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Emmy Long
@emmy-long
11/04/16 09:36:41PM
484 posts

Empaths and Boundaries


Empath

Perspective played a big role into being able to create boundaries. Once I learned how to view MY problems as different from OTHERS' problems, things got easier. 

I had to tell myself (and then internally enforce) that my feelings were mine to deal with. And others' feelings were mine to try to understand as I chose, but never to take on. 

You don't have to choose between listening to somebody and being their for them emotionally, and being cold to them. You can listen and let somebody know you understand and care, without taking on the burden of their emotions. 

What worked for me was opening myself up to feeling what they felt on a level that let me understand, but not being so open that I allowed myself to be so consumed by their pain. 

This took a lot of meditation and counseling. I learned how to feel what they felt, but a THEIR emotions, not my own. And then I educated myself on how to talk through a crisis scenario with a person to help them deal with THEIR OWN emotions, and then deal with my own emotions seperately. 

Emmy Long
@emmy-long
11/04/16 09:18:59PM
484 posts

Has empathy ever made you feel guilty?


Empath

Firstly, it's so nice to come back to the community and to see the new site. I hope I can reconnect with a lot of old friends as well as find new ones.

So my question is, have your empathic intuitions ever made you feel guilty for empathizing with a person who, in some way, doesn't "deserve" forgiveness?

I've made a personal choice for myself, and my life, to look past and forgive those who have hurt me at any cost that isn't at my own happiness and well being. But lately I've found this forgiveness extending to those who I have no personal connections to. Or to those who others may see as "not worthy of forgiveness" and it's causing a great deal of stress and guilt for me.

For some perspective, I just started a new job at a local domestic violence shelter. I love the work and the reward makes it all worth it. But I've found myself empathizing with the abusers just as often as I do with the victims. I'll clarify that I don't condone violence in anyway. I do feel the abusers' emotions though, and it's hard for me to understand my empathy of those emotions, with my condoning of the violence.

I, of course, never and can't, act on these feelings, because my job and duty is to the victims I care for in the shelter. So I always take their side, and my intentions are always for the victims' benefit. It just leaves me torn inside when I tell these people their abuser is toxic to them, while I also have to listen to the abusers tell me how much remorse they feel.

Many of the abusers are sincerely sorry that they did what they did. That doesn't make it ok and it doesn't make it safe for the victim to return. They will almost always abuse again. It just makes me feel guilty.

Does anyone else ever experience this kind of internal conflict?
updated by @emmy-long: 03/11/17 07:42:22PM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/11/16 07:49:54PM
484 posts

9 day


Empath

That's interesting. My number is 731. I always seem to look at the clock at that time, it pops up constantly throughout my day to day life, and I was born July 31 or 7/31. I looked into numerology a bit to learn more about it and most of what it said was spot on. Maybe look into it and see if your numbers match up.I've since started being more mindful of what's happening around me, what I'm doing, what I'm thinking etc whenever this number pops up in my life.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/09/16 11:19:32PM
484 posts

Abortion and Empaths


Empath

Man, I've thought about this topic so many times, and you'd think as an empath I'd be able to form an opinion but I still can't. I feel the fear that compels women to get abortions. And I feel the love that stops others. And I dot feel any particular pull towards one nor the other. And I feel that makes me "wishy washy". I usually have a firm viewpoint to stand on. But this one is hard.I'd like to think if I were put in the position now, is choose adoption not abortion, but heck, I really don't know cuz I haven't been there. And what an awful decision to make and then regret.I feel for all parties on all sides, and maybe that's my "empath curse". I just hope I'm never there. :/
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/09/16 11:12:31PM
484 posts



Problems and "vampires" will be there in any city. I've relocated many times and what I've learned, is that it's what you surround yourself with, that matters. I bought plants, started a fairy garden with succulents and a bonsai tree, bought bedding and furnishings that reflect nature, and that has grounded me. Wherever you go, make your home with what makes you comfy. I don't have much money, but I was still able to save up and redo my room for around $300 thanks to amazon and other similar sites. Not easy. But doable.
updated by @emmy-long: 01/25/17 06:45:16AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/09/16 10:57:55PM
484 posts

How can I deal with being ugly and social anxiety


Empath

Narcissists will ALWAYS try to make you feel ugly, in order to make themselves feel more beautiful. Whether you are less attractive than them or not. Secondly, and this isn't just a cliche, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Truly. Some people will like curves. Some will like bones. Some will like dark skin. Some light. Some want designer labels and up to date trends. Some want originality and comfort.No one trend is better than the other. They're just different and that's ok. Try to remember that there may be one specific body type you find more attractive. That doesn't make you shallow. We all have preferences. If we were attracted physically to every person who liked us, it would make dating very complicated.I do understand waiting for the person who finds you attractive can seem horrible if you don't think it's happening soon enough. Just don't write yourself off as "ugly".We're all different but not ugly. Ugly is the person who doesn't feel not care. And none of us here are that.I think a lot of times we hide our beauty behind insecurities because we're afraid if we showed all that we cared for then we'd come off as "ugly and sad".But that's not true. The human body in itself is beautiful, and to show a kind heart, only magnifies that. Show all the love you can. Be kind. Make conversation. Own your body size. Meditate on the fact that, DAMN, your eyes/hair/skin/clothes/makeup (whatever you do to feel beautiful) really IS BEAUTIFUL. Because it is. And know that whatever that is, is only second to the beauty of your heart.It may seem cheesy, but as empaths, we're given the gift of seeing the heart in it's at beautiful form in others. And, while it may be a rare occurrence, we deserve to fall in love with the same depth of beauty. Don't wrote yourself off as "ugly" because you don't feel as "thin/curvy/tan/pale/hip/vintage/retro/unique/young/old etc". You are beautiful, I promise (and I haven't seen you physically) as the next person, but you have to believe it first.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
07/06/16 11:15:14AM
484 posts

Something about a ghost in a black fence with a knife


Psychic and Paranormal

Thank you so much for replying so quickly. I tried to help with the best I had to offer, I told her we'd hang up her cross and and say a prayer for courage, and that any time she felt afraid, to close her eyes right and imagine she were a giant lightbulb. And that bad people are afraid of the dark and that if she were a light, she'd be ok. Which is what's honestly what has always helped me. I don't want to know the bad that happens (honestly it scares me too much to see) so when I feel it I "make a lightbulb to protect me." I'd loe to learn how to expand 'the lightbulb' for others, if I let fort client. Prayer would deinitely be the most effective way to do that, but I never who to pray to precisely. So I thank you for giving us direction.I have to do "night rounds" this month, which are intended to make sure the staff working aren't sleeping and are doing their job. But I plan on going in tomorrow night to pray with ND (I'll send you her name privately) and with our third shiftstaff if he'll participate.Shes a beautiful person, and when she tells me it's "not safe" to sleep in her bed, in her home, when it's my job to make her home safe; I take personal offense. Especially because I know so many people are willig to dismiss her and up her psychotropic meds.Thank you.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
07/06/16 09:08:36AM
484 posts

Something about a ghost in a black fence with a knife


Psychic and Paranormal

Hello all, its been awhile since I've shared. I'll just get right down to the point. I work in a group home for adults with disabilities and one of my patients has been up for 3 days straight. She says she can't sleep because "it's not safe". When I ask her why, her answer is a little broken, she has Down's syndrome and doesn't always speak in full sentences, and when she does, it's not always clear. She told me there's a "ghost witch" at her window, and sometimes under her bed, with a knife that tells her to "come to the grave." This lady won't even get up at night to take her medications, so for her to get up and stay up for 3 hours means she is really terrified. I've tried everything I could to ease her fears, but she's not letting up. So finally today I started asking questions to get more details. She told me the ghost sits on a black fence in the graveyard with a key. She told me she had a dream about the ghost and that her mother (deceased) was in the dream too as an angel. She kept telling me it wasnt safe to go to sleep, and stayed up until 3:30am, which is when she said it was safe to sleep.I'll admit sometimes my clients do exhibit attention seeking behaviors, but I've worked with them all long enough now to realize when they're looking for attention and when something is real. She is truly terrified. I have always known there's a lot of paranormal stuff goin on in the house they live in, and at times I have felt uneasy, but I've always "thrown some light" and immediately felt ok.Any suggestions on what she might be experiencing, how I can help her, or how to get it to go away, would be so appreciated.
updated by @emmy-long: 07/04/17 06:24:31AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
03/22/16 08:38:36PM
484 posts

