By Trevor Lewis, 2017-10-01
Ho'oponopono – The Hawaiian Art of Forgiveness
- Breakthrough old regrets.
- Breakthrough emotional patterns triggered by the people and circumstances in your life that you sometimes wish weren’t.
- Breakthrough using this deceptively simple and easy process for creating new opportunities.
- Create the space for new strategies, new possibilities and divine inspiration.
Introduction and Background – About Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len
Sat Jul 22, 2006: HO'OPONOPONO By Joe Vitale
“Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
“When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
“However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood “total responsibility” to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that ay. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does–but that's wrong.
“The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.
Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
“Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
“'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.' I was in awe. 'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.'
“This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'
“'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life –is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
“Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like–is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
“I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho'oponopono means loving yourself.
“If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.
“I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?
“'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again,' he explained.
“Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.
“Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.
“This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you,' I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.
“Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying 'I love you,' I somehow healed within me what was creating him.
“I later attended a ho'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.”
We are responsible for manifesting everything in our lives. That’s the bad news. The good news is that because we are responsible for manifesting everything in our lives it’s easy to create change. I am not responsible for the pain and suffering in your life until you share it with me. At that moment I have manifested it in my life and I am responsible. (Here’s an easy path – dump all your pain and suffering on the nearest enlightened master and let go. It’s now all their responsibility and, as an enlightened master, they can deal with it! Only two tricky steps, the first is finding the enlightened master and the second is truly, 100% letting go.).
And, it’s not necessary to accept this idea of being responsible for ho'oponopono to work.
Trevor’s wording of ho'oponopono:
I’m sorry (for having created whatever it is that is disturbing me, you, the world)
Please forgive me (for having created it)
Thank you (for forgiving me)
I love you (I love you, me, God for being in my world… love is good!)
There are various alternative forms including the shortest form which is simply “I love you”. Find what works for you.
What has it done for me?
Created a whole new space for creativity. Created a space where I am about to increase my income tenfold. Improved my relationships with my family. Before I started using ho'oponopono I couldn’t have envisaged being able to cope my mother emigrating from England to live near me. Particularly, it has improved my own self-acceptance.
Dr. Len talks about ho'oponopono as a cleansing technique. It cleans the system. For me it has become an anchor … feel some discomfort, some agitation … immediately practice ho'oponopono … feel better.
Ho'oponopono and others:
Forgive the people that do me wrong
Forgive the people that are out to get me.
Forgive the people that are complete morons.
Forgive the people that are just taking up space on my planet (which is, as my creation, the center of my universe. How dare they take up my space in my universe).
It makes driving down the road a whole new meditative experience.
Using ho'oponopono avoids being sucked into the other person’s energy. It avoids being “hooked” by their “stuff”. It avoids the emotional trap.
Exercise: What do you want to forgive other people for?
What/who gets you hooked? Salesmen? Politicians? Telemarketers? Road rage?
You may have difficulty wanting to forgive somebody for something big. That’s fine! Let it be. Pick something small. You don’t have to walk into a gym and pick up the biggest weights in the room. Start with something small. We are building up a whole new set of muscles that you are not used to using.
You may have difficulty asking for forgiveness from other people. Are you worthy of being forgiven? Can you ask forgiveness from God, if not from others?
Politicians are wonderful practice material for ho'oponopono. By practicing on our political leaders you get to clear yourself, the politicians and through you and them, you are cleansing the whole country.
Eyes open or closed? My take on this is that if the thought comes up with your eyes open, practice ho'oponopono with your eyes open – it only takes three seconds! If you are lying in bed with your eyes closed and the irritation comes in, let it go by practicing ho'oponopono with your eyes closed.
And if, at this stage, you still have doubts about this mumbo jumbo and me and my strange accent … please practice ho'oponopono on me! You can say to yourself … “I’m sorry for bringing this weirdo into my day. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.”
Who am I saying this to? The other person, myself, God? The answer is “Yes!”
Ho'oponopono and self
Forgiving oneself for having created the situation. Letting go of past regrets. For me this was the biggie! I tend to live in head and get caught up in my thoughts so that once I start beating myself up it used to be an closed loop of beating myself up, beating myself up for beating myself and “what was again that I was beating myself up for?”. Ho'oponopono works great as a pattern interrupt.
