Healing the narcissist
I want to share with you a post by Richard Grannon which explains really good what is happening inside the narcissist, why empaths are so drawn to them, and comes up with an approach on how they could be healed.
thank you for your insight, that was really helpful. I'm trying to stay in high vibration, but it seems increasingly difficult, while I'm around this person (which is my partner). I might to have to leave him for good. It's like we're living in different realms and he's trying to drag me into his all the time.
this seems to fit to another post of mine two souls in one body
Can't you make the other one go again? Can you communicate?
🙏 thank you all and stay strong during these "interesting times" - this too will pass 🙏
Recently I had this really strange incident with a person I know well:
We had been littlehaving a argument and were on the verge of reconciling, when the other person turned her head in a sudden way and looked me right in the eyes with a real weird look in the eyes that made me think "wow, that person is completely insane".
I interpreted it like that: said person often tries to turn an argument into making me look as if I just had been joking and this looking at me directly in an inquisitive way is part of the tactics (but it never was that scary!)
Now I talked to a friend of mine about it, who asked immediately, if there had been a sudden death in the family. My friends theory was, thar there might have been a third one, ie an entity taking control for a few seconds.
In the room the whole thing happened, I had a scary incident not too long ago with something lurking there around.
How can I tell if it was a possession or rather a slip of the mask revealing the true self?
Do you think OBE and lucid dreaming are the same thing?
I don't know about the dark figure. But I've experienced a similar thing several times, where I thought I was awake and tried to put the light on, an it didn't work, so I stumbled out of the bedroom and tried to put the light on in the corridor an then I panicked and woke up for good. I explained it like that (after a little reasearch): that I had left my body whilst sleeping and wandered around the room or the house and naturally in that state could not switch on the light. I now use it as a rc, when I can't switch the light on, I try not to panick and tell myself I'm still sleeping. Perhaps the dark figure was another person walking around without her body ? although in my dream I did not go as far as to check the electricity.
Thank you for sharing
I wondered if anyone had a special recommandation for detoxing the body.
If you look online, there is a lot of complicated recipies that contradict each other.
Is it enough to just leave out meat, alcohol, caffeeine, processed foods, wheat and sweets? Can you make small exceptions (like eating a bit of bread or cheese)
What about salt? I need a high amount of salt at the moment.
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences.
I'm quite fast getting worked up in discussion, getting stubborn about something, getting loud and into fight mode because I have the impression I will be walked over and have difficulty to wind down again when "started". Can anyone relate? How do you deal with this?
@moonshine what do you mean by trying to stop writing? do you mean writing online or writing in terms of journalling / poetry / stories?
As I understand it, being in the moment means to do, whatever you are doing, with all your attention and heart, paying attention to what you are actually doing and to where you actually are. this is not always easy, I tend to switch into "headzone" especially when I have some problems going on resp. issues with other people. I imagine what was or will be in an endless-loop, especially when I'm not doing an acitvity where I need to concentrate. What helps me in this situation is, actually, writing and / or drawing to get my thoughts and feelings sorted out. This helps me to get calmer and be able to stop thinking about an issue all the time.
the first time I really tried to actively be present in the moment was during walking around in my neighbourghood: I actually found out that I really hated the place, it was all too noisy and crowded and dirty - I would never have noticed this if I just had rushed about as usual, head in the clouds.
A good way to train to be in the moment is, I think, for example, drawing from life. Sitting in your garden or your kitchen and draw a flower or your teapot. Never mind the outcome, it's about the process. If you start to draw, you start to look at your environnment differently. You see things you didn't see before. If I am on holiday, instead of looking at things through my camera, I try to just watch, look at every detail, also pay attention to what I smell, hear or feel, and eventually take out my sketchbook and draw something I really like. the rest I try to take in for further inspiration. That's perpaps not for everybody, but you could do the same with writing.
And, if by writing you mean prose or poetry, then: please don't stop. that's a great thing to do. It's therapeutic for you and it's art. We need more of that. And if you need encouragement on that, you could get yourself a copy of "Art Matters", a thin booklet by Neil Gaiman (text) and Chris Riddell (illustration). Personally, I really love it
have a nice day
An interesting article I found today:
I don't know, but I know that "shit happens" :-D also on the spiritual level
I'm rather astonished that this seems so exotic to most of you ...
In the meantime, I found this story by Osamu Tezuka with the title "Princes Knight" , who got, by mistake, two hearts: a boys and a girls heart
the thread is actually not about taking on other peoples illnesses. I've experienced that too, but thats a different thing. My actual health issues are not related to my moms illness.
the taking notes and paying back things is not what my mom does but my sibling. I just mentioned it to give a better understanding of the situation, but I do not want to discuss the issues I have with my sybling right now. I hope you understand this.
thank you for your sympathy and advice, I appreciate this 💗
thank you michelle
it is not as bad for the moment that this person (my mom) could not cook for herself or needed help in the household all the time - but due to the treatement, she is not always well and is starting to feel the side effects of the treatement.Yet she does not assume that she needs external help.
I'm about to leave for another country in the next weeks, so I will not be able to just help spontaneously. Yet I need to leave, for sake of my own health and sanity.
Staying at this place is a problem for me and so are all the actions attached - it all stirrs up all the old problems constantly that I need to get a distance from. Even helping out with simple things, even just staying here, brings me to my limits.
And it does not help to know, that her other daughter, who is the neighbour, is not helpful at all. She does works around the house alright, but is constantly guilttripping or accusing me- since we do not talk anymore she now uses my mother to do so. I need to get out of this but I don't want to leave my mother in this situation. I already tried to motivate her to move with me before she got sick, but she wants to stay here and I think that it is partly the cause of the disease. I fear that she will not overcome the disease in such a situation. the other sibling is quite narcissistic, has mood swings, rages, comes up with the craziest beliefs and just does not really care. she does help, but in a compulsive kind of way and always with a hidden agenda - if you get her help you need to pay back some day, one to one, and she means this litterally. She even takes notes!
I feel totally guilty for going away but at the same time I really fear for my own life, I know this sounds dramatic, but my body is firing more than one alarm at once.
I do not know how to handle this: I would like to be there and help, but I am not well myself and do not have the strengh to do what I think should be done. I am not in a state to help others, still "licking my own wounds". I feel sad and guilty and helpless. And, you probably experienced this all of you, I do not observe the same attitude from the other people that surround this person. So I feel like it's all on my shoulders. My body was showing the strangest symptoms pver the last 3 years, I got the feeling that I was slowly dying. If I get to grips with one symptom, the next pops up. So I decided to go away from my job and this place and people that make me sick - and now this familiy member gets a cancer diagnose, just when I am about to leave and there is no turning back for me really and each further day I stay makes me sicker.
An article I read today- it is about how music affects empaths but (further down) also on inspiration and why it is so important:
quotation from the article:
“Let the beauty you love be what you do.
There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground.” (poet Rumi)
I just had the need to do this You're all so great and I am so grateful for this forum!
where did the internet research lead you? I found the following pages:
The last one says it's based on the Doreen Virtue book -I personally found this a bit too much though, whith the different earth angels and pixies and star people (but I did not read the book itself)
The other sources listed attributes that where mostly identical to the attributes that describe an empath (apart i.e. from the longing to go home - I hat a time in my life where I felt this very strongly - I woke up each morning and was very frustrated to find myself still here .... ^_^ )
I too experience the presence of wings, mostly during meditation or chakra activation, and more and more in "normal mode"
Isn't it possible, that the wings are a normal part of the human energy-field (like the crown chakra) -and have nothing to do with beeing a special sort of beeing? I included them when doing chakra activation - after the crown-chakra I "stretch my wings" :-D ). I also use them as a protection, to appear unconspicous or on the contrary to appear more impressive than I am - when encountering suspicious people when I'm outside - I don't know though if this makes any difference - never asked the suspicious bypassers (^_-)
I also feel like on a mission, but I have absolutely no clue what it is.
I know, this sounds a bit weird...
Do you have any experience with influence on technology or feeling into machines (like your car)? I have the impression that my car depeloped some kind of a life of its own and that there is come kind of connection to me (example: I open the car and it is moving its rear windscreen once - like, hello, there you are)- It does this for years but not every time. Only lately, I thought of giving it away and buy a new one (I had a bad concience about it). It stopped 'waving' at me alltogether - I think it was sulking. You can put it on electronic malfunction and the rest on coincidence and my imagination. I know that. But it just feels like it has a personality.
Also, I never ever owned a car radio that works - before CD-time, it was always "eating" my cassettes (tapejam) and now, its always the CDs that don't work- event brandnew ones. Lately, I switched cars with my husband, and guess what, he could put all the CDs into the radio the wanted and listen to them without disturbance
ok, I feel a bit silly about posting this - but perhaps its more than my imagination running wild
is it possible, to have a connection to a machine similar than you could have it to a living beeing? this could be very useful (if you could control it). there are shamans expressly personalizing their technical items to make them work better or make them their accomplice
may I ask you a (perhaps stupid 😅) noob-question: how do you identify the cords that need to be removed? Or discern "bad" cords from healthy ones? what do you do if the root doesn't come out?
I only know this in the way of: going outside, finding a suitable stick or piece of wood, breaking it and throwing it away. does this have the same effect? (although it is only useful if you know which bond you want to cut)
Pretty good (if you skip the part with the singing )
@stefficat11 you may want to have a look here:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_P8aFACl-VqJl0flQPGMQQ/videos (Vital Mind Psychology)
these are just two of whom I know, there are others out there. If you want to really recover, you need to get help from someone who specialized in treating narcissitic abuse - normal therapy is not sufficient. There is a reason why you fell for that guy initially and you have to have a look at that, as painful as it may be.
I wish you all the best for 2019 and that you'll get better quickly
take care of yourself