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aj86
@aj86
11/11/19 09:36:02PM
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I understand that. I'm just confused why things suddenly changed for no apparent reason and no warning. Like she turned into a differnet person in the blink of an eye. We are friend, I think. It just doesn't make sense to me what happened. Maybe I'm not ment to know.
aj86
@aj86
11/11/19 01:02:27PM
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I notice details and it makes me clingy?


updated by @aj86: 11/11/19 09:36:44PM
aj86
@aj86
11/11/19 09:47:36AM
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So I walk into work this morning. She says thank you for the text this morning thanking her for her service which she didn't respond to till she saw me (she served in the army). She immediately after says she has a surprise for me and I have to close my eyes. She excitedly pulls out some athletic tape out of her bag that she bought yesterday for my shoulder. (I have a shoulder issue). We converse a few seconds about how to tape my shoulder up. Then she has this burrito she's eating that she made with the candied jalapenos in it that we love and tells me to try it. I take a bite, and it taste great (we eat each others food all the time). She sort of acts kinda "normal" for a little bit. I don't stand around long because I have to get to my job. I come back a few minutes later when I realize I have blood on my new jacket and I go to ask her if she knows anything that will get it out. She knows what will and proceeds to help me get the blood out. While I'm opening the package she askes if I want her to get me a bandaid to cover the cut thatI didn't know how it happened.

I'm confused as to why she is not really communicating with me like she was and then doing these little things, some normal some not. Did her focus or mind shift? She claimed everything was find on her end but she isn't the normal self she was a little over a week ago. Women are so confusing...


updated by @aj86: 11/11/19 09:50:18AM
aj86
@aj86
11/11/19 12:06:45AM
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Why would her demeanor change so suddenly towards me? It's like my value to her changed in a moment without warning. I asked her yesterday if I did something wrong but she said "?no." Which that's not how she would normally answer that sort of question from me. Then I asked, "did something changed between us. Seems there is something not being said." She replied, "everything is fine one her end" which is also not how she would normaly answer that sort of question from me. She isn't very talkative now. Plus she gave me back the title to the car I bought which she was so excited about and said she found something else. I know something is up and something shifted. She isn't who she was a little over a week ago. You don't have full trust and faith in someone one day and lean on them for everything hug and tell them you love them then the next day asking them about your motives and expectations of the relationship for all the things you do for that person. Who does that? I know she's going through a lot right now but she's the type who needs someone to talk to at any given point. She doesn't seem to be doing much confying in me now.


updated by @aj86: 11/11/19 12:10:33AM
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 07:18:02PM
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How do I clear that?
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 05:27:47PM
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Like what?
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 04:46:49PM
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I'm stuggling to stop thinking about things. It's what I do. I'm a thinker. Have had therapist tell me I am.
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 04:16:54PM
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I'm not arguing but I believe her ex has gotten to her. Another person I talked to earlier said she isn't herself either.

I realize this sounds odd of me to say but she isn't venting to me or telling me her feelings now.


updated by @aj86: 11/10/19 04:24:04PM
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 03:22:09PM
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Ok, what's involved with the energy work then?
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 02:41:18PM
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Would you be willing to talk on the phone? I have some other stuff to say about this but it's a lot to type and honestly I think I need a female's brain on this to help me understand better. If I'm in the wrong I want someone to tell me. Since I'm not an empath the only people that might be able to understand what's in her head is an empath and possibly that person could help translate some of it for me


updated by @aj86: 11/10/19 02:44:00PM
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 04:52:57AM
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I'm so confused....And have so many questions...... She's the narcessist and I'm the empath? I never really thought of myself as such... I don't really see how she is a narc.

How do you remove a person from another? Are narcessists attracted to each other? Why would she have been with that dude? If narcessists like to control people and choose wisely who they do so to why would she want to stop doing such to me?

She seemed pretty authentic to me. Even when there were times I kinda tested her some to see who she was. Was I blind if so?

Why is she continuing to do some of the things she's doing? Did she get tired of me or something? Damn this sucks....


