I just wanted to add something here that some of you may/may have never come across before.
It's a character trait. Usually of women who think out of the box.
Depending on who we spend our time with and the amount of time, enables us to articulate something about the person we are spending our time with.
Many years ago I worked with someone who was very strongly rooted in his faith. The principles of his faith would teach him that certain emotions were wrong to hold. So he would use affirmations to negate those undesired emotions. However what he became oblivious too was how living undesired scenarios began to shape his decisions and character. So he began making the wrong choices in his life in pursuit of wanting to stay firm to his principles of religious and faith matters. Taking the wrong people as inspirational role models. Because they're ability to make a sacrifice was far greater than he ever could.
At some point he came to a halt because he ran out of ideas to negate (because he thought he was clever negating only by his heart/head.
So eventually I began to notice this guy is hell bent on proving he has no desire for money, cars, better life (for others/not for himself).
In the midst of this way of thinking (to himself). He'd forgotten how to have fun. Certain types of fun like speeding in a car can get you a fine right? So there was this place where you could hire a car it was like 250/350 dollars or something where a person could spend the day with a trained professional in race cars. Ofcourse theres an option of go carts etc if I'm not mistaken by the correct name of the sport)
So any who. I noticed this and thought that would be the perfect gift for him from his other half he gets to have fun, go crazy and actually race a car on a proper race field just like they do in top gear!
Then I learnt he was a complete A* hole and gradually began to click that it's not entirely his fault, him and many others have been taking their knowledge from God knows where Like a soup kitchen. Some were too afraid to Express their own faith infront of others. I myself have got it wrong many times. But that's why I take time to find resources and learn about who I'm learning from.
Anyway the damage is done but he will never realise that that's all he needed even though it wasn't what he wanted. But he needed to learn what was in his own heart. But to do that it comes with a price.
Me being able to develop this skill means I know I'm good at it when its feasible. Others do it to me also but it's sometimes hit and miss. Usually it's a wakeup call to nitty gritty matters and my attention gets drawn to it, makes me appear suspicious to others and as I've more recently learnt obnoxious to some degree and unhappy.
I chose the option of not sharing this with him because of how deceitful he became.
I never regretted it once.