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Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
03/09/15 06:48:44PM
437 posts

Since there's been so much talk...


Empath

That wasn't quite how i meant it. On a soul level, we are very loving, wise and compassionate. And what I think you may be doing, is reading people at the soul level. And this is lovely. However, there is also the personality (the empath, the narcissist etc) and when you are seeing the beautiful soul, you can get attacked by the personality.

On a soul level, we have agreements to work through various lessons. This is not apparent at the level of the personality. What i'm trying to say is that when you look at the overall picture of the situations that you have helped create - you may start to see a theme play out. And the people and situations that you attract are trying to help you see that theme. It doesn't mean on a personality level that they understand but on a soul level, they are helping you.

I know that you wish to see the best in everyone but you can do that from the soul level. If you have someone with a crappy personality, it's not your responsibility to help them, especially if it means causing you some suffering. You recognize that they are doing the best they can and you wish them well but often, you have to let people go.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
03/09/15 05:49:24PM
437 posts

Since there's been so much talk...


Empath

Wow, thank you especially as I don't think my brain is fully up to speed. I'm glad the elusive Bing found you and got you here. You'll find a wide variety of people here, and many different points of view.

I agree with your approach and I like the intertwining of student and teacher. We never stop being the student. We're here to share the information and I think many of us realize that in this lifetime, it's about each of us becoming our authentic self - the master. I know the feeling about followers, they need someone to tell them what to do and then they need someone to blame.

I have started seeing crystal patterns and grids but not within people's heads, just more in visions. I also did a few readings in which people told me about seeing crystal grids in their dreams or visions. So, it looks like many of us are receiving this info. I take it that you are seeing these crystals in the heads? I'm interested in what you've learned about it.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
03/09/15 04:25:52PM
437 posts

Since there's been so much talk...


Empath

Thanks. Your story raises an interesting point. I know so many people who are in search of answers and latch on to a teacher. No matter how good the teacher is, there is always the danger of the student relying too heavily on the "truths" of the teacher, not realizing that they already have the information they seek, if only they look within.

The best teachers are those who say "take what you need and when ready, move on".

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
03/09/15 04:18:22PM
437 posts

Since there's been so much talk...


Empath

That sounds like an exciting story! For me, it's easier to remove the labels- empath, sociopath, etc and focus on what is the spiritual lesson. Our relationships have a soul agreement and there are lessons to be learned on both sides. Our lessons often involved challenging people and situations but that's where there is an opportunity for growth.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
03/09/15 04:10:17PM
437 posts

Since there's been so much talk...


Empath

Sounds similar to two people I knew. One was a shaman, the other was very accomplished at shifting energy and time travel. They had a great deal of knowledge but they allowed their ego to get in the way and as a result, wounded many people. I'm not one to follow a particular teaching, but at the time, I was young and just starting on my path. It took some years to learn that not everything that looks "light and loving" is so. However, I'm grateful for the lessons, although painful. Discernment is required while walking a spiritual path

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
03/09/15 02:06:29PM
437 posts

Since there's been so much talk...


Empath

What I noticed is that you separate empaths from narcissists and they can be one in the same. In fact, the most devious narcissists are highly emphatic for they know exactly what to say in order to produce the desired reaction. Being compassionate and being an empath are not the same thing. There are many empaths who are compassionate as they work from the heart chakra, but there are many who are not.

I hear people say on this site that they wish everyone was an empath. That could be a very dangerous thing. If more people were kind and compassionate (whether they were empaths or not) it would make the world a better place.

As we can only see things from our own perspective, and as you are a caring and heart centered person; it's difficult for you to see how someone could be an empath and be self centered. But they are out there.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
02/24/15 08:07:36PM
437 posts

This sounds like a silly symbol, but it keeps recurring


Dreams

I agree with Stan's comment. The crown chakra is often considered the symbolic connection to God and the higher states. You mentioned that you had your hair a certain way and now you want a change, which is similar to your wanting to change certain areas (spiritual) in your life. I think dreaming of different hair and different styles is symbolic of the many directions that you can take in your spiritual life. You are starting "anew" and you don't have to be stuck with one style (or belief system) but can open up to many possibilities. I'd also mention that the actual act of cutting hair or changing the style is often seen as a need for change. A stylist friend once said that he knew when a client was about to make a major change in her life because she would drastically change her hair

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
02/15/15 11:34:12AM
437 posts

Does anyone ever see you for you?


Empath

We all "should" but that term and free will don't necessarily go together. I heard a recent talk that discussed this issue. What was said is that a person who acts in the manner similar to the people around you, has not opened up to the light of their own soul. And the underlying motive for these actions is that they are looking for someone to pardon them, which is why these situations are created and you are the catalyst in their evolution. We can help others grow into their own consciousness by asking the universe to pardon them and allow them to be set free.

