The Importance of Being Jonny

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This year just keeps getting better

2013-12-30
By: The Importance of Being Jonny
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On Saturday I got a guilt-text from my brother saying he never hears from me and I replied the same thing because I too never hear from him. Before it got into a debate via text messages, I sent him an email when I got home from work. That spawned into a weekend-long argument in emails about my behavior being to myself, being introverted, not inviting him to my place, things of that nature.

The entire time, he made judgments based on ignorance because he clearly didn't know what he was talking about, such as my never inviting him over here to spend time with me. My last residence I could not do this because the landlord made it clear that it wasn't my house and I couldn't have guests, family or otherwise. In my current residence, my roommates are slobs which include a whole mess of dog poop on our front lawn that they don't want to clean, so I don't want my family over here so they can see such conditions then judge me even more. He made more judgments about how I never take a moment to contact him, only when I need something. So I shot that right back at him and brought to his attention the many times he sent me a text asking for someone's phone number or address.

His demeanor in all the emails showed him to be arrogant and full of himself. He knew it all and no matter what I said in my defense, he came back with a smart ass remark. I expressed to him if you don't know exactly what you are talking about, you shouldn't rush to judgment and analyze the situation or me because in the end you will always be wrong. I told him there's a reason for everything so don't just assume you have all the facts. I told him he doesn't know my real life so he shouldn't judge me to which he replied he doesn't know my life because I haven't shared it with him. I have, especially my empathic nature which he never once fully acknowledged. I told him I not only mentioned and explained why I am the way I am once in the past, I did it again twice this year and I pointed out that each time he avoids what I say and doesn't discuss it.

He replied he assumes I am talking about my being an empath and went on to say he doesn't believe such things exist. I told him his belief system doesn't make my life as an empath any less real. He doesn't know why I am the way I am and when I tell him why, he avoids the subject because of his disbelief. The entire time he just had smart ass replies after the next and continued avoiding the subject, so I told him I can't make him understand something he refuses to believe in, therefore in the future he doesn't have the right to criticize me for my behavior. From there, I had nothing more to say. He sent me another email with another smart ass reply that I read and deleted. This is the kind of drama that I constantly go through each year, it repeats itself over and over and all my family wants me to do is change how I am so we can all get along. When I called my dad, who also doesn't know I'm an empath, one of the first things he said to me was "sometimes you have to change how you are so you an get along with people a little better." They don't understand that it's not capable of being turned off like a light switch. I don't do well around the public and I especially don't do well around family especially if we have argued in the past about this same subject. So I can't just get out of my feelings and put my differences aside to please someone else, especially after all that he said to me this weekend. This is the very reason I keep to myself because my family all want me to change how I am so I can please them. I can't even believe that was suggested. If I were gay, would they want me to suddenly become straight so they can love me again? That's exactly how this feels.

Bill Walker
12/30/13 03:01:07PM @bill-walker:

They have a lot to learn, but don't get me wrong here Jonny, you also need to learn how to forgive them for their misconceptions and then move on with your own personal growth. Jonny, again please don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds to me that you spend way to much time obsessing about what other people think about, or of, you. In the end it doesn't matter what they think at all about you. With in your Soul, your universe is completely yours to create as you wish and to heck with everyone else!!!!!!!!!!!!!


The Importance of Being Jonny
12/30/13 03:19:00PM @the-importance-of-being-jonny:
The reason its difficult for me to move forward because with their ignorance, this is open to happen again and again. So how do I move forward Bill, when the same issues will be brought up again and again? Its fine to agree to disagree with them. But I can't continue to attempt explaining things when they confront me about it. They put me in a compromising spot when they confront me about thingd I've already tried to explain.I accept that there are many ppl in the world who can't accept what it means to be an empath, however, its hard to move on when they keep bringing up the same issues to me.
The Importance of Being Jonny
12/30/13 03:24:31PM @the-importance-of-being-jonny:
I admit forgiveness is difficult, but not impossible for me. Especially as a person suffering with PTSD.
Tami
12/30/13 03:30:58PM @tami:

I don't know what is worse, a family that argues everything or a family that doesn't even talk...


Nocturne's Angel
12/31/13 12:42:58AM @nocturnes-angel:

Hi Jonny :)

I do not have an answer for you, as I have ended up cutting people (family & people who were very close to me) out of my life due to the fact that I could no longer take on their daily drama.

I just wanted you to know that I can relate with what you are going through & I wish that you find some solace & peace very soon.

Have a Blessed New Year :)

Huggs & Love,

Josette


The Importance of Being Jonny
12/31/13 12:51:09AM @the-importance-of-being-jonny:

You know Josette, 3 years ago when I got my Divine message, I never thought that my life could possibly end up as lonesome as it is now. I see with clear sight that I'm losing relationships left and right. I argue and fight with family more and more. They pass so much judgment on me and want me to conform to how they wish me to be and it's just a battle I can no longer stomach. I am facing the realization that this is possibly something I have to experience. My life is becoming biblical in the sense that I'm going through copious amounts of loss and heartache to end up where I am meant to be. A huge part of me wants to leave this galaxy behind because I feel so foreign here. I am a strong person and I've been through a helluva lot of trauma and pain, so if I need to cut ties, it's what I have to do cuz this is now way for me to live. I'm living in their world. They are not living in mine.

Thank you Josette for being an amazing friend. You've supported me and been so kind and gracious throughout the year and I can't thank you enough for being who you are. Thank you and happy 2014.

Hugs,

Jonny


Bill Walker
12/31/13 02:27:21PM @bill-walker:

Jonny, first live with in the Universe that is your soul. That sounds kind of funny, but if you live with in your own walls then you shielding yourself from others foolishness. Josette is right, you may well have to purge those people in your life that refuse to accept you for what you are. And finally, maybe the Universe is telling you it's time to build a more promising life by dropping the old and searching out the new! Happy 2014. I think it will get better for you!


Leslie
01/01/14 03:10:00PM @leslie:

Jonny, I got my first (of many I fear) guilt message of 2014 from my daughter who posted on Facebook that she didn't hear Happy New Year from any family (which would be me and her dad) and how she is so forgotten and blah, blah, blah. She has a victim mentality and gets plenty of financial support from me that she doesn't hesitate to grab. My goal this year is to work on not letting her derail my life. I'd like to say that her comment didn't bother me, but I can feel it sitting in my solar plexus festering. I must learn how to not let this happen! It's no wonder why we avoid contact with some people. They just poison our peace. It's extra hard when it's family. I'll let you know if I come up with any strategies. We have the right to be who we are.


The Importance of Being Jonny
01/01/14 03:32:18PM @the-importance-of-being-jonny:

<3 Leslie, Happy New Year.


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