Exercise: Want do you want to forgive yourself for?
What have you done in the past that you wish you hadn’t? What health challenges do you have that you wish you didn’t?
If the concept of forgiving yourself doesn’t work for you, try disassociating. In a disassociated state, seeing yourself in the situation as another person, you can forgive that younger version of yourself as a separate person from you in the same way as you forgive others.
Ho'oponopono and God:
And if the concept of God doesn’t work for you fill in the blank. I’m taking about The Divine, a Higher Power, The Universe, Your Higher Self etc. Whatever works for you.
One way of thinking about ho'oponopono and God is that, because we are not separate from God, there is nothing to forgive. The original sin maybe the sin of thinking of ourselves as something separate from God. Our experiences of life in this world around us is all an illusion. No more than we need to forgive anything that happens in a dream, all this is an illusion.
And much as I personally have an intellectual concept of “everything is an illusion”, I’m still human. I have to admit that on a day-to-day basis I don’t have a strong connection with “It’s all an illusion”. When I stub my toe it still hurts!
For those of us that still see ourselves as being separate from God, it may be important to ask for forgiveness from God. “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.”
Sharing ho'oponopono - Keeping Rapport
Ho'oponopono is first and foremost a personal technique. When someone is annoying you, the only place to go to is, internally, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.” Cleanse yourself first for creating them in your life before even thinking about correcting them.
That said, once you start noticing the changes for yourself, you will want to share the technique with your friends and family (and isn’t your family a perfect practice ground for ho'oponopono). Keep rapport!
My own mother dismissed ho'oponopono on the grounds of “been there, done that”. She was very much into blessings and thought nothing of standing in public places with her hand on somebody’s head to bless them. However, in conversation she could be very negative about people and events round her. To keep rapport and still introduce her to ho'oponopono, I started to interrupt her with “Bless them” every time she talked negatively about someone (after, of course, saying “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.” in my own head first). For her “Bless them” worked much better.
Practice, practice, practice.
Have fun with this. Use it. On some days, I am probably using ho'oponopono many times a day – especially on those occasions when I catch myself in the middle of an internal mental argument with myself about someone in my life trying to prove to myself why I’m right and they’re wrong. Use it as a mantra. Share your life with it. Share your home with it. In fact while you’re at it, take a shower with it, drive your car with it, watch the news with it. Use it all the time.
Your life will be different!
Ref: "Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More" by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len
By Trevor Lewis, 2017-03-22
"Working the Chakras For Empaths"
Why this exercise?
Many “New Age” teachers talk about, and teach from the perspective of, opening the chakras (if you are not familiar with the chakras, they are energy centers that are part of our energetic body; more details in a moment). For highly sensitive people, and particularly empaths this opening up is not necessary. If anything we are already far too open. Empaths tend to live life with their metaphorical hands outstretched saying “gimme, gimme” to all the stray emotions that are flying by them. The challenge is to be able to pull back and not take on so much.
This exercise is about contracting the chakras so as to be more discerning about boundaries and take on less of other people’s energies. Although this exercise talks about “closing” the chakras, STAYING closed is not the purpose of the exercise. A door is not a door if it is open all the time (it’s a hole in the wall), nor is it a door if in closed all the time (it’s part of the wall). A door is meant to be opened and closed. Similarly, it is not appropriate to walk around with our physical hands open all the time nor closed in a fist all the time. We want to be able to open and close our hands at will, at appropriate times.
We go into a gym to exercise our muscles by flexing them against weights. This exercise is about learning to flex our chakras so that we can better expand and contract them as appropriate to our surroundings. We will go through the exercise contracting each chakra and then, at the end, allow them to expand out again to an appropriate level.
Introduction to the Chakras
The chakras are energy centers that have been part of the Indian mystical tradition for thousands of years. They are spinning wheels located at seven centers in the body as shown in the table below:
Attributes of the chakra
Base of the spine
Grounding, security, survival
Pelvis below the navel
Creativity, pleasure, money
Belly just below the solar plexus
Personal power, willpower, confidence.
