In need of some kind words
I didn't have time to read everyone's posts here, so I am hoping I am not being redundant. But first off, I'm sorry you're having a rough tiime. As an empath we are all very sensitive and see the world through different eyes than everyone else. The truest statement any empath can tell any non-empath is that "the world doesn't get me". And since this world has taken a sharp turn toward general narcisism in recent years, the world looks stranger and stranger to us empaths.
So what to do? How can you feel better? Let's first examine what your friend said. By saying you aren't praying enough and need to see a doctor, you probably felt inadequate and lost. As if your friend was giving up on you a bit. That's at least how I'm reading it. But what your friend is saying is "I don't get you, you may need heavenly intervention and a good shrink because I don't understand what's going on with you". We empaths are different cats. It is highly unlikely that a non-empath is EVER going to get you. And at times you will exhaust them. I have long ago stopped going to non-empaths for help with my issues, because they seem to always make it worse. Just know if you reach out to non-empaths for help for how you feel, they will likely struggle to be supportive. And they can't help it, they aren't an empath.
And on the point about God and praying, I firmly believe that God helps those who help themselves. Praying is helpful for many, but taking action is better. And secondly, a lot of the pain in life are necessary obstacles that you were meant to work through as part of your blueprint/life path. And this goes for everyone, not just empaths: When we are not properly seeing and addressing the obstacle or challenge in our lives, the pain and discomfort will keep coming. By design, it is uncomfortable for us to be stuck or off our path.
I don't know enough about your situation to help you diagnose what challenge you need to take on to come out the other side happy. But you just made an important move getting out of a toxic relationship. That's awesome and you deserve a big round of applause for that. But you probably carry a lot of unresolved baggage that is draining you. I think you're going to need a fair amount of self-work and healing to get rid of that low energy baggage to raise your vibration so that you can start feeling like you again. As empaths sometimes we get so used to being at a lower vibration, we don't even realize that we're not ourselves.
One more thing to note that I have noticed from many years of empath experience. And I don't know why this is. But when we're high vibration and happy, we're like magnets attracting all sorts of people. Everyone wants to be our buddy and be near our energy. But when we're down, just about everyone abandons us. My best guess is that when we are out of sync and at lowered vibrations, we empaths must put off some sort of toxic energy signal. Because no one, including complete strangers, want to be around us. I've stopped trying to blame others for bailing on me in my time of need, because it has never changed anyone's behavior. What I have done instead is recognize that I'm down in the dumps, and do self-care to raise my vibration. As I tell my empath kids, if you're just having a bad day, a good meditative salt bath may do the trick. But if you're having a bad couple weeks, then you need some longer term rehabilitation where you spend a good part of each day working on grounding yourself, catching up on sleep, and finding things to add to your life that bring joy. Each day you'll notice you're getting a little better as you raise your vibration. And as you raise yourself, you'll notice people around you will notice you and want to be part of your life.
One final note, sometimes the combination of being an empath and difficult circumstances are too much for one person to overcome. And no matter what you try to do to raise your vibration, it's just not happening fast enough. I ran into this last year with my empath daughter. I finally agreed to have her get looked at by a psychiatrist who put her on Prozac. And it was a game changer for her. My point being that what we experience as empaths can take a toll on our brain chemistry. And sometimes the answer is an anti-depressant and/or anti-anxiety meds.
Best of luck to you. I hope we've all been able to help you in some way. Please check back often for help and to tell us how you're doing!
updated by @hop-daddy: 05/31/19 02:36:36PM