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Layla
@layla
03/18/21 11:32:18AM
37 posts

When things go south


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I think it depends on what sort of beliefs you hold and to whom. We all go through a string of bad luck but sometimes that's just how things are.

Your question reminded me of someone close to me who always said I'm bad luck to her.

Everytime we've been in a car journey we have had near misses with Trams and cars etc Makes one think about oneself though doesn't it? (I mean that on a loving/humorous context)..

I've also heard we can attract spirits and negative people based on what we use. Though sage is supposed to be something good.

Have you noticed any patterns when you sage etc?

And bear in mind the intuition of your own physicality. Mine has never failed me thus far.

🌸To look after myself.

🌸To make time for myself

🌸To give myself a break

🌸Do nothing at times as a form of allowing my body to recover from stress, burn out, work and like so

🌸 To remind yourself how many responsibilities you have and which ones can be compromised and where can support from family and friends assist you

🌸To use my VOICE which is something I would rarely do when I knew I needed help or couldn't keep up with others in whatever contexts you want to understand that in.


updated by @layla: 03/18/21 11:38:14AM
Layla
@layla
03/10/21 09:56:16AM
37 posts

The liars


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I just wanted to add something here that some of you may/may have never come across before.

It's a character trait. Usually of women who think out of the box.

Depending on who we spend our time with and the amount of time, enables us to articulate something about the person we are spending our time with.

Many years ago I worked with someone who was very strongly rooted in his faith. The principles of his faith would teach him that certain emotions were wrong to hold. So he would use affirmations to negate those undesired emotions. However what he became oblivious too was how living undesired scenarios began to shape his decisions and character. So he began making the wrong choices in his life in pursuit of wanting to stay firm to his principles of religious and faith matters. Taking the wrong people as inspirational role models. Because they're ability to make a sacrifice was far greater than he ever could.

At some point he came to a halt because he ran out of ideas to negate (because he thought he was clever negating only by his heart/head.

So eventually I began to notice this guy is hell bent on proving he has no desire for money, cars, better life (for others/not for himself).

In the midst of this way of thinking (to himself). He'd forgotten how to have fun. Certain types of fun like speeding in a car can get you a fine right? So there was this place where you could hire a car it was like 250/350 dollars or something where a person could spend the day with a trained professional in race cars. Ofcourse theres an option of go carts etc if I'm not mistaken by the correct name of the sport)

So any who. I noticed this and thought that would be the perfect gift for him from his other half he gets to have fun, go crazy and actually race a car on a proper race field just like they do in top gear!

Then I learnt he was a complete A* hole and gradually began to click that it's not entirely his fault, him and many others have been taking their knowledge from God knows where Like a soup kitchen. Some were too afraid to Express their own faith infront of others. I myself have got it wrong many times. But that's why I take time to find resources and learn about who I'm learning from.

Anyway the damage is done but he will never realise that that's all he needed even though it wasn't what he wanted. But he needed to learn what was in his own heart. But to do that it comes with a price.

Me being able to develop this skill means I know I'm good at it when its feasible. Others do it to me also but it's sometimes hit and miss. Usually it's a wakeup call to nitty gritty matters and my attention gets drawn to it, makes me appear suspicious to others and as I've more recently learnt obnoxious to some degree and unhappy.

I chose the option of not sharing this with him because of how deceitful he became.

I never regretted it once.
Layla
@layla
03/08/21 07:08:41PM
37 posts

Uncontrolled crying


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That's cool I have some also now that I'm going to try. Iv'e had a couple of near passing out episodes with severe physical effects. They're not entirely frequent or regular episodes but lots of triggers that I'm super conscious of and it's not safe or practical for me to be relying on anything other.

I don't handle stress/pressure very well normally especillay when I'm around others who expect more or want to hold certain things against me for whatever immoral reason. so see how it goes. It's an important time to re-establish boundaries that iv'e been working on and allowing to make myself not feel guilty about.

Or others to make me feel that way.
Layla
@layla
03/08/21 05:43:25AM
37 posts

Paranormal Distress Call


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Enjoying read this thread is 😊👌
Layla
@layla
03/08/21 05:41:41AM
37 posts

Uncontrolled crying


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Thanks @tigerlilly. I'm alot better now but I have learnt that I may possibly have anxiety which is a struggle for me because I'm not able to mask as well as others or ground. Otd not officially diagnosed so we shall see what the docs say.