The last two days have been so strange


Psychic and Paranormal

Well that's a definite possibility. It is a used car (I'll attach a picture in case that helps anyone with anything). It's a 2013 but has less than 30,000 miles and the guy who sold it to me said it was a trade in from a woman who had a third child and needed an SUV. I guess the story makes sense, but it's still fairly low in mileage to trade in, in my opinion. But I suppose if it were someone with more money than I, it could seem reasonable. I'm still waiting to get the title, and when I do, I'll get the previous owner's name and address and will be able to learn more about them then hopefully. I doubt the dealership would tell me if a previous owner had died because some people can be very superstitious about that kind of thing.Thank you for giving me something to go off of and think about! :) I truly appreciate it and will update you more if I ind anything more out once I get the title.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
03/17/16 08:12:17PM
484 posts

The last two days have been so strange


Psychic and Paranormal

Hello all! I hope you're well. It's been awhile since I've posted because things have seemed so "normal" there wasn't much to share. But then yesterday and today were filled with such strange happenings, I felt I needed to share it all with you and hopefully get some feedback and insight.So yesterday morning, I had to go into work early, and when I started my car, the "trunk open" light was on. I just bought this car less than a month ago and have never opened the trunk. But I got out to check and sure enough it was open. I'm not sure how this happened but I just kind of thought whatever and left for work. I got to work and clocked in and the girl I was relieving clocked out. Then she came back inside and asked me to come outside and look at something with her. When we got outside she pointed up to the sky (it was so early it was still dark) and up in the sky was a "star" that didn't look like the others. It was orange in color and had two tails coming off that formed a triangle shape and it was moving slowly. We watched it for about 10 minutes, and then I went inside to work and kind of forgot about it. Throughout the day, random things like paperwork, keys, my phone, etc kept getting misplaced. I didn't think much of it, I just figured I was tired and that was why my brain was in such a fog. As I was leaving work that night, it was dark again, and I was walking to my car, I thought I saw a white fluffy dog standing in the shadows of my car. I saw it so clearly that I actually stopped for a few seconds because I was worried it might attack. Then my eyes adjusted and I saw there was nothing there. So I got into my car and drove home.Then last night I had some strange dreams. I wish I could remember more of it but all I remember is there were people and creatures and somebody was "the keeper of good" and somebody was "the keeper of bad" and the creatures were important and needed proctected by the keeper of good from the keeper of bad.Then this morning I woke up and had a meeting at work. I woke up in a great mood which is strange considering I'm lacking in sleep severly this week, but I figured it was the coffee. I got to work and my glasses were dirty so I went and grabbed some glass cleaner and then say down at the table to start the meeting. When I looked down to scoot my chair up to the table, there was a penny resting on my leg. I had literally been upright walking 2 seconds before, there was no way the penny should have been there, but it was. I was shocked so I said out loud "how is there a penny on my leg!?" And picked it up to show my coworkers. They had all seen me walking around seconds before too and nobody could explain it. We all kind of laughed and thought "weird" but started the meeting.After the meeting, I was talkin with a coworker and she mentioned the penny thing was strange and I told her I had a weird day yesterday too, but didn't go into details. She then said, "me too, I could have sworn I saw a UFO yesterday morning but I was driving so I couldn't really see." Then she described EXACTLY what my other coworker and I saw. I told her we had both seen it and she couldn't believe it. Then later today, at work I was taking the garbage to the dumpster, and I look up, and there's at least 30 buzzards sitting in a tree (not near the dumpster). I called a coworker out to show her and we were both amazed. I took a picture that I'll attach but it's on my phone so I don't know how good the clarity will be. They were still there when I left.And now I'm home and ready to sleep and see how my dreams go tonight. Despite how weird everything has been, I've been so energized and happy the last two days. I'd love and appreciate feedback or advice or guidance or ANYTHING. I'm convinced now at least some of the coincidences must add up, but I've no clue how. I'm open to anything.
updated by @emmy-long: 07/03/17 07:15:24AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
01/09/16 08:08:11AM
484 posts

What do you do if you know things but no one believes you?


