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Pat-Starbridge
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12/17/14 10:00:05AM
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Empathy and Psychic Ethics


Healers

That is an interesting expression - soul call. I had not thought about it in that way. It is a difficult question to answer and we have had a number of discussions along these lines, on this site. Personally, I have found that when I have offered advice or information without being asked, the person hears the info but it doesn't register because they are not ready to listen. The same can be said for people who want to tell you all about their situation but they just want you to agree with them and are not ready to hear what they need to hear.

We tend to be in receptive mode but most people are in transmitting mode; they are too busy sending out their energy to focus on receiving. It's like when people ask, why no one will give them an answer to their question - when the Universe has been sending signals, right and left.

Generally, I don't offer information unless asked. For example, the person in the store or the co-worker may strike up a conversation with me. In the course of the conversation, there may be a moment when the topic turns to the information I'm picking up and then I can just say a few words that plants a seed. Even if they don't get it, the information is there for them at a later date.

I work from the belief that if I'm meant to offer some information, that Spirit will create the situation. There is also divine timing, sometimes the person has to go through certain situations before they are ready for the information. For example, I had a friend whose client complained that they hadn't been warned about a situation that occurred. As the reader pointed out, if they were meant to know about it, the information would have come up during the reading but they had to go through that situation because there was a lesson involved.

I don't feel guilty about it because it's not my job to help everyone. My job is to be present and receptive for those people who Spirit puts in front of me. I suppose I would say that if you hear a soul call, to see if the Universe creates an opportunity for you to speak with them. If not, remember that energy moves faster than words. We actually communicate more on an energy level then the spoken one. That soul call is coming on an energy level - perhaps that's how it is to be answered. Sending love may be all that person needs at the moment.

And thanks for the topic and the expression "soul call" - I like that one.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/16/14 02:21:14PM
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Winter Soltice Meditation


Empath

Very beautifully expressed. I was thinking along similar lines as I am preparing my post (on another site) on the sense of quiet and peace that one finds in those snowy evenings or early mornings when you feel as if you are the only person on the earth.

I have always loved Christmas and while I dislike what it often becomes (the noise, the crowds, materialism) I recognize the meaning. Whether its Christmas or Winter Solstice, we follow a tradition of dreaming on those long nights. I don't go in for the returning sun, rather I love the visual of the small light (candle, starlight) in the darkness. There is still hope and inspiration waiting to ignite even in dark times.

I agree about January, it always feels like two months shoved into one. I'm not fond of putting new year's right at the start of winter. Other cultures and in other times, had the new year closer to March. I usually skip January, as I'm still hibernating but I do love Chinese New Year, it's a little closer to spring and its just so much more fun and attractive.

This has been a rough year and we're not even going to end with some peace, so this is a great time to go within our self, that vast silent space and start to create new dreams.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/16/14 10:30:23AM
437 posts

Interview with a killer.


Empath

None taken but I listed the minimum not the average which is much higher. I was just puzzled that someone convicted of murder in 2006 would already be out and employed ? I looked up the years for sentencing and it's just too wide throughout the country as each state has different parameters as to what constitutes certain crimes. So, I just looked for the states with the lowest number of years for second degree and ball-parked the number. But yes, it's normally in the 15-20 years; and higher.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/15/14 04:57:05PM
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Interview with a killer.


Empath

There's a number of problems with this; like others have written, are you sure this is the same guy?

Also, if he killed someone in 2006 and it takes usually a year before going to trial and even if the guy was incarcerated prior to the trial, the number of years served would be about 7-8. Laws vary from state to state but the minimum for 2nd degree would be at least 10 years. And forget first degree as he would still be serving. Unless there was an overturn of the conviction, this person would still be serving time.

Also, the categories of murder can include killing without intent - vehicular homicide and a host of other situations that one wouldn't normally think of as murder. I don't know what you used for a search but there are ways to get a background check. I think you can go through the DMV and there are sites such as intelius and beenverified, You do have to spend some money for the criminal check. Even using sites like this, you have to be sure that you have an absolute match - the right age, the right state, etc.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/15/14 03:25:35PM
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It sounds very much like the cord between the two of you has been severed. When we connect with people, there are energy cords that attach to us. Some attach to the heart (heart to heart), others attach to the third chakra (your stomach) which is the area of your will and power and other cords can be attached to your second chakra (sex and creative chakra). You can get other chakras corded but these are the typical ones.

We rarely feel these cords attaching, except for the second chakra when we feel a sexual attraction. But the heart and third chakra cords we often feel when we are separating from someone. People talk about a broken heart or feeling like they've been kicked in the gut. It's interesting that you're feeling this in the heart chakra and the third chakra which suggests to me that there was an underlying issue of his trying to retain power over you by continuing to lie to you. It's a form of manipulation and definitely a power issue. I should point out that cord removal when both parties decide to end a relationship is not as painful but when something happens unexpectedly, like this; the cord is "torn" or "ripped out" then there is an incredible feeling of loss or even pain.

I'm very sorry for what you're going through; you certainly deserve far better than this. I feel this is the aftermath of what happened. Right now, you've had the rug pulled from under you and you're afraid of "something about to occur" but I think that's just fear. You need to take good care of yourself. It's going to take time to heal from this and to learn to trust again; but you will.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/05/14 03:23:59PM
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I received a reminder today


Empath

Thank you Paul. And I accept your apology. You also provide great insight and advice which is appreciated by the EC members.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/05/14 01:16:38PM
437 posts

I received a reminder today


Empath

Thanks Krosskelt, that's very kind of you. No, I don't mean to confuse the situation. I do remember your reply and there were several of us commenting (including me) it was like there was more than one discussion in the thread. I do know of whom you are referring to and "no" I knew it wasn't me (at least, I was pretty sure).

This is an issue that's been going on for a while and I'm just wanting to resolve it and doing whatever it takes. And for any who say that this should be done privately - I agree, but for a couple of reasons (all of which I will own) a public apology seemed the most best route.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/05/14 10:55:09AM
437 posts

I received a reminder today


Empath

Paul, I apologize to you for offending you. The comments that I made which has been eluded to here, was because I was deeply hurt. I should have just sucked it up and kept my pain to myself and not have said anything. I am not making excuses or defending my position any further I am taking full responsibility for all of it for anything that I wrote that offended you, I am sorry.

I apologize for the email mishap and for injecting myself into your conversation about shadow work. I should have left it alone and kept my thoughts to myself.

I will also apologize to you, Paul, for whatever it was that angered you from the start. I can only gather that this goes back to an online issue during the summer that involved a number of us. I still dont know what all that was about (honestly) but if I offended you or your friends, I am very sorry.

For the last couple of weeks, I have tried to be careful as to what I post. I think about what topics would be safe to discuss, and I have tried to censor my sense of humor because Im afraid Im going to offend someone. I did recently reply to a question in one of the groups and made a joke. Within a few minutes I saw there was a reaction posted and I removed my reply. My comment was not directed at anyone here but I realized that it was taken personally.

As soon as I can, I am going to find my remarks from that thread that K was discussing and see if I can remove them so that this will no longer offend others. Emmy and K Im sorry that you felt bad and I will remove those words so no else has to feel that.

Paul, as I said, I willingly take full responsibility for everything that I have written. If I have hurt you or anyone here at the EC, I apologize. I will have to give further thought to the manner in which I write; my choice of words, the topics that I discuss and the people that I engage with. Lately, it has become very challenging for me to have to continually censor everything that I write but, I will make every attempt at doing so in order to prevent this from happening again.

Other than apologizing and monitoring my writing, I don't know what else I need to do in order to clear this situation.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/04/14 04:10:15PM
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Like Robin, I use to worry when I was younger. Many of the things I worried about never came true but some did. I don't know if I actually foresaw events many years prior to them happening or whether my fear of that possibility sent enough energy into that probability that it came true.

I can't say that I don't worry but I recognize that the future is not set in stone and there are many probable futures out there. I've also discovered that when something I worried about did happen; I survived it, I managed to get through it. When you're actually experiencing what you are afraid will happen - you're not afraid because you're very much in the moment.

Someone gave me a piece of advice that might help you. I was worried about some issue that I needed to resolve. I played different scenarios in my head and was just exhausted by what to do. When I mentioned this to a friend, she said that I was actually expending more energy in thinking. If I stopped thinking and just did it, I wouldn't have wasted so much energy. I'm not a spontaneous person, I tend to plan things out; so this was very hard but I find it does help. I can't do it all the time but if I'm really fixated, I just push myself to walk right into whatever I fear.

Also, I work to let go of expectations. One popular belief is to expect the best outcome; when I do that, I usually get the worst. So I prefer to stay neutral about any outcome. There's the old story of the farmer who suffered a misfortune, his neighbors said "that's too bad". The farmer replied "maybe yes, maybe no". The misfortune turned out to be beneficial and his neighbors replied "isn't that good." He answered, "maybe yes, maybe no," and so on. The morale being, we label events as "good" or "bad" but when we stand back and take the role of the observer, we see that things have an odd way of working out; even those things that we fear and come to pass, may have a hidden blessing.

There's the saying - work on what you can change, the rest is in the hands of a Higher Power.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/03/14 06:40:25PM
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Kim, it doesn't matter that she's refusing - of course she will. This isn't about what she wants - we know what she wants. But a Shaman or someone skilled in this, can cross them over. Really, they can do it and this matter can be resolved.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/26/14 05:32:03PM
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Thank you. You stated exactly what I was thinking but couldn't articulate. This has all the feel of an entity or hungry ghost. And Kim, SnakeMedicine makes a great point - that this entity is pretending to speak in her name and preventing both of you from advancing and getting help. Your beloved would never want to harm you, only a manipulative entity would wish that on someone.

Please take time and read over her comments because this reply really gets to the heart of the problem.


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Pat-Starbridge
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11/26/14 05:12:46PM
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I don't want to knock BPI but unfortunately, SnakeMedicine is correct when she says that Katz implies it's the only true psychic ability. This is the attitude of BPI. The woman I mentioned who went through the program told me that every time she started to read using her empathic abilities, she would be "corrected" and told to only use clairvoyance. BPI has a lot of graduates and a large number have written books that promotes that way of thinking. If you ever read about "creating and destroying roses" or the rose technique for reading - you have a BPI graduate.

I also wanted to mention that most of the readers I know, read with their eyes opened. The practice of closing one's eyes is for beginners to get them to focus. Obviously, you are way past that.

And just for the record, I am a clairvoyant and have never been able to use that rose technique.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/26/14 03:18:44PM
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Yes Kim, but some of us have seen entity attachments and recognize them when we see them - and this is one. Maria mentioned your conflicted feelings coming through, and we all are picking up on that. You say you want help and then claim that no one can help you.

I can tell you HOW to let go of her - you have to want to let go. At present, you don't or you want her changed but you want her with you. People who get entity attachments removed are those that want to get them removed. They make up their mind that they will get help and end it. The people who like having their entity with them - still have the entity attached.

When you decide that you no longer want this - you will find the people who can help you and this will be fixed.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/26/14 12:05:51PM
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The practice of using a rose reading seems to have come out of the Berkeley Psychic Institute. There are a number of books that suggest this technique and most of the authors seem to have a connection to the Institute. The founder was Lewis Bostwick and he taught many students how to do psychic readings. I never attended the Institute but my former teacher was a student so I'm familiar with the techniques.

The practice of closing the eyes and using a screen is to help people who are not adept at visualizing. Most need to close their eyes (at first) in order to limit distractions. The Institute promotes clairvoyance and a very limited way to read. Basically, they are teaching the way Bostwick use to read. I met a woman who attended the institute, she was not naturally clairvoyant but more empathic, so learning to read in that style was a challenge. The point is, she read much better in her own style than relying on someone else's technique.

Books and classes on psychic development are great because you can learn different techniques but they are just techniques. Everyone has a particular style of reading. Some of the best readers are NOT clairvoyant. People often get upset because they can't "see" It's just not a big deal, When you try and read using a style that isn't comfortable, it's like speaking in a foreign language; you might be able to but it doesn't feel natural.

So whatever works for you, is your style of reading. It's not unlike handwriting, no two people have the same handwriting; no two people have exactly the same style of reading.


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Pat-Starbridge
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11/25/14 07:17:40PM
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Don't think of it as broken - it's just on vacation.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/25/14 07:09:55PM
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Kim, you posted a similar discussion back in July and I replied that I had serious doubts that this was a healthy situation. When a person dies, they don't want their loved one to follow them into death but to go on living. This is not love but a being that is utterly possessive. I have no doubt of the intensity of the emotions but an entity is very adept at getting into a person's head and playing with their emotions. It feels real - but it's all an illusion.

Let me ask you; if the position was reversed and you had died, leaving behind someone you loved. From the otherside, you would see that the person who was still alive had much to look forward to. They still had a life to complete and you would want them to be happy and to live their life to the fullest. Anything that says it's trying to kill you - doesn't have your highest good.

I'm going to honest here - you need to get this being detached and sent into the light. It doesn't want to go and it's using every excuse in the book. But it must leave.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/25/14 06:49:49PM
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Okay, that is funny...but it's also very symbolic. Life is a funny yin and yang of lessons; those who think they are weak, learn to be strong. Those who are strong, have to learn to ask for help. It's a challenging lesson for someone who is so capable of helping others to feel vulnerable and in need of the assistance of others. But it's a reminder of both our strength and our fragility. Also, this gives other people the chance to help you.

They say, illness and accidents are the western person's form of meditation. We are always "doing" that sometimes we have to be knocked off our feet to get us to stop. Interesting that the injuries were related to the arm (doing) and to the leg (moving). Guess it's time for some rest, reflection and to allow yourself to be cared for by others.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/24/14 03:55:36PM
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I heard of a buddhist meditation center that is in NY. The participants were very uncomfortable because in addition to being in a noisy area, the center was located next door to a fire station. Their meditation was frequently interrupted by the sounds of the fire alarm and the engines racing out of the building. That was the point of putting the center there; to learn to be calm in the midst of chaos.

Our exterior world tends to mirror our internal one; so when we're feeling tense, it seemsamplified in the outside world. I recently saw an article that says, that if one can just meditate for a least 3 minutes a couple of times a day, that alone will help. Sometimes you have to just find creative ways to do this. I know people who will go and sit in their car with the windows up, just to get a few minutes of quiet. If you're really desperate, you can get a pair of those noise canceling headphones - even the ones that are used in industry - or what gardeners wear. And if that's not enough, you can put on soft foam earplugs and put the headphones on over that. Yes, it looks silly, unless you get a pair of Beats (no one needs to know that you're not listening to music). Of course you can't do this at work, but at home, it can be a visual reminder, that mom needs some quiet time.


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Pat-Starbridge
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11/21/14 09:07:05PM
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Wow, thanks Eclia. I'm glad you liked it, I just kept thinking of the book when I thought of you. I have another book that you, Robin or anyone else might be interested in. It's also by the same author - Dorothy Bryant and it's called "Confessions of Madame Psyche" The story is fiction but it almost reads like a biography.

It's about a girl named Mei Li who along with her sister lived in turn of the century San Francisco. The book was recommended by my former metaphysics teacher, I didn't understand "why" at first but later I got it.

In the story, Mei Li pretends to be a psychic and she and her sister are scamming people.This was when seances were very popular. However, it turns out that Mei Li is psychic. It's an interesting story of a woman who comes to realize her abilities and she reaches a point of her own enlightenment. It's not the happiest story as she endures many challenges but it does stay with you.

I don't think it ever made it to an e-book, you might check your libraries first to find a copy or a second hand bookstore. Amazon has it but it's pricey as it's out of print.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/21/14 08:31:43PM
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I'm running out of space -Robin, I'm commenting about your reply regarding the experts and dreaming. I've often wondered about people who claim that they don't need much sleep, like just 3 or 4 hours. I wonder if over a long term that this might not be detrimental to a person's emotional state. I can't remember but I think i read somewhere about the importance of REM (dream state) for the overall health of a person.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/21/14 08:20:46PM
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Robin, I'm glad to provide a public service. I think my brain waves are hiccuping ?

Pat-Starbridge
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11/21/14 07:39:29PM
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11/21/14 07:20:47PM
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11/21/14 07:08:54PM
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Then I've experienced the opposite - that if I don't shield that I'm stupid or inviting trouble. It goes both ways.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/21/14 06:29:37PM
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I didnt notice any hostility in the comments but as someone who has been on the receiving end by others; I do understand. Personally, I went through a period of time where I was under a powerful psychic attack and did everything I could to shield myself. It is with hindsight that I recognize that I had an agreement with the sender of the attack to experience this and to grow from it. I have encountered evil, I know the fear the terror. But overtime, the fear has started to dissipate. I recognize it for what it is and I know that it cant hurt me; Ive grown from those early lessons and I am grateful for them. Looking back, I would have done it the same way with shields, protection, etc; its what I needed then.

I dont look down on anyone for using shields, we are all walking our path and doing the very best that we can thats all thats ever asked of us. However I have encountered a couple of people who assume that either I have no idea what I'm talking about or that I'm in league with the dark forces because Im not looking in every corner for the darkness. Given what I have experienced, I find it funny but its also hurtful.

This is an area where there is a lot of disagreement and all we can do is respect each others choices.

Pat-Starbridge
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11/21/14 01:18:13PM
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I've been hearing a number of spiritual teachers saying pretty much the same thing. I'm not a fan of Teal, I don't care for her; however, other teachers such as Matt Kahn are saying that it's far more effective to raise one's vibration than to practice shielding. I've always found the concept of shielding - weird but I did it because everyone else did. Then at some point, I stopped. I will still shield if I'm going to a place such as the mall, but not out of fear of negativity, I just don't want to be bombarded with that much energy. Occasionally I'll shield if I'm dealing with a difficult person, but even then, I just direct my attention elsewhere. Someone described the process as if you tune into a radio station; there are stations you want to hear, and those you could care less.

Pat-Starbridge
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10/22/14 12:38:17PM
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I don't have any issues with phones but I can't stand the remote on car keys. Numerous times, I'll be walking across a parking lot or on the sidewalk and someone gets out of their car, starts walking away from it and then turns around and locks it with the remote. I am often walking right between the car and the remote - and damn, do I feel it. I hate that sensation.


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Pat-Starbridge
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10/19/14 12:04:41PM
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Hi Monique,

You replied to one of my comments on another post when I wrote about OBE and the astral plane. I'm very sorry for what you are dealing with, it's rough not only on the mental state but on the body as well. When I first experienced OBE and sleep paralysis, I had no idea what to do; a friend suggested that my experiences reminded her of the books by Robert Monroe (Journeys out of the body). Monroe was about the last person that would explore OBE, I think he was in business -very logical, left brain guy. But he started having OBE and wrote down his experiences.

People often think that these experiences are related to entity attachment or haunting - and sometimes, that can be. But for some of us, the brain waves get confused. When I first started having these, I was told by my metaphysics teacher, to start meditating; and to develop a regular meditation schedule. She thought that this would help to regulate the brain waves. Robert Monroe was also interested in studying brain waves and set up the Monroe Institute. It specializes in helping people have OBE - or control where they travel when they sleep. He developed hemi-sync which was the forerunner to binaural beats. This along with theta waves, gamma, etc can help produce an altered state.

Of course, you're trying to get back in your body, however, you might want to explore some of the information from the institute. Also, you are spot on about taking care of yourself physically as it can help the brain. It does sound like part of you doesn't want to come back onto the physical plane. Grounding can help - there is a whole post here dedicated to grounding techniques. Taking a shower in the morning helps - and eating protein; if you're not a vegan, animal protein is best.

I do want to ask - have you always had this or did this start recently? Also, on the other post you mentioned vibrating, did you notice the vibration in one area first and then to the rest of the body - or just a vibration throughout the body?

http://www.monroeinstitute.org/

Pat-Starbridge
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10/18/14 09:11:14PM
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I'm talking about the returns - in my sign sign back in the 90s and just a couple of years ago in my moon sign. They are the returns (and yes, I am old.)

I'll just add, I don't know what it's called - as I'm not an astrologer. Maybe it's called a return or a transit - but it was 2.5 years. And good luck, with yours!

And I would gladly take Uranus and Pluto - I hate Saturn

Pat-Starbridge
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10/18/14 09:03:22PM
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What Starr mentioned about working too hard, seems to be a common problem for many of us. I know that when I tried to do it, and was deep in meditation; as soon as I was to visualize seeing my guides, I would freeze up. For me, my left brain would spring into action, trying to picture what they looked like - worrying about whether the info was correct, etc.

Perhaps losing focus is helpful, relaxing into it is the way to go. And as Starr mentioned, the timing might not be right.


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Pat-Starbridge
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10/17/14 07:10:36PM
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I think it's really the energy that's all around us right now; it's just very intense whether Mercury is going forward, backward or side ways.

I didn't notice the Saturn returns when I was a kid but both returns (sun and moon) in my middle years, was just too much. An astrologer told me that Saturn is the loving father. I reminded her that he is also identified with Cronus, the dude who devoured his children.

The only way I could handle Saturn was to play dead - sort of like dealing with an angry bear. Just play dead, soon or later, he'll get bored and leave you alone. Of course, as the return is about 2 and half years; you have to stay dead for sometime.

Pat-Starbridge
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10/17/14 03:59:22PM
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I suspect there are other reasons why the mercury retrogrades seem more difficult these days. I never had that much problem until the last two years, it's been getting weird. The good news is that they are over fast - thank God, mercury is a fast mover. Now, a Saturn return (in either the sun or moon sign) can damn near kill you.

I like to look at mercury retrogrades like the Hanged Man in the Tarot; it's not necessarily bad. It's just learning to look at life from a different perspective. It gives us a chance to move inward and reflect.

Pat-Starbridge
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10/15/14 10:32:21AM
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Becoming a healer is also a journey of the self, as you figure out who your are. The doctor may have sensed the energy in your hands or coming off your body. Often, when I meet people, I can feel the energy when I shake their hand.

People who are healers, don't always wind up in that profession; their very presence is enough to help heal others. Nor do they even have to put their hands on a person. They are the sort of people that one just feels better by being around them or talking to them.

There are so many forms of healing out there and it's just a matter of finding what you are drawn to. Chances are, that it will be a form that is natural to how you relate to others. For example, some people love touch and to physically feel, they would be great candidates for healing work that requires touch - chiropractic, massage, crainiosacral, bowen, etc. There's also Reiki - which can be touch, or not.

There are many healers who work through observation - such as intuitives, often becoming medical intuitives. Others, become fascinated with the meridian system - acupuncture, Donna Eden's work, etc. There are healers working with particle/wave healing such as Richard Bartlett. Healing with sound, various forms of release work.

The list goes on and on. There's lots of methods out there. It's a matter of looking around and just sensing what you are drawn to. There is also a growing field in healing animals; for example, chiropractic for animals. There's a woman in this area who does courses on Healing Touch for animals, birds, etc. So, it's a great time to just explore what's available.


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Pat-Starbridge
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10/15/14 09:15:35AM
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Being a party pooper


Empath

I don't know that most empaths consider themselves indigos. We are all changing at a rapid rate so I think that labels will disappear, eventually.

I think what dice was getting at, is the most effective method. Instead of asking a person to give up something they love - find a better alternative. I've read a number of articles that women are switching over to natural hair dye because the chemicals are frying their hair and they don't want harsh products. So, it becomes a matter of vanity, which leads to a healthy choice.

No one is asking you to ignore your beliefs; but there are ways of convincing people to change without lecturing.

Pat-Starbridge
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10/13/14 03:42:21PM
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Being a party pooper


Empath

I have to check out that link you posted. I lost all my highlights following surgery but my hair is so fragile from thyroid issues that I hate to put chemicals on it.

How different things are from when I grew up in the 70s. All the makeup was super heavy and made my skin worse. We have so many more choices.

Pat-Starbridge
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10/13/14 03:31:09PM
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Being a party pooper


Empath

I'm assuming by your screen name, that you're a guy - if so, you get a pass.

