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Visitor
@visitor
09/11/16 11:52:39AM
303 posts



You're singing to the choir. A few years ago I quit my hateful job and moved in with my elderly parents (3 states away) to see if I could be a live-in caregiver of some kind. My parents are both hoarders, but my father keeps his stuff in a few rooms, while my mother is absolutely filthy, especially in the kitchen. I tried to clean and organize, and help her clear up some of the clutter in a respectful and patient way, but it was no use. I got depressed and moved back to my home state after a month. They were sad to see me go, but my mother resented my "interfering."

I felt like I'd failed, but then I started watching hoarding programs on YouTube. They are really helpful, because it turns out that hoarding is a deep-seated illness, usually triggered by a trauma (divorce, death, unhappy childhood, etc.) and you can't fix it just by cleaning the house. Lots of hoarders (including my mother) have a sentimental attachment to things, and hate to throw anything away because it's such a waste, or they might be able to use it in the future. Other hoarders go out and buy stuff they don't need because it makes them feel better for a while. Watching these shows is helpful, because the families are like me - they want to help but they can't. They always bring in a therapist, a clean-up crew, and various other professionals to help them. It's called "Hoarding: Buried Alive" and it's pretty intense. Most people cannot live with a hoarder without going insane. Don't feel bad if you have to change plans. Clutter has its own energy - oppressive, exhausting, and dirty. You don't need that.


updated by @visitor: 01/26/17 01:01:01AM
Visitor
@visitor
09/11/16 11:42:22AM
303 posts

9/11 and Empaths


Empath

I remembered what today was when I woke up, but I always forget how empathic I am to loosely floating energy. I haven't even talked to anyone today, or met anyone on the street, but I'm feeling very down and depressed and I may be picking it up from the internet. 9/11 blew my life apart, and it's taken me a long time to recover. No, I didn't lose anybody, but as an unaware empath, I felt like I'd been run over by a steamroller.

Visitor
@visitor
07/18/16 12:34:58PM
303 posts

The Meaning of Names


Empath

I hated the name I was given so I changed it legally to something very similar. It still has the same meaning (it's a version of the original name) but it sounds prettier. I always felt like I was wearing the wrong clothes when I had the old name. Needless to say, I'm very sensitive to names. I get offended by celebrities who name their kids strange names, and people who name their pets joke names. Maybe I'm a little uptight about it, but I like Sweden's strict law about naming children - they have to be normal Swedish names and they have to be spelled uniformly.

Visitor
@visitor
07/18/16 12:31:26PM
303 posts

anyone been asked if they have inattentive add /adhd


Empath

Yes, my brother diagnosed me. He's a big arrogant and assuming. But I read up on the subject and saw a doctor and she said I do NOT have ADD, but depression can mimic it. So much for my brother's keen insight.

Visitor
@visitor
07/18/16 12:28:32PM
303 posts

Ripped apart .


Empath

I have major depression, anxiety, and probably mild PTSD. All I can say is you have to fight it with everything you have. There's no silver bullet. I am doing the following: 1) cut toxic people out of my life, even a family member, 2) take medication, 3) take numerous vitamin and mineral supplements to balance my mood, 4) I've quit jobs that made me depressed or killed my self-esteem, 5) avoid alcohol 99% of the time, 6) get up early and go to bed early, 7) own pets, 8) try to avoid sugar (very difficult), 9) meditation and grounding exercises, 10) clearing the clutter out of my house and yard, gradually because there's a ton of it, 11) never skipping meals, 12) moved to small, rural town. Everything helps a little but nothing does the entire job by itself.

Nature doesn't always ground me. Sometimes it makes me fearful; I believe I'm picking up the emotions of the wild animals hiding in the area. I don't know. I like to be surrounded by open space and wildness but not right in the middle of it, as in camping.

P.S. It's not "only feelings". Feelings are things, objects even. They have a presence in your body, the same as if you'd swallowed a rock, or worse.

Visitor
@visitor
07/18/16 12:21:08PM
303 posts

Autism


Empath

I wish I could say yes, but no. They are one group of people that I find it hard to be around.

Visitor
@visitor
07/18/16 12:17:49PM
303 posts

how were/are you with the pets in your life?


Empath

I actually feel symbiotic with my pets (they've all been dogs). They heal me and vice versa. I've had encounters with pets (and other people's pets) who have passed. They have souls that are unlike ours - they're older, more pure, and beyond that I don't know much. They're sent to us and we're sent to them. I just adopted two puppies from the shelter. They picked me (jumped up against the cage eagerly, unlike all the other dogs there), so I took them home, and couldn't be happier. Well, it'll be nice when they're housetrained.

Visitor
@visitor
07/18/16 12:13:33PM
303 posts

What do sociopaths feel like to you?


Empath

I hesitate to use the word "sociopath" because it's so overused and dangerous. But I can tell if someone is toxic to me by the way they use their eyes. Within 5 minutes of meeting someone, if they don't focus on me at all, or look to the side or upward or anywhere else but me, I take that as a bad sign. Also, if they talk over me, interrupt me, and don't seem a bit interested in me or my opinion, I take it as a warning sign. I don't know if those people are "sociopathic" or merely immature, but I don't seek out their company.

Visitor
@visitor
07/11/16 07:50:57AM
303 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

I don't want to argue. I believe that there's something called genetic depression. It runs through my family. So does alcoholism. Fortunately I didn't get the second one. That's the way I see it. Please don't try to convince me otherwise.

Visitor
@visitor
07/11/16 07:17:08AM
303 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

Karma, I can see you have a rough history. That's not the same as being born with biological depression. I was, and you'll just have to take my word for it. I don't trust doctors' opinions, have done lots of research, and yes, have gone off meds several times and had awful withdrawal symptoms. I've been doing this for about 30+ years. I'm going to stick with the meds because I have come to the conclusion that they work for me - right now. Maybe I'll find something better, but so far I haven't, and I've been looking, believe me.

Visitor
@visitor
07/10/16 04:57:27PM
303 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

I've heard a lot of opinions that echo yours. I also notice you were diagnosed with mild depression due to a life event. I don't believe antidepressants are the best treatment for people in your situation. If I don't take them, I can't think straight, I can't sleep, or I sleep too much, my emotions are dark and paranoid, and I can't enjoy life at all. It's true that emotions in themselves are not dysfunctions, but I AM dysfunctional without medication. I realize it may have long-lasting side effects. That's OK with me. I feel normal now, and that's what I want. I don't think you realize what it's like to be born with crippling major depression. And yes, of course I've tried alternative methods and still do, but everything works together. I have to use all of them.

Visitor
@visitor
07/10/16 04:53:21PM
303 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

I've been on generic Prozac and Clonipin (anti-anxiety) for many years. I can't wean off because the symptoms come charging back. I also take several vitamins, minerals, and food supplements to ward off the anxiety and depression. I believe it's partly due to empathy and partly genetics.

Visitor
@visitor
07/10/16 08:34:46AM
303 posts

My dog came back to me...


Animal Empaths

Thank you for sharing this story. I lost a dog in January, very suddenly. A psychic told me she was too sad and tired to go on (I'd rescued her from an abusive situation) and wanted to return to me as a healthy puppy. I'm not very psychic, but I went puppy-shopping last week and found two shelter pups who really, really wanted to say hello. Lots of shelter dogs will look bored or not even look at you, but these two were enthusiastic. I ended up adopting both. I'm very happy with them, but I'm not sure if either is the reincarnation of my beloved "C". I guess time will tell.

Visitor
@visitor
04/09/16 09:40:16AM
303 posts

What do you think triggered your empathic abilities?


Empath

I don't think anything triggered them. They were just there, and I didn't realize that's what they were until I was middle-aged.

Visitor
@visitor
04/01/16 08:27:20AM
303 posts

Having an extra person in me? Muscle testing


Empath

You might have entities inside of you. I went to a shaman and she found two entities and sent them packing. They were not past lives or alternate personalities. One was a bundle of negative, hateful energy from my mother, my brother, and my ex-boyfriend. The other was a robot-like creature that I had created in my own mind for protection. It was time to let him go, too. It wasn't cheap and it took hours, but it was well worth it.

Visitor
@visitor
03/25/16 01:05:32PM
303 posts

Are you a Heyoka Empath


Empath

I don't reply to every message on this board, but I read most of them. Sometimes I just don't know what to say.

Visitor
@visitor
03/25/16 10:38:04AM
303 posts

Need help with narcissist friend


Empath

Adda - your post shocked me so much I had to take a day to think it over. This ex-friend of yours is scary and dangerous. I was in a slightly similar situation several years ago. An ex-boyfriend (I use the term loosely) was trying to get custody of his stepkids, and I knew VERY well that he shouldn't have custody of any kids, ever. You get my drift. It was my word against his, and he had a lot of friends. But I had to come forward and testify against him, because no way was I going to stand by and let him get those kids. Their mother was incompetent, and he was counting on that.

I was afraid he'd kill me, ruin my reputation, etc. etc. Fortunately, it turned out that a lot of people in the community knew exactly what he was like, and came forward to testify against him as well. He ended up losing his job and did not get custody, although he probably got visitation rights (I never found out). I'm obviously alive, although the stress nearly did me in. I protected myself by telling everyone I knew what was going on.

Anyway, all this extra information is leading up to this: A lot of people probably already know how crazy your "friend" is, and they probably would side with you. People are never as blind and ignorant as they seem. She might say whatever awful things she wants, but it won't stick if people know her to be a liar. You might confide in some trusted people - I don't know if they would be friends, parents, counselors, whatever, to cover your butt.

Also, don't talk to her anymore, period. Remove her from your Facebook page and all social media. Don't answer her calls or texts. If she's trying to seduce your boyfriend she is one immature @#$#, and it's likely she's trying to seduce her other friends' boyfriends too. She may be a victim of violent sexual abuse and she's acting out. You really need to cut her out of your life as much as possible and not let yourself react to her insults. Easier said than done, but I've done it, and it works. I've had so many so-called friends (and boyfriends) like that, and it feels so good to just chop them out of my life. When I have time to think back on it, I don't feel sorry for them, and I don't feel guilty. There is a difference between a good person with problems, and a sociopath like this girl.

Visitor
@visitor
03/07/16 07:13:57AM
303 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

Kera, I can totally relate to you. I spend a lot of time online because I'm unemployed, which is depressing in itself. I try to avoid looking at the news, which is almost always horrible.

Staying positive is a 24-hour job. You have to actively look for positive news. On Facebook I subscribe to the Good News Network - there's tons of good news on it, believe it or not. There are cute animal videos. There are ASMR videos on YouTube (check them out). There are always things to do that aren't negative.

You need to avoid negative people. Those people who tell you to grow up - cut them out of your life. They're going to tear you apart if you let them. When I was younger I surrounded myself with negative people and tried to cure them, or at least argue with them. Since then I've cut them all out of my life. I realized that they were getting enjoyment out of hurting me, and I was getting some kind of sick enjoyment out of arguing with them.

It's a long process and I'm still in the middle of it. But I'm far less anxious and my self-esteem is a lot higher. I don't know why the world is so messed up. All I can do is protect myself by tuning out. You can't change it all. And you have to heal yourself first. That's just how it works. Sorry I can't be more helpful, but that's all I've got - for now.

Visitor
@visitor
03/06/16 12:43:59PM
303 posts

Hello, I'm new to the forum.


Empath

Welcome! It's taken me a LONG time to find out I'm an empath. And I'm still working on step #1.

Visitor
@visitor
03/06/16 12:40:11PM
303 posts



I agree with Karen. I've unfortunately experienced a lot of rage just like you're talking about. I saw a shaman, who removed two entities. One of them was (literally) beating up on me and insulting me constantly. I had to go back and have her drive him out again because he came back.

I also felt homicidal when our town had a toxic waste spill that affected the economy. I was absorbing everyone's rage and helplessness and I wanted to kill someone.

You need to see someone who has a lot of practice and training in removing dark energy from people. This isn't something I recommend trying on your own. If you have to drive 50 miles and pay good money, it will still be worth it if you find somebody who knows what they're doing. This is NOT a part of you; it isn't you. It's something you need to get rid of.

Visitor
@visitor
03/04/16 12:19:19PM
303 posts

Dreams


Empath

I don't know, but I'm guessing somebody from a past life or a spirit guide. She's real, that's for sure!

Visitor
@visitor
03/02/16 04:08:09PM
303 posts

How many of you Empaths are ticklish? Just wondering?


Empath

I'm a ticklish empath. My brother is a ticklish non-empath. I don't think there's a connection, really.

Visitor
@visitor
02/29/16 12:50:40PM
303 posts

Need help about whether to end a 52 year old friendship


Empath

Thanks, Cheshire. I'm glad you ended the relationship. I used to believe in loyalty, but some people really push you too far.

Visitor
@visitor
02/29/16 12:00:41PM
303 posts

Need help about whether to end a 52 year old friendship


Empath

You say she talks you talk, treats you like you're stupid, calls you "teenage". You also mention you're very ill. I'd say it's time to sever your relationship for good.

I've had a lot of long-time friendships that I've had to cut off. One "friend" found it boring that I had a life-threatening illness and didn't want to hear about it. I wrote her an email and told her not to contact me ever again because I needed to take care of myself. I also advised her to join AA. Another friend, like yours, got me through some very tough spots in my life. But he remained verbally abusive and I cut him off too. I don't feel guilty about it and I don't regret it.

I have a few friendship rules, and I don't think they're too harsh. 1) Don't put me down or belittle me. 2) Don't laugh at me. 3) Don't shrug off my problems while yakking on and on about yours. 4) Don't cling to me as if I'm your only friend in the world. You're far too heavy for me to carry, sorry.

Visitor
@visitor
02/27/16 07:43:26PM
303 posts

How do you feel about Emo's


Empath

Teens can be such lost people, and many of them have no mentors (or very poor ones).

When I think "emo", I think spiky blue hair, lots of goth makeup, and black clothing. Adults are just as bad - they throw around words like narcissistic, borderline, autism spectrium, anti-social, bipolar, and sociopath, like they were card they drew out of a pile.

Visitor
@visitor
02/27/16 07:38:54PM
303 posts

Being an Empath is truly a gift :)


Empath

Thank you, Daydra. It is a gift, but I wish I'd known that when I was five. I wish they'd had empath classes for kids like me, and that '60s and '70s were not a hotbed of Freudian mother-blaming nurture-versus-naturists. We were born with this gift and we need to be trained from birth to use it properly. I wasted a lot of time in my life thinking I was just a depressive loser. I'm changing things around now. Thanks for letting me whine, though.

Visitor
@visitor
02/25/16 10:37:45AM
303 posts

Empath or Profiler?


Empath

It's not just about profiling. I remember being at work one day, and feeling a sudden chill, like a refrigerator had just opened. I looked around and saw a woman I despised, waiting to talk to me (I despised her too). That's not a profile; that's a personal reaction. I didn't even judge her or "type" her for hating me; I just felt her chilly emotions. (Note: There was a man behind it.) Saying we're profilers is simplifying the matter FAR too much.

Visitor
@visitor
02/25/16 10:34:44AM
303 posts

Empath or Profiler?


Empath

A dry drunk is an alcoholic who doesn't drink, but hasn't confronted the things that make him want to drink. Lots of AA members don't drink at all, but they are still dealing with the daily urge to drink, and the emotional trauma that makes them turn to it, and so forth. I believe they teach members to find another addiction to replace drinking. AA meetings are addictive, so is coffee, so is knitting, so is church, and lots of other harmless things. I don't know much about it, but as long as they're making a difference, I applaud them. I don't have that particular addiction, but my brother is a dry drunk. He thinks AA is for losers and he thinks not drinking is good enough. (It's not good enough.)

Visitor
@visitor
02/20/16 02:50:50PM
303 posts

Empath or Profiler?


Empath

Speaking of "regardless of proximity", I pick up vibes from the internet, telephone, TV, etc. I have to be very careful. I see so many horrific things out of the corner of my eye when I'm browsing, and I internalize them whether I pay full attention to them or not.

Visitor
@visitor
02/20/16 07:55:06AM
303 posts

Alone.


Empath

Hi Morgan, I don't know what particular gifts you have. We all have a widely different assortment of them. I'm an energy sponge like you. We are not alone. I find that a lot of the people I mention "empath" to know exactly what I'm talking about, and have similar abilities. The others are like, "huh?" A lot of empaths don't know they are. Hang in there!

Visitor
@visitor
02/19/16 04:17:55PM
303 posts

Empath


Empath

Good question. I've been dealing with depression for most of my life (more than 50 years), and I'm comfortable with being labeled a "depressive" because technically I am. But I've always thought there was far more to it than a chemical imbalance or life trauma. I think being an empath has let in everybody else's miserable emotions. I also believe that past lives play into it. It's not simple. You're not crazy. If you live in this world and never feel depressed, anxious, or upside down, then you must be crazy.

Visitor
@visitor
02/19/16 04:13:42PM
303 posts

Organ Donation


Empath

I've heard of people taking on traits of organ donors, but I don't know how common it is. Think of it this way: she's getting the liver of a kind, generous person who thought outside himself (herself) and cared about other people. I had failing organs several years ago; thank goodness I got well without needing a donor organ. So I know a little bit about organ donation. Most people are happy to register for it (organdonor.gov) but a lot of people are superstitious about it.

Visitor
@visitor
02/19/16 04:09:15PM
303 posts

Empath or Profiler?


Empath

I think a lot of people think of Deanna Troi from Star Trek, some curvy goddess from outer space.

Visitor
@visitor
02/19/16 04:08:17PM
303 posts

Empath or Profiler?


Empath

No way. Profilers use their five ordinary senses to "type" people. I never type people, and it annoys me when others do it. My reactions are purely emotional and pretty confusing. I'm still a newbie empath and just beginning to understand it.

Visitor
@visitor
02/19/16 09:43:16AM
303 posts

Blood Connection ??


Empath

I don't get those physical symptoms, but I know a lot of empaths do, especially with relatives.

Visitor
@visitor
02/16/16 03:21:16PM
303 posts

My pet came to visit me!


Empath

I've been visited by departed pets, and not just my own. Sometimes they come to me in dreams. They just show up, as if to say "See, I'm not really gone! I'm OK." I had a very intense experience when a friend's dog visited me while I was awake. I could feel her feelings and the intense love she had for her owner - it blew me away. I just lost a dog suddenly last month and I think she visits me regularly. I can feel her soft, fluffy energy hugging me. I've been told that at least two of my other dogs are hanging around me a lot, too.

Visitor
@visitor
02/10/16 06:53:19PM
303 posts



I think a lot of empaths are misdiagnosed with agoraphobia, hoarding disorder, clinical depression, ADD, autism, and who knows what else? I didn't find out I was empathic until last year, and everything made sense. I'm enrolled in an intuitive healing class that begins in a few weeks, because I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with this by myself. There is a lot of info on YouTube and a lot of forums like this one, but it's best to get hands-on training from someone who's been there. You probably are a healer. I wish I could help you more, but I'm still learning!

