As an empath, I often can read that someone is making decisions or about to make a bad decision based on being very self-deceptive about what is actually going on. This may be a false idea about themselves, a situation, or about someone else. The most common is that they cannot see how dark someone is and that the person is lying to them, but I can see it and could tell them what the other person really thinks.
I've been subjected to "kill the messenger" if I say something, and often this is recurring every time they see me, as they are reminded that they did not listen to me, and now they feel like a fool, and they prefer to see it as my fault. I am also chastised for being "too negative", thinking that people are bad or that some of them cannot change...this even includes Narcs, who really can't change, and I get this from people with none of my psych training, who have decided that they know more about my own profession than I do.
On the other hand, I feel a moral obligation to warn them, especially if the situation is dangerous. My husband says to keep my mouth shut and let them learn the hard way, and this sure works for him. He expresses his sorrow after the fact and everyone loves him, but two people close to him have died when I did not speak up. He says it would have happened anyway, since they would not have listened to me. It seems to me people should love those who actually care enough to warn them and are willing to risk their anger in return to try to save them from pain.
If you see that someone is about to jump into a swimming pool with no water in it, or some other big risk, what do you do? Does it depend upon how close they are to you and/or how serious the issue is?
updated by @cheshire-cat: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM