Healing the narcissist
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I want to share with you a post by Richard Grannon which explains really good what is happening inside the narcissist, why empaths are so drawn to them, and comes up with an approach on how they could be healed.
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Possession or incidental slipping of the mask?
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thank you for your insight, that was really helpful. I'm trying to stay in high vibration, but it seems increasingly difficult, while I'm around this person (which is my partner). I might to have to leave him for good. It's like we're living in different realms and he's trying to drag me into his all the time.
this seems to fit to another post of mine two souls in one body
Can't you make the other one go again? Can you communicate?
🙏 thank you all and stay strong during these "interesting times" - this too will pass 🙏
Join the global mass meditation today
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https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/2020/04/04/empaths-its-time-to-play-your-part/
Mass Meditation for Ascenson Timeline / End of Coronavirus
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Hacking Dreamscapes, Humanity, & Environment
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I find it quite hard at the moment to not panic in the face of whats beeing done to us and how few people seem to be noticing it. It goes as far as beeing attaced verbally by family and friends for daring to have a more critic point of view.
Right now, they are starting to close the borders of my home country. It feels like a war situation. What is coming next?
Possession or incidental slipping of the mask?
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Thank you @matthew-elsey . This describes it.
I never thought about the entity idea either - before now. There may be the 2 possibilities.
@womanwhowalks, @hop-daddy
You've had a lot of incidences there 😱 . Seems perhaps a theme also related to my "two souls in one body"-question.
About my wording, perhaps I need to explain a bit, what I wanted to say. As far as I learned until now, narcissists (and paychopaths and the like) are, and that is the whole point, not having a human experiece. Due to trauma in childhood they developed what is called a "narcissistic shell" behind which they hide because they cannot cope with life. They are really stuck in an infantile stage with lots of shame and anger. The shell is a fake - and they normally don't let you see behind it. You may sense a kind if dissonace, but they are very good at keeping up the mask - it is essential to them.
That is, what I thought I was seeing - until my friend uttered the possibility of a third entity.
As to narcissists all beeing full of themselves - well, covert narcs aren't. They seem in fact ti be very vulnerable and insecure - but the game is the same. They are much more difficult to deal with because it is not so obvious.
I really believe that as an empath we are easilly fooled: we do sense what is behind the mask: well it is a poor wretched and traumatized thing - and, especially with coverts, your helping instinct kicks in.
I hoped, there could be a kind of "test" to see, wether it is a possession or not. It would make a huge difference for me: I can't help the person if it has a narcissistc personallity disorder, but I hoped, I could perhaps do something about evil entities lurking around. I won't have that kind if thing in ny home 😠😤
Possession or incidental slipping of the mask?
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I am quite astonished that nobody seems to consider the posibility that the change of expression couldbe an inadverted glimpse behind the mask, a look on the person hiding behind a narcisstic shell.
I think that might look quite similar to a taking over, as the person hiding inside has not a lot to do with the automatic shell doing the living. How would you make out the difference?
Possession or incidental slipping of the mask?
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Hello folks
Recently I had this really strange incident with a person I know well:
We had been littlehaving a argument and were on the verge of reconciling, when the other person turned her head in a sudden way and looked me right in the eyes with a real weird look in the eyes that made me think "wow, that person is completely insane".
I interpreted it like that: said person often tries to turn an argument into making me look as if I just had been joking and this looking at me directly in an inquisitive way is part of the tactics (but it never was that scary!)
Now I talked to a friend of mine about it, who asked immediately, if there had been a sudden death in the family. My friends theory was, thar there might have been a third one, ie an entity taking control for a few seconds.
In the room the whole thing happened, I had a scary incident not too long ago with something lurking there around.
How can I tell if it was a possession or rather a slip of the mask revealing the true self?
Thought I was awake but wasn't total black saw dark figure
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Do you think OBE and lucid dreaming are the same thing?
Thought I was awake but wasn't total black saw dark figure
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Hello Matthew,
I don't know about the dark figure. But I've experienced a similar thing several times, where I thought I was awake and tried to put the light on, an it didn't work, so I stumbled out of the bedroom and tried to put the light on in the corridor an then I panicked and woke up for good. I explained it like that (after a little reasearch): that I had left my body whilst sleeping and wandered around the room or the house and naturally in that state could not switch on the light. I now use it as a rc, when I can't switch the light on, I try not to panick and tell myself I'm still sleeping. Perhaps the dark figure was another person walking around without her body ? although in my dream I did not go as far as to check the electricity.
Heart Warming Video About Empathic Horse Raising Spirits In Cancer Ward
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Thank you for sharing
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How do you detox?
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@michelle
Thank you for the tip with chlorella , I will try that - are chlorella pills as good as powder?
Thank you also for the interesting links - I'm a not so strict vegetarian eating sometimes small amounts of fish and meat but also vegan products. I thought though that you need to cut out meat and dairy products from your diet for during detox.
How do you detox?
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Hello folks
I wondered if anyone had a special recommandation for detoxing the body.
If you look online, there is a lot of complicated recipies that contradict each other.
Is it enough to just leave out meat, alcohol, caffeeine, processed foods, wheat and sweets? Can you make small exceptions (like eating a bit of bread or cheese)
What about salt? I need a high amount of salt at the moment.
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences.
Chris
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Pet Spirit Stories Wanted
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@ruby-stone your story totally relates to what I've experienced so far on this subject
Very unempathic: venting, getting worked up and upsetting people
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Hello @womanwhowalks
I don't know, if this only happens to me when talking to a narcissitic person, perhaps I'm getting triggered by something in certain situations. One of my parents used to wind me up on purpose, perhaps I'm just repeating this setting.
Removing roots is surely a good reminder, I've been neglecting this. Anyway removing roots from childhood on is something I haven't done so far. Should be a good idea, thank you for reminding.❤️
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I can say, I learned a lot from my horse. She was like my sister (and later we called her 'grandma'). She passed away this year 😢 at the age of 32. I don't think I'll ever find a horse like that again.
Very unempathic: venting, getting worked up and upsetting people
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I'm quite fast getting worked up in discussion, getting stubborn about something, getting loud and into fight mode because I have the impression I will be walked over and have difficulty to wind down again when "started". Can anyone relate? How do you deal with this?
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All The Time In The World :-)
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Serge Kahili King - How To Have The Time To Do What You Want To Do:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H4uUbfJbhiY
Technical: Problem with private messenging ?
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It's working again. Thank you for fixing! 
Chris
Being present in the moment
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@moonshine what do you mean by trying to stop writing? do you mean writing online or writing in terms of journalling / poetry / stories?
As I understand it, being in the moment means to do, whatever you are doing, with all your attention and heart, paying attention to what you are actually doing and to where you actually are. this is not always easy, I tend to switch into "headzone" especially when I have some problems going on resp. issues with other people. I imagine what was or will be in an endless-loop, especially when I'm not doing an acitvity where I need to concentrate. What helps me in this situation is, actually, writing and / or drawing to get my thoughts and feelings sorted out. This helps me to get calmer and be able to stop thinking about an issue all the time.
the first time I really tried to actively be present in the moment was during walking around in my neighbourghood: I actually found out that I really hated the place, it was all too noisy and crowded and dirty - I would never have noticed this if I just had rushed about as usual, head in the clouds.
A good way to train to be in the moment is, I think, for example, drawing from life. Sitting in your garden or your kitchen and draw a flower or your teapot. Never mind the outcome, it's about the process. If you start to draw, you start to look at your environnment differently. You see things you didn't see before. If I am on holiday, instead of looking at things through my camera, I try to just watch, look at every detail, also pay attention to what I smell, hear or feel, and eventually take out my sketchbook and draw something I really like. the rest I try to take in for further inspiration. That's perpaps not for everybody, but you could do the same with writing.
And, if by writing you mean prose or poetry, then: please don't stop. that's a great thing to do. It's therapeutic for you and it's art. We need more of that. And if you need encouragement on that, you could get yourself a copy of "Art Matters", a thin booklet by Neil Gaiman (text) and Chris Riddell (illustration). Personally, I really love it 
have a nice day
Chris
Being present in the moment
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Richard Grannon, "No story, just this - present momentness and authenticity"
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@moonshine I thought something similar than michelle - why go somewhere else? we need to team up ! so please, don't leave us
Ego Traps For Lightworkers
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An interesting article I found today:
http://www.themindfulsensualist.com/5-ego-traps-lightworker-avoid/
Technical: Problem with private messenging ?
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thank you michelle. the problem persists, I wrote a support ticket.
Technical: Problem with private messenging ?
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I get the following message when I try to send a private message:
Error: "follower_item_key' doesn't exist"
Anybody encountered this problem too? Or is it my browser? (I'm using Firefox)
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Two souls in one body
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I don't know, but I know that "shit happens" :-D also on the spiritual level
I'm rather astonished that this seems so exotic to most of you ...
In the meantime, I found this story by Osamu Tezuka with the title "Princes Knight" , who got, by mistake, two hearts: a boys and a girls heart
Family member with cancer - not able to do only nearly as much as I esteem necessary
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hello moonshine
the thread is actually not about taking on other peoples illnesses. I've experienced that too, but thats a different thing. My actual health issues are not related to my moms illness.
the taking notes and paying back things is not what my mom does but my sibling. I just mentioned it to give a better understanding of the situation, but I do not want to discuss the issues I have with my sybling right now. I hope you understand this.
Family member with cancer - not able to do only nearly as much as I esteem necessary
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thank you for your sympathy and advice, I appreciate this 💗
Family member with cancer - not able to do only nearly as much as I esteem necessary
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thank you michelle
it is not as bad for the moment that this person (my mom) could not cook for herself or needed help in the household all the time - but due to the treatement, she is not always well and is starting to feel the side effects of the treatement.Yet she does not assume that she needs external help.
I'm about to leave for another country in the next weeks, so I will not be able to just help spontaneously. Yet I need to leave, for sake of my own health and sanity.
Staying at this place is a problem for me and so are all the actions attached - it all stirrs up all the old problems constantly that I need to get a distance from. Even helping out with simple things, even just staying here, brings me to my limits.
And it does not help to know, that her other daughter, who is the neighbour, is not helpful at all. She does works around the house alright, but is constantly guilttripping or accusing me- since we do not talk anymore she now uses my mother to do so. I need to get out of this but I don't want to leave my mother in this situation. I already tried to motivate her to move with me before she got sick, but she wants to stay here and I think that it is partly the cause of the disease. I fear that she will not overcome the disease in such a situation. the other sibling is quite narcissistic, has mood swings, rages, comes up with the craziest beliefs and just does not really care. she does help, but in a compulsive kind of way and always with a hidden agenda - if you get her help you need to pay back some day, one to one, and she means this litterally. She even takes notes!
I feel totally guilty for going away but at the same time I really fear for my own life, I know this sounds dramatic, but my body is firing more than one alarm at once.
Family member with cancer - not able to do only nearly as much as I esteem necessary
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I do not know how to handle this: I would like to be there and help, but I am not well myself and do not have the strengh to do what I think should be done. I am not in a state to help others, still "licking my own wounds". I feel sad and guilty and helpless. And, you probably experienced this all of you, I do not observe the same attitude from the other people that surround this person. So I feel like it's all on my shoulders. My body was showing the strangest symptoms pver the last 3 years, I got the feeling that I was slowly dying. If I get to grips with one symptom, the next pops up. So I decided to go away from my job and this place and people that make me sick - and now this familiy member gets a cancer diagnose, just when I am about to leave and there is no turning back for me really and each further day I stay makes me sicker.
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On Inspiration
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An article I read today- it is about how music affects empaths but (further down) also on inspiration and why it is so important:
https://drjudithorloff.com/high-empathy-people-may-process-music-in-brains-social-areas/
quotation from the article:
“Let the beauty you love be what you do.
There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground.” (poet Rumi)
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💗 Hullo Folks: Just a Great Big Hug to Everyone :-) 💗
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I just had the need to do this You're all so great and I am so grateful for this forum!
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Hello @warden
where did the internet research lead you? I found the following pages:
https://www.ask-angels.com/spiritual-guidance/earth-angels/
https://www.learning-mind.com/earth-angel/
https://foreverconscious.com/are-you-an-earth-angel-here-are-21-signs
http://www.angelhandsnaturalhealing.com/angelic-realms.html
@tigerlily The last one says it's based on the Doreen Virtue book -I personally found this a bit too much though, whith the different earth angels and pixies and star people (but I did not read the book itself)
The other sources listed attributes that where mostly identical to the attributes that describe an empath (apart i.e. from the longing to go home - I hat a time in my life where I felt this very strongly - I woke up each morning and was very frustrated to find myself still here .... ^_^ )
I too experience the presence of wings, mostly during meditation or chakra activation, and more and more in "normal mode"
Isn't it possible, that the wings are a normal part of the human energy-field (like the crown chakra) -and have nothing to do with beeing a special sort of beeing? I included them when doing chakra activation - after the crown-chakra I "stretch my wings" :-D ). I also use them as a protection, to appear unconspicous or on the contrary to appear more impressive than I am - when encountering suspicious people when I'm outside - I don't know though if this makes any difference - never asked the suspicious bypassers (^_-)
I also feel like on a mission, but I have absolutely no clue what it is.
@michelle : I bought this picture you posted as a poster years ago :-D
Anyone with experience resolving psychic bondage?
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@all4joy if you kindly accept my request: there is something else on the subject which I prefer to not share on public
Anyone with experience resolving psychic bondage?
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Break Trauma Bond: Modelling Technique To Recondition Mr Lizard
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VqR3nO0s8i4
Releasing Trauma Bond Linguistic Time Bind
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xArW-yvYHp0
silly question: Influence on or "communication" with technology / machines or them developing a life of their own
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I know, this sounds a bit weird...
Do you have any experience with influence on technology or feeling into machines (like your car)? I have the impression that my car depeloped some kind of a life of its own and that there is come kind of connection to me (example: I open the car and it is moving its rear windscreen once - like, hello, there you are)- It does this for years but not every time. Only lately, I thought of giving it away and buy a new one (I had a bad concience about it). It stopped 'waving' at me alltogether - I think it was sulking. You can put it on electronic malfunction and the rest on coincidence and my imagination. I know that. But it just feels like it has a personality.
Also, I never ever owned a car radio that works - before CD-time, it was always "eating" my cassettes (tapejam) and now, its always the CDs that don't work- event brandnew ones. Lately, I switched cars with my husband, and guess what, he could put all the CDs into the radio the wanted and listen to them without disturbance 
ok, I feel a bit silly about posting this - but perhaps its more than my imagination running wild
is it possible, to have a connection to a machine similar than you could have it to a living beeing? this could be very useful (if you could control it). there are shamans expressly personalizing their technical items to make them work better or make them their accomplice
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may I ask you a (perhaps stupid 😅) noob-question: how do you identify the cords that need to be removed? Or discern "bad" cords from healthy ones? what do you do if the root doesn't come out?
I only know this in the way of: going outside, finding a suitable stick or piece of wood, breaking it and throwing it away. does this have the same effect? (although it is only useful if you know which bond you want to cut)
How To Develop Personal Sovereignty (Serge Kahili King)
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-AZvZSqHYCk
Pretty good (if you skip the part with the singing )
@stefficat11 you may want to have a look here:
https://www.youtube.com/user/SPARTANLIFECOACH/featured
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_P8aFACl-VqJl0flQPGMQQ/videos (Vital Mind Psychology)
these are just two of whom I know, there are others out there. If you want to really recover, you need to get help from someone who specialized in treating narcissitic abuse - normal therapy is not sufficient. There is a reason why you fell for that guy initially and you have to have a look at that, as painful as it may be.
I wish you all the best for 2019 and that you'll get better quickly
take care of yourself
chris
Your current partner...
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you're probably right. as I said, I don't trust myself for the time beeing, I'm currently a bit paranoid.
a new angle
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Imagining them from beeing in your back is actually where on your inner map your internalized parents should be, encouraging you. Your unconcious goes "ah, parental figure" and you feel protected and loved.
