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Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
07/16/19 11:43:29AM
1,398 posts

Do you get what you need out of meditation?


Empath

Thank you all for the excellent input here. I had a sudden light bulb moment when reading it... that my increasing inability to turn off the psychic stuff may be due to the incredible amount of time I spend in meditation each morning...at least an hour. Most of that is spent doing visualization healings on people I know who are sick, so I do not want to stop it, but I can let go of the rest of it, and see if that helps. Thanks!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
07/16/19 11:34:58AM
1,398 posts

5 G Technology


Empath

Hi Nocturne's Angel,

Three weeks after our smart meter was installed, I started having severe insomnia. I did not know what it was back then...we were one of the first areas to get them.

Two years ago we were hit by a Hurricane and lost power for six days. Instead of being anxious and too hot to sleep, I slept all night long for the first time in ages. As soon as power came on, I went back to having insomnia.

I have a good friend who has insulated all her electric wiring, removed all electric items from her bedroom and turns off the breaker to it at night, put a Farraday cage around her bed, gave up cable TV and put her computer back on Ethernet. This was all after she bought a house with only one neighbor across the street, and none on the other three sides to help protect her from the effects. She has had NAET treatments for Wifi, but is still having trouble, since she must use wifi when at work. She is now looking to use radiant barrier insulation in her roof and under her walls to stop it. This is all with 4G....

 5G is much stronger, is not really needed, as far as I can tell, and will be in front of every 3rd house, without any proof it is safe. I have read that fiber optics will accomplish the same things they want from 5G, but without the health risks, so why not do that? Sure, its expensive, but so is putting those boxes on all our light poles. With more extreme weather, fiber optics makes more sense too. Please post any facts that contradict this...I would really like to know.

If you are familiar with U.N. Agenda 21 or 30, some people think 5G is intended as the kill shot for a depopulation agenda. I don't know. As far as my empath spidey sense goes, I have felt for quite awhile that a huge CME will be the kill shot.

Australia is one place that has banned 5G until it sees what happens, but my understanding is that the satellites which handle it will beam it all over the world and there will be no escape. What can we do about it, and what do you feel is the real scoop on it? 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
05/11/19 12:51:02PM
1,398 posts

Seeing other worldly beings - Question


Psychic and Paranormal

It's called "programming" for a reason, and it is supposed to be over stimulating in order to distract us from raising our vibrations high enough to escape 3D. Some say we are also going through an area of different magnetic energy now that has caused the mostly dark people to be worse, the good to be even better, and the crazy to be crazier, as well as making time speed up. That sure seems to be happening from where I sit. I think you are right that most people live in their bottom 3 energy centers only, never venturing into their more estoteric capabilities, and that is just the way TPTB want it to stay. We have a chance to escape from this level of duality now and they are pulling out all the stops to prevent that. I guess we just keep working on ourselves and put one foot in front of the other.....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/27/19 08:53:48AM
1,398 posts

Am I an Empath? how definitive are the online tests?


Empath

@hop-daddy,

     I am not aware of any actual studies on empaths and fibromyalgia but it makes a lot of sense. Hypervigilance is a major feature of both. According to Dr. Devin Starlanyl, at least one Amer. Indian tribe confers automatic Shamanhood upon any member who develops fibro. They consider it a gift. I think most of us with fibro would welcome that, for the validation alone.

     However, having run a fibro support group for 14 yrs. before I had to quit, I have met many people with fibro who are not particularly empathic or observant. So, it is not a 100% match up. I also wonder how many people are misdiagnosed, as I have met people who were told by docs they have fibro, when they do not even meet the basic requirements of the diagnosis. I think some docs just want to be rid of a "problem" patient. In two cases, I knew I was being lied to by people who wanted to say they have fibro, rather than face their true diagnoses.

     As a physical empath, I would guess that may be the connection. People with physical empathy would be more likely to get fibro, imo, as long as they have the genes for it, and unless they are aware of being empaths very early on and can learn to adequately clean out the negative energy and illness vibes they pick up. 

    I have questions about that also. From the point of view of my therapist background, people who convert physical illness vibes from others into physical illness in themselves should be expected to be high on the hysteria and conversion scales. I cannot speak for others, but my scores were very low on those 2 scales. I can only postulate that empathic illness has different mechanisms of manifestation than pure conversion, which often takes emotional symptoms and converts them into physical ones. I would only be wildly guessing as to what those were.....sorry to raise more questions than answers!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/26/19 12:56:59PM
1,398 posts



@moonshine,

   You asked how people can make me feel better and if it would it help others w/similar diagnoses...

   Everyone is different. I have one friend who jokes about her "green" burial often, but I have another who is so terrified of death that she has no will and no provision for care of her disabled son (not cool!). So, you have to find out first what they can handle. 

    In my case, there seem to be themes with how people act around me. I expect this applies to others with terminal illness as well, but not all. This is what I would say to the people I know.....

1. Do not tell me I look good and/or how young I look. I get this a lot, and it is a result of not having known me before  got I got sick. I've been sick a long time and moved to where I live now on doctor's orders (that I wish I had ignored). I do not look good....in fact, I am unrecognizable compared to how I looked before I got sick. They think they are being kind, but to me it seems like a backhanded way of saying they do not believe I am really sick.

