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Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/19/19 04:18:27PM
1,417 posts

Coping with overwhelming emotions


Empath

Hi Emma,

     Anybody, empathic or not, will be attracted to Narcs if their opposite parent was one. This is entirely subconscious of course, since on the surface  that is the last kind of person think we want. We are more likely to be able to put up with what we are used to, and we are drawn to try to fix that first relationship with someone else.

     It sounds like you know all the symptoms and signs of a Narc, and that can help you to avoid them. I avoided marrying one, but my FIL and BIL were both full blown ones, who would have been diagnosed with the actual Personality Disorder had they gone for help, but the moon would turn to green cheese before a Narc would voluntarily see a therapist!

     I am going to recommend a video that really helped me to accept these imprinted tendencies from childhood and to deal with it all better. The video is on YouTube and is by Psychologist Alain de Botton, called "Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person". There are also many specialists in dealing with Narcs on YT, and I think my favorite is probably Joanna Kujath. Sam Vankin is also worth watching, since he admits to being a full blown Narc who is blowing the whistle on them, while getting some of the attention  he badly needs from his videos at the same time. 

    There are many people here who have had Narc partners and I hope more come and reply to you.....you are definitely not alone!

     

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/06/19 12:52:01PM
1,417 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

@JustMe,

   Yes, I am in the U.S. I tried 5 different types CBD, most were the highly recommended ones by companies that do independent testing. Cost was $100 for 100 caps, but starting dose was 6 caps per day. NO way I can afford it and it had no effect that I could see even at 6 caps per day. I use other supplements for anxiety that work better for me, though it's still not enough sometimes. I use all of the following: Tryptophan, Ashwagandha, Oleamide, and Magnesium Threonate. 

     I will look up the AIP diet, thanks. I've done elimination diets that take months to do, and pulse test diets, and had two sets of RAST blood tests for foods done several years apart with no positive results. I am lactose intolerant, but take Lactaid to make up for it. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/06/19 12:42:59PM
1,417 posts

Empaths interacting with each other - hypothetical question


Empath

@JustMe,

     Ime, you can pick up energy from an empathic relative that way and it can create a circular whirlwind of escalating anxiety. My mother was an unaware empath, and one thing I learned early on from watching her was to never, ever watch the News. She felt it was her civic duty to watch it every evening, and she cried all the way through it. I learned to stay in my room with music playing until it was over and she'd had another drink and calmed down. She used alcohol to numb herself to the physical pain she had due to illness, and the emotional pain from absorbing all that negativity. I wish I had known what an empath was back then, though I'm not sure it would have helped...maybe you could get your mother to read some of what you are reading about it...

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/05/19 01:42:02PM
1,417 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

The anti-inflammatory diet I've always seen is no trans fats or Omega-6 oils, no sugar, no alcohols, and no dairy or grains. Not quite as strict as paleo, so maybe she could stand it for at least a week to see what happens.

I have eaten dairy at almost every meal of my long life and was a lacto-vegetarian until I got Lyme disease, and I just cannot force myself to eat a lot of flesh. If I get any sicker, I will have to try, but it will be hard when my spouse will not do it with me.

I have tried no grains and no sugars, etc. but kept the dairy and it made no difference for me. I did try no dairy about 30 yrs. ago when lactase pills had not been invented yet and I was diagnosed with IBS, but I did not give up any of the others, having never heard of any of this back then, so I got little change and have never given them all up at the same time, which is what has to be done, darn it all. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/05/19 12:33:43PM
1,417 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

Hi sher-ellie,

     I am really glad CBD helps you. I could not begin to afford a high enough dose to get any results from it. I have read raves about using it for Fibromyalgia pain.

     I can relate to not wanting to end up in a pain competition with your mom! My husband has bad arthritis and sciatica, and I have fibromyalgia and Lyme arthritis. it can get tough when you are both in a bad mood due to unrelenting pain. 

     Has your mom tried an anti-inflammatory diet? Many alt. med. docs say inflammation is the cause of arthritis pain. I can't seem to make myself stick to that type of diet, but I have a good friend who has gotten complete relief from arthritis pain, lack of energy and brain "fog" by going on the Whole 30 diet plan, which can be found online. It is hard to stick to but she is on her second month and says she will never go off it since she feels so good. It may be worth trying if she can stand to stick with it.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/04/19 07:05:34PM
1,417 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

@JustMe,

    Have you seen a headache specialist? Pinpoint headaches can sometimes be cluster headaches, which are a specific type, usually caused by food intolerance, especially to chocolate. There are treatments to cut them short, if that is not the issue. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/30/19 11:09:29AM
1,417 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

@JustMe,

     I wish I'd seen this thread before I explained all about the sensory symptoms of fibromyalgia in your other thread, lol! Besides fibro, I also have osteoarthritis and a whole boatload of other stuff. My husband has osteoarthritis and sciatica. I used to feel like he was having a pain contest with me, so I think I understand where you are coming from.

     Neither of us can do the paleo diet. I tried, but my husband won't even try. In my case, I was a life long vegetarian and have to force myself to eat animal products at all now that I need to do so. I admire your ability to stick to it. I have a friend who says the similar whole 30 diet has eliminated her osteoarthritis pain, so she is staying on it forever. 

     For the past several years my husband has pain meds and I do not, so I tended to think his complaints were exaggerated, and I would resent him, until I read a recent article about how men and women feel pain differently. Women have a much higher lifetime  burden of chronic pain, and feel more pain from minor surgeries, but men feel more pain from things like colds and flus and from major surgeries. I guess the "why" of this will come from further research. I find that I am more compassionate now and just keep reminding myself that none of us really knows what is going on with someone else. It sounds like your wife cares about how what she says affects you and understands that you are an empath. I think that's half the battle....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/30/19 10:43:55AM
1,417 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

@JustMe,

     I remembered the name for senses that are mixed up with each other....synesthesia. I think associating a color with a person in your mind definitely counts. Only about 14% of people do this, and only about 5% are empaths.

     I have a physical illness, caused by trauma triggered dysautonomia combined with epigenetics, imo, called Fibromyalgia. It includes being bothered by lights, noise, air blowing on skin, labels on clothes, slight drops in temp, etc. Normal sensory inputs are drastically magnified, just like you experience. The gut is also messed up in about 80% of people who have it; mine is so bad I cannot digest anything w/o prescription meds.  Many empaths have fibromyalgia; way beyond chance. I do not mean to say everyone with those symptoms has it. It has many other symptoms including constant pain. People with fibromyalgia are hypervigilant though, just like empaths. 

      As you get more in tune with your abilities they may grow. I can tell what people are really feeling by tuning in to their foreheads, where I see a video played out of their real thoughts. This works best with people I do not know well and when a lot of emotion is involved. Of course, this is clairvoyance, not empathy, but many of us have various clairs also, and they can suddenly develop later on in life, or at least they did in my case, though I was born empathic. 

      What you said is very interesting to me. I am pretty old now, but if I was young today I think I would be on the spectrum, due to certain behaviors of mine as a child that fit the diagnosis, though in my case, these behaviors run in all the females on my mother's side of the family and we outgrew them after childhood, so I am not sure about that. 

     Good luck with your dinner out. I hope you can really enjoy it. 


updated by @cheshire-cat: 08/30/19 10:44:29AM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/29/19 04:18:18PM
1,417 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

@JustMe,

You said: "I have balance and physical sensory issues and when I am outside barefoot, my balance is so much better."

I also have balance problems and have fallen over and hurt myself many times. I do balance improvement exercises for it, but they only help so much. Do you know what the cause of that is in your case? It is brain damage in my case, but I've wondered if it might be worsened by empathic overload, since noisy places tend to make it seem worse. Have you noticed that?

I have that sensory mixing thing...can't remember what it is called. In my case letters and numbers all have colors assigned to them. For example, the number 4 is always navy blue and the day of Saturday is always red. Is that the sort of thing you mean? Do you feel your sensory issues are related to being an empath? 

Sorry to be so nosy... I am a rabid researcher and info hound. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/29/19 10:24:50AM
1,417 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

@JustMe,

      I also read strangers easily while having lots of trouble with people I care about. I think it is because I am emotionally invested in them, and do not really want to know anything about them that would really upset me or disappoint me. If you think about it for awhile, you will figure out your own reasons for this difference. Like hop-daddy, truly dark people recognize right away that I can see what they are, and they often turn around and leave, which is fine with me. 

     I am one of those not so well-adjusted empaths who has become a hermit, rather than deal with being endlessly used by and disappointed in people. In spite of that, I have found one grounding practice that can even help someone like me to be out in the world for short periods. I stand up, imagine weights holding me to the ground and imagine a large ring through my solar plexus, connected to a thick chain going deep down into the center of the earth, holding me to the earth. Then I tell myself I can handle whatever this planet throws at me. I do think walking barefoot on the ground is another good one to try. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/29/19 10:14:17AM
1,417 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

@hop-daddy,

   Your first reply here was so good, I hope you saved it for other newbies here, so you don't have to type it all over again. It really covered things. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/29/19 10:03:19AM
1,417 posts

Space Traveling Sphere of Souls


Dreams

Hi Bill,

   Long time..good to see you here! I hope your father is doing well. 

   Have you heard of simulation theory? That was the first thing I thought of when I read this. It is too complicated to explain, but there are dozens of videos about it on YouTube. Tom Campbell seems to be the expert, but there are shorter videos that are easier to understand if not familiar with the concept. This dream reminds me of the universes as nesting dolls, with new ones coming out of the others as they reach an advanced enough stage to make another one. It impressed me as you witnessing how life is spread throughout the universe. More importantly, what do you feel it was about?

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/23/19 12:47:17PM
1,417 posts



What I pick up here is that you did not like the direction of your life, and felt like you were being led in the wrong direction by a person in authority who thought they knew what they were doing, but they were really incompetent. An older relative maybe? So, you "died" to that life and were born again to a life of unconditional love (the dog and kids). You wake up in a new life that is more attuned to who you really are. Maybe this has to do with becoming an empath....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/22/19 01:47:53PM
1,417 posts



@hop-daddy,

If the time period in this overdose dream is the present or near to it, then I think you hit the nail right on the head. Maybe she has been chosen as someone with abilities and is being asked to help this person to cross over? Might be worth having her try to do so.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/22/19 10:42:34AM
1,417 posts



I am amazed that you go through your death in these dreams. That is supposed to resolve any phobias or lingering illness caused by the death, so it's great that you can do that. I wish I could do it. A mole near my right eye is the mark of a gunshot hole from a previous life which I know all about, but I have never been able to relive that death or any of my deaths like you can. I can see where that would help alleviate the fear of a painful death....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/22/19 09:48:27AM
1,417 posts



This sounds like a past life dream. Did it feel like you were really there, as if you could smell things, feel the breeze or the warmth of the sun, etc.? I see you remembered lots of details, common in past life dreams. I've had a few recurring ones. The psychic con lady may have been the conning cohort you had in that past life, which triggered the dream. 

Have you read anything by sleeping prophet Edgar Cayce? He talks about how meeting up with someone in this life who was part of a previous life can trigger these dreams. Brian Weiss's books on past life regression  may also be interesting for you. You can also try to have a lucid dream to get more info about this lifetime. Ask for a lucid dream every night right before going to sleep. It may take awhile to work, but can payoff with some very interesting experiences. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/21/19 05:20:32PM
1,417 posts

Newbie to all of this amazing stuff


Empath

@sirenahb,

    You may get some help by finding a free version of  the MBTI personality test online and taking it. Knowing your type and reading up on it can explain a lot of what you are asking about. You may also want to take the Big Five test as that can also give you a lot of insight into how you operate as compared to others. 

    You sound like you may be an INFJ type, a lot of us empaths are, and those traits are just the way we are, as the rarest personality type. I am not very good at being anywhere close to a "flat line" and have had to be extremely picky about who I let into my life as a result. As an empath, I also find most people are only interested in me when they need a free therapist to dump on, and they find me too intense to just hang out with, so I had to learn to go against my nature and hold everyone at arms length for awhile to protect myself. It can be lonely, but it's better than being drained.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/09/19 11:19:53AM
1,417 posts

Newbie to all of this amazing stuff


Empath

Hi @lancemiramar,

     I hope you are still around! Thank you so much for your service. :-)

     I call the belly fat my "stress baby", since often it can be due to very high cortisol levels caused by stress. I think most of us would agree that being an empath, especially one with psychic abilities too, can be very stressful. I've seen videos of a couple of psychics talking about how fat is often put on as insulation for the emotions.

    I am also diagnosed with PTSD, after being dead from a car accident and coming back with a brain injury. I did not have a near death experience, unfortunately. Is it possible you have PTSD from experiences in the service? That could cause your cortisol to spike dramatically whenever you experience triggers, like a car backfiring, fireworks, etc.

     I got hooked on a drug for sleep before I found out that there are some supplements that can greatly help with this. It took me two years in withdrawal to get off the drug. Ashwagandha is good around the clock to calm it down, and Seriphos can be taken at night to help keep cortisol from being so high you can't sleep. Cortisol that stays too high for a long time can cause serious physical health issues too, so it's good to get it under control. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
08/09/19 11:07:51AM
1,417 posts

Newbie to all of this amazing stuff


Empath

Hi @sirenahb,

I have a grounding technique I do each morning and whenever I feel the need that really helps me. I stand and imagine that my feet are heavy and glued to the floor. Then I imagine a large steel ring attached through my belly button area with a thick steel chain running all the way down to the center of the earth. I feel it holding me steadily and strongly and affirm that I am grounded to the earth so I can handle all that earth life has to offer. This may be more than you need, but if you are like me and really wish you were not on this planet, it may help a lot. I've tried a lot of other grounding techniques, but this is the only one that helped. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
07/16/19 11:43:29AM
1,417 posts

Do you get what you need out of meditation?


Empath

Thank you all for the excellent input here. I had a sudden light bulb moment when reading it... that my increasing inability to turn off the psychic stuff may be due to the incredible amount of time I spend in meditation each morning...at least an hour. Most of that is spent doing visualization healings on people I know who are sick, so I do not want to stop it, but I can let go of the rest of it, and see if that helps. Thanks!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
07/16/19 11:34:58AM
1,417 posts

5 G Technology


Empath

Hi Nocturne's Angel,

Three weeks after our smart meter was installed, I started having severe insomnia. I did not know what it was back then...we were one of the first areas to get them.

