any other empaths in their twenties?
People bring up good points about partying and money issues. I like to go out with friends but I really don't like some of the stigma that goes with it. When I'm out with my girls, I'm not looking for some guy to come hit on me. When they do and I reject them, there's always so much anger and embarrassment and entitlement that's given off. It can really ruin my evening if I pay it too much attention. I'm sorry, but I'm not here for entertainment, I'm a person trying to have fun like everyone else, and you're not entitled to a dance with me! And then there's always the issue of alcohol. I do enjoy an occasional drink, but I've never understood getting "wasted". That's not to say I've never done it, just that I don't think it's fun and I don't do it often. When I'm out with people who are overintoxicated, the emotions can be a bit much. Extreme ups and extreme downs.And don't even get me started on money!
I wish we still grew our own food and made our own clothes and furniture. Or at least traded skills/goods for stuff. I lose so much sleep trying to balance school with work, just to make enough money to pay my rent and electric and hopefully have some left over for food. In our twenties, I think money is a struggle because we have adult responsibilities (rent, untilities, gas, groceries), but we don't really have adult jobs yet. We're either still in school or trying to work our way up at our current jobs. It's a weird place to be.But for me, I have a feeling this will end up being my favorite time of my life. The struggle is all too real, but I've learned how to live without. If I don't have gas I CAN walk three miles to work and be ok. If I have to live off of ramen noodles and crackers for a week or two, I can do it! I'm free to do what I want. I have no obligations to tie me down. I can live completely for myself and it's ok. I'm discovering how much I really need, and establishing my priorities and values along the way. I've been to hell and back, lived without water at times, without electric, didn't know where my next meal would come from, beaten an eating disorder, got out of a bad relationship, been officially evicted from a house, quit a job without having another lined up. AND STILL HERE I AM! I've made it. <3 Maybe I wasn't the most responsible at times and I suffered consequences for my mistakes, but I'm learning what works for me.
And I think that's what our twenties are for.