Empathy: You Don't Have to Suffer............Part 2
Filtering, Blocking, and Meditation:
In the last blog post, we talked about filtering. How it filters the negative emotion and allows the positive emotion to reach you. REMEMBER, there must be balance, so some negative will come through your filter. Again, don't be discouraged. You haven't failed.
Now let's talk about blocking. This is gonna be all too familiar to those of you with children. You know those times when your so engrossed in a TV show and your kids are screaming, "Mommy, mommy, mommy, I'm hungry, snack,snack, mommy, mommy" and you know they're saying something but you really don't hear them? Or those of you without kids sitting in a bar and see a sweet little hottie shaking it on the dance floor and ya boys are talking to you and you don't even hear them? If you've experienced this then you've officially blocked. Blocking is a very helpful and necessary tool when helping others. Even though your filtering the overwhelming emotions coming at you, you still need to focus on the one your helping and block out everything around you. You can't help someone if your distracted. They begin to think your just being nice and really don't care. To break it down simple, it's all about individual focus. Personal attention to the problem and person at hand.
Meditation. I'm not going through another method of meditation and relaxation, You can find those all over the net. Meditation, as everyone knows is a great way to clear your mind and relax your body. There are many forms of meditation. You can meditate the traditional way, play music, draw, paint, or pray to name a few. Whatever puts you in a peaceful state of mind and relaxes your body. A solid foundation in a religious belief is a wonderful thing to have. It helps out tremendously in the life of an empath.
Feeling a Specific Person:
The way that each empath feels out a person is different. There's no right way or wrong way to feel someone out. Find what works for you. For me, I have to see the person; look into their face and open myself up to receive the emotion that their radiating. A person's emotions can tell you everything you want to know about them and their intentions.
I remember when me and my late wife were dating. She lived in a "not so good" apartment complex and everyone wanted to be her friend and hang out at "the new girls" apartment. When I would stay there on the weekends with her and my kids, I couldn't help but feel out everyone who was around. On many occasions, I would feel that one or more of those people weren't what they were portraying. Something felt wrong and deceitful. Then intuition kicked in and I knew exactly what they were after; what their true intentions were. I tried to warn her over and over again, but she wasn't buying it. After a while, their true colors shown and she realized I was right. I never said "I told you so". Hundreds of times she apologized over the course of our life together.
Aren't empathic people just so darn attractive. We must be such beautiful and sexy people because everyone is so attracted to us. NOT! Empaths emit a sense of comfort to those we come in contact with; a feeling of being easy to talk to. People sense that we care. This is why we attract others. On the negative side of attraction, we also attract narcisists, sociopaths, and energy vampires. If you want to get all scientific about it, you can search up the Law of Attraction. If your like me, there are time that you just want to be left alone; some "me" time. Empaths get very little of that. Seems like everyone needs you, so you have to be careful to not let your energy be sucked from you.
The All Day Healer:
Congratulations.....by being an empath, you are also an all day healer. You are a healer of emotions. We make people feel better and bring joy back to their lives whether it be through a few words, a smile, or an intense conversation full of advice. We heal peoples hearts and emotions. We heal without even knowing or trying to. It just happens. It's part of this wonderful package we were born with. But this healing ability can progress. If I'm not mistaken, the next step is taking physical pain from people. We'll cover this later on in my blog segments. By feeling what the other person is feeling and knowing the emotions from either our own heartaches or others we've helped in the past, we are able to heal someone else's. By healing someone else, we slowly heal ourselves. It's a win win situation.
I Know That I Know That I Know:
Intuition. There's not a whole lot that I can say about this simply because I really don't understand how we do this. Only thing I know is that it comes with our connection to others. We just know things....it's a part of the empathy package.
Part 3 will be posted soon