Forum Activity for @eliselebeau

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/20/19 04:36:56PM
441 posts

overwhelmed when feeling an attraction


Empath

I agree that this is pretty common for Empaths.

Take a look at Technique 1 (Turning down the volume) and Technique 4 (Build Boundaries) https://www.eliselebeau.com/free-empath-survival-program

Also, here's an excerpt from my book: 

EMPATHS IN RELATIONSHIPS


These are the most common problems reported by   Empaths in their close relationships.

EMOTIONAL ENTANGLEMENT


Being an Empath can be a huge advantage in the beginning of a relationship because you can quickly connect emotionally with other people. But it can also become uncomfortable when you become so close that you are overwhelmed by their emotions…

One of the major challenges for Empaths is that we are constantly feel “their stuff”. This can lead to a tough situation where our own thoughts and emotions become   entangled   with someone else’s, where we can’t tell them apart.

So if they come home grumpy from having a bad day at work, you might also start to feel irritated without really knowing why.

EMOTION INTENSITY


Even if it’s very positive, intense emotions can be   overwhelming   for Empaths. We’re so sensitive that feeling powerful emotions is overloading our senses and we need to pull back, oftentimes both emotionally and physically. Women Empath might even feel an aversion to being touched by a loving husband or feel totally exhausted after holding their baby.

Always make sure you have enough time   daily   where you are by yourself in a quiet environment. This is the best way to recharge your batteries and calm down your senses.

EMOTION INTERPRETATION


It’s very easy for impaired Empaths to misinterpret what they perceive from their partner. People often experience complex emotions that they can’t fully explain or understand. One of the most common misinterpretation is that if   you   can feel it, they can feel it too. But when you read emotional information from others, you typically cannot tell whether these are conscious or unconscious feelings.

Never assume that other people can feel what you feel, even within themselves. It’s always best to ask how they feel instead of assuming that you know.


BUILD BOUNDARIES: EMPATH SURVIVAL PROGRAM TECHNIQUE 4


Empaths are very easily overrun by other people’s emotions from the entanglement problem we described earlier. We’ll give in, be swayed in our opinions or settle for a bad compromise just because it’s what the other person wants. So it’s critical that we learn to keep our emotional space free from external influences.

Here’s a technique to do this:

1)   Build Your Boundary.   Before you start a discussion with your partner, take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a bubble around you about 2 or 3 feet from your body. This is the boundary to your personal space.

2)  Strengthen Your Boundary   with physical space:


  • Don’t sit too close . Leave space between the two of you so you can maintain your personal space.  It’s better not to touch them during the discussion.


  • Don’t face your partner .  Instead, sit at an angle .  If you’re sitting across a table,   aim your knees away   from your partner’s body.

3)   Hold your Boundary.   If you start to feel confused or overwhelmed, pause for a moment and get your bubble of personal space back to its full size.

I hope this helps! 


updated by @eliselebeau: 12/20/19 04:38:12PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/15/19 05:56:33PM
441 posts

Energy and Consciousness


New Age

I often tip-toe around these words when giving an intuitive reading. 

I'll say "your energy" when I am describing what emanates from their physical body.  I include their physical state of being, stored memories and subconscious or soul-level aspirations.   

Then I'll say "your consciousness" to refer to their conscious thoughts.

In a reading, I will often find conflicts between their "energy" and their "consciousness".  And most of my work is to reveal and help reconcile these differences, so that both horses pull the cart in the came direction.

But when ever I used the word energy, I feel like it's slightly off.  Haven't really found anything else that felt better though.  So I keep it as my catch all, like a giant purse!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
11/12/19 10:45:39AM
441 posts

So easy to forget: You Are So Loved


Library of Light

So happy this message found you :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/16/19 10:26:30AM
441 posts

Gratitude for I Can Feel Your Pain


Empath

Matthew Elsey:

Ahh I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset anyone Elise. Reading my post back, it is a little raw. You gave me the confidence to write the truth of how I felt.

Your comment 'Its hard being like us' made me cry.

Judith Orloff's book looks very interesting thanks for recommending it. So_exhausted.

Love Matthew 

Those were GOOD TEARS!  I love raw, it's super healthy ;)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/08/19 08:07:12AM
441 posts

Gratitude for I Can Feel Your Pain


Empath

Wow @matthew-elsey

This post made me cry tears of sadness for your painful experiences and tears of deep gratitude because my book helped you. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. 

It's hard being like us but we will prevail.  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/26/19 11:23:01AM
441 posts

I would love a reading


Request a Reading

@kaseygirl So happy the reading resonated with you! Love it

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/25/19 08:06:07AM
441 posts

Your Intuition...


Library of Light

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updated by @eliselebeau: 09/25/19 08:08:18AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/23/19 07:15:04PM
441 posts

I would love a reading


Request a Reading

Hi @kaseygirl

Here's your reading.  I'm not a great typist, so I did a recording :)

https://www.eliselebeau.com/session/190923-kg

And here's the technique I describe in the session:


updated by @eliselebeau: 09/23/19 07:24:21PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/15/19 09:12:37PM
441 posts

What was old is new again (Returning ...)


Empath

Welcome back!  Love your avatar profile picture :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/15/19 05:10:02PM
441 posts

Just Joined! 😊


Empath

Welcome Home!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/06/19 03:18:15PM
441 posts

Soul Deep Intuitive Reading - 20% Off For Empaths


Offers and Services

Register for a Spot On intuitive reading by a Professional Intuitive with more than 15 years of experience.


manifestLogo.png No, this is not a hoax: I can’t predict lottery numbers and I don’t give wishy washy guidance that could apply to anyone…

But I have a gift to sense what’s troubling someone that is pretty uncanny.

When I tune into someone’s energy, it feels like the book of their life opens up before me, right at the page where the plot twist is revealed. I can feel how to overcome obstacles, reveal untapped potential and hear the whispers of your soul.  And most importantly: how to move towards the life that inspires you.

This ability helped me figure out how to be happier and find a deeper meaning in my life. Which is why I offer this service to others: I hope my gift can help you too.

Register for a session, tell me where you feel stuck and I will send you my intuitive insights about your situation.

I provide an audio recording so you can’t listen to it as often as you want!

Use discount code ECMEMBER for 20% off
when you register for an Intuitive Reading https://www.eliselebeau.com/empath-intuitive-reading


updated by @eliselebeau: 09/06/19 03:20:51PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
08/26/19 06:15:07PM
441 posts



Can you provide a question for the reading?  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
08/21/19 10:05:17AM
441 posts

Mediumship / Spirit Guide Communication


Request a Reading

I'd been connecting with non-physical beings for a few years when i came across this book. 

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It described my own experiences almost exactly!  So if you want to try to connect yourself, this could be a good place to start.  I wish I'd read this earlier in my career :)


updated by @eliselebeau: 08/21/19 10:05:39AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/30/19 07:08:46PM
441 posts

Technical: Problem with private messenging ?


Empath

Users are reporting that the problem is solved.  Let me know if you still run into this!


updated by @eliselebeau: 05/30/19 07:08:57PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/27/19 06:00:39PM
441 posts

Technical: Problem with private messenging ?


Empath

@michelle
Dang!  I thought this was fixed.  I'm looking into it (again :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/21/19 08:07:58AM
441 posts



@michelle, lol you're welcome!  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/20/19 02:39:49PM
441 posts



@hop-daddy You're most welcome.  Thanks for your 1017 posts ;)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/18/19 09:06:00AM
441 posts



Hi @moonshine,

I find that Empaths often feel inspired to help others, which is why we have such great support available both here and in our facebook group.  

To answer your question: I started this web site in 2007 from the same sentiment.  But back then, when you googled "empath community", nothing showed up. 

Also, since I had tentatively started writing about my "real life" experiences as an Empath (as opposed to the web site about science fiction characters), I was more visible online and people often contacted me to get help. 

Being a single mom with 2 jobs, I realized quickly that even though I REALLY wanted to, there was not enough hours in the day to take care of my son, my jobs and hundreds of Empath queries. 

One days it occurred to me that it would be awesome to connect the more novice Empaths  (those with side effects or untamed skills - what I refer to as an Impaired Empath ) to the more experiences ones (i.e Balanced Empaths).

At the time, I was struggling financially so I used a free platform to create the Empath Community.  

For the next 6 months, it was mostly me talking to myself lol.  I posted forum threads on cool things I found, on my bourgeoning Empath Survival Program, etc.

Then as the site climbed in the google results (keep in mind it had to "jump" over all the science fiction sites in order to become "relevant"), it started getting busier.  

By the time we reached 10 000 users, my "free time" was consumed by all the "moderating" that comes from owning a web site.  I had to start deleting old accounts to avoid paying a hefty monthly fee, put out flame thread where members argued, filter out spammers (always hard), approve new users, keep the site from tipping over from too many users, make sure the email notifications didn't go into spam folders, investigate and fix technical problems, respond to questions about how the site worked, etc.  

Since I'm a software engineer, I'm also technically oriented. I knew "how" to do all these things but it was a lot of efforts.

Then in 2011, the free platform I was using got sold and they started charging $25/month for hosting.  By that time, I had a LOT of users and moving to a different platform was going to be both expensive and time consuming.  I looked into several alternative but none of them were maintenance free and I just didn't have the time to apply patches, deploy new versions and test everything, which is inevitable in free platform like joomla or drupal.

So I paid the monthly fees.  Which increased over time to reach $49/month.  Over the next 6 years, I tried to raise money to pay these hosting fees with fund raising activities, a Paypal donate button, a gift shop, advertisers, click through ads and a more that I forgot by now.  I received some AMAZINGLY generous donations that covered a total of about 2 years of hosting. All the money I received went straight to pay hosting fees.  But I had to pay taxes on those donations, so I got only part of the total amount...

I did not (and never will) want to charge a fee for users of the Empath Community. 

For most of its life, I paid for the hosting myself.  

In 2017, the platform I had been using told "small users" like me that they were not going to support us anymore.  I was crushed, honestly.  I lived in denial about it for a long time lol.  But eventually, I started to look for another platform which I eventually found (jamroom).  The hosting fee was similar and they were willing to help me migrate 10 years of users and forum posts with an installation fee.

I had to spend hundreds of hours in css, html, forms, installing modules, etc.  But here we are, 12 years later and the Empath Community is still standing.  

In 2017, another author (more known than me) started to use the very same terms that had placed me at the top of the Google results: "Empath Community" and :"Empath Survival Program".  Following this, I lost about 90% of my online visibility and the number of Empath who found their way here dropped drastically...

All that to say:  it takes a lot time, energy and often money to sustain a web site. It can almost be very hard on the heart to have these ups and downs.


That said, you can create a free web site with Facebook.  You can also decide how much energy you want to spend on this endeavor before you get on the boat :)

I think the more resources we have out there for Empaths, the better.

But I would also like to suggest that by being right here (or any other existing Empath web site), you are using your PRECIOUS energy helping someone, a real person who has a burning question right now, instead of spending it building web pages and fighting spammer.

No matter what you choose to do, THANK YOU for your contribution to our Empath world.

In love (seriously, I do love you all)

Elise  


updated by @eliselebeau: 09/06/19 10:15:51AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
05/18/19 08:15:51AM
441 posts

Technical: Problem with private messenging ?


Empath

A millions thanks for reporting the issue :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
08/13/18 07:25:50PM
441 posts



This technique helped me a lot in that situation:

https://www.eliselebeau.com/free-empath-survival-program/technique-2

which is a technique to turn up the volume of your emotions.  It also works well in combination with Technique 1 if you're feeling overwhelmed. 

https://www.eliselebeau.com/free-empath-survival-program/technique-1

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/18/18 02:36:53PM
441 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

Thanks so much Bill :) 

I know I technically own the copyright.  I also think I would likely win a law suit. 

But the determining factor is this one: it would be detrimental to my happiness.  I need to conserve my time and energy to work my 2 wonderful jobs and be the best mom I can be to my son. 

At the end of the day, I have nothing left for a lawsuit.  

The support I have received from the EC members has put a healing balm over my broken heart. 

It will heal.

in love

Elise

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 04:15:35PM
441 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

Hop Daddy:

I stumbled upon this article by accident. And I found it interesting and wanted to share it as it touched on a lot of the discussions that often pop up on this community forum. It's a good read, and very informative. And I found it interesting that the author is both an M.D. and an empath. Since traditional medicine doesn't really recognize the empath reality, I found the author's perspective pretty interesting. 

https://www.consciouslifestylemag.com/empath-sensitive-person-guide/

Update: I really liked the detail on what the linked author provided and think that many of you will find it relevant and helpful. Unfortunately, as Elise noted below, the author appears to have completely plagiarized Elise's own prior published work. While enjoying the article, please know that all the credit for the content needs to be given to Elise.

Thank you so much.  Made my cry...


updated by @eliselebeau: 07/16/18 04:15:50PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 03:15:39PM
441 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

Thanks C. Cat! I'm still here :)

I could try to sue her but that would result in: 

1) Financial compensation, which is not meaningful to me.  I didn't publish to get rich.

2) An injunction to prevent her book from being further published, so she does not profit from my work.  Which also goes against my intention to reach as many Empath as possible with my message.

Either way, it's not aligned with my soul's purpose and it won't mend my broken heart.  And tears stream down whenever I think about this hijacking of my message, so I'd be a mascara mess in court!!!

When people google Empath Survival or Empath Experience, they find her book, not my web site.  But at least they find *something*.  

Thanks for your emotional support.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 11:53:35AM
441 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

No worries!  I just thought I'd set the record straight, at least in my own space :)

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
07/16/18 11:40:33AM
441 posts

The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

It is unfortunate that this author copied the bulk of my Empath Survival Program (including the title)

https://www.eliselebeau.com/empath-survival-program (published 2007)

and my PhD thesis

https://www.eliselebeau.com/the-empath-experience (2012)

and sold it as her own.

 

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
09/25/17 09:18:36AM
441 posts

Can someone please help me.. I can see the writing on the wall but what next? Context below...


Request a Reading

Hi,

When you state your current choices at the end of your post (keep doing the same or completely stop), I feel that neither of them are the right fit for you. 

I do feel that you have to do something or you'll emotionally bleed out, without being in a situation where you can receive the same kind of helpful care you provided.  If you burn out, you won't be able to help anyone at all, not even yourself.

The energy drain is drastic right now.  However, I feel that cutting off contact would create such an intense wave of guilt that it would be also very expensive, energy wise.  

When stated this way, it looks like you only have "bad" options.

My suggestion would be to start having a plan for this "energy expense", just like you would manage a financial budget. 

For example, set a time limit for:

1) How often you have contact with him (of any kind, including txt).  Once the limit is reach, just postpone answering until tomorrow. 

2) How long you interact (like phones calls are no longer than 30 minutes).

My last suggestion is actually related to being an Empath...

3) Use techniques to disengage from his energy when you are not directly interacting with him, such as Turning Down the Volume  .  This would avoid the energy drain that comes from being tuned into his energy.

I hope this helps!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/22/17 07:41:07AM
441 posts



Hi,

It's hard for empaths to sort out their feelings, since they feel just like ours...


Grounding is an essential Empath skill but it might not help here since the foreign feeling IS there.  You are feeling it.  So when you're grounding, you're just paying even more attention to that feeling inside you.

A quick way to sort this out that I use all the time is Turning Down the Volume .  It's the first technique in the Empath Survival Program .  By turning down what you pick up from other people (do NOT try to turn it off), what's left behind is yours.  

Ironically, it solves two problems: 1) Identifying feelings that are not yours 2) Preventing external feelings from affecting you.

I hope this helps!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
03/04/17 08:51:01AM
441 posts

Name a song game.


Empath

Rene'': I don't see the music section any longer so I will post this here.  

Sorry @Rene, I am still trying to consolidate categories.  The "Art" category has been revised and you can post music there now :)  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/31/17 05:52:18PM
441 posts

Join our VERY FIRST Empath Chat on Thursday 02/02/2017 @ 6:00PM PST (9:00pm EST).


Empath

I'm sorry, I don't know why it doesn't work on a kindle.  You can try a computer to join the chat.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/31/17 04:37:06PM
441 posts

Join our VERY FIRST Empath Chat on Thursday 02/02/2017 @ 6:00PM PST (9:00pm EST).


Empath

The chat is available online here: http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/chat/mobile

or from the top "chat" menu


updated by @eliselebeau: 01/31/17 04:37:44PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/31/17 09:18:14AM
441 posts

Join our VERY FIRST Empath Chat on Thursday 02/02/2017 @ 6:00PM PST (9:00pm EST).


Empath

If you've been in the chat, you probably noticed that we've been saying hello right past each other.

Let's make a date so we can finally talk to someone who is there!  It's sure to be fun, crazy and probably a bit chaotic.  But mostly fun!

To open the Chat room, click on the Bubble on the right of your screen.

If you're on a mobile device, click the "chat" item on the top menu.

See you there!


updated by @eliselebeau: 09/06/18 09:53:21PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/29/17 01:49:35PM
441 posts



Hi,

We like to keep the main forum for discussion about the Empath experience.  This topic has been moved to the Psychic and Paranormal category.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/21/17 09:50:23AM
441 posts



Hi,

We try to keep our main forum focused on the Empath Experience.  I moved this post into our Dream category!  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
01/18/17 07:44:59AM
441 posts



Hi @marta,
We like to keep our main forum focused on the "Emapth Experience". I've moved your topic to a better fitted category. Thanks!
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/28/16 07:16:36PM
441 posts



Our hosting fees is based on how much space we use.  We delete inactive members and older posts in order to keep the fees to an amount we can afford.  This web site is free for you but it's not free for me :)

We'd like to keep everything that has been contributed in the last 10 years but we can't...

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/13/16 07:00:29PM
441 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

GOOD NEWS!  There's a mobile version of the chat!  Point your browser tohttp://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/chat/mobile

Enjoy!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/05/16 12:42:00PM
441 posts

Has Anyone Dealt With Clairaudience?


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi @hop-daddy,

We prefer to keep the main forum category for topics about Empaths.  I've moved this discussion to the Psychic category.

Thanks!

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/02/16 06:25:16PM
441 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

Can you post something in the chat so I can make sure it works?

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/01/16 11:26:11AM
441 posts

I needed a good laugh this morning


Empath

Btw Renee, you can embed an image instead of attaching it and it will display in the post full size.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/01/16 09:36:09AM
441 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

We're experimenting with a new Chat feature.  You will see a speech bubble on the right side of your screen.  

Please let me know if you like/do not like this experiment :)

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updated by @eliselebeau: 09/04/18 08:38:19PM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
12/01/16 07:49:50AM
441 posts

A big thank you!


Empath

It's good to have you back!  I tentatively activated it even though I am not done fixing the forum after the update.  You'll see wonky things for a while.  

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/22/16 07:13:26PM
441 posts

Empath Survival Program Support


Tools for Empaths

The Empath Survival Program  was designed for  Impaired Empaths  to help them control and manage their wild Empath skills. It includes 7 essentials techniques walk you through the most common Empath side effects and shows you how to resolve them.

Having problem with one of the technique?  Start a discussion and get help from Elise and our members.


updated by @eliselebeau: 06/13/18 06:59:26AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/20/16 06:20:41PM
441 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Renee:

hey @eliselebeau are you able to put up a post re: the need to click that notifications tab in groups as there seems to be little activity in groups now. so whilst we are not wanting to post all topics in the main forum, this is the only place where there is any activity or consistent notifications from so i just wonder if all are aware that that notifications button is needed for groups? Thanks 

@renee

Is that better?http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/eliselebeau/blog/1862/how-do-i-get-notified-of-new-discussions-in-the-forum-and-groups

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I'm also considering moving the groups as forum categories instead.  Stay tuned!


updated by @eliselebeau: 10/29/16 08:23:48AM
EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/20/16 06:58:31AM
441 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

Sure, I will make a new FAQ.  Thanks for the suggestion.

EliseLebeau
@eliselebeau
10/19/16 08:15:19PM
441 posts

Psychic Development #43


Psychic and Paranormal

When  you want to follow a discussion in a group, you have to enable the notifications.  It's the same way in the forums but you do it only once for the entire forum.  For the groups, you have to do it in every group that you join, yes.

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