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Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
03/01/21 01:07:50PM
277 posts

Family ties/awakening


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Hi Layla,

It's been a long while since I have posted here but you prompted me to share.

  1. I was in my 20s before I realized that I had, aged 3, made the decision to play weak and sickly to get love and attention form my mother. By the time I entered my first corporate job I had long forgotten that a useful and successful strategy with my mother was just that - a strategy! Needless to say, it did not serve me as a successful strategy in the corporate world. LOL!
  2. The science of epigenetics has enabled us to scientifically understand that strong emotions turn on and off DNA flags. So if our parents had strong emotions before we were conceived we literally inherited their emotions in our DNA. Ditto, grandparents, great-grandparents etc.
  3. There is certainly a way in which we are also socially conditioned.  If our parents shouted at us as a child, we may come to think that our romantic partner does care about us unless they shout at us.
    Similarly, one of my clients had an abusive father. His father was also abuse. My client was subconsciously expressing her natural love for her ancestry by loving an abusive partner.

I have been using a process with my clients along this line. I'll share part of it here:

I instruct my clients to honor their ancestors by saying to each generation of the 7 generations that preceded them:
(Ideally this process would be done using photos of the ancestors (parents, grandparents and further back if available). Where photos aren't available, visualizations also work)

"I honor you, my ancestors, for who you were and what you went through.
I honor your gift of life to me.
I honor your love for me and I now understand that I don’t need to honor you by holding, for myself, your emotional DNA and your emotional baggage.
I give back to you, with love, all that is yours and not mine.
I am sharing my love for you and thank you for your love for me."

Hope this helps,

Trevor

Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
03/10/20 12:16:03PM
277 posts

Overcoming fear of the news


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With everything that is going on with the Corona virus, this is a good time to remind all empaths of a few basics:

  1. The easiest way to keep people under control is to keep them in fear.
  2. The role of the media is to hype everything as being worse than it is and so increase the level of fear in the world.
  3. Being in fear only suppresses your immune system.
  4. The fear you may be feeling these days as an empath is NOT yours! Wherever you live, you are almost certainly surrounded by many people who are living in fear. The current news is only amplifying that fear. - Let it go! - Remember, you are far more emotionally healthy than you give yourself credit for. 
  5. Love is the most powerful antidote for fear. Nurture your love for everyone on the planet.
  6. Forgiveness is another strong antidote for fear. A reminder of the Hawaiian technique of ho'opononpono: "I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you".
  7. Service is yet another strong antidote. Who can you be of service to today?
  8. And lastly, non-attachment. Most of all non-attachment to this human body. We are eternal spiritual beings having a human experience. No matter how good the movie is, sooner or later we all have to leave the cinema.

Be well. Bathe in love.
Many blessings,
Trevor


updated by @trevor-lewis: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
02/21/20 11:47:58AM
277 posts



And look at who you are processing right now.- I think your "block" has a lot to do with someone whose energy you are picking up.

Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
12/11/17 10:52:33AM
277 posts

Are you an open book or not?


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@eri-ameonna   There are a number of factors affecting how we pick up energy from other people:

  • Receiving:  Our sensitivity as receivers will factor into how much energy we pick up.
  • Sending:  Some people transmit their energy more strongly than others, and the depth of the emotions that they are experiencing will also turn up the volume that they are sending out.
  • Awareness:  The unaware person may be just as sensitive as the aware person. The latter will understand why they have mood swings; the former will not.
  • Bloodline
    Blood relatives will affect us regardless of where in the world we are and whether we are thinking about them or not. The link between sender and receiver is often stronger where there is a blood connection. Often, empath children may process the emotions of their parents or siblings long into adulthood.
  • Emotional Connection
    Friends and acquaintances will impact us primarily based on the strength of the emotional connection we have to them, largely without regard to physical proximity. The stronger the emotional connection is, the less important the physical proximity is. Having worked from home for many years with teams spread all over the country, I have picked up energy from managers and teammates regardless of location.
  • Physical Proximity
    Neighbors and strangers will influence us based on physical proximity. This is true for the people living in our neighborhood and the strangers we brush up against in the shopping mall.

All that said, it's not as simple as whether the reader is an empath or not.

I suspect you can shield from being read by most empaths just as much as from non-empaths. But if it were an empath that you felt a strong connection with, you were in the same room, you were open to being read, and they were a strong receiver, then - yes - I am sure they could read you like an open book :-)

Hope this helps.

Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
11/21/17 08:26:46AM
277 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


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Hi @gardentiger:

I've talked elsewhere about some people being strong receivers (that's us, the Empaths), others are strong transmitters (which is why we pick up more from some people than others).  The stronger our emotional attachment to them or theirs to us, the more we will receive.

But you ask about how do they feel?  You inspire me to add a new category ... some people are strong "dumpers"; that is, they feel the benefits of dumping on empaths more strongly than other people (consciously or unconsciously) so, more than weaker dumpers, they enjoy being around empaths.

Let me pick up on something else here ... " like having a broken heart going through massive heartache, which is strange, as this is not an emotional state he is going through at the moment as he has no partner or lover in his life at the moment".  Whatever he is feeling may not be current, it may be an old wound that has not been resolved.  Another aspect to what we pick up is that the more in denial the other person is, the more it seems as if we have to process their emotions for them. Most empaths know the conversation we start with "What's wrong" when we take one look at them (with our eyes or with our heart. They say "Nothing's wrong" to which we reply "No. Really! What's wrong?".  The next stage of learning is when we learn not to push what we know to be true but they want to deny it.  Not saying this has to be the case with your friend but just maybe.

Thanks for reading "Thriving as an Empath".

Blessings,

Trevor 

Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
11/13/17 03:36:09PM
277 posts

NEW and looking for classes


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@rainlover

Meetup.com is usually a good source and didn't fail on this occasion for you.  Try this group ...

https://www.meetup.com/Empowered-Empaths-Starseeds-HSPs-lightworkers/

Let us know how you get on.

Blessings


updated by @trevor-lewis: 11/13/17 03:36:22PM
Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
10/22/17 07:16:52PM
277 posts

How Playing a Game Makes You More Empathetic


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I just found this interesting interview with Dr. Jeffrey Mogil from a 2015 NPR TED Radio Hour

http://www.npr.org/2015/03/27/395039920/how-can-playing-a-game-make-you-more-empathetic

Let me cut to the meat:

  1. Stress makes people less empathic.
  2. People are more empathic with friends (less stress) than with strangers (more stress).
  3. People are more empathic with strangers after they have played a game together for 15 minutes.

Details of the interview:

Dr. Mogil first reports that people experience more physiological stress when left in a room with a stranger than with a friend.  He then discusses three experiments; first having a subject put their hand in freezing water on their own, second accompanied by a stranger and third accompanied by a friend. After each, the subject was asked to rate how much pain they felt. The subjects reported the same pain whether they were with a friend or on their own. They reported the most pain when accompanied by a friend, the hypothesis being that under these circumstances they felt part of the friend’s pain in addition to their own.

Dr. Mogil goes on to say that the same empathy occurs after strangers have played a cooperative video game, “Rock Band”, together for 15 minutes; that playing this game together reduces the stress between two people to the same extend as being good friends.

The following is my own commentary on this experiment:

Personally, I suspect the fact that the video game was based around music increased the extent to which the two people were able to come into sync. Their physiology would have harmonized with the musical rhythms providing extra resonance within the short time period.

As empaths know that we often experience the emotions of strangers. It is why many of us have difficulty with crowds or shopping at Walmart. We also know that it is common place for us to feel the connection to friends and work colleagues. This provides the scientific basis that supports the fact that we are more likely to experience the emotions of people close to us (people with whom we resonate) than with strangers.

Other factors affecting how we pick up energy from other people include the following:

  • Receiving: Our sensitivity as receivers will factor into how much energy we pick up.
  • Sending: Some people transmit their energy more strongly than others, and the depth of the emotions that they are experiencing will also turn up the volume that they are sending out. Arguably, the more the transmitter is in denial about their own emotions, the more we as empaths have to process their emotions for them.
  • Awareness: The unaware person may be just as sensitive as the aware person. The latter will understand why they have mood swings; the former will not.
  • Bloodline: Blood relatives will affect us regardless of where in the world we are and whether we are thinking about them or not.
  • Emotional Connection: Friends and acquaintances will impact us primarily based on the strength of the emotional connection we have to them, largely without regard to physical proximity.
  • Physical Proximity: Neighbors and strangers will influence us based on physical proximity. This is true for the people living in our neighborhood and the strangers we brush up against in the shopping mall.

updated by @trevor-lewis: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
10/19/17 10:32:15AM
277 posts

Can a space affect an empath?


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@k8 :

It is less likely to be the space of the apartment itself as someone in a neighboring apartment.

The best solution is always find what works for you.  

Some material for you to get you going...

  1. Elise's  Empath Survival Program
  2. Donna Eden's  Zip Up Technique (at 7:15 in the video)
  3. the  Tools for the Empath  group 
  4. Light Projector:  http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/trevor-lewis/blog/1711/thriving-as-an-empath-the-light-projector-exercise
      -  "we suffer as empaths when we are only in receptor mode, we thrive as empaths when we step into healer mode".  The technique in this paper is my own favorite for reasons that will be obvious when you go there.  I personally use this technique every day and many of the people I have shared this with have had a lot of success with the exercise contained here.   The main principle here is that it is about reversing the flow so that instead of from-them-to-you it becomes from-Source-through-you-to-them.   Try it every day for a week (preferably multiple times a day) and you WILL feel different! 
  5. Chakras for Empaths http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/trevor-lewis/blog/1915/working-the-chakras-for-empaths

Keep asking for help!

Blessings,

Trevor

Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
10/01/17 04:39:45PM
277 posts

Still wondering and wandering


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@rene : Forgiveness is like a meditation. We don't meditate once and expect to be enlightened; it is a practice. Have a read of the article anyway and see if there is anything in there that can give you a new perspective.

BTW:
I come from a space of deciding that I chose my parents. I'm not saying that I always think that it was a wise choice.  There are still days when I wake up wondering "What was I thinking?!?!?"  but it does put me in the space of hero rather than victim knowing that I wouldn't be who I am today if I had chosen different parents. (and yes, I could be wrong about this but personally I find it a useful working hypothesis).

Trevor Lewis
@trevor-lewis
10/01/17 04:37:50AM
277 posts

Still wondering and wandering


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A suggestion for something different?  Try forgiveness - forgiving your father, forgiving yourself fro how you feel about him, forgiving God for setting you up this way in the first place.

Have a look at  http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/trevor-lewis/blog/1932/hooponopono-the-hawaiian-art-of-forgiveness

Blessings to you.

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