Two years ago we were hit by a Hurricane and lost power for six days. Instead of being anxious and too hot to sleep, I slept all night long for the first time in ages. As soon as power came on, I went back to having insomnia.

I have a good friend who has insulated all her electric wiring, removed all electric items from her bedroom and turns off the breaker to it at night, put a Farraday cage around her bed, gave up cable TV and put her computer back on Ethernet. This was all after she bought a house with only one neighbor across the street, and none on the other three sides to help protect her from the effects. She has had NAET treatments for Wifi, but is still having trouble, since she must use wifi when at work. She is now looking to use radiant barrier insulation in her roof and under her walls to stop it. This is all with 4G....

 5G is much stronger, is not really needed, as far as I can tell, and will be in front of every 3rd house, without any proof it is safe. I have read that fiber optics will accomplish the same things they want from 5G, but without the health risks, so why not do that? Sure, its expensive, but so is putting those boxes on all our light poles. With more extreme weather, fiber optics makes more sense too. Please post any facts that contradict this...I would really like to know.

If you are familiar with U.N. Agenda 21 or 30, some people think 5G is intended as the kill shot for a depopulation agenda. I don't know. As far as my empath spidey sense goes, I have felt for quite awhile that a huge CME will be the kill shot.

Australia is one place that has banned 5G until it sees what happens, but my understanding is that the satellites which handle it will beam it all over the world and there will be no escape. What can we do about it, and what do you feel is the real scoop on it? 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
05/11/19 12:51:02PM
1,417 posts

Seeing other worldly beings - Question


Psychic and Paranormal

It's called "programming" for a reason, and it is supposed to be over stimulating in order to distract us from raising our vibrations high enough to escape 3D. Some say we are also going through an area of different magnetic energy now that has caused the mostly dark people to be worse, the good to be even better, and the crazy to be crazier, as well as making time speed up. That sure seems to be happening from where I sit. I think you are right that most people live in their bottom 3 energy centers only, never venturing into their more estoteric capabilities, and that is just the way TPTB want it to stay. We have a chance to escape from this level of duality now and they are pulling out all the stops to prevent that. I guess we just keep working on ourselves and put one foot in front of the other.....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/27/19 08:53:48AM
1,417 posts

Am I an Empath? how definitive are the online tests?


Empath

@hop-daddy,

     I am not aware of any actual studies on empaths and fibromyalgia but it makes a lot of sense. Hypervigilance is a major feature of both. According to Dr. Devin Starlanyl, at least one Amer. Indian tribe confers automatic Shamanhood upon any member who develops fibro. They consider it a gift. I think most of us with fibro would welcome that, for the validation alone.

     However, having run a fibro support group for 14 yrs. before I had to quit, I have met many people with fibro who are not particularly empathic or observant. So, it is not a 100% match up. I also wonder how many people are misdiagnosed, as I have met people who were told by docs they have fibro, when they do not even meet the basic requirements of the diagnosis. I think some docs just want to be rid of a "problem" patient. In two cases, I knew I was being lied to by people who wanted to say they have fibro, rather than face their true diagnoses.

     As a physical empath, I would guess that may be the connection. People with physical empathy would be more likely to get fibro, imo, as long as they have the genes for it, and unless they are aware of being empaths very early on and can learn to adequately clean out the negative energy and illness vibes they pick up. 

    I have questions about that also. From the point of view of my therapist background, people who convert physical illness vibes from others into physical illness in themselves should be expected to be high on the hysteria and conversion scales. I cannot speak for others, but my scores were very low on those 2 scales. I can only postulate that empathic illness has different mechanisms of manifestation than pure conversion, which often takes emotional symptoms and converts them into physical ones. I would only be wildly guessing as to what those were.....sorry to raise more questions than answers!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/26/19 12:56:59PM
1,417 posts



@moonshine,

   You asked how people can make me feel better and if it would it help others w/similar diagnoses...

   Everyone is different. I have one friend who jokes about her "green" burial often, but I have another who is so terrified of death that she has no will and no provision for care of her disabled son (not cool!). So, you have to find out first what they can handle. 

    In my case, there seem to be themes with how people act around me. I expect this applies to others with terminal illness as well, but not all. This is what I would say to the people I know.....

1. Do not tell me I look good and/or how young I look. I get this a lot, and it is a result of not having known me before  got I got sick. I've been sick a long time and moved to where I live now on doctor's orders (that I wish I had ignored). I do not look good....in fact, I am unrecognizable compared to how I looked before I got sick. They think they are being kind, but to me it seems like a backhanded way of saying they do not believe I am really sick.

2. Do not lie to me. Don't say you love me like a sister when you could not be bothered to visit me fo the past 3 yrs. and you only live 30 mins. from me. I am amazed how many people think I will swallow this kind of crap. 

3. Don't try to get me to do things when I have explained to you that I cannot do them and why. I am not making up any of my symptoms. They seem weird to you because you have not bothered to read a single thing about my illness....and this is true of almost everyone who says they are my friend. When you are sick, I immediately read up on what you have....that seems to be an empath thing of going the extra mile.

I don't want to write a book. This is a good start. When in doubt, just ask them what you can do to make them feel better! And, I applaud you for wanting to handle these things better. 


updated by @cheshire-cat: 04/26/19 12:59:30PM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/25/19 12:59:18PM
1,417 posts



Hi @moonshine,

     Do you pick up anything uncomfortable from reading my post? I am terminally ill, though it is taking too damn long, imo, and I am eager to get off this looney bin of a planet. I was declared dead once, way back in 1984, in 1988 was told "any minute now", was put on terminal disability in 1994, in 2007 was told my max life span was another 7 years....now, I don't even listen to doctors anymore. I am mostly confined to my home, have not driven in 15 years, and am basically the walking dead, more or less.

I  think life and death is a continuum, and there is no stark line between them just because we humans have a very limited range of perception. How dead am I? How dead are you? What if I  live another 10 years as visible on this earth, and you get hit by a bus and die today? I think if you can think of it that way it may help you not to worry about this. It may be that your thinking is affecting how you feel, or maybe I am all wrong. You do not have to pay attention to your thoughts....just watch these thoughts go by, but don't believe them unless you choose to. 

As an empath, you may have some clairvoyance, clairsentience, etc., so getting used to death is essential, since you may start seeing them, hearing them, and/or knowing they are present. I would not try to shield from it, except from dark spirits. Envision your aura as only allowing love to come in and repelling all lower vibrations..... :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/25/19 09:42:31AM
1,417 posts

Am I an Empath? how definitive are the online tests?


Empath

@tonyrn,

I didn't have time to read his whole long thread, so please forgive me if this is repeat info....One of the diagnostics for Fibromyalgia is  the presence of the alpha-delta sleep anomaly disorder, which involves awakening at the end of each sleep cycle of about 90 mins. or so. The very first research done on Fibro at McGill Univ. confirmed this by hooking up med students to EEGs and waking them up at the end of each sleep cycle. This caused Fibro symptoms in all of them by the 1 1/2 week mark. 

Some fibromyalgia specialists think beating this is the key, and I agree, but after 35 yrs. of fibro, I've not been able to do it, since heavy drugs are not prescribed any longer, and most are not on the market. With amytryptaline, watch out for weight gain as it can be dramatic as I found out the hard way. It only works for 15% of us, so if it helps,  that is great. Benadryl is even worse than Benzodiazepines at destroying your memory and is now proven to cause dementia. I had to take Benadryl to get off the bentos and it has made my deep sleep and memory problems even worse than benzos did. Dr. Jacob Teitlebaum, author of From Fatigued to Fantastic has a website with a SHINE system for overcoming the sleep disorder and other problems. Ime as a support group leader, his techniques work best for those with mild Fibro (those who can still hold a job). He uses integrative medicine to treat people, so you get the best of both worlds. 

I turned out to have late stage Lyme disease also, and have developed several other serious problems as a result, and I now have 4 sleep disorders. However, there are some things that help a lot you may want to try. Magnesium threonate - one cap at dinner, 2 at bedtime =total dose 2,000 mgs. daily. L-tryptophan - up to 3,000 mgs. as needed during the night. Melatonin - 1/2 mg. doses as needed during night, but not w/in 1 hr. of sunrise. I would avoid herbs that are as addictive as the benzo drugs and it goes w/o saying to avoid benzos at all costs...they are harder to get off of than heroin and destroy deep sleep! Ambien also does that, and so do the other Z-drugs. 

I agree that fibro and empathy often go together. Fibro is an epigenetic illness, which runs in matrilineal bloodlines and is then triggered by stress, trauma, or illness. The #1 trigger is whiplash injury, causing 41% of fibro cases. I firmly believe that learning what sort of environment empaths need to live in and doing your best to make that happen for you will greatly help your fibro. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/20/19 04:27:34PM
1,417 posts

Am I being gaslighted?


Empath

I used to be a therapist. We must be careful with diagnosis. Narcs do not normally hurt animals, esp. dogs. They usually love dogs, who give them unconditional affection. Psychopaths and sociopaths are the ones who hurt, and may even kill animals. They can also graduate to hurting children and spouses if they are not stopped. It is up to the other adult to protect helpless children and animals. I hope that will be done here, since I know empaths are never so selfish as to forget that! 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/03/19 12:48:34PM
1,417 posts



Hi @turquoise,

     @hop-daddy summed it up pretty well. I am no expert on this though. I would add that some people think the folks at Cern are deliberately trying to open a "StarGate" to be able to traverse deep space quickly, and they fear this will also allow entry to our world by entities far more advanced than we are who would likely take over and make slaves of us, or worse. They cite the strange, seemingly satanic opening ceremony acted out there in Geneva as proof....I think you can find a video of it on YT. It was truly bizarre and I did not believe any of this speculation until I saw it and could not find an innocent explanation for it. 

