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Sasha
@sasha
03/19/15 06:32:37AM
11 posts



I haven't posted on here in a while, but I read this and thought I should respond. It's good to break away from all the negativity and cut ties, but you will need follow-up care as you probably already know. I suggest a good therapist/counselor who understands what an empath is and also how to put your boundaries in place. At one time I would listen to the news and spend the rest of the night not feeling well and sometimes crying. Sometimes I would feel great when I woke up but then be around negative, sometimes "out of touch" people, and then I would have to ask myself, is this how I truly feel (awful, negative, desperate) or is this how they feel and I am just picking it up like a filter. I do suggest the help on this Community. There's a lot of wisdom here. One day though we all have to ask ourselves "what's mine? and what is there's? And take responsibility for our own B.S. which I think we all have some of it. Victims no more; survivors yes! Thrivers yes! Good luck with your new found freedom!

Sasha
@sasha
01/02/15 12:05:06PM
11 posts

Empaths and Social Life


Empath

Yes, I too by temperament am a calm person. And yes! It seems like if I got angry and put out by every mixed up person I would be angry all the time. I agree though anger is a good barometer. I just refuse to walk around screwed up because someone else is screwed up or has screwed up. Been there and done that!
Sasha
@sasha
12/30/14 07:48:02PM
11 posts

Empaths and Social Life


Empath

A friend of mine told me once that she at one time took every gift that anyone gave her. Soon she looked around and her space was full of what other people thought she should have. She went tbrough and kept the things she really liked and wanted and got rid of the rest. I think that is what we have to do; I don't know why sometimes difficult to set the boundaries. I am looking forward to getting better at thid. I had this strange experience (although it makes sense). I have a neighbor who is always asking for favors...from me and other neighbors. She even wrote me a text once asking for toilet paper! She's not poor, no where near it and actually works at a grocery store where she gets a discount. She is someone I intuitively stayed friendly but not anything else...just hello. Our apartment building is small and we do have each others' phone numbers for emergencies. I never answered that text and I had a passing vision of a huge grey root attaching itself to me...namely my neck coming from her. Warning! Since that tome I have heatd that she totally used my downstairz neighbors and they avoid her now. It is a lesson ahaon to follow my intuition and listen to my sometimes oh so strange visions!
Sasha
@sasha
12/30/14 03:14:07PM
11 posts



Cinda, I like what you have to say. People sometimes...most of the time...tell you who they are. They make statements that maybe they laugh about, but these statements are "true." On some level we all walk around with a conversation on our heads about "who we are" and it leaks out. I too learned the hard way -- when I looked back on certain situations, not only were my empathic signals correct, but the person who hurt/disappointed/took me for a ride-- made statements about themselves that clued me in. Be aware.
Sasha
@sasha
12/30/14 02:33:06PM
11 posts

Empaths and Social Life


Empath

As friends...but it is really as their "filter"...I think I have felt true friendship before. Although I do have to say withe information I have now about empaths, I am reviewing many relationships and wondering if I have been living in a fog. I do think there is something almost "romantic" in these things, but it really borders on creepy. I have to thimk that I am really going to work on my boundaries. I am hoping to look into the empath survival kit. These "courting" situations are not with trips to the spa or theatre tickets...it's more like nylons and chocolates.LOL! I think I need some levity on the subject as earlier today I felt a little down about it. I would rather be alone than have anymore of these types of relationships.
Sasha
@sasha
12/30/14 01:37:30PM
11 posts

Empaths and Social Life


Empath

Yes, then it's very recognizable as a pattern. I think putting up some boundaries is called for. It's awful but right now I have two people trying to court me. I feel almost like saying "please lose my phone number." This sounds so extreme but I fantasize about movong just to get away from all the "traps"...it's difficult on your 50s to start all over but that is what I think about. I think the people I know and even the ones I haven't met here (oh, so and so said you are so nice!) Will only see me one way. I take resposibility for having played the role of "filter"....I read Mona's and your email and I see that there is more to life than being a sponge! I have so many dreams of my own that I want to achieve....it's time to let go of a lot of baggage!
Sasha
@sasha
12/30/14 06:44:59AM
11 posts