2. Do not lie to me. Don't say you love me like a sister when you could not be bothered to visit me fo the past 3 yrs. and you only live 30 mins. from me. I am amazed how many people think I will swallow this kind of crap. 

3. Don't try to get me to do things when I have explained to you that I cannot do them and why. I am not making up any of my symptoms. They seem weird to you because you have not bothered to read a single thing about my illness....and this is true of almost everyone who says they are my friend. When you are sick, I immediately read up on what you have....that seems to be an empath thing of going the extra mile.

I don't want to write a book. This is a good start. When in doubt, just ask them what you can do to make them feel better! And, I applaud you for wanting to handle these things better. 


updated by @cheshire-cat: 04/26/19 12:59:30PM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/25/19 12:59:18PM
1,398 posts



Hi @moonshine,

     Do you pick up anything uncomfortable from reading my post? I am terminally ill, though it is taking too damn long, imo, and I am eager to get off this looney bin of a planet. I was declared dead once, way back in 1984, in 1988 was told "any minute now", was put on terminal disability in 1994, in 2007 was told my max life span was another 7 years....now, I don't even listen to doctors anymore. I am mostly confined to my home, have not driven in 15 years, and am basically the walking dead, more or less.

I  think life and death is a continuum, and there is no stark line between them just because we humans have a very limited range of perception. How dead am I? How dead are you? What if I  live another 10 years as visible on this earth, and you get hit by a bus and die today? I think if you can think of it that way it may help you not to worry about this. It may be that your thinking is affecting how you feel, or maybe I am all wrong. You do not have to pay attention to your thoughts....just watch these thoughts go by, but don't believe them unless you choose to. 

As an empath, you may have some clairvoyance, clairsentience, etc., so getting used to death is essential, since you may start seeing them, hearing them, and/or knowing they are present. I would not try to shield from it, except from dark spirits. Envision your aura as only allowing love to come in and repelling all lower vibrations..... :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/25/19 09:42:31AM
1,398 posts

Am I an Empath? how definitive are the online tests?


Empath

@tonyrn,

I didn't have time to read his whole long thread, so please forgive me if this is repeat info....One of the diagnostics for Fibromyalgia is  the presence of the alpha-delta sleep anomaly disorder, which involves awakening at the end of each sleep cycle of about 90 mins. or so. The very first research done on Fibro at McGill Univ. confirmed this by hooking up med students to EEGs and waking them up at the end of each sleep cycle. This caused Fibro symptoms in all of them by the 1 1/2 week mark. 

Some fibromyalgia specialists think beating this is the key, and I agree, but after 35 yrs. of fibro, I've not been able to do it, since heavy drugs are not prescribed any longer, and most are not on the market. With amytryptaline, watch out for weight gain as it can be dramatic as I found out the hard way. It only works for 15% of us, so if it helps,  that is great. Benadryl is even worse than Benzodiazepines at destroying your memory and is now proven to cause dementia. I had to take Benadryl to get off the bentos and it has made my deep sleep and memory problems even worse than benzos did. Dr. Jacob Teitlebaum, author of From Fatigued to Fantastic has a website with a SHINE system for overcoming the sleep disorder and other problems. Ime as a support group leader, his techniques work best for those with mild Fibro (those who can still hold a job). He uses integrative medicine to treat people, so you get the best of both worlds. 

I turned out to have late stage Lyme disease also, and have developed several other serious problems as a result, and I now have 4 sleep disorders. However, there are some things that help a lot you may want to try. Magnesium threonate - one cap at dinner, 2 at bedtime =total dose 2,000 mgs. daily. L-tryptophan - up to 3,000 mgs. as needed during the night. Melatonin - 1/2 mg. doses as needed during night, but not w/in 1 hr. of sunrise. I would avoid herbs that are as addictive as the benzo drugs and it goes w/o saying to avoid benzos at all costs...they are harder to get off of than heroin and destroy deep sleep! Ambien also does that, and so do the other Z-drugs. 

I agree that fibro and empathy often go together. Fibro is an epigenetic illness, which runs in matrilineal bloodlines and is then triggered by stress, trauma, or illness. The #1 trigger is whiplash injury, causing 41% of fibro cases. I firmly believe that learning what sort of environment empaths need to live in and doing your best to make that happen for you will greatly help your fibro. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/20/19 04:27:34PM
1,398 posts

Am I being gaslighted?


Empath

I used to be a therapist. We must be careful with diagnosis. Narcs do not normally hurt animals, esp. dogs. They usually love dogs, who give them unconditional affection. Psychopaths and sociopaths are the ones who hurt, and may even kill animals. They can also graduate to hurting children and spouses if they are not stopped. It is up to the other adult to protect helpless children and animals. I hope that will be done here, since I know empaths are never so selfish as to forget that! 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
04/03/19 12:48:34PM
1,398 posts



Hi @turquoise,

     @hop-daddy summed it up pretty well. I am no expert on this though. I would add that some people think the folks at Cern are deliberately trying to open a "StarGate" to be able to traverse deep space quickly, and they fear this will also allow entry to our world by entities far more advanced than we are who would likely take over and make slaves of us, or worse. They cite the strange, seemingly satanic opening ceremony acted out there in Geneva as proof....I think you can find a video of it on YT. It was truly bizarre and I did not believe any of this speculation until I saw it and could not find an innocent explanation for it. 