Library of Light

Unfortunately, most people won't understand what you're feeling unless they've felt it. And if they don't understand, how do you help? I really don't know the answer to that despite trying to figure it out for well over a year now. What I've learned though, is sometimes I will do something and it just feels "right". It feels like I helped in some way. I don't know the terminology to describe these "things" I do, but when I do them, it kind of releases some of that built up pressure I feel from the pressing need to "help".I share this with a word of caution though (and these are my PERSONAL beliefs), by "helping" I don't mean forcing or manipulating others emotions in hopes of helping them some way. I think that does more harm than good. I've gotten to the point in my abilities now where sometimes I will feel that something is off, and then I do this thing with source energy to help and make it feel better. Like I said, I don't know the terminology for what it is exactly that I do, so I'm sorry if none of that made sense. I hope you find this community helpful. <3
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
11/13/15 06:13:40PM
484 posts

Dreams of things falling from the sky


Dreams

Well all of what you said makes a lot of sense for what's going on currently in my life, which is a lot different than what was going on when I had that dream. Strange how things like that happen. :) Thank you.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
11/03/15 02:04:46PM
484 posts

Seeing "spider webs"


Psychic and Paranormal

I believe my yearly eye exam is coming up in February so I'll mention it. It was with both eyes but it stopped once I got into town. I do occasionally get optical migraines but this was different.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
11/03/15 08:04:52AM
484 posts

Seeing "spider webs"


Psychic and Paranormal

Thank you, I looked this up and it seems to fit for the most part. A lot of the information said it's easiest to see prana energy when looking into a clear blue sky while relaxed. That definitely fits my mental state at the time as well as my surroundings. And they did appear silvery and glittery, but they didn't look like "bursts" of light but more like strands of silvery glittery light. Can it appear like that?Also, thanks again for answering. I was beginning to work myself into a panic trying to research this without a name to go off of. I felt at peace as I was seeing these things, but once I got home and tried to google things like "spider web spirits" bad results came up. Which then put the idea into my head that I had some kind of spider demon following me around. So this was very helpful as well as a huge relief! :)
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
11/02/15 07:01:03PM
484 posts

Seeing "spider webs"


Psychic and Paranormal

So I call them "spider webs" in the title. I don't actually know what they were. I went home to my parents house this weekend for the annual Halloween party. As I was on the interstate driving back to my place, I kept seeing these things floating around in the air and they kind of looked like spiderwebs and at first that's what I assumed they were. But then after seeing them randomly for an hour straight driving down the road I began to realize they probably weren't. I live in Indiana so for the most part, I was driving past nothing but empty fields and so there was really nothing around for a web to have blown off from. Then I thought maybe they were coming off of the car I was following but I wasn't following the same car the whole time and so what are the chances that all of the cars I was following had spiders webs blowing off of them. Then I realized that if these were "spider webs" blowing around in the wind, they were blowing extremely fast because they were gliding along evenly with my car which was going 75+ miles an hour.I just really don't think they were spider webs at this point. Has anyone ever seen these? Do you know what they could have been? I tried to look it up online but I don't even know what to call them to search for it.
updated by @emmy-long: 07/02/17 11:33:50AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
10/30/15 06:19:52PM
484 posts

sleeping in same bed with partner


Empath

If you love this person, (which I assumed you did since you're sleeping with them, though everyone and circumstance is different and I'm not judging by any means)then tell them their negativity is affecting you. Ideally, they'll want to help you by improving themselves. Be gentle about it, though. No relationship is perfect, and if this is the worst part of yours then you're doing better than most. Just let them know, again GENTLY, that their negativity is affecting you. Let them know how to help you, without telling them to change who they are. A weird/hard thing as an empath. If they make an effort, that's very promising. :)
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
10/14/15 08:45:16PM
484 posts

Dreams of things falling from the sky


Dreams

Recently I've been having dreams where things fall from the sky. Gas tanks. Airplanes. Chocolate coins?? Any ideas of what this could mean?
updated by @emmy-long: 03/05/17 03:33:25AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
10/14/15 08:39:53PM
484 posts

Irrational fear sparked by empathy


Empath

I've said it before, I'll say it a million times again, I LOVE THIS GIFT. But there's no denying that it makes us hyper-aware of emotions. Thats kinda the definition if empathy, right?Well today is the birthday of a dear friend of mine, and eight days from now marks the anniversary of her suicide. It's all bittersweet. I should be younger than her, I was/am younger. But now in reality I'm older than she'll ever be. Such a weird and sad feeling.I'll never forget the day or the phone call when I learned Natalie committed suicide. I had been gone away at college for 2 years and she had stayed behind at home, but I still remembered to call her and wish her a happy birthday.I told her i loved her, then eight days later she killed herself.After I got that call, I had an irrational fear of answering my phone for months. Everytime it rang I let it go to voicemail just to make sure it wasn't someone telling me a person i loved had died.I think as empaths we FEEL MORE than most. Where some people could take that call, deal with it over the course of time, and move on. It took me longer.I felt Natalie's pain, her fear, her guilt, her relief. I felt it all in that phone call. An I never want to feel it again. Has anyone ever experienced somwthinf like this and had it lead to an irrational fear of something silly, like just answering a phone call? As the anniversary approaches, I feel my fear of answering the phone creeping back up. Such a simple thing.
updated by @emmy-long: 01/17/17 10:04:43AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
10/08/15 10:00:41PM
484 posts