Empaths and Social Life


Empath

Thanks, Mona!
Sasha
@sasha
12/29/14 07:43:52PM
11 posts

Empaths and Social Life


Empath

I am going to sound like a bit of a jerk, but I feel like I can express myself in this place. Recently I went through a very difficult time, basically most of 2014! Things calmed down, but I find myself -- how can I say this? Wanting more out of life. I find that I have constructed a life that I am not that crazy about. And I did this. My social life consists of almost all women (I am a woman). And please don't get me wrong; I am grateful for what is in my life. But I am into making changes. I have been single for over 15 years. I have a lot of women friends and I see them all one on one. Some are married, some are not. I realized through counseling that I feel like I am "dating" all these friends! It's lime I am their rock...their empath. When I was growing up I was my family's filter/ empath and I have continued on in this in my relationships. I feel like I want to put ghe brakes on and stop this somewhat indiscriminate socialising. The long and short of it: I want to drop people from my life. I looked at some of these relationships from a very selfish place--That is new for me-- and thought I am tired of this! I feel like everyone's empath nurse...I just left being an actual nurse because of the psychic and physical exhaustion. Basically here I am...a middle ager who wants to do an overhaul of EVERYTHING! This is a lot of transparency for me, but this is the one place I can talk freely! But even writing this I feel like judging myself for getting real! I am though so tired of feeling like I have to use my energy to enliven others and help them figure out their problems! I feel like that is why people are attracted to me. There has to be more to a social life than feeling like a psychic social worker. I am doing something wrong though, aren't I, if I feel this way.
updated by @sasha: 02/02/17 03:26:45PM
Sasha
@sasha
12/29/14 07:17:13PM
11 posts



I am glad to know that other people feel this way. I worked a retail job for two montbs this year that had music running constantly. I would wake up with this music in my head. Thankfully I got another job where I have my own office and I can listen to music if I want to. I don't listen to music though...perhaps classical now and then. I have alwaus been this way.
Sasha
@sasha
12/05/14 07:41:14AM
11 posts



Dear Sunshine, Yes! I can be overcome with worry so intense that it will make me ill. Although I must say that the older I get, the wiser I am. I now really have to ask myself, "Is this my worry?" Or am I trying to "worry" for someone else. The older I have gotten, the less able and the less willing I am to take on others' worries. I went to visit a friend who I finally decided just likes to live in fear and worry. She is used to that and that's what she's done her whole life. I had tea with her and started feeling that "strange feeling" -- picking up on someone else's stuff. I inwardly thought this is her stuff and then I realized that she lives in fear. I don't want to live in fear or worry. I try now to do some of the breathing techniques I have learned and the shielding techniques. I am new to talking about this so I hope I am making sense. I hope that you will not worry so much, but that is easier said than done. I just went through a period of unemployment and had many "walking the floors" nights! And sometimes yes, we have to really step away. Sasha

Sasha
@sasha
12/05/14 06:45:05AM
11 posts

Trying to make sense of an event in my life


Psychic and Paranormal

Yes, Jennifer, I think it might have been him. It was almost as if I was disconnected from the shaking or that on some level I expected it. I am hoping that I am more clear about things as I embrace some of these matters. Sasha

Sasha
@sasha
11/29/14 08:13:52AM
11 posts

Trying to make sense of an event in my life


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks, Dan. There is no reason to be afraid, but sometimes I think I scare myself! It comes from a lot of denial and trying to "fit in"....so much so that when events like this happen I feel a bit shocked and scared even though I absolutely know there's more than just this "reality."
Sasha
@sasha
11/28/14 07:55:39PM
11 posts

Trying to make sense of an event in my life


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks for your reply. I do think perhaps I was quiet enough to be open to this man's plea. I am still learning a lot and trying to be present even though sometimes these events come out of the blue!
Sasha
@sasha
11/28/14 05:54:01PM
11 posts

Trying to make sense of an event in my life


Psychic and Paranormal

I re-read this and think I left out this important detail: I oydid think this person was "stuck" here. It wasn't said but I "knew" it.
Sasha
@sasha
11/28/14 04:52:41PM
11 posts

Trying to make sense of an event in my life


Psychic and Paranormal

I am a new member to EC, so please bear with me as I try to describe one of the many events that I have gone through but have no one to tal with about. Except now I do on EC! In the summer of 2012, I went on a silent retreat with a friend. The retreat was at a seminary about three states away. Our journey was good and we were not stressed a bit. One day in the sanctuary as I was praying, I felt very strange, anxious. I saw in my mind's eye an elderly man in overalls (I assumed he was a farmer because we were surrounded by corn fields.) I started to shake, not anxious anymore, I felt he needed my prayers and help. I was shaking though, why? It was almost like in my vision, he was like "will you help me?" Yes! Emphatically I thought this. I cpntinued with prayers and then in about twenty minutes, I was very peaceful, very content. I never told anyone, not even my friend. I am new, not to events, but to wanting to reach out and get some help as an empath-- still trying to find my way.
updated by @sasha: 07/07/17 05:23:58AM