updated by @aj86: 11/10/19 05:05:18AM
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 04:32:39AM
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Sure...
aj86
@aj86
11/10/19 12:06:55AM
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So she's a narcissist and an empath?
aj86
@aj86
11/09/19 01:53:58PM
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Some other things I'm trying to understand is Tuesday night we got off at the same time and as we're walking to the vehicles (she's been borrowing my jeep) after we talked for a couple minutes about random things she hugs me and tells me she loves me. We went to lunch the other day together. She paid. Yesterday she bought each of us a jar of candied jalapenos which we both love and she left them in our work locker. Last night she was laughing her ass off at some stuff I was joking about in text messages. Then this morning she made me a breakfast sandwich and brought it into work with her. She wrote out a note with it saying "Good morning" and left it on my desk. Around lunch time she brings me some magnesium pills that we have been taking to help out health. She also clocked out at my desk for lunch which she never does. I did send her a message a little earlier asking if she had interest in getting lunch but never got a response, she did tell me right as she was bringing me the magnesium pills just before she went to break that she had just got my text which isn't abnormal because we were really busy. Yet she don't come around my area like she once did and doesn't come say good bye to me either like before. This is the same woman who has always told me that she misses me when I'm not at work and that I keep her level and would call me when she was upset about something and would say she needed to hear my voice. Are these mind games she is playing or is she subconsciously crying out for help? Is she lost? Or am I missing something. It would be really nice to get some answers. It's never been about the money I've always loved her friendship more than money.


updated by @aj86: 11/09/19 02:29:27PM
aj86
@aj86
11/09/19 01:25:00PM
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She is my friend, she is special to me but not in that way. I've never hit on her or made advancements in her direction before. Even one time when we were drinking with her other friend who I helped build a table for. I had seven shots and four beers in me and I still didn't try anything. I'm just so confused by all this and why it was so sudden. Literally over night. She hasn't made any effort to talk to me about it or tell what happened and why so sudden. I mean normally we would talk about this stuff facr to face. Not now.

She doesn't communicate with me hardly any now unless its about the car which she just gave me the title back and I told her I would reimburse her for the repairs she paid for. So the car is going to mine but I'll likely sell it because I only bought it to help her out so she had transportation. She was excited about it.

I never thought of her being a narcissist or anything. I feel she fits the empath profile pretty solid but I could be wrong I suppose.

My biggest frustration is the fact that it feels like I have lost my best friend due to a misunderstanding (assuming) and she just shut me off so suddenly. I mean how are you so open to someone for so long and then just switch and go the other direction? I can't comprehend it.

To my knowledge she hasn't went back to him but I know she has been spending some time over at his house and staying the night. I saw where he came and got new washer and dryer yestersay since she took hers out and we put them in storage. I'm assuming she is still going to move to this place she has been waiting on to get finished. She filled out the application the other day and all. Plus she said she might habe found something else for a vehicle so I'm assuming she still wants wheels where as she didn't when she was with him.

Lord this is so overwhelming! I feel paralyzed inside from all this happening like I was blind sided.
aj86
@aj86
11/08/19 04:54:51AM
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My bestfriend who I joined this forum to try to understand her better left her bf about two weeks ago who is a severe narcissist. She had been staying at her other friend's place the last week or so till the place she was planning to move into has been redone. Her brother-in-law and I had helped move all of her stuff out and into storage. 

Last Thursday the 31st my friend and I were good. We gave each other hugs and she kissed me on the cheek like she does often. We told each other we loved one another (as friends), all was well. Friday the 1st, things changed abruptly. Her demeanor was completely different. She wouldn't hardly say anything to me and I could tell there was something wrong and it's very unlike her to not tell me when something is bothering her. After I dropped her off that evening from work there were some text messages exchanged between her and I about the car I had bought a few days prior for her to drive so she had wheels. She didn't have any money and was trying to save up the rent and deposit for this place. I had full intentions of turning it over to her when she could afford it. I wasn't fully understanding what was going on so I asked her if I could call her.  She calls me a few minutes later. Begins to ask me what the plans with the car. Then told me that she was hearing from people that I had feelings for her and my motives were were to manipulate her onto leaving her bf to be with me. People had said things lole this in the past and we talked about it and knew it was all bs and rumors. She asked me if all the things I had done for her in the past financially and emotionally were to aim towards the goal of her wanting to be with me. I told her that was not true at all. I was just trying to be a friend and help her out because I know what it's like to be in that place in life. We had made clear early in the relationship that we were just friends and that was it. I would say we are very close friends. I don't know if he had got to her and took advantage of her state of mind and convinced her against me since I know he hates me. I know she feels lonely and I was going out of my way to help her and to be as supportive as possible.

Her and I would message daily before this all happened as well as go to lunch most days and talk about things. She would tell me how mean and disrespectful he was to her and would treat her like shit. How his kids would disrespect her. She would confide in me most days. Now there is almost nothing at all. I also feel like there was a trust lost or something. She has been communicating with him and also staying the night over at his house. This is the same guy would told everyone that he kicked her out for cheating on him with me. The same guy who would tell her she's stupid and everything that happens is her fault. He's very toxic.

So I am lost now as to what happened and if anything can be done between her and I since she is an empath. What could be going through her head? How could she be seeing things? What do I need to do? She won't talk to me about what happened or who said what. It feels like I lost my bestfriend to untrue information. What do empaths do in these situations?

