B.S. I would hate to see you get to that point, and am glad you have found this site. Some do not believe shielding works and that learning to let the energy run through you without stopping is better. There are many empath training videos on You Tube that have helped me, so many that I would not know where to start with recommending one, and each of us will like different teachers, so it's best to explore to see what helps you most, imo. Good luck!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/30/19 08:02:14AM
1,446 posts

Trying to figure it out


Empath

Welcome to EC! I've had tinnitus for about 2-3 yrs. now and it is annoying for sure. There are some good videos by empaths on this subject at YouTube if you look.... Victor Oddo is one YT channel you might try... he's done videos on this. Also, if you are willing to go down dark rabbit holes, Tom Montalk has some info on a possible relationship between aliens, attempted mind control, and tinnitus on his website. I find that if I say "cancel, cancel" very strongly that usually stops it, but if not, pressing my ear shut and holding for a minute usually works. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/26/19 08:06:20AM
1,446 posts

Dreamt Myself Into An Alternate Reality?


Dreams

I agree with Nocturne's Angel, but I think whatever feels right to you about this dream is the most likely to be true. maybe you can try lucid dreaming to find out more about your dream....

I've been having dreams about another place where almost everything is white; the buildings, grass, sky, clothing, etc. I recently stumbled on some info that says all white dreams like that mean you're visiting 4th density reality. So, maybe we are actually going elsewhere.


updated by @cheshire-cat: 09/26/19 08:07:39AM
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@cheshire-cat
09/19/19 04:18:27PM
1,446 posts

Coping with overwhelming emotions


Empath

Hi Emma,

     Anybody, empathic or not, will be attracted to Narcs if their opposite parent was one. This is entirely subconscious of course, since on the surface  that is the last kind of person think we want. We are more likely to be able to put up with what we are used to, and we are drawn to try to fix that first relationship with someone else.

     It sounds like you know all the symptoms and signs of a Narc, and that can help you to avoid them. I avoided marrying one, but my FIL and BIL were both full blown ones, who would have been diagnosed with the actual Personality Disorder had they gone for help, but the moon would turn to green cheese before a Narc would voluntarily see a therapist!

     I am going to recommend a video that really helped me to accept these imprinted tendencies from childhood and to deal with it all better. The video is on YouTube and is by Psychologist Alain de Botton, called "Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person". There are also many specialists in dealing with Narcs on YT, and I think my favorite is probably Joanna Kujath. Sam Vankin is also worth watching, since he admits to being a full blown Narc who is blowing the whistle on them, while getting some of the attention  he badly needs from his videos at the same time. 

    There are many people here who have had Narc partners and I hope more come and reply to you.....you are definitely not alone!

     

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/06/19 12:52:01PM
1,446 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

@JustMe,

   Yes, I am in the U.S. I tried 5 different types CBD, most were the highly recommended ones by companies that do independent testing. Cost was $100 for 100 caps, but starting dose was 6 caps per day. NO way I can afford it and it had no effect that I could see even at 6 caps per day. I use other supplements for anxiety that work better for me, though it's still not enough sometimes. I use all of the following: Tryptophan, Ashwagandha, Oleamide, and Magnesium Threonate. 

     I will look up the AIP diet, thanks. I've done elimination diets that take months to do, and pulse test diets, and had two sets of RAST blood tests for foods done several years apart with no positive results. I am lactose intolerant, but take Lactaid to make up for it. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/06/19 12:42:59PM
1,446 posts

Empaths interacting with each other - hypothetical question


Empath

@JustMe,

     Ime, you can pick up energy from an empathic relative that way and it can create a circular whirlwind of escalating anxiety. My mother was an unaware empath, and one thing I learned early on from watching her was to never, ever watch the News. She felt it was her civic duty to watch it every evening, and she cried all the way through it. I learned to stay in my room with music playing until it was over and she'd had another drink and calmed down. She used alcohol to numb herself to the physical pain she had due to illness, and the emotional pain from absorbing all that negativity. I wish I had known what an empath was back then, though I'm not sure it would have helped...maybe you could get your mother to read some of what you are reading about it...

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/05/19 01:42:02PM
1,446 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

The anti-inflammatory diet I've always seen is no trans fats or Omega-6 oils, no sugar, no alcohols, and no dairy or grains. Not quite as strict as paleo, so maybe she could stand it for at least a week to see what happens.

