Empathic Distress & Realizations
Oh, if you like EFT better, I have several coaching video that might help.
This one is about feeling safe, which can be very challenging for Empaths
Post from my blog: https://www.eliselebeau.com/impaired-empath/impaired-empath-triggers/5382
As we discussed here , Impaired Empaths © usually have very powerful triggers: eye contact, shaking someone's hand, thinking about someone they love or a phone ring can throw us over the edge, into a sea of emotional turmoil.
Sensitive empaths are plagued with a very challenging trigger: proximity. Just being physically close to someone can cause us to tune into them emotionally. This is particularly tricky in crowded venues such as shopping malls or at work.
To make things worse, many Impaired Empaths© experience unconscious triggers: we can be triggered without realizing it. All of a sudden, we feel crappy and we don't know why.
So the very first step towards becoming a Balanced Empath is to notice when we start to feel emotionally activated .
Most empaths think the emotional noise they pick up from others is "normal," and they just need to toughen up.
NOOOOooooo! We can learn to control our response to empath triggers.
So let's take a moment to identify your empath triggers. Do you feel emotional churn during these situations?
Paying attention to any kind of unusual emotional activation allows you to discover your own empath triggers.
It can be shocking to realize how often we are being triggered without realizing it . It's like being constantly poked by an invisible stick!
However, knowing when we are getting triggered allows us to do something about it. Instead of a helpless victim to a process we can't control, we can finally take charge.
Once you realize you've been activated, immediately use Technique 1 in my free Empath Survival Program © . By using this simple technique, we can tell our mind to filter out the emotional information we are currently picking up from other people. And since it's often an unconscious reflex for us, we have to practice, practice, practice!
I agree that this is pretty common for Empaths.
Take a look at Technique 1 (Turning down the volume) and Technique 4 (Build Boundaries) https://www.eliselebeau.com/free-empath-survival-program
Also, here's an excerpt from my book:
These are the most common problems reported by Empaths in their close relationships.
Being an Empath can be a huge advantage in the beginning of a relationship because you can quickly connect emotionally with other people. But it can also become uncomfortable when you become so close that you are overwhelmed by their emotions…
One of the major challenges for Empaths is that we are constantly feel “their stuff”. This can lead to a tough situation where our own thoughts and emotions become entangled with someone else’s, where we can’t tell them apart.
So if they come home grumpy from having a bad day at work, you might also start to feel irritated without really knowing why.
Even if it’s very positive, intense emotions can be overwhelming for Empaths. We’re so sensitive that feeling powerful emotions is overloading our senses and we need to pull back, oftentimes both emotionally and physically. Women Empath might even feel an aversion to being touched by a loving husband or feel totally exhausted after holding their baby.
Always make sure you have enough time daily where you are by yourself in a quiet environment. This is the best way to recharge your batteries and calm down your senses.
It’s very easy for impaired Empaths to misinterpret what they perceive from their partner. People often experience complex emotions that they can’t fully explain or understand. One of the most common misinterpretation is that if you can feel it, they can feel it too. But when you read emotional information from others, you typically cannot tell whether these are conscious or unconscious feelings.
Never assume that other people can feel what you feel, even within themselves. It’s always best to ask how they feel instead of assuming that you know.
Empaths are very easily overrun by other people’s emotions from the entanglement problem we described earlier. We’ll give in, be swayed in our opinions or settle for a bad compromise just because it’s what the other person wants. So it’s critical that we learn to keep our emotional space free from external influences.
Here’s a technique to do this:
1) Build Your Boundary. Before you start a discussion with your partner, take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a bubble around you about 2 or 3 feet from your body. This is the boundary to your personal space.
2) Strengthen Your Boundary with physical space:
3) Hold your Boundary. If you start to feel confused or overwhelmed, pause for a moment and get your bubble of personal space back to its full size.
I hope this helps!
I often tip-toe around these words when giving an intuitive reading.
I'll say "your energy" when I am describing what emanates from their physical body. I include their physical state of being, stored memories and subconscious or soul-level aspirations.
Then I'll say "your consciousness" to refer to their conscious thoughts.
In a reading, I will often find conflicts between their "energy" and their "consciousness". And most of my work is to reveal and help reconcile these differences, so that both horses pull the cart in the came direction.
But when ever I used the word energy, I feel like it's slightly off. Haven't really found anything else that felt better though. So I keep it as my catch all, like a giant purse!
Ahh I'm sorry I didn't mean to upset anyone Elise. Reading my post back, it is a little raw. You gave me the confidence to write the truth of how I felt.
Your comment 'Its hard being like us' made me cry.
Judith Orloff's book looks very interesting thanks for recommending it. So_exhausted.
Those were GOOD TEARS! I love raw, it's super healthy ;)