Pat-Starbridge
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10/13/14 02:37:48PM
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Being a party pooper


Empath

I'm not saying that it can't look nice - especially on a young girl (younger the better). But it's not exactly considered a professional look. You don't see too many lawyers, doctors, CEOs wearing braids.

Also, for women in their 40s - and older; it's not attractive (especially with the ribbons) and only appropriate if the woman is attending an Octoberfest celebration and dressed as a Tyrolean matron. OR, she's a member of a polygamist cult along the Utah/Nevada border.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/13/14 02:29:53PM
437 posts

Being a party pooper


Empath

What effects you, may not effect others. Surprisingly, a person's belief system plays a major role in how things effect them.

It seems like almost everything on this planet is bad for us. We have to avoid this and that; and what is considered safe today, will be dangerous tomorrow and then it will switch. And that's also true of natural substances. There are many natural things that are not healthy for every person. So, people reach a point where they will stop listening. They are tried of being told what they can and can't have.

You said your peace, perhaps planted a seed in their minds - now let it go. Your sister obviously enjoys dying her hair, it gives her some pleasure. And that may also play a key in her health. When we enjoy life or find things that give us pleasure - our bodies feel good too. Some comedian once said "what's the point of eating healthy food when you're pissed off about it ?" Enjoying life keeps us in a positive state of mind - and that doesn't mean just being focused on the natural but on the man-made as well. Sometimes, the smallest, silliest things give us great joy.

Also, the beauty industry is changing. Many cosmetic companies are moving to natural. Bare Minerals, Josie Maran, Tarte are becoming important players in the industry. The hair industry is a little slower, there are natural dyes but not of the same quality of color found in the artificial dyes; but that will change in time.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/13/14 02:03:04PM
437 posts

Being a party pooper


Empath

Braid's with ribbons? Not exactly a professional look.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/11/14 03:18:50PM
437 posts



You might want to look at some older posts because this topic has been discussed many times. Some people think they should step in - others think they shouldn't unless asked.

My question to you - is what makes you think we are obligated to help? There's a distinct difference between wanting to help - and the idea that as empaths, we are obligated to help or have additional responsibilities.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/08/14 04:45:31PM
437 posts

Listening to My Heart/Confusion


Empath

Thank you Lizzy. If I could just remove my head, I'd feel a lot better. it's an Aries thing and the eclipse didn't help.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/08/14 04:20:22PM
437 posts

Listening to My Heart/Confusion


Empath

I don't why the "thank you" but I'll take it Dan.

It's been a bad week - and heck, it's only Wednesday.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/08/14 04:16:58PM
437 posts

Listening to My Heart/Confusion


Empath

Robin, as usual, you got right to the point.

Reminds me of a guy who was interested in me but he couldn't wait until I was ready, so he got himself involved with a married woman. She was separated from her husband but had no intention of divorcing him. That was bad enough, but she had an affair with a guy when she was about 20 and he was 40; and she was now taking care of him in his declining years. Bless her heart! $$$$ There will always be some guy to take care of her.

It's so rude - she took three and she wouldn't share!

The worst thing is the guy I was interested in is a sweetheart. And when he's telling me all about this woman (with husband and former lover) he's just over the top excited - and I'm thinking, there's a train wreck ready to happen. He had no idea that he was being used - and still doesn't.

And Lizzy is right - it's not fair to men. Nobody should feel used.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/08/14 03:58:20PM
437 posts

Listening to My Heart/Confusion


Empath

That excuse works if you live in Alaska where the men outnumber the women.

Any single woman reading this would laugh at that statement.

Look, it doesn't matter what any of us say, which is why I don't understand why you keep asking us for advice.

You're going to do what you want, and that's to keep pursuing this woman.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/08/14 03:40:44PM
437 posts

Listening to My Heart/Confusion


Empath

Yes Really, eh! Some people see the twin flame idea as a theory - but more to the point, if it does exist, why the hell would you ever want to be with someone who was just like you. Talk about driving yourself insane. One expert on this topic, cautions her clients never to go looking for their twin flame because they will drive each other crazy.