    I used to get flustered over compliments too. Now I just say "thank you" and move on. Most non-empaths don't overthink everything like we empaths do and won't much care about how you respond anyway....they've already moved off to their next random thought, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/23/19 01:25:53PM
1,417 posts

Owls...


Dreams

Welcome to the EC Robert,

   As you probably know, many native cultures believe owls are an omen of death. However, they can be your totem or spirit animal instead, and that is what I am picking up here. I see a very large owl, not sure exactly what kind, but it seems to be a barred owl, flying low, and directly towards you as if to slam into you head on. It seems to be bringing a message of: "Hey, wake up. You know better." Does this make any sense to you? Sometimes I am dead on target, and sometimes way off, lol. If you know about lucid dreaming, you could ask for a lucid dream to find out more about the owl you saw.....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/13/19 01:59:46PM
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Anyone with experience resolving psychic bondage?


Psychic and Paranormal

I've not had the experience you've had, so don't have ideas for you on how to end your feeling of psychic bondage, but do have an idea that may help prevent repeating this relationship pattern in future. You might try Alain de Botton on YouTube, and look for his video called "Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person". This explains how childhood imprinting is so strong it is not usually overcome by therapy, and we all marry our parents even when we try not to and then attempt to fix what was wrong in the original relationship. I did not have a Narc parent like you, but I had parents with other problems, and married someone like my father, despite doing all the "right" things not to repeat this. Reading on childhood imprinting in general should help too. Sorry I don't have time to look up the links right now for what I suggested or I would, but I wish you the very best in resolving this. It sounds ghastly! 

Cheshire Cat
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01/10/19 12:36:19PM
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Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy,

Thanks for the suggestion... I got out my cuisinart, which I had not used in ages, and noted it has a grind setting that I'd never used, so I decided to risk it and it worked great. I now have enough pink Himalayan sea salt to last a couple of years. I wonder about the phrase  "Himalayan sea salt" though. Last time I looked the Himalayas were nowhere near a sea. Maybe long, long ago. 

Cheshire Cat
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01/07/19 02:18:56PM
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Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks, I already have enough to last more than two years since we don't use much, but the size is huge. I may try the cuisinart, since I don't have the other two items you mention, having been vegetarian until recently. No disopsable income means no purchases of rarely used items and I have only used that tiny cuisinart once in two decades, so may as well put it to use, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/07/19 01:54:47PM
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Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks. I do not get that channel, since we have antenna TV plus Roku, Netflix and Prime. I will check it out online. I recently put pink Himalayan salt in my candle bowl near my bed, since the darn stuff is so huge I cannot use it in food. I wonder if I could run it through the cuisinart to break it into smaller pieces, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
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01/07/19 12:55:25PM
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Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks for this article. What channel is The Dead Files on? I have never seen or heard of it, so I think it must be on a station I do not get.

The thing that struck me most is something I've thought for awhile now, and that is that it is the intention that makes a room clear of spirits, not sage, or incense, or chants....those are just ways of concentrating our intentions better, and will not be needed once we have confidence in our abilities. I think it will prove to be the same with medicines. Once we realize how powerful we are, we won't need to believe in pills, just in ourselves. I think that is a very advanced lesson.

Cheshire Cat
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01/05/19 02:22:30PM
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Just Wondering about something....


Empath

Maybe that is why it was so dark on that loading dock. I wish you and your coworkers much success. Unfortunately, any organization that gives people power over others is subject to abuse of that power. This is one time I hope I am wrong, and I'd bet you do too. 

Cheshire Cat
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01/05/19 11:18:29AM
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Just Wondering about something....


Empath

@womanwhowalks,

FWIW, as soon as I read the name, I saw a man who looks just like Ernest Borgnine, the actor. (I hope you are old enough to know who he was) He was standing on a loading dock on the water, with high stacks of packing crates behind him. It was pretty dark outside. He is wearing a striped, 3/4 length tee shirt, khakis and suspenders. He is surrounded by about 6 other men who are younger than he is, all wearing jackets and caps,  and they are pointing fingers and yelling at him. He is looking down and away from them, trying to hide the fear in his eyes, while he is laughing uproariously, trying to make light of their accusations that he played fast and loose with their money.  

I know you drive a bus, so the dockside action does not fit, but that is what I got, so I am reporting it exactly as I saw it. I'd say you can probably trust whatever you are getting. I have often second guessed myself, with dire long term consequences. Only once has my first impression been wrong and my second one right....I screwed myself over that time also, since I went with my first impression. 

I hope you will post what is going on, as you have got me curious now. I also hope whatever it is will no adversely affect your job or income.