What am I to her now?


updated by @aj86: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
aj86
@aj86
11/02/19 05:57:32PM
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Mood Changes


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Is it normal for an empath to have moods that change from one extreme to the another one day to the next?


updated by @aj86: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
aj86
@aj86
11/01/19 06:31:30PM
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An empath's mind?


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Empath test site doesn't work
aj86
@aj86
11/01/19 01:42:01PM
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An empath's mind?


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Happen as in me not understand the material.
aj86
@aj86
11/01/19 04:04:40AM
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An empath's mind?


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What's the empath test?
aj86
@aj86
11/01/19 03:23:41AM
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An empath's mind?


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So, it's pointless for me to be here trying to learn more because it won't happen?
aj86
@aj86
10/31/19 07:35:50PM
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An empath's mind?


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I don't lie to her at all and I believe she doesn't lie to me about anything. She told me the other day that she completely trusts my every move with desitions of things we are involved in. I realize that may sound miniscule but from the context of the situation it involved I feel it had a more deeper significance behind it. Lately, when we have our hugs good bye she has been usually giving me a kiss on the cheek as well while we hug. I know she is very comfortable around me and she has told me that as well. She can be herself. There are other things but some of the things she does at times I have a hard time following. That's why I'm here. I want to understand her better.


updated by @aj86: 10/31/19 07:37:21PM
aj86
@aj86
10/31/19 04:09:54AM
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An empath's mind?


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I joined this forum so I could understand my friend better. I didn't think she was interested in me in that manner but I have been wrong before with women on that. I do trust her whole heartedly I'm just trying to understand certain details so to avoid a mistake or something on my part. I make efforts to not upset her, she has plenty of that in her life as it is.
aj86
@aj86
10/30/19 05:59:05PM
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An empath's mind?


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Are there subtle signs or clues when an empath it's trying to get closer to you? Like emotionally or mentally? As empaths, are you normally very comfortable with a certain person in your life? If so, who is it usually and how did you get there? I want to understand what might be in my friend's mind. 

My bestfriend (empath) has said and done things in the recent past that have caused me to challenge myself to understand what she might be saying in an empath's world, possibly subconsciously or deliberately.  Her and I are very close and trust each other to a different level than most others trust one another. There are things I know about her that I doubt anyone else knows. I don't want her to feel like she's alone and not being heard in this world. 

I am a very detailed and very aware. I have a calm and solid personality. I have been told that I am a very confident person and appear to perceive things differently than many people do. Are these traits helpful and supportive towards an empath? Being supportive to her is a priority of mine but I also don't want to be over bearing either.

Hopefully I'm asking the right questions.

Thanks everyone.


updated by @aj86: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
aj86
@aj86
10/19/19 06:47:54PM
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Well we are talking again. Nothing has been said about the situation at which I'm confident upset her. We have spoken about several other things today just not that situation. I'm going to assume she a little better now. She does often say that she doesn't think she could make it through many of the daily without me around. I think she might feel the relief she feels around me is worth more than bringing up the other situation (not that it was a big deal to begin with) but maybe it's bigger to her and has more meaning since she is an empath.
aj86
@aj86
10/19/19 07:52:47AM
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I think my friend who is an empath is upset with me (via text) over a response to a text from her last night. How should I address this?


updated by @aj86: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
aj86
@aj86
10/17/19 07:59:25PM
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Connecting with an Empath


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I have a close friend who is an empath. She seems to be very sensitive to energies. There are times she gets so overwhelmed and upset about someone that is negative or an event that has happened negatively. We text daily a lot. Sometimes when it's really bad she calls me upset. She says that my voice calms her. She says all she has to do is hear my voice and she feels instant relief. She has told me that I am her "Rock" and tell people I'm her bestfriend. Is there a specific meaning and empath would mean by that? I do everything I am able to help her through every day. At times, I wonder if I do too much. Maybe not. I always make sure she has ate something since she often forgets. We have lunch together often as well. We talk a lot, many times she needs to let out stuff to me and at times ends up in tears.

What things can I say and do to help ease the pain she feels. Sometimes I can feel her pain from across the room when things are so hard on her. I hate seeing her in those situations but still want to take her pain away. What can I do for her in these situations?

Thanks


updated by @aj86: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
aj86
@aj86
10/17/19 11:15:42AM
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Learning From this Forum


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Well, I'm new here. Thanks for letting me join. I joined because I have a very close friend who is an empath and I'd like to learn more to be supportive to her and understand more about how an empath sees, feels and thinks of things. I figured joining a empath forum would be a good place to start.

Any tips on best way to get information from this forum?

Thanks,

AJ


updated by @aj86: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM