Just b/c you're an empath, that's not all you are. I mean we've still got all the other emotions, plus other emotional or medical issues we're dealing with as well. So it's not just narcissists that set me off. I have a lot of other problems too, as well as hormonal imbalances which can present as mood disorders so back when I was younger I was very much a hot-head, as well as being an Aries. I'm so much more settled now. But it's not b/c I don't still feel aggravated, it's more b/c my medical conditions have progressed & made me more tired & therefore have a much more delayed response to things that years ago I'd have flipped out over. I don't know if I maybe read everything wrong or not. But that's my 2 cents, for what it's worth.
I had a boyfriend that could only see the adventurous, impulsive Aries part of me (he's an Aries too), but not the Virgo moon practicality that comes with it. So he insisted that I was a sports car person, despite my protestations of preferring sedans. I also have a practical side & those attributes have probably kept me from getting into more trouble than my other Aries counterparts. Sadly, still don't have a car, despite having been in the 'burbs for 8 mos. now.