This does not mean that we continue to allow people to treat us unfairly, we pardon them and recognize that their actions have nothing to do with us. We also have to recognize that we do not live in a fair world however, we can strive to create a balance in all our relationships. We are slowly coming out of the old mentality of "you vs. me". For some, that means that it's all about "them" and for others it's about sacrificing for the other. Neither method works because it's not balance. When we approach relationships from a "we" mentality, we are looking for solutions and actions that help all. Your light, your needs, your wants are just as important as anyone else's. You are to be loved and respected and that often begins with placing the same value on your needs as you do for another.

it's difficult to hit the balance but it is necessary for our growth and others. Recently, a friend had a similar situation of helping someone who took advantage of this friend's kindness and generosity. This friend works in the spiritual/healing community and Spirit finally said "no more help" because the person wasn't interested in getting better, he wanted to stay in the mode of "needing help". We do the best we can, but there are times when we must let people go not only for our good but for their's too.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
02/13/15 05:19:12PM
437 posts

Medical Intuitive


Psychic and Paranormal

I have rarely met anyone in the field of psychic/healing etc who has been supported by others. It is a lonely path. The friend I mentioned, is well known and often consulted by doctors; however, in public gatherings or parties, they avoid her and pretend that they don't know her. One of the great healers Rosalyn Bruyere said "no one wants to wake up and realize they're a weirdo."

There is also the issue of getting paid for healing services. This is probably the worst sticking point that all healers face. I have heard many people complain about healers wanting to be paid. This stems from the idea that the gift is unique and from God - all gifts are from God, and all honorable work should be treated the same. There is also the whole issue of energy exchange; if you ask for a service, you need to reimburse. There is also the practical side, if healers aren't suppose to be paid, what do they do to pay the bills? Most work other jobs which limits their time to help others.

My friend never had formal medical training, she just stumbled into it. Same is true for the well known medical intuitive, Caroline Myss - I think she was a book editor(?) and just discovered she had this ability.

There is a book called Become a Medical Intuitive by Tina Zion. It's a great book to read, even if you're not interested in medical intuition, it's a great read about energy, it might provide some answers to your questions.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
02/13/15 03:00:53PM
437 posts

Medical Intuitive


Psychic and Paranormal

Your examples sound more like precognition that you manifest as physical symptoms. Although a medical intuitive can have precognition as in sensing the beginnings of a disease before it physically manifests, usually, they are scanning the body for problems that already exist. Some are also healers, but many work just as medical intuitives. i have a friend who has been a medical intuitive for many years, she's like a CAT-scan with legs. she can see into a person's body and also suggest various remedies be they traditional or holistic. She's also a psychic and deals with other issues but she loves all things medical, that's where she shines.

There's been this attitude that if you have a gift, you are REQUIRED to do something with it; and that is changing. A gift is a gift; we are not in service to it. If you have an interest in learning about the physical body and all things health, medical; than becoming a medical intuitive might be the right choice, but only if you enjoy it. When we really love what we do, we are in service to the Universe.

In my opinion, one of the reasons for the problems with your family is that because this is precognition, the symptoms haven't physically manifested. They haven't even formulated the question that something is wrong or has the potential for being wrong. It would look different if they already had the pain and then asked you for your opinion of what was wrong. The other thing is that even though they are family, it doesn't mean they understand your abilities.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
02/07/15 04:36:02PM
437 posts



The percentage of the population that do not dream in color, is very small. Scientists think about 20% or less. Most of us, empath or otherwise, dream in color.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/31/15 10:53:36AM
437 posts

Clairvoyance, Clairaudience, Clairsentience, and Claircognizance


Psychic and Paranormal

Not that long ago, when people's abilities started to open, it tended to be a gradual opening. But things have changed, everything is speeding up, including the opening of psy gifts and it's freaking people out.

Your gifts are unique and special to you in the way you obtain, understand and transmit information. Your belief that these abilities and yourself is part of an old belief system that is slowly disappearing. We all are multidimensional beings, possessing all those otherworldly abilities. When we come into this earth, we come into a world that is playing by 3 dimensional rules - "if I can't see, hear, smell, touch or taste it, it doesn't exist". Babies still possess those other abilities. The world is a big undifferentiated mass of energy. People notice that babies will start looking off and stare at nothing or start laughing when no one is around. For them, they still see the energy fields, the angels, etc. What happens is that parents start to teach their children to differentiate - this is mom, this is dad, that's the dog, eat the vegetables, don't eat the crayons, etc.

Little by little, many of us lose those abilities as we focus on what is only 3 dimensional, don't focus on the lights around mom, just focus on mom. It's like our vision becomes more narrow and trained to only focus on certain things. This is also true of the other clairs. People who claim to be born psychic are just those, who were fortunate enough to be able to focus their attention on 3D while still keeping the other abilities, this is especially true for children born into families that are psychic and encourage it.

So, your gifts are what you came in with and now they are just popping open. We are moving into a time that is becoming more multidimensional (5D) and so those gifts which we consider unusual will be part of the norm. There's lots of books and info on the internet to help cultivate your gifts. The main advice is to practice grounding and to practice some meditation

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/30/15 10:09:00AM
437 posts

What do I do?


Empath

It sounds like you're just not ready, yet. It's like your hesitancy met her hesitancy.

I don't think what she said was arrogant or that she wasn't an empath; she was stating her belief. There are many in the metaphysical community that believe that all of us have the ability to be empaths and to be psychic depending on what we choose and, to some extent, how we are "wired". Some have their abilities set on "high" and others are on "low".

People want different things in these groups; some want to work on their abilities and others just want some type of community. So, there will be different expectations. Also, people have very different beliefs, not just in the one you mentioned above but in empath vs. psychic. I'm only mentioning this because you used the word "psychic". Many in the EC make a clear distinction between the two; other groups do not. All I'm saying is that you will encounter people with very different points of view.