Bonding with others, caring , compassion, love of self and others
3rd eye (between the eyebrows)
Seeing, both inner and out worlds. Intuition. Wisdom. Consciousness
Violet / Gold / White
Crown of head
Connection to the universe, The Divine, Being
When the first chakra is too open, we get caught up in the material world and forget that we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
When the second chakra is too open, we focus too much on base pleasures; sex, money and having a good time.
When the third chakra is too open, we are too open to other people’s power and will to the detriment of who we are ourselves.
When the fourth chakra is too open, we may be overly caring of others, again to our own detriment.
When the fifth chakra is too open, we may be over communicating and sharing too much of ourselves.
When the sixth chakra is too open, we may become spaced out with the knowledge of higher worlds while losing our grounding in the physical world in which we live.
When the seventh chakra is too open, we may drift off into the ether and forget that we are supposed to be having a human experience in a physical body.
Most top athletes in every sport use visualization techniques. They’re an important part of sports training. Mental coaches would say they’re the key to peak performance in almost every discipline in life. If these techniques works for top performers, it only makes sense to apply them to ourselves in our everyday lives.
With all mental exercises, it’s not about HOLDING a thought, it’s about FOCUSING a thought. One analogy is to treat the mind like an active child when you want them to sit still. You are going to tell them to stay where they are, but sooner or later they will get distracted and start wandering off. You bring them back, they sit still for a while, and then the process starts all over again. When your mental attention wanders off from the subject of focus, gently bring it back. Keep repeating the process. Just bring your attention back to your subject. Do not worry about having thoughts; they are natural. Do not try. Let it be . . . easy!
The most important part about any mental exercise is that it be done with intent.
Variations of this exercise
With each chakra we are going to “tighten up” the chakra and concentrate its energies. There are (at least) three styles of visualization that you can use for this:
- Visualize a shutting door and locking it with a golden key.
- Visualize a lotus flower contracting from full bloom back into a tight bud.
- Visualize a ball, or a doughnut, contracting into a small tight sphere
Decide which form feels best for you and work with that one form through the full exercise.
The Chakra Exercise
Begin sitting comfortably where you can be undisturbed for ten minutes (this is a relatively quick exercise). Take a few deep breaths to settle down into your body. Connect into the ground by imagining you are growing roots from your legs, through the soles of your feet, deep down into the center of the earth.
- Start with the first chakra at the base of the spine. This is colored red. Using whatever imagery you have chosen, a red door, a red lotus flower or a red sphere now is the time to close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flower back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Move up to the second chakra in the pelvis below the naval. This is colored orange. Close the door, tighten the lotus bud, or constrict the sphere.
- When you are complete with the second chakra, check on your first chakra again and ensure that red chakra is still closed tight. Check on the second, orange chakra again and then move up to the third chakra in the belly just below the solar plexus. This color is yellow. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- When you are complete with the third chakra, check back to the first, second and third chakra in turn and ensure they are closed tight. Now move up to the fourth chakra in your heart center. This color is green. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Repeat the process from the base of the spine back up to the heart before moving up to the fifth chakra at the throat. This color is blue. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Repeat the process from the base of the spine back up to the throat before moving up to the sixth chakra at the third eye between the eyebrows. This color is indigo, deep midnight blue. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Repeat the process from the base of the spine back up to the third eye before moving up to the seventh chakra at the crown of your head. This color is violet, gold, or maybe just a pure white light. How does it show up for you? Don’t close this one all the way down. Tighten it up but leave the connection open up to the heavens. Stay connected to The Universe, to your God Source.
Relax. Take a few deep breaths. Scan through all seven charkas one more time with the intention of opening them up to the appropriate amount to go back into the outside world. Reconnect into the ground by imagining you are growing roots from your legs, through the soles of your feet, deep down into the center of the earth.
Using this exercise
You can repeat this exercise even a few times a day. Once you are familiar with it you can run it from start to finish in only a minute or less. You can repeat this anytime you feel like you are taking on too much energy from the world around you, whether it be from one person or many.
When you are in a safe, healing space you can use this exercise to open up; either when you are working on somebody or when another healer is working on you. Just remember to contract again at the end of the healing session.
