Am I an Empath? how definitive are the online tests?
I have noticed the as time passes I get more sensitive. EMFs are an interesting concept, and it also makes sense. I'm ready to try some different things, things I would have dismissed before. When I was young I always knew I had "pieces missing". I was always different and socially handicapped but never knew why. I just honestly thought I was broken in some way. Even though now is fairly late in the game I'm thrilled to be here, and to have some real understanding of what the heck I'm made out of. Thank you for the EMF mention and relating your experience, it gives me more ideas.
Yup, that is me with the Fibro. Also a close family member suffers quite a bit with it. I'm not real sure I experience it much differently than her, we both got it and many of the symptoms are similar. Mine manifested later in life after a shoulder injury that kept me pinned for a couple years in intractable pain. Dr explained why I had this new rush of symptoms after the frozen shoulder cleared up on both sides. He explained that I've likely always had dormant Fibro, but often a physically or emotionally traumatizing experience will wake it right up if it's there in a person. He treats others in my family and is well aware of my family Hx of Fibro.
As far as loosing chunks of conversations, I totally get that. I had a conversation with my psych prof about it. Her explanation is that people can only speak so many WPM, but we can think many times that which means as someone is speaking to us we have other ideas and threads running concurrently. I'm a big daydreamer so I can be sent down a completely different road by one or two well placed words. I find keeping conversations brief helps, also I have a pretty good idea for those that are not compatible conversationalists. There are many folks I really respect and like that I cant talk with for long because my brain is all over the place. I then feel like I'm being unfair to them. When I'm talking to others and they wane I can feel it, so I quick adapt, but I don't hold it against them, I understand quite well. It's not just you by any means, I feel it and I see it in others besides myself too. I was diagnosed with severe social anxiety just recently, just before learning that being an Empath may play a big roll in that. That anxiety (and accompanying racing thoughts) can make listening a very hard to master social skill. This existed in me long before the Fibro Dx.
I love this info, it's about how often I'm up on an average night. it's enlightening to see that Fibro has a row of reserved parking here. I'm probably beyond mild, right now I would find it impossible to hold a job as I never know when flares are coming. Some of them are so bad that I'l be in tears just from the feeling of my clothing on my body. I've tried everything I can think of to sleep, not just pharmaceutical interventions but everything. Now here on this forum I've been given some other ideas and so much perspective.
" I firmly believe that learning what sort of environment empaths need to live in and doing your best to make that happen for you will greatly help your fibro." this encompasses exactly where I am. Now learning how the two Dx interact, there is a lot of overlap. I know the sleep is critical. So far my coping mechanism is to cycle through sleep aids and techniques hoping to get the right one for the right time. Anything I do will loose effectiveness within a couple nights so I have to shift often. I'm a real believer in the psycho-semantic link. This is still met with skepticism in some corners of health care but I'm an avid believer in the holistic approach. I figured this out when I realized that simply laughing with patients and bringing a little levity seems to often have a fairly profound effect on the physical ailment and any comorbidity. More fantastic info. Thank you!
1. Makes sense, as far as I know I get folks nearby. I get mighty anxious when I'm near many. Maybe when I remove some dulling factors I'll see more. I have read a lot here bout how things like sleep aids can dampen the empathic attributes. I guess none of that helps one realize the full extent of their empathic abilities.
2. Total night owl here, and you are correct on all counts in my experience. Also with the caffeine. I LOVE THE STUFF! But even a couple cups in the morning will keep me awake at night. Since Fibro my caffeine tolerance has crashed. One delectable latte' can destroy my nerves for at least two days. I always thought I liked to shop at night and work evening shifts was just because I never adjusted to be functional in crowds. I guess that is still true but at least now there is a plausible explanation for it.
3, 4. Agreed, seems to be exactly what I experience. Also agreed that I must focus on how to deal with the energy. All that energy is just overwhelming, I should not be so happy to figure out why I am this way but it's pretty darn hard to compensate for an issue that one does not even understand. I've been thinking about some of the things mentioned earlier in this thread about crystals, stones or other shielding methods.
I only go to town 1-2x/week and that is overwhelming. If I had to show up for work every day I would probably melt down within a week. Just the traffic would lay me out. I held it together somehow before, but after the Fibro onset things became very unpredictable and holding a job is quite difficult. I'm optimistic that I'll get this under control at some point soon. I'm aching to get back to work, just not aching to interact with others so much.
Thanks again to all who have shared. This has been very enlightening. I feel like I have some understanding of why I am the way I am. With that and all the suggestions here I think I stand a great chance of regaining some functionality. You all rock! this has been infinitely helpful and I suspect it still will be. Seems I'm at the beginning of a long road, but I'm cool with that, at least I have some idea which way to go.
I cant thank you all enough.