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This is how I found out !


By Lavinia, 2012-03-26

That what I "had" wasn't a sickness, a handicap, it wasn;t something that I needed fixed..that I am an empath.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBY5S7PpvRY

I just found it again online and it brought back some great memories of joy and finally feeling like I fit in somewhere. :D

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Creative Tests

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Thank you for taking the Creativity Test. The results show your brain dominance as being:
Left Brain Right Brain
36% 64%

You are more right-brained than left-brained. The right side of your brain controls the left side of your body. In addition to being known as right-brained, you are also known as a creative thinker who uses feeling and intuition to gather information. You retain this information through the use of images and patterns. You are able to visualize the "whole" picture first, and then work backwards to put the pieces together to create the "whole" picture. Your thought process can appear quite illogical and meandering. The problem-solving techniques that you use involve free association, which is often very innovative and creative. The routes taken to arrive at your conclusions are completely opposite to what a left-brained person would be accustomed. You probably find it easy to express yourself using art, dance, or music. Some occupations usually held by a right-brained person are forest ranger, athlete, beautician, actor/actress, craftsman, and artist.

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Your left brain/right brain percentage was calculated by combining the individual scores of each half's sub-categories. They are as follows:

Your Left Brain Percentages

40% Sequential (Your most dominant characteristic)
25% Symbolic
25% Logical
16% Linear
7% Verbal
7% Reality-based (Your least dominant characteristic)

Your Right Brain Percentages

56% Random (Your most dominant characteristic)
48% Fantasy-oriented
46% Concrete
39% Intuitive
24% Holistic
7% Nonverbal (Your least dominant characteristic)

What Do These Percentages Mean?

Low percentages are common in the Brain Type Test and are not indicative of intelligence. Instead, medium to high scores (30 - 50%) are desireable, as they show an ability to utilize a processing method without an abnormal reliance on it. Special focus should be paid to highly dominant (50% or above) or highly recessive (0 - 30%) methods, as they tend to limit your approach when learning, memorizing, or solving problems.

If you have Highly Dominant characteristics, your normal thinking patterns will naturally utilize these methods. Conscious effort is required to recognize the benefits of other techniques. Using multiple forms of information processing is the best way to fully understand complex issues and become a balanced thinker.

If you have Highly Recessive characteristics, your normal thinking patterns naturally ignore these methods. You may only consider these under-utilized techniques when "all else fails," or possibly not at all. It is important to recognize the benefits of all of your brain's capabilities in order to become a balanced thinker.


Left Brain Categories


Sequential Processing

Sequential processing is a method used by the left hemisphere for processing information. The information that is received is processed in order from first to last. Information is processed in a systematic, logical manner. Through sequential processing, you can interpret and produce symbolic information such as language, mathematics, abstraction, and reasoning. This process is used to store memory in a language format. Activities that require sequential processing include spelling, making a "to-do" list, and many aspects of organization.

Your Sequential Analysis

You show moderate ability to organize information sequentially. You are capable of processing information you receive in a systematic, logical order from first to last. However, at times you will process information you receive quite randomly, or may give it only a semblance of order. You are probably an average mathematician and speller, and may or may not enjoy tasks such as making "to-do" lists.


Symbolic Processing

Symbolic processing is a method associated with the left hemisphere that is used for processing the information of pictures and symbols. The majority of functions associated with academics involve symbols such as letters, words, and mathematical notations. This process is what aids you to excel in tasks such as linguistics, mathematics, and memorizing vocabulary words and mathematical formulas.

Your Symbolic Analysis

You have the ability to process the information of symbols at times, but you may need to first view the real object before you can understand what you are trying to process. For example, in solving math problems it occasionally helps you to "draw out" the problem, which allows you to better understand it through visualization. At other times you do not need visualization to aid you in forming your answers.


Logical Processing

Logical processing is a method that is used by the left hemisphere to take information piece by piece and put it all together to form a logical answer. When information is received through reading or listening, the left hemisphere will look for different bits of information that will allow it to produce a logical conclusion. This aspect of the left hemisphere is what aids you in solving math problems and science experiments.

Your Logical Analysis

When processing information using this method, you may consider the information before you and produce a logical answer, or you may tend to go with your gut. You may discover that you can "guess" your way through S.A.T. questions about as accurately as you can deduce them. It is important that you nurture your ability to use logic whenever it is needed, but do not neglect other methods of processing information if you hit a logical roadblock.


Linear Processing

Linear processing is a method by the left hemisphere to process information. In this process, the left brain takes pieces of information, lines them up, and proceeds to arrange them into an order from which it may draw a conclusion. The information is processed from parts to a whole in a straight, forward, and logical progression.

Your Linear Analysis

You tend to have difficulty in processing data in a linear manner. When processing information you tend see the whole picture first and work your way backwards, filling in the pieces as you go. The information you process is not done in a straight, progressive manner, but may take different paths as you start with an assumption and take different paths to discover the threads that lead you to that assumption. Seeing the big picture at the beginning of the process is a necessity for you if you are to understand additional information. When given a task, instead of naturally following directions in a linear fashion, you tend to feel the need to know "why" you are doing something or else you may have difficulty with it.


Verbal Processing

Verbal processing is a method used by the left hemisphere to process our thoughts and ideas with words. For example, through verbal processing, a left-brained person giving directions may say, "From this point continue east for two miles and turn north onto Bellevue Road. Continue north on Bellevue Road for seven miles and turn west on Main Street". With verbal processing, exact, logical directions are given in a very sequential manner compared to a right-brained person who, in giving the same directions, would use more visual landmarks.

Your Verbal Analysis

You are not a verbal person. When you process your thoughts, you tend to use very few words, preferring instead to illustrate a problem or solution. You often find yourself in situations where it is hard for you to "find the right words." Upon reading or hearing new information, you must first create a "mental video" before you can process and understand the information of your thoughts. For example, when giving directions, you probably use many gestures with your hands such as pointing and leaning, and also refer to visual structures such as "a McDonalds" or "the big tree" instead of street names or exact mileage.


Reality-based Processing

Reality-based processing is used by the left hemisphere as a method for processing information with a basis on reality. This processing tool focuses on rules and regulations. An example of this would be how a left-brained person would completely understand the repercussions of turning in a late assignment or failing a test. A left-brained person also usually easily adjusts to changes in their environment.

Your Reality-based Analysis

The information you process may lack a basis on reality, but it does open the door to creativity. You do not show much focus for rules and regulations and do not adjust well to change in the environment. In fact, upon experiencing change in the environment, it spurs you to try to change it yourself instead of adjusting to it. Whenever you become emotionally involved in project you are more likely to learn and succeed.


Right Brain Categories


Random Processing

Random processing is a method used by the right hemisphere for processing information. The information that is received is processed without priority. A right-brained person will usually jump from one task to another due to the random processing by their dominant right hemisphere. Random processing is, of course, the opposite of sequential processing therefore making it difficult for right-brained individuals to choose to learn in sequence. In order to overcome this, a right-brained person may want to attempt to learn sequence by using colors since the right hemisphere is sensitive to color. For example, you may want to associate the first step with green, the second step with blue, and the last step with red. Consistently using the same sequence will allow you to see that this strategy can be applied to many tasks involving sequence.

Your Random Analysis

You show a strong ability at random processing. You are good at completing tasks in an unspecified order, and don't waste time creating lists when they aren't needed. You are also able to make "leaps of logic" and make discoveries a sequential thinker could never dream of making. However, you may have difficulty with spelling or certain aspects of mathematics, such as geometric proofs.