X2 in the last month iv had to just lay down and let it pass. It's good that I do mindful breathing exercises anyway so when it kicks in 2nd nature takes over and relaxes my mind.

I love how people can do gardening! I've never had the patience for it but it's something I have always wanted to do with children.

Some reflections taught me that it's not entirely empathy linked. But linked with a meditative mind. Example, I normally have a habit of reassuring myself, even though I'm a very sensitive person. Anything major in life happens I tend to forget the fact that I'm human and have emotional experiences/needs etc but not always confident in them being expressed around others. So my natural instinct normally kicks in with what the primary issues are and tend to those and then my emotions tend to seep through kind of like gradual tears instead of a burst of tears depending on the circumstances. And they usually clear within seconds. And it's a gradual experience in feeling how it affects my heart.
Layla
@layla
03/08/21 05:20:54AM
37 posts

The liars


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@illuminous-ops thanks for the read. Love reading empath related stuff.

Btw is it your personal pdf?/webpage? Some of the content is around I guess blackmagic etc which I'm cool reading/learning but it's not my cup of tea personally.

Perhaps you could try a more targeted audience with similar/same preferences?

On the subject of liars though. I kinda feel let down. That I trusted a complete nobody despite the stature they hold socially primarily. I wasnt very well some years ago but given the circumstances we got to know each with many hurdles inbetween. I personally don't mind being honest and open with people I meet. But some things they said were not true and I came across the truth about this person. And at the time it discouraged me from wanting to trust them anymore. Given my nature. Some time away I calmed down from what I'd learnt and how petty and small it was to be upset about. I kind of always get the impression that if I had to ever speak with them again they wouldn't tell the truth or avoid answering whatever I ask. So I'm happy where I am. Also don't want to pry where it doesn't concern me.

@tigerlilly you should stay away frim this person if that's how they make you feel and don't feel bad about it. I've been doing similar since last 2 years. And I have 0 regrets they expose themselves more than anything else. But that doesn't and shouldn't make you feel any less of a person. Although it has brought you down. Remind yourself why you are better off without this person in your life and stick to whatever that helps to keep your mind positive and stress free. For me that's things like spending time with people that make me happy, tv/watching random movies on youtube, netflix on the odd times that I have it. Walks, or an act of kindness to people who are worthy and deserving of.

Hope your feeling better since your last post.
Layla
@layla
03/03/21 02:28:19PM
37 posts

Family ties/awakening


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@zacharias I think much of what you expressed is how we as an entire family feel. Those feelings which you have expressed are what the messages were perceive whenever we try to step out of our comfort zones and make something of ourselves instead of being viewed as a failure.

I think someone deep down beneath the surface is what prevents us. The messages are ingrained but we font see those on initial insight when we self reflect.
Layla
@layla
03/03/21 02:24:52PM
37 posts

Family ties/awakening


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@alanjepsen Iv'e never actually been able to do that. Except but just to listen and take on the criticism.

To some extent emotional entrapment on much needed life descisions.

Although we've always had a good backing through siblings.
Layla
@layla
03/02/21 09:03:58AM
37 posts

Family ties/awakening


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Those are the people we look up to generally. Families that seem positive, interact and communicate well with one another. Show interest in building communities.

And yes that is what we lack, we see but we don't have the strength to do this solo. So we support others who have already pledged to build and support their communities individually rather than as a whole.

We didn't come from those types of backgrounds, nor we're we raised with those principles in life. Which is why we lack motivation and give up very easily.

Some stigmatised, backward ways of thinking and beliefs are ingrained in my mother. Yet she doesn't see the oppression that has been done to her nor does she know how to manoeuvre away from it. Instead she reiterates what her ancestors taught her. Both her parents are deceased. Even then I felt the need to build bridges with them because as much as we were distant from them. I wanted to be close. Close with her sister and her nieces. Since they come from a family of refugees.

Now if I was angry I'd be pointing out all the descisions he has made in life and mine have been discouraged from pursuing.
Layla
@layla
03/01/21 01:55:05PM
37 posts

Family ties/awakening


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@trevor-Lewis thank you so much, yes that is helpful. And that is a great way to not hold resentment.

I will try and memorize it and repeat it when I am being belittled to take big steps in life. Because that is what I want to do and at the same time part and parcel of what you shared is how I have been conditioned to accept but to not challenge.
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