    I used to get flustered over compliments too. Now I just say "thank you" and move on. Most non-empaths don't overthink everything like we empaths do and won't much care about how you respond anyway....they've already moved off to their next random thought, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/23/19 01:25:53PM
1,398 posts

Owls...


Dreams

Welcome to the EC Robert,

   As you probably know, many native cultures believe owls are an omen of death. However, they can be your totem or spirit animal instead, and that is what I am picking up here. I see a very large owl, not sure exactly what kind, but it seems to be a barred owl, flying low, and directly towards you as if to slam into you head on. It seems to be bringing a message of: "Hey, wake up. You know better." Does this make any sense to you? Sometimes I am dead on target, and sometimes way off, lol. If you know about lucid dreaming, you could ask for a lucid dream to find out more about the owl you saw.....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/13/19 01:59:46PM
1,398 posts

Anyone with experience resolving psychic bondage?


Psychic and Paranormal

I've not had the experience you've had, so don't have ideas for you on how to end your feeling of psychic bondage, but do have an idea that may help prevent repeating this relationship pattern in future. You might try Alain de Botton on YouTube, and look for his video called "Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person". This explains how childhood imprinting is so strong it is not usually overcome by therapy, and we all marry our parents even when we try not to and then attempt to fix what was wrong in the original relationship. I did not have a Narc parent like you, but I had parents with other problems, and married someone like my father, despite doing all the "right" things not to repeat this. Reading on childhood imprinting in general should help too. Sorry I don't have time to look up the links right now for what I suggested or I would, but I wish you the very best in resolving this. It sounds ghastly! 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/10/19 12:36:19PM
1,398 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy,

Thanks for the suggestion... I got out my cuisinart, which I had not used in ages, and noted it has a grind setting that I'd never used, so I decided to risk it and it worked great. I now have enough pink Himalayan sea salt to last a couple of years. I wonder about the phrase  "Himalayan sea salt" though. Last time I looked the Himalayas were nowhere near a sea. Maybe long, long ago. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/07/19 02:18:56PM
1,398 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks, I already have enough to last more than two years since we don't use much, but the size is huge. I may try the cuisinart, since I don't have the other two items you mention, having been vegetarian until recently. No disopsable income means no purchases of rarely used items and I have only used that tiny cuisinart once in two decades, so may as well put it to use, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/07/19 01:54:47PM
1,398 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks. I do not get that channel, since we have antenna TV plus Roku, Netflix and Prime. I will check it out online. I recently put pink Himalayan salt in my candle bowl near my bed, since the darn stuff is so huge I cannot use it in food. I wonder if I could run it through the cuisinart to break it into smaller pieces, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/07/19 12:55:25PM
1,398 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks for this article. What channel is The Dead Files on? I have never seen or heard of it, so I think it must be on a station I do not get.

The thing that struck me most is something I've thought for awhile now, and that is that it is the intention that makes a room clear of spirits, not sage, or incense, or chants....those are just ways of concentrating our intentions better, and will not be needed once we have confidence in our abilities. I think it will prove to be the same with medicines. Once we realize how powerful we are, we won't need to believe in pills, just in ourselves. I think that is a very advanced lesson.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/05/19 02:22:30PM
1,398 posts

Just Wondering about something....


Empath

Maybe that is why it was so dark on that loading dock. I wish you and your coworkers much success. Unfortunately, any organization that gives people power over others is subject to abuse of that power. This is one time I hope I am wrong, and I'd bet you do too. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/05/19 11:18:29AM
1,398 posts

Just Wondering about something....


Empath

@womanwhowalks,

FWIW, as soon as I read the name, I saw a man who looks just like Ernest Borgnine, the actor. (I hope you are old enough to know who he was) He was standing on a loading dock on the water, with high stacks of packing crates behind him. It was pretty dark outside. He is wearing a striped, 3/4 length tee shirt, khakis and suspenders. He is surrounded by about 6 other men who are younger than he is, all wearing jackets and caps,  and they are pointing fingers and yelling at him. He is looking down and away from them, trying to hide the fear in his eyes, while he is laughing uproariously, trying to make light of their accusations that he played fast and loose with their money.  

I know you drive a bus, so the dockside action does not fit, but that is what I got, so I am reporting it exactly as I saw it. I'd say you can probably trust whatever you are getting. I have often second guessed myself, with dire long term consequences. Only once has my first impression been wrong and my second one right....I screwed myself over that time also, since I went with my first impression. 

I hope you will post what is going on, as you have got me curious now. I also hope whatever it is will no adversely affect your job or income.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/24/18 10:36:45AM
1,398 posts

Can you dream other people's dreams?


Dreams

@Dice,

I have a friend who has a twin and about once a year, they will both have a dream about being in a tornado on the exact same night. They have not been in any tornados in this lifetime. What do you think was going on when you had the same dream as your relative and why do you think they stopped? 

I always look like some other person in dreams, but I know it is me, and can usually find some kind of theme to the dream. Last night, for example, I had a nightmare in which I was confronted with 3 ways in which I feel helpless in this life, but I looked very different and was much younger. 