Fantasy-oriented Processing

Fantasy-oriented processing is used by the right hemisphere as a method for processing information with creativity. It focuses much less on rules and regulations than the processing method of a left-brained person. Due to the fantasy-oriented processing mechanism of a right-brained person, they do not adjust well to change. Instead of adapting to the change in the environment, a right-brained person attempts to change it back to the way they liked it. But fantasy-oriented processing also provides the advantage of creativity to right-brained individuals, and since emotion is integral of the right side of the brain, anything a fantasy-oriented person becomes involved in emotionally will aid their ability to learn.

Your Fantasy-oriented Analysis

You have the ability to use both creativity and reality to process the information you receive. This is a unique gift that allows you to both focus on rules and regulations but to also act with creativity. You are able to adjusting to change, even though you might not like it, and you can become emotionally involved in your work if it interests you.


Concrete Processing

Concrete processing is a method associated with the right hemisphere that is used for processing things that can be seen or touched. It processes much of the information you receive from real objects. For example, a right-brained person is not just satisfied that a mathematical formula may work, but will want to know why it works. A strongly concrete person often finds it easier to solve a mathematical problem by "drawing it out" because it allows them to visualize it. The more a concrete person can visualize something the easier it is for them to understand it.

Your Concrete Analysis

At times, you feel the need to see a real object in order to understand it. At other times, you are able to understand a problem on a symbolic level. For example, you may find that in solving math problems, it occasionally helps you to "draw out" the problem in order to understand and solve it.


Intuitive Processing

Intuitive processing is a method that is used by the right hemisphere to process information based on if it "feels" right or not. For example, a right-brained person may choose an answer on a test because they had a "gut" feeling and often they will be correct. Another example of this is how a right-brained person will know the correct answer to a math problem but will not understand the procedure of how they arrived at the correct answer. A right-brained person will usually have to start with the answer and work their way backwards in order to be able to see and understand the parts and process that create the whole.

Your Intuitive Analysis

When processing information, at times you are able to go with your "gut" instincts. At other times you may doubt your instincts, or prefer to put information together piece by piece to form your conclusion. You should be careful not to ignore your intuition, but at the same time do not solely rely on it.


Holistic Processing

Holistic processing is a method used by the right hemisphere to process information. The information is processed from whole to parts. A right-brained person, through holistic processing, is able to see the big picture first, but not the details that accompany it. A strongly holistic person may often find that prior to listening to a lecture given by an instructor, they must first read the chapter so that they better understand what the lecture is about. This function is also what provides to you your visual spatial skills. It also aids in tasks such as dancing and gymnastics. Through holistic processing, memory is stored in auditory, visual, and spatial modalities.

Your Holistic Analysis

You show some ability to process data holistically, starting with the whole and working backwards to find the parts, which inform the whole, to form your conclusion. When you process information in a linear manner you are able to start with the parts and work up to form the whole. It is important to be comfortable with both methods, as both are equally necessary in the learning process.


Nonverbal Processing

Nonverbal processing is a method used by the right hemisphere to process our thoughts with illustrations. Reliance on this method is why it is occasionally difficult for right-brained people to "find the right words" in certain situations. A right-brained person cannot just read or hear information and process it, but first must make a mental video to better understand the information they have received. For example, through nonverbal processing, a person giving directions may say, "Continue going straight until you see a big, red-brick courthouse. At the courthouse turn right, and go down that street for a couple of miles until you se a gray stone church which will be on your right. Straight across from the church is the road to the left you need to take." With nonverbal processing, the directions that are given are extremely visual compared to the exact, sequential directions that would be given by a left-brained person.

Your Nonverbal Analysis

You have little ability in nonverbal processing. When you process your thoughts and ideas you mainly use words instead of illustrations. For example, if you were giving directions you may say, "Continue traveling west for 3 miles and turn north at the intersection." You would give exact, logical directions in a very sequential manner.

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What kind of empath are you?


By Lavinia, 2011-09-13
You Scored as Universal

You are a Universal Empath, you possess all the qualities of the other seven empath groups. You are what is known as an "Implicate" or Imp, a product of evolutionary design and genetic mutation. You are a psychic hybrid. (from "The Book of Storms" by Jad Alexander at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Empaths/)

Healer
100%
Universal
100%
Traveler
95%
Artist
90%
Shaman
90%
Fallen Angel
85%
Judge
80%
Precog
50%
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Thank you!


By Lavinia, 2011-07-04

"Life is full of surprises" - what a cliche is what i always used to think. it may be but it's all so true in my case. The last few years have been like a roller coaster for me, worse in the last year. And the last few weeks and days...everything around me came crushing down leaving only a few pillars still standing. Everything came so suddenly and the shock was and is so big that i still feel like i'm dreaming; every morning when i wake up i pray and hope that it was just a nightmare. I've been betrayed, abandoned, hurt and mistreated by some people in the last few days, none of them even knowing each other. If this was a movie i would think they all conspired to bring me down at the same time. I'm still in the storm and i'm praying it's almost over; i pray there are no more. No more people who change at 180 degrees and "hit" me. I pray this was the last blow for this storm so i can start to pick up the pieces, clean up the mess they made and move on.

I'm not sure how i'm still alive, how i can still get up in the morning, how i can still work, how i can still smile and be there for the people who still need me. Most of the time i try not to think about the blows and where i am right now in my life, but when i do, when i get a quiet moment before going to bed, i remember this is all real and i feel my heart broken into millions of pieces, i feel the lungs grasping for air, everything inside seems to be shacking and everything turns black . I feel like i'm moving on autopilot and that, for some mysterious reason, someone up there loves me enough to carry me through this and not let me give up or go crazy.

So I just wanted to say Thank you, with all my heart from the bottom of my soul! For being here, for giving me a hand so i can get up, for whispering " I love you", "You're going great" and "You can do this", for giving me a life lesson. I'm not sure what i'm supposed to learn from this but I will try to find out, I'll do my best to turn this into a growing experience, a positive thing that I will look back upon in a few years from now and think " How blessed i was for that" . I still have no idea what i did to deserve this, i don't know why all this happened but I'm prepared to carry my cross and do the very best I can to make you proud of me. I will not fall for the victim mentality nor will i turn bitter. When i finally end this journey I want You to be proud of what I became , I want to go in peace knowing that I did my best and became the best version of me I can possible by in these circumstances.

And if it's within your power and within my deserving, can we please take a break now? I know I'm still standing and that is your credit, but can I please still have a few things left...not have everything and everyone taken away? I'm not even over the shock yet; I haven;t even began to realize the damage done yet...

But only if it's possible...

Thank you so much for being here and for having enough faith in me that I can deal with this!

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Nothing


By Lavinia, 2011-05-03

I'm closer and closer to a stoned heart. All the "toughen up!" people I've met throughout my life should prepare the champagne and the party music.

All my life I've been on a sickening pattern of being brutally hurt by the people I love most. And every time it happens it opens up a wound that paralyzes me. Same with people I help. Sooner or later they will hurt me badly. I used to think I was just paranoid and that because i'm too sensitive I get hurt to easily. I gave up long ago the wish to be appreciated for what I do; after all you do good because you are a good person, not because you want something in return. Yes, it's nice when you get a "thank you" back but that is not the point. But to be hurt on purpose but the people I call my friends, to be hit when I'm down but the same people I helped get back on their feet ...that is just beyond my power of understanding. No guys, I dont want your appreciation or your sympathy, but what kinda of heart do you have to have or not have to kick someone when they are at their most vulnerable? And then have the nerve to call yourself the friend of that person. You make me so sick! At least leave them where they are but don't make it worse. Why? Why would someone do that?

I have people that claim they love me in my life that repeatedly hurt me with their words or actions even after I have told them on every occasion " Pls dont do/say that. It hurts me when you do" Are they evil, sadistic or just plain stupid? And I'm not talking about complicated things ...no, simple things. Things that if they would stop doing, it wouldn't affect their lives one way or another. But it does affect me.

