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Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
01/22/20 02:53:17PM
13 posts

Empaths and Emotional Telepathy


Tools for Empaths

Excellent I was going to ask about that cheers.

Yes it happened to me a few weeks ago I didn't realise at the time. This guy was really stressed and angry when he came in my house. I pulled the words 'that's the spirit' from his mind subconsciously and they just came out of my mouth i intended it to be in a supportive way but it triggered him. 

I remained calm on my exterior but obviously felt his growing rage so I must have been reflecting because he just went mad I said almost nothing to him. But he was reacting as if we were having a massive arguement.

Thank you again illuminous-ops

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
01/21/20 08:26:41PM
13 posts

Empaths and Emotional Telepathy


Tools for Empaths

Hmm some incredibly interesting data. Explains a lot of the things that I experience in my life. I was told by a psychology student at University once. " Matthew, you manipulate the people around you in such a way that they know you are doing it but can't do anything about it" 

I never understood what she meant that was 25 years ago. This forum has helped me emmensly to understand Why?

Thank you for the post. The part about reflecting anger was particularly enlightening.  

Matthew


updated by @matthew-elsey: 01/21/20 08:29:10PM
Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
01/14/20 11:38:42AM
13 posts

New coworker triggering me


Empath

Excellent well done Sandy I believe you employed the "Grey rock"technique and deflection technique  perfectly. One of the principals of Tai Chi is to use your opponents energy and deflect it. Allow their own weight to defeat them.

Am I allowed to say I'm proud of you?☺

Some excellent immediate  practical advice from the others also.

An Empath has incredible potential power I feel you are beginning to tap into it. You go girl hugs Matthew 

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
01/11/20 11:43:47AM
13 posts

New coworker triggering me


Empath

Hi Sandy I'm not sure if what you are describing is a form of bullying but it feels like that to me. Suffices to say I am no stranger to bullying. I think being sensitive opens us up to it.

Remember being an Empath means that 99.99% of what you are feeling in close proximity to people is THEIR feelings. If you feel fear it is their fear not yours.

I have had great success with Elise's visualisation technique of a dial and knob I picture it and label it "Other people's feelings within a 10 meter radius" then with my eyes closed I turn it down slowly to one.

I have also adapted the label to my name Matthew in an attempt to see how I am really feeling but turn it up to 8 or 9 this is a work in progress.

Finally the biggest impact on the would be bullies in my life, was through the practice of Tai Chi. It took a long time, maybe five years, but it changed my life. I have been practicing for over fifteen years now. Seek it out, it is very subtle but if it suits you, for it is not for everyone, you will become stronger than you ever imagined and people like this Woman will be insignificant to you.

Good luck for Monday and the job seeking hugs Matthew

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
11/29/19 05:13:12PM
13 posts

Gratitude for I Can Feel Your Pain


Empath

So_exausted_from_users: No problem, if you ever need any more information please message me. I am not sure where you live, I live in Canada and Judith Orloft lives in California. She is trying to change the system exists and get more of the mental health system to recognize that an empath is a valid medical condition. That we don't need to be drugged up till we can't feel our abilities and just shells of who we are but actually people who have rights to be taught to help us understand. Help understanding how to ground ourselves with pills or hemp gummies but naturally. For mental health and helping empaths learn, we are all different and what works on one can cause very different reaction in another. For the person who cried I am pretty sure that you didn't upset them, they cried not because you said anything wrong but because they identified with you. They understood where you are coming from and most likely have gone through same experience as you. There is a good chance they felt your energy in your story and the pain you have gone through. Empaths are truly special because they feel so much more even from a simple hello handshake. There are days where I feel like the world's emotional garbage can and all the emotions people are running from in my case I get, but you learn how to ground, let it ride over and the reward in my case I usually have grown in my empath abilities and spiritually. I don't believe in God but in energy forces from crystals healing and spiritual awakening in my intuition and my soul understand what my mind knowing. It is truly amazing each time it happens. I only learn in my 40's to stop fighting my empath half and in the last year and a half everything has changed.

I have read your response a number of times So_exausted_from_users it hasn't felt right to reply till now. Your reference to the mental health system rang very true and gave me a snap shot of perhaps shared experience even though I live in Wales UK. In fact the entire response I could have written myself today but not two months ago. As you can probably appreciate this was a touch erie two months ago, but a lot has happened since then.

It was good to be able to relate and see that I am perhaps not a freak of nature and that it was not all "In my head."  So thank you for that. The idea that being an Empath is a valid medical condition is intriguing. I suffer from bipolar disorder. And have been able to reduce the amount of medication I need to cope. Actually knowing that the panic attack I was feeling on the bus wasn't "Mine" and being able to use Elises volume (God sent) technique to literally turn down the emotions of the people on the bus and in other ocean of emotion environments has reduced my overall mood swings to a more manageable level.

All in all apart from my Father dieing it's been a good two months. He had been miserable since my Mother died in March and kinda gave up.

Matthew


Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
11/10/19 05:38:46AM
13 posts

Lost


Empath

Hi Karen do you have any good reference's for cord removal. I am still a fledgling and this is my first attempt at communication and has got under my skin so to speak. Hugs Matthew 

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
11/09/19 03:03:34AM
13 posts

Lost


Empath

I agree with Karen, don't give her the car! This girl could very well be using your feelings for her to manipulate you. 

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
11/08/19 11:42:42AM
13 posts

Lost


Empath

How do you FEEL inside about her AJ. When you close your eyes is it her face you see? When your phone beeps does your heart jump just in case it's her?

The lies we tell to ourselves as Men hurt us the most.

If the moment she is in your arms you never want to let go, she is not just a friend.

Trust me I have been there. Her name was Emma she wanted to be friends so that is what I settled for, but I loved her from the first time she hugged me and kissed my cheek.

Good luck and Dare Greatly.

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
11/01/19 03:54:31AM
13 posts

An empath's mind?


Empath

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Ok so no attempt to learn about Women is pointless whether she is an Empath or not. The fact that you are taking the time is honourable. May I suggest ' What every Man should know about Women' a utube video by Teal Swan. 

Maybe take the empath test yourself, you may be surprised.

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
10/31/19 03:08:14AM
13 posts

An empath's mind?


Empath

Hi aj. You have indeed asked some interesting questions. I would echo Karen, what is it you are looking for? I get the feeling maybe your a guy or girl who has a romantic interest in your friend. If you are looking for tips to get closer to her I would personally suggest being straight with her. We empath's tend to spot false motivations. In my experience if a woman wants to get close to you she does so in a direct manner.

Off course these are my personal opinions I hope I have not offended you, but you did ask ☺

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
10/16/19 09:01:35AM
13 posts

Gratitude for I Can Feel Your Pain


Empath

Ahh I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset anyone Elise. Reading my post back, it is a little raw. You gave me the confidence to write the truth of how I felt.

Your comment 'Its hard being like us' made me cry.

Judith Orloff's book looks very interesting thanks for recommending it. So_exhausted.

Love Matthew 

Matthew Elsey
@matthew-elsey
10/08/19 08:00:46AM
13 posts

Gratitude for I Can Feel Your Pain


Empath

I met my first Empath in August this year. He is a wonderful man, and has helped me emmensly. In my personal opinion I am also an Empath and have been since birth, but was un-aware; no really I didn't have a clue, I'm forty five.

As a confused child I heard 'I love you' and felt hate and disdane. When I said 'I love you' I felt a feeling of dis-belief and doubt. When I am close to a person, touching them I feel their craving, as if It is my own.

If these things are true what more could be true. I was alone, I have no contact with my family. I thought they just didn't love me, but how must it have been for them to have their deepest fears reflected to them whenever I was there. To know that I could see every lie they said.

I would arrive with joy in my heart, to feel revulsion and fear behind my mother's false smile. If you attempt to show someone the truth, and the acceptance of that truth will cause pain, they will refuse to accept that truth, and actively fight it. I represented truth so they fought me.

Everything I knew about myself has to be re-evaluated. The possibility that almost all my past emotional connections have created false mirror image, emotional fractures, from the person that I was closest to at the time, is a real possibility. I am not seeking pity. In this moment I feel stronger than I have ever felt in my whole life. I am not alone anymore.

I have always asked the question 'Why' ? And never had a satisfactory answer. Now I have my answer, because I am an Empathic Human. Now I must build a new life. Thank you for listening. I hope in the future I can listen to you too.

I love your book Elise, it was in many ways a revelation and I can highly recommend it. The volume dial visualisation is proving very effective, as is the snow plough. Thank you for righting it.

Love Matthew.