Do you think we are seeing ourselves in other lives sometimes and are even being influenced by that life in this one? Can experiences or lessons in dreams in one life influence our other lives?

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/18/18 01:14:50PM
1,398 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@hop-daddy,

Thanks. I think you meant slippery elm? I can't take that one. I have heard DGL is good. We have used Prelief at our house for years now, with coffee, chocolate or berries to prevent reflux. 

It's not really surprising our stomachs get upset when negative energy is around, since the gut is "the second brain".

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/17/18 11:34:59AM
1,398 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@hop-daddy,

What do you use when your stomach lining is weakened? I can highly recommend L-glutamine powder for that problem. Take one 5 gm.scoop per day on an empty stomach in H20. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/14/18 08:44:17AM
1,398 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@zacharias,

 Stomach issues here in America can also be due to the GMOs and pesticides allowed in food, which are not allowed elsewhere. There is someone on this forum who moved here from Britain, never having had any trouble, and as soon as he got here, his digestion went haywire. I do not mean to say that emotions are not involved, since they are, especially with us! I mean to say it could be a combination of things, and trying to eat organic food with no GMOs for awhile to see if it helps may be worth it. if your tummy lining is irritated, L-glutamine is an excellent supplement to treat and soothe it. It is very safe, as long as you don't take more than 5 gms. daily. I hope you and your daughter feel better soon. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/13/18 03:53:55PM
1,398 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

Thanks for pointing this out, @hop-daddy. I especially loved the first link. I wish everyone I know would read that.  I've done chakra cleansing for ages with no results. Also daily cleansing and shrinking of the solar plexus chakra and shuttering it. No results. I think it will be this way as long as I live in a crowded city.

The book she wrote specifically for empathic INFJs looks good. I have every single health issue she listed except migraines and colds, and I used to have those when I was younger.

My number one tip is set boundaries and stick to them. Selfish, narcissistic and psychopathic people will keep on violating your boundaries and pushing you, and you will be forced to confront them which is SO hard for a decent person to do, but once you have gotten some relief by doing so, you will never go back. You are not responsible for anyone else's life choices, so don't let hem make you feel that you are, or sickness is inevitable and I am so sick I am terminal and cannot drive, barely sleep, and can only walk two blocks now, and slowly. history is repeating itself, and people are literally trying to drain me to death, and this is important for all you newbies, they do NOT care and feel NO remorse.  I watched my unaware empath mother become a depressed hermit and die at only age 60 from the overwhelm and disappointment caused by selfish, nervy people. Not everyone is decent like empaths and not everyone who claims to be one really is an empath. The problem I think is the empath's push-pull relationship with people, especially for INFJs, of which I am one. You can feel compelled to be involved with people and help them, but despise what you can read in them at the same time. I hope lots of people read these links and put themselves first always. Then choose carefully whom you help. Imo, most people these days are so desperate for a connection with something other than their phones that they are bottomless pits of need. You will be drained dry, but  they will never be filled up. I think some of us, and I am guilty, confuse being a friend with being a therapist, and even a therapist gets to be off work and have down time. If someone needs one, you are not doing them any favors by substituting for what they really may need...think about it. A real friend does not expect free therapy from you.  Ok, end of rant. Thanks again for posting this. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/13/18 03:25:24PM
1,398 posts

Lost and Confused


Empath

@so-echausted-from-users,

I love your screen name, and it could be mine. @hop-daddy alerted me to this thread, since I am older and hopefully wiser, lol, but I am way behind on email and just now saw it. He has already said everything I could say and then some.

I agree with him on soul mates and twin flames. I've seen too many people use those overly used, romanticized labels as a reason to stay and put up with abuse or a bad match. I tend to think people who feel that strong an attraction to someone  they've just met are either people we were with in other lives, or people who subconsciously remind us of our parents. For more on that last part about parents, see Alain De Bouton's YouTube video on "Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person". It explains the childhood psychological imprinting that we are all subject to and how its influence is so strong nobody escapes it and it never goes away, no matter how old we are. Knowing his helps us to deal with the way things are. 

I have a constant feeling of dread despite being married a long time. I feel it is due to some coming natural catastrophe of huge proportion and I am not the only one who feels this. You may be a physical empath if that is so. There are several types of empath and you may be one or several. My point is are you sure it is related to this man? This may take time. That is what your therapy is for. Ask yourself also if this therapist is the right one for you and if this is the right type of therapy for the problem.

He is also right about calming down, grounding and also shielding. I still have issues with this, so will not claim to have it licked. I am a hermit as a result, but have found that I can be "exhausted from users" even by online people who prey on us empaths, and it is even harder to spot them w/o being able to see them. They make me furious. Be careful here and elsewhere and though it's hard for empaths, put yourself first, always.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/05/18 01:53:59PM
1,398 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

Here are some gloomy articles about the rise in Narcissism sent to me by an alert EC member. They are definitely worth reading, imo.....


C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/02/18 08:45:18AM
1,398 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias and @michelle,

What a fabulous story to read this morning. NO coincidences indeed.. your poster story made my day. Thanks for letting us all know about it. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/01/18 09:44:45AM
1,398 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias,

Glad to see another fan of Mark Passio. I do wish Mark would not make the same point over and over though. His talks could be 1/3 as long and still make the same good points. Mark also gets very worked up and angry and I pick that up, making my own anger problem worse. I also love Jordan Peterson....seems you and I think a lot alike. 

 I have the same love-hate problem with people. I think it's from easily seeing negative traits that other people don't seem to pick up, not to mention all the lying that goes on. I think that push-pull people thing is common in empaths, and more importantly, I believe most people would feel that way too if they picked up what we do, so please don't be too hard on yourself. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/01/18 07:54:25AM
1,398 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@aiden,

The part time Soc. Serv. job sounds like a great idea. My husband made his house into a duplex and rented half of it out while growing his business, then converted it back to single family once he was making enough. We do whatever it takes to get it going if the passion is there.

Social services pays horribly as I'm sure you know. Teachers are rich by comparison, lol. I grew up very poor and that actually helped me there, since I never had trouble living on what others considered a too low to live on salary. I wish you the best possible outcome for all of this. I too find this forum to be a life preserver in a sea full of sharks!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/01/18 07:44:08AM
1,398 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias and @michelle,

I really don't feel I can add much to what michelle said, since she did a good job, and I have a serious rage problem from the Lyme Disease being in my brain, and have avoided crowds for over 3 decades now due to the overwhelm, so I have not been in that situation for a very long time. I have no right to say what to do, since I could not handle even being there in the first place!

In the past I have been in situations like that and I usually tried to make a joke out of it and say to the aggressor something like "hey man, you must be having a really bad day and Im sorry, but it's not her fault", meaning the stranger who was being harassed. I am not sure that will work today, when people seem angry for no reason at all., as if they were being manipulated like marionettes. Like michelle, I suspect more interference by the dark side, and maybe even from all the radiofrequency pollution going on. There are videos on YT by Edge of Wonder about mind control through smartphones. Sounds bizarre I know, but I don't think we need microchips inside us to be controlled by them (mark of the beast), and it is one reason why flip phones are back in style with those who are awake to this. The 2 guys who make up Edge of Wonder are Christians and they try to keep even heavy subjects hopeful. They have a 2 part video on this subject which is about 20 mins. total for both parts.

I think helping someone who needs it is always better than not helping, but we need to try to avoid burn out somehow. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 04:56:54PM
1,398 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

I am sure there may be a few other ENFPs. The "N" is the thing that would be most likely associated with empaths, imo, though being an 'I' type may be easier for empaths, since we get overwhelmed by being around people too much and 'E' types really need people. ENFP is INFJs best match though, so you should get along great with most of us. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 04:10:57PM
1,398 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

You said: "I just have this unrelenting compulsion to KNOW." This is off topic, but there are many threads at EC on this subject if interested.....do you know your Myers-Briggs personality type? That quote makes me suspect you are an INFJ like so many of us here at EC, the world's rarest type, but common in empaths. The Enneagram type and the Big Five typing are also interesting. The MBTI and the other two are free online. I find they help me understand people better, and as an INFJ, I need extra help with that, since I often feel like odd woman out!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 12:18:10PM
1,398 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

That was some HEAVY stuff. Like most of what P.K. Dick said, I needed to re-read some of it, and I definitely need to think about it for awhile. The idea of death of the ego and submission to the Urgrund reminds me of the traditional concept of needing to be born again. A lot of the simulation theory being tossed around by physics seems to fit in there too. The total indifference of this reality experience we are living in rings true, unhappily, since I loved the idea of a personal God, whom I could actually petition and influence. I admit I have seen little evidence of that possibility, but it has happened to an amazing degree at least once in my life. There's some ego for you, lol. Something about the basic concept feels off to me, but I cannot articulate it at this point. I need to chew on it awhile...thanks very much for posting it and giving my tired brain a good workout. I'd love to hear your viewpoint on it. I recommend  the Cold Case Christianity videos on YT to you, since they seem to take away much of the need to make the leap of faith he speaks of, before one is allowed to experience the Urgrund for oneself. 

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11/30/18 09:09:53AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


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@michelle,

I think I have read every word Tom Montalk every wrote, sometimes more than once, so we are on the same page! I have also read several of Phillip K. Dick's books, since I love sci-fi, partly because it so often becomes reality, or maybe already is a hidden reality. Thanks for the link, which I will enjoy while eating lunch. :-)

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11/30/18 08:27:17AM
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@aiden,

I could have written your post. I certainly empathize with all you said and was also told that I was a master healer in a previous life and am a light warrior now.

One thing I can add is that I never had those  job problems you described when I was employed in my field, which was social services. The employment dog-eat-dog stuff only started after I had to relocate for health reasons and could not find a job in my field, so was forced to work in the business world. My mother once told me that "business ethics are an oxymoron" and I found out just how right she was. I know empaths who manage to work in business and come out unscathed, but I think most of us do far better in service jobs where we are of service to others and (I think) are much more likely to find other people like ourselves.

  I remember you saying you have your own business now and that is bound to be better. That's what my HSP husband had to do, though he and I both still had to deal with some unreasonable clients. I hope what you have chosen is compatible with who you are. When I was young, I thought I was unlimited and could mold myself into anything I wanted; that I should and could fit myself into any type of job, if need be. That belief turned out to be so wrong that it cost me my health, permanently. I would not wish that on anyone.

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11/30/18 08:12:24AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


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@zacharias,

Thank you for that very good and moving post!