I'm back baby! :)


Empath

Isn't it weird how a break from something we love so much, can be a good thing? I think this is where that saying "too much of a good thing, is a bad thing" holds true. :)
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
10/05/15 09:09:28PM
484 posts

I can't stop thinking about him...


Empath

Girl, I get you. I got into a "relationship" with a guy in 7th grade. At least as much of a relationship as you can be in at that age. We dated until my sophomore year of college. I've always been mature for my age. We broke up. I went through the depression. Got a eating disorder. Learned to love myself, beat the eating disorder. Fell in love with the "right guy", I think. I still have a desire to know that the other guy is "ok." He hates me. I don't love him in the way that I want to spend my life with him, I love him in the way that I want him to be HAPPY and OK. He hates me. Nothing I can do about it. After seven years I have an attachment, a cord, with him. Could this be your case?
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
10/05/15 06:44:23PM
484 posts

Weather and Empaths. Anyone ever feel like this?


Empath

I love the rain! :) I also love the sunshine. I get a different kind of rush from each of them. The sunshine makes me happy, kind of like the light from the sun is the Earth giving me a great big hug. And then the rain makes me feel refreshed. I love it when it rains at night in the summer and I can go float on my back in the lake down the road as the rain pours down on me. It makes me feel like the "guck" of the world gets washed away. Both are different feelings but equally good. I think all empaths like nature and maybe it's just a personal presence what kind of weather you like. I personally don't like fall, and it seems like the rest of the world does. Just a preference thing.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/30/15 11:42:54PM
484 posts

I'm back baby! :)


Empath

So happy to be back. Love all of you so much. Can't say enough how much you a mean <3
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/30/15 08:17:28PM
484 posts

It's a little overwhelming...


Empath

I've grown to think it's a struggle AND a blessing. My hope is, that whenever I find a religion that "fits" it will be like that magical moment when the lock and key click. That being said, whenever a new religion sparks my interest, I spend time understanding it and applying it. The closest fit I've found this far is bahi. But I haven't completely committed. It's hard! Sending love and wisdom your way. <3Ps, you can still try prayer AND meditation for guidance. :)
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/30/15 08:12:11PM
484 posts

I'm back baby! :)


Empath

I took a brief hiatus from the site, and really my responsibilities as an empath all together. I love my gift. LOVE it. But it makes me care for the whole world, and I needed to step back and care for myself. All of my problems are still there, but by focusing on ME for a few months, it put them into perspective, and thus let me open my heart again. I think that's what we do "open our hearts" that let's us help others.I still have problems, but I have a good start on solving mine and so can open my heart to feeling others' problems again. Do you guys ever feel like you need to do this? I feel I've gotten to be somewhat of a pro at "filtering" by now. But that only helps if the problems are others' and not your own.Life is good again. Spreading the love.
updated by @emmy-long: 05/16/17 09:52:00AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/28/15 06:07:16PM
484 posts

It's a little overwhelming...


Empath

To put things in thought, try meditation. :) I haven't figured out the whole religion thing and I'm not about to go into it. But I have found through exploring a lot of different religions and beliefs, meditation (or prayer if you identify with a religion that incorporates that) can help sort a lot out. Or even if it doesn't sum up to any kind of answers, it can put your heart at ease. It helps me feel more comfortable about not knowing or understanding everything. I meditate so during my meditations I ask for the higher powers of the universe for guidance and some kind of reassurance that what I'm doing is ok and/or on track for my life. If you pray, then pray for that same guidance and reassurance. Whatever higher power is out there (even if it's just our higher selves), DOES listen and guide. I hope this helps.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/28/15 07:35:45AM
484 posts

