New coworker triggering me
Politely share the last sentence...let them know that your personal life should stay that way
@moonshine I also have a very sensitive taste. It comes in handy when I have something at a restaurant and I would like to duplicate it at home....although I still haven’t figured out the secret recipe for KFC chicken, lol.
As far as smell, I can smell when my Mom comes to visit me...she passed away in 2011. She used to visit quite often, but not as frequently as she used to. I have also smelled when someone is about to have a blown tire on more than one occasion. This has saved me from getting hit with a semi truck tire. I have also detected natural gas leaks by the road and fires before anyone else knows. My husband jokes about it and calls me a bloodhound, lol.
I don’t frequent here as often as I used to, but I wanted to welcome you to the forum. I like you moniker too.
I was wondering if anyone out there can smell cancer...and if so, can describe the smell? I have searched for info on this an can only find discussions about dogs smelling it. And other discussions that humans cannot smell it (eye roll). Any input will be greatly appreciated
Trigger warning here!
I’m going to be real candid here...last fall I had had my fill, to the point of seeking legal counsel. Something he still does not know about. But I had to keep one last promise that I had made to him almost one year ago to the day. I told him if he ever touched me again(hair puller), I would call the police so I kept my promise. Now this got through the grapevine pretty fast, rural community here where he was born and raised. Just wish I’d done it before tolerating it for 13 years
Anyhow...so now, the games and gaslighting have stopped..for the most part. If it does , I call him on it, lying too. Don’t get me wrong, he still does it but I’m in control now. He has come to realize that I ain’t playin’
Embarrassment is a strong and effective teacher
Yes, thank you https://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/tigerlily>: for making it clear. I've noticed two different types of gaslighters. Those that know what they are doing and those that don't. Denial is a major factor. They lie to themselves the most. This is why they can tell you blatant lies and believe it themselves.
Those that know what they are doing, of course, are more sinister. These are sociopaths. They like to break people. They want to ruin you for their own satisfaction. I remember hearing a woman talk about this on NPR. She had written a book about it. What it's like to be a sociopath. It was enlightening.
I wish these people didn't exist. It's hard to understand, although, we have too in order to deal with them. In a work environment they can craft schemes and do some real harm. This is their entertainment.
When I was a child, I was really wanting it to stop raining....this chant came to me, so started saying it, with the melody that had also come. It stopped! I would do this on occasion throughout my childhood. I made mention of it to a therapist....of course, I was labeled and they didn’t believe me. Anyhow, years later..in my 50s now, I still remember the chant....and it still works. I have not shared that with anyone since my bad experience when I was young. Now I don’t feel so crazy after all. The words don’t even make a whole lot of sense but it works. I don’t know if it’s the melody or the words or both. Strange how I still remember it in detail.
Kinda late to the discussion on this one but the topic was revived again....totally synchronistic since this has been on my mind regarding my son. Without going into a long discussion about my son’s screwed up past, his narcissist dad has done a number on him....which made me think about post above. I know my son has some ability...have seen PK with him firsthand, however, the damage that has been done to him throughout his life has made him display the “cold empathy”. This makes me wonder if he is a damaged empath, or if he is just a narc/socio/cluster b. or a bit of both? He has been diagnosed with bipolar but denies that he needs help. He definitely does not want to ever feel....he buries it deep! Oh the hate and anger that he buries is excruciating. So, yes, it makes me wonder if you can be both, or is my maternal connection with him clouding my read on him? No one ever wants to admit or face the fact that their “child” (he is an adult now) could be so toxic.
, yes salt baths are also my go to on a regular basis. I prefer Himalayan sea salt...Dr. Teal’s Pink Himalayan mineral soak is the best...has a nice citrus oil also. As for stones, I have a half geode of amethyst on my nightstand (helps with nightmares also) as well as a half geode of clear quartz in my room. I had given my son a big chunk of rose quartz that he has in his room, although I don’t think he has been cleansing it as he should. On occasion I will place my selenite wands around as well. , as for your uncle, I haven’t seen or heard of relatives attach per se, but they will look over you...especially if there is a bond...as like the daughter he never had. Blessings
....I can so relate to everything that you mentioned in your reply. The voices...not really a voice but more like telepathic information for me, for a lack of a better description. Yes, they directly affect your actions....and thoughts. The one last year, the suicide victim...I started smoking and drinking, and I hadn’t done those things for years. It was as if he did not want to give up his habits, but rather experienced those through me. Like you though, I do experience the good things....like random acts of kindness out of nowhere. It is magical to see how these acts really brighten a person’s day....the beauty of being an empath ☺️. I can now pretty much discern the personality changes as linked to deceased ones. I still struggle with discerning the energy drains though. Mostly because of the living situation at my home...with my son still here and also my husband. I have become very aware that unfortunately they are both energy drains. I have found that I have to spend a few days away from them at a time to clear myself.....balance, center and ground. My crystals help, but not as effectively as they should under normal circumstances. Otherwise I also pick up theirs deep dark buried issues. I have tried discussing this with them so they can address their issues, but they are unconsciously aware of the issues buried, or so they say. Denial pops into my head. With my son also....he is a notorious projector, which doesn’t help. Up until the time my son moved in I was totally unaware that my husband was an energy drain....until I had two under the same roof. I have become very aware since now I’m on “high alert” with the both of them. As for deceased people...not sure, although on occasion I will get drained but then struggle to place whether they are from the dead or perhaps someone that I just had contact with. The struggle is real, lol
Crazy experience ! I’m glad you were able to get rid of that one. My attachments have not gotten that violent....for me, they change the way I think and affect my demeanor and actions for the most part. Like picking up bad habits or as with one that I picked up...gave me a hatefulness towards the male gender. That one my husband literally witnessed when it attached....poor guy, lol. He was actually the one to suggest attachment, since this was early on discovering that I was an empath. I totally felt like it was my own thoughts....oh the fun of being an empath, lol.
....As for cleansing crystals, I usually charge them in the full moonlight, but I also use sunlight. On occasion I will put some of them in sea salt, others in running water. One thing that I do is give them a cedar box to live in. That seems to keep them protected and ready to go. The cedar acts as a protection shield from any outside negativity that they may soak up from the surroundings. It also promotes the drawing in of good energy. Have you ever noticed an abundance of cedar trees around cemeteries? That’s why, it’s also a really good smudge material. As with you, I also like Palo Santo, it leaves a nice aroma for the end of the smudge ceremony. Blessings
With me it’s different faces every night....my take on it is deceased people trying to get me to help them....we emit a light that the deceased can see...similar to what happens with mediums. I am in no way saying that I am a medium, but perhaps they see that the possibility is there.
On the attachment subject....I am more and more convinced every day that there is definitely influences by others on the other side of the veil, whether it be deceased folks or other entities. Most people cannot discern such but since I am more in tune with the other side of that veil, I can discern who or what is influencing me
I want to send a heartfelt thank you out to everyone that has given advice and support on this issue.....it means a lot!! Long road but do see Light at the end of the tunnel as he is still drug free, employed and learning how to manage his emotions for the most part. He is soon to be moving out with a place of his own, which will give some distance so I can really recharge.
You never know how your life path is so supposed to go. But along those lines, you fixing your son, could be a major milestone in your life. It is not only an enormous challenge, but you will develop the experience in addition to potential new skills to apply that to others later in your life. You may just be getting advanced on the job training to heal a very damaged person. There aren't many that can do that, so my hat is off to you!
Thanks for the chord cutting advice....I have cleansed him with sage, Palo Santo and salt, all of which he asked me to do. I have suggested chord cutting to him and he agreed....after I explained to him what has been occurring. I am always hesitant to do energetic things without a request for such as to not infringe on free will. It had never occurred to me that his dad could be the drain...but in retrospect it is him. The energy I feel from my son feels just like his dad, which I had chalked up to my son just picking up traits from his dad and reminding me of him. My son in the past seemed narcissistic but now I see that he is just starved for love and attention since he has had very little of this since my divorce from his dad years ago. My son has a very good nature all in all...just extremely damaged.....I believe that good nature is why his frustrations come out and affects electronic gadgets rather than taking it out on others.....or himself which he has done in the past
Recently my adult son came to live with me. I need to give a little background as to understand the severity of his deep rooted issues. I apologize in advance if this triggers anything in anyone.....He has had a very turbulent past since childhood due to his narcissist father gaining custody of him when he was small to use as a pawn for monetary gain....I had to pay child support. The manner in which he gained custody was heartbreaking.....he was pretty much isolated from me and according to what my son has told me, he pretty much grew up in the street....neighbor to neighbor because his dad would tell him to go away and not bother him. Anyhow....you get the gist.
Fast forward 20 years....he has come to live with me after a drug overdose, so I’m really trying to make this whole dynamic work, his dad didn’t even show concern when he found out about the overdose so if feel that I am his only hope, but, whenever my son gets extremely agitated he will set off my weather radio and the lights dim or flicker. He sets off the fax machine as well....kinda chirps like when lightning strikes close by.
This is very concerning to me since I soak up energy so easily. I have been hyper vigilant on protecting myself, however, on occasion it is extremely hard. He has told me that this happens to him on a regular basis.
I have observed that when he had to go to his dad’s house to get some of his belongings, it happened afterward, then also after dealing with his ex. I have been discussing with him that he needs to let these feeling out and talk but he keeps everything inside, which I believe is contributing to the issue.
Has anyone else out there have any experience with such, or just want to give some input?