I would also like to recommend a series on YouTube for anyone like me who was taught that the Bible was written hundreds of years after events and so it could not be accurate, the apostles had lots of reasons to lie to create a religion, the church has changed a lot of the writings to fit their agenda, nobody other than the apostles saw Jesus after he died, there is no historical proof he even existed, and many other things you may have been told and taken as truths and as reasons to doubt the whole story, like I did. The series of videos is called Cold Case Christianity. I especially recommend the one about whether the resurrection really did happen. It knocked me upside the head, since it is so logical when you know the facts. I am not trying to convert people. I myself am leery of accepting any labels, since that can stop spiritual growth cold. I just think it's always helpful to get as much info as possible and keep an open mind. 

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11/29/18 07:49:15PM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


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@michelle,

 Thank you for the link to that EXCELLENT article! I encourage everyone to make time to read it.

I feel a reset and start over is what will happen now as I believe it has several times before...the monuments from those prior advanced civilizations are all around us if we would only open our eyes and see them. I think we do not want to face it that we have blown it over and over again. 

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11/29/18 07:40:06PM
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Feeling a little down and confused...


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@michelle,

I read that incense is really, really bad for your lungs and indoor pollution in general. So are all candles except beeswax ones. It does not bother me nearly as much as sage though, so that shocked me. I love the idea of taping myself with the back of a hair brush. That I can do w/o spending cash I don't have. I like the chanting too. I wonder if the Lesser Banishment Ritual wouldn't be as good, since it is recited out loud. I have never tried dragon's blood and will look for it online. Thanx!

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11/29/18 11:38:52AM
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Feeling a little down and confused...


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To anyone who might know,

What can be done about coughing and choking on the smoke from saging? I use cedar, since I have two cedar trees. It is really hard to take, since I already have sinus problems. It is too cold right now to open windows, but I agree that it helps as long as it is not too noisy outdoors. 

I read something this morning about how just rubbing sage leaves between your fingers can work. I do have a Texas sage in my garden, but it has short leaves, not the long ones normally used to sage a home. Do you think it would work just as well?

I've not had much luck with saging or with the stones I use, but I feel our house is unhealthy in some way I cannot perceive yet, since I always feel better when I go to someone else's house and I sleep much better away from home also. Since retiring, my husband's previously good health for his age has fallen apart alarmingly, and I do not think it's a coincidence that he is at home most of the time now. 

Thanks for any ideas. :-)

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11/29/18 10:19:17AM
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@michelle,

That is a very good way to look at it. Please do put yourself first to rest and heal. :-)

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11/29/18 08:24:10AM
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@michelle,

As you know, I've had a similar experience with using Jesus' name as the only effective way to remove negs from my home, and also with healing, though that part was only temporary for me. I am working on healing my toe, which has broken again just from walking two blocks, and has been broken since July 19th. It will not heal and I am totally out of shape as a result. What you don't know, is that I too saw 5:55 all the time during that period. I am now seeing 3:33 and 4:44 a lot instead. How do you reconcile this experience with your very logical doubts about salvationism? I cannot do it and must not deceive myself, so I just let the uncertainty exist, though it is very uncomfortable. I can empathize too with the unrelenting illness and resulting frustration. I hang on by my fingernails and could never do it w/o my husband. I am sending you warm hugs....

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11/29/18 07:54:15AM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


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@kate,

Your idea of "scattered spirits" is a very good one. As you say, there are so many things that are wrong with our world, it could be any or a combination of all of them as the cause. It does take tremendous will to pull oneself into a clean space and remain there. It truly is a matrix, a huge web of interlocking obstacles to purity of heart, mind and soul. I have indeed noticed the lack of attention when talking in person, and the generational difference you mention. Most people my age do not have better health habits, at least not the ones I know, but their lives have moved much more slowly, without constant demands on their attention, and w/o smart phones attached their heads. The way we are rushing into A.I. and 5G is terrifying. It seems to be a death wish on our part and/or a feeling of helplessness against the small number of psychopaths who run this looney bin.

Also:

I saw an article yesterday about more new narcissism research. It is even worse than the one I started the thread about. They said that about 40% of the population now has narc traits and a whopping 10% have full blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. When I was learning about this in college, it was only 1% , and I was told I would never encounter a single case in my career. The article also mentioned a 50% drop in empathy scores. Yet, I constantly hear the new age gurus talking about how much humanity has awakened and is raising their vibration for the better, and how we will soon ascend to a higher level. I wish I could believe that and I want to, but I cannot deny that I am seeing the opposite. It seems to me like they are only hanging around with each other and not mixing with ordinary folks.

Are we empaths supposed to counter this, and if so, how???

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11/28/18 08:22:24AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


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@michelle,

Thanx for the thoughtful response. When I blew up at the neighbor, I got the same reaction as your friend with the 'flying chair'....her eyes popped and she ran away. That was many years ago and lately she is trying to worm her way back in  and involve us in her life again. She had to evict a "friend" who was staying in her house, and came over to tell us so. I made my husband go to the door. She came again a few days later and he was not home, so I ignored her pounding on the door until she left. I will not allow her in my space again. I have boundaries now, finally! Better late than never. 