They always say "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear" so, I think when you really feel ready, you will meet others and make friends. You're just dipping your toes in the water right now.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/26/15 07:58:09PM
437 posts

Setting Boundaries


Empath

Every relationship is different and healing can be for the healer as well. Family or long term relationships seem to go through a layered effect, it's like a subtle change in the nature of the relationship and it's less dramatic than the ones you describe.

I've had a long history of people showing up in my life for awhile and then just disappearing. i really hate that but as I started to understand the effects of my energy, then it started to make sense. I've also experienced it as a way of getting me to move on.

I agree with your theory about codependent people, not only does society reward that behavior but when one tries to make a dent, the person trying to help is often perceived as being mean or not understanding.

It sounds like this friend doesn't have boundaries or just relieved to find someone who can help her. I think it's a good idea that you're setting ground rules, now.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/26/15 02:29:56PM
437 posts

Setting Boundaries


Empath

I think there are a couple of issues here. Empaths are often healers. We talk about healing in the sense of "directing energy" or "sending energy" but without even doing that, without being aware of it - we are healing those around us just by our energy. Added to this, empaths by nature tend to be chameleons, not only blending in but mirroring back. What occurs is the other person creates a projection of you. They don't necessarily see you but a projection of what they need at the time. This is why people will spend hours talking to you, they get lost in that reflection. And the projection is needed to bring the healer and the person into contact, to allow for the healing to take place.

When we talk about Reiki, there is that point where the healer knows that the body doesn't want anymore energy; the flow of energy comes to an end. The body can only take so much healing. So, how would a healer know when the healing is completed for a person on the emotional or mental level? If this is a paid client, the two of you discuss the issues and see if things are resolved. But what do you do when there is an unspoken healing, when people are in your sphere to be healed but not recognizing it - how do you know when it's over?

When people get into arguments or start to withdraw, there is always a "reason" but on an energy level; it's just time to end that healing. The healer may start to feel uncomfortable and assert themselves or say things that are not in keeping with the other person's projection of them. Once there is a crack in the projected image - it's over. The other person may feel betrayed or hurt; but what's really going on is that the healing is over. Or at least, with that particular healer. This is particularly true with co-dependents as they will latch on to someone else.

I should also point out that it's not just non-empaths who create projections; empaths are very good at it, too.

I wish I had a way to resolve your issue but I deal with this on a daily basis. I particularly dislike when I innocently say something and I hit a landmine. I know that for the other person, the anger is needed for whatever they are dealing with, but seriously, it hurts. But I have to see it from the position that this is helping that person. The co-dependents are particularly tricky to deal with.

My philosophy is that we are here to help one another but not to enable. We want everyone to step into their own power and see how great they really are. We all shatter and break and we all need help. I listen to others, I support them and I know how hard it is to get through the tough times. But then there's that point where you've heard the story too many times and you know they wouldn't move forward. I have a friend who is a powerful healer. However, she says that she can help anyone who is ready to heal but if they don't want to heal - there is nothing she can do.

In my opinion, on one level you are acting from the position of needing your own space - and that is perfectly reasonable. But on another level, as a healer, you are cutting ties because while you gave healing, the other person wanted to stay stuck and now, you are letting them go with the hope that they will turn things around. Bless them and send them on their way with the hope that they will figure it out. As a healer, you've done your part and you can let go. And while I know it's hard, you really shouldn't feel guilty about this.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/26/15 09:20:52AM
437 posts



There are so many causes of these headaches and it really is an individual thing, so what works for one person, may not help another. I've had headaches all my life, sometimes, tension, stress, food but when my third eye opened, that's when the migraines started. Basically, it's just too much energy up in the head area. I have a couple of techniques that usually work for me, although,I don't know if this will help, as you mentioned that your whole head pulsates, my migraines are just smack in the middle of my forehead.

1.) This is more for tension headaches but I'm including the link to donna eden's video as it can help relief some pressure. Although we feel most of the pain in the head, we tend to tense our neck and shoulders so this will help with that. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Es-JRU2qf7A

2.) I remember reading about the original purpose of botox which was for migraines - basically freezing the muscles in the forehead. I figured I would experiment with topical treatments that have a freeze like effect. There's a product called Bio freeze, available from chiropractors and massage therapists that can help. But one product that's easy to get is peppermint oil. You don't use much as it's very effective and you don't want to smell like a candy cane. Place a little on your forehead. You can just put it on the 3rd eye area or rub it into most of the forehead if the pain is really bad. I've never had a reaction to the oil but some are sensitive to essential oils; you can mix it with a little coconut oil or whatever oil you have available.Again, use very little; at first you may not feel anything but give it a few minutes. Ice of course helps but the oil will sit on your skin for awhile and it's not as painful as ice.

The peppermint is also effective if the headaches cause nausea, you can rub a little of the oil between your nose and upper lip.

3.) This is an odd one but massaging the feet can also help. When we are using our 3rd eye, we often get energy blocked there. I've read suggestions about releasing the energy by visualizing the energy going up and out of the crown chakra. To be honest, it just hasn't worked for me. So, a friend suggested sending the energy towards the feet. You can massage the feet, one by one if you're on a chair, or both if you're sitting on the floor. Of course, it helps in terms of the acupressure points but really, what it does, is it focuses your attention on the area closest to the ground - basically, you're grounding. As energy follows attention, the built up energy should start to move away from the head.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/23/15 01:48:59PM
437 posts



Congratulations Mary Anne


updated by @pat-starbridge: 03/17/17 10:54:49AM
Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/19/15 04:32:23PM
437 posts

Death Force?


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks, I'll take a look.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/19/15 04:31:19PM
437 posts

Paranormal Skills Requested


Psychic and Paranormal

You didn't miss anything - Mr. doggie was just referencing the topic of your doggie

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/19/15 04:28:27PM
437 posts

Death Force?


Psychic and Paranormal

Ecila, I don't think this is being on a "soapbox". I'm glad you brought this topic up because what you have are a number of caregivers sharing their experiences. I would have given anything to have this type of discussion when I was still caring for my mom. Caregiving is often a very lonely calling. I had no one who was experiencing this. The only people were the caregivers I met in the hospital or doctor's office but never this kind of conversation.

In this country, we put so much attention on youth - we are a youth driven culture. We prefer not to think about getting old and, lord knows, people don't like to think about "dying". Everything I learned was from my mom when she was a caregiver and from the Hospice website. In the last days, my mom had been in the hospital and then transferred to a convalescent. I could tell from where they put here that she was on "death watch" which they now call "comfort care". Even in those last few hours, no one would say that she was dying.

The sort of discussion that you have started is much needed.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/19/15 04:02:49PM
437 posts

Death Force?


Psychic and Paranormal

Don't mean to intrude but if you would like to post something about Dzochgen meditation and also on Dion Fortune's psychic self defense - I would certainly be interested. I don't think I've heard of Dzochgen and I keep running across Dion Fortune but, again, don't know very much.

We always could use some discussions on these subjects. I know both of you have plenty to do and this may not be the time. But if you ever have some time and wish to share, I think they would be interesting topics

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/19/15 03:56:17PM
437 posts

Paranormal Skills Requested


Psychic and Paranormal

Yes, I replied to Mr doggie cheerios but the reply ended up in another area so I deleted and and was going to repost. Hopefully, the prices on the dogfood are cheaper.

Ecila's dog needs to get a job - or take up bank robbing. I don't wish to contribute to thedelinquencyof a canine but, seriously, these are tough times and we all have to help out.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/19/15 03:30:38PM
437 posts

Paranormal Skills Requested


Psychic and Paranormal

I was going to retype it because when I posted it, it didn't go to you and I didn't have your name on it. But yes, I was going to repost.

Any chance, he can get a job?

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/19/15 03:08:55PM
437 posts

Paranormal Skills Requested


Psychic and Paranormal

I would add that I am in a similar position having been laid off for sometime. The only thing that I can say is that we are now moving into a new energy for the year. I always feel that the new year doesn't get started until around Feb or beginning of March. 2014 was a 7 year which is often about the spiritual journey. 2015 is an 8 year and this is where there is tremendous energy to bring the spiritual into the physical, it's a good number for manifesting. It doesn't mean major abundance but it can be about starting to build the foundations.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/18/15 06:43:22PM
437 posts

Death Force?


Psychic and Paranormal

In my mom's case, she believed in God but she felt responsible for the death of her younger sister. It happened when they were both children. It was no one's fault but my mom felt it was her's and no amount of talking could change anything. Occasionally, she would ask a spiritual question but I could see that she would soon shut down. She was caught, she didn't want to stay but was terrified to go.

I knew that the only one who judged her was herself. I felt guilty that I couldn't have done more for her, to ease that emotional pain. I was the only one left but there were members of our family waiting on the otherside to help with the transition. And they did.

Afterwards, I was talking with a friend about how much I wished that my mom hadn't had such a challenging exit. She reminded me that wish was what I wanted, but my mom had her own wishes.

Cherish everyday that you have and know that your Dad is loved on this side and the other. Speaking for myself, there were days when I achieved a personal best and other days that I couldn't do anything right. And yet, it's all okay. No one gave us the handbook for how to do this, we just do the best we can.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/18/15 04:00:51PM
437 posts

Death Force?


Psychic and Paranormal

I can answer that with - YES. It can be massively draining; partially due to the energy cord but it also depends on the issues the dying person is going through. My mom was very fearful of death so it made that transitioning period more draining. Sometimes, I felt like I was being drawn into the grave, myself. I had a lovely friend who was up in years and died two years after my mom. She had lots of health issues and her family took care of her. However, she felt ready to go, in the sense that she had reviewed her life. She had regrets but had come to terms with it, so her transition was more graceful.

There are so many emotions that caregivers go through, not only do we face the inevitable loss of a loved one but we are their support as they face that fear. In the end, what I thought was my burden became my gift. There are many things that happened that are too personal to post here but let's say that in the times of great sadness and despair, there were moments of incredible grace and love.

I wanted to mention about the plants. While I was growing up, there were no issues with the yard or house but I think it was because there was enough energy from other family members to counteract the person who was dying. In my mom's case, both of us knew that I would not stay in the home so both of us were removing our energy from the house. There was also "something" on the property that had nothing to do with my mom's death. It wasn't felt in the house but was in the yard and caused many problems, so I think that was a contributing factor to the plant issue

I know how hard it is to go through this. Please, always feel free to write to me if you need to.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/18/15 02:35:23PM
437 posts

Death Force?


Psychic and Paranormal

An interesting topic. I can only speak from my own experience. I lost all my family except for my mom by the time I was 12. A number of the family had cancer and my mom was the caregiver. There was an odd, oppressive energy in the house.

Eventually, I became my mom's caregiver up until her death, a couple of years ago. I had returned to care for her and it seemed that the house and yard were disintegrating. Of course she had not been able to keep up the home but literally, it was as if things were past repair. For example, I could not plant anything in the yard, new plants died, it was as if the soil was barren. And yet, we still had old trees and bushes existing but not in good health. They seemed hardened, almost petrified.

As to the "death force", I call it being in death's shadow. As I wrote, I can only state what I have experienced as a caregiver. I found that after some time, I noticed that I had a gray cast to my appearance. I've noticed something similar in other caregivers. It's a continual wearing down. But I don't see it as if something one catches like a cold but because there is a cord or attachment to the dying person, the caregiver is also effected. Of course, I'm sure this is completely different for those who are professional caregivers or those taking care of charges that are not dying. I would add, that as we have attachments to material items, that as a person moves into the dying process, that they remove their energy from those items - home, etc so that does have an impact.

It's an odd journey, you walk every step with the person who is dying but you, yourself, are not. And even after the death, that "shadow" seems to remain for awhile. People will say "oh you should rejoin life, or get back into the swing of things" but if you have been in that shadow for several years, it takes time to come out from it. It's like you come right to the door of death and then you have to turn around and go back. It was, for me, a spiritual journey that forever changed me.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/15/15 04:28:29PM
437 posts



I apologize, I thought that as a post this was open to some discussion. However, I guarantee, that in no way did I wish to engage in an argument. We all have our paths and our ways of doing things. I pose the question because I was curious, I'm just not familiar with that approach.

I know what techniques have helped me connect to Source but I don't push an agenda. If that's what you were thinking then obviously I didn't express myself very well. Clearly, you have your own approach. I have no interest or intent on pushing anyone to try something that doesn't feel comfortable.

I reread what I wrote to you and I all I meant was that as you understand the technique of connecting to others that you will be able to connect to Source. That wasn't an insult but a compliment that you have progressed so far and that you have an understanding of how energy works. The statement about energy signature is a theory and I did preface that others would disagree with me.

I do teach people techniques on how to connect with Source. They are not the only methods out there but I help where I can. I do not offer specific techniques or tips on post because usually people have questions along the way, so it becomes more of a conversation that doesn't work so well with posts so my work is done off-post.

I'm sorry to have troubled you, as you have stated that you are in the mood for this. I will not bother you in the future on this topic

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/15/15 01:53:53PM
437 posts



If you figured out how to bathe in their energy than connecting to source isn't any more challenging. The thing about connecting to source and using your energy - is that it is your energy which (for me) feels more powerful and authentic. I know that there are those who will disagree with me but each of us has our own unique energy signature. That being stated, using another's energy may not be as compatible as our own. It's okay occasionally but no in the long term.

Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/15/15 01:09:32PM
437 posts



A person can appear positive and upbeat but be masking an energy depletion. I guess I would ask you the same question to GenX-em, why do you have to?

There are times when we all feel depleted but all of us have an unlimited source of energy that we can draw from. It's not like being overdrawn at the bank and you need to borrow money.

I would also disagree with your definition of vamps, it's still taking energy.


updated by @pat-starbridge: 05/31/17 10:18:13PM
Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
01/10/15 08:12:34PM
437 posts

What do you all think about religion?


New Age

You're welcome Sarah. Happy to help.

Campbell is extremely helpful in obtaining an overview of religions and beliefs. Btw, I don't think you will find a written quote of the software (if you do, let me know). I think it came from one of his interviews - probably with Bill Moyers.

I should point out that my journey from leaving the Church to where I finally became comfortable with my belief system didn't happen overnight. While in college, I studied comparative religions but didn't feel drawn to any one of them.

There were times when I read lots of spiritual books and there were long periods where I just didn't focus on it but got on with my life - trusting that one day, I might have the answers. For whatever reasons, this is part of your journey. We get ourselves lost so we can find ourselves. It may also be a loss of identity for you. A large portion of our identity is tied to our beliefs which is why it often feels so painful to go through what you are dealing with. Just trust that this will all unfold and when you eventually look back at this time, you will see that everything lead you to exactly where you need to be.

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01/10/15 04:56:58PM
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What do you all think about religion?


New Age

I always like Joseph Campbell's comparison of religion to computer software. Some people rely only on one type of software, some can use more than one program, and some can write their own. Mythology and religion have been a necessary part of civilizations as it basically offers some type of explanation for our world and why we are here. Beliefs are created and some type of system is set in place where there is a religious body that sets rules and regulations. As all religion is man made, a religion can have a high vibration as it does good for the community and is loving to all. However, you generally don't see that happening. Most established religions exist to maintain their own power. Like anything else that's man made, it has the capacity for higher vibration. Think of music, literature, art; some works are capable of raising a person's vibration, others are neutral and some lower the vibration.

I was raised Catholic but my family wasn't strict. I attended Catholic school until I graduated high school. But even there, the nuns that taught were more liberal. This was the seventies and the Church was still focused on things like poverty and social justice. When I was 18, I gave up the Church, I still went through the motions as I was still in Catholic school but I no longer believed. Part of this was the strong emphasis that Catholic education placed on logic and reason. We were always told to think for ourselves. And that was the problem. On the one hand we were told to follow the teachings of the Church, and on the other hand, we were told to think for ourselves. This was especially true for me with regards to the Church's view of women and reproductive rights.

I was not the only one who could not reconcile my beliefs with those of the Church. As I said, most of the nuns were very liberal (they didn't even wear habits) but we had a couple of nuns who were less liberal. During my senior year, one of these nuns stated in class that if someone didn't believe in God, they wouldn't go to heaven. Well, it was like a bomb had dropped in the class. This was a Catholic girls prep school and we were a well-mannered group but suddenly you had students that had never opened their mouth to express an opinion, on their feet challenging the teacher. That statement had struck a chord and we all felt it. It was wrong. Many Catholics of my age group left the Church and in large part, I believe it was because of our education - we did what we were told and started thinking for ourselves.

The other reason why I left is for years, the Church's teachings could never explain things that deeply troubled me. Our family suffered many deaths, and I didn't understand why. I was so sick of the priest saying "we can never understand the will of God". There were moments I just wanted to stand up during the mass and say "Well, could we do a damn sight better?"

I got into metaphysics in my thirties and have never looked back. Finally, I found some explanation to my questions and the learning is never ending. Just when I think I've figured everything out, something new comes along and my consciousness expands even further. Like the software comparison, there are people who are terrified to think for themselves. They need to rely on a specific program of guidelines. As humans, we are slowly evolving from that. We all have a direct communication with the Creator - we don't really need a middleman.

Even though I am no longer a practicing Catholic, I have deep respect for it. It was part of my life, it gave me a foundation on which I could either build from or reject. On the occasions when I have attended a service, I feel more like a visitor who is revisiting an old destination or like visiting a childhood home. You no longer live there but you still can have good memories of the place. I still love the mystery of the rituals, the music, the great art that the Church sponsored. I can visit it but not be a part of it - it's a memory of another lifetime and as it made me who I am today, I can respect it. I don't agree with it and am more than well aware of the abuse of power that existed and still does. But it is a man made institution so it has its dark side but it's also capable of great good. It's neither good nor bad and I accept it for what it is.

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01/10/15 04:11:11PM
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Chiron: The Wounded Healer


Empath

I think if you plan to publish this blog on other sites, it might be helpful. The thing is you have a strong argument but it was weakened by the first quote from the author. She isn't the first person I've read who has altered that myth so it's floating out there. The Carl Jung quote is stronger and also, it's an idea that's far more recognized. Also, you could always just keep that first quote by stating that "here's a more recent interpretation of the myth - or one author's viewpoint.

I do think that you have a topic that is one that needs to be put out there. The story of Chiron is still important to the discussion. For Chiron, as the wounded healer could not heal himself. This is something that energy healers deal with, I include myself here. I can help others but there are many things that I can't heal in myself. I also like Chiron because he comes across as such a sympathetic character and almost Chirst-like. One version of his story states that when he chose to become mortal and die, he took the place of Prometheus to save him and thus, gave his own death, meaning.

Anyway, the whole topic of the purpose of suffering and is there a reason for it is an excellent topic and certainly worth further exploration.

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01/10/15 10:14:40AM
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Chiron: The Wounded Healer


Empath

Sorry, the concept of knowingly using inaccurate info as the basis of a discussion, is foreign to me - but that's my reality.

I agree that people rely on others for help without doing their own research. In this day of internet and with so many books and online articles, it doesn't make sense; why not take the initiative and spend some time learning to assist one's emotional and spiritual growth.

I wasn't sure if you were joking in your last sentence. After reading your reply, I checked and found your post of December (I take it, that is the one you are referring to.) It's a very impressive list and an excellent resource for others. From the people that I regularly chat with on this site, I would say that they are avid readers of such material and are always looking for new material. Usually, book suggestions just come up naturally in the course of various posts.

As you are aware, sometimes posts just don't receive attention, there is an odd ebb and flow to discussions and some things get missed. It's not a comment on the material of the post, nor on the members, it just happens. Also, your post was during the holidays and the EC has been very quiet. Many regulars haven't been contributing for several weeks. I suspect that this is both due to the holidays but also many are more reflective and less willing to join in. As we go through these intense transitions on the planet, it does effect people in many ways.

Speaking for myself, I had a very large collection of books. I think I spent most of my life surrounded by books. In addition to my other interests, my library of spiritual and metaphysical subjects was broad and this was pre e-book days. However, I never bothered to make a list until I had to sell and donate most of them as I had to move and couldn't take them with me. So, for me, it's no an issue of radical self reliance - I'm just lazy and don't make lists.

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01/09/15 09:06:02PM
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Chiron: The Wounded Healer


Empath

I understood the concept, the wounded healer type has been around. Just the first quote was way off. Glad you were aware of it.

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01/09/15 03:06:35PM
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No one has called you crazy. Those of us who have been here are familiar with your earlier posts where you did mention being on meds and several psychotic breaks so we are familiar with issues that, you have addressed. There is a significant difference between observation and judgmental. We have simply read your statements and offered advice. We don't judge but are very concerned. I don't deny that you have an entity issue (I mentioned this months ago) but there are medical issues and we can't help you with that.

As Aryi wrote, you keep asking the same questions and we do our best to answer but it's very clear that our advice isn't helping you because if it was, you wouldn't continue asking the same questions. We just don't know what more we can do for you.

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01/09/15 02:17:43PM
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Chiron: The Wounded Healer


Empath

This is just an aside but I had to check the link from the first quote that Chiron becomes a legendary healer because of the wound. In most of the stories of Chiron - he was immortal and was already known as a healer and teacher before he was wounded.

I get what you're saying. The "wounded healer" was coined by Carl Jung when he noticed how many psycho-analysts had similar trauma to those of their patients. I'm not sure how Chiron got into this whole thing but it creates the idea that the wound came before the healer phase, whereas, Chiron was already a healer before the wound.

Some use the term "wounded healer" to refer to healers who can't heal themselves. This happens, where others around the healer will be healed by his/her energy but the healer can't heal him/herself. And this is where the term really applies to Chiron. Even though he was immortal he couldn't deal with the pain so he gave up his immortality, became human so he could die and end the suffering.

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01/06/15 09:18:06PM
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Blocks are not uncommon, imagine pushing a large amount of water through a little garden hose. If you increase the amount of water into the hose, it starts to get tight because too much is trying to move through it. Same thing; your body is use to a certain energy level and as that level increases the body is uncomfortable. This is something new and the body takes time to adjust to a new level of energy. For the hand chakras; an energy worker can help you get those open, even a hand massage will help. Also, you can visualize the chakras in your hands opening up and visualizing the energy moving out. Another way, that someone on this site suggested is go outside and put your hands on the ground. Visualize the hand chakras opening and ask the earth to take the extra energy.

You can already heal - I think the excess energy in the hands are a good indicator. The tingling is simply that your energy has increased and that you are aware of it. It's always been there, like a low "hum". But now the pitch of the "hum" has increased which is why you're aware of it. So, it's not that the tingling is useful or not, it's just an indicator of the energy, in the same way that you can sense your heartbeat or your breath. You're just more aware of it than before.

As to your energy increasing,you can look at it as your energy is vibrating at a higher level or there is more of "you" as spirit coming into the physical body.

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01/06/15 08:29:57PM
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Like I wrote on your other post - yes. Your energy is increasing and you notice it more at night or during meditation as your attention is not distracted by other things. It can be disconcerting when you first become aware of it and sometimes there are odd aches as either there are energy blocks or too much energy going through you. After a while it will become the new normal and you wouldn't be as aware of it. Also, noticing heat coming off the body is very common.


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01/01/15 08:22:32PM
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If someone isn't respectful of your time, than that tells you a lot. When friends email or text me and want to set up a time to talk on the phone, it's simple common courtesy. We all have busy lives.

You actually have a good screening process, if someone doesn't respect your time - they are not worth your time.


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12/30/14 04:37:03PM
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Whether you put the word "friend" in quotes or not - sociopaths are incapable of making friends. The sociopath label is sometimes used on people who are just emotionally closed but are capable of feeling. A true sociopath has no ability to feel, they learn to mimic feelings in order to fit in. They also tend to be charming which is part of their camouflage in order to fit in.

The best way to define a sociopath is - think of a close friend, now think of your toaster, or microwave, or any appliance. If your toaster stopped working and you couldn't repair it, you would get rid of it and replace it. For a sociopath, people are just like toasters. They are something to be used and discarded; they enjoy playing mind games with the person solely for the sociopath's enjoyment. But when they feel a person no longer is of use to them, they discard them without any thought or emotion.

You're trying to be friends with someone who has no ability to become a friend. And it's not something that changes, they can pretend to feel emotion but they don't. This is the way they are wired and there's no way to change them.

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12/30/14 12:55:50PM
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I tend to read feelings as signs but I see you are looking for something specific or more tangible - not related to feeling or thought. Signs are specific to each individual so, there aren't universal signs that work for everyone. Signs are part of the symbolic language of the individual soul and only have meaning to the individual within the context of the situation or question. For example, a flock of geese may have meaning to one person and not to another. A particular song can be a sign for someone and not for another.

You can ask for a specific sign from the Universe but you must be specific about what you want to see or hear. Another way is simply to ask the Universe for signs and then be open to receiving them. For example, it might be hearing the name of a city over and over. Or, a song that keeps popping up with the name of a state or town.

However, it's often best to still focus on how an area feels and then if you really like the place - to ask for a sign as confirmation. Spirit wants us to be more active co-creators in our life, that's why what you feel really is important, it doesn't want to tell you what to do but it's more than happy to give you a confirmation

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12/29/14 03:56:57PM
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I've lived in a number of areas across the country. I'm very aware of the effect of weather on how I feel, so you may want to think about average temperatures. Do you like heat, cold, dry, wet; lots of sun, not so much sun? Do you want 4 seasons or similar weather most of the year? Do you prefer mountains, ocean, lakes, rivers or deserts? Rural, suburbs or city?

Also, do you prefer your topography, flat or vertical. This never occurred to me until my first visit to the Midwest. I grew up near mountains and hills and suddenly all I could see was a continuous flat horizon with a lone cow in the distance. I stayed in the Midwest for a few years but opted for an urban environment - no mountains but the tall buildings helped with my vertical obsession.