I have eaten dairy at almost every meal of my long life and was a lacto-vegetarian until I got Lyme disease, and I just cannot force myself to eat a lot of flesh. If I get any sicker, I will have to try, but it will be hard when my spouse will not do it with me.

I have tried no grains and no sugars, etc. but kept the dairy and it made no difference for me. I did try no dairy about 30 yrs. ago when lactase pills had not been invented yet and I was diagnosed with IBS, but I did not give up any of the others, having never heard of any of this back then, so I got little change and have never given them all up at the same time, which is what has to be done, darn it all. 

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09/05/19 12:33:43PM
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Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

Hi sher-ellie,

     I am really glad CBD helps you. I could not begin to afford a high enough dose to get any results from it. I have read raves about using it for Fibromyalgia pain.

     I can relate to not wanting to end up in a pain competition with your mom! My husband has bad arthritis and sciatica, and I have fibromyalgia and Lyme arthritis. it can get tough when you are both in a bad mood due to unrelenting pain. 

     Has your mom tried an anti-inflammatory diet? Many alt. med. docs say inflammation is the cause of arthritis pain. I can't seem to make myself stick to that type of diet, but I have a good friend who has gotten complete relief from arthritis pain, lack of energy and brain "fog" by going on the Whole 30 diet plan, which can be found online. It is hard to stick to but she is on her second month and says she will never go off it since she feels so good. It may be worth trying if she can stand to stick with it.

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09/04/19 07:05:34PM
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Empaths with chronic pain issues?


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@JustMe,

    Have you seen a headache specialist? Pinpoint headaches can sometimes be cluster headaches, which are a specific type, usually caused by food intolerance, especially to chocolate. There are treatments to cut them short, if that is not the issue. 

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08/30/19 11:09:29AM
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Empaths with chronic pain issues?


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@JustMe,

     I wish I'd seen this thread before I explained all about the sensory symptoms of fibromyalgia in your other thread, lol! Besides fibro, I also have osteoarthritis and a whole boatload of other stuff. My husband has osteoarthritis and sciatica. I used to feel like he was having a pain contest with me, so I think I understand where you are coming from.

     Neither of us can do the paleo diet. I tried, but my husband won't even try. In my case, I was a life long vegetarian and have to force myself to eat animal products at all now that I need to do so. I admire your ability to stick to it. I have a friend who says the similar whole 30 diet has eliminated her osteoarthritis pain, so she is staying on it forever. 

     For the past several years my husband has pain meds and I do not, so I tended to think his complaints were exaggerated, and I would resent him, until I read a recent article about how men and women feel pain differently. Women have a much higher lifetime  burden of chronic pain, and feel more pain from minor surgeries, but men feel more pain from things like colds and flus and from major surgeries. I guess the "why" of this will come from further research. I find that I am more compassionate now and just keep reminding myself that none of us really knows what is going on with someone else. It sounds like your wife cares about how what she says affects you and understands that you are an empath. I think that's half the battle....

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08/30/19 10:43:55AM
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Still figuring this out . . . at 55


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@JustMe,

     I remembered the name for senses that are mixed up with each other....synesthesia. I think associating a color with a person in your mind definitely counts. Only about 14% of people do this, and only about 5% are empaths.

     I have a physical illness, caused by trauma triggered dysautonomia combined with epigenetics, imo, called Fibromyalgia. It includes being bothered by lights, noise, air blowing on skin, labels on clothes, slight drops in temp, etc. Normal sensory inputs are drastically magnified, just like you experience. The gut is also messed up in about 80% of people who have it; mine is so bad I cannot digest anything w/o prescription meds.  Many empaths have fibromyalgia; way beyond chance. I do not mean to say everyone with those symptoms has it. It has many other symptoms including constant pain. People with fibromyalgia are hypervigilant though, just like empaths. 

      As you get more in tune with your abilities they may grow. I can tell what people are really feeling by tuning in to their foreheads, where I see a video played out of their real thoughts. This works best with people I do not know well and when a lot of emotion is involved. Of course, this is clairvoyance, not empathy, but many of us have various clairs also, and they can suddenly develop later on in life, or at least they did in my case, though I was born empathic. 

      What you said is very interesting to me. I am pretty old now, but if I was young today I think I would be on the spectrum, due to certain behaviors of mine as a child that fit the diagnosis, though in my case, these behaviors run in all the females on my mother's side of the family and we outgrew them after childhood, so I am not sure about that. 

     Good luck with your dinner out. I hope you can really enjoy it. 


updated by @cheshire-cat: 08/30/19 10:44:29AM
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08/29/19 04:18:18PM
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Still figuring this out . . . at 55


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@JustMe,

You said: "I have balance and physical sensory issues and when I am outside barefoot, my balance is so much better."

I also have balance problems and have fallen over and hurt myself many times. I do balance improvement exercises for it, but they only help so much. Do you know what the cause of that is in your case? It is brain damage in my case, but I've wondered if it might be worsened by empathic overload, since noisy places tend to make it seem worse. Have you noticed that?

I have that sensory mixing thing...can't remember what it is called. In my case letters and numbers all have colors assigned to them. For example, the number 4 is always navy blue and the day of Saturday is always red. Is that the sort of thing you mean? Do you feel your sensory issues are related to being an empath? 

Sorry to be so nosy... I am a rabid researcher and info hound. :-)

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08/29/19 10:24:50AM
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@JustMe,

      I also read strangers easily while having lots of trouble with people I care about. I think it is because I am emotionally invested in them, and do not really want to know anything about them that would really upset me or disappoint me. If you think about it for awhile, you will figure out your own reasons for this difference. Like hop-daddy, truly dark people recognize right away that I can see what they are, and they often turn around and leave, which is fine with me. 

     I am one of those not so well-adjusted empaths who has become a hermit, rather than deal with being endlessly used by and disappointed in people. In spite of that, I have found one grounding practice that can even help someone like me to be out in the world for short periods. I stand up, imagine weights holding me to the ground and imagine a large ring through my solar plexus, connected to a thick chain going deep down into the center of the earth, holding me to the earth. Then I tell myself I can handle whatever this planet throws at me. I do think walking barefoot on the ground is another good one to try. 

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08/29/19 10:14:17AM
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Still figuring this out . . . at 55


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@hop-daddy,

   Your first reply here was so good, I hope you saved it for other newbies here, so you don't have to type it all over again. It really covered things. 

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08/29/19 10:03:19AM
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Space Traveling Sphere of Souls


Dreams

Hi Bill,

   Long time..good to see you here! I hope your father is doing well. 

   Have you heard of simulation theory? That was the first thing I thought of when I read this. It is too complicated to explain, but there are dozens of videos about it on YouTube. Tom Campbell seems to be the expert, but there are shorter videos that are easier to understand if not familiar with the concept. This dream reminds me of the universes as nesting dolls, with new ones coming out of the others as they reach an advanced enough stage to make another one. It impressed me as you witnessing how life is spread throughout the universe. More importantly, what do you feel it was about?

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08/23/19 12:47:17PM
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What I pick up here is that you did not like the direction of your life, and felt like you were being led in the wrong direction by a person in authority who thought they knew what they were doing, but they were really incompetent. An older relative maybe? So, you "died" to that life and were born again to a life of unconditional love (the dog and kids). You wake up in a new life that is more attuned to who you really are. Maybe this has to do with becoming an empath....

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08/22/19 01:47:53PM
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@hop-daddy,

If the time period in this overdose dream is the present or near to it, then I think you hit the nail right on the head. Maybe she has been chosen as someone with abilities and is being asked to help this person to cross over? Might be worth having her try to do so.

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08/22/19 10:42:34AM
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I am amazed that you go through your death in these dreams. That is supposed to resolve any phobias or lingering illness caused by the death, so it's great that you can do that. I wish I could do it. A mole near my right eye is the mark of a gunshot hole from a previous life which I know all about, but I have never been able to relive that death or any of my deaths like you can. I can see where that would help alleviate the fear of a painful death....

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08/22/19 09:48:27AM
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This sounds like a past life dream. Did it feel like you were really there, as if you could smell things, feel the breeze or the warmth of the sun, etc.? I see you remembered lots of details, common in past life dreams. I've had a few recurring ones. The psychic con lady may have been the conning cohort you had in that past life, which triggered the dream. 

Have you read anything by sleeping prophet Edgar Cayce? He talks about how meeting up with someone in this life who was part of a previous life can trigger these dreams. Brian Weiss's books on past life regression  may also be interesting for you. You can also try to have a lucid dream to get more info about this lifetime. Ask for a lucid dream every night right before going to sleep. It may take awhile to work, but can payoff with some very interesting experiences. 

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08/21/19 05:20:32PM
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Newbie to all of this amazing stuff


Empath

@sirenahb,

    You may get some help by finding a free version of  the MBTI personality test online and taking it. Knowing your type and reading up on it can explain a lot of what you are asking about. You may also want to take the Big Five test as that can also give you a lot of insight into how you operate as compared to others. 

    You sound like you may be an INFJ type, a lot of us empaths are, and those traits are just the way we are, as the rarest personality type. I am not very good at being anywhere close to a "flat line" and have had to be extremely picky about who I let into my life as a result. As an empath, I also find most people are only interested in me when they need a free therapist to dump on, and they find me too intense to just hang out with, so I had to learn to go against my nature and hold everyone at arms length for awhile to protect myself. It can be lonely, but it's better than being drained.

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08/09/19 11:19:53AM
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Hi @lancemiramar,

     I hope you are still around! Thank you so much for your service. :-)

     I call the belly fat my "stress baby", since often it can be due to very high cortisol levels caused by stress. I think most of us would agree that being an empath, especially one with psychic abilities too, can be very stressful. I've seen videos of a couple of psychics talking about how fat is often put on as insulation for the emotions.

    I am also diagnosed with PTSD, after being dead from a car accident and coming back with a brain injury. I did not have a near death experience, unfortunately. Is it possible you have PTSD from experiences in the service? That could cause your cortisol to spike dramatically whenever you experience triggers, like a car backfiring, fireworks, etc.

     I got hooked on a drug for sleep before I found out that there are some supplements that can greatly help with this. It took me two years in withdrawal to get off the drug. Ashwagandha is good around the clock to calm it down, and Seriphos can be taken at night to help keep cortisol from being so high you can't sleep. Cortisol that stays too high for a long time can cause serious physical health issues too, so it's good to get it under control. 

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08/09/19 11:07:51AM
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Empath

Hi @sirenahb,

I have a grounding technique I do each morning and whenever I feel the need that really helps me. I stand and imagine that my feet are heavy and glued to the floor. Then I imagine a large steel ring attached through my belly button area with a thick steel chain running all the way down to the center of the earth. I feel it holding me steadily and strongly and affirm that I am grounded to the earth so I can handle all that earth life has to offer. This may be more than you need, but if you are like me and really wish you were not on this planet, it may help a lot. I've tried a lot of other grounding techniques, but this is the only one that helped. 

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07/16/19 11:43:29AM
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Do you get what you need out of meditation?


Empath

Thank you all for the excellent input here. I had a sudden light bulb moment when reading it... that my increasing inability to turn off the psychic stuff may be due to the incredible amount of time I spend in meditation each morning...at least an hour. Most of that is spent doing visualization healings on people I know who are sick, so I do not want to stop it, but I can let go of the rest of it, and see if that helps. Thanks!

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07/16/19 11:34:58AM
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5 G Technology


Empath

Hi Nocturne's Angel,

Three weeks after our smart meter was installed, I started having severe insomnia. I did not know what it was back then...we were one of the first areas to get them.

Two years ago we were hit by a Hurricane and lost power for six days. Instead of being anxious and too hot to sleep, I slept all night long for the first time in ages. As soon as power came on, I went back to having insomnia.

I have a good friend who has insulated all her electric wiring, removed all electric items from her bedroom and turns off the breaker to it at night, put a Farraday cage around her bed, gave up cable TV and put her computer back on Ethernet. This was all after she bought a house with only one neighbor across the street, and none on the other three sides to help protect her from the effects. She has had NAET treatments for Wifi, but is still having trouble, since she must use wifi when at work. She is now looking to use radiant barrier insulation in her roof and under her walls to stop it. This is all with 4G....

 5G is much stronger, is not really needed, as far as I can tell, and will be in front of every 3rd house, without any proof it is safe. I have read that fiber optics will accomplish the same things they want from 5G, but without the health risks, so why not do that? Sure, its expensive, but so is putting those boxes on all our light poles. With more extreme weather, fiber optics makes more sense too. Please post any facts that contradict this...I would really like to know.

If you are familiar with U.N. Agenda 21 or 30, some people think 5G is intended as the kill shot for a depopulation agenda. I don't know. As far as my empath spidey sense goes, I have felt for quite awhile that a huge CME will be the kill shot.

Australia is one place that has banned 5G until it sees what happens, but my understanding is that the satellites which handle it will beam it all over the world and there will be no escape. What can we do about it, and what do you feel is the real scoop on it? 

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