I also have conflicts about the salvation system and the concept of eternal hell. I can be a stickler for justice,  and do not forgive easily, but even I would not condemn the worst being to eternal fire and any god must be far better than I am. I also lean towards pantheism. However, having tried every other name and found only Jesus' to work, it has made me reconsider, and I just finished reading the entire NT again. I wonder if all of us, including Christians with a capitol "C" aren't misunderstanding most of it. I do see how  the underpinnings of civilization depend on it, with the invention of hospitals and public schools as good examples of things not even thought of before it, but I can't buy all of it w/o a leap of faith too far for me to take w/o some logical explanation. This subject should not be on the forum, so if you want to discuss it, let's take it to PM. 

You are so right about anger being all right if it results in productive action, and not always being nice being not only okay, but a requirement for assertiveness and boundaries. I was brought up to never, ever get angry and still feel guilty when I do, but thanks to Lyme disease, I have full blown rages now, often over little things, another reason to isolate myself. There have been quite a few murder/suicides in Lyme patients due to these rages. 

I come out of a church that teaches healing by spirit alone, but decades of working at it have not healed me. I am presently working on healing 4 other people. I figure why not try? I don't know if I can trust what I pick up or not. In one case, I strongly pick up that the diagnosis is wrong and he has something entirely different. I have not said anything yet, but am working on removing what I see. I have predicted 2 people's deaths and what they died from before they knew they had anything wrong, but have not healed anyone yet, except once when I told someone a supplement to take that got him off the heart transplant list. There is a strong genetic component to what I have also. I am reliving my mother's life to a tee, and cannot see the point of doing that.

Re: your ow cortisol. Have you tried Niagen? It is the new hot shot mitochondrial supplement for this problem, available at the store at prohealth.com. My cortisol is too high at night, but is too low during the day. I could not stand Niagen, since I am 'wired but tired' and it really raises energy. It has some side effects and I had all of them, probably since I am such a nervous nellie. Might be worth a try.

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11/24/18 08:54:13AM
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@michelle,

I have found the white magic of The Lesser Banishment Ritual to work well for getting negs out of my home, and if they do come in, ordering them to leave in the name of Jesus works better than anything else I've tried. However, getting neighbors to move is one thing I have not mastered. The Dalai Lama also said that his religion is kindness, and unfortunately, that is something I had to leave behind to get those neighbors out of my face. After more than a decade of bullying to the point where I was afraid to walk out of my house to get the mail, I finally blew up and gave one of them a dose of her own medicine to the point where she ran from me. That was the only thing that has worked with these people who are so spiritually undeveloped that they only respond to that type of treatment. Kindness only made me seem like better prey to them.

I agree about the adrenals and  disciplines to keep my circadian rhythm in line have helped. The supplement Seriphos has been essential to keep high cortisol down at night. I need a lot of supplements just to function at all. I must be a slow learner. I was told back in 1988 that I could go at nay minute. In 1994, I was put on terminal/incurable disability w/o even asking and was told I should not even be able to walk w/the amt. of brain damage I have. In 2007, I was told I would never live past age 63 and that if I was still alive in 2017, I would have cancer. I am 67 now. A healer from the Barbara Brennan School told me my mission in life this time is to heal myself through spirit alone. I've been sick since 1986, and getting worse all the time despite never ending effort to get well, so I must be a very slow learner despite my empathy, or maybe because of it....at least that is how it feels to me. I am so sensitive that I can't handle things that others are not made sick or even stressed by. My spouse is not bothered by living next to these people, so does not see a need to leave the home he loves, and just tells me to stop thinking about it.

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11/24/18 08:02:14AM
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@jerrysto,

I have the same problem and nothing I've tried has helped. I live in what I call a 'darkness sandwich', in a house bordered on either side by the two darkest individuals I've ever known, and I can't move for several reasons. I pick up their negative mood all the time and it geometrically adds to the depression I already have. I keep looking for ways to get relief. I have a friend who says she can turn her ability off and on, but I have only seen the results of her having it off and being taken for thousands of dollars by 3 different people who fooled her, so I think it is necessary to also know when to turn it off, not just how.

@michelle,

I use the exercise you outlined every morning, slightly altered, so I can combine it with the moves in my daily Qi Gong routine. Like my daily meditation, it makes me feel wonderful while I am doing it, but the effect does not last. When healing, I find that locating the problem areas first, bringing in green healing light and then visualizing the area as healed works best for me. If I find dark spots in my own aura, pulling them out, digging out any roots, filling it in with white light and then patching my aura seems to work best. 

As an interesting aside, all of my symptoms, both physical and mental, disappear w/in about 30 hrs. of starting to take an antibiotic called metronidazole, and they stay gone for about 2 wks. after I stop taking it. Our guts can really mess up our heads.

Cheshire Cat
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11/22/18 07:48:00AM
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Hi TL,

I have not seen any research about Narcs using dogs to attract prey, but it makes total sense that they would do that. I have known normal men who loved their dogs and just accidentally attracted women while walking them. Dogs are also a good excuse for a woman to walk up to a man, when she wants to, but otherwise wouldn't dare. 