But try looking at this from a more realistic approach; do you really think that somehow in all the billions of people on the planet, that you can possibly meet ONE person that's right for you? Come on ! The other approach is to look at this as soul groupings, that if one person in our soul grouping doesn't work out, that we contract with another person in our soul grouping. It's not like there's only one person on this earth for you. We contract on a soul level - but sometimes it doesn't work out. So, just because something is planned, doesn't mean it's going to manifest.

What if there is someone else out there who is the person that will really make you happy? Someone who will support your dreams and inspire you. You are so infatuated with this woman that you can't see the possibilities that are out there.

And what are you going to keep doing, hoping this 'special" woman that you are obsessed with will finally be with you - how long have you been at this? How much longer do you plan to pursue this. Seriously - how much longer?

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/08/14 01:46:58PM
437 posts

Listening to My Heart/Confusion


Empath

To be honest, I really don't know what you want from us other than to validate your feelings. No matter how many times we tell you to "let go" it's not sinking in.

First, if she is a twin flame, that's not a great recipe for a relationship.

Second, you don't even realize that your constant focus on her (not your fear but your focus) - is pushing her away! You don't even have to be in physical communication with her for her to pick up on this. When a person focuses their energy on someone, the recipient feels it. I've seen this in readings where one person is just pushing the other with their energy and the other person is doing everything they can to push that energy back. It's like being smothered. Even when you mention about being "at peace" in order to draw her close, that's not letting go. That's an agenda.

Third; this girl is in a relationship that she chose. It is her choice and if you love her, as you claim; then you must respect her choice and allow her space to live her life. Her relationship may not be a good one, in your eyes; but it's what she's working through.

True love is not selfish. There are many on the EC, myself included; who can tell you stories of having the person we love, choose to be with someone else. Of course it hurts, of course we believe they made a mistake. But we choose relationships for the lessons we need to learn, which is what she is doing. There is a much bigger picture here that has to be worked through.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/07/14 07:17:29PM
437 posts



As a doll is an object - they can. You might look up annabelle and the Warrens - the actual story. I know some believe that demons require a live host, but there have been so many cases of them in other things that I agree with you.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/07/14 06:29:32PM
437 posts



Yes. Think of what "sensitive" means. As you grow more sensitive, you can become effected by things that didn't bother you in the past.

I haven't seen in the film - nor do I plan to. While the film diverges off from the actual account, keep in mind that this is based on a series of events surrounding an entity that is in a doll (that's currently under lock and key). That kind of power can move through electronics and media.

You might want to do a little clearing and meditating.


updated by @pat-starbridge: 04/15/17 11:42:23PM
Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/07/14 04:01:12PM
437 posts

Listening to My Heart/Confusion


Empath

I'm not going to write too much about the process of a psychic reading, as I don't want the subject moving to a topic that will get this post closed. However, just to be clear; there is no fixed future and when it comes to relationships there is always freewill - on both sides.

If you are serious about a relationship, what Paul and Denise wrote is spot on - you have to stop looking for it. When we focus too hard on something we want, when we will get it, and how we will get it; we become oblivious to what the Universe is giving us. What we want, may not be what's best for us or the timing is off. When we relax and stop focusing, the Universe will open up and send us exactly what we need.

But you need to ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship and what you have to offer the other person. You wrote a couple of times about how she inspired your music. It really sounds like this woman was your muse; and that you projected many positive qualities on to her that she may not possess. People often project ideal qualities onto another, they see what they want to see and not what it actually there. Relationships are about seeing all aspects of the partner.

And inspiration doesn't come from one source, it is all around us. Your music comes from within you, it's not dependent upon external factors.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
10/05/14 01:26:13PM
437 posts

Annabelle The Movie


Psychic and Paranormal

That's an interesting visual on death and blood.

Been reading a book by Barbara Hand Clow on the 9 dimensions. She writes about the 1st dimension as the iron core crystal at the center of the earth and how sacred our blood is, as it contains some of that iron. I'm not sure that I agree with all of Hand Clow's writing, esp when she injects her own anti war beliefs; but I'm finding the correlation between our blood and the earth very interesting and a fascinating grounding exercise.

 
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