Cheshire Cat
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12/24/18 10:36:45AM
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Can you dream other people's dreams?


Dreams

@Dice,

I have a friend who has a twin and about once a year, they will both have a dream about being in a tornado on the exact same night. They have not been in any tornados in this lifetime. What do you think was going on when you had the same dream as your relative and why do you think they stopped? 

I always look like some other person in dreams, but I know it is me, and can usually find some kind of theme to the dream. Last night, for example, I had a nightmare in which I was confronted with 3 ways in which I feel helpless in this life, but I looked very different and was much younger. 

Do you think we are seeing ourselves in other lives sometimes and are even being influenced by that life in this one? Can experiences or lessons in dreams in one life influence our other lives?

Cheshire Cat
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12/18/18 01:14:50PM
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Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@hop-daddy,

Thanks. I think you meant slippery elm? I can't take that one. I have heard DGL is good. We have used Prelief at our house for years now, with coffee, chocolate or berries to prevent reflux. 

It's not really surprising our stomachs get upset when negative energy is around, since the gut is "the second brain".

Cheshire Cat
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12/17/18 11:34:59AM
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Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@hop-daddy,

What do you use when your stomach lining is weakened? I can highly recommend L-glutamine powder for that problem. Take one 5 gm.scoop per day on an empty stomach in H20. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/14/18 08:44:17AM
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Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@zacharias,

 Stomach issues here in America can also be due to the GMOs and pesticides allowed in food, which are not allowed elsewhere. There is someone on this forum who moved here from Britain, never having had any trouble, and as soon as he got here, his digestion went haywire. I do not mean to say that emotions are not involved, since they are, especially with us! I mean to say it could be a combination of things, and trying to eat organic food with no GMOs for awhile to see if it helps may be worth it. if your tummy lining is irritated, L-glutamine is an excellent supplement to treat and soothe it. It is very safe, as long as you don't take more than 5 gms. daily. I hope you and your daughter feel better soon. 

Cheshire Cat
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12/13/18 03:53:55PM
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Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

Thanks for pointing this out, @hop-daddy. I especially loved the first link. I wish everyone I know would read that.  I've done chakra cleansing for ages with no results. Also daily cleansing and shrinking of the solar plexus chakra and shuttering it. No results. I think it will be this way as long as I live in a crowded city.

The book she wrote specifically for empathic INFJs looks good. I have every single health issue she listed except migraines and colds, and I used to have those when I was younger.

My number one tip is set boundaries and stick to them. Selfish, narcissistic and psychopathic people will keep on violating your boundaries and pushing you, and you will be forced to confront them which is SO hard for a decent person to do, but once you have gotten some relief by doing so, you will never go back. You are not responsible for anyone else's life choices, so don't let hem make you feel that you are, or sickness is inevitable and I am so sick I am terminal and cannot drive, barely sleep, and can only walk two blocks now, and slowly. history is repeating itself, and people are literally trying to drain me to death, and this is important for all you newbies, they do NOT care and feel NO remorse.  I watched my unaware empath mother become a depressed hermit and die at only age 60 from the overwhelm and disappointment caused by selfish, nervy people. Not everyone is decent like empaths and not everyone who claims to be one really is an empath. The problem I think is the empath's push-pull relationship with people, especially for INFJs, of which I am one. You can feel compelled to be involved with people and help them, but despise what you can read in them at the same time. I hope lots of people read these links and put themselves first always. Then choose carefully whom you help. Imo, most people these days are so desperate for a connection with something other than their phones that they are bottomless pits of need. You will be drained dry, but  they will never be filled up. I think some of us, and I am guilty, confuse being a friend with being a therapist, and even a therapist gets to be off work and have down time. If someone needs one, you are not doing them any favors by substituting for what they really may need...think about it. A real friend does not expect free therapy from you.  Ok, end of rant. Thanks again for posting this. 

Cheshire Cat
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12/13/18 03:25:24PM
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Lost and Confused


Empath

@so-echausted-from-users,

I love your screen name, and it could be mine. @hop-daddy alerted me to this thread, since I am older and hopefully wiser, lol, but I am way behind on email and just now saw it. He has already said everything I could say and then some.

I agree with him on soul mates and twin flames. I've seen too many people use those overly used, romanticized labels as a reason to stay and put up with abuse or a bad match. I tend to think people who feel that strong an attraction to someone  they've just met are either people we were with in other lives, or people who subconsciously remind us of our parents. For more on that last part about parents, see Alain De Bouton's YouTube video on "Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person". It explains the childhood psychological imprinting that we are all subject to and how its influence is so strong nobody escapes it and it never goes away, no matter how old we are. Knowing his helps us to deal with the way things are. 

I have a constant feeling of dread despite being married a long time. I feel it is due to some coming natural catastrophe of huge proportion and I am not the only one who feels this. You may be a physical empath if that is so. There are several types of empath and you may be one or several. My point is are you sure it is related to this man? This may take time. That is what your therapy is for. Ask yourself also if this therapist is the right one for you and if this is the right type of therapy for the problem.