Why and what? The 2 most frequent questions I ask. Havent gotten any answers yet.

I feel like I'm being followed by a demon who makes everything in his power to prevent me from being happy with other people. He cant alter my state any other way. I can find happiness in me, by myself but not with someone else. Sooner or later something like what i just mentioned has to happen. Doesn't matter if they are friends, lovers, work friends...

I know it must be my fault; I cant be this "cursed". But what is it? What am I doing so wrong that I dont deserve to be loved or happy with others? Am I such a terrible person that I dont deserve this? I'm doing the best I can in every situation. I'm trying my best to make others happy, to love them unconditionally, to be there for them...and no not because I ASK for something in return, but I do want something..anything...from someone...anyone...

It's all give give...

And now..i'm one step closer to a stoned heart. I've toughened up over the years, with every close relationship I've had. So much that I don't think I will ever let anyone get close again...keep everyone at the right distance so that they won;t have a chance to hurt me again. Or maybe I won't feel anything anymore, in which case it wont matter at all.

I can't even complain. Was never allowed to. Somehow I think I was always seem as the strong one or something because it was always help against me...complaining that is. I dont do it anymore. It's not worst being yelled at.

Well I did it here, but this is my blog and no one has to read it if they don;t like it. And if they do mind that I'm complaining...well, nothing new there.

I was hoping for some sort of revelation...I was told writing how i feel might help. Nope...nothing is changed...I probably couldnt tell the difference anyway. I've felt nothing for the past few days. Just numb.

I envy the insensitive today. I wish i could be like them at least from time to time, not to feel every damn thing. I wish I could be as mean as others are and not care about how others feel. I wish I didnt care about how the ones that hurt me feel. Cause the moment I get over the initial pain, I feel nothing but compassion and love for those people that hurt me one way or the other. And I wish I didn't. I dont even get the chance to feel my pain all the way. I feel my pain in combination with love for the person who caused it. How can that be?! And it's even worse when they play victim, even though they are the ones who hurt me.

The only times when I cant feel anything is when my heart has finally had enough..and closes down for few days. I'm numb but not happy. I'm numb as if I've been beaten close to death. Not a happy numbness.

Gosh, I really have vented here. I must sound like a real whiner. I apologize to anyone who had the patience and interest to read all of this for any bitterness i may have caused.

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What is going on?


By Lavinia, 2011-04-15

Since I've found out I'm an empath ( almost 1 year ago) this have been changing so much in my life. At first it was great. I learned I was not alone in this, I found people who I can relate to on a much deeper level, found this site and met some truly wonderful people, I learned a lot more about myself and how to handle certain things I wasn;t able to before.

But lately, things have been changing. I don;t know if it's good or bad but I feel like my entire spiritual DNA ( if that term even makes sense) is changing. I don't even know how to begin attempting to explain this...This first thing that stands out right now is my health. I've been getting sick lately with things that I never had trouble with before and healing in areas where I've had trouble most of my life. I had a sever break down that almost pushed me over the edge ( something I never though I'd want); God only know what kept me from ending my life... I've had an epilepsy episode (!!!! where did that come from???); never had trouble in that area; now I trouble with my ears, head pressure, skin issues, eye problems..These are all new, in the last few months. Problems I never had before.

I've recently began looking into spiritual meanings or diseases and I can see very clearly how these problems are cause my changes; or better yet, my challenges with these spiritual changes. I can't say I'm surprised that they are having an effect on me, but what I do find surprising is how rapidly they are materializing in my body. A few months ago I became overwhelmed with this empathic ability and with everyone's problems. It was too much and I started going into a shell where I didn;t want to hear anymore of people's issues, let alone be responsible for someone else's life. Now I have ear problems and head pressure. How did that happen so fast?!And it's the same with every other problem I have. They just happen so fast. In a way, I think it's better cause I can tell what I'm doing wrong. I can connect the problem with the cause a lot easier.

But all of this is making me feel like I have to be perfect all the time and I feel pressured somehow. Like I have a big responsibility.

The same with food and everything I take in every day. I've started eating a lot healthier and taking better care of myself. But I can't take any breaks. If I allow one things to slip, it's making me sick. I can;t even have french fries anymore without feeling sick for 2 days. Not to mention fast food or anything like that, something I stopped having all together months ago.

I know it's better for me to live lie this, dont get me wrong...I just feel like I'm allowed to make any mistakes without paying for them twice as much.

It's the same for everything else. Not just food. If I get upset, if I allow myself to get angry, or hurt by something someone said or did. They are all having too much of an effect over me. I've become so much more sensitive than before. To everything, not just the bad things. Relationships too...everything is changing and having a bigger effect on me than before.

I don't mean this is sound like a rant...I'm just trying to understand. Why is this all happening? And how can I slow things down? Or speed myself up to match what is going on?

Things are changing so fast..I hope I don't go crazy.

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Meyers-Briggs Personality Test


By Lavinia, 2011-04-10
Your Type is
INFP
Introverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving
Strength of the preferences %
33 25 50 22
INFP type description by D.KeirseyINFP Identify Your Career with Jung Career Indicator cap.gif INFP Famous Personalities
INFP type description by J. Butt and M.M. Heiss

Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:
  • moderately expressed introvert
  • moderately expressed intuitive personality
  • moderately expressed feeling personality
  • slightly expressed perceiving personality
Healers present a calm and serene face to the world, and can seem shy, even distant around others. But inside they're anything but serene, having a capacity for personal caring rarely found in the other types. Healers care deeply about the inner life of a few special persons, or about a favorite cause in the world at large. And their great passion is to heal the conflicts that trouble individuals, or that divide groups, and thus to bring wholeness, or health, to themselves, their loved ones, and their community.

Healers have a profound sense of idealism that comes from a strong personal sense of right and wrong. They conceive of the world as an ethical, honorable place, full of wondrous possibilities and potential goods. In fact, to understand Healers, we must understand that their deep commitment to the positive and the good is almost boundless and selfless, inspiring them to make extraordinary sacrifices for someone or something they believe in. Set off from the rest of humanity by their privacy and scarcity, Healers can often feel even more isolated in the purity of their idealism.

Video Profile of an Idealist Also, Healers might well feel a sense of separation because of their often misunderstood childhood. Healers live a fantasy-filled childhood-they are the prince or princess of fairy tales-an attitude which, sadly, is frowned upon, or even punished, by many parents. With parents who want them to get their head out of the clouds, Healers begin to believe they are bad to be so fanciful, so dreamy, and can come to see themselves as ugly ducklings. In truth, they are quite OK just as they are, only different from most others-swans reared in a family of ducks.

At work, Healers are adaptable, welcome new ideas and new information, are patient with complicated situations, but impatient with routine details. Healers are keenly aware of people and their feelings, and relate well with most others. Because of their deep-seated reserve, however, they can work quite happily alone. When making decisions, Healers follow their heart not their head, which means they can make errors of fact, but seldom of feeling. They have a natural interest in scholarly activities and demonstrate, like the other Idealists, a remarkable facility with language. They have a gift for interpreting stories, as well as for creating them, and thus often write in lyric, poetic fashion. Frequently they hear a call to go forth into the world and help others, a call they seem ready to answer, even if they must sacrifice their own comfort.

The most sensitive of the Idealists is the Healer (INFP). While their list of jobs may echo that of other Idealists, they are more drawn to express their own unique vision of the world than all other types, so their work cannot help but be unique. They interpret their visions in the world of music, art, entertainment, or dance. As a professor or teacher, counselor or social worker, they often unlock the mysteries of life for those they encounter. In business they are drawn to organizational development and human resources careers. They may have a religious calling or seek work as a librarian. Their careers need to be in alignment with their personal values. Says Kay, "I chose health education so I could touch the lives of others to help them make better choices about their lives. I know I've done some good."

Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
by Joe Butt

Profile: INFP Revision: 3.0
Date of Revision: 26 Feb 2005

"I remember the first albatross I ever saw. ... At intervals, it arched forth its vast archangel wings, as if to embrace some holy ark. Wondrous flutterings and throbbings shook it. Though bodily unharmed, it uttered cries, as some king's ghost in super natural distress. Through its inexpressible, strange eyes, methought I peeped to secrets not below the heavens. As Abraham before the angels, I bowed myself..." --(Herman Melville, Moby Dick)

INFPs never seem to lose their sense of wonder. One might say they see life through rose-colored glasses. It's as though they live at the edge of a looking-glass world where mundane objects come to life, where flora and fauna take on near-human qualities.

INFP children often exhibit this in a 'Calvin and Hobbes' fashion, switching from reality to fantasy and back again. With few exceptions, it is the NF child who readily develops imaginary playmates (as with Anne of Green Gables's "bookcase girlfriend"--her own reflection) and whose stuffed animals come to life like the Velveteen Rabbit and the Skin Horse:

"...Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand..." (the Skin Horse)

INFPs have the ability to see good in almost anyone or anything. Even for the most unlovable the INFP is wont to have pity.

Rest you, my enemy,
Slain without fault,
Life smacks but tastelessly
Lacking your salt!
Stuck in a bog whence naught
May catapult me,
Come from the grave, long-sought,
Come and insult me!
--(Steven Vincent Benet, Elegy for an Enemy)

Their extreme depth of feeling is often hidden, even from themselves, until circumstances evoke an impassioned response:

"I say, Queequeg! Why don't you speak? It's I--Ishmael." But all remained still as before. ... Something must have happened. Apoplexy!
... And running up after me, she caught me as I was again trying to force open the door. ... "Have to burst it open," said I, and was running down the entry a little, for a good start, when the landlady caught me, again vowing I should not break down her premises; but I tore from her, and with a sudden bodily rush dashed myself full against the mark.--(Melville, Moby Dick)

Of course, not all of life is rosy, and INFPs are not exempt from the same disappointments and frustrations common to humanity. As INTPs tend to have a sense of failed competence, INFPs struggle with the issue of their own ethical perfection, e.g., perfo rmance of duty for the greater cause. An INFP friend describes the inner conflict as not good versus bad, but on a grand scale, Good vs. Evil. Luke Skywalker in Star Wars depicts this conflict in his struggle between the two sides of "The Force." Although the dark side must be reckoned with, the INFP believes that good ultimately triumphs.

Some INFPs have a gift for taking technical information and putting it into layman's terms. Brendan Kehoe's Zen and the Art of the Internet is one example of this "de-jargoning" talent in action.

Functional Analysis:

Introverted Feeling
INFPs live primarily in a rich inner world of introverted Feeling. Being inward-turning, the natural attraction is away from world and toward essence and ideal. This introversion of dominant Feeling, receiving its data from extraverted intuition, must be the source of the quixotic nature of these usually gentle beings. Feeling is caught in the approach- avoidance bind between concern both for people and for All Creatures Great and Small, and a psycho-magnetic repulsion from the same. The "object," be it homo sapiens or a mere representation of an organism, is valued only to the degree that the object contains some measure of the inner Essence or greater Good. Doing a good deed, for example, may provide intrinsic satisfaction which is only secondary to the greater good of striking a blow against Man's Inhumanity to Mankind.
Extraverted iNtuition
Extraverted intuition faces outward, greeting the world on behalf of Feeling. What the observer usually sees is creativity with implied good will. Intuition spawns this type's philosophical bent and strengthens pattern perception. It combines as auxiliary with introverted Feeling and gives rise to unusual skill in both character development and fluency with language--a sound basis for the development of literary facility. If INTPs aspire to word mechanics, INFPs would be verbal artists.
Introverted Sensing
Sensing is introverted and often invisible. This stealth function in the third position gives INFPs a natural inclination toward absent- mindedness and other-worldliness, however, Feeling's strong people awareness provides a balancing, mitigating effect. This introverted Sensing is somewhat categorical, a subdued version of SJ sensing. In the third position, however, it is easily overridden by the stronger functions.
Extraverted Thinking
The INFP may turn to inferior extraverted Thinking for help in focusing on externals and for closure. INFPs can even masquerade in their ESTJ business suit, but not without expending considerable energy. The inferior, problematic nature of Extraverted Thinking is its lack of context and proportion. Single impersonal facts may loom large or attain higher priority than more salient principles which are all but overlooked.
Famous INFPs:
Homer
Virgil
Mary, mother of Jesus
St. John, the beloved disciple
St. Luke; physician, disciple, author
William Shakespeare, bard of Avon
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (Evangeline)
A. A. Milne (Winnie the Pooh)
Laura Ingalls Wilder (Little House on the Prairie)
Helen Keller, deaf and blind author
Carl Rogers, reflective psychologist, counselor
Fred Rogers (Mister Rogers' Neighborhood)
Dick Clark (American Bandstand)
Donna Reed, actor (It's a Wonderful Life)
Jacqueline Kennedy Onasis
Neil Diamond, vocalist
Tom Brokaw, news anchor
James Herriot (All Creatures Great and Small)
Annie Dillard (Pilgrim at Tinker Creek)
James Taylor, vocalist
Julia Roberts, actor (Conspiracy Theory, Pretty Woman)
Scott Bakula (Quantum Leap)
Terri Gross (PBS's "Fresh Air")
Amy Tan (author of The Joy-Luck Club, The Kitchen God's Wife)
John F. Kennedy, Jr.
Lisa Kudrow ("Phoebe" of Friends)
Fred Savage ("The Wonder Years")
Fictional INFPs:

Anne (Anne of Green Gables)
Calvin (Calvin and Hobbes)
Deanna Troi (Star Trek - The Next Generation)
Wesley Crusher (Star Trek - The Next Generation)
Doctor Julian Bashir (Star Trek: Deep Space 9)
Bastian (The Neverending Story)
E.T.: the ExtraTerrestrial
Doug Funny, Doug cartoons
Tommy, Rug Rats cartoons
Rocko, Rocko's Modern Life cartoons

The Healer is the most sensitive of all the Idealists to a negative environment. They notice problems in a work group before anyone else. Divisions within a work group can cause fear of impending loss. Also violation of their values can trigger stress. When stressed, they are likely to act out of character and take on behaviors that are not normally associated with them. They can seem to others as if they are splintered. Sometimes they will blame themselves, other times they will lash out at others. They may act precipitously or not act at all. To get back to normal, they need a lot of space and need to have their feelings validated. It doesn't help to tell them that they are imagining things. It is important that the negative environment be dealt with by others or that the Healer be allowed to move to a more positive environment. Says Heinrik, "I'm in health education. We have many programs to help people live healthier lives. An outsider began to influence our boss, saying that he was more successful and could do better. Our boss began to criticize all of us. Everyone started pulling away from each other. I found myself being nasty to others, which is very unusual for me. Luckily, our boss found out that this outsider was just good at getting and had moved from county to county and not accomplished much. I'm glad we're back to being a team."

Isabel is an Idealist Healer (INFP). She doesn't really enjoy playing the field. That caused her too many heartaches. In college, her boyfriend was one of the most sought after good-looking guys on campus. However, he was shallow, inconsiderate, and straying. She stayed with him too long, hoping he would finally wake up to what he had in her. Later she started dating a man with whom she could laugh. She admired his intellectual capacity. He suggested that they live together. She said she'd live with him after marriage. They are now engaged. ( haha)

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