I hate borrowing people things also. Once again it bit me in the ass because before I could get my stuff back we stopped talking.. I honestly believed in our 5 year friendship...
So if it feels better to cry let it out.. material losses are just as hard as the nontangable losses..
It was important and not only is the item lost but a part of the trust you had in that person...
Hopefully this helps
Yeah, always puts you in a position where you feel crappy if you say anything. It is disrespectful of others.
Also, I've lent countless things out asked for them back and still they don't return items. I had one neighbor send her kids over to ask me if I wanted my blender back??????!!!
I never had enough money to take anything for granted but it seems as if the rest of the world does, including my stuff.
One area where I got good at is my books. I have a small fortune in years of buying and people never return them. Now, I just say a flat out no.
About saying no; on anything, just keep it short. The more you explain your position, the more tense you feel. And they don't listen anyway.
Will Shakespeare had it right!
I was abandoned by wolves and raised by my parents.
updated by @michelle: 05/15/19 10:14:34PM
But NOT saying something at the time of an incident that upsets me makes things worse as I've been trained to NOT say something at those times. I have a blockage when it comes to confrontations. And I understand that now. This is not about me so much as about trying to help you think differently about how you react to things. And to help you understand that there is MORE going on than you are aware of UNDERNEATH the incident that upset you. You have some UNtraining to do. And it's NOT as bad as you think. And it's ok to vent. Lol...I do that too...lol