Am I being gaslighted?
Thanks for sharing all of this personal info. Quick personal note to share as it is similar in some ways to what you are going through. I had posted before that back in summer of 2018 all hell broke loose at my home. We had entity sightings for years before that. But they mostly just made some noises, made occasional appearances, and left us alone. But then something changed and some bad ones got in and kept going after my daughter who is a psychic empath. It was a very messy process but after 4-5 months of research and effort on my part that included saging and getting outside help, we beat back the entities and had some peace for a while.
But since that time I have noticed that on many occasions, many of my family members are on edge and fighting with one another over trivial things. There's a lot of resentment and anger at each other out of no where. I've felt this first hand where I'm triggered by something and often have a very short fuse with all sorts of anger that comes out of nowhere. And we've had some health issues that seemed unusual as well. Although all of what has been going on this past year has been stressful for all 4 of us, it is most stressful and disarming for me. And I think that's their goal. As the Dad, husband, and lead empath, I stand in the way of what they want to do. And by weakening me, they start to gain the upper hand. I also saw this happen in summer of 2018 when I was fighting them directly.
So long story short, it sounds like your wife had a very tough upbringing, and continues to have difficult family relations. In fact, she probably doesn't even know how to exist in a normal family. It sounds as if your entities are using your wife and daughter to cause chaos and come after you (and weaken you). It's probably hard to understand how much of your wife's behaviors are her own, and how much of that is being manipulated by them. But if she's a narc, or emotionally damaged person, she's the easiest one for them to mess with and control. Keep all of this in mind before you throw in the towel on your marriage.
Interesting that when you get your wife away from that house, she is an improved person and much easier to be around. Although entities can very easily attach or follow any of you, I have found the same. And that is that when we leave the home for a visit elsewhere, we generally all feel better, and get along better. That leads me to believe in my case that these negs have covered our homes in dark energy in addition to them directly agitating us there. I have to wonder if that's the same for you? And whether you and your wife plus maybe the daughter could use a weekend trip away to see if you can unwind from all of that, be happy, and perhaps repair things? If that helps, then you know the problem lies in that house & general home area. And then you will know that you'll need to take things a little further with "cleaning house" and protecting all of you from any darkness there.