He is also right about calming down, grounding and also shielding. I still have issues with this, so will not claim to have it licked. I am a hermit as a result, but have found that I can be "exhausted from users" even by online people who prey on us empaths, and it is even harder to spot them w/o being able to see them. They make me furious. Be careful here and elsewhere and though it's hard for empaths, put yourself first, always.

Cheshire Cat
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12/02/18 08:45:18AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias and @michelle,

What a fabulous story to read this morning. NO coincidences indeed.. your poster story made my day. Thanks for letting us all know about it. :-)

Cheshire Cat
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12/01/18 09:44:45AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias,

Glad to see another fan of Mark Passio. I do wish Mark would not make the same point over and over though. His talks could be 1/3 as long and still make the same good points. Mark also gets very worked up and angry and I pick that up, making my own anger problem worse. I also love Jordan Peterson....seems you and I think a lot alike. 

 I have the same love-hate problem with people. I think it's from easily seeing negative traits that other people don't seem to pick up, not to mention all the lying that goes on. I think that push-pull people thing is common in empaths, and more importantly, I believe most people would feel that way too if they picked up what we do, so please don't be too hard on yourself. :-)

Cheshire Cat
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12/01/18 07:54:25AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@aiden,

The part time Soc. Serv. job sounds like a great idea. My husband made his house into a duplex and rented half of it out while growing his business, then converted it back to single family once he was making enough. We do whatever it takes to get it going if the passion is there.

Social services pays horribly as I'm sure you know. Teachers are rich by comparison, lol. I grew up very poor and that actually helped me there, since I never had trouble living on what others considered a too low to live on salary. I wish you the best possible outcome for all of this. I too find this forum to be a life preserver in a sea full of sharks!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/01/18 07:44:08AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias and @michelle,

I really don't feel I can add much to what michelle said, since she did a good job, and I have a serious rage problem from the Lyme Disease being in my brain, and have avoided crowds for over 3 decades now due to the overwhelm, so I have not been in that situation for a very long time. I have no right to say what to do, since I could not handle even being there in the first place!

In the past I have been in situations like that and I usually tried to make a joke out of it and say to the aggressor something like "hey man, you must be having a really bad day and Im sorry, but it's not her fault", meaning the stranger who was being harassed. I am not sure that will work today, when people seem angry for no reason at all., as if they were being manipulated like marionettes. Like michelle, I suspect more interference by the dark side, and maybe even from all the radiofrequency pollution going on. There are videos on YT by Edge of Wonder about mind control through smartphones. Sounds bizarre I know, but I don't think we need microchips inside us to be controlled by them (mark of the beast), and it is one reason why flip phones are back in style with those who are awake to this. The 2 guys who make up Edge of Wonder are Christians and they try to keep even heavy subjects hopeful. They have a 2 part video on this subject which is about 20 mins. total for both parts.

I think helping someone who needs it is always better than not helping, but we need to try to avoid burn out somehow. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 04:56:54PM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

I am sure there may be a few other ENFPs. The "N" is the thing that would be most likely associated with empaths, imo, though being an 'I' type may be easier for empaths, since we get overwhelmed by being around people too much and 'E' types really need people. ENFP is INFJs best match though, so you should get along great with most of us. :-)

Cheshire Cat
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11/30/18 04:10:57PM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

You said: "I just have this unrelenting compulsion to KNOW." This is off topic, but there are many threads at EC on this subject if interested.....do you know your Myers-Briggs personality type? That quote makes me suspect you are an INFJ like so many of us here at EC, the world's rarest type, but common in empaths. The Enneagram type and the Big Five typing are also interesting. The MBTI and the other two are free online. I find they help me understand people better, and as an INFJ, I need extra help with that, since I often feel like odd woman out!

Cheshire Cat
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11/30/18 12:18:10PM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

That was some HEAVY stuff. Like most of what P.K. Dick said, I needed to re-read some of it, and I definitely need to think about it for awhile. The idea of death of the ego and submission to the Urgrund reminds me of the traditional concept of needing to be born again. A lot of the simulation theory being tossed around by physics seems to fit in there too. The total indifference of this reality experience we are living in rings true, unhappily, since I loved the idea of a personal God, whom I could actually petition and influence. I admit I have seen little evidence of that possibility, but it has happened to an amazing degree at least once in my life. There's some ego for you, lol. Something about the basic concept feels off to me, but I cannot articulate it at this point. I need to chew on it awhile...thanks very much for posting it and giving my tired brain a good workout. I'd love to hear your viewpoint on it. I recommend  the Cold Case Christianity videos on YT to you, since they seem to take away much of the need to make the leap of faith he speaks of, before one is allowed to experience the Urgrund for oneself. 

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