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emma11
@emma11
09/26/19 10:10:57AM
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Coping with overwhelming emotions


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Thank-you so much hop-daddy. Means so much. Since I last posted I have maintained No Contact. He had suggested more time to finally be sure we finish while he has moved to a new flat (his remaining things at my home not immediately needed.) I'm certain I want to finish but y,day yet another blow to my heart & head!His new flat lease letter arrived addressed to him & another woman! (The name I know of) :-( Not only this shock but he had said he'd be finding any random person to share & help with the rent etc! I expect I will hear some 'story' to lie himself out! I haven't contacted him though & I'm at this moment going away to (finally) visit my parents. I need to gather myself & think whether to retaliate. But I want him to remove his stuff while I'm away. Apologies for the TMI...truly never know what can happen next with a Narc..even during the last departure! I will never forget this relationship and wish to write a book! Thanks again hop-daddy.
emma11
@emma11
09/20/19 11:52:17AM
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Coping with overwhelming emotions


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Thank you @cheshire-cat. Very interesting about our opposite parent - I haven't heard about this. I've only read about causes of narcissism stemming from how you were parented - and I'm certain my ex's mother is responsible for his P.Disorder!

My brother had to end a toxic 7 year relationship with his girlfriend! Me and my 3 siblings share the same (over) sensitive, caring nature and show our emotions  - just like our mum. It would be interesting to know if there is more than one Empath in a family!(?)

Thankyou for the YT recommendations  - (I've read a bit of Sam Vaknin's Malignant Self Love (essays) - brutally honest but insightful!)

It's very sad but reassuring  to know others here have experienced a toxic/Narc relationship. 

emma11
@emma11
09/19/19 05:00:55PM
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Coping with overwhelming emotions


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Thank you so much @hop-daddy. Reading your kind words/support got my tears flowing. It means so much to hear this from someone who truly understands. And couldn't be better timed! I'm actually still going through the final stage of the narc exiting my life. It's been a dragged out up/down process of him coming to remove his last few belongings & where unfortunately the 'no contact' has been on & off! Today has been a day of 'What has just happened?' - the unfortunate familiar reaction for those of us stuck with a narc! - two completely different interactions/behaviour (on his part) within 24 hours! Resulting in yet again delaying removing his things!And obviously a load of narc tactics I won't go into! Although I am kicking myself profusely,it has provided a dose of much needed proof that's helped me get my head back on track. (I had lost full sight of all the past narc abuse & started falling deeply into sadness & heartache). I have this one last step to take - just need to consider carefully the best approach.
Thank you so much for the attached articles,they will help. And I'll re-read your supportive words again when I finally am 'free' and facing the next stage - exit pain.
🤗
emma11
@emma11
09/17/19 10:31:07AM
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Coping with overwhelming emotions


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Would really appreciate hearing anyone's experience of this/ any tips!

Am going through the difficult process of healing from ending a 6 year  'toxic'  relationship with my partner - who has many Narcissistic traits. Some days I can literally feel the negative energy from, I guess, him - have experienced what seem to have been psychic attacks. Then I have days like today where I'm feeling such overwhelming and varied emotions about him/us - such depths of sadness, loss, regret, guilt, anger, bitterness, injustice etc! I wish so much I didn't have deep feelings or could switch them off, put the brave face on! The times in my life I have thought how much easier 'existing' would be! And I guess even during this 'break-up' people like him - who caused the toxicity - are fine! 😡

I have a long way to go!! All my life I've known to be highly sensitive, pick up energies, psychic tendencies & paranormal experiences but just recently reading books about emotional /narcissistic abuse has led me to the Empath. I ticked so many boxes, and just being able to put a name to what I am (even from a very young child)  has helped me feel not so 'different' , alone & sometimes as if I'm crazy! But now I need to learn SO much about surviving and coping. 

Hugs to everyone 🤗


updated by @emma11: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
emma11
@emma11
09/15/19 05:09:07PM
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Just Joined! 😊


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Just want to say a big hello to everyone. I'm so glad I found you! I look forward to sharing discussions and learning so much. This is all new territory to me, as I have only just discovered (by accident) that what I am and have been like from a very young age, is actually an Empath.  (I feel almost relieved ). I am so 'lifted' to have found a community who know and understand exactly what being an empath is all about. 🤗






updated by @emma11: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM