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JustMe
@justme
09/11/19 10:13:53AM
21 posts

Feeling a person's energy at end-of-life


Empath

Nocturne's Angel:

In my experience his spirit had left.  I am sorry for your loss.



Thank you. I keep thinking about that. I'm so grateful that I got to be there before he left. I hope he heard all the things we said to him during those days. I really miss him.
JustMe
@justme
09/10/19 06:10:41PM
21 posts

Feeling a person's energy at end-of-life


Empath

My dad passed away in May. He was 89. He was such a special person with a loving, gentle soul. He passed away from complications after a heart stent procedure. He was unconscious for several days before he passed - he never actually woke up after the procedure. My wife and I flew to see him (we're in a different state). The day we got there, we walked into the room and I touched his arm. I immediately felt his every. It was familiar and recognizable as my dad - soothing, steady, warm. The next day or possibly the 3rd day, we got to his room and I touched him, but I no longer felt him. His skin was warm and the hair on his arm felt right, like his arm, but I couldn't feel his energy. It was several more days before he passed, but I keep wondering if he'd already left his body close to the time when I stopped feeling his energy.

Has anyone else here had a similar experience?

JustMe
@justme
09/10/19 05:56:16PM
21 posts

Spirit Guides


Psychic and Paranormal

Several years ago, I used to get up early and walk before getting ready for work. During my walks, I would imagine energy passing through me, kind of like I was a link between the earth and the sky. One day, I asked to talk with my main spirit guide. I felt he was male, and I asked his name. Suddenly, I heard/thought "Ogden". Then I "saw" him in my mind. He was bald and wore a long white robe. Over the next several months, I spoke with him more and more, but only was able to hear answers occasionally. I still talk with him sometimes. He feels like a quiet man of few words, but he is very wise. A few months after I learned his name, I was with a friend and we stopped by the house of a friend of hers who is a medium. My ex had just died a day or two before that. She and I hadn't been in contact for several years when she died, but my friend's friend, the medium, went into an impromptu reading shortly after we arrived. My ex had a lot to say. The reading was funny at times and serious at times and was very healing for me because so many of my questions about the relationship were answered. Anyway, during the reading, the medium looked up at me and said, "Who's Ogden?" I said, "My sprit guide." He went on to tell me that Ogden was a 15th (or 16th - now I forget) century scribe and he described him as bald with a long robe. That was a very cool experience!


updated by @justme: 09/10/19 05:57:05PM
JustMe
@justme
09/06/19 12:39:34PM
21 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

@sher-ellie, If you or your mom are on Facebook and would like to learn more about the diet, there is a group called AIP Elimination Diet Support Group (Autoimmune Protocol). They have 46,000 members. It can be overwhelming, but they have a lot of great info there.

I notice when I use one of the CBD strains that really works well for me, my anxiety is less. I'm more able to acknowledge it and just let it be.
JustMe
@justme
09/06/19 10:04:42AM
21 posts

Empaths interacting with each other - hypothetical question


Empath

@hop-daddy , I'm beginning to suspect that my mother might also be an empath and I wonder if we are in a constant state of picking up anxiety from each other. 


updated by @justme: 09/15/19 07:20:21PM
JustMe
@justme
09/06/19 09:53:13AM
21 posts

Change of Seasons


Empath

Has anyone noticed whether there is a difference in the energy around you (or the way you perceive it or process it) during an equinox or solstice? I have always felt a rush of emotion/energy when the first hint of Fall is in the air. This has happened since I was a kid. The feeling is always very similar from year to year and is a mixture of relief (as if a weight has been lifted), childlike excitement, and (weirdly) a touch of sadness, sometimes mixed with anxiety. I've never known why this happens. I grew up in Florida and assumed it was because the oppressive summer heat was almost done for the year, but it still happens now and I've lived in the northeast for 8 years. Curious if anyone else experiences something like this.

JustMe
@justme
09/06/19 09:46:14AM
21 posts

Become an Empath Community Supporter!


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EliseLebeau:

@JustMe is now an Empath Community Supporter!  5000 points for you!

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JustMe
@justme
09/06/19 09:44:53AM
21 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

@cheshire-cat, I have noticed that I have issues with some foods. The diet we are on that I've been referring to as a Paleo-type diet actually is called AIP (Autoimmune Protocol). It's essentially Paleo minus some foods that are usually ok on Paleo but are known to cause inflammation for some people. It's an elimination diet, so after you are on it for a while, you can start to reintroduce some of the restricted foods (one by one, very slowly) and then add them back to the diet if there is no reaction. You end up with pretty much a Paleo diet, minus anything that you still can't tolerate. Chocolate is one of those things that is a reintro food and I do seem to still be having a problem with it. For me, though, the reaction seems to be more mood-related than physical, although I've never gotten to a point where I feel consistently ok physically, so I can't be sure yet. lol.

@sher-ellie, Thank you for mentioning CBD. My wife and I have had great results with it. We use a convection vape to vape it, and we also make a homemade tincture in oil. I hadn't thought of CBD deafening the empath muscles, but I would find that a welcome thing, honestly, sometimes. lol. I will give that a try. (I don't use it nearly as often as I should, really, but I will pay attention to the energy I feel in the future.)

@cheshire-cat, Are you in the US? We've ordered CBD flower from a place in Oregon where they grow it organically and test it regularly to make sure the THC levels are at or below the legal level. They have several different strains, some we liked a lot better than others. That seems to be a personal thing as we all respond differently. I don't know if we are allowed to put links to businesses in the forum, but if you'd like to PM me, I'll be happy to share their name and URL. I'm not affiliated with them in any way other than as a customer, but they have really reasonable prices.

@hop-daddy, Thank you for the info about clearing the stones! I read it after I got home yesterday, with a headache. I had just figured maybe it would take time for the rocks to help or that the headache was caused because I was around more people yesterday than usual. I used the dry-salt method on the rocks overnight last night and today I do feel a bit "lighter", if that makes sense. I'm still questioning everything and being a bit of a skeptic at this point, but I hope this feeling can continue and even improve more.

I ordered some small beads made from each of the stones that you recommended. I'm going to make two bracelets so I can wear one while the other is in the salt and I'll manage to always have one with me that way. Except for when I'm in water . . . not sure how that would affect them.

Fortunately, when I get those ice-pick headaches, it's a short-lived pain. It goes from zero to 10 for maybe 5 or 6 seconds, then goes away. I've been attributing it to inflammation because it seems to happen when the inflammation in the rest of my body is high. Hopefully that will improve, also.

JustMe
@justme
09/04/19 07:00:39PM
21 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

@hop-daddy, My wife is a lapidary artist and we literally have piles of rocks all over our house! LOL! I read your post to her and she handed me a small slab of black obsidian, which I've been holding all evening. I've been interested in rocks and crystals and have kept a bowl of tumbled stones for many years. I have a little drawstring pouch of crystals in my purse and I used to carry several in my pocket all the time. I do have some black tourmaline and hematite, which I'll add to a pouch with the obsidian and I'll start carrying them every day. Right now, the only black onyx I have is set in a ring that my mother gave to me. It was a gift to her on her 16th birthday (she's 87 now). The stone is loose, so I'm not wearing it until I can get it fixed so I don't lose it.

Thank you for all the things you said about the phases of this. It really means a lot to me that you and @cheshire-cat have been taking so much time to talk to me about all this.

I don't have the option of working from home for my day job, but I've been working toward what I hope will enable me to start working from home in about a year or so. Since I was about 8 years old, I wanted to make my living as a novelist and I've been writing for most of my life, but always managed to let too many other things get in the way of writing for a living. So anyway, I've been putting my effort and focus into writing in my off-work time and I am hoping to be able to write full-time by this time next year.

Does a pinpoint headache feel like an ice pick to the brain? I get those sometimes. And the exhaustion . . . um, yep. I totally get that, too. A lot. 

JustMe
@justme
09/04/19 09:28:52AM
21 posts

Empaths interacting with each other - hypothetical question


Empath

I'm curious . . . if there are two empaths who are closely connected to one another (relatives, good friends, etc.), do they each feel not only what the other is feeling but also what the other is sensing from other people? Could there start to be a back-and-forth effect between them that would be kind of like the sensory version of microphone repeating feedback?

JustMe
@justme
09/04/19 09:21:43AM
21 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

Thank you for the replies, @cheshire-cat and @hop-daddy! (Sorry I've been slow in responding.)

@cheshire-cat, the Paleo diet isn't for everyone. That's fascinating about men and women feeling pain differently. I kind of think that even outside of the gender category, we all feel and process pain a bit differently from the next person. There are all different variations on not only pain tolerance levels but pain threshold levels, too, as far as how strong certain types of pain need to be before we feel them, and then there is the variance in how well we tolerate it. It's pretty interesting stuff, I think.

@hop-daddy, I think you just solved a very big mystery for me. I've been dealing with afternoon headaches that can become severe (or can go into migraines) at times for years and I've been confused as to what has been causing them. I get them at work much more often than when I'm not working. I've tried altering what I'm eating, turning off fluorescent lights, and even got new computer glasses that block the blue light. I use a computer at home as much as I do at work, so I knew it wasn't the computer work itself, but I had come to the theory that it could be the computer work under fluorescent lights, but my new glasses didn't stop the headaches and neither did turning off the lights at work. Bingo, though - it's the people! LOL. I need to be around fewer people to reduce the headaches. More reason to stick with my work-from-home plans.

I don't want to be an empath. I wish I could opt out of being an empath and just learn how people feel by asking them, like everyone else does. There should be an opt-out button somewhere.


updated by @justme: 09/04/19 09:22:38AM
JustMe
@justme
08/30/19 11:03:57AM
21 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

@cheshire-cat,

I have Fibromyalgia also. I don't remember if I ever knew that the tactile/sensory stuff was associated with that as well. I was surprised when I saw in another post that many empaths have Fibromyalgia. It's pretty interesting.

I'm at work right now (wrote my previous reply during my lunch break), but I'll reply more later. Have a great afternoon!
JustMe
@justme
08/30/19 10:20:45AM
21 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

@cheshire-cat ,


I don't feel that my sensory issues are related to being an empath, but I do believe they interfere with my ability to be in touch with my empath abilities. I am able to be empathetic - to put myself in someone else's shoes and imagine what they might be feeling, but being empathic - "knowing" what someone is feeling in the absence of obvious cues - is a muddled mess right now. I am hoping that doing some grounding work and practicing the techniques to separate other energy from my own will help with that.


I don't know specifically what the cause of my balance and physical sensory issues are, but in my case, I believe it kind of all goes to the autoimmune / gut health.


I forgot to clarify that part of what I'm calling "physical sensory issues" - so as not to confuse that with the fact that the empathic ability is also sensory - is spatial awareness issues. If I walk into a place where I've never been, for instance, and it's larger or smaller than I expected, or even if it is laid out differently than I expected, I'll often feel kind of dizzy and off-kilter. And I'm also sensitive to bright light/glare, loud noises (especially sudden ones), a lot of tactile sensations like light touch, clothing tags, or the air conditioning in the car blowing across my skin, which is akin to the light touch thing.


I am on the autism spectrum, and I believe that most if not all of my sensory/spatial sensitivities are due to that. The balance stuff (and occasional vertigo) is probably more gut-health related.


I'll pay closer attention next time I'm in a public place, as to whether the empathic overload affects the balance. Public places do tend to be difficult for me, some days much more so than others. We're going to have dinner out with a friend tonight, so I'll be practicing my theirs/mine energy techniques and I'll pay attention to how my balance is.


I don't see colors for numbers or letters, but I do very often associate certain colors for people. It's not the same as reading an aura. I don't actually see the color. It's just the color that I associate with the person when I think of them, and I have no idea of the significance of one color over another. I see numbers, days, and the months of the year in a specific pattern in my head.


I don't know if any of this is helpful, but I hope so. LOL.


JustMe
@justme
08/29/19 03:51:56PM
21 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

Cheshire Cat:

@JustMe,

      I also read strangers easily while having lots of trouble with people I care about. I think it is because I am emotionally invested in them, and do not really want to know anything about them that would really upset me or disappoint me. If you think about it for awhile, you will figure out your own reasons for this difference. Like hop-daddy, truly dark people recognize right away that I can see what they are, and they often turn around and leave, which is fine with me. 

     I am one of those not so well-adjusted empaths who has become a hermit, rather than deal with being endlessly used by and disappointed in people. In spite of that, I have found one grounding practice that can even help someone like me to be out in the world for short periods. I stand up, imagine weights holding me to the ground and imagine a large ring through my solar plexus, connected to a thick chain going deep down into the center of the earth, holding me to the earth. Then I tell myself I can handle whatever this planet throws at me. I do think walking barefoot on the ground is another good one to try. 

Thank you for sharing about reading strangers more easily than people you care about. That is validating for me in the whole am-I-really-an-empath struggle that has been going on in my head.

I used to take walks in the morning before work and I would imagine white light energy going from the sky, into my body through my crown chakra, then through my body and out my feet and into the earth. I really liked the way that felt. I also like walking barefoot in the grass. I have balance and physical sensory issues and when I am outside barefoot, my balance is so much better.

JustMe
@justme
08/29/19 03:43:09PM
21 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

Thank you again, @hop-daddy, for all this information! It is really helpful!

That's so interesting, what you said about how an empath could hide alone at home for three days to get back to balance. For a period of years, I was a semi-hermit. I say "semi" because I had to hold down a job in order to live, but that was just about the only place I went. I would stop at the store on the way home if I absolutely needed something (this was before home grocery delivery and being able to get everything on Amazon), but otherwise, I was inside my apartment with the door locked and blinds drawn and that was the way I wanted it. Getting through the work day took everything I had. I would go home completely drained and sleep for hours, then get up for a few hours, then go back to bed for the night. Then I met my wife and moved to a different state. I worked from home for the first few years, which I loved, but then I had to start working outside the house again. I worked part time for a long time and that was ok because I had a couple weekdays of being home by myself to recharge. My hours have gradually been increased and now I'm working 5 days a week and it's getting more difficult again. I'm seriously working toward what I hope will end up being a new work-at-home situation that I can transition to in about a year. Fingers crossed.

I don't always see someone's true nature when I look into their eyes. When I have seen it, it's always been as a warning, when the person is bad news. I really haven't experienced a feeling that others have hated me. I tend to feel that people generally either like me or don't really care one way or another, and I'm more than ok with that. LOL. That being said, I can usually spot a manipulator a mile away and once I see that in someone I tend to be very distant to them. I was in a relationship in my 20's with a sociopath who was an expert manipulator and now my radar for that is much sharper than it was when I was young.

Thank you for sharing your grounding methods. I am going to try a Himalayan salt bath this weekend. I used to take Epsom salt baths, but I always felt worse after and didn't know why. Then my wife discovered, when she was looking at our genetic markers based on DNA tests we took, that I have a gene mutation that makes it difficult to properly process sulfur. Doing some reading about it, I found out that people with this mutation often can't tolerate Epsom salt baths. But I DO love Himalayan salt, and I'm so looking forward to trying it in a bath.

I've meditated in the past and I want to start doing that again. I think I'll spend a bit of time on that over the holiday weekend.

I've been practicing Elise's Techniques 1 and 2 (turning the volume of others down and my own up). The first time I tried it was last night as I was getting ready to fall asleep. I mentally turned down the volume of others to 8 and I was surprised to feel strangely hollow. Not in a bad way at all. It was very interesting to me. I kinda dig feeling hollow.

JustMe
@justme
08/29/19 03:05:17PM
21 posts

Empaths with chronic pain issues?


Empath

I'm curious to compare notes with empaths who have their own chronic pain issues besides picking up on the pain of others. Do the people in your life who have their own pain issues ever think that your pain is actually their pain that you are picking up on? I don't know if I worded that very well, so I'll explain.

A little background . . .

I have Fibromyalgia and osteo arthritis. My wife has Rheumatoid Arthritis. Sometimes we both tend to have flares at the same time. I think that is partially due to the fact that we generally follow a Paleo-type diet and avoid foods that are known to cause inflammation, and if we go "off diet", we do it together, so therefore we often flare together, also.

When my wife and I are flaring at the same time, if I mention that I'm having back pain, for instance, my wife will say, "Maybe you're feeling my back pain." She doesn't mean this in a minimizing way. I know her heart, and she isn't the type of person who would ever try to make someone else feel bad. If anything, I think she is trying to make me feel better; that I'll feel better as soon as her flare is over. But I trigger, and the child inside of me feels as if other people don't want to allow me to have my own pain. I explained this to her and she told me she won't say that anymore.

I know that probably sounds silly, but it makes me curious if anyone else's loved ones ever say similar things. If so, how do you respond to it?


updated by @justme: 09/15/19 07:18:59PM
JustMe
@justme
08/28/19 09:49:36AM
21 posts



@hop-daddy directed me to this post from another post where I had just mentioned last night that I'd had a dream years ago that I believe was a glimpse into a past-life. ( https://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/dreams/48882/astral-projected-lucid-dreaming#r53164 ) In that dream, I looked into a mirror because I'd been hurt by someone and I wanted to assess the damage to my face. In the mirror, I saw a woman with long, straight, dark hair and features that suggested to me that I may have been Hispanic. When I looked into the mirror and saw "my" reflection, it was exactly the reflection I had expected to see. In real life, my features are very different from those in the dream (English/Welsh/Scottish heritage). After I woke up, I got up and looked into a mirror, and it actually took a while before my own reflection was familiar to me.

JustMe
@justme
08/28/19 09:42:41AM
21 posts

Astral projected? Lucid dreaming?


Dreams

Hop Daddy:

@justme :

Very interesting. We have another new member who seems to be having quite a few past life dreams. And I just tonight suggested he try to look into a mirror in his next dream. If you're interested, take a look

https://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/new_posts/53158/the-corporal

Wow, how cool! Thank you for the link!

JustMe
@justme
08/28/19 09:39:12AM
21 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

Thanks so much for your reply, @hop-daddy!

I took the two tests. The results of the first one are:

Your Total Score: 70 out of 80
Your Out of Control Healer Score: 6 out of 10
Your Protection Tools Score: 23 out of 25
How Much You Mirror Others Unconsciously Score: 14 out of 15
Your Appreciation for Nature Score: 10 out of 10

The second test also said I'm an empath, but I forgot the wording. (I thought I printed the results as a pdf, but the pdf doesn't have the results section.)

Thank you for telling me about Empath Fatigue / Burnout. That definitely resonates for me. I also have physical chronic fatigue and adrenal fatigue, so I'm sure it all kind of goes together.

You mentioned grounding. Do you mean physical grounding, as in walking barefoot outside, being in physical contact with nature, or is there a particular grounding type of meditation? I will check out Elise's program.

Funny, the description you used, "like having a stereo turned on full blast". I feel that way so often and I just thought it was part of my ADD. It makes navigating everyday life quite difficult and exhausting.

One thing I meant to mention in my original post, but forgot, is that another reason I have been hesitant to believe I'm an empath is that when I "know" how someone is feeling, it's usually a stranger or someone I'm not very connected with. My wife has Rheumatoid Arthritis and I never know that she is having a flare until she tells me. I would have thought I'd be more able to "read" someone I'm emotionally connected with more easily than a random stranger. Hopefully, once I learn the techniques you mentioned, I'll be able to do that.

Another odd "knowing" thing that I forgot to mention is that sometimes when I look into someone's eyes (the first time I meet them), I instantly know if they have bad intentions. It doesn't happen every time I meet someone, or even every time I meet someone who later turns out to have had bad intentions, but when it does happen, it's pretty strong. My former boss used to ask me what I thought of people who came in to apply for jobs with the company. He started asking me after I had warned him that a couple applicants gave me a very bad feeling and he hired them anyway because they were qualified for the jobs. They later turned out to be very dangerous people with very bad intentions. After that, the boss always wanted to know what my gut told me.

Thanks again - I have a lot of work and learning ahead of me. :-)

JustMe
@justme
08/27/19 07:42:28PM
21 posts

Still figuring this out . . . at 55


Empath

Hi all, I'm new here.

I've had multiple people tell me over the years that they think I'm an empath. Sometimes I think I might be, but sometimes I'm really not so sure. Sometimes I know what someone around me is feeling even if they don't give outward indications, but it seems that just as often, or even more often, I have no idea what anyone is feeling and I have difficulty reading body language and facial expressions.

I have ADD, OCD, and I'm on the spectrum, and I suspect those aspects of myself may create obstacles for me when it comes to my intuition. I do have a very difficult time being in a crowd (I saw some other posts about that) and I sometimes will feel an emotion that doesn't make sense or fit a situation, but that can happen even with I'm not in close proximity to anyone else, so I don't know where it comes from. When I have one of those moments that I know what someone is feeling, it's generally a sense of how they feel physically, more than emotionally. It's more of a "knowing" - this person has a headache, or that person is having lower back pain. I don't actually physically feel the pain that they are feeling; I feel something like the memory of that kind of pain, if that makes any sense. But when I feel the unexplained emotions that I mentioned above, I'm actually feeling those emotions, even if they don't make sense in the situation.

I'm curious - can any of you share any of your experiences with how you learned that you were an empath, how (or if) you became able to determine where feelings are coming from (if they are your own vs someone else's), etc.?

Thanks in advance, and thanks for approving me as a member!


updated by @justme: 08/29/19 03:51:57PM
JustMe
@justme
08/27/19 04:02:15PM
21 posts

Astral projected? Lucid dreaming?


Dreams

Hop Daddy:

I forgot about this old post. This was a good one. And I have more experience with this topic then I had 6 months ago. 

From what I have learned, we are more in control of what happens with astral travel. Whereas with lucid dreaming you're dreaming and are not in full control but are in more of a mindful or alert state. I did want to say that I read somewhere that while lucid dreaming to try to find a mirror to see what you look like. Because if you can do that you may appear as someone else in the mirror.

I'm new here and just came across this post. Your mention of looking into a mirror made me think of a dream I had many years ago that I've come to believe was a glimpse into a past life. In the dream, I was a woman in an abusive marriage. It was in a different time and I believe a different country from where I live. I went to look into a mirror in the dream, to see the extent of my injuries. The reflection I saw in the mirror was exactly who I expected to see, but she looked nothing at all like I look in this life. In fact, after I woke up, I got up and looked into a mirror and for several seconds, I felt like my reflection was not really me.