Forum Activity for @tigerlily

Sage?

Psychic and Paranormal

I used to use Palo santo in my apt in Chicago. The building was at least 100 years old. My neighbor upstairs used to sage the stairs. I agree with @hop-daddy it is a repellent for some time before it returns and best to practice every few days or week if you are attracting spirits. After all we do seem to put bug spray on routinely
outdoors. Why not use sage in our homes? There is a plant you can get, that is recommended to put it by doors called the ruda plant. Mediterraneans believe it is to help like the evil eye.

I use now essential oils, Palo Santo essential and a sage smudge spray. It works just as great and smells better than the smoke, adding lavender essential oil helps to keep the scent nice.

Keep the home clutter free if you can.

Am I being gaslighted?

Empath

@zacharias

Be careful. People dont change overnight. She will portray as changed and then slowly start her tactics again. Then you will end up in the same position as this post again. When I said why post this, is because you spoke unhighly of her and then pretty much saying "all good" when it is not. You sound like my friend who complains and talks negatively of his narc girlfriend of 5 years, but will never leave due to codependency and make excuses for them. Making excuses for another is not "ok"

I really would not want to see your daughter hurt as your wife has with animals. As chesire-cat mentioned, socio paths and psychopaths....you must find the caution tape. They dont just change. Google signs of a socio path and psychopath.

Stress? Memory loss?

Empath

@moonstone. One more thing. If you like plants maybe get a few. Plants that promote better air quality, ie, air purifiering plants you will find are some of the same types that keep the yucky negative energy out from people lol. Plants do respond well to our energy. Water them as instructed and talk to them, touch them, and tell them you love them. I get teased at work for talking to mine and I really dont care, because they are growing and healthy and i often get asked on how to revive a dying plant. Pothos are a great one. Uts other names are devils ivy and money plant. Hard to kill, but flourish so great! I have 2 at work growing like crazy already, and since switching jobs/roles at my company, they are out of control in the growing dept. My coworkers dont mind the long ivy portion overlapping in their cubicles lol. Quite a coincidence if you ask me,,,,better energy?? The pothos produce long vines, or you can have it grow up. They also regenerate roots if you cut them at the nodes and keep them in water for about 2 weeks. Aloe, bamboo, snake plants, peace lilies, aracea palms are all great too. Peace lillies are beautiful. The green is also a great color for the heart chakra, and you will find yourself loving your plants.

Stress? Memory loss?

Empath

@moonshine

You have alot going on

Grounding is a good technique and can really help you be yourself again. You may be caught up in the whirlwind of others energies and emotions often forgetting your own. This is quite common. I would suggest to try different grounding techniques and see what works for you. I can share mine, and maybe one may strike a chord. Being in nature, surrounded or in large bodies of water, Himalayan salt baths, lavender essential oil, palo Santo essential oil, sleeping with Crystal's under my pillow, always wearing a black stone. Obsidian types seem to be the best for me. I do keep a black tourmaline on me as well and Jet. (Usually in a pouch stuff in my bra, TMi) If you live and work in a large city like I do, chicago. Nature adventures are a God send. Snowfalls and rain always feel like junk in the air is washed away and purged for a bit. I wear headphones alot and that helps, along with not looking at people in crowded downtown Chicago.

First time I tried automatic writing, omg wow!!! It was fascinating. You learn so much I suggest only calling upon your spirit guide (s) and Angel's and higher self. The new age may say universe, but then you are calling upon everything lol. I made that mistake once lol. Before hand really ground yourself. Talk a walk with the trees, have a salt bath, use a soothing scent, meditate for a few minutes in the bath to quite the mind. When you are ready call upon your guides and Angel's only and start to visualize the white light coming into your head and all over your body. Visualize it covering your head, your nose, your neck, moving to your shoulders, then down to your body, legs, etc. Then when you are ready write whatever comes to your mind. At first "purging" will begin, then as you continue "non sense" will start. You may get phrases pop in your mind, write it down. Images in your 3rd eye, write it down. You may start to feel tired after a few minutes, and you can say thank you to your guides and angels as you complete the writing as you have recievee the information for now.

Here are some weird things I got.
Example, The last few times I had done the automatic writing "eat leafy greens" kept coming. Naturally i thought strange, why do you want me to eat leafy greens?
So i did eat more leafy greens, for a whole month and I did feel better health wise. I think it raised my vibration too. If you look in my freezer I have 7 things of frozen spinach, lol. I try to keep a stock of it. Another example that came through was leaving my job. Of course I thought odd, it wasnt that bad. But later I found out why......oh and I did. 2018 was a not great working career. Now, my last automatic writing was a few months ago, i was told success is coming. I really hoped it was a new job, and it was. I also learned the negative people around me were holding me back, again I didnt see it until later I found out who my true friends are. @hop-daddy knows my challenges with living in Chicago, but that has come through with automatic writing several times. I'm supposed to leave this city and negative people for continued growth. Now, I'm a logically person and have to plan for it lol. I apologize for talking so much of me, just wanted to provide a few examples of how it really does work. It may help on grounding and people. May even help with your other gifts. Automatic writing may just come freely and natural for you as it does for me, and I really hope it does. Feel free to smudge your area with sage before hand, I use a sage smudge spray I got from Amazon and sprinkle Palo santo essential oil on the carpet. Scents work just as great as smoke, in my rescent experience past few months. The room energy will be clear and ready for you

you can even spray the sage smudge spray around you after a hard day. It helps me and I hope helps you.

Here is the sage smudge spray link...you can find it on Amazon too.

https://juniper-mist.myshopify.com

Am I being gaslighted?

Empath

It sounds like you are all making excuses for the narc and gas lighters in your life. You all have the option to leave, but choosing to stay. Which makes me question, why post this?

Every empath needs to understand the dynamics of a narc and their gas lighting ways or you fall into their trap. We feel what is wrong, but yet also feel what is right. It is confusing when it comes to love.
Unconditional love is not based on conditions. Cild, money, homes, etc. It is far more than that. Tying up and hurting other creatures, is the the same psychotic tendencies that can be used on a human.

As an empath you are already seeing and feeling something is wrong. I see no reason why not discuss it, but to to then later discuss "it is all good" it is not. These people are holding any empath back to what our true purpose is, so yes, you are being gas lighted. You fell into the trap of a gas lighter. The gas lighter is taking away your confidence and power, drawing back to them. Just so one can keep quiet and do what the narc wants, and make excuses for the narc.

If you are doubting mostly you are feeling that something is wrong and what to question it. It is wrong. If you need help/guidance on this, be open to suggestions of others and their experiences.

Earth Angel

Empath

@warden I'm sorry for my late response. Her book does talk about other star people etc, I didnt care for that part as much as I did care for earth Angel's. It was just a start to understanding, and from there explore more. If you go on Google, many others say the same and claim to be. You will start to see coincidences in these article pretty much saying the same. People copying and pasting and claim to be. Again, see if it all resonates.

Many will argue that Angel's cannot come to 3D as they are so high dimensional, but given our world today we need them.

There is much out there that non of us know for sure, except for what we feel deep inside. If you feel deeply this is is you, it may as well be. Keep with any type of random acts of kindness or good you are doing because you may have impacted someone so much that it changed their life and you did a purpose. Pay attention if those wings feel like there spreading on those times. I think then you will know for sure.

Am I being gaslighted?

Empath

@zacharias I can give you all you need to know gaslighting, I experienced this greatly last year and with an ex fiance. First, I'm really sorry for all this you are going through. To hear about your cats and now the dog, really breaks my heart. Your wife is abusing pets.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation played out by another person to basically test your "sanity" The way these manipulators or narcs do this is few ways. The first and foremost is to convince you of your sanity and to second guess yourself. Which then leads to being confused, not speaking up for yourself, thinking you did wrong, apologizing for things when not your fault. Just to name a few. They tell all kinds of lies as well to keep you in this trap.

Best way to counter this is keep your confidence and vibration high. This is you wife and can call her out on her BS versus a coworker who can go to HR and say you are being discriminated against. Yes, gaslighting narcs can and will do this. Just know what you are right and keep your ground on it. Tying up a poor innocent creature such as an elderly dog for having an accident is not the solution. She could have called the vet. But dont fall for her excuses as to "teach them a lesson" type of thing, or whatever she may say. We all know pets have accidents when something is wrong....

Owls...

Dreams

Owls, in dreams symbolize wisdom, intuition, awareness. Since it just appeared as fast as it was gone. I would say this is a good thing to let you know you are very connected with yourself. Great dream for an empath

I do agree with chesire cat that this could also be your spirit animal showing itself to you. Outside of the dream world, do you find yourself more attracted to owls than other animals?

Do you know the spirit visiting you?

Empath

@Robert-caffer

This is great! Thank you for sharing.

Earth Angel

Empath

@warden

There is way to much for me to type out on this subject
There is a book my therapist had me read "The rhelm of earth angels" by Doreen Virtue. It's a nice easy read and may be able to answer your question. If you want to know for sure relax your body and ground yourself to see what you pick up on that resonates. You will just know.

Essential Oils

Empath

Thank you for the reminder of the diffuser.    I am planning to make a lotion or body oil from it, to carry with me on emergencies when I need additional grounding out and about.  I did find this.  Essential oils for Empaths

https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/2015/10/01/10-essential-oils-to-re-balance-the-empath/

Kind thoughts can boost immune system

Empath

@hop-daddy I couldn't agree more.

Last year at a lecture a guy said where cancer and illnesses is caused by an imbalance of emotional health or something like that.

silly question: Influence on or "communication" with technology / machines or them developing a life of their own

Empath

This is an interesting topic. And honestly not silly at all. Talk to a car enthusiast and see what they say They definitely have something there and preferences of their owner. Given you and the car are a match. More specifically as to how some cars acted up driving out of no where if you were not the owner. My father's car broke down on me so many times, I couldnt get it to start and here he comes and it starts like nothing. He did make me feel like I couldnt drive, but as we saw more of this I just said "dad your car doesnt like me" I have had this with a few friends cars and they the same to mine, typically have no known mechanical flaws. When I traded in my first car after 8 years of ownership, the car dealership told me they could not get it to go in reverse the next day to move it. I was shocked but wasn't, but the guy at the dealer said the car missed me already and quirky things like that tend to happen with some cars when traded in and then no known issues, out of his years in the business. I still miss that car. I found her on a car forum, the new owner talked much about the car issues but never issues on the transmission.

Tonight we have ice rain and the roads were icy. I was a bit nervous driving as I felt some sliding, and I have an SUV now. A few times I felt like I couldnt move the steering wheel as she was driving and said I got this. That sounds silly too I know, and this car doesnt have self driving abilities like the others and she's 2 years old. I have many other bizarre car stories.

Kind thoughts can boost immune system

Empath

This is fascinating thank you for sharing. I have heard this many times before on a positive outlook promoting better health. As I'm sure we all have heard how tip top healthy people pass young. I remember as a kid hearing stories in school how children who were sick got better in hospitals from watching funny shows.

Recently I read the power of meditation to curing burnout and stress, which then lead me to reading and seeing brain scans of how meditation alters brain structure.

It is really fascinating to me how powerful the brain truly is and how much of it we still do not understand, like the subconscious.

Essential Oils

Empath

I was looking into essential oils as currently I'm only using lavender oil for stress.  Been reading on the benefits of them for grounding and keeping negative energy away.  Anyone else have success with essential oils?

I came across this article on how Palo Alto essential can help with this.  I used to burn the Palo Alto when I lived alone to clear out my home after deep cleaning and/or when it just felt heavy in the home.  Currently I cannot so I was looking into another methods

My intent is mainly to make a lotion like I have with lavender at work.  Or even as a spray. 

https://www.consciouslifestylemag.com/spiritual-essential-oils-healing-health/

Do you know the spirit visiting you?

Empath

Had a newbie question.  How do you know which spirit is visiting you?  How do you know if it's a family member or not?  Or is this spirit guide?   During the holidays it felt alot, but not like deceased loved ones.  I've heard whispers, and things said, walking up the stairs, feeling them neat, and nearly always I dont recognize the voice.  If it is a deceased family member, how do you know?  I have been taking guesses on this one, and take pictures now where I'm feeling the energy or guided by my cat.    (Have captured a coupke unique photos)  

If you do talk to them, how do you do it?  And do you ask for protection b4 hand?  If its family, great.  Again, sorry for the newbie questions.    

updated by @tigerlily: 01/10/19 02:03:57AM

Having a really difficult time recently

Empath

@ stefficat11
Do you have a pet?

I totally understand what you are going through as I went through it. If you ever want to talk about this offline, you can PM here. I was engaged to a man who I thought at that time destroyed me. I lost everything. Moved back in with my parents with $100 in my pocket, gained 50 lbs, furniture gone, any other "stuff" gone, heart shattered, confidence gone, and no job. He was emotionally abusive and got physical once. I had gained some weight over the years (which I learned now was the PCOS) and he would call me fatty, porky, fat princess. And amongst others. He cheated, and the list just goes on. For years I could not get over this and blamed myself, and I also felt it was too late to start over and getting past my time for kids. I finally saw a therapist who discussed what an empath was. I always had this my whole life, just never knew what it was and I thought others had it.

Back to this ex of yours. He clearly has issues on him and put it on you. My ex did that all the time. No responsibility or any kind of accountability did they take on their own "stuff" It's them not you, and your worth is beyond it. As an empath, these situations due seem to be more difficult, but can overcome.

It took me many years to get passed it and one day, no joke, I woke up and said enough. My worth is not based on this man and it is about me, not him, and I refused to live life or try to rebuild it with him in the shadows. I knew who I really was deep down, and this wasn't me. I then listened to my therapist and learned alot of being an empath, found this group, learned about cutting chords, etc. Bottom line, you will have so much more in life than you would with him. My confidence came back the more I learned about being an empath and who I really am.
I learned how to do things alone, as you can imagine my "friends" left me to rot, as how I saw it. I was no use to them that broken. It gave me time to myself to learn this whole new world. When I got better, they came back, sucked me dry and left.
This cycle happened alot. Rinse and repeat. Then another phase recently of going about this alone happened. However, that is when I learned I'm not "really" alone. Neither are you. You have guides and Angel's, and everyone her at EC. I also have my cat, who is still with me through all that. He has had multiple times to run away lol, but he always runs into my arms Now, I have things in life I want to do, and if someone comes along, great join the ride! But if they drop one ounce of negativity, point them to the door. Same for any friends.
Finding others like us that vibrate high and feel alot, are out there. I have picked up a few on this ride of life, and you will too I'm happy with those quality of friends

Your current partner...

Empath

@ aiden I'm sorry I do not have any great advice on this as I'm single lol. for a period of 5 years I dated. I met about 100 men from online dating. I had met some where that attraction was so strong, but nothing ever came out of it. There were many that I met that were broken too, and after experiencing a point in my life where I was broken and working on me to fix it, I wasn't up to fixing them. Some of those broken ones got really mad when I told them I didn't want to see them anymore. One was so bad he kept sending me harassing texts. There was one man I had met and right away it was the whole "where have you been my entire life I've been looking for you" there is quite a story on that one I will not get into now.
I'd really like to know sometimes of those many I met where the connection felt great they would just leave or do the ghosting. I 9ften wondered wonder what was wrong with me that they didnt like me. Now I could care less. I'm fine being single and going to enjoy life, and if I met someone come join the ride of life.

Charging crystals

Empath

@hop-daddy you may need a bigger piece of selenite to recharge your other Crystal's. The Crystal's have to sit on it. I read amethyst can as well, but you need a larger geod of amethyst to place them in the center. Etsy has many slabs or bowls that they sell for recharging,if a local shop doesnt have it. I got the bowl for the jewelry at the shop here as salt water will tarnish the jewelry. I was getting headaches from some of the jewelry and agree that sun and moon is the best. The past few days it's been cloudy again.
I also read about putting selenite in each window after clearing your home as it helps keeps spirits out.

Driving

Empath

@Kate could be a few things going on, what popped in my head reading this. Past life and spirit.

I've read a few people have adversions to driving if they were hurt by a vehicle in another life. Or basically anything that could have caused it to carry over this life.

Spirit guides and your Angel's are all there with you. They are most likely communicating to you, and you are listening which is good. Keep listening and it will be easier and less stressful driving. You can ask them to slow it down a bit and try some testing to make sure you understand. How I did this, was by asking "should I stay in this lane or go, which is the faster/slower lane" you will then start to feel if you should stay in your lane or not. Later it will be more clear of getting messages/signs to slow down or just wait. Living in the city of Chicago, well drivers dont care if you have to wait 5 seconds as your guided to, but I didnt care for them either lol.
I have an angel hanging on my rear view mirror as they saved me when my car spun out of control on the highway. I always ment after that day to get one, but never found one that felt right. Then one day a coworker gave me one as a gift and as you can imagine I nearly cried. It was perfect.
I do also agree the energy of other drivers can cause some anxieties when driving. When I have this, just be more cautious or go another route if you can

Charging crystals

Empath

Thank you everyone! I have 2 good spots where they get great sun and moonlight. With winter here, there are too many cloudy days and I just thought to try this and see who else may have or even if it was a good idea, which it is not lol. I would smudge them, but here at my parents, my dad wouldn't understand. Although my mother has been surprising me. The plants are in an area in my room that get sun as well and the rose quartz are clearing out nicely. My friend wants to try the rose quartz in 2 of his plants that are not doing well and I picked up a few for him. I can get you updated on their progress
I did go out and get a selenite bowl today. I have added a himalyan salt lamp to my bedroom as well.

How Ghosts Impact Us

Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy Thank you for sharing this wonderful article. I've recently determined my grandpa is visiting frequently. He loved this house the most out of all his children, and wanted to stay here, but his eldest daughter had different in mind. I believe I caught his shadow in a photo. When looking at old photos, the features are correct to the shadow and photos. He was here tonight and I told him that I love him, seems he thinks this is his home and I'm in the bedroom he used to stay in. His son visits too, which was my favorite uncle.
As for random spirits, telling them to go away works best. Family seems to stick around it seems no matter what.

Feeling Creepy Crawlies

Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy are these the scuttlers?

https://www.unexplained-mysteries.com/forum/topic/285520-scuttlers/

This was another article I found, if relevant. Could be hogwash, you tell me with your experience.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/deadandrestless.wordpress.com/2014/03/19/not-very-nice-djinn-interdimensional-entities-causing-havoc/amp/

Giant bugs/spider types? Looks like they dislike smoke and smokey quartz may help and candles. As if we dont have enough headache to keep normal bugs out of the house, now these things from the astral lol. Would be nice to know if these are things we are bringing back from the astral in our dream time to our homes. Maybe try smoky quartz bracelet or under your pillow at night, and smudge the entire house.

Charging crystals

Empath

My apologies if this sounds silly.  Has anyone used visualization to reset and charge your stones and Crystal's with white light?   I recently tried this a few times, and although I can feel the stones energy come back, I'm left with a headache.  Although, it is quite amazing to see how much they pick up     I'm assuming I need more practice as I either just absorbed what my collection had or I forgot that that collection I had has alot of mixed energies

(Off the subject, placed rose quartz in 2 of my plants and they are growing like crazy.)

Can spirits make you taste and smell?

Psychic and Paranormal

@warden is this still occurring? Do you or your b/f have a family member that passed that was a smoker? Or could it where you live a fire broke out some years ago?
My friend occasionally smells cigarette smoke which we've said it's her mother. Later she'd dream that night about her mother saying she was ok to my friend.
I would smell smoke to, but as a heavy smoker at that time I just assumed it was me lol. Sometimes those were the nights my cat would go off and play with something that was not there. Then I noticed this was a different cigarette smell, and that it was my uncle. He loved cats and playing with them.
I agree that this smoker spirit is just trying to communicate and probably harmless. If you do ask for protection from your guides and Angel's and higher self only to see if can come through that way and what images may start popping in. If you do not feel comfortable, I understand as well.

Sound therapy, who's tried it?

Empath

@zacharias 16 cats! I love it If I could I'd have multiple pets. Do you feel a difference when multiple are sitting by you and purring?

I struggle grounding and shielding at times when I'm in downtown. I've been off all week for the holidays and I've been feeling so much better. I also havent gone anywhere except to the store with my mom. Retail stores are harder for me and resort to online shopping, I always thought it was the energy of shoppers and people who work there. Obviously those places are filled with barcodes and sewn in sensors.

I bought a new cell phone and the first few days I had major headaches. I turned the blue light filter on and it went away. A few friends thought I was nuts for putting it on as the clarity is not so much anymore and how dim I have the screen, it just causes headaches to me. Anyone else experience this with cell phones or even computer monitors?

Friendship - finding it incredibely difficult to find friends that are "on the same wavelength"

Empath

@crystalsage did you notice a difference from Chicago to Norcal? I live in Chicago currently and work downtown.

Friendship - finding it incredibely difficult to find friends that are "on the same wavelength"

Empath

@crystalsage do you live in northern California? I'm looking to move out of Chicago and feeling drawn to the Pacific NW area. Guessing there are many empaths and spiritual minded individuals there also?

Sound therapy, who's tried it?

Empath

Sound therapy is great. Recently went to a group session where the instructor used a venus gong. Prior times to this class she's used tuning forks, tibetan singing bowls, drums.

@zachacarias Thank you for mentioning crystal! Forgot about this one. As a kid we used to use our parents crystal and run our fingers around the rim until we got yelled at lol.

I to am a fan of music as well that raises vibration and gets me movin, like dancing.

The chakra lady I used to see would chant. She highly recommended this to get energy moving...

https://blog.sivanaspirit.com/open-the-chakras-with-sound/

Do you have a cat?? A cats purr can produced anywhere from 25-150 mhz. It is there way to self heal and has shown how it can heal us, their humans through vibrations. If you have a cat, and kitty is being insistent to lay on you and purr, allow it. Mine is very intuitive and will nuzzle his big self across my chest and throat and just purr. He just seems to know when I have blockages in my heart or throat chakra. If my intuition is off, he will wrap his body around my head and purr. This isnt a quick fix either, it can take an hour to days. Our fur babies loves us as much we love them and want to help

https://www.purrfectpost.com/healing-purrs-how-your-cat-can-help-you-heal/

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere

Psychic and Paranormal

The negative images may not correspond to you personally,but what is around you. If things at work are getting wild and coworkers are stressed and negative in life it may rub off. Same with any friends and family. The holidays. So much residual energy from angry shoppers in stores who are stressed. Where you live, I used to live there to and remember how this time of year many natives didnt like all the snowbirds arriving lol. When things at work were really bad with the narc, it's all I saw for months. These do come back every so often, and now I'm trying to pay attn to what is around me as to why it's happening. I have seen the witches, skulls, angry looking people shifting to what some may say is the devil. I really doubt it's you, and just what others around are carrying.

The positive, in my opinion, is like trying to un bury yourself through the layers of negative. It's exhausting lol. Whatever works for you to do that to bring it out, try it. I feel you have alot of positive in you. Me, exercising, nature, reading funny memes,funny shows, eating very well, good music, all help.
But I do love wrapping myself up in my own positivity and seeing pleasant images. This helps shield against negative for a bit and others emotions. Just this tends to sometimes draw more negative nancies who need help that cant help themselves lol. I'm guessing spirits that need help moving on as well, are being attracted to it. Not 100% sure on this one yet. Never ending cycle on that one and as you can imagine exhausting.lol

I took this week off to unbury myself from the layers of negative on me, b4 I start my new job. As well to get on better positive habits. 2019 goals

I have read that too, stop when you see those numbers and what is going on in your thoughts. This is your spirit guide or Angel's trying to communicate with you. Same for ear ringing or flashes of light in minds eye or from the corner.

Friendship - finding it incredibely difficult to find friends that are "on the same wavelength"

Empath

That is understandable, if the town is small then everyone knows lol. I live in Chicago and everything is available, I dont take advantage of it as the energy and people is overwhelming. Also, big cities have many frauds out here looking to make a quick buck. Really have to allow your intuition to guide you to these places.
I've met many giving people in life that are bitter,not just empaths. Those friends that are quite capable of giving back usually are selfish about it and dont want to be bothered by it. They are all to "busy" They are not like those in society who cannot help themselves, but at least those individuals say thank you and are truly grateful. Example, a shelter I volunteered to cook meals for. 5 of us made over 30 plates of dinner and many had tears of joy and full of thanks. It's quite a shame on our friends and family who keep taking when they have the means themselves to fix if you ask me.
Art class is great!!! Probably feels very positive in their when everyone is distressing and utilizing creative abilities. Even if it is for a few months, something else may pop up. Intuitive painting is offered here and seems of interest to many. You may even want to start one like that if you can in your city.

Friendship - finding it incredibely difficult to find friends that are "on the same wavelength"

Empath

Once I got past the loneliness or being alone it was fine. Sometimes, I'd rather alone than going out. It is hard to talk to others when I have many unanswered questions about being an empath and other things. Coming to this group has greatly helped. There is a group or a class I go to with a friend, with other gifted individuals. Not so much empaths. That group and this forum is usually enough to suffice my social interaction.

Like hop-daddy said, I also feel like I'm only peoples friends when they need something or help. When I need it, nothing but silence. And since we are experienced at handling things ourselves and figuring it out, then the friends flock like seagulls. Same thing happens to meet at work.

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere

Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy I see faces too. I'll be honest I didnt read all the comments lol. Just scrolled through and I did see yours about how the mind is wired. But like you, I only if its subconscious. The same applies to signs and synchronicities, which I'll stop here

In objects and in minds eye I see them. They are usually not pleasant. Actually just a few weeks ago I saw a an angry skull on my back brush and wouldn't use it for days when I had to shower. Lol. I am not a fan of those Persian style rugs with their intricate designs as I see many evil faces. When it started happening when I'd fall asleep, I thought at first I was being negative and wake up asking myself where did this come from and how am i thinking negative things like this. They to were men's faces, rarely ever a woman or a child. Sometimes animals that I dont find pleasant. Their faces would then shift like they were deteriorating to a skull or something evil. Or the flashcard effect. At first I thought it was past life related of all the people I knew.

I'm noticing now this happens when there is to much negativity in the air that is impacting me and possibly lowering my vibration. Maybe the same for you and others.

I do see positive too. For example, Heart shapes , all over for a period of time few years ago. I started taking pics. If I look down randomly, I would find a heart shape rock or a random melted snow area in a shape of a heart. Again, all subconscious and not looking for it. 1:11 and 11:11 or 1111 or 111, all over during this time. I have a nice heart shape rock collection due to this Few months back I started seeing those numbers again, and this time it was flower shapes. (Not actual flowers) I'm guessing my vibration must have been higher. As heart shapes and flowers are all positive shapes/objects to me. I'd see these same shapes when I'd go to sleep and close my eyes. Do you have this too? Positive images when you are feeling positive or positive in the air?

Flashes of light is another that i see out the corner of my eye and when i go to bed. I've read that these are angels making their presence known to you. If you have this as well.

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.

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Stomach issues here too. I always have pepcid ac on me. Went to a GI dr and he found nothing wrong! Lol. Later I learned of hormonal issues that is causing the troubles, I learned what to eat and it's better. My stomach is the best when I cook for myself. But at the end of the day in empath world, not even pepcid ac or staying away from certain foods help. Now if I'm around negative people and narcs, or anything negative in the air....my stomach just churns and burns. Best at that point to just walk far away from them if you can.

I have sinus issues as well. There are days when out of no where my sinuses just flare up in a snap. Ill start coughing uncontrollably
from post nasal drip from it. And there are no known allergens around me that would cause an immediate flare of congestion except people. It can happen at work, at a party, the store, discussions that may have negativity. I have a cat, who I'm allergic too, and he doesn't cause my sinuses to get like that so fast. The sinuses are a never ending battle and I'm allergic to sudaphedrine.

With sinuses, this is interesting, my friend and I were talking about her son and how he talks of a spirit in their basement and other things this gifted child randomly talks about. Both of our sinuses spontaneously got clogged at that same time and we were blowing our noses, and of course I was coughing it up too. As soon as we went downstairs the congestion gone for her. I not so much.

Overall, I'd have to say best remedy is stay away from Chicago! Lol. I am always better in less populated areas. Even in those smaller areas I will get a small punch in a gut or the face, but once removed I'm ok. Crystal's and stones help greatly and I really use those until I can better shield myself. Grounding and cleansing help that too.

All this has gotten worse due to working with a narc the past year. Seems lately every weekend I'm sick. The minute my body, mind, and soul feel free, the body just gets sick. Come Sunday night I'm better.

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!

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@chesire-cat thank you for posting these. I've read man articles about Facebook not any on video games.

Mostly what I saw about Facebook, that usually popped up on Facebook on narcissm was the selfies years back. But all correlates to the article you shared. As later the articles talk about how many friends,how many times a day you post, etc. Guess they got it all together now lol. Few years back it got really annoying the amount of selfies certain individuals were posting on a daily basis. Now it's a norm.

What irrates me with FB is the lies and this dual personality. Making one appear as one is not in real life. Making comments that are exact opposite of what they told me prior.

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!

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@Michelle

Thank you for sharing this article! 🤗
I truly enjoyed it and wish the entire human race can read this lol. I know many people in life that I'd like to print this and put it in their mailbox

Feeling a little down and confused...

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@loconnoro everything hopdadyy and Michelle provided is excellent ways to promote healthy energy in your home. Please do try them as they work. As I can share my experiences as how effective it is...

I used to live in a bldg in Chicago that was about 100 years old. I didn't like the feeling there, neither did my cat. My neighbors told me how he would cry alot when I was at work. That naturally hurt me to hear he was suffering.

What I learned overtime and stuck too...deep cleaning, high organization, windows and blindes open (yes, I did this in winter a few times), purging items from a rough period in my life, buying brand new furniture to replace from that rough period, purging photos and possessions from ex's, smudging (I used sage and Palo santo), essential oils, white candles, Crystal's, plants, and soothing colors. My neighbor would smudge the staircase from time to time, due to that suffocating energy there.

Immediately everything felt better and my cat was more relaxed and happy again and I didn't hear many complaints from my neighbors after that. I'm sure his energy added to it.

After that, I would smudge as needed to keep it clear. I struggled at first with this until the chakra lady. She told me what to say and how to do this. As she told me my stress in life and corporate America didn't help, dating, meeting negative people, and the energy of the city, were all being brought in my home. It was tiring at first, but needed and become routine. My friend and her husband complimented me a few times when they came over how great it felt and what I was doing. That they started using the sage and palo Santo as well. I didn't use both at the same time. Sage to me was the "deep cleanin" and Palo Santo as maintenance.

Now i live with my parents again as i grew tired of apartments and Chicago city life as i got older. Well, they are not a fan of anything lol. I'm still working to get my dad to let go of all this old stuff and mess in the basement, garage, etc. As well as their negativity to things in life and each other.
All water glasses have bubbles in it,my apartment did not. My Epsom salt clumps together, in my apt it did not. I've even offered to pay for their vacation to get them out so i can smudge this place and light candles, etc. (As my dad can't stand smells) My cat cries nearly daily to go into my room when I'm at work, as I keep the energy cleaner in their with my Crystal's and plants. When I'm home, he's in there all night until I go to work next day. (I keep him out so he can remain active in the house, due to his age or he'll just stay in my room all day. Its helping as he's in excellent health for 16, but I'm beginning to feel bad again for him from how he's behaving recently)

At the advice of someone here from this group, this weekend I plan to start deep cleaning and planting Crystal's around the house, and say prayers. Winter and cold is here and windows remain closed.

What is your biggest issue as an empath?

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@jerrysto  It is very hard to talk about it and sometimes we cant with our friends and family.   I felt that way coming here a few years ago, but no one has ever judged or argued with me it's mostly "i get you" from this forum.  I am just tainted with dogma sometimes.   When I have gone to friends and family for help I get the dogma responses.  I felt often times with unknown answers, what is the unknown, and how do i go about all this?  It's not like life where you can't pay a bill or have a flat tire, and ask for a friend or family member for help.  It's more and deeper than that, that others don't get or understand.   This group has helped me so much and will for you too.  People in everyday world, they don't get it or understand what life is like in our shoes daily.   We really do feel what is like for them LOL.   People will lie right to you, and you know that they are lying.     Empaths are human lie detectors. 

  I started attending a class with other gifted individuals and they questioned the "feeling"  I've told them how i felt others physical pains and of course their feelings, and whatever else is in the room with me that I cannot see.  Maybe how objects either felt great touching, or others I wanted to throw up from touching.    I get it through emails and text messages as wells.  Back to that class, I said I'm not looking to pry into anyone or their free will, this just comes.  I sense they are a little nervous when I'm around, and some have validated that by telling me so.  But I told them to not, because there feelings are not mine and I don't judge.   Seems that has helped calm them a bit. 

I found a way to "shield" myself that seems to be starting to work for me, and it's amazing to be able to feel your own feelings and feelings based on your own thoughts.   Or walk through a crowd and not feel something lol.   However today, i forgot to do so and friend drama full force! lol.  I'm hoping to be better at this and master this for myself and share what I have done, but I still get a few leaches sneaking in...

I AM GRATEFUL FOR.....

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Human Life - I am grateful for the loving family and friends in my life today. Those that make a conscious effort like I do. I am grateful for my pet, Leo. I am grateful that I have recently acquired a new job and the plans set in motion for years to come. I am grateful to be able to see parts of this planet in person versus my dreams. I am grateful to appreciate nature in all its beauty.
I am grateful for possessions needed to survive in this world today.

Spiritual life- My souls is grateful for the gifts given to me. I will be more grateful when I am able to use them on my own more effectively in human form i am grateful for those who have helped and shown me along the way, and continue to meet those wonderful souls. I'm grateful for this planet in all that remains for its ways to heal. My soul is grateful to be able to help those in need where I can to live life on this planet as well to learn one day those souls that need guidance. My soul is grateful to travel too see this planet and possibly others when I sleep at night. I am forever grateful to meet my spirit guides.

Pets

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For someone who is single and nearly 40, it's sad how it is with dating. It's all done through dating apps, and the "old fashion" ways are labeling people as creepy and perv. But online dating is no different as some women think it's all creeps n pervs. My experiences with online dating hasn't been great, but i gave it a shot fot 5 years. Still not the same as meeting someone in the real world is tough. Me too movements, digital age, and anything else is causing this shift. Dating at work has had strict rules, and becoming more strict.
I've met so many women in the city as friends, and they all say men are creeps anyway you look at it. Then when asked "how are you going to meet someone then" you get deer in a headlight look. Then when you ask men, it's the whole "man its hard"
I can go on and on about this subject just from this wild city. Lol.

Dogs have great energy! After learning I am allergic to cats going to look into dogs as my next fur baby. My cat currently acts like one. Lol

Pets

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@chesire-cat did your studies also talk about with narcs using pets for their own advantage? Mainly men? Living in this big city, many men use dogs to pick up women. And it works! I personally don't agree with that, but I guess we know narcs do? I saw how a cute puppy or little dog strikes up conversation, and as we are all empath we know we can feel it too. The big dogs not so much, it's the puppies and little dogs. Men have done it to me too. I've also seen many with their dogs turn women away, I liked those men lol. The lake is a great pick up a spot for all this. I used to see a man every morning walking to the train, walking his cute puppy. I used to also see him flirting with different women, daily. This puppy would always run to me, and I felt bad never petting it, but his owner and that energy never felt right and at that time I didn't know why. One day, I did it. Yep I said it. The cute little puppy ran up to me again and I pet it and did all the googly puppy things. I felt bad ignoring the little puppy as somethong with his owner didn't feel right, the puppy is innocent. I said to the owner that day "bet your getting a lot of A from this little guy" the look on his face, he knows he was caught. He must have moved the dog walking to a different part of the neighborhood as I never saw him again. I rarely ever saw women with dogs get hit on or flirted with by men.
I know living in a city, the excuse is size of dog with apartments. True, not always true. There is equal amounts big and small, so I don't buy that excuse each time. Especially when you see big dogs going in the same building as little ones. If that was the case, you'd see more smaller dogs, as I often questioned myself what bldg did they live in that allowed larger dogs.

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!

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@Michelle this makes a lot of sense. A lot of my friends have their kids in daycare. I have a few coworkers who''s wives had quit because the cost of daycare alone wasn't worth working to pay for it and someone else raise their child. Essentially working to pay for someone else's salary. They are also the ones that budget their money better. But, there those that don't cause they need that extra money to pay for other things or make a lot and can afford it.
The world has gotten to complicated and expensive. We have extra bills now that didn't exist when my parents worked with all the internet, cell phone, cable, etc. Heat and electric is more, gas etc. And if you live in illinois, it's taxes. We are the second in the nation for highest property taxes, and on still top for the overall tax ratio. But yet don't have the salaries to compensate for cost of living. Some have no choice but to work to pay for daycare and taxes, from those expenses. Illinois is having a decline in population from people moving out, and since Illinois can't budget they raise taxes again.
I don't deny one bit that daycare is one part of the equation. But there are many other factors as well. The world being more complicated, materialistic, the govt, corporate america. Greed from money is another part of it. Debt just keeps rising and so does the population of narcs.

Spirit animal

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Do you know yours and how did you know?

Is it really an animal we are attracted to most?  

I'd like to know for sure.  I love basically all animals and have a few favs, hard for me to figure out.  But if you can't guess from my screen name, that is my favorite lol.  

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!

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@chesire-cat that is a good way to look at it. But you know as an empath you can feel the rage of their ignorance when you are happy and bright. It's good that I have somewhat of humor, as when they get snippy, I get snippy funny back. I don't like to do this always as it is draining. But it is nice to see the other beacons of light do it. The negativity from those crabby.

Today I over heard a millenial say, "But that's how we millenials are, it has to be given as we expect it" I held back not going over there saying "and as your gen x superior like myself, we expect you work for it as like many of your other leaders in this company and maybe then you will have earned it"

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!

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@chesire-cat i told his boss what an amazing job he does and many other great things and she said "yes I know that, thank you" she's a tool herself. Told me to get my boss involved on a issue, of which my boss didn't help. And in the end that tool said "thanks for your help" when i got it resolved. These people and their impatience with inflated egos, I know that company and people better than my boss.
We have an internal recognition award program at work. When someone does great, I submit recognitions. I probaby have sent hundreds and sometimes to the same people who continue to go above and beyond. It goes up the chain to upper mgmt. I email their bosses personally as well. I have had managers email me tHankins me for sending it out and how much it makes a difference. I remind the youngens and older crabby workers once in a while to send these out. The rude comments I get of "why should I praise someone for doing their job" it's just toxic.

Pets

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I've always preferred cats as a pet, and 5 years ago I found out I was allergic. I've had 3 cats my life. One I had when I was 10, and she passed about 16 or 17. Before her passing I have my cat now. (She didn't want to live with me in my condo, so I had to take her back to my parents house, why I had gotten the one I adore now, my soul kitty) A year after getting my soul kitty I got another, my third cat. With her I had to give up as I started having many sinus infections and once a lung infection, which is wear I learned of the cat allergy. She's in a terrific home to a woman who thanked me for her as she said they are soul mates. I miss her, but I couldn't be more happy.
I still have my soul kitty who is 16 and in amazing health according to my vet. That is why I asked if it's possible that they live longer with unconditional love.. the allergy bothers me, but not to multiple sickness like b4.

My soul kitty like yours is very intuitive. He will not leave me alone on bad days I have, and will often stare at nothing and will run after something he's looking at that we don't see. Sometimes it looks like he is playing with someone, which I believe to be my deceased uncle. Often times he's ran into walls or chairs from running after something. He now will walk around in circles meowing at that skylight. I do feel a presence at times in the house so it's no shock to me his behavior anymore. And the way he meows at me to get my attention.

He's been good at weeding out people in my life lol. He likes people, but will hide or has bitten, those he doesnt like. Those that he does like, which have turned to be good people, he has no boundaries with and just sits on them lol. I wish I can keep soul kitty for my whole life. He greets me when I come home, and upset when I leave. Even goes to the bathroom with me. Follows me around like a puppy.

How do you deal with having a crush on someone ?

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@womanwhowalks you make a valid point on how he could be past life related. Or it could be the empath/narc dynamic. I wouldn't dismiss past life as I have recalled a few of mine. And have a story for the books on one, who I suspect is gifted himself but in hiding with wanting to fit in this world etc. Sometimes it's their energy your soul recognizes or their eyes. I recently am smitten by a man on the train by his energy alone. When I did manage to lock eye contact with him, I noticed he is familiar. I don't know him but fell in love. I get goosebumps and butterflies just looking at the back of his head, lol. I've tried asking my guides who is this person and have asked for dreams, and all I get is Irish. I do have a past life in ireland as a high born. But with normal everyday life, people say talk to him. My coworker can't believe how shy I am about it as she said I seem to have no problem talking to random people. True, yes. But what they don't know is how sometimes I am. In a meditation last week with a group he came to me in it with a flower, which I learned in research is a thistle and scottlands national plant. Who knows, maybe I was married off to a Scottish man for an alliance. Haven't gotten much else from that life.

If this man is a past life love, with narc tendancies today. I'm guessing he has alot of karma to clear and making him the not as nice person as today. I work with a narc that I have now recalled two past lives with. As you can imagine it's been a tough year. He bullied me in one life, and slit my throat in another for speaking back to him. But, this is something I cant really share with to HR for his harassment and putting me down any chance he can get. One day I just unleashed on him and I got in trouble, but luckily I had documentation to back it up. I still have trouble trying to communicate with him as its hard to speak, hence throat slashing. So I wear a lot of amazonite to work on days I wake up "feeling" I need it. At first I felt the stone choking me and I had to take it off. When I wore it again it wasn't as bad and that's when it popped in my head of the throat slashing dream. Now I barely have that choking feeling. Seems to help

Pets

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Curious to know which type of pet you as empath prefer and why?

If you do own one...

1.)do you believe they are protecting you or alerting you from those negative or postive spiritual energies?

2.)Comforting you from when you have taken on to much energy that day from people or not?

3.)  Do they help ground you?

4.)Any type of odd behaviors in general or on certain days? 

Anything else on your fur baby please do share.

Side note, I read once a while ago that our fur babies tend to live longer with lots of pure love from us.  I'm not able to find where I found this or how.  I keep finding "ways your pet loves you"  If you know about this too, please share.

Love everything that everyone wrote here.

What cane to my mind, was soul groups. I just recently learned mine, and was able to resonate with it. Yet also understand better why I can't stand how this world has become.

Anyways, going back to the lost feeling. I completely get you. I went through this for years and phases prior. We do get clues, and once I understood that and followed them better. That is when my intuition grew. Just the last year it grew more. But like you "do I go back to school, do I move, etc" At one point as it was to much coming in at once. Almost like an overwhelming life issues, but from spirit and my guide. My head wanted to explode. Once i started piecing my dreams and reflecting on my day, meditating and clearing myself, and going to this class, and coming her it all started to make sense. all of a sudden I started feeling something was coming but not knowing what. Now I see it aND just followed the intuitive feelings I was having. Now, some are not logical lol. But I see it now how some things unfolded.

Seeing with closed eyes / attacks

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@Bing thank you for sharing and like hop-daddy it's niće to hear others have this face seeing. But yet I'm sorry for all who may see it unpleasant like myself.

@hop-daddy when you said light warrior it did trigger something in me. Thank you for mentioning this. I have been told by a psychic earlier this year that I have a warrior soul etc. Which I thought was ironic because I had read about soul types and I relate to everything about a warrior soul.

I have been wearing hematite and onyx since that day and i felt really good. I have been carrying pyrite and citrine in my pocket for over a month to help with the job search. I'm going to start carrying my black tourmaline with me daily as you suggest, as I notice at work I get those pains and like bug bite feelings. I have a big obsidian I'll add to under my pillow collection. You give advice and are very knowledgeable and i want to thank you. You really do help others here too from all your replies.

Hope your conversation with your son goes well tonight teenagers...