When you settle on a general area and then gradually narrow your search down to cities; who are members of your tribe? Conservative, liberal, progressive, traditional, etc. This is hard to figure out without living in an area but one thing I learned was to google the name of the city I was looking at and "stores" or "shopping". Of course, if you're focused on large cities, this isn't important but when thinking about small towns or cities, it can help tell you about the region. You can learn alot from the types of stores in an area. Also, think about the sort of subjects you're interested in and check out "Meetup" to see if there are like minded people in that area. You can also google the name of a city and "reviews". People review cities and sometimes there are even forums so you can read about what others have to say. On Youtube, you can type in the city and you will often get some videos - sometimes it's chamber of commerce stuff but people often post video from their trips.

After your brain as done the research then you need to feel your way into this. Your body is a good indicator to let you know if you're in the right area. Do you feel tense, excited, calm, depressed? And really, the only way to know, is to either get in the car or take a plane and spend time in the areas. We can do lots of research but a physical environment has to be felt.

The other thing is not to put pressure on yourself. Once you find a place, just say that you will give it a chance and see how it feels and if it's not right, you can always move on. You may be in the right region but often it takes time to figure the city you want to stay in.


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12/25/14 10:16:33AM
437 posts

My Own Little Christmas Miracle :)


Empath

Hey Emmy, Merry Christmas to you. Love your sweet story.

I don't post to many discussions so I'm not sure if you can set the time when things are put on the site, I assume that you can't. So assuming that you can't and just posted when you were ready - did you notice the TIME that you posted this was 11:11.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/22/14 07:00:37PM
437 posts

Reading minds versus messages from the other side...


Empath

You can. It's like tuning in to different radio stations. There are different frequencies - those who have passed, those who haven't crossed over, angels, Ets, and lots more. There are many realities out there and we can tap into them. Some people are just drawn to certain stations and not to others. You always have the choice and you always have the capability. It's more of what you are drawn to. However, as LW mentioned, when you're speaking with a person and there is a strong desire on the part of the deceased to send a message - they will do their best to get your attention. It doesn't mean that you're always going to work with the deceased, but it can happen that they will come through if they are trying to communicate with a loved one.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/22/14 08:45:01AM
437 posts

Anyone else feeling jumbly?


Empath

Yep, mine started a couple of weeks ago - violent headaches, nausea and excessive nervousness which is also showing up on my skin which itches for no reason. No amount of grounding will help, and forget trying to meditate. I also started misplacing things - my cell phone is still missing. I just feel like my reality has broken apart (again) and nothing is calming me down.

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12/20/14 12:40:36PM
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Sorry, I didn't see this reply till now. I love your comment because you're speaking like a natural intuitive - you just know how to do it.

Readings tend to be symbolic in nature, you see an image, hear words, feel an emotion but they are often symbols (sometimes literal, but usually symbolic). Just like in the tarot, the cards don't literally mean what is depicted but represent something else. So, I think the rose was his personal preference.

Also, some people have such a fear of reading others that teachers develop certain techniques to get them to overcome their fear. If you sat a beginner in front of a client and said "read them" they freeze up or they just block. So, you have to create games in order for the intuitive side to come out "imagine this person as a flower..." When people believe that they are "just using their imagination" they tend to be far more intuitive - because they relax and the imagination acts as a conduit for the information.

Even though clairvoyants should just be able to see what they need to see, that initial fear of blocking is often with them for a long time. If you attend any psychic fairs, you will see readers using different techniques. Tarot cards, oracle cards, pendulum, tea leaves; these are just devices to relax the reader and move them into "reader mode." However, some readers become too dependent on the technique and tend to be literal "this tarot card means this and only this..." An experienced reader, will initially start with the technique but you can often sense that they are moving directly into intuitive mode and letting Spirit convey the message.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/18/14 12:26:52PM
437 posts

Empathy and Psychic Ethics


Healers

It was a lovely invite but we would have to meet at a virtual cafe.

I don't know how much knowledge but more like experience. I have had too many experiences where I have given information freely and the person doesn't hear it. That sounds strange but they hear words but nothing registers; sometime later they might even say "why didn't you tell me?" It's like they never heard the message, I also have emails that often go astray. I got to the point that I had to stop taking it personally and recognize that Spirit was at work and this wasn't their time for the information.

Because of my experience, I tend to hold to the "don't offer unless asked policy." However, that's my path and as I was thinking about the "soul call", Spirit offered some advice that might help. You can request that you have a filter on your communication. If you really feel called to speak with someone that you can set the intention that if the information is meant to be heard at present, it will and if it's something they are not ready for; they wouldn't hear it or wouldn't get it or they will forget it in a second. This sounds weird but I've seen this so many times where the message got "lost in translation". It's like a wall of air is created between you and the other person. That way, if you set that intention, you wouldn't have to worry about whether it's appropriate or not.

Pat-Starbridge
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12/17/14 11:50:09AM
437 posts

Women's cycles and past lives


New Age

It certainly can be. We bring in many unresolved issues with us in order to clear them. It can be in the family line but also symptomatic of what is occurring throughout the world.

If you want to discuss this further and in private, please feel free to send me a private email.

 
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