Cheshire Cat
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11/21/18 12:59:12PM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


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@michelle,

Wonderful post, thanks! You are right that the subject matter will have to be continued elsewhere so we don't go far astray of empath subjects. I live in an area where about 1/3 of kids are homeschooled, due to the prevalence of a religious group that does not allow public school attendance. The difference between those kids and the others is marked. Most regular school kids here drop out at 16, do drugs and slack off, while most homeschooled kids here go to college at 15, are avid learners, and are respectful to adults.  I minored in Fine Arts and can see how they are badly needed, especially with so much over scheduling stifling creativity. We also need recess!

A lifelong habit of not watching the boob tube is a priceless time saver for your son. I never owned one until I got sick, and as a child, we did not have one until I was about 9 yrs. old. I think that helped. I won't even get started on Commie Core, which came from China, the model for the NWO. Ah, the Travistock Inst., and the CFR, the TLC, the Club of Rome, Skull & Bones, The Bohemian Club, etc. I can see you are also familiar with Kissinger's comments about our military being the "meat based cannon fodder for our resource wars". You are also quite correct that most people simply cannot face knowing about, let alone connecting all the puzzle pieces, and I find the more educated they are and the more they have in the game, ie. kids and grandkids, the less willing they are to listen. They will even say they do not want to know the Matrix is real because they can't take any more stress. Wow. I will stop typing now before I get in trouble! ;-)

I will end with some good news about empathy! I just saw some new brain research today in my Alumni magazine. They have created video games for young kids with the purpose of teaching them empathy! They created an alien world and give points to the players from earth for recognizing emotions correctly and responding to them when they see them in the faces of the aliens, who are cute, green leafy looking characters. It's not a bad idea, since kids are going to play these games anyway. :-)

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11/21/18 07:46:29AM
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@michelle,

Hmm...this is my thread but I did not get notification of your post, just Tiger Lily's that came after it. Strange!

Anyway, I thought your post was very much on target. True Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the hallmark of which is a total lack of empathy, is most often created in infancy, when the child does not bond with the primary caregiver, usually due to that caregiver being preoccupied with an older child she is totally doting on, a spouse who gets all her attention, or, in recent decades, a drug addiction or workaholism, basically anything or anyone that drastically lowers the time spent in forming a tight bonding, and then allows the child to start pushing away from that bond to become a separate individual, while still retaining the bonded feeling to the primary caregiver. This is how the child comprehends that there is more than one person (himself) in the world. That is very important, because a lack of this understanding is why Narcs have no empathy. They are the only real person here in their minds, and you are just another part of them, so if you are not thinking and acting just like them, it is as if for example, their right hand balled into a fist and kept punching them in the face....it is unthinkable and intolerable and either must be subdued or destroyed. I hope I explained that well enough. If not, there are plenty of good websites which explain narcissism.

I don't know if this is true, but I have read several things stating that when one of the dark side orgs. (The Bilderberg Group) met after WWII, a member of the American leadership (David Rockefeller) supposedly brought up that they should be getting tax income from the female half of their herd of workers, so would now make women think they needed to stay in the workforce after the war, and teach that all women should have careers just like men. They claim they invented, financed, and pushed feminism to achieve this end. They said this would also help accomplish their goal of breaking up the family and making everyone dependent upon the state. Daycare is one result of this. In some other countries, either parent can stay home for the fist two years of a child's life, and get paid and keep their job. I don't know what is right here, but I suspect  there should be many options for child care. I do think we need to start by ditching our national religion of materialism, despite the economic effect of doing so, as it is bad for our souls and worse for the planet. I am just reporting what I heard so you can think about it, and don't have a horse in this race. 

Namaste,

C. Cat

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11/20/18 11:19:22AM
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P.S. For anyone who likes goats and needs a pick-me-up....try videos on YouTube from Sunflower Creamery. They have many adorable videos of their goats, including new babies, and baby goat pajama parties! 

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11/20/18 11:17:29AM
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@womanwhowalks,

OMG, I did not say anyone who loves or has dogs is a Narc! Not at all. I just said that of the full blown Narcs I've known personally, which are only about half a dozen people who actually would qualify for a diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the majority had dogs, as a way to get a constant supply of uncritical attention. If all dog owners were Narcs, we'd be living in a hellish, unbearably cruel and selfish world. That would surely be awful. I was trying to say how most dogs love everyone, even Narcs. It is well known that most dogs will even love someone who beats and starves them. It is pack loyalty plus obedience to the alpha dog, which is the owner. I agree with you that dogs are wonderful and my favorite pet of all was a dog, my Corgi. Namaste. :-)

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11/20/18 07:09:19AM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


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@tigerlily,

That is very sad, but I am not surprised. I guess all you can do is be a beacon of light in that sea of darkness, and maybe some others will decide to join you and shine their lights too. 

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11/19/18 06:54:31PM
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@hop-daddy,

You hit the nail on the head. I had a reading once where the psychic said she saw tiny holes all over my aura that are leaking my chi energy, and she said she only sees that when the person has one foot here and one foot on the other side, and does not really want to be here. 

@womanwhowalks,

   I sometimes see people as various stages of rotting meat. I thought it was just me who was PO'd about having a body. Thanks for having the courage to post that. I sometimes have tantrums about having the very sick, high maintenance body I have now, which requires several hours of work to keep going day to day. It seems ungrateful, but I have asked to have a walk-in who wants to be on earth take over for me, and so far there are no takers, lol. 

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