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sandy
@sandy
01/15/20 05:28:55AM
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New coworker triggering me


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@matthew-elsey and @Tigerlily , thanks so much :) 

She is indeed a toxic person . I avoid interaction with her except when necessary for work . When I called her out on her crap , she smartly turned it on me . When she got no reaction , she had to say sorry .lol .

Today , also she picked on me a little on work issues . But I responded when needed to defend myself . I feel like I have to work on eggshells around her . I have to remind myself that I need to stand up for myself and have more self love :) 

sandy
@sandy
01/14/20 06:30:01AM
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New coworker triggering me


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@tigerlily , @Cheshire-cat and @hop-daddy thanks so much for your advices :) 

Since yesterday , whenever that female coworker asked me questions I didn’t want to answer or give too much energy to  , I simply nodded or said yes/no . At times , I just didn’t even respond .

Today , she was acting really bossy and picking on me way too much. I had no choice but to stand up for myself . I simple told her in a polite way “ you like being bossy towards me huh ?” She then asked me if I was angry . I didn’t respond and then she said sorry . I simply told her that just like she was talking , I also had the right to voice out my opinion . 

I have to learn to set boundaries with people . 

sandy
@sandy
01/11/20 09:38:11PM
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New coworker triggering me


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Hi Matthew , this is indeed a form of bullying . I am writing a letter and asking HR for a transfer from there tomorrow . I don’t know how long the procedures will take though or if they will accept . Thanks for your advice .

sandy
@sandy
01/11/20 03:59:12AM
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New coworker triggering me


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Hi, I was moved to a new department at work at the beginning of this week . In spite of staying professional and interacting with my new coworkers only for work purpose , they seemed really drawn to me and wanted to know more about me . I grounded and shielded before going to work . I set boundaries , still it didn’t work much . They were being nosy , asking me about my personal life and one female coworker particularly triggered me . I was on the verge of tears yesterday . I don’t know how I am going to cope on Monday . I am actively looking for another job . I am an introvert and don’t like to talk about my personal life as I have issues . Any advice please ? Thanks .


updated by @sandy: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
sandy
@sandy
12/20/19 09:18:38PM
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overwhelmed when feeling an attraction


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Thanks Elise for the technique for building boundary . Very helpful . He stood kind of close to me , the day I experienced those overwhelming feelings . Will keep this techniques in mind now .

Thanks also to everyone for their replies . Very helpful . I just hope that I don’t cross his path for a while so that I can figure things out and know if there is indeed something there ..

sandy
@sandy
12/20/19 09:12:14PM
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overwhelmed when feeling an attraction


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Hop Daddy:

@sandy :


If you are an empath you're going to be very sensitive to energy and pick up emotional energy stronger than the average person. That's why a love interest is so intoxicating. But I would urge caution and suggest you have a go slow approach until you get to know and trust him. The reason is that there are lots of bad types out there who are good at charming and reeling in empaths so they can use and abuse them. Love can be blind as we all know, so as an empath pursue a relationship like this a little guarded. And good luck!



Whenever I have had a love interest/ crush around me , it has always been intense . I always had to avoid them a lot until I figured out what my feelings are and what this is all about . I will indeed be cautious . He really needs to step up for me to trust him . He is flirty but I don’t know who he is . I am indeed guarded around him and speaking my truth . Thank you :)

sandy
@sandy
12/20/19 09:08:03PM
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overwhelmed when feeling an attraction


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Karen2: Hi. What might help you is to look at this from the energy perspective. We all emit energy. Some stronger some weaker. Sexual energy is a VERY strong energy and when a male or female are emitting this energy it can be annoying...lol...it doesn't necessarily mean YOU are attracted to that individual...it only means you are sensing that energy and it's strong. You can't really shut it out as it's a natural thing that occurs for all species on the planet. That energy will eventually fade. But I also know that what causes me the most problems are the energy roots and connections to other humans. When I feel overwhelming energy from another human I know they've connected to me quite deeply. Not because I'm attracted but by their energy cord that has embedded into my own energy field and I've learned to recognize it and to pull it out so it can't bother me. You might want to learn how to do root work on yourself to remove those cords. And to remove all cords that are currently connected to your own energy field will be causing you problems. It will take some time to learn but well worth the time taken to learn.

I do feel some attraction when around him but what I sensed was mostly his energy . And it’s annoying as only after a few days that I could get rid of it to an extent and realize how I actually feel . I do notice him but I don’t know yet what it is . I need yo learn how to do root work on myself so I don’t feel that overwhelmed if I do interact with him again .

sandy
@sandy
12/20/19 09:03:14PM
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overwhelmed when feeling an attraction


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So_exausted_from_users: It happens to all of us when we get a crush and at the starting stages of love...

Yes , I noticed that I was feeling something around him but I think I picked up were his feelings which were a little bit more intense ..

sandy
@sandy
12/20/19 09:56:32AM
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overwhelmed when feeling an attraction


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Hello, I’d like to ask if anyone also feels overwhelmed when they are attracted to someone please. Recently, I realized that I was attracted to a guy and it was very overwhelming for me after we interacted. It’s like I don’t know what do with those feelings and I can’t get him out of my mind for days . 


updated by @sandy: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM