Who can Relate? (Share stories please)

3 years ago
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updated by @loconnoro: 06/14/20 09:29:02AM
3 years ago
240 posts
Hey! @loconnoro I can relate. I have those moments when I have completely picked up someone else personally, mentally, emotional state, etc. Its like I become them.
I have found that when I let their emotional state play out ( not by acting but by feeling) it usually fades quickly. Some are more stubborn. I also find that it can be a part of empathetic overload. I try to take regular breaks from everything so that I can reconnect with self. Sometimes I can reestablish that connection without the break. I do that by bringing awareness to my physical body.
I don't view it as a negative, just something that happens.

As far as enhancing goes, that's a favorite topic of mine.


Above is the address to a free book. So far for myself it has been the best. It is unorthodox as some would say. However the more I understand the more I realize that it is not. The author teaches us to get rid of words like supernatural and think of ourselves as just natural. It's a dense read. I have read it several times and am actually about to read it again.

Happy travels
Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
3 years ago
1,101 posts

@loconnoro :

For me, my intuition works best when I allow my subconscious to flow through. In other words, I can't be focusing on a problem at the top of my mind and expect to get much from my intuition. One of the human flaws that impacts intuition is our logical brain. And the logical brain is ruled by past experience, religious beliefs, emotions, ego etc... It's really hard for the intuition to break through all of that.

I have an exercise that I do where I am able in a quiet area to allow my thoughts to go empty or blank. And then my intuition flows through and gives me all sorts of ideas and thoughts. I don't need to meditate to do this although meditating is one way to clear your mind. Another idea is for you to focus on using pre-sleep as a way to allow your intuition to come through. When you go to bed tired try to close your eyes and allow your mind to wander for 5 minutes. Usually at that point your logical brain is foggy and tired and your intuition can shine through. Just think of your problem at that point and seek answers by allowing your intuition to go to work. You may get your answers in that pre-sleep environment. And in some cases it will come during sleep and you'll feel very programmed or well informed on what to do.

On your 2nd question, if your emotional empath skills are really strong, it is easy to absorb and feel part of someone else'e emotional composition. Probably the most basic question any empath should ask at that point is "is what I'm feeling mine?" That helps you learn how to separate how you really feel from what you pick up. Protection stones for most empaths help dull the intensity of the emotional energy from others. Quite often our chakras can get too wide open so you are taking in too high of a level of emotional energy from others. Stones and crystals can help you get those chakras back in balance. (I know you say they don't work, but try some new stones as they are an important medicine for empaths). And meditation, salt baths, and lots of regular rest is another way to ground & balance your chakras.

Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
3 years ago
1,101 posts

@spiritualskies :

Intuition is that "knowing" that we empaths often speak of. It's confidence that you're making the right decision, or giving someone the right advice. I get quite a bit of this knowing confidence from dreams. I think I get programmed a lot. I won't necessarily remember it. But it's the old sleep on the problem and the next day I feel compelled one way or another on how to act or solve a problem. But separately from that, I have experienced a change in the last year or so where my intuition comes alive and gives me knowing answers while awake. I'll kind of day dream for 30 seconds in a way that clears my mind of the present and then my intuition comes through. Sometimes my intuition feedback will give me answers while other times I'm given new ideas or a call to action to give me some direction. I believe that these thoughts that come through are not my own and come from either my higher self or my guides. These intuition messages are very natural to me at this point so I don't know if it is that easy for others to do. But before I started getting this regular ability, I used to really connect with my intuition in that pre-sleep mode that I noted or while meditating.

And how would I know that the messages I receive are relevant or useful? It's hard to explain, but they have been so reliable that I have stopped questioning their validity. They come through and give me this tingly feeling that I have come to trust. And every time I am given answers that are later proven to be the right choice or the right move/advice. I will admit that sometimes the intuition given is the hardest route to take. People want to question that, and that's okay. I think we all know that in life just because one of the paths is easy, doesn't mean it is the right one. As an example, I had a relative come to me who's wife wanted a divorce but gave her husband an option of just separating to see where it goes. The husband took the news as a wake up call that he could get counseling and change all of his behaviors and save his marriage. But my intuition told me that the wife wanted out and just wanted to be free and wild. My intuition told me she was cheating on him and was getting into drugs and alcohol behaviors with a bad crowd when he was out of town. I tried to tell him delicately that my intuition that was coming through told me she was hell bent on getting divorced and that his life would be better off without her. He didn't want to hear that and spent the next 6 months trying to get her back. And his wife did exactly what my tuition told me and she continued to emotionally distance herself from him with boyfriends on the side that was often mixed with drugs and alcohol binges. This created financial and emotional heartbreak for the husband and put their 4 kids through hell. And he 6 months later in the midst of a very messy divorce told me he should have taken my advice. And the crazy thing is that I wasn't giving him advice. Advice is a suggestion or solution that you feel has the best possible outcome for someone. Knowing isn't advice, it's truth. It's basically the deep down knowledge of what is really going on and where their futures are headed. 

updated by @hop-daddy: 05/16/18 03:44:04PM
Hop Daddy
Hop Daddy
3 years ago
1,101 posts


@spiritualskies :

Here's an article that does a much better job at explaining how to be more psychic and intuitive.


2 years ago
266 posts
Honestly @loconnoro, putting you being an empath aside, I think, as a young person, you are struggling to 'stand in your own shoes' and the quest to to live your own life.

Metaphorically speaking, this is a unique human experience described as, "The Hero's Journey." In ancient times stories were told to the young to prepare them for adulthood. Later with the written word we had classic tales of adventure.

The Hero Journey goes like this:

1. Ordinary World

This is where the Hero's exists before his present story begins, oblivious of the adventures to come. It's his safe place. His everyday life where we learn crucial details about our Hero, his true nature, capabilities and outlook on life. This anchors the Hero as a human, just like you and me, and makes it easier for us to identify with him and hence later, empathize with his plight.

2. Call To Adventure

The Hero's adventure begins when he receives a call to action, such as a direct threat to his safety, his family, his way of life or to the peace of the community in which he lives. It may not be as dramatic as a gunshot, but simply a phone call or conversation but whatever the call is, and however it manifests itself, it ultimately disrupts the comfort of the Hero's Ordinary World and presents a challenge or quest that must be undertaken.

3. Refusal Of The Call

Although the Hero may be eager to accept the quest, at this stage he will have fears that need overcoming. Second thoughts or even deep personal doubts as to whether or not he is up to the challenge. When this happens, the Hero will refuse the call and as a result may suffer somehow. The problem he faces may seem to much to handle and the comfort of home far more attractive than the perilous road ahead. This would also be our own response and once again helps us bond further with the reluctant Hero.

4. Meeting The Mentor

At this crucial turning point where the Hero desperately needs guidance he meets a mentor figure who gives him something he needs. He could be given an object of great importance, insight into the dilemma he faces, wise advice, practical training or even self-confidence. Whatever the mentor provides the Hero with it serves to dispel his doubts and fears and give him the strength and courage to begin his quest.

5. Crossing The Threshold

The Hero is now ready to act upon his call to adventure and truly begin his quest, whether it be physical, spiritual or emotional. He may go willingly or he may be pushed, but either way he finally crosses the threshold between the world he is familiar with and that which he is not. It may be leaving home for the first time in his life or just doing something he has always been scared to do. However the threshold presents itself, this action signifies the Hero's commitment to his journey an whatever it may have in store for him.

6. Tests, Allies, Enemies

Now finally out of his comfort zone the Hero is confronted with an ever more difficult series of challenges that test him in a variety of ways. Obstacles are thrown across his path; whether they be physical hurdles or people bent on thwarting his progress, the Hero must overcome each challenge he is presented with on the journey towards his ultimate goal. 

The Hero needs to find out who can be trusted and who can't. He may earn allies and meet enemies who will, each in their own way, help prepare him for the greater ordeals yet to come. This is the stage where his skills and/or powers are tested and every obstacle that he faces helps us gain a deeper insight into his character and ultimately identify with him even more.

7. Approach To The Inmost Cave

The inmost cave may represent many things in the Hero's story such as an actual location in which lies a terrible danger or an inner conflict which up until now the Hero has not had to face. As the Hero approaches the cave he must make final preparations before taking that final leap into the great unknown. 

At the threshold to the inmost cave the Hero may once again face some of the doubts and fears that first surfaced upon his call to adventure. He may need some time to reflect upon his journey and the treacherous road ahead in order to find the courage to continue. This brief respite helps the audience understand the magnitude of the ordeal that awaits the Hero and escalates the tension in anticipation of his ultimate test.

8. Ordeal

The Supreme Ordeal may be a dangerous physical test or a deep inner crisis that the Hero must face in order to survive or for the world in which the Hero lives to continue to exist. Whether it be facing his greatest fear or most deadly foe, the Hero must draw upon all of his skills and his experiences gathered upon the path to the inmost cave in order to overcome his most difficulty challenge. 

Only through some form of "death" can the Hero be reborn, experiencing a metaphorical resurrection that somehow grants him greater power or insight necessary in order to fulfill his destiny or reach his journey's end. This is the high-point of the Hero's story and where everything he holds dear is put on the line. If he fails, he will either die or life as he knows it will never be the same again.

9. Reward (Seizing The Sword)

After defeating the enemy, surviving death and finally overcoming his greatest personal challenge, the Hero is ultimately transformed into a new state, emerging from battle as a stronger person and often with a prize. 

The Reward may come in many forms: an object of great importance or power, a secret, greater knowledge or insight, or even reconciliation with a loved one or ally. Whatever the treasure, which may well facilitate his return to the Ordinary World, the Hero must quickly put celebrations aside and prepare for the last leg of his journey.

10. The Road Back

This stage in the Hero's journey represents a reverse echo of the Call to Adventure in which the Hero had to cross the first threshold. Now he must return home with his reward but this time the anticipation of danger is replaced with that of acclaim and perhaps vindication, absolution or even exoneration. 

But the Hero's journey is not yet over and he may still need one last push back into the Ordinary World. The moment before the Hero finally commits to the last stage of his journey may be a moment in which he must choose between his own personal objective and that of a Higher Cause.

11. Resurrection

This is the climax in which the Hero must have his final and most dangerous encounter with death. The final battle also represents something far greater than the Hero's own existence with its outcome having far-reaching consequences to his Ordinary World and the lives of those he left behind. 

If he fails, others will suffer and this not only places more weight upon his shoulders but in a movie, grips the audience so that they too feel part of the conflict and share the Hero's hopes, fears and trepidation. Ultimately the Hero will succeed, destroy his enemy and emerge from battle cleansed and reborn.

12. Return With The Elixir

This is the final stage of the Hero's journey in which he returns home to his Ordinary World a changed man. He will have grown as a person, learned many things, faced many terrible dangers and even death but now looks forward to the start of a new life. His return may bring fresh hope to those he left behind, a direct solution to their problems or perhaps a new perspective for everyone to consider. 

The final reward that he obtains may be literal or metaphoric. It could be a cause for celebration, self-realization or an end to strife, but whatever it is it represents three things: change, success and proof of his journey. The return home also signals the need for resolution for the story's other key players. The Hero's doubters will be ostracized, his enemies punished and his allies rewarded. Ultimately the Hero will return to where he started but things will clearly never be the same again.

Perhaps your journey begins by breaking free of your family's thoughts on schooling, where to go and how to go about that.

Be your own hero. Deepen your courage. Find your confidence. Be the creator of your own life.


I was abandoned by wolves and raised by my parents.
2 years ago
109 posts


1.) I would love to ask if any of you know how to "enhance" or get more in touch with your intuition (and also what that may look like as well). Mine is slowly getting better but I still sometimes feel like I might be taking the wrong steps, so any thoughts, experiences, or ideas are greatly appreciated!

2.) Has anyone here noticed that you take on someone else's mentality. One thing I've noticed is that I feel like I experience people's mentalities when I'm around them. 

...it feels like I get stuck in that mode of thinking and state of mind, and it takes a lot of time alone to get back to where I feel comfortable. I've hardly every experienced purely my own natural mind due to this. I've also only recently realized this...

Yes, yes and YUP!! I've only recently realized this as well. The flow of my thoughts seems to become wrapped up with the flow of another's thoughts. And yes, it's tied to their energy but separate. And it can occur to the degree that I say things that are much more to do with the other person than with me. It can be a good thing, or it can be a pain. But yes I surely experience the same as you; and I've also just realized in the last little while (increasingly over a year or 18 months perhaps it's become obvious). The 'mode of thinking' you refer to is an exceptionally good and accurate description of what I experience.

Most recent experience was when my mother was just about to go on a long flight, and she was in a fairly negative and combative mode of thinking. As I spoke to her, she said things I didn't agree with and I expressed disagreement. She reacted very strongly to the disagreement and I reacted strong as well, even though the subject matter didn't matter to me at all, in the scheme of things. It was very difficult to cease the flow once it began.

I actually think there are 'mode of thinking' memes. Since I've really got off the grid, and I meditate much more, and observe more, I notice modes of thinking like viruses infecting swathes of people.

updated by @snap: 05/19/19 12:14:54AM

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