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I would be pissed off and heartbroken that I lost something that important also .
I hate borrowing people things also. Once again it bit me in the ass because before I could get my stuff back we stopped talking.. I honestly believed in our 5 year friendship...
So if it feels better to cry let it out.. material losses are just as hard as the nontangable losses..
It was important and not only is the item lost but a part of the trust you had in that person...
Hopefully this helps
Struggling, hence my username 'Strugglebunny'
I wish I knew that answer... Unfortunately I am 45 and just realized that I am a twin flame 21 months ago... If you don't know what that is count yourself lucky and pray you never truly find out. I know that there are those who don't believe but I have a mental therapist who upon hearing the term did the research from a mental health point of view and agrees 5hey are as real as the empath it helped me meet and stop fighting that was lost inside of me. my twin and I go through seperation, lovers friendship only with the largest period of time being friends and watching him grow and change and feel our connection without any concept of twin flames. End of the week after spending as much time as possible from Monday to Thursday with me as he is working out of town yet says in constant contact with me and comes to visit me as much as possible on Friday's along with the of trip out of town to visit him for nothing more than to hand out, talk and be there when camp is lonely and he just wants someone to visit, I know that at the end of Thursday until Sunday afternoon when he leaves again he goes home to his girlfriend and if push come shove I will never be the one that will win in the end. I had a husband that after giving him 17 years of my life 16 years married and 2 beautiful children he repaid me in kind on my 40th birthday with letting me know at my birthday party I was officially to lod for him as he was only 38 turning 39. He had me replaced with someone half my age (close enough) at 21 his new girlfriend was 5 and 7 years older than our kids. my wonderful husband has been listed by the judge in the past few years of of separation and court proceedings as the most emotional and mental abusive husband that the judge with 12 years of experience has had on the bench. My so called closest friend I had for the past 5 years starting abusing that friendship last summer taking my prescription painkillers.. It started off as so few that even though I knew right from the start I couldn't call her on it... Slowly it became more and more and buy November it was out of control. I left one final test and still couldn't confront her. Instead I just showed her the new present my parents had gotten me. A decent size lock box that was fire proof and required a real key. That was the last time my friend ever visited me. She went from visiting 2 or 3 times a week to not bothering to make it over once during the Christmas season. Remember I never once accused her once or after 4 1/2 years of friendship she felt she could do this to me. My twins friendship helped me through the worst of the pain as he has shared many similar painful experience and when it comes to pain we share a same language, on everything except that I love him and he doesn't love me the exact same way.
What I am trying to say is that there is no cheat sheet or answer key.. I have had what I believe as friends for several months set me up on a date where she got paid and I was raped. I have met all kinds, known that some of the more closer friends were just soulmate in my life for a while. My husband I married and fell in love with is a soulmate but unfortunately due to to much power and ptsd that man is gone and I am left with a man who has to distroy the kids and my happiness when he is bored. I can't offer that there is a better life out there because as hard as I search for it I still find myself face down in the mud getting walked on. I hope that I don't have a lifetime like this but I honestly don't know I can only every control this second. What is in the past is my book with good and bad chapters and what is in the future is unwritten pages I can hope will get better but I don't honestly know. I will tell you after this second is over and it has been written.
I am sore I don't have better news but know that you are never alone.. control this second cause that is all you get a say in the matter.
Try different baths salts as different herbs will have different qualities. Or Epson salts with tea bags in the bath water to make your mixture.. leave the tea in their bags as that is not a fun job cleaning a tub of loose leaves (tea ball opened on me) if it isn't strong enough dry your own herbs and use tea balls to hold the herbs. The Epson salts can be directly added to the water... Your going to have to experiment.. I am still learning how to myself. I haven't totally conquered it either.
As for the thoughts, I have just always known things I shouldn't about people. Hard to explain, just part of who I am. I found out that this is part of my abilities I have.
I am lucky enough that after going through many therapist that were just not the proper fit for me in my darkest hour my angel who I lost when we were both 4 to a house fire and he has steps in when I have lost my way and all hope and puts me in the path so I could be referred to my therapist. My therapist has in a lot of ways what has kept me ground these past 4 year's. I suffer from extreme ptsd. He is also an empath and is the one who point me in the direction of self discovery of being an empath. He has taught me lots and pointed me in the direction of learning lots on my own, not all answer can just be given, some need to be discovered when your ready. He taught me that the knowing things I shouldn't know is that I am able to pick it up from others but I have to learn to control it better as it is an invasion of privacy and personal space as if I should know that I would have been told..
I am still struggling how to control it and with my twin it has become so much more intensive and we share emotions, thoughts and energy. We get to the point where neither of us know what emotion belongs to who and because we feed off each other things like do become a bad cycle till one of us can break the loop..
I am still learning lots with only accepting my empath abilities last year. For 44 years I refused to recognize them and was constantly at war with myself. Acceptance has changed so much for me but I still have a long ways to go and continue learning..
I am sorry I don't have all the answers, but the one thing I have learned in the past year is that when you are actually ready the universe will point you in the right direction..
The ring because it was originally given to my mom when she passed.. I just would always grab it first whenever I borrowed my mom's jewelry...
She was going through some of the jewelry a few years ago when she got ill assigning who of the kids / grandkid will get what (my sister was cut out cause of her drug problems, her share goes to her kids) my mom is still with us but she isn't well.. she said that the ring will end up as mine anyway, I can take it now.
The vibes are hard to explain, I just know if that stone belongs with me or not..
I have twin flame (yes I know that not all believe but there is something more than soulmate between us and every thought he is with someone else he admits he feels the connection.. he has no idea what twin flames are or about the connection, he and I fed of of each other's emotions and get lost who owns what vibe and we try really hard to respect his girlfriend with boundaries between us but at times that desire is to much. He wasn't into crystals before meeting me I slowly opened up about why I have them and that they are in my bed.. he immediately was drawn to them and I helped him with his first amethyst and now if I am drawn to one for him I get to for him instead of me.. we both agree our energy is connected.
Grounding is different for everyone..
I keep a several crystals on me and I have a bunch of other ones in my bed.. I have an amethyst I carried me for about 5 years now, shortly after I realized that amethyst under my pillow helped so I my nightmare went from several a week to 1 every few months.. then I started researching and adding to what crystals I carried on me.
The amethyst are everywhere in my house as when my kids were young we went amethyst mining.
Past that Judith had a bunch of idea's in her book.
Yes, alot of it all makes sense.. you need to find a way to ground yourself. Judith Orloff MD has a lot of good books about how she learned she was and empath, then because a medical doctor in mental health to help others. She is trying to change the way doctors treat those who are empaths and in her newest book "The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People" she helps you learn more about the different types of empaths and how to ground yourself along with everyday skills. She also has a series of pod casts. When I first realized that I was an empath last year my therapist recommend that I read them and it helped lots. There is lots that I am still learning because I am unavailable to meditate and my visualization techniques work different. I also have certain clairvoyant abilities also and I swear I recognize different people who I have never met. One theory I have heard is that because I have had lots of soulmates in my life from romantic (however we are no longer together) to friends to my 2 kids and a pet. Soulmate are just groups of people who you travel with in each lifetime together that the people I swear I have seen before are just other souls I recognize from different lifetime yet have no bearing on this lifetime.
As for waking up and trying to figure out what year you are in I would do that constantly with cities and would have to remember what city I was in. My ex's career kept us moving lots and in 10 years we were in 5 Major cities across the country. Even though I have been in this one now for 9 years I still get lost with address as most cities repeat the number system and have similar street names. Even malls and store names will sound familiar and I get lost on which on is which..
My advice for you is learn how to settle your anxiety, calm your nerves and ground yourself.. once that is achieved you will feel better.. I am fully aware that it sounds a lot easier than it actually is. I still struggle with it to. So with suggest using medical help in medications or cannabidiol or CBD oil how ever I believe if you can learn skills without these you are better off. I don't do the CBD oil as the vertict is still out if it can interfere with other meds I need to take for keeping me alive and I have anti anxiety meds I take only when everything gets to be to bad.
Careful letting doctors know what you are and can do as several still don't believe there is such a thing as an empath and they will prescribe unnecessary medicine in trying to help..
Lost and Confused
I will be looking into the information that you gave me more, you are right that parts of my empathic senses are on full blast and I do need to find a grounding. In many other ways it is like an old toy that I have always used all my life I just didn't read the instruction manual before I started using it. Just cause I fought the empath side of me for 43 years it doesn't mean that part was off the whole time, I just had no idea what it meant. I have been an empath since I was born, it runs on my father's side and I have since realized that I have passed it on to both of my kids.
I have always had gut feeling and before I only got mild anxiety attacks when I knew something negitivie what about to have buy I was able to pinpoint out exactly what it was going to be. I would get major anxiety attacks before my awakening if I ignored what my guy was telling me about the person and after a blind date going very wrong I never ignored another gut feeling about something. I also have known things about people that there is no way that I should have known, my awakening just helped me understand why and fine tune it some.
No I don't know how to meditate or visualize, I have tried off and on again over and over in my life and it doesn't appear to be something that I am capable of doing. I do know that having a monkey's mind makes it harder for one to meditate. I also can't be hypnotized either because I am unable to let my body go into a relaxed enough state. Other things like energy vampires I may not have known what they are called but I learned long ago to avoid them if possible and to limit my time around them if I can't. I have seen spirits (ghosts) for as long as I can remember.
I was with someone for 17 years and married to them for 16 years, this person was, is and always will be a soulmate however he chose to end the marriage and became extremely emotional abusive to the point where I suffer from extreme PTSD. And yet I managed to find a way to shut down all my Chakra before he pushed me into a mental breakdown. I have been seeing a therapist for the past 3 years for healing and when I came across my twin flame I told my therapist about it immediately once I learned what made the electricity between him and I so different than anything else I have ever experienced. During separation lead me to work on my spiritual growth and to realize that I am an empath.
My spiritual awakening did amplified lots, I still know how to protect myself again energy vampires and I continue to work on putting up boundaries with my twin flames help to limit the ways that my ex can hurt me. Whether or not there is more than one twin flame I really have no idea, I know that a person can have many soulmates in there life, some romantic and some are friends and family. This person who I call my twin flame I had no idea what that meant until the first time he ran and I went looking for answers. There is something unique and different about this person and our energy is so intertwined there is no way either of us could separate each from each other if we tried. We feel each other's emotions, thoughts at times, and energy. Yes we have done more separation cycles than I can count, longest one being 7 weeks and even though it hurts like hell when he runs I don't have time to obsess over that he is gone. He get 30 mins at the end of each day when I dedicate time to talking with my spiritual guides and then I send him positive healing energy. He had no idea that I am doing this yet a while ago he told me that he can feel the healing energy I am sending and it is helping him heal. I was in shock at just how much he is feeling also through our connection.
Like I said I may not have known that I was an empath but I knew what negitivie energy vibes meant and were related to and how I would be hurt yet none of the rules apply with my twin flame and yet I can't shake this horrible feeling of dread when it comes to him. In the past the feeling either goes away or I realize that it is about something else. This time neither is happening and I still haven't figured out my ground. I have tried lots of things. And meditation is out.
I just need to know why I can't shake things feeling of dread. It is starting to interfere with my life.
Lost and Confused
I spent 43 years fighting the empath inside of me until meeting my twin flame last summer triggered so much soul growth and in January I realized that I am an empath then the beginning of March my spiritual awakening. This last year has been about learning to live with the empath inside of me (which I am not very successful at times doing) and learning how to use my empathic energy to send my twin flame healing energy. He has stopped the separation cycles and we have been in a complicated relationship now for a month.
I have always gotten these horrible gut feeling. No it isn't from my heart or my soul, thoughts are different voices/feelings when they talk to me but my gut is like this big huge older brother who is my protector and if it says that a person is going to hurt you I learned the hard way not to ignore it. It will also pick up on negitivie vibes and let me know when someone in my life is going to hurt me. It will set of a negitivie vibe in me and since accepting that I am a empath the negitivie vibes feeling turns into a full blown panic attack where I will cry for hours just knowing that this horrible thing is coming. I don't know what it is I just know that it is.. Before I would just dwell on it like the last time I dropped my husband off at the airport 4 1/2 years ago as I was hugging him good bye I knew that was the last time I would ever see him. 3 months later when he returned from that business trip for summer holidays he asked for a separation even though the day before he had been talking with the kids about making lists for them to do with him for the 2 week summer break. I had ignored the doubt because I didn't want to believe that it could be true. I have so many more examples.
Where everything is confusing me is that even before I was an empath there were signs and this gut feeling and I knew that person would soon be out of my life, but I get them about my twin flame and all bets are off, sometimes nothing happens, sometimes he dissapears for a couple days but comes back with us being more intense, sometimes the opposite happens like him asking me for a relationship. I am so lost and confused. I had this horrible gut feeling of losing him 2 nights ago I finally got the tears to stop 6 hours later and after 3 antianxiety meds but I still can't shake the feeling since then, it has left me in a depression state where I just don't want to leave bed and rather sleep all day than deal with life. My twin flame has no idea that I had this happen and we both have a lot going on in our lives which is why our relationship is complicated but he has been messaging me off and on since the attack trying to figure out when he can visit me again in his schedule or just to say hi cause he misses me.
I don't know what to do about this gut feeling or how to deal with them, least in the past they have always made sence. Sometimes I wonder if learning I am an empath it just complicated matters or not but it doesn't erase the fact that before my spiritual awakening the rules applied to my twin flame also, I could tell when he was going to run and we would be separated for a while.
I don't know how to get over this feeling that he is going to leave me again either, I am tired of being depressed but I can't shake the horrible feeling yet either. Has anyone else gone through this? What did they do? Yes, any one else and my gut feeling is still 100% accurate, my kids hate that I know so much.
For people wondering what a twin flame is, It is said that long ago a soul was broken in half and placed in to people to go through each life time learning and growing until such time the souls are reunited together as one couple. There has been a romantic twist put onto twin flames but trust me they are anything but romantic. Yes there is crazy amounts of desire and passion involved and a feeling of completion when you are with the other Twin but there is also huge amounts of heart break and pain when the one twin flame runs from the intense feeling they have. Running and separation can last from days, to weeks, to months to several years. One twin always appears to be more spiritually awakening than the other one and they realize what is going on faster. It is highly recommend to leave the other twin run and come back and find you once they are spiritual awakening and have found out that they are twin flames. In other words don't chase them and find something else to focus on. There is also a connecton between the two twins where each person can feel the others emotions and over time a telepathical connection is also made. There is an energy than continues to draw both twins together. Like everything mankind likes to put rules on how twin flames work but for me personally I stopped following most all the rules and let my heart guide me. I don't believe in God but in spiritual forces and I don't believe that the rules are made from any other force than man. That each twin flame journey is unique and different and will be influenced by ones faith, culture, way they were raised, beliefs, religion and what will work for one person could be the wrong advice for someone else in their twin flame journey.
If any one has experience where their gut feeling just don't make sense to someone in there life and what they did about that horrible dread feeling please let me know. To date this is the worst one I have had and his words and actions show no indication that I could be right, which is good news but I can't shake the horrible feeling.
I have been told that I need to find mine. Only everyone has said it comes from meditation and it is not something I can do. I have a monkey's mind. One of the hardest minds to train for meditation.
I would love to figure out what mine is, if anyone has any other ideas please let me know.
How do you deal with having a crush on someone ?
How do you know that it is only a crush? Not something more? Yes mine is a twin flame who spent a year running and I left him alone just constantly thinking about him and on 11 11 he not only became back part of my life but he asked me to be his and we started a relationship. He couldn't get me out of his mind any easier. He is also an empath.
Don't always just dismiss it as a crush, the universe has a way of getting what it wants.
Can a Narcissist be an empath?
I will take a look at it.
I was finally able to try the gummies as they only became legal last week. They didn't agree with me and I had nausea. My friend has picked up some other stuff that has no THC and is going to try to make brownies from them incase it was something in the gummies mixture and not CBD that caused it. For medical reasons I have to be really careful never to touch any product with the THC in it. The THC has properties that can interfere with the meds I have to take to keep me alive. I am fully a fan of my meds but with issues in my blood I am even less of a fan of death so the meds win and I research the hundreds of interaction that it has with other products including normal healthy food items like spinach. So I can adjust the meds to be able to have a balanced diet of relax with a drink once a while, other thing I avoid big time. Hopefully the brownies will work better and am looking forward to trying them. I do have an antianxiety med I can take when it gets really bad but I am not a fan of taking then as they do help with the anxiety but can make me extremely sleepy. I would rather have other options. So we are going to do so experimenting with the legalization that just happened.
Fingers crossed that we can find something.
I added some new stones from the list to the ones I carry around. Hopefully they will also help.
Thanks again for all the wonderful advice.
Ironically a lot of my good friends are male even though I am female. When a guys heart is really involved they can't just move got. They break down and cry and hurt just as much as we do.. The difference is society has taught them not to allow their emotions and they are supposed to man up.
Even with the guy I am with we have some issues and he tries to pretend that our seperation doesn't effect him but when I finally got him to open up he admitted that when he thought he lost me he had a nasty depression that took over him. Luck enough we between being an empath and the bond we share I could feel he needed some help so I reached out to let him know I am still here.
Being able to finally talk to him about everything we understand so much more and realized that even though he needs the space we still both need each other in our lives.
We are back in separation but I know he is in so much pain from it and the way it happened. We will figure it out one way or another over time.
I know that this is a girls view on a guy feelings but an open conversation between us I have learned so much about a guys Thoughts.
Good luck with your healing
Message me privately if you want more information about tf's..
I had a tarot reading 2 years before I met mine..
Tarot told me that I need to start to heal and when the time is right I will be sent to meet someone who will love me more deeper and more pure that anyone I have ever met.. I met my tf 2 years later.
I never knew his soul before, he was never in my dreams. Others talk about meeting theres in their dreams or from past lives.
Some people would say that it is your twin flame reaching out to you.
If it is a twin flame please be very careful before going to look for this guy. Twin flame relationship are hard and extremely painful at times. There is alot of soul growth that will happen also.
Some dream of their twin flame before meeting them others like me get blind sided when they come into our lives.
It could be totally something else also I just know that I hear stories exactly the same as yours when others talk about finding their twin flames.
Good luck in finding out what your dreams mean.
And respecting the fact that some people you will always love no matters what.
My estranged husband walked out and has put me through extreme mental abuse. Even the judge who oversaw the separation paperwork said this is one of the worst cases of domestic abuse she has ever seen. The strange part is that the majority of abuse all started after he walked out.
Now this man is my soulmate and just cause we are no longer together doesn't mean that we are still not soulmates. We have 2 beautiful children together and spent 17 years, 16 married together before he came home for summer holidays (at times he works out of town for long periods) to tell me he wanted a separation. This news distroyed me. He was my best friend, my other half, my everything. I went into shock that evening. From there over the next year and the abuse I came close to a mental breakdown. I loved this man so much, he was my everything and I was willing to do almost anything to get him back however I realized that there were major issues between us and the more time away from him I could now start seeing the mental abuse he was using in hopes I wouldn't take him to court to get support from him. I originally decided that it if we were able to fix things he would have to attend counseling. The abuse was easier to see when he was hurting the kids than when he was hurting me.
It took about a year before the abuse became to much and I realized that this person I never wanted in my life again. It took a few more months before I came to terms that I will always love the man he was and I will never stop loving that person.
As they say, time heals all wounds and I started to heal. I will never allow him back in my life but I will always love a part of him.
I know that this is an extreme story but u have to give yourself permission to grieve, that it is ok to still love them forever but they won't be a part of your life.
Time is your enemy and your friend.. as frustrating as it is to hear it does help. Find a class or something interesting to do so u can focus on that for a little bit of time.
I wish you luck
Can a Narcissist be an empath?
There is a lot of interesting information here and non of it has to do with meditation or visualization which I am extremely thankful for.
The first thing I did do when I realized that this person just didn't understand the damage to my emotional state was I blocked them and erased every communication I had with them. Clean break with nothing to remind me of the pain. So yes I agree with everyone that stopping the toxic connection asap was/is extremely important. If only it was as easy to erase it from the mind as it is electrically life would be so simple but hours later it was still eating at me so I am happy my instinct was to ask for help and you guys replied. Thank you.
There is a few things I would love to try but do to health/medical issues I just can't. Cold and my body don't get along at all. The cold hurts the nerve damage in my legs that health problems have created or I would try those methods, they sound as if they could help.
I have very limited control over my diet and due to health reasons I mostly am only able to use doctor prescribed meal replacement and I drink mostly only water with something like pop or juice once every couple of weeks. I can sometimes eat food if it is very soft so for now adjustments to my diet are very limited, but I agree what goes into your body can effect a person lots.
As for disconnecting myself from all noise and people it just isn't an option available for me. Being a mom means sometimes 5 mins of alone time has the same odds of winning the lottery but at the end of the day I wouldn't give it up for anything. My kids are older so I can get breaks but they are at times my biggest frustration however they are always my greatest reward and I would be lost without them even if that means that personal time may not happen. But I do agree disconnecting helps even if it is just grabbing the kids and going for a 10 min walk. I am just worried at times cause I don't want my negative experiences to hurt them. My oldest is a strong empath like me and my youngest is a sensitive. Just learning that I am one has helped explain so much through my life time and with them both as teens at times I couldn't understand where their strong emotions came from, breakdowns over the weirdest things however as I realized the empath in me it clicked like a huge light what was happening with them. They have both always been so close to me but now they realize that they are not alone nor going crazy and everything that they experience is possible a stronger bond has been created between myself and each of them. The oldest feels my pain and I would love to find a way to block the energy I give off as I work through things in my life so I don't hurt them. My youngest picks up on the negitivity energy vibrations and knows when emotional pain is headed towards us. I have done the same thing all my life and I used to swear I was going crazy. If there is a way to help block the negitivity energy vibrations I would love to give that gift to my youngest.
- How do you close your chakras? I know that my heart is the most open and I now feel emotional pain as actual physical pain in my heart. I would love not to actually close it but shrink the amount energy going through it at times. I was give a gift by the universe to have a connection with another person via our heart Chakra's. It is like empath abilities multipled with this person as we both vibrate on the same frequency so I don't ever want to be ungreatful I received this person in my life but there are times I wish I could control the energy from them as we are trying to understand what is happening to us and learn more about each other. I am fully aware that all my chakras are set on fully open, I have just never figured out how to close them so any advice would be great.
- I am into crystal healing and I have them all around me. There are some of wear as jewelery, I have a selection I always carry with me in my pockets. A few years ago the kids and I had the opportunity to go to an amethyst mine and we found a box full of different ones that spoke to us. They are now everywhere in my home including under my pillow. I couldn't believe how much they have helped control the night terrors I have suffered from past trama / PTSD. Is there a crystal that u know of that helps empaths? I was told wearing onyx helps empaths block negative energy vibrations however after several months of wearing both a bracelet and I have a pendant I don't notice a difference in helping block negative energy. I do notice it helps with other areas. I do discharge and recharge my crystals every few weeks.
What is CBD? How do you use metallotherapy? The Tibetan healing rings sounds extremely interesting. I am going to have to look into the costs and how to use them.
- I live in my bathtub, the heat helps with the nerve damage. I am wondering what you use in your bathwater to help release the negative energy? Depending upon my mood I have everything from bubble bath to coconut oil to different scented Epson salts. I have even tried scented teas in the water to see if the scents can help with the nerve pain. I can't actually stand the taste of tea but some of the scents are really nice. How do you use the bath to release the negitivity energy. I am thinking since I am in the bath anyway all the time maybe I can get an extra benefit of releasing my negative energy.
Thank you again for your kindness and help...
Can a Narcissist be an empath?
I just went through a very painful experience where I thought I was talking to an empath. An empath who I honestly thought was extremely nice, helpful and enlightening but now I am not so sure. After everything that was said it feels like it was a witch hunt. I am still unsure what they wanted but I was taught in school to protect all personal information about those around me, so I was made out to be a horrific monster. Whatever!
I am just extremely sad and disappointed not because of the attack but because I believe they were being sincere in their information about empaths and hopefully help learning to control it. Also I assumed we were connecting as friends which it turns out that I was just a fool to believe a friendship was possible. Lesson learned!
I am still trying to understand empaths as I have only accepted that I am one. Can a Narcissist be an empath? Are there evil empaths? Why would an empath hurt another empath knowing how much we feel? How can an empath supposedly know what another empath is truly feeling when the only thing connecting them is an internet connection at 2 points in the world? The tears have been wiped away and now I just am hopeful that someone has advise on how to protect myself from ever feeling this way again.
I am looking for other methods than meditation, I know that is the most recommended but I need to learn how to control the empath part before I can master meditation or visualization. Those will be on my to do list to learn next.
updated by @so-exausted-from-users: 09/05/18 06:49:48AM
I have been using crystals for about 6 years now. It started with an amethyst under my pillow to help so I don't have so many bad dreams or night terrors. I couldn't believe it when two weeks later I realized that I hadn't had a single bad dream in that time. I got some books on crystals to help me learn how to clear out old energy and charge with positive energy. Some stones charge better in the moon light, expecially on a full moon where others charge better in the sunlight. Some stones need to be charged by other stones for leaving them in a window no matters the time of day can hurt their structure. Amber is a really good example of a stone that should never be left in the window. Books are wrote differently depending upon where the belief system is coming from.. ie Native Americans will believe different values and cleaning/charging of the stones be a Celtic background so keep that in mind when you are doing your research. There is lots of good tools and research out there on stones. The best ones are if u can actually go mining and pick the stones from the earth. Not all you can do that with but I get most my power from amethysts which I was able to mine a large box work and bring them home with me...
I now have an amethyst that is my favorite that lives in my pocket (or bra if I don't have pockets) or in my bed.. it is never far from me. This was my favorite one. I have about 10 under my pillow and can go as long as 5 months without a bad dream now. I have one to a rape victim and it has helped her hugely. I remind her every couple of weeks to discharge and recharge the stone.
I always wear a bunch of bracelets with different stones and my pockets have some that at the end of the day I move into my bed so the energy is always with me. I also have larger crystals that live in me bed to help my energy charge while I sleep..
After washing/charging my stones I feel so much better.
Hopefully this had helped some... Remember that everyone is unique so the stones may not always react the same as with someone else.
I believe that it is a sign also and I get them all the time also.. Before with everyone else I always knew what they meant. A year ago I met someone new and he has totally transformed my life, he is a twin flame and no where close to a normal relationship as all twin flames find out. I still get the signs as before but with him they are no where even close to what I have always known them with other people.
I have found that the best for me is I get a tarot reading when I am really lost and depending upon what I learn I either wait to see how it will play out or I take the information and use it as a starting point for self discovery.
It sounds to me like you are about to embark on an incredible journey of discovery for yourself, where it leads will take u to a new point in your life that u never expected just like the first one did. It won't be easy like the first one, there will be hurt, healing and happiness but once u are there like u can do know u will look back and realize what it all means just like you can do now..
I like the simple signs that are easy to read but the complex one have such a huge impact on changing my life for the better.
I wish you all the best...
For any one who has anything to do with the real world of what 50 Shades tried to do was so disappointed but I read read the books.. the movie was tamed down some but the books was a huge disappointment also..
I am very unique.. that kind of stuff doesn't bother me to talk about at all and so many people I know come to me for advice I do have to be careful with the online presence... Complicated...
I am normally a dominant person and being the oldest feeds into it along with being a Taurus.. I almost always have to have the last word unless I don't feel like the person is worth waisting my time on.. ie.. someone who has road rage...
With my twin flame he is a middle child so he goes with the flow and he is a Pisces so he is normally what one would call submissive. He won't be pushed around but will do anything he can to make sure that a conflict can be avoided.
With us at times when we are intimate we reverse roles and I let him have the power and I have to really work on not trying to get the last day...
Now I am not into the real pain of it so it does become interesting to see how someone who normally doesn't control a situation now need to have control over a bratty sub who doesn't exactly feel like following the rules...
It is very freeing and u learned a lot about you and your twin when the roles are reversed. It am not saying run out and grab some whips and chains but see how well you can take simple orders from your twin or blind folded u and use a scarf (handcuffs can cut up wrists) to tie your hands so u have to rely upon them... See how it works for now needing the last word. See how it can be freeing and what u guys learn about each other.
Oh yeah the most important thing is that even as the submissive u will still hold all the power cause if done safely the submissive is also give a safe word or gesture (when the mouth is full/gagged) and the second that word /gesture is used all play stops. The submissive has the most power.
I know that my answer took a totally different turn it was the exchange of energy that first interested me in the subject and the last 10 years I have read so many books on it and talked with several people I know who are into it. I have no idea how much you know but if it is very little then trust me 50 shades of grey was a very poor represention of the whole dynamic.
I enjoy watching others at fetish clubs also, the way the dynamic of the interaction between the energy and power is so interesting...
I hope that I haven't offended anyone with my answer.
It was the easiest way for me to walk in someone else's shoes and my twin to walk in mine... He had never done anything like it but he found he learned so much about himself and me also...
I hope that this helps u with your question and I didn't totally misunderstand u.
@ Chezarey Thank you.
It hasn't been an easy journey and I took the 3 year. Being single to find myself and working towards placing boundaries up.
I am teaching my kids that no one has the right to treat them that way.. It took a little while longer for my 17 year and daughter to see it and I am very proud of her. She is ending her relationship with her boyfriend because of the abuse. She said why should I she put up with it if her mom won't.
The guy she has dated for several years was a soulmate. I told her it is ok to let soulmates go. There is nothing wrote in stone that says that just cause u guys are soulmate u don't have the right to be respected.
She now wants to take the time to heal. At 17 they dated for approx 4 years.. She couldn't understand at the time why I refused to date for the first couple years, now she wants to follow what I did and take a year or so off of dating to find herself. I told her that is very healthy. She is also asking for counseling.
She has a long way to go but sees that no matter what negative remarks dad says it has helped me grow.
I have never told her about twin flames. I am just not ready to share that with her yet. My twin and I agreed right from the beginning that until we are in an actual serious relationship and have been in one for 6 to 12 months neither of us meets the others kids. I watch so many who involve their kids only a few months later to end it. I don't believe in that, neither does my twin. He has had a few girlfriend after his marriage ended and waits as long as possible before having his kids the the new girlfriend meet. He said I am the first person who has never pressured him into meeting his kids... I told him kids need to be protected and into we can figure this out all them are off limits.
I actually hope that neither of my kids ever find their twin flame. After this last year my friend said that even with all the positive change she never wants to meet her twin flame. She is counting on me and my empath feeling to guide her away from hers.. She can't believe what a person has to go through once they meet them.
This has been a very interesting chat... I really enjoy it..
If you guys have any other questions about what I have said please ask.. I don't mind at all.
Plus it will give me practice. My therapist wants to to seriously look at in another year or two once I have finished all legal aspects in the courts except for the divorce to find out how to make a no profit company and help other spouses who have their loved ones in the same career in the same field as my ex and are going through the same hell. I was strong enough to survive mine, many are not and give up losing everything or take their own lives.
Over the next year after I finish this last round of court I am going to look at if it is a possibility to do. My therapist said he isn't going anywhere and will help me however he can..
As for my twin flame, he is on the fence about it, he is only worried I could be dragged back down but he told me that he also knows I have the strength to do it and no one should have to live through it. He will be there however he can...
I do miss my twin flame while in separation but using a pink quartz I wear I talk to him all the time..I am able to hear his soul talking back as long as the stress in my life isn't blocking it..
Does anyone else get that their stress blocks the connection?
We live on different sides of the country. There is a full separation. Only contact is through the courts. But stopping domestic abuse isn't as simple as one thinks when the law gives him certain rights and those from victims services are terrified of helping because of the power behind the career is has. No one left to report to when he has police all willing to help him out as a favor to his career. He didn't know a single one of them he had causing me harrassment. He interfere with my incoming funds and had them all stopped for 90 days. The agencies called me and told me they ran out of luck and couldn't collect on the court orders after the 90 day mark. I spent hours researching on how to solve it and had to do the agency work for them.. I am terrified of what the mail has so many times there is a new stunt in there... He uses the kids to hurt me cause he knows that I would do anything to protect them...
I HAVE NOT SEEN OR TALKED TO HIM IN 4 YEARS. My ex other that legality is not in my life but that doesn't mean I can stop the abuse. His career gives him extra rights... He isn't a cop but think along those lines. I could go to the media but I want my kids as adults.. I prefer not to throw mud in the media and hurt the kids more. The courts have put it in the court offers he has to stop abusing the kids and I but he ignores them. With the extreme PTSD I can't work right now from massive panic attacks. If I really pushing the issue and used lawyers to write to the government there is I high possibility that he could be fired but until I can get back on my feet I lose my only incoming funds. The courts were fed up with his actions and awarded me a very healthy spouse support. The child support helps with the kids expenses.
Yes I said I love him.. but the man I married, not the man he is now. We communicate via lawyer and the courts.. I stay married but separated from him just to protect my kids future in case something happens to him. His job is a higher risk attached to it.
My ex is a soulmate who I am so over. He lives hundreds of thousands of miles away but has Access to computers and programs that people don't know that exists.. In a computer age distance don't stop people any more.
My twin flame came along 3 years later. The is the opposite of my soulmate/estranged husband.. My twin encourages me to do things that interest me, help me when my ex has sucked out all my energy. Yeah my twin does run lots but he is terrified he isn't good enough for me and fighting to deal with his past. That bond always tells him when I have hit rock bottom and he will come to me right away just to hold me and help me sort through new options to deal with the newest stunt my ex has caused.. My twin on some of the worst days has packed me up and just taken me away for a few days to clear my head. My twin flame hates my ex just cause of the damage he see in me.
It has been a long 5 years but the last year has had so many bright spots after meeting my twin.. he helps give me the courage to keep fighting. With his spiritual awakening happening our union is coming... All my tarot readings since I have met him keep getting more positive.
As for my knight in shining armor.. that is me. I am the one who will rescue me.. I spend hours going through the legal books to find out ways to help protect my kids and myself from my ex. My twin and my therapist and sounding boards to help me sort out what I learn.
Trust me, I wouldn't ever go back to my soulmate/estranged husband, yes there are some wonderful memories there and I prefer to focus on those but I won't ever let anyone treat me how he has since he walked out.. Now I just keep picking up the messes he causes..
I hope that helps with confusion.
Oh yeah as for stone therapy, The amethysts that I use I actually went mining them myself. I wear or carry (or both) several different types of stones.
I have also had the opportunity to mine some myself.
I started carrying them with me at all times about a year after my husband walked. I didn't care anymore.. this is my life and I had to find out who I was as a person and a mother..
I no longer let others dictate what I am and am not allowed to believe for faith Or do. I just ignored the minor things to keep our family together.. the bigger things I put my foot down at the time. With my twin is I don't like what he said I tell him straight away... My twin once told me that it is so refreshing to have some who is as honest as I am because he knows straight out if he crossed a line vs trying to have to guess what upset me.
He also know that there are many parts of me hidden and he keeps reminding me that I only need to share when I am ready. Same goes for him.
I don't remember who ask if the kids were being brainwashed or just being kids. The last part was to explain it is pure abuse and brainwashing.
When my husband walked out 4 years ago and I finally found out about the young girl he was having the affair with I blocked all forms of communication with him. Unfortunately with his career he uses other services to harassment me like having police officers on my doorstep accusing me of hitting the kids. Both kids tell them I don't ever touch him but with them doing my ex a favor the officers don't listen to the kids or I. The final straw was the day I heard my ex's voice through the phone and the police was repeating everything he said. I called the supervisor and things turned worse for me.. I had no rights to complain. I called my parents in tears.. I was so close to a mental breakdown and my parents hired a domestic abuse divorce lawyer and by time the officers returned to the station the lawyer had worked her magic and no police officer was allow back at my house without a warrant. I was now off limits. He does all kinds of things like that.. I refuse to ever have anything to do with him again except in a court room. He has officially distroyed anything left between us. It has been 4 years of nightmares however the more boundaries I add the less he can effect me.
It took me 3 years before I was willing to attempt to date again.. The first one was a karmic relationship and he showed me that I could be loved again but it wasn't meant to last long, just to get me the courage to try. The next one was my twin..
So there was 3 1/2 years between 2 guys making my bed.. not quite the same excitement level..
But on a totally different note I have had my husband and another guy and a girl in my bed with me all at the same time.. for most of our marriage we were swingers so it would not have been a big surprise to have 2 guys making my bed at once.
My husband never left because of the swinging.. With how sick I was we had put swinging on the shelf plus he was gone again with work. My therapist and I had lots of talks about it.. reality is that being a swinger or not he would have cheated anyway. Looking at the way he treated the kids in the end. A person who is a narc doesn't care about what is good for the family only what is good for them. At the beginning he had it all under control and it only came out here and there however his career focused on him using being a narc to his advantage and was rewarded for it.
The part that pissed my parents off is that I do still love him, not the man he has become but the one I married 20 years ago. That guys who no longer exists will always have a part of my heart. I will never go back to him, I respect myself way to much to go back.
Also I love my twin very much, he has taught me that I am supposed to be treated with dignity and respect not put down. I am just frustrated that he is still running however I understand the why.. my twin and I are moving forward and I do believe with all my heart we will find union once he finishes his spiritual awakening.
Hope that clears up confusion.. Any other questions just ask.
Just wanted to make sure you guys know that just because I believe in the spiritual energy and I do follow so wicca I am still finding myself. I don't believe in doing any major spells on anyone. I do use a healing spell on the twin flame connection in hopes it will continue to aid in healing both of us. I actually is the only spell I have ever tried. My soulmate/estranged husband would have made me feel horrible if he found out that I wanted to try using on. He always said he was open to it but in his passive aggressive way he would put me down for believing. I also am into stone therapy and I suffered from horrible night terrors from my past pain. Least once a week or more. I found an amethysts under the pillow helps stop them. I was sceptical and my husband was away for work. When he returned a month later and was making the bed one morning he found the stones under my pillow and started to yell at me about having rocks in our bed. Once he left the room I put the stone back under my pillow. The thing that surprised me was that it actually worked.. I now only get night terrors once every few months.. when I went to go spend time with my twin I brought my one amethyst I use for protection and always carry it on me. I had it under my pillow, when I was showering my twin made the bed and without ever saying a word about it he laid it on top of my pillow. It was several weeks later when I asked him if he knows why I have the stoplne with me. He said nope but I know it is something important to you and when u are ready u will tell me. He continued on saying that he knew that my ex has hurt me really bad and he needs me to realize that he is nothing like him, that I need to be comfortable to share with him. I did open up to him and he thought that it was interesting. I actually gave him his own and he uses it all the time. I have given him a rose quartzs also and explained how to use it also.
My twin also believes in tarot and has a set however he has never actually opened them or gotten a reading and when he found out that I believe in it he couldn't believe how close we were in what we believed. He now wants me to start to teach him what all I do believe in.
I believe in the wiccan 3 fold rule. That anything I do that is negitivie (expecially spells) will come back it effect me 3 fold (times as bad).
I don't ever want to be associated with anyone who has negitivie energy it is really hard for me to be around them.
The interesting thing you guy are taking about the 3 in 1 - God Jesus and holy ghost is all based upon the triquetra and several Christian religions use the triquetra to symbolize it. I actually wear a triquetra and am planning on getting one tattooed on the back of my neck. It comes from the Celtics meaning 3 in 1. I was raised going to a Lutheran Church and at 16 I took all the classes. At 21 when my life took a wrong turn and I was hurt really bad I was no longer able to believe in God and I went searching for answers and for something that made sense to my soul. I took classes about religious history while working towards my degree. And I learned that while everyone has different principals in different regions the core of them all is the same.. FAITH.. I have always believed since that point that it doesn't matter what u believe the biggest thing is to have faith in something more. I taught my kids that they are allowed to believe in whatever they want as long as it doesn't hurt them or someone else and they never push their views on anyone else. My ex's family is Mormon and we're he never expected me to follow it his family would push hard for me to join. After a couple of tries i was pushed one night by missionary into an anxiety attack resulting in a minor breakdown. His family had pushed the missionaries on me while my husband was away for work and I thought I had to play nice. When he returned and found out what had happened he took me along with him to the highest ranking family member in the church and lost it on him. I was now off grounds for anyone who was Mormon. Never again will I be put in that situation. I was surprised that he stood up for me. It was about this time he also stopped going to church. He needed me to be ok to look after our kids with him being away for months at a time for work.
It was one of the very few times that he stood up for me to his family.
You asked about the brainwashing to my kids..
I am actually still married to my soulmate estranged husband/kids father and we are only officially seperated with no plans for a divorce on either side. I am currently working on finishing separating everything through the courts except for the divorce certificate. I am holding onto my widow rights to ensure that the kids are looked after if something happens to him. His career has a high risk factor to it. My twin flame has been trying to talk me into a divorce so I am free from my ex. Neither my twin or I want to ever be married again however we have talked about a commitment ceremony without legally tieing us to each other. He has his own horrible stories of marriage also. We actually talked about this before I knew that we were twin flames.
There is absolutely no doubt that my ex is abusive. I have been in therapy for the past 3 years to help cope with the abuse. The kids and I suffer from extreme PTSD and the last judge I was in court for said this is one of the worst cases of domestic mental abuse she has ever seen. The abuse is actually listed as phycological warfare where POW's have been treated with more dignity and respect than the kids and I have been. Unfortunately because of his career he is almost untouchable. I live in a first world country and yet there are no laws for certain people in this country. He uses the kids to try to hurt me. My twin always knows when something has happened and I am in piece and be will end the separation to come to me to help me rebuild. He feels the pain I am going through and knows that I need help. He has been helping me as best as he can to start putting up boundaries with the kids in order to help stop my ex from being able to hurt the kids or me. I now give my kids one warning that this conversation is over the minute I heard dad or about dad's views. I am happy to talk about anything else going on with the kids but I will not put up with this conversation. The next time I heard about dad or his views I will either hang up or walk away. It took a while for the kids to see I was serious but now they thank me for my way of dealing with it. It is giving them the power to tell Dad to stop. Mom won't be part of it and will either hang up or walk away. She doesn't put up with us being in the middle of you guys problems. From what I understand my ex has stopped alot of it.
Because of the extreme PTSD I am unable to work right now so I live off of spouse and child support. Things are tight but I make a budget and am able to get subsidys to make sure that we live within the funds I receive. Any extras the kids want I either have to save up for it they pay for it themselves as they both have jobs.
Because of his career he is almost untouchable to have supported garnished off his pay. I had to go to the leader of our country to get his pay garnished after the agency that is supposed to collect it ran into so much read tape they couldn't collect on the court order.
The government leader also arranged for me to receive the actual laws that applies to my ex's careers as they don't follow the laws of the land. My ex messed with my payments at the beginning of December stopping the garnishment so I didn't receive anything for Christmas. By time the agency that collects the payments was willing to let me know that nothing was coming it was only a few days before Christmas. It was way to late to get food or subsidys for Christmas to help me have a Christmas dinner and presents for the kids. He then made a huge deal about how unreliable I was and ensured each kid got something from him. Over the next 90 days I had to borrow funds from my parents and wait for the agency to let me know that with the red tape involved they will no longer be able to collect any funds. At that point suffering massive panic attacks I called up the person who was incharge of my husband's department and after getting chewed out for 10 mins and threatened that I will be charged for harrassment because I had no rights to call I turned around and read the paragraph that applied to him, making him legally responsible for ensuring that the garnishments went through. This person was upset that I had a couple of the laws, those were not to be released to the public. I told him that he is the one out of line and I have no problem letting the highest level of government know exactly what he just told me cause that is how I got the laws, just because he doesn't believe I should have it doesn't mean that I can have them, they are public record online I was just told where to look by the government. He told me that the payment was on its way. By the following day at the end of the day I had 90 days worth of pay that had cleared the 3 departments required and was sitting in. My bank account waiting for the 3 days to be cleared. There is absolutely nothing stopping my ex from pulling this stunt again when he gets a new leader. It is all so very frustrating and he did it when he knew it would hurt the kids and I the most. No one at this point is willing to go after the outstanding debt he owes in spouse and child support. His debt is over $62,000 at this point and where everyone who has a debt that high would have lost rights he is protected.
So many have told me to take it to the news paper and who knows that may be an option one day but not at this point. With my kids being 17 and 19 I still wanted to protect them and let them finished having a child hood. My therapist wants me to look at becoming an advocate for others who are in the same situation and dealing with the same organization once I finally have a handle on mine.
I married my soulmate 20 years ago after dating for a year. At the start things were good. When he changed careers after we had been married for 4 years with 2 young kids he started to change. I didn't see it but looking back I now see how the abuse started then. It wasn't often but he would ensure that my self confidence was distroy at times. I gave up my career so the kids had a steady parent with them at all times because he was always gone. Then the moving for his career every 2 years started and he would go away for months leaving me in a city I had no connections to. It was really hard on the kids and I. As the kids got older I tried to go back to work and without fail when I finally got hired for a gob that I liked I would find out that we had to move again. I then ended up really sick and had to have my gall bladder removed unfortunately over the next 3 day something had gone really wrong and I was bleeding internally. I had 60% of my blood supply and the only thing that had kept me alive was that I was to weak to do anything other than lie on my back. About 12 hours before I begged my husband to take me to the hospital that I was dieing and I needed help. He refused and told me to stop sucking..that I just felt crappy from the day surgery 2 days before. I didn't have the strength to fight him or to get my cell phone on the other side of the room. 12 hours later when he came to get on my case to stop being lazy and get out of bed cause we had to take the trip home I told him I needed help to get up. I was way to weak. After getting attitude and a lecture from him he helped lift me up. I started to convulse so he called 911.
I was rushed to the hospital. My blood pressure was very faint and from the time of the 911 call to being back in the operating room was 30 mins. They were unable to start an IV except in my neck as everything had collapsed. They pushed 4 bags of blood and a bag of plasma in me to keep me alive.
If my husband had waited 30 mins to wake me I would have been dead.
The medical feild feels that this was medical abuse because he wouldn't get me help when I begged him for it.
He walked out a year later and made me feel horrible. He verbally beat me down starting the day he came home to ask for a seperation. 16 years of marriage meant nothing to him. He wouldn't admit to the affair he was having with someone half my age. Normally I wouldn't care about age but the girl was way to close in age to our kids. She is only 5 and 7 years older than our kids and yes one of them is a daughter. The kids took a lot of crap from kids at school that they never wanted anything to do with my kids dad because how young does he like them.
Things just got worse after that. He was pushing me in to having a mental breakdown. He didn't want me to go to court to get maintenance. As far as he was concerned he walked out of the family so he didn't need to support the kids anymore. Him and his new girlfriend went partying around the world and paying support would take funds away from party funds.
Things actually got a lot worse.
Both kids have hit rock bottom and needed me to clean up the mess.
The brainwashing of the kids has been documented and I am now working on getting counseling for them.
My twin flame coming into my life has changed me so much and help me see things in a different way and has helped me learn how to move forward and live life for me.
I am now seeing how much my ex did control all of our lives. The kids still trying to have a relationship with dad but they are finding it harder and harder to do.
As for my twin wanting me to divorce my ex him and I have come to an agreement that as long as we are still together I will look at it when my baby is 21. He understands my reasons and has agreed to my terms after I validated it.
I hope that this helps..
I don't want to change anyone's views just for u to see a different side of them. I have no idea what is the right or wrong way for religion, all I believing is the key..
All the best to everyone..
I don't actually understand the whole number thing but I have read that 11 and other wierd things are between twin flames. Both my kids were born on 11th of different months. The place I moved into has 11 as part of the address. I knew someone who lived in this exact spot 7 years ago and their marriage was broken at the time however they fixed it in this place. The minute I realized that this was the exact same place I knew out of the 10 places that my kids and I looked at this was the one where I could heal. After a few weeks of messaging with my twin we met in person on Aug 11 which is my other closest friends birthday. My closest friend has twins who I am like an aunt to. They were born on the 11th also.. They are exactly 10 years younger than my youngest because they all share the same birthday.
Other interesting things about my twin and I is that there is a good chance that my and I at least seen each other in high school. We lived an hour apart in a rural area and he would come to my high school for sports to play again our teams and for track and field. I went to his high school for school dances. We don't remember each other but that doesn't mean we didn't see each other.
If you use my maiden name mine and my twins the initials for the first and last name are reversed. Mine would have been C.B and his B.C.
We have both almost died and the life saving surgeries were exactly the same. Only his was at birth and mine was when I was 39.
We have been gone through extremely crapy experience and were broken when we met. We are healing but there is no way we will ever be truly healed from all the damage, however I don't believe that will stop us from finding union. Neither of us believe in God but we both believe in spiritual energy. (Another first)
There are a bunch of other wierd things like that where as anyone else I had never had anything in common with anyone I have ever dated or my soulmate/estranged husband.
There are a lot of other similarities between us also.
I am not worried about understanding the numbers at this point, I just found it interesting how I have so many 11's in my life and how many things him and I have in common..
With my soulmate I never had any of those interested things with him.
Take care everyone
Are you ok?
Sounds like you have had a really ruff day. I have had my fair share of them in my life. I have blocked all contact with my soul mate except through lawyers and the courts. He changed so much and not in a good way..
He does still have power over me to hurt me however I am working on taking it away from him. It will still take a while before it is all gone but since meeting my twin I am getting better at taking away my soulmates power.
I am here if you need to talk.
The chat board is on several different topics but u can pick the areas that u want to follow. It is on Quora where I get advice and give others help.
I get the fighting part that your twin does. For almost 44 years I fought being an empath.. I haven't decided yet if I liked it better before I knew I was one and went my spiritual awakening or now . I still struggling with it. My twin, closet friend and therapist all feel that I am doing better now. I still have ruff days and get lost in all the emotions of those around me. I suspect that with time I will get better at acceptance. The one thing that shocked me is that since I went through my spiritual awakening and have done more healing that my twin has felt it and he told me that my energy is helping him to heal, he doesn't know how or why but he knows that it has something to do with our bond. I never believed that one twin can heal from the other until I saw it working. I may not have actually told him that name of what we are called but we have talked about all the things we feel and how we can feel each other's energy.. How the bond works. I am a very open and honest person with those I care for and love, if I have something bothering me or making me happy I tell the other person if I sense they are open to hearing it.
Anything else feel free to ask..
Thinking about people
I only have it about one person in my life. I only have had it for the past year and where we have fallen in love we are not together currently.. We spend more time apart in turmoil feeling each others feeling than we have spent together. However we know that absolutely moment when each other has hit rock bottom and we need each other so we contact each other..
Then we have to be separated for the healing process can take place. I didn't believe that it could actually be possible but as I am working on healing my soul his soul is also being healed. the ledgen says that we both have each half of the same soul and they vibrate on the same frequency so we can hear each other's souls talking to each other.. I didn't actually believe that either until I went through the rest of my awakening process now as of March I can hear his soul telling me what he needs.. He is currently going through his spiritual awakening, and starting to hear mine however he doesn't understand exactly what is happening and from everything I have learned is that I can't just give him the answers but let him find them on his own time.. it could be tomorrow or years from now before he understands it and comes to me..
so yes I totally understand where you're coming from and I know for a fact that the other person can be in the same energy vibrations as you are in..
I am very curious about the process as once I found out and I am constantly asking him for clarification on what it is that he feels and letting him know exactly what I feel.. It has given both of us huge amounts of validation that we are not going crazy but this is actually what each other feels..
Hope this is helpful..
I hope you find the answers u are searching for..
Not sure if this is where I belong
Been there done that, don't worry so much about it. I find that the harder I force it the crazier I get.. I have only this last few months stop fighting mine. I am lucky enough that my therapist is an empath also.
Cause I can't meditate he told me when I am feeling that crazy feeling find your ground (I am still looking for mine but I spotted my son's right away, as soon as I learned what I was I spotted it in my family like, my dad is one also along with my son) A lot of people find their ground is nature.. I sit in a hot bubble bath and try to sort through the feeling/ thought.. what am I really feeling and what do I know about those around me are dealing with.. It is harder when people don't own their feelings or are ready to share... If a feeling doesn't match what I am going through I file it in the back of my mind for later.. Those are the things that I should know but I do.. When people are ready to share it finally clicks.
The more you can learn to let the emotions flow through u the less crazy u will feel.. it isn't easy and I am still struggling with it.. being linked with another doesn't help either and I am watching him start his awakening process.. He doesn't understand yet why he is feeling my energy so strong and I am afraid to tell him to quickly.. There is also a desire level there for each other but we are not together as he is dating someone else. His emotions are the hardest on me cause I know his soul and ours talk together even when we are no where near each other.
It is so crazy to hear his calling me when he needs help and mind does the same to him.
I find that when I am the most lost and think I am losing it that it is my kids or this other persons emotions and not mine.
Hospitals are also extremely hard on me expecially if there is someone close in the final days or hours. My mom spent 6 months in the hospital last summer and I still didn't know that I was an empath.. There were so many days I would go home and cry but not understand why.. I could sleep, eat.. I felt like walk dead expecially from long days there and when someone had been so close to death.. i felt everyone elses pain as they were saying goodbye.. I went through a lot of Ativan and a lot of therapy appointments to keep me from feeling like I was going crazy.. I never put the signs together that I was feeling everyone elses pain. Swear I saw a few of the people afterwards.. once I accepted the empath I realized that I did and have seen spirits all my life..
Finding a therapist that is an empath has helped me out so much.. finding people who believe u and u can talk to to help u sort your feelings and thoughts out will help big time.. this chat community is an awesome resources but having someone else to confide it will make it real.. something about saying it out loud to another person makes it so it isn't all in your head but real... I have my therapist (There are alot who don't believe in empaths or can give u the wrong advice so be careful as u go looking if that's what u want.. I watched as the person I am linked to had the wrong one.. it caused him to feel as he was totally crazy.. Once I realized that was happening I talked him into stopping seeing his... We will find someone to help not hurt him)
I also have a friend who for the last 5 years has been there for everything.. making sure that I don't fall off into the crazy.. she wasn't sure at first about me but I knew things about her that she never shared with anyone and I couldn't explain why I knew or why for the first time I felt I could trust someone else enough to start sharing.. She was skeptical at times but never doubted me but what I said would come true.. She now helps me sort out things and helps when she lets me know what are her emotions..
Trust in yourself.. and allow time to help.. I have no patience yet I am now having to learn it.. it is a hard thing to understand but it will come.. Go with the flow...
Not sure if this is where I belong
I suspect that u are exactly at the right spot.
All my life i swear i knew what others were thinking.. I knew when something emotional painful was headed my way.. My friend would humour me and say yeah, yeah so and so is going ro hurt u.. After time she stopped doubting me and tried so hard to comfort me that it wasn't going to be that bad.. sadly it was.. She started to call it my superpower... as for superpowers it is a really sucky one.. I also could've explain it but i knew things i shouldn't have..
I always knew that I was going to die around 40 also. 5 years ago at 39 i actually almost did die, i lost 3 litters of blood internally and there is no medical reason why I should still be here. 4 years ago my life turned into a nightmare when my husband and soulmate walked out of our marriage and because extreamly emotionally abusive with the kids and i... Trying to hold on to my sanity by my fingertips I started to see a therapist 3 years ago. Not once did he make me doubt what I knew of could feel however he got on my case to read a book by Judith Orloff.. Between legal mess, my kids and not really ready to do the reading assignment i found a million of reasons to put it off. A year ago I attempted to try dating again after 20 years and the universe put my twin flame in my path.. A twin flame is where u and this one person share a soul, it intensifies all relationship emotions however magnifies the pain and forces you to start to heal.. Yes there is lots of passion involved but the pain is not fun. A constant rollercoaster of emotions and seperation from the other person as you both are trying to work things out.. I don't wish a twin flame relationship for anyone. The up side is rhat it makes u do the painful work of evaluating your emotions and the pain so instead of running from it you face the pain and heal by makinging it strength. After a horrible week of crying and fighting with the pain i picked up the book he wanted me to read.. I have now read most of her books in the last couple of months.. I swear that she was telling my story just from another view point.. I understood why my therapist wanted me to read it... I had fought for 44 years against being an empath and it was tearing me apart.. I am now learning how to incorporate the empath into me and i don't feel so crazy anymore.. I also now can pick up on positive energy vibration not just the negitive ones.. I don't meditate as suggested.. It is a skill i suck at along with visualizations.. But as weird as it sounds i hear voices.. Not other people's but my thoughts are constant voices who are always talking.. there are several of them.. its refered to a monkeys mind.. where the mind is never at rest..
U are not crazy.. Trust me.. u are just lost.. Work on finding out how to accept the empath in u and I can't promise that things will be better but it will help so u don't have that feeling like u are going crazy... Judith is one of the top doctors in her feild in the states and is also an empath.. There are several techniques she talks about in her books to help to embrace the empath.
I wish u good luck and know u are not alone...
I was in therapy after my husband had walked out of the marriage he became extreamly emotionally abusive. I was telling him in one of the first appointments I have always known things I shouldn't and my friend calls it my super power however i hate it, I can a lot of times tell if something negitive is about to happen in my life however just not always what it is that will happen, I just now I am about to be emotional hurt. I also told him as weird as it sounds, when i worked in bars/pubs and later on when I would go as a customer i could tell if it would be a good night or one where there would be lots of fights, I could pick up the energy somehow. There are also certain people I refuse to get close to and find excuses as social functions to never be near them.. He never doubted me like most have in my past and over the next 2 years told me about books I should read by Judith Orloff. I had so much crazy going on at home I never bothered howver i do read a book every couple days iwanted to escape wheni can, not learn The abuse just kept getting worse and he cause of his career was involving different agencies to facilitate the abuse. The kids were also receiving it also so all my energy was focused into protecting then. He then gave e an audio book and wanted me to listen to some chapter out of it.. took me another 4 months before I got around to hearing it.. Well crap I am an empath and he knew a along, it was confirmed on our next appointment... reason why he didn't tell me was that this in more about the self understanding than the diagnosis. I suspect u are at this state where u know have learned but u haven't gotten to the actual self understanding. Trust me there is a huge difference.. Took me another 3 months before my soul finally understood what my mind knew.. I had been fighting my empath side for almost 44 years and i didn't see the up sides only the negitive to this point so i ran from it and half of who i am. I was working through other issues (I found my twin flame accidentally also and that throws so much more craziness and issues to heal) and after 2 days and nights of none stop crying i had finally stopped. I had also finally borrowed from the library one of Judith Orloff's books a week before. I stopped crying finally, picked up her book and the next 16 hours I read the whole book. It made so much sence and has helped me to finally start actually understanding it. I still have a ways to go as these discoveries started the last week of December and first week of March. My therapist is helping fill in the blanks. Be careful with therapist as not all believe in empaths and can do more harm than good. Mine believes and knew what I was as he is one also. It was harder for him when he went looking cause there was less recognized medical doctors talking about it then.
Hopefully this will help u some.
I need help or something/anything
As someone who has been to hell and back some days you need to remember to breath. People can only take from u what u allow them to take. It has taken me a long time to learn that lesson. The loss of your empath abilities is cause she messed with your mind. our mind can do more damage to us by believing in someone else crap that anyone else can do. Start small with your empath abilities and slowly work on it plus work on your self love. self love is the hardest love to achive to the most rewarding. As for the soul mate /twin flame they are 2 very different things. He may very well be a soul mate. A soul mate can be any one who as souls have traveled life times with yours. Not every one is romantic, My closet friend and I are mirror soul mates. Also a romantic soul mate may not be in your life forever. My ex husband and I are soul mates but is was never met to last a lifetime as u can tell by the ex part. At this point you should be thankful that he wasn't a twin flame. A twin flame is not a romantic love story but the hardest most painful and hopefully most rewarding love you will ever encounter. Not everyone's twin flame is on the physical plane currently. The reason I know this is I stumbled upon mine and if i knew then what I know now I would have ran as fast as I could the other way. Twin flames make u face everything that hurts inside of u and then they disappear for a bit while u purge and work through the hell u are in until you heal some then they show back up in your life to only have this process repeated until u are finally able to surrender and come into a union. Some people get luck and can go through all this in a few short cycles but most of us are not that lucky and end up with this cycle for years. I hope like hell that my cycle isn't going to be one of those that take 25 years to complete.. I don't think I could handle that much pain. Through the hell I am learning how to love myself and that is my reward, I don't know if i will get the guy at the end or if we will need a few more life time cycles.
I don't know if this helps. If u want more info private message me, I don't mind sharing.. But the first thing u do need to find is your love for yourself.
Energy attack/ how to diss O’Conner form one
I won't lie, brand new at this. In my 40's and with my therapist (who is also an empath) help has been teaching me was of dealing with negitive energy. The first major lesson I needed to learn was to identify where it is coming from. I was only a couple weeks into acceptance of my empath side where I would get these overwhelming moments where I wanted to do and I felt that if I wasn't here I would stop disappointing everyone. I wasn't worth anyones love and I just needed the world to swollaw me up. Only it didn't go with my mood. With my therapist he helped me identify that those were not me but someone at the time I am bonded to by destany, our two vibration are on the same frequency for energy vibration so even with him 4 hours away working and we haven't spoken in person since the end jan, time means nothing with this bond and I know realize 2 things,
#1 he needed help and I wasn't sure what to do. He ghosted me so I was letting him have his space.
#2 How much others effect me and how what I took as my own self hate was really others hitting me with their negitive energy (i have some but not close to what I feel)
After identifying where it is coming from, try to stop it. I finallly reached out to him and we are talking again. we are a ground for each other and he is already doing better.
After grounding yourself is also important. take a walk in a park, play with some plants and the dirt, do something that is your grounding feeling and for most it has something to do with nature. Then meditation, or just imagine that dark energy leaving you how u will feel once it is gone. some meditate in nature to the energy can be released back in the universe, some meditate at an alter where they do every day, I lay in my bed and place different rock crystals on my chakras that are blocked and let their energy vibration help pull are i imagine and pushing out my negitive energy. As an empath there is healing power in your hand. Place rose quarts in your hand, put your hand over your heart and imagine the love. love is more powerful that any other energy out there, the rose quarts amplifies the love touch. It means unconditional love.
Hope it help and I with u all the success in your journey.
My daughter is struggling
I have had huge issues in other areas of life with my children. The number 1 thing you need to do is piroritize what is the main couple issues u want looked at.. u need to have a main goal. The rest will be sub point. If not as u found with the fight with the mental doctor who didn't understand empaths things get lost very quickly.
A really good author who is also trying to educate doctors in North America is Judith Orloff, M.D.
My therapist told me one of the fastest ways of finding out if i want to let a doctor know I'm an empath is to ask their views on her medical opinions, if they share the same views then feel free if i choose to open up, but if not or no idea who she is then keep very quiet about being an empath. It is only starting to become a recognise medical opinion in some circles but most my life until I got the right therapist to help me understand what it was and why I feel things i don't understand (I fought my empath side most my life) did I have any idea who I really was. Before this doctors like to use the term Borderline personality disorder which for the right person is very helpful but an empath just gives the doctors the right to perscribe at will and the diagnosis doesn't help us at all. I tried all the treatments and came out more confused. So yes, be very careful with what is the diagnosis and monitor your daughters medical file, with the digital age that doc you fought with may have wrote down something that has nothing to do with empath and it could come back later and create issues for her, expecially with a career choice where medical records are required.
The other thing is why is your daughter skipping band and is it only band? When my children where skipping the majority of the answer was they were being bullied which could answer the reason why she expressed suicide. Then this become back to a school issue that the make big noise on the media they are trying to stop but alot of school look the other way or pretend it isn't happening.
I hope this helps you out. I wish you the best. It is going to be a thought road ahead but nothing is more rewarding than knowing that you have protected your child's rights.
Meeting your spirit guide
I never realized that they have been talking to me my whole life. Until extreamly recent I had ignored my empath side and everything that was being told to me through the empath abilities. I learned the hard way to never ignore my gut. Then as time went on I was able to pick up on the negitive energy vibration. It is only now I heard them talking. I am still learning what it means and how to ground myself.
That blog was extramly helpful. Thank-you for the link.
Finally accepting my empath I can tell you that those feelings are 100% real. Sometimes it is a internal fight others are having and not ready to accept the pain they are in. After being bonded to the guy I just had to say goodbye to I understand so much more. Before this I thought empaths were a myth and all mine and others pain i tried to ignore and burry. All that succeeded in doing is making me very sick as my body attacks itself, causing me to almost die - a few times now.
Acceptance is the key but it is extreamly hard and painful. I am still trying to figure out how to ground myself now, wonder what others do. Also wonder how others process the emotional side, now that I am now willing to process mine without my body absorption of the emotional pain and attacking it self.
How do other empaths deal with grief ? I just lost someone who has only been in my life gor 7 months. We have had an on again off again relationship where each time he has ran away. Just over night disappeared from my life. We also have a spiritual bond that will always be there for every lifetime. Being with him gave me this feeling of total completeness. The love between us is so overwhelming, that is scares us both. I was in a 20 year marriage 3 years before this and that whole time i have never experienced a love like I do with him. I have had a lifetime of emotional hurt however i have always run from the hurt and buried the pain.. Found was to self mediate or cause physical pain until the emotional pain was not around.. even though it has always been a part of me I have ignored the empath side of me. Did even know that i was one until the end of December when after my therapist had give me the book about it but I didn't bother reading it for the past year an a half. He has been showing me the path but wanted me to do the work and knew when i was finally ready i would go through the book or other information. It wasn't until after meeting this guy and losing him the second time that i was ready to look.. Being conected to him allowed my soul to open up ready to listen. it wasn't until the end of feb that my soul was final ready to listen. I found out there are 3 part... my brain getting the information and understanding...my soul understanding.. and my gut instincts where i receive all the empath energy. Now that my soul is finally open I am really grasping all the energy not just negitive energy vibration. But I also know that I will never see this guy again.. The feeling and bond between us is just to much for him and his soul isn't ready to be open to us. Now I grieve, this emotional pain is like nothing I have ever felt. It is actually also a physical pain. my heart feels like it is having a heart attack. My gut is so upset that i can't hardly put food into it. I have momments where i can hardly breath.. Besides meditation how do others deal with emotional pain this strong? I am looking for positive ways to deal.. I don't want my old habits which are extreamly self destructive.. I want to accept and process this hurt for the first in my my life.
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Have you ever gone through a transition that really changed your whole life?
I just actually had my ahh momment when everything finally clicked. The emotional hell I have been put through was a journey I was set on to actually understand stand. I have always read the self help book.. seen countless counselors and in the past few months actually learned about empaths and a twin flame bonds however the more i learned the more questions I had and less I actually grasped. I found with myself this whole time my biggest problem was me. My brain was learning my soul wouldn't listen and I found was to numb the empath energy. I ended up after fighting with myself after 3 days of no sleep i finally started to listen to myself and the energy the universe has been sending my way. Wow.. First thing I am way to stubbron for my own good.. And second I have heard but never actually listening to the answer I had been looking for.. I still have a ways to go and I somehow have to get my twin flame to catch up on this journey with me. He is just barely at the point where I was 4 years ago.. but our energy is so connected and only just days into having my ahh momment I can't shut off his negitive energy and it is making me sick. The emotional stress is eating away in my body through my blood.
I have no idea if it will help any one else but the biggest obstical in life is the fact that we are not always ready for the answers we seek.. somehow it is more about the journey to get u there than actually grasping it. it has to be heard not through your ears but through your soul.. And until u are 100% ready to grasp the answers u are looking for everything will be in front of u like a puzzle that none of the pieces actually seem to fit. Where I go from here I have no idea and that is tbe beautiful gift about life as one door close other ones open.. It just took me forever to grasp it