By Trevor Lewis, 2016-12-02
Are you ready for a change in your life? Are you ready to let go of the old baggage that we carry around from our past? Are you ready to live the life that you were born to live?
At best, emotions will flow through us in the same way that they flow through healthy children (who can have a temper tantrum one minute and be all smiles the next). When we grow older, these emotions get stuck in our physiology and color our whole outlook on life causing us to feel stuck in outdated patterns of behavior and thought. Clearing those stuck emotions can help us feel lighter, happier, in more harmony with other people around us and general remove the obstacles that interfere with living the life we were born to live.
Emotion Clearing sessions use a list of emotions to determine which of those are stuck for you and need clearing. I will share what is specific for you. I also determine the original owner of the emotions being clearing. Many of us are living with stuck emotions inherited from our biological parents and our parent’s parents back through the bloodline generations. We have a chance to break that pattern and to stop it being passed down any further. So I identify each emotion as being your own or else inherited and, if inherited, from which parental side it was inherited.
When we are young and get hurt, we have a limited ability to defend ourselves, so we create a wall around our heart to avoid getting hurt the same way again. Each time we get hurt the wall gets a little thicker and a little higher but walls work both ways. They help to keep the hurt out, but they also keep out the love from other people and hold in our own love and stop it from being fully expressed. Not everyone has a heart wall, and not everyone who has a heart wall is ready to have it cleared. For some people, it is appropriate to keep their heart wall until they are strong enough internally, and maybe change their environment, so that the protection the heart wall provides is not needed. I will do the work that is right for you.
The next questions I ask are about whether your current state is consistent with being healthy, happy and prosperous. Someone may subconsciously decide at a very young age that being sickly is a useful strategy to get love and affection. Decades later, with that decision still in place, they may be confused in their conscious mind as to why there is nothing they can do to live a strong, vibrant, healthy life. Similarly with happiness and prosperity. Until the unconscious theme is cleared the self-sabotage will override the conscious desire for a better life. Clearing these three are important foundation blocks for establishing the new you!
Your relationship with God, yourself and with other people are the next areas that I clear. Up to this stage, the work backward looking, clearing past emotions trapped in the physical body and taking out what should not have been in your environment. The second half of this work, below, is primarily forward-looking - centered on installing new strategies for future behaviors that support a healthy and balanced life, adding in what was missing. This section introduces a unique structure that combines four decades of my work in this arena. I use a considerable number of other modalities beyond the basic emotion clearing that is the foundation of my work. These may include archetype energies, affirmations, flower essences, and any other way that I can tap into universal energy on your behalf.
What I clear are emotions stuck in the body, in other words, there is a physiological component to these emotions. I can clear the emotional body in a matter of minutes; it takes the physical body much longer to process the change. During the first two to three days after your clearing, you may experience old thoughts come up that are unrelated to your current activities. If you start thinking "Where did that thought come from? I haven't thought about that in years!" that is a clear indication of old patterns releasing from your body. Just be aware that you are letting go of old baggage and don't attach inappropriate importance to what comes up during the release.
For a few people, one clearing is enough to return them to a state of feeling happy and at peace. For many the first clearing only uncovers another layer underneath. It is important not to clear too much too quickly as the release process can be overwhelming at times. For this reason, there are always limits to how much I will clear during the initial clearing. Some people chose to continue being cleared at a later time. I will usually leave at least two weeks between sessions. If you wish to discuss your clearing in further detail please follow-up with me.
Legal disclaimer: Emotion Clearing sessions are NOT a substitute for medical care and should NOT be regarded as such. Please refer to a licensed health care provider for any state of mind or body that is impacting your well-being.
Lastly, it is my privilege and honor to be a vehicle for this impactful work. My life has been changed by being a recipient of this work and I am truly grateful for the many people with whom I have been able to share this knowledge. It does take courage to acknowledge the old baggage that we need to drop but truly worth it on the other side. Thank you for allowing me to be of service.
By Trevor Lewis, 2016-02-27
A friend of mine, Abbey, and I were discussing a client issue the other day. In the middle of the conversation three woodpeckers flew outside my office window. Id seen single woodpeckers there often but this was the first time I had seen a family. Abbey immediately said Look up what a woodpecker means. I did and it fitted wonderfully into our conversation about the client and resolved the issue beautifully.
Abbey went on to say that whenever somebody says Thats the first time Ive seen such and such she always looks for the significance of that animal. So I told her about my favorite drive over the mountain to the other side of my town. The first time I had driven this road I had seen a flock of 5 or 6 wild turkeys. I had seen them in ones or twos around town before but never so many. The second time I drove this road I saw a flock of 7 or 8 but, although I had driven the road a dozen times or more since, I hadnt seen any more turkeys. Now Abbey had peaked my interest. What sign had I missed by not researching what turkeys meant all those weeks ago?
I was talking to Abbey over the phone when I turned right onto my mountain road the next day. I said Now that I know that the turkeys were probably significant lets see if they show up today. Sure enough a flock of seven turkeys were waiting for me on the side of the road. Even better, when we checked on the meaning of seeing turkeys, the opening lines read of the description It is usually a good omen indicating that great gifts are imminently forthcoming. Very nice!
I continued the drive over to the friend I was visiting on the other side of the mountain. As I was driving home I had the thought Suppose the Universe wanted to really emphasize how much of a sign this really was. I wonder if Ill see turkeys on the way home as well.
Twenty four wild turkeys in a field on the side of the road on the way home!
By Trevor Lewis, 2016-02-21
Gridding is a way (among many) of providing a shield against unwanted energies entering your home or workplace. You can create grids using the following process:
- For each grid, you will need 4 metal objects. Copper pennies are wonderfully convenient and hold an energetic charge well.
- Determine where you are going to place your grids; we recommend a minimum of four nested levels. If you are gridding a home, start outside with the boundaries of the land in a rectangular pattern with four right-angled corners. The next grid will be immediately around the outside of the building. The third will be at the room level for each room you want to grid; pick the ones where you spend the most time, your bedroom, your office, etc. The fourth level will be around your personal space in that room, your bed, you desk, and so on. You can add grids for each room that you want to protect. You can even add grids around your doorways and windows.
- Set your intention for the coins, four coins for each grid, by holding them in your hand and declaring I charge you all with working together to energetically guard and protect this space from all dark or dense energy for the highest good of all concerned. You can amend and extend the wording as you feel appropriate. How would you give instructions to a human team of spiritually minded security guards if you were hiring them to protect your home? You can specify your family member names explicitly. You can add time frames explicitly, every day of every week, 24 hours a day. Add whatever feels right for you.
- Starting with the outermost grid, the one around the outside of the property. Place one coin in each of corner of the rectangle. Secure each coin so as to be undisturbed over time. Repeat for each grid moving inwards.
By Trevor Lewis, 2016-01-30
I was on a weekend writing retreataweekbefore my mother died. For one exercisethe facilitator sent us offon a huntto find meaningful rocks, ones that felt significant to us in some way. I felt directed down the driveway and onto the road. I looked down at the road building chippings by the side of the road and saw one that looked like it would make a goodpendulum orpendant. Really, ordinary roadside rocks? Youve got to be kidding me.
I picked it up along with two of its colleagues and headed back up to the house. The rest of the group shared their stories about how they found their perfect rocks along with a huge lump of quartz crystal. Come on! I picked up ordinary road building chippings. I cant have done this exercise right.
I was part jealous, part embarrassed. I chose not to share with the group the process I went through to find myownrock.
By the third day after the retreat, the rock was callingtome to be worn round my neck. OK then! So what is this rock? I went out to the internet to find out what rocks are used in road building. Not limestone, not granite. Basalt!Next, what are the qualities of basalt? I found an interesting page on the web but, honestly, although the qualities sounded useful I really didnt connect with them. Not until I had worn the basalt rock around my neck every day for a week. Not until the day after my mother had rejoined our ancestors when I went back and reread the qualities of basalt. Not until I was in the middle of adjusting to the grieving process did I understand those words from the internet. I quote, This strong rock lends its strength and endurance to people as they try to continue in difficult times or deal with traumatic changes.
I wore that rock round my neckevery dayforovertwo weeks until the home-made pendant broke. We were gathered at my mothers house with family and friends for a small celebration of her life. The pendant brokefive minutes before I started my eulogy for my mother. The rock landed on the floor. It had done its work.
Rock envy? No! I had picked up my own perfect rock!
By Trevor Lewis, 2016-01-22
By Trevor Lewis
One of the themes that I discovered as I worked with different people is that we suffer as empaths when we are only in receptor mode, we thrive as empaths when we step into healer mode. This exercise is THE central exercise that I share with other empaths. It doesnt resonate for everybody but it seems to work for the vast majority and for some it has been a life-changer. Before using this technique some empaths were unable to even go to the supermarket or a restaurant because they are so sensitive to other peoples energy. Using this technique they have been able to go back out in public again. For others, its just a way of staying clean when dealing with other people. Personally, I use it every day. I hope you use it and enjoy.
The analogy I use is of two barrels of water. If a barrel of dirty water feeds into a pipe to a barrel of clean water, the clean water starts to look as dirty as the water in the dirty barrel. If the water flows from the barrel of clean water into the barrel of dirty water, the dirty water gets cleaner, and the clean water is still clean and is refreshed.
The effect of only shielding ourselves as empaths is turn off the flow of water, and we know what happens to stagnant water! When we become healers, we keep the flow of water moving from the clean barrel to the dirty barrel.
When we operate only in receptor mode, we are picking up other people's dirty water'. Not only that, our first instinct is to think that if we feel bad it must be something about us. Our minds look to justify why it must be our own and then work out how to fix it. It's the result of growing up in a mechanistic world that teaches us we are all separate. As empaths we know how untrue this is. We are all connected, and that is true regardless of distance. For me, learning that I was processing other people's emotions was, in itself, the first huge step forward. Then, as I cleared myself of my own emotional baggage, I was better able to recognize when I was processing other people's emotions. In fact, once I realized that emotions were often not my own I was able to ask whose emotions I was processing and what those emotions were. Once I can identify whose emotions I am processing, and especially once I can identify what emotions they are, those emotions usually drop away, and I go back to feeling myself again. Even though I know this works, there are still times when I don't remember to ask the question "Is this mine?" It is easy to fall into the trap of immediately assuming it is our own.
So how do we move from being passive receptors to being active healers? A friend was dreading going to a funeral because of all of the emotions she knew, as an empath, that she was going to pick up. I "downloaded" the following exercise by way of an answer to her. She said it worked like a charm! I now recommend doing this to avoid taking on other people's energy and as protection from being drained by being around others.
The light projector exercise
- Start off by grounding. Imagine roots coming out from under your feet and going deep down into the center of the Earth.
- You are a Light Projector. The process is to channel Divine Light, Divine Energy, and send it out to the people in your environment. This point is important if you send your own energy out it will be exhausting for you. It will drain you and weaken you even more causing you to let in even more of their energy when your defenses are down. You are only a conduit for Universal Light.
I have presented this exercise in three different forms below for people who are primarily visual, primarily auditory, or primarily kinesthetic (feeling). Use whatever form or combination works best for you:
- Visual: Visualize it coming in through the top of your head, down your spine all the way to your feet, filling your whole body, and then out from your heart to them. The flow of Divine Energy through you and out to your environment will help to push their energy away from you. Also, just as a water pipe cannot channel water without getting wet, you will be energized by the flow of Divine Energy through you. It may help to visualize the energy coming into your head as white light, and send it out your heart as a prism of rainbow-colored light.
- Auditory: Bring it through the top of your head as an ee sound (internally within yourself or externally by actually making a sound). Send it down your spine all the way to your feet, filling your whole body, and then send it out from your heart as an oo to them. Inhale on the ee, and exhale on the oo.
- Kinesthetic (feeling): Feel the waves of energy coming in through the top of your head as a vibration of love. Think of the warm and fuzzy feeling of playing with puppies or kittens. Send it down your spine all the way to your feet, filling your whole body, and then send it out from your heart
- You want to keep that flow going into your environment 24x7. Keeping that up consciously for more than a short while is, of course, difficult going on impossible. Just have the intention of keeping that flow going. Tell your subconscious that this is what you want to be doing 24x7 and then let go. Just check in occasionally, when you remember, so as to keep the process going. Keeping the flow of Divine Energy down through you and out to the people around you is the best form of shielding.
- Do not concentrate. It's not about HOLDING a thought. It's about FOCUSING a thought. It's like using an SLR camera. When the subject of a photo moves out of focus all you do is refocus the lens of the camera. When the object for mental attention moves out of focus, refocus the mind. Just bring your attention back to your subject. Do not worry about having thoughts. Do not try. Let it be easy!
- You can use it for a single person who may be annoying you. You can use it for a room full of people (such as a work meeting) or for a whole building. Especially with larger numbers of people it is much better to use this exercise before you leave home and before you are entering their space. Once you walk into the building and you start to take on their energy the momentum of the flow is already moving from them to you. This exercise will help but it is harder to reverse the direction of the flow of energy. Far better to create the flow through you to them from the outset.
Here is a quote from another empath friend on her initial use of this exercise: Yesterday I imagined being a conduit of energy every time I left my house, and it immediately made me calm. I even went to the store yesterday alone without my husband and kids who I usually use as a buffer between me and other people. This morning I imagined being a conduit before getting out of bed, and I've been in a good mood since. It seems to calm me whenever I'm about to go bananas."
Much of Thriving as an Empath that I have described above is about moving from being an unconscious empath to a conscious one. As we move to being a conscious empath we also move from being an empath in passive receptor mode to the initial stages of becoming a healer in active send mode.
Which brings me to the question, "Where do you think your gifts lie? What has to happen for you to start using them (again)?" I am coming to the conclusion that recognizing that we are empaths is the first step to realizing our potential as healers! We keep the energy flowing from the Divine, through us, to them, the people whose emotions we are picking up. As we develop and use our natural talents, we keep that flow moving. We feel better in ourselves, they benefit from the energy we are flowing to them, and we do our bit to help heal the whole planet! It's a win-win all around.
Trevor Lewis 2016
By Trevor Lewis, 2015-12-29
Some people, particularly teens, have asked me about whether there is a conflict between being an empath and religion (primarily meaning Christianity). I thought it appropriate to share my answer here.
If you follow any particular religious leader, even if that means at your local church, you are in some way giving your personal power away to them. So if that person says that there is a conflict then, indeed, there is a conflict regardless of what I say here.
If you want to make up your own mind about this question, however, I offer the following guidance in terms of societies evolving from control to partnerships.
History has had controlling societies since Sumerian civilization in 4,000BC or earlier. Over thousands of years, civilization based on controlling others has developed to unsustainable greed to a point where the planet itself may not be viable for many more generations. What was replaced can still be seen today in what is left of the planets indigenous people who live in partnership societies. To the indigenous people, the idea of a small percentage of the population controlling a huge percentage of a societys wealth is their idea of insanity. What we are seeing around us today are the early signs of controlling societies crumbling. Institutions are set up to control the people within their sphere of influence. As the planet evolves, people are increasingly intolerant of being controlled. Occupy Wall Street, Black Lives Matter and the Arab Spring all reflect resisting control.
At the level of our person relationships, how do we interact with other people? Is it from a basis of who can control who, with a winner takes all outcome? Or is it on the basis of mutual empowerment, where the only acceptable outcome is a win-win for all involved parties?
The financial world is driven from fear ("everybody else is profiting, you are being left behind" or "unless you act now you are about to lose it all") or else from greed ("you'd be a sucker to miss this opportunity").
Specifically from a religious viewpoint, ask yourself does the religion try to control me or empower me? More precisely, do the practitioners try to control me or empower me? Do they pretend to empower me by teaching me how to control other people? What feelings do they engender in me? Never mind their words, if they speak of love but there is a tightness in your gut they are installing fear. On the level of society we are evolving from control to partnership.
On the level of the individual, the rising awareness in empaths can be seen as a move from individual separation to a collective perspective that we are all one. Concurrent with that, at the individual level, is learning to trust what we are experiencing in our own bodies rather than what other people tell us we cannot or should not be experiencing.
The Native Americans have a story of having a wolf on each shoulder, a bad wolf on one, a good wolf on the other. The bad wolf represents fear, hate and greed. The good wolf represents love, compassion, and hope. Which is going to win? Which one are you going to feed!