Enneagram Type 2 - The Helper
Helpers who need to be needed
People of this personality type essentially feel that they are worthy insofar as they are helpful to others. Love is their highest ideal. Selflessness is their duty. Giving to others is their reason for being. Involved, socially aware, usually extroverted, Twos are the type of people who remember everyone's birthday and who go the extra mile to help out a co-worker, spouse or friend in need.
Twos are warm, emotional people who care a great deal about their personal relationships, devote an enormous amount of energy to them, and who expect to be appreciated for their efforts. They are practical people who thrive in the helping professions and who know how to make a home comfortable and inviting. Helping others makes Twos feel good about themselves; being needed makes them feel important; being selfless, makes Twos feel virtuous. Much of a Two's self-image revolves around these issues, and any threat to that self-image is scarcely tolerated. Twos are thoroughly convinced of their selflessness, and it is true that they are frequently genuinely helpful and concerned about others. It is equally true, however, that Twos require appreciation; they need to be needed. Their love is not entirely without ulterior motive.
Twos often develop a sense of entitlement when it comes to the people closest to them. Because they have extended themselves for others, they begin to feel that gratitude is owed to them. They can become intrusive and demanding if their often unacknowledged emotional needs go unmet. They can be bossy and manipulative, feeling entirely justified in being so, because they "have earned the right" and their intentions are good. The darkest side of the type Two fixation appears when the Two begins to feel that they will never receive the love they deserve for all of their efforts. Under such circumstances, they can become hysterical, irrational and even abusive.
Because Twos are generally helping others meet their needs, they can forget to take care of their own. This can lead to physical burnout, emotional exhaustion and emotional volatility. Twos need to learn that they can only be of true service to others if they are healthy, balanced and centered in themselves.
Twos can mistype themselves if they are not in an obvious helper role in their professional lives; they might not recognize the extent of their involvement in assisting others. This is especially true for male Twos, who have not received the same social rewards for helping as female Twos receive. Male Twos frequently mistype as Ones or Threes, the wings of type Two. Females, of all types, are bound to recognize some of the dynamics of type Two in their personalities, as such qualities have been socially reinforced. Female Nines, for instance, are especially prone to mistyping as Twos, particularly if they are the mothers of small children. But Nines are self-effacing and humble; Twos are proud and have a strong sense of their own worth.
- Root (1) chakra for grounding and stability to deal with one's own needs
- Crown (7) chakra to develop wisdom and self-awareness
Acupressure on points
- ST-36 for grounding and stability to deal with one's own needs
- P-7 (reduce) to heal effects of too much emotion on the body
The Two's own needs
Strengthening the Root chakra provides Twos with the sense of stability they need to attend to their own needs, instead of focusing their energy on catering to the needs of others. Twos can also work with ST-36, either instead of, or in addition to working with the Root chakra, as it also helps to provide a sense of stability.
Twos are emotional people and are sometimes too emotional. Unrestrained emotionality can result in a kind of nervousness that can be treated by doing acupressure on point P-7. (This point needs to be reduced, which is an uncommon acupressure technique.)
Thinking instead of emotion
Twos look outward for a sense of meaning and purpose in their lives. With their focus on emotion and their emphasis on relationships, they often overlook the importance of introspection, and they frequently fail to develop wisdom and self-knowledge. Working to open the Crown chakra can help Twos develop insight and self-awareness.
Acupressure Points for Enneagram type 2
Acupressure points for emotional well-being, recommended for Enneagram type 2. Their location, photograph, use and warnings are listed.
Name: Great Mount (Pericardium 7)
Location: On the middle of the palm-side of the wrist, in the depression between the two tendons, on or just below the crease of the wrist.
Use: Reduce, so move your finger in counterclockwise direction over this point.
Warning: Don't use when weak or low on energy.
Effects: Heals effects on the body of too much joy or emotion.
Also diminishes nervousness.
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Name: Leg Three Miles (Stomach 36)
Location: On the front of the leg, one hand width (four fingers) below the kneecap, on the outside, in the depression between the shinbone and the leg muscle. What can go wrong is that you may be locating it somewhat too low on the leg. The point is immediately one hand breadth below the kneecap, so if you'd use something thick, like a finger, you might get half a finger breadth to low. It's at the outside of the bone that's on the front of the lower leg, one finger breadth from the crest of that bone.
Use: Press. A fingernail or thumbnail is particularly suited for this point, as you will be able to press more closely to the bone and on a broad range.
Warning: Using this point to go beyond your limits (e.g. overwork) will damage your health even further.
Effects: Increases stamina and energy. Provides stability and grounding. Heals effects on the body of too much worrying and thinking.
People of the sexual variant are very much interested in one to one contacts. They are looking for intimacy and this may show in sexuality, though not necessarily. Being in a relationship is very important to them. They are the most passionate of the subtypes, being temperamental and having more energy. They have less of a problem with getting into a fight and care less about rules and responsibility.http://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test.php