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07/30/20 06:53:44PM
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Can anyone help please


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@matthew :

I personally have not been very good at cutting cords. I think it's good advice that Karen gave you if you can do that. But if you are like me, or if you see this guy often enough that he just reattaches, you may want to try shielding yourself with protection stones. I've had many similar run-ins with people like what you noted, and for me my protection stones seem to cut the intensity of the emotional energy down by 70% or more. It makes it so much easier to deal with as opposed to when someone's low energy is on full blast and is disarming and draining to you.

I also wanted to note that it is no surprise that this guy seeks you out. Perhaps he senses your healing energy on a subconscious level. Or if he has entity attachments then perhaps they are using him as a vessel to attack you (and drain your abilities). But no matter what the case, I suggest you firmly communicate to him next time and tell him he is never to approach or talk to you again. I think quite often our empath nature makes us too nice and a bit of a punching bag for people. This guy is trouble and harmful to you. You are well within your rights to speak forcefully and make it clear that he is not to pursue you ever again.

And good luck to you with this. This may be a good learning experience for you to learn how to deal with these types. As this undoubtedly happen again at some point in your lifetime.

Hop Daddy
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07/01/20 09:28:21AM
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Orbs, Energies and Spirits


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@leesita125 :

If you are now seeing things more often then you may be going through a spiritual change. Your abilities may be getting stronger. I have found personally that for me that it generally comes in waves and I see things more often in the fall through January. But I do see what looks like a black orb near me quite often. I don't feel an emotional energy from it, it's just there. I have also seen many different multi-colored orbs in the middle of the night. And I've seen, heard, and felt plenty of ghosts.

In case you don't already know this I thought I'd share that spirits have to come a long way to see us and either don't present at all or come through as orbs or orb-like. Sometimes if one has a strong personal connection to the spirit they will present in full form. But it takes so much energy that it is rare. Ghosts on the other hand are deceased people still tied to the earth (we call them earth bound). They are much easier to see and present often in clear full form or as an outline. And both ghosts & spirits find it easy to visit you in your dreams so you'll want to be on the look out for that (particularly right after someone passes away).

There is a theory about soul groups that I like and believe in. And it basically says that many of the people in our lives have been with us in our past lives. For example, your Dad could have been your best friend in a past life, your mother could have been your brother etc... If you feel the energy of two dead people you know who didn't know each other, it is either that they are both happy to visit you, or that they do actually know each other on a soul level and are going for a walk together to visit you. But lucky you. That is a fairly rare skill. Enjoy it and journal your experiences so that you can notice patterns.

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07/01/20 09:14:16AM
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New coworker triggering me


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@gothceltgirl :

Empaths can live together but it is tricky. Since empaths are typically moody dealing with the energies they encounter, two empaths can bring each other down. It can work, you just have to be patient and be good at blocking incoming energy. Otherwise if you're both wallowing in anger or depression it's hard to have a healthy and fun relationship. 

And I wanted to add that you'll find that just about every empath has had a difficult parental up bringing. Or perhaps a sibling or close family member that was a narcissist or sociopath. We don't quite understand it, but for some reason we are usually born into difficult family situations. 

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07/01/20 12:23:11AM
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New coworker triggering me


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@gothceltgirl :

What you described is very common for empaths. It's impossible for you to just do your own thing and mind your own business. Others can't explain why they are drawn to empaths, they just are. I have the same thing happen when I walk into a store filled with strangers. People stare a little too long as if drawn to me, some approach. I seem to attract people in pain in need of healing, and also a curiosity from people who are used to harming and controlling people. The latter usually being a person used to controlling and manipulating people who become strangely curious about my presence and want to poke me to see what happens. It's as if they are sizing me up. I'm convinced all of this is very subconscious. I also have had run-ins with some aggressive strangers who clearly wanted to start a fight with me and taunted me. And when I lost my temper and pushed back and stared them down they ran away like cowards. There is something about the soul connection that occured from eye to eye contact that caused them to leave in a hurry even when I was outnumbered. I do not understand what that was about. But it has happened many times. So I think when we empaths connect with people, we inspire a lot of different reactions.

P.S.- When you said hard not to answer when being interrogated, that's your empath honesty. As an empath you're very open and honest. Disception and lies is not in your tool box so you probably reveal too much. It is who you are.

Hop Daddy
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06/30/20 11:59:46PM
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Healing the narcissist


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Thanks. Good article link. I personally don't believe a tiger can change their stripes and don't expect narcs to ever transform to a normal caring person. But maybe they can be toned down a bit?

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05/12/20 04:46:29PM
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Possession or incidental slipping of the mask?


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@chrisis :

Sorry to hear about your troubles and pending relation decisions. As I noted a few days ago, I've experienced very close relationships all of a sudden break apart for no good reason as if someone dropped a bomb in the room. That's where I think there may be neg involvement pushing people's buttons and causing an intense dislike or disagreement with someone where there wasn't trouble before. And as I said, this always seems to happen to empaths. I'd love to hear others comment on this if they've experience a good friend or S.O. inexplicably flip a switch and go from friend to enemy.

But if you are seeing a relationship fade, that may be a different issue (although always hard to tell). People do grow up and grow apart. Women are typically so much more mature and focused than men that I see this a lot where the man stops growing in the relationship and the two grow apart going in different directions. I don't know if that best describes your situation. But best of luck deciding what is best for you.

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05/11/20 05:17:17PM
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@cheshire-cat :

I'm going to research that as I have never heard the term "walk-ins". But I have had several psychics warn me about hitching ghosts that hitch on to you when you happen upon their area. They seem to hitch on to one person for a while and the then jump off and hitch on to someone else who might be more interesting. I believe this is why empaths have to learn how to protect themselves spiritually because we are the more interesting energy target for attachments.

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05/10/20 03:24:10AM
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@kate

I edited this after going back and reading more of this lengthy post I realized that I was straying off topic a bit. 

It sounds like despite being hurt that you are better off without him. And that while things were good for a while, he showed you in the end that he wasn't the right person to be with you. I'm hoping for you that you'll meet someone else soon who will be good to you and make you realize that this other guy was never going to make you happy the way you deserve.


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05/10/20 03:03:40AM
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I wanted to add that based on my experiences I think that the term possession is often thrown around really loosely. It would appear that during an actual possession, which is fairly rare, one has little to no recollection of what has happened during the possession. Their body and mind is fully taken over and their mind is put to sleep while something else takes full control. But what is very common in my experience is ghost & entity influence. They disguise messages in your head as your own mind voice. But if you pay attention to them they are always a knee jerk reaction to a situation with negative thoughts. And unfortunately as most of us are sensitives, they find it too easy to slip in our minds to evoke emotions in our own mind voice as angry, jealous, fearful etc... If you are able to take a step back when this happens and analyze this you will note that these reactions are out of character for you and are unusually negative.

I'll give you an example for reference that is similar to a personal experience. A man who is a sensitive goes to a dinner with his girlfriend. A friendly male waiter serves them. The girlfriend comments that that waiter reminds her of someone and seems like a nice guy. The man very quickly is jealous that his girlfriend would be so attracted to the waiter and seems suspicious and wonders if she can be trusted. He feels a lot of insecurity in the relationship at that moment and is very angry and becomes a hostile companion to his girlfriend. His behavior is out of characteristic for his normally calm and loving demeanor but also seems to be more of a trend in recent days. In an example like this the man would most likely not be able to understand how his emotions were hijacked. All he can remember is that his girlfriend was flirting with the waiter and trying to test him (which she did not do but in his compromised mind state he felt that was what was happening). In this situation a negative entity has basically influenced or tweaked a sensitive person with the aim to create jealousy (a low emotion) and cause friction and doubt in a relationship). And over time this could lead to much conflict and an eventual break up of the relationship. 

So what does the negative entity gain from causing low emotions and friction in this relationship? For one, they gain the loosh that comes from the release of human negative emotions. I can literally feel the release of energy when I am upset, jealous, angry, scared etc... The unseen live for these moments to capture this energy. But I think the bigger goal for negative entities that work against us is to foil our happiness. Think about it, why would they leave an empath alone to meet their soul mate and enjoy a happy existence that results in stronger and empowered empaths? Instead they manipulate and confuse the empaths mind so that they become a very difficuly romantic partner. And I think this is why we empaths have such a tough time having health relationships. I honestly think we are sought out and shadowed and influenced so in an effort to sabotage our relationships and lives at times. Most empaths I think would agree that they can't quite explain periods of their lives that seem to be plagued with really bad luck (a promising job that becomes a disaster, an exciting love partner that is a nightmare, a new house that is suddenly falling apart). I really don't think this is by chance.

In going back to your original post, when you see an acquantance of yours look and act differently as an act against you, you are often seeing them influenced by dark entities against you. It's like someone flipped a switch and they are not acting like themselves in your presence. I've seen this myself and with my empath kids and their relationships. Simply put, they are out there looking to manipulate and influence, and this happens. I'm not really sure which types of people are so easily taken over by influence like this. It certainly doesn't happen to everyone, but seems to come into play most with low vibrational people or low vibration situations (like a relationship in strife). Your situation seems to fit the mold. The advice is to live your best life and don't let these situations drag you down. You are always untouchable to them when you are high vibration happy and in a good place. Their aim is to drag you to lower vibration where they can entrap you and do their damage. That's why they often set you up for the fall. Understand the game at hand and don't let them score points this way, stay high vibration.


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04/15/20 01:41:29PM
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Is it just me or are the birds acting differently


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@kate :

I had that happen as well a month ago where my posts were all blank. Look around for the help tab and put in for a support ticket with Elise. She'll fix it.

Hop Daddy
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03/18/20 01:36:08PM
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She told me the worst part are people in their 30s-50s who are relatively young dying from burning out their livers, drug overdoses, or diabetes that they didn't take seriously. Also, our western culture is very fearful of death. People are a lot less religious than they used to be. And there are more and more atheists who believe we just get this one life and then go dark without any afterlife. That's a very scary premise for the person dying and their family. And all of that adds to the grieving and emotional energy during the dying process. I think other cultures like Native American, for example, have a much easier time due to their life after death beliefs. 

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03/18/20 08:55:29AM
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@mez :

My Mom has been a travelling chaplain for about 6 years. She does it part time and due to how depressing it is she often has to take breaks. She has to be there for the patient who is dying, and the family who is reacting to the death process. I don't know how she does it. As an empath, that would sap all energy out of me. But I'm glad she and others including nurses are there for people at the end.

Hop Daddy
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03/14/20 01:40:02PM
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Overcoming fear of the news


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Well, definitely start turning off the news now!

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03/14/20 01:39:05PM
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@mez :

You're talking about closure to a situation that you regret and feel bad about. And although part of this is for you to try to better mend something you regret saying to this person, a big part of it is your own closure. As a result, you still make progress even if the person doesn't accept your apology. But that said, it is the rarest of circumstances when someone rejects an apology. The vast majority of people appreciate someone coming to them to say they're sorry for the way they treated them. It's human nature to have compassion and to forgive. In doing so, both sides feel better. I honestly don't think you have much at risk here, but do have a lot to gain.

Side note to the above, my mother is a chaplain who works in hospice where she's helping people through the death phase. And she has shared that there is an amazing amount of regret that people take to the grave as well as loved ones who hold in regret for things they did or said to the one who is dying. And all those people had the chance to apologize and get closure for their disagreements and misunderdstandings. And now they missed the opportunity. Life is short, and we should all strive to live a good life. And part of that is acknowleging our wrongs or guilt for things we've done that were unfair to someone and make amends.

Good luck with this!

Hop Daddy
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03/13/20 02:13:15PM
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@mez :

Grounding can be a little hard at first because you're worn out and mind may be racing. If you aren't good at sitting by yourself and meditating and having quiet time to ground, then I would suggest you go do something that is relaxing and makes you happy. For some people that's a walk in the forest, reading a good book, or a spa day of relaxing. For others it may be knitting, gardening, or playing chess. Physical activity is also an excellent way to ground. Whatever makes your heart sing and happy will in itself help you release that pent up low energy and rebalance yourself. 

If you're wired to do best unloading your stress by getting it off your chest by talking to a person close to you, then that's a way of grounding as well. I would only caution that there will be times when you unloading that stress and low empath energy may be too much to dump on another person. They may have trouble being there for you long term as they become worn out. And also you may have times when you are travelling and all alone and need to ground by yourself. So I would suggest coming up with some other ways to ground that are not family/friend dependent (as suggested above).

I find, and many empaths find that being out amongst groups of people when you are feeling low and empath exhausted does not help. In fact, it makes it worse. When you are super sensitive due to energy overload there will be times when it makes you anxious even being around your best friend or family. Keep that in mind. And when I know I'm going to be out in a large public place, I relax and ground beforehand so that I'm not worn out ahead of being in a high energy crowd environment.

We empaths are often so busy worrying and taking care of others that we often don't do enough for ourselves. And one item I would suggest is to look at your life and see if there are any fences that you should mend as part of your own life path. I think it would be very good for you to reach out to that person who helped you that you hurt and apologize and thank them for what they did for you. Let them know you were going through a tough time and unfairly lashed out at them and am sorry (or whatever the case may be). You'll mend them and make yourself feel better in the process. And I wouldn't worry to much about how they will react. The important thing is that you'd be doing the right thing and creaating closure.

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03/13/20 09:07:22AM
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@womanwhowalks :

Great points. And it's honorable that you want to help people that seem to be going through an overshadowing episode. I see situations like the one you explained about your Mom where you can sense a change and sometimes even see the change happening (in your case the eye color changes). I've noticed that if I keep to myself during those times that the person will return to normal later (sometimes in minutes or as long as hours). I don't know if it works that way with your Mom or others. But it seems to me that negs give up pretty easily if I find a way to disengage so that they can't use people to tweak me. I will say narcs and sociopaths are a different matter. They seem to be most easily manipulated by negs, and cause the most damage to others.

@chrisis :

The great thing about narcs is that they are so obvious. There's no mask IMO. They are so full of themselves that they don't feel any need to hide it. But, I have seen narcs triggered for no reason. And when that happens I'm suspicious there is neg entity overshadowing going because I can feel the energy change and even a change in their expression or eyes. 

I will say that sociopaths and psychopaths are highly intelligent and do a very good job at hiding who they are. They definitely wear masks. Sociopaths in particular are like the old adage of a mafia boss who doesn't want to get their hands dirty. Sociopaths manipulate and use others to create chaos for their own advantage or pleasure. But, sociopaths can sense we empaths are different and that we can see and feel who they are. They do not like that. That dynamic gets very interesting in real life. In a lot of cases, they try to sabotage the reputation of the empath so that no one will believe the empath if they expose the sociopath.

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03/12/20 10:47:25AM
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@womanwhowalks :

Thanks for sharing. I completely believe that this is going on. I've read a few books by psychic author Sylvia Browne and she says that an empath can eliminate 1000s of entities with our powers once we discover them. That would make sense why empaths often have a tough road in life because we are targets. Constant obstacles thrown in front of us to try to hold us down and distract us so that we can't grow in ability. It's an us versus them story, and the more entities can knock us down, the more their side wins. They also understand that empaths can get absolutely drowned by low emotional energy thrown at them by other people. So it makes perfect sense that they'll tweak other people to lash out at us and bring us down.

I think it's important to understand the dynamic of what's really going on. In recent years when I see what looks to be an entity set up of bad luck, or an unusually charged disagreement in the works, I step back and calm myself down. I basically opt out of the set up/trap.

I think we can all agree that for us to be at our healthiest and best we need to be at our natural high vibration. And they of course want to knock us down and sink our vibration to damage us and cause us to get stuck in periods of frustration, confusion, and depression (the low energy that they crave). When you notice the patterns of a set up and back away from it maintaining your positive vibration, you thereby thwart their planned attacks.


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03/12/20 10:35:55AM
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@chrisis :

True possessions are reported to be rare. But what entities do is push people's buttons (whisper in their ear and disguise ideas and reactions as that person's own thought). This is particularly easy for them to do when humans are angry, sad, or depressed. Some people call this overshadowing where a person's personality is all of a sudden out of character in an emotional way. I have seen this often. Entities thrive on our negative human energy and conflict. And they know who you are as an emptah and will often be there to manipulate a situation to inflame an argument and line people up against an empath. In fact, a lot of empaths will claim to commonly have periods of bad luck when everything seems to be going wrong at once with relationships becoming volatile in addition to unusual bad luck. This happens so often that in my opinion it is not a coincidence.

The best advice when you see something like this happening is to shut down the conversation/conflict. Just tell your friend you need a break and should talk about this later. That way you circumvent the manipulation that is going on to target you.


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03/10/20 04:10:10PM
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Thought I was awake but wasn't total black saw dark figure


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@matthew-elsey :

What you wrote down is very interesting, although I'm not 100% sure how to interpret it. What message do you get from it? I'm clairaudient as one of my skills. And it sounds like you are as well. Some people, and particularly clairaudient people will have outside voices in their heads right before they drift off to sleep and right when they wake up. That's when you're in between both worlds and can pick things up as messages. For me its often a voice or idea. Sometimes it's not something I want to hear about when waking up (scary or negative), and other times it's a nice thought or important idea or goal that I need to achieve. I also get various messages during my awake hours. But that often gets crowded out by my own thoughts and focus from a busy day. That's my #1 challenge with my abilities that I'm often too busy working and taking care of my family to really focus.

Sorry to hear about your father. I know that is tough. And that reminds me, there is usually a triggering event of despair or tragedy that sends you down the down spiral in vibration. I wonder if that is at all related to what you dreamt? And I hired a shaman a couple years ago to help with attachment issues with my empath daughter. And she told me that most attachments come from your chakras being too open. She also told me that she often picks up attachments while helping clients as they will hop over for a new target and has to deal with that herself. And that's where protection and energy balancing stones come in handy in addition to saging. I used and still use onyx, black tourmaline, and shungite. I also swear by salt baths and salt foot soaks as a terrific way to ground and release low vibrational energy to raise you back up.

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03/10/20 02:44:54PM
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@mez :

Good responses that I enjoyed reading. And @mez , you answered your own question by saying: 

" Just feel so drained and tired ; it's like I forget how much I occupy myself in and dont know when to put the breaks on."

When you get pent up with outside energy, you lose yourself a bit. And that's the disconnect with your gut instinct. And I know the feeling of realizing you're flying through your life and need to put the breaks on. Your brain is doing double duty as your brain, and by being an empath brain that right now is probably turned on high all the time. You're overwhelmed by energy. Do you know how to ground yourself? Let us know. That and maybe a day or two of self-care rest are recommended to rebalance. if you are able, spend some alone time out in nature near water or a forest as that does wonders to get you grounded and back to balance.

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03/10/20 02:37:49PM
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@crystalsage :

I know you didn't want to say what religion. But it kind of sounds like some sort of new age religion or Wicca. If I'm wrong then no worries because this still applies. I find that quite a few people in leadership in those beliefs/religions are wanna-bes. They badly want to have psychic or what they hope to be magical abilities. And they become experts on spiritual things so that everyone looks up to them as special and learned. And then along comes you with actual abilities and she's instantly threatened. Not to mentioned you mirroring her soul back at her. I find this a lot as there are a lot of people pretending to be special or something that they are not in this life. Faking it along the way, and fooling many people. But they won't fool you. And that's why deep down you decided something was off and you didn't want to get involved. And good for you. Always follow your intuition, your gut. I've made some of my best decisions doing so, and some of my worst not following what my gut told me about a person or situation.

And you may already know this, but places of nature are very good grounding places for empaths. Mountains, beaches, forests. So it was no coincidence that you purged your low energy once you hit the mountains.

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03/10/20 02:26:01PM
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@matthew-elsey :

I don't want to freak you out but thought I'd share my story as it is similar in many ways. More for reference for you. Many years ago I unknowingly was going through my empath awakening and was full of non-stop fear, anxiety, and depression. And one night I dreamt that a very ominious dark hooded creature was approaching my bed. I had this unexplained fear of this creature. I woke up and saw it with my own awake eyes and screamed and scared the hell out of my poor sleeping wife. The hooded creature disappeared in seconds. And I wrote if off as a bad dream.

But as the weeks progressed afterwards I became more down and depressed and felt completely drained as if a black cloud was following me around. I also started having a lot of paranormal things pop up and wasn't sleeping well. I started looking at mental illness options and spoke to a doctor about options. And then I accidentally & thankfully found this site, and figured out I was an empath being awakened and learned how all of this works including grounding and I gradually got my life back together. But I did end up having a very strong entity attachment that was causing all the trouble. And it wouldn't let me go easily. After quite a bit of grounding, meditating and use of protection stones, this entity left me abruptly one day by throwing things around my office (I'm not kidding). After recognizing that I was getting better after a meditation session one day several stationary things levitated off my office credenza and were thrown against a wall. And I could literally feel that black cloud going away seconds later. I'm pretty sure that's the day I beat it. And I have not had problems like that since.

Some empaths don't have to worry too much about being visited by unseen things. Or atleast they won't really be aware of them. While others like me have some mediumship abilities and are more apt to have ghosts and other things try to check us out. While you could say what your experience was a dream or even lucid dream, it could also be your 3rd eye at work there detecting and alerting you to a threat. That's what I believe happened to me. My advice would be to immediately do several days of grounding exercises whenever you have experiences like that. And nothing gets rid of attachments and paranomal looky lous faster than a high vibration. 

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03/10/20 01:57:39PM
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@matthew-elsey

I had someone more experienced than me years ago at this community tell me that it is wrong for an empath to shield as it goes against our purpose and mutes our abilities. At the time it made no sense as I was a young empath dealing with outside energy overload and constant panic attacks. I just wanted to shut it all off and rest. But I do get it now. If you figure out how to shut off your ability to draw in and analyze/clean energy, then you are shutting off your purpose, your nature. I would only say that empaths need a break and need to shut it down every once in a while.

And @crystalsage I just remembered one more thing. When I am out of balance with pent up energy, my empath and psychic abilities go on blast. I wasn't sure if this was unique to me, but it sounds like maybe you are experiencing the same. My point is that had you not been on that train and instead showed up balanced and grounded, you two very likely would have gotten along just fine. But instead post-train ride I think you showed up off-balance and had your empath abilities turned on high. She already wasn't happy that you wouldn't join her religion. And that plus the strong mirror of her soul was too much for her to take and she basically insulted and rejected you. None of this is your fault. In fact, this was probably a very important life lesson for you to better understand how this all works. I would say that this person has issues, and you are better off not getting involved with a person like that as they can often be a draining roller coaster ride.

One other general empath note that I've noticed about myself and my two empath kids. And that is that almost everyone wants to be our friends. I think our energy is quite strong and generally is soothing and it attracts people. Some people call it the shine. And some people want to trap and control you and what makes you special to their own advantage. My advice is that you have to be a bit leery of new people and what their intentions are.


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03/10/20 01:36:24PM
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@crystalsage :

I have two thoughts for you on this. The 1st is that most of us can't self-ground at a moment's notice. Similar to your train situation, I have to drive home through a lot of traffic from work each day and quite often am wound up from my own stress plus from picking up energy from other drivers on the way home. Eventhough I am feeling reasonably balanced when I get to my destination I get funny looks from people. I had a guy at the grocery store after work say to me the other day "It's okay man, it can't be that bad". And my wife tells me it's like fire coming off of me when I get home. I usually don't feel that upset, but I do understand it's the energy thing and it must be pouring off of me. I usually need 15-20 minutes alone when I get home to ground, rebalance, and shake off some of what I picked up. So I think in your case it is completely normal as an empath to feel or be like that after travel.

Secondly, you also have to remember that empaths are mirrors to the soul for other people. Some people will like that and your healing energy and gravitate to you. While others will act like they have a burr under their saddle when you are around. They will be agitated, rude, disrespectful, and even down right mean to you. It's because you mirror back to them and make them feel very insecure. And that's actually part of our talents. We're supposed to help people pull off their masks and deal with their deep down deficiencies, insecurities, and wrong doing and find their life path. But a lot of people can't handle that, and they lash out at us. In some cases you'll meet someone and they'll love you one day and hate you the next.

So long story short, I think you are experiencing a little of both of the above going on with this person. I would just say don't ever quit being you. And if you have the ability to do so, try to have thicker skin as these types of people will appear from time to time. They're not ready to face the worst in themselves to improve and you being you highlight that for them just by being in the area. 

And last but not least, if I could sum up all I have learned about empaths in a sentence I would say: "Everything Is Energy" It's just like you said. As you journey through life each day you take in and analyze energy, and you put off energy signatures reflecting your own mood plus the energy from the people and places that you visit.


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Overcoming fear of the news


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@trevor-lewis :

Thanks for the very timely post. It's likely to be another 2-3 months of Coronavirus hype and fallout. And then we'll be in the thick of US election season which is expected to practically tear the country in two. So there's lots for empaths to be concerned about energy-wise.

One think I do that has really helped is I stopped listening to the radio while driving and do my best to avoid or limit the news when I watch TV. In my car I have found Audible audio books a great diversion. And if you can't afford that, most libraries offer free audio books on CD. The reason I bring this up is that empaths are powerful energy forces all by ourselves. If we get charged up from drama in our own life or things we expose ourselves to, it boomerangs and weighs us down. It can also push people away from you as they react to your energy. And when you have that plus all the dysfuctional energy from people around us, it can be very rough. Ever since I stopped listening to the news while driving my stress levels and ability to cope with empath stuff has improved immensely. Now I look forward to driving with some nice stories in the background.

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Orbs


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@matthew-elsey :

I'm glad I helped calm your mind a bit. I also forgot to mention that for some reason spirits & ghost sightings are more prevalent in the 2AM-5AM range. There's something more conductive in the atmosphere and air at that time of morning that makes it easier for them to visit & be seen. I'm very energy sensitive and am a night owl and can definitely feel a shift in energy that makes my house feel different after about 1:30AM. I've also experienced more at that time of night.

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@matthew-elsey :

I've had run ins with ghosts, violent ghosts, something other than ghosts that attacked me. And also many orbs. It's been pretty crazy at times. The orbs have always made me feel calm and unthreatened. Whereas with ghosts I tend to feel really sad and/or anxious when they're around as I pick up on their dysfunctional energy. And as I've noted above, some of the unseen things I've had run ins with have attacked me or have done things to scare the crap out of my family. Since you're new to this, here's a quick run down on what I know from experience and what I believe to be true from my own research:

*When you die most people cross over to the other side pretty quick (aka cross over to the light). You go through a process where you convert back to your higher self (pure spirit). As part of that process you become pure love and leave behind anything that we would call negative or threatening. When spirits come to visit us they usually present as orbs. And on a rare occasion will present in their human form that you would remember (usually someone really close to you). But it takes so much energy that this is extremely rare so you're most often going to see the orbs. But they are hard to spot so they may stop by for a visit and you just don't catch them. Some people see orbs when they are thinking of a deceased love one or have some other connection to that person (like celebrating a dead Mother on Mother's Day). Enjoy those times orbs visit as they are all love & have come a very long way to see you.

*Dead people who do not cross into the light remain earth bound ghosts. The reasons they stay run the gambit from guilt over how terrible they were in life, to anger and revenge, to disbelief over a sudden death. Quite a few that stay are mentally ill and are completely confused. Since ghosts are earth bound and are still wanting to stay here they typically present in human form, or a shadow or dark fog or blanket like shape. It varies. Some do seem to be attached to physical objects that once belonged to them. Ghosts are typically the ones that often try to scare you away. Since they are still connected to the earth plane it's easier for ghosts to move things and make noise.

Based on what you've explained, the orb does sound like it could be her ex. But it's really hard to know for sure. You may want to ask if she felt his presence at all or immediately thought of him when that all happened. A lot of very well known mediums who have connected with the other side say that when you take your life you get a do over and get recycled right back as a new born human in pretty short order. But of course no one knows for sure.

I just read an article last night from a psychic who had an abusive former boyfriend who got killed by police. It's a bit of a long read but she explains at the end that she talked to him after death and he was very sorry for the way he had treated her. It's a good read and possibly relates to what you and your girlfriend recently experienced:

https://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2009/03/the-death-of-my-ex-boyfriend/

You're going to find on all these spiritual sites that opinions of what happens after death and in the spirit world vary. I'm only sharing what I've learned from experiencing things first hand, and from my own research and reading. But it's always good to get a variety of opinions so hopefully others here at EC will jump in for comment.


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Orbs


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@matthew-elsey :

I have seen them quite often. They say they are a common form that spirits take in our earth plane since they can no longer present in human shape. 

From what I hear, young children attract orbs more often than teens or adults. And the reason being is that their souls are still relatively new to this world and are fresh off the boat from the other side (so to speak). As a result, they tend to get more visits from loved ones on the other side. But adults tend to see them during times of struggle and after a loved one has died. People that are empaths and other sensitives also tend to have orb visits more often. As far as I know they are nothing to fear.

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Heart Warming Video About Empathic Horse Raising Spirits In Cancer Ward


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You're welcome. It's nice to see a heart warming news story like this.

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Confusing negative thoughts towards loved one


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I think everyone has given you some good advice. I would only add that I think that you're not going to find a lot of partners who are 100% okay and accepting of your abilities. This topic comes up a lot with empaths. You said you know him better than he knows himself. And that's because you see him clearly on a soul and energy level. Whereas he like a lot of people only see their view of their own positives, and he conveniently closes off recognition of any part of himself that he could be working on. Empaths are typically old souls that are more advanced and see life through very different eyes than your average person. That makes finding a good match in a romantic relationship challenging.

I would say the #1 truth that I have learned in recent years is to go with your gut feeling on big decisions like this. Your gut is your intuition. And if you're not 100% trusting in your intuition on this, then try this simple exercise. Take a note pad out and write down one column title "Pros" and another column as "Cons". And then fill in what you like about him, what you dislike about him. Make sure you also note how he makes you feel in different cricumstances (like financial, romance, soul connection, protection etc.). List all of that down as a pro or con. Once your list is complete it doesn't necessarily matter that the Pros column is longer than the Cons column. And the reason is that there may be some very powerful single reasons under either column. But this exercise helps you put everything on paper and see right before your eyes whether this guy is overall good or bad for you. I call this the "Gut Check" exercise because it will visually confirm for you what your gut is already telling you. 

If a romantic partner looks bad on the Gut Check exercise, it doesn't always mean that you need to end the relationship. The final determining factor is whether you can reveal your concerns to him and whether he will work to change some of these "Cons" to "Pros". A lot of people will never change who they are. While others will cooperate if it means saving the relationship. You'll have to weigh how you feel about him and whether he even has the capacity to change. 
I hope this all helps. And best of luck with this.


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01/13/20 03:55:45PM
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@soothsayer4 :

This has been a very common topic over the years. I've experienced it as well. It usually happens to me when I am going through a tough time. Electronics and light bulbs blow out. Sometimes lightbulbs blow out when I walk by. Other times I'll hit a light switch and a light will blow out. I'll walk over to another light switch and another will do the same. My laptop and cell phone always get wacky. In addition to electrical malfunctions, I also typically get hit with some bad overall luck during those episodes. And for me this cycle usually lasts for part of a day and then fades away.

There are a couple theories on why this happens that I've heard. One is telekinesis where your emotional eneregy is very strong and eratic and interferes with you interacting with electronics (like an electrical surge). The 2nd theory I've heard is that entities are very attracted to empaths when we are low vibration (aka not having a good day). And they follow and try to attach to us. And that interaction causes electrcial irregularities. I know this all may sound a little crazy. But I've researched both, and after examination, both seem plausible.

But after looking in to this I did discover that raising your vibration stops it every time. So if you are low vibration and having a bad empath day, go ahead and slow things down and look for ways to uplift your mood. Sometimes watching a comedian tell jokes online for 15 minutes or reading funny memes is enough to get you laughing and higher vibration. And then it all goes away.

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@sandy :

Nosy people have intent. When they talk you into revealing your personal life to them they are basically digging and attaching cords/connecting to you on an emotional level. Once that happens you're probably not going to feel well as an empath as you'll feel anxious and a bit sick. Just know that going forward. I usually am very brief and guarded with people like that and tactfully deflect the questioning back to them. If needed I'll do it in a complementary way that forces them to react and answer.

Transferring out of a tough office is an option. But you can't transfer every time as it gives you a bad reputation. As an empath, I think we are all continuing to grow. And eventually you really can raise yourself to a level where you are stronger than those people and they can't waltz in and effect you anymore. I'm hoping that I can get @tigerlily to share how she dealt with a whole office of difficult people. She should have some additional tips to share.

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Just Joined- Sad Movies


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@grapeape :

Welcome to the community. I have had the same issues with movies at times. And it's not just the sad stuff as I often cry during stories of underdogs who succeed with all the odds stacked against them. For me I think I tend to be more emotionally sensitive when my vibration is low. But, when watching a sad movie in a movie theater with all those people in the crowd who are also reacting to the sad movie, that can be overwhelming. Similarly, I've also had a tough time at funerals when everyone is upset and emotional. We empaths are magnets for emotional energy. 

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12/20/19 01:05:56PM
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@sandy :

If you are an empath you're going to be very sensitive to energy and pick up emotional energy stronger than the average person. That's why a love interest is so intoxicating. But I would urge caution and suggest you have a go slow approach until you get to know and trust him. The reason is that there are lots of bad types out there who are good at charming and reeling in empaths so they can use and abuse them. Love can be blind as we all know, so as an empath pursue a relationship like this a little guarded. And good luck!

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12/11/19 02:15:32PM
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Question: How Do Ghosts Know Our Name And Identity?


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Thank you. Very interesting. I'll check it out.

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12/05/19 03:35:11PM
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Validity of Twin Flames


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Good post to educate everyone. We get quite a few people passing through talking up their twin flame love interest. And they mostly get this from the new age movement (which I am suspicious of). And I don't personally believe that twin flames exist. And I've seen many women in particular stay in an abusive relationship because someone told them their partner was their destiny, their twin flame. As an example, I think quite often narcopaths on the hunt ensnare people by telling them they are their twin flame.

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12/05/19 03:27:54PM
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Time Chakra!


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@goodenergyhealing :

Your time chakra concept is fascinating. I'm more of a believer in negs manipulating our dreams and planting seeds to cause chaos and negative energy. I have read quite a bit on this and experienced it myself. But, it had never occurred to me to consider time manipulation. 

If you don't  mind, I'd love to hear about your energy detox plans. I'm curious what works for you. I'm starting to notice some of my tried and true methods are not as effective as they once were.

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12/02/19 02:59:20PM
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Question: How Do Ghosts Know Our Name And Identity?


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This is a naggging question that I wanted to throw out there for feedback. I figure at the very least it will bring out some interesting comments. I don't know if this has happened to any of you, but over the years I've probably had about a dozen ghosts call out my name. I don't think any of these incidences were the same ghost calling me out. And if you ever watch any of the more legit paranormal TV shows, you'll see many cases where the empath or medium shows up to investigate a paranormal event and have the resident ghost call out their name. And in some cases the entity will target the medium and use their insecurities to unsettle and disable them. It's as if they know what's in their heads. I have also experienced a little of the same.

I can understand if a ghost resides in a home with the living and learns their name through observation. But how does a ghost in many examples seem to know a stranger's name the second they walk through the door to the home? 

I am starting to wonder if we all have some sort of name tag on our soul or something to that effect? This might help explain how so often when I'm out walking around in public certain people will stop to stare at me with a look of recognition that they can't quite place?

So I guess this is a two part question. But I'd love to hear everyone's take on this.


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Time Chakra!


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@goodenergyhealing :

I wanted to add my two cents on the initial part of your post eventhough I think you and C. Cat already covered some great analysis. And sorry if this is dark subject matter for some. But there are those of us who experience and deal with energy drain daily. And it is most inexplicable when it happens after having a good day or after cleansing your vibration.

But through what I have experienced, I think it is very difficult to clear yourself and maintain a high vibration for very long. Sometimes it's just people who get in the way and pull from you. But more often than not I think energy drain is from the unexplained and unseen. I think unexplained things and circumstances are constantly after us to get in our way. I feel any energy worker is a target by unseen things. And the more adept and aware you become, the more you are a target. I don't think it's so much of a time manipulation thing as you noted. I think it's much more basic: There are things/entities that influence and bring down humanity as their main function. And those of us with abilities are most able to detect and potentially learn how to eradicate them. It stands to reason that they would want to use their depleting influence on us while able. And that enables them to keep energy workers in a confused, weakened, and sometimes depressed/unhealthy state. Their goal is to keep us in a lowered vibrational state so that we are not able to be strong and healthy enough to effect other humans in a positive way.

I agree with C.Cat that some of these suckers are able to attack and weaken us in our dreams and sleep. But there are also some that are here in our awake world as well. And I have noticed that they get provoked and start to show themselves the more we become enlightened on the subject. I've literally had lights flicker and banging on the walls near me after having an "a-ha" moment while reading up on this subject matter.


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Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


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@michelle : Thanks for the response. I was kind of thinking the same thing. I had the opportunity to speak to Tom Montalk a year ago about some of these topics. And he had told me that he has been targeted with some very bizarre matrix related things as the result of his work. So far for me the faces I see when feeling low don't impact me other than remind me that there are forces at work that we cannot see or understand. 

@zacharias : I do see faces and things when I close my eyes to fall asleep at night. But only rarely are they evil or angry looking. Although I have heard from others that when they detect dark things around them they can usually see them through their 3rd eye during pre-sleep. I believe that may be what you're seeing at night. I'm kind of curious myself whether these things are really that ugly & nasty looking, or whether they are trying to scare and intimidate us? Kind of like a tribal warrior mask that would be used to scare the enemy.

@cheshire-cat : The way it works for me is kind of like that game we all played as a kid seeing various animal shapes in passing clouds. But instead I see these things in stone, wood, or fabric patterns. To anyone else in my home they just see a travertine tile with some random stone colorings and patterns. But when in a low energy state, faces pop out of those patterns to me. Sometimes I see the same repeating faces, while other times they can be different each time I look. They all kind of look like gargoyles. Very interesting that you also see and feel things most often when you are run down, depressed, and tired. There's something to that.

@tigerlily : I firmly believe based on my own experiences that when an empath hits a low period, they are hunted by unseen things that no one wants to talk about. And that compounds the problem for an empath because you start to feel yourself being pulled down the down spiral by things that are influencing your mood and well-being for the worse. I was once told that if you want to get rid of negs all you have to do is raise the vibration in your home because our high loving energy repels them. Easier said than done when you're feeling down. But I have found in practice that does work if you can get back to normal and happy.


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11/16/19 12:49:31PM
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Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


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I thought I'd bring up this old post of mine. Seeing dark, angry, and threatening faces has started happening again this week after not really happening for about a year. I would add that I have been going through a tough time lately so my personal energy has been lower than usual. And I find that all sorts of paranormal stuff increases when my energy is low. I mostly see these faces appear in the travertine tiles that are in my shower, and in tapestries like rugs. I sometimes can see the same faces. But quite often others pop through and disappear daily. It is both fascinating and unnerving at the same time. And I thought I'd update this post to see if any others in the community have experienced anything similar in hopes that I can better understand this and whether there is some sort of communication attempt involved?

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11/13/19 04:00:58PM
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Am I being gaslighted?


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@zacharias :

Thanks for sharing all of this personal info. Quick personal note to share as it is similar in some ways to what you are going through. I had posted before that back in summer of 2018 all hell broke loose at my home. We had entity sightings for years before that. But they mostly just made some noises, made occasional appearances, and left us alone. But then something changed and some bad ones got in and kept going after my daughter who is a psychic empath. It was a very messy process but after 4-5 months of research and effort on my part that included saging and getting outside help, we beat back the entities and had some peace for a while.

But since that time I have noticed that on many occasions, many of my family members are on edge and fighting with one another over trivial things. There's a lot of resentment and anger at each other out of no where. I've felt this first hand where I'm triggered by something and often have a very short fuse with all sorts of anger that comes out of nowhere. And we've had some health issues that seemed unusual as well. Although all of what has been going on this past year has been stressful for all 4 of us, it is most stressful and disarming for me. And I think that's their goal. As the Dad, husband, and lead empath, I stand in the way of what they want to do. And by weakening me, they start to gain the upper hand. I also saw this happen in summer of 2018 when I was fighting them directly.

So long story short, it sounds like your wife had a very tough upbringing, and continues to have difficult family relations. In fact, she probably doesn't even know how to exist in a normal family. It sounds as if your entities are using your wife and daughter to cause chaos and come after you (and weaken you). It's probably hard to understand how much of your wife's behaviors are her own, and how much of that is being manipulated by them. But if she's a narc, or emotionally damaged person, she's the easiest one for them to mess with and control. Keep all of this in mind before you throw in the towel on your marriage.

Interesting that when you get your wife away from that house, she is an improved person and much easier to be around. Although entities can very easily attach or follow any of you, I have found the same. And that is that when we leave the home for a visit elsewhere, we generally all feel better, and get along better. That leads me to believe in my case that these negs have covered our homes in dark energy in addition to them directly agitating us there. I have to wonder if that's the same for you? And whether you and your wife plus maybe the daughter could use a weekend trip away to see if you can unwind from all of that, be happy, and perhaps repair things? If that helps, then you know the problem lies in that house & general home area. And  then you will know that you'll need to take things a little further with "cleaning house" and protecting all of you from any darkness there.

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11/12/19 12:19:41PM
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When you pick up on self-deception, how do you handle it?


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@cheshire-cat :

Great topic and a tricky call on what to do in these situations where you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't. I imagine a psychic who can see someone's future death deals with the same type of challenge on what to do.

I will say that I do believe that we all have challenges and tragedies in life they we must learn what to do. It's part of our life path. Having a psychic guide you away from anything harmful seems like cheating a bit. However, I do see some circumstances where it would make sense for you to use your gift to intervene (like to help someone avoid physical harm). And of course, if we can't help people, then what's the point of our gifts. Maybe the answer is that you have this ability and must use it wisely and sparingly?


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A revealing look inside the life of a sociopath


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@zacharias :

We've discussed in this community how scary it would be if an empath ever turned to the dark side and used their abilities for the bad. And after reading this article, I think I now understand that sociopaths can read people's energies like we can but use that as a manipulation tool or weapon to hurt them. That is scary. And I think when they stare someone down that's what they are doing. They are feeling a person's energy and calculating how they can take advantage.

Interestingly, when I have crossed paths with narcs, their insecure energy pours off of them and I generally make them uncomfortable with my energy around them. But in the few occasions I've been in the presence of a sociopath, I don't remember being able to read their energy and just felt nothing. But I could also pick up on them trying to scan me.

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A revealing look inside the life of a sociopath


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@cheshire-cat :

Thanks for the population percentages. I was surprised to see that sociopaths are more common than narcs. What do you mean by made not born for sociopaths? Are you saying they are conditioned that way? And thanks for all of your above insight.

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A revealing look inside the life of a sociopath


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I was reading this article and was taken aback by how brutal this sociopathic author treated others. Everything is a game of use, abuse, and self-empowerment with her and her relationships. And after reading this I also realized how I have often mischaracterized people as narcissists when they are really more likely a sociopath.

I think this is a good article to share and discuss since empaths are likely to be caught up in a sociopath's web. After reading the article please share your sociopath stories and observations.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201305/confessions-sociopath


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Am I being gaslighted?


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@zacharias :

Sorry to hear of your continued struggles. A few questions to try to help you sort this out:

1) Was your wife always a narc since you've known here? 

2) I don't know how long you have lived at this property. But have you noticed things have gotten progressively worse with your wife since living there?

3) Have you in the past year travelled out of town with your wife and noticed that she is easier to be around when away from your property?

You mentioned that you think an entity there is making things worse. I've seen this first hand in my own life. There have been periods when it feels like a black cloud follows us around causing depression, anger between some of us, and financial strain. I wonder if this entity is causing you to be at odds with each other and is bringing out the worst behavior with your wife? I personally believe and have witnessed that narcs are very easily manipulated/directed by negative entities.

Have you taken @womanwhowalks advice and tried to sage the home or hire a professional to try to cleanse it?

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Mood Changes


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I should also mention what I call empath burnout. This is when you've been exposed to a lot of energies and stress for days or weeks. And you may not have been able to do the grounding necessary to stay ahead of those energies. And you get pushed down the down spiral from all the low energy you take in and become very cranky, sad, and burned out. During this phase, you become very sensitive, moody, and depressed and tend to overreact to what goes on around you.

Despite the obvious frustration and pain that results from empath burnout, we all go through it. The goal is to keep up with self-care and grounding so that you avoid an empath burnout episode. But sometimes its inevitable. 

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Mood Changes


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@aj86 :

Yes. And quite often you will have multiple mood changes in the same day. It depends on the environment you're in and whether there are difficult people energies around you. And then if you are going through a period of unbalance and low vibration your shield is down and you'll be even more influenced by moods around you. 

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