kaleidoscope Clear Crystal above my eyes


Empath

When I was in high school I saw a doctor about them and she said she thought they could be triggered by hormones so she put me on birth control to see if it would help. It didn't really help so then she told me to start paying attention to diet, sleep patterns, stress, things like that to see if any of that could be triggering them. Basically we came to the conclusion that caffeine does it, lack of sleep does it, stress does it, and also lights flashing in my eyes trigger it too. I had a special clear film put in my glasses that helps with the light issue, and for the rest of the triggers I just have to pay attention and try to avoid a lot of caffeine, get sleep, and don't stress. Easier said than done. Haha. So I just carry excedrin on me at all times so if I start seeing the spots I can take it right away. I work in the health care field and so stress, little sleep, and of course caffeine come with the territory.Even though you don't get the pain with yours, all of those factors could still be what are triggering the optical migraines for you. I'd try paying attention the next time you get one and trying to remember what was going on before it started that may have caused it. And even though you haven't gotten pain with it yet, it could still happen in the future. If it does, I reccomend excedrin migraine and then get into a cool, dark, quiet room and try to fall asleep and sleep through the worst of the pain.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/27/15 12:53:15PM
484 posts

kaleidoscope Clear Crystal above my eyes


Empath

Yes I get those as well. About once every two months or so. Usually mine are followed by the intense pain. I will see the "crystal" spots and they last about 10-20 minutes and then as soon as they are gone the pain sets in. My doctor told me they are called optical migraines. If I take a pain killer as soon as I see the crystal spots it usually off sets the headaches. My mom gets the spots too but, like you, hers aren't followed by a headache.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
09/25/15 06:33:14PM
484 posts

Good in small doses


Empath

"How did you know that you were meant to be a healer?Because I kept falling in love with broken people.Then why are you alone?Because Im broken too so I am falling in love with myself to get a taste of my own medicine. "That's a quote I've seen several times this week show up in my social media accounts. I think it's fitting for a lot of empaths, and maybe you too? It could be something wrong with you; you come on too strongly, you have one of those overpowering personalities. But most likely, you're attracted to broken people like so many empaths are. Take care of yourself first and foremost. You'll be ok.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/25/15 06:43:31PM
484 posts

what makes you happy?


Empath

My job, my dog, my best friend, my mom and family in general. I get happy when I sit and feel love and other positive emotions from those around me. That's actually probably the thing that makes me MOST happy, feeling others happiness. Maybe that's why I was blessed with the gift of empathy. It seems a bit selfish, but sometimes I think this gift gives even more to me than it does to those I help through it. Most people love SOMETHING/SOMEONE, and the energy they give off when around it, is what makes me happiest. :)
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/14/15 07:06:04PM
484 posts

I made a big boo boo


Healers

I've been in a kind of similar situation. A girl was being very mean to me because of something my boyfriend (at the time) did to her. I did nothing to her but she kept saying mean nasty things to me and so I eventually got so mad I said mean things back. I felt bad as soon as I said them.Unfortunately, we can't unsay words. But we can apologize for them and that's what I did. She called me crazy and bipolar for switching moods so quickly. And she had every right.the things she said to me weren't true, but the things I said to her were. So in the end I was just angry, but she was hurt. I don't think she's ever forgiven me, but because I let her know I really was sorry for hurting her, I was able to forgive myself. And of course I forgive her, people say dumb things when they're angry.What I'm gettin at is, if you said stupid things (and only IF) then apologize and mean it. And then forgive yourself. The other person may never be able to, and that's sad for them. If you ever meet up with them again, be kind and show love. Angry people need love showered upon them, not more anger.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/05/15 09:09:25AM
484 posts



Thanks. Sometime I forget to remind myself this is life. Shit happens (to state it bluntly). I've made my fair shae of mistakes, or happens. You learn. <3
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/05/15 05:03:59AM
484 posts



Man you and me both. Though I have a lot of stuff going on now that clearly explains why. Maybe the moon, I've heard a lot that it's the ascension "upping it's game" once again. Whatever the reason, I just keep reminding myself that times like these happen, and they'll pass when I've learned what I'm supposed to learn from them. That being said, I'm trying my hardest to learn FAST. Sending light your way. <3
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
08/01/15 07:02:24PM
484 posts

Prayers for my little sister


Empath

Thank you. :) Tough decisions are a part of life but with GODs guidance they're that much easier. I thank you for all of your thoughts. GOD will be with her I this I know. She's a beautiful person with much to share be it through adoption or natural birth. She will be the light and the love that needs spread.
Emmy Long
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08/01/15 11:56:37AM
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Yes, I agree with you about not extraditing this man. I do believe as far as he knew he thought he was doing it all legally. They are making an example of him, and using him as a distraction to make themselves look good to at least one group of people (animal activists). That being said, I still feel for poor Cecil. From what I've gathered (could be media hype) he was a special lion who somewhat had grown to trust humans. That's what hits me in the gut. He trusted people and those people murdered him. It's cowardly to kill any lion, but especially this one. That's what gets me most upset. I think Cecil was special.
Emmy Long
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08/01/15 11:47:29AM
484 posts

Prayers for my little sister


Empath

My little sister went to the hospital last night with horrible stomach pains. The doctors best guess was gallbladder stones and they sent her home with pain meds and anti nausea meds and told her to come back if they don't help. She's about to go back because they're not working. I'm asking for prayers and positive energy in hopes that the doctors can find the problem and that it won't be anything major. She has polycystic ovarian syndrome and the whole family is praying she will not have to have her ovaries taken out as she has always wanted to be a mother. Thanks in advance for all of your prayers.
updated by @emmy-long: 04/08/17 12:12:39AM
Emmy Long
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07/31/15 12:53:17PM
484 posts

My Dog


Empath

Also, a good friend told me today that sometimes we have to be specific with GOD in our prayers. Try asking specifically that your friend go peacefully in his sleep.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
07/31/15 12:09:57PM
484 posts

My Dog


Empath

Sending love and prayers. <3
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
07/31/15 12:06:43PM
484 posts



I reacted the same way, almost like I felt poor, majestic Cecil as he died. My father is a butcher and has been my whole life. I was raised to believe "animals are food" but it never stuck. He was never a hunter and holds the belief that if you kill an animal every part of them should be eaten or put to use. This consoles him and allows him to do what he does, but it never worked for me even as a little kid. I can remember there were times when I would have to go with him on emergency trips to the farm (sometimes cows would break hips and have to be put down immediately, things like that)and I can remember hiding behind the seat in his truck, covering my ears, so I wouldn't see or hear the killing.I've always had a soft spot for animals, even when I was a child and had my dad's views forced upon me. He owns his own slaughter house/processing plant today. The animals are usually brought in the day before and even though they are kept in air conditioned pens that meet federal regulations with fresh running water and food at all times, I can't bear to see them.There's something special about animals, and it is heart wrenching when one is killed. If you haven't watched the jimmy kimmel clip about Cecil's killing, I highly reccomend it. Hopefully awareness and something good can come out of this tragedy.
Emmy Long
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07/31/15 11:53:31AM
484 posts

Dream about iguanas, small lizards, and a large snake


Dreams

Here's a weird one for you guys. :) I had a dream last night that I was in my parents house and I saw small lizards, yellow with brown spots, crawling in and out from the baseboards as well as under the carpet. Then I realized there were three or four very large iguanas wandering around the house. My brother has a pet iguana so I went to his room to check on it and in it's cage was a large red snake with black markings. Then I realized one side of the cage was broken and the snake looked at me then crawled out after me. It wasn't going very fast so I didn't have to run, but I did walk away into a different room to warn my sister who was the only other person home. We walked out together to see if we could find where it went and it was sitting in the hallway, and when it saw us it started going towards us. We went into my room and shut the door crawled up on the bed. But the snake squeezed through under the door. I kept trying to throw pillows at it to scare it away but I kept dropping the pillows or they would slip ou of my hands. That is where the dream ends. Does anyone have any idea what it could mean?
updated by @emmy-long: 02/25/17 06:53:03AM
Emmy Long
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06/22/15 05:26:36PM
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Sending love and positivity your way. I've been there and there are a few places that can sometimes help. Our town has a county trustees office that will help with rent and utilities if you fall within a certain income bracket. They won't pay late rent or utilities but they will pay what's owed for the current month and then you come in and volunteer however many hours to pay back what you owe. Also the Salvation Army and some churches will help. If all else fails the electric company can split up what's owed into like 3 payments and as long as you pay those on time they won't shut it off. I know all of this because I've been where you are and I'm still barely staying afloat. It sucks but if you're ok with asking for help when you need it, it becomes a lot easier to catch back up.
updated by @emmy-long: 01/20/17 08:37:53AM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
06/17/15 01:35:41PM
484 posts

befuddled and confused


Empath

I have light and sound sensitivities as well. I will also have these awful thoughts that pop into my head from time to time. They aren't things I actually want to do or would ever do. They come as like a "what if I do this...?" thought. It's like deep down in my brain I want to know what would happen if I tried it, but because i know logically what would happen I know not to do it. They are weird sensations.
Emmy Long
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06/16/15 06:21:37AM
484 posts