Visitor
@visitor
02/09/16 02:03:19PM
303 posts



I don't know, but it's not a word to throw around carelessly, even if it's true. It might be better to warn people about him by saying "I personally do not trust him, and wouldn't advise you to, either."


updated by @visitor: 03/24/17 09:58:17PM
Visitor
@visitor
02/09/16 02:01:32PM
303 posts

Seeing digits '666'


Empath

666 as a negative number has been blown way out of proportion. Apparently it's just a numerology symbol for Nero (who was pretty evil), but not the sign of the devil.

Visitor
@visitor
02/07/16 08:57:09PM
303 posts

Qi Gong - negative side-effects?


Empath

Justlooking - if you're a physical emphath, you pick up physical pain from other people. I just pick up emotions, so I feel depressed after a workout.

Visitor
@visitor
02/07/16 08:54:25PM
303 posts

Qi Gong - negative side-effects?


Empath

I've had a similar problem with yoga classes. I would feel nice and stretched out until a few hours afterward, when I would get overwhelmingly depressed and exhausted. People told me I was crazy, that yoga was "supposed to make you feel better" and I wasn't "reacting the right way". But research has taught me that other people react this way to intense exercise, especially if they're in a room full of other people and can absorb all their energy, positive and negative. I feel better after a leisurely walk.

I

Visitor
@visitor
02/07/16 04:09:57PM
303 posts

Finally put a word to it - New Empath


Empath

Oh, me too, and I'm 56!!! I'm looking for a job and I realize that I need to avoid medical offices because of the extra load of stress. We're all here to help each other out, so good luck!

Visitor
@visitor
02/05/16 03:04:02PM
303 posts

Not sure whether I am an empath or just a depressive.


Empath

Google "empath test" - that' show I found out. It sounds like you may have a case of both - I know I do. I su

Visitor
@visitor
02/03/16 09:02:06PM
303 posts

More of a curse then a gift. Any advice?


Empath

It's more of a curse when you're a newbie, like me, and you just found out about it. To achieve happiness, you need to train and practice extensively on how to deal with it. I'm just learning that myself.

Visitor
@visitor
02/03/16 08:59:51PM
303 posts



Oh, I could write a book. My brother is all-out abusive, and doesn't understand why I haven't spoken to him (besides quick birthday calls) for ten years. My sister and father are clueless - empathy is a foreign language to them. They think I'm a freaking weirdo. My mother was the meanest person ever when I was growing up, and has mellowed out a lot, but mostly because she's very old and losing her memory. I feel like I'm from a different planet. I don't believe in forgiveness the way some people do. I believe in putting things behind me and not holding grudges, but that's easier said than done. It's harder to block family's energy than other people's.


updated by @visitor: 04/11/17 11:02:32AM
Visitor
@visitor
01/27/16 10:22:42AM
303 posts

Empaths & Hoarders - is there a connection?


Empath

If I waited until I wasn't depressed, it would be YEARS before I could clean. I'm constantly depressed - unemployed, dog just died too young, untrained empath, whatever. I find it's helpful to turn on some music or the oven timer and spend 20 minutes cleaning. It's amazing how much you can get done if you just stay in motion for 20 minutes.

Visitor
@visitor
01/25/16 03:45:37PM
303 posts

Not sure if I am an empath


Empath

Empaths aren't angels or saints - we're humans with a gift, and yes, we can definitely have nasty tempers and even be downright destructive. It's not just your own feelings you're bottling up; it's other people's that you have absorbed.

You're definitely an empath. Welcome aboard.

Visitor
@visitor
01/24/16 09:46:21AM
303 posts

Do I fit the label "empath"?


Empath

Are you an empath? Yes INDEED. Welcome aboard.

Visitor
@visitor
01/22/16 09:29:40PM
303 posts

Reincarnated pet? Has anyone ever had this happen?


Empath

Thanks, Austin. It was devastating, totally unexpected. I think your cat was definitely sent to you, and you sensed that at just the right time (so did your sister).

All of my dogs were sent to me too. I suddenly want a new dog, and one lands in my lap, or I adopt it through the usual channels, but I always feel that "gotta do it now" feeling. I guess I have to trust that.

 
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