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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
02/21/21 02:17:49PM
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Near Death Experiences?


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I found this very interesting article on NDE where the author says science cannot explain these events. It's a great read so enjoy and please share your near death experience if you have one.

https://nypost.com/article/five-percent-have-had-near-death-experiences-research/

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
02/16/21 04:27:06PM
1,105 posts

Pregnant Empath/newborn baby


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@tigerlily :

Congrats on the baby. I'm happy for you.

I think we discussed this before but for me I detect unseen things the most when I am low vibrational energy and/or exhausted & run down. And as a newborn mother I'm sure you are very run down & are still adapting to your new baby. So if you're like me you're probably attracting ghosts/negs or feeling them come closer in your current state. My observation is that when we are balance or high vibration, they leave us alone as they don't like that energy. But when are depressed or exhausted, they really like that energy and draw closer to experience the energy or attach. I'm sure you are very excited for your new life with your baby. But from my perspective, you're probably tired on a level you've never seen before. And I believe in your other post you said you are in a new home. That means you're entering a new space where things may be there already.

As to your boyfriend's comment that they seem harmless, I don't agree with that when it comes to an empath. If they are hanging around they are draining you even if they don't seem threatening. Remember, they don't produce their own energy. They have to capture and steal it from humans who make it. And empath energy is like the best of the best to them.

Since you can't sage with the baby, I would suggest trying putting your feet in a warm bucket of salt water daily for 15-20 minutes. Put on some relaxing music and let the salt do it's work to help you rebalance your energy. Usually a full body bath tub salt soak is the best for rebalancing. But if you're limited on time, the foot salt soak is a nice short cut that still helps.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
02/16/21 04:10:25PM
1,105 posts

Empathic Distress & Realizations


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I remember posting a detailed response. But there was a system issue where it came across blank. But did you resolve your issue?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
02/16/21 03:49:46PM
1,105 posts

Favorite crystals


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@tigerlily :

I was using black tourmaline and onyx for the same issue and had some improvement. But when I added shungite to the mix I literally felt and saw some dark things leave. Also, as you know from prior discussion with me, I've had good luck keeping bowls of water & rock salt in rooms with issues. And I've seen a few Dead File episodes where the medium Amy recommended washing walls with a rock salt water combo to keep ghosts out so there's definitely something to the salt effect.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/28/20 01:53:35AM
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The Great Reset


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I was curious if anyone had any thoughts on the Great Reset that is reported to be happening now and in the near future. While controversial to some, this is a very spiritual topic. Afterall, ask any empath what their worst emotional year was and I bet 2020 comes in at the top five! There's a reason for that. For those interested, check out this link and I'd like to get some discussion on this and perspective from everyone.

https://www.zerohedge.com/geopolitical/great-reset-dummies

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/28/20 01:45:03AM
1,105 posts

Very unempathic: venting, getting worked up and upsetting people


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@chrisis :

Something to add to this. I have found that empaths break into two types. You have the super senstive empaths who are generally amazing healers who are often oppressed and abused. They struggle from that and are at times low energy and need support. And you have the warrior empaths who are hair trigger ready to fight based on truth, justice, and ethics. The former is often bullied and shy. While the later if provoked, is often in far too many fights with extremely thin skin who will fight anyone at any time. If you are an empath, you know exactly which type you are. It's sewed into your soul, and you are who you are. The way I see it is the healer/extra sensitive empath is vulnerable and needs protection. Like the Queen in chess, protectors are needed. That's where the warrior empaths come in as a ring around the Queen for protection of her and others. I am a warrior empath and my daughter is a senstive type who often struggles in relationships because she is taken advantage of and walked over. But as a warrior empath that will never happen to me. If someone offends me, I'm ready to call them on it (very thin skinned). I'm not a manic, but it is what it is, I welcome confrontation. And fellow warrior empaths will understand this. That's how we are built. You don't take any crap from anyone and like a guard, you don't let them pass, you don't let them hurt others. So I think @chrisis there is a pretty good chance that you're a warrior empath. Embrace it. But at the same time I would say, pick your battles. Try to hold back a bit at times to go to the mat with everyone who offends. I have found personally that from my very presence people will offend and back down when I look them in the eye and I don't react. At that point, you've won by not reacting (even with parents).

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/28/20 12:29:18AM
1,105 posts

Empathic Distress & Realizations


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@gothceltgirl :

I get what you are experiencing. Kids are fun and full of pure energy unmolested by humanity. But as they grow it can get ugly (especially the pre-teen to teen years when they are super exposed to culture and hormones). They're like a pulsing quasar shootting damgerous gamma rays everywhere. But in more common terms, just look at the Mom or Dad or a 9-16 year old and tell me if they look like they are having fun? You didn't mention the ages of the kids where you are living, but I would imagine you're absorbing all of this. And that is tough for an empath. And you're picking up on the Mom's feelings of exhaustion and frustration as well. I don't know your situation and why you are living there. But the ideal empath living arrangement is a calm place to relax and recharge from what you absorb from the day. And if your home time is worse than your away from your home time, you will eventually figure out that you need your own quiet relaxing place that you call home. It's admiral that you're there with your BFF and her kids. But as an empath you will learn that some places are just too much energy for the sensitive that you are.

After reading the rest of the post I would only say that when people you know are in trouble they will come to you to unload the low energy that they are feeling. They will reveal the most personal details of their lives just to experience that "lighten the load" release they get from dumping that energy off to an empath. And they will do that completely subconsciously often without knowing they are using you for that energy exchange. But the problem is that you are now burdened with that low energy that they just gave you, and it's not easy for most of us empaths to get rid of unwanted energy. So we suffer with the anxiety that low energy brings. With time and peace you will release that negative low energy naturally. But if you're in a chaotic vicious cycle with repeating themes, your empath armor will wear thin and eventually you will become a mess of a moody, anxious, and become a very unhappy person. That's the down side of being an empath that comes from not controlling your environment.

I'm not sure of your circumstances as to why you are in a chaotic energy homelife. The easy answer would be to move. But there may be more to this and finances or something else may tie you to this situation. In that event, I would set up a I cover you and you, you cover me situation. In doing so, you give your friend a break from the kids where she goes away to have a night off and maybe you find something fun for the kids to do where they are by default are so preoccupied that they are on their best behavior and don't hit you with their dysfunctional energy (going to see a movie etc...). And then arrange times when you are free to do things that give you peace and make your heart sing away from the home (relax your soul). Try to work out this type of arrangement so that you can get a clean break as often as possible to get away from it all and rebalance your own energy. Maybe its a sport, working out, working on a hobby, or just relaxing in a sauna, just find what makes you happy and helps you unload.

P.S.- I thought I'd mention why most empaths are known to be "moody" or "difficult". And this is important for you to understand as a lot of people in your life will off-load their troubles on you and get you all worked up, and discard you as "difficult" and "moody" when you get overwhelmed from them. When we absorb people's low energies in their presence and in discussion (frustration, sadness, all those low feelings), there is an energy transfer. They immediately feel better, and now like passing the ball in gym class, we accept the pass and carry their burden. That on top of everything else you are absorbing from fellow humans that day can be maddening. It will blow you up. Once you accept their energy it's like a virus or sickness. What do you do with it? You now own it and feel terribly anxious and down. As an empath over time you will learn to block energy. But at all phases of your life you will absorb unwanted low energy that upsets you. You have to learn how to purge that (known as grounding). But if you're caught in a tough situation where you are hit with a lot of constant unwanted low energy, just know that eventually you will become unhappy enough that your soul will leak that low energy back outward. Even if you can bite your lip react, your energy will repell people at this point. And when this happens, most of the people you know will reject you as a difficult pariah as they run from the low energy you uncontrollably leak outward once you have fallen down the downward energy spiral far enough. So the moral to the story is to choose your living arrangement wisely, and seek a calm environment where you can ground and rebalance from each day. I've included a pdf of the downward spiral chart for empaths as a guide to understand where you're at energetically. Best of luck and let me know if any questions.

241-relax-and-succeed-upward-spiral-downward-spiral.jpg

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/01/20 09:28:21AM
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Orbs, Energies and Spirits


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@leesita125 :

If you are now seeing things more often then you may be going through a spiritual change. Your abilities may be getting stronger. I have found personally that for me that it generally comes in waves and I see things more often in the fall through January. But I do see what looks like a black orb near me quite often. I don't feel an emotional energy from it, it's just there. I have also seen many different multi-colored orbs in the middle of the night. And I've seen, heard, and felt plenty of ghosts.

In case you don't already know this I thought I'd share that spirits have to come a long way to see us and either don't present at all or come through as orbs or orb-like. Sometimes if one has a strong personal connection to the spirit they will present in full form. But it takes so much energy that it is rare. Ghosts on the other hand are deceased people still tied to the earth (we call them earth bound). They are much easier to see and present often in clear full form or as an outline. And both ghosts & spirits find it easy to visit you in your dreams so you'll want to be on the look out for that (particularly right after someone passes away).

There is a theory about soul groups that I like and believe in. And it basically says that many of the people in our lives have been with us in our past lives. For example, your Dad could have been your best friend in a past life, your mother could have been your brother etc... If you feel the energy of two dead people you know who didn't know each other, it is either that they are both happy to visit you, or that they do actually know each other on a soul level and are going for a walk together to visit you. But lucky you. That is a fairly rare skill. Enjoy it and journal your experiences so that you can notice patterns.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/01/20 09:14:16AM
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New coworker triggering me


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@gothceltgirl :

Empaths can live together but it is tricky. Since empaths are typically moody dealing with the energies they encounter, two empaths can bring each other down. It can work, you just have to be patient and be good at blocking incoming energy. Otherwise if you're both wallowing in anger or depression it's hard to have a healthy and fun relationship. 

And I wanted to add that you'll find that just about every empath has had a difficult parental up bringing. Or perhaps a sibling or close family member that was a narcissist or sociopath. We don't quite understand it, but for some reason we are usually born into difficult family situations. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/01/20 12:23:11AM
1,105 posts

New coworker triggering me


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@gothceltgirl :

What you described is very common for empaths. It's impossible for you to just do your own thing and mind your own business. Others can't explain why they are drawn to empaths, they just are. I have the same thing happen when I walk into a store filled with strangers. People stare a little too long as if drawn to me, some approach. I seem to attract people in pain in need of healing, and also a curiosity from people who are used to harming and controlling people. The latter usually being a person used to controlling and manipulating people who become strangely curious about my presence and want to poke me to see what happens. It's as if they are sizing me up. I'm convinced all of this is very subconscious. I also have had run-ins with some aggressive strangers who clearly wanted to start a fight with me and taunted me. And when I lost my temper and pushed back and stared them down they ran away like cowards. There is something about the soul connection that occured from eye to eye contact that caused them to leave in a hurry even when I was outnumbered. I do not understand what that was about. But it has happened many times. So I think when we empaths connect with people, we inspire a lot of different reactions.

P.S.- When you said hard not to answer when being interrogated, that's your empath honesty. As an empath you're very open and honest. Disception and lies is not in your tool box so you probably reveal too much. It is who you are.

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