In such a funk, would love positive thoughts or tips


Empath

It's a home for people with developmental disabilities. They range in age from like 30-60 but most of them are older. I definitely agree this kind of work is great for the soul. :) I actually really do enjoy spending time with my patients. Thanks for this little reminder. :)
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
06/13/15 10:17:23AM
484 posts

In such a funk, would love positive thoughts or tips


Empath

Thanks everyone for the love and tips :). The night I made this post I went into work and found two adorable baby kittens siting at the front door of the home I work in! :) I took them in for the night and one of the ladies I work with took them to her home to live until they are old enough to go to the local no-kill shelter to find homes (they won't take them until they're old enough to be vaccinated and I can't keep them because my dog will eat them). It was just a little reminder of how everything seems to work out somehow in the end. <3 And I got to play with kittens which is a great way to de-stress. :)
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
06/09/15 06:11:10PM
484 posts

In such a funk, would love positive thoughts or tips


Empath

I've been in such a funk these past few days. I realize it's probably because I have been overworking myself. I work in a group home and we currently have 256 open hours a week that need to be covered so everyone has been working a lot of overtime. It's not like an office job where if the shift is open it sets until you find a person to fill the position, the people that live in the homes NEED us there to care for them. And because I truly do love my patients, I feel compelled to have to pick up shifts to make sure they are properly cared for. So since working less isn't really an option right now, I'd really just appreciate some love and positive thoughts being sent my way until work slows down. Also, any tips on what works for you in situations like this are welcomed. :)
updated by @emmy-long: 10/17/17 06:30:12PM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
06/09/15 06:00:26PM
484 posts

What does it mean to get bad uncomfortable vibes from someone?


Empath

I had this happen to me a few times with professors. It ended up being because they were just mean people. Plain and simple. That may not be the case for you. I tend to get an uncomfortable/anxious feeling everytime I encounter mean people. I don't deal well with bullies and I also don't deal well with confrontation because growing up my dad was very confrontational and a bully. Now anytime I'm around somebody with similar energy, I get all panicked thinking about having to deal with them. I've gotten better but sometimes I still have trouble looking these people in their eyes and I try to just stay out of their way. Maybe this professor had an energy similar to somebody from your past who you had a bad relationship with and you remembered it.
Emmy Long
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06/07/15 12:20:18PM
484 posts

Should i tell her?


Empath

Your mom seems fairly open to the idea of these gifts it seems because of how she reacted to the first news you gave her. Based on that, I would think telling her the rest would probably be ok. Also a side note, I've always had an abnormally high pain tolerance as well. Growing up, my mom always took me directly to the doctors if I complained of pain because she knew if I was complaining then it must really hurt. Also, I went almost 36 hours with an inflamed appendix before the doctors realized what it was because apparently the pain level I was reporting was way lower than what people typically report with appendicitis (luckily my mom kept insisting on tests or it may have never been caught!). My family doctor actually accused me of lying about the pain! Haha. Oh well. I'm not sure if a high pain tolerance is an empath thing or not but I definitely can relate.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
06/07/15 12:09:04PM
484 posts

Where are we all from?


Empath

I live near Indianapolis, Indiana.
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
06/05/15 07:24:59AM
484 posts



Congrats!
updated by @emmy-long: 03/21/17 10:12:28PM
Emmy Long
@emmy-long
06/03/15 07:21:40AM
484 posts



Yeah I picked up angry and some kind of mental illness like others did. And then I thought maybe she was angry BECAUSE people exaggerated or used her mental illness against her. Maybe she was making strides where someone didn't want her to. I kept thinking of movies where people's families send them off to insane asylums even though they aren't crazy. I'm usually hit or miss on these things.
Emmy Long
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06/03/15 06:58:09AM
484 posts



It's just my opinion but I don't think it's the right thing to do. Would you like it done to you? It's tempting for sure when you know you can do it, but it doesn't help anyone in the end. And the karmic consequences can be catastrophic.
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