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Sarah
@sarah
04/25/16 04:26:22PM
386 posts

Is dating a non empath a recipe for disaster?


Empath

My husband isn't an empath or a sensitive or even spiritual and I'm a Reiki master and intuitive energy healer empath, so the whole nine yards. It was hard for him at first, and I still keep some of that stuff back from him, but he got used to it when he saw how good it was for me. He may not like crystals and all that, but he does like how much happier I am since I started opening up my empath gifts so he supports me in it.

Sarah
@sarah
04/25/16 04:20:07PM
386 posts



Sounds like you had a visit from a bad spirit. Do not let your shields down!


updated by @sarah: 09/11/17 12:54:06PM
Sarah
@sarah
04/25/16 04:18:10PM
386 posts

Is It Just Me Who Attracts Narcissists/ Sociopaths?


Empath

I am beginning to wonder if things other than people can have or resonate narcissist energy or vibration. I think my job has it. I can't even put my finger on why I am not happy there because there are a lot of good things about it, but every work day, I feel like I'm being swallowed up by a narcissist when it comes to my job. It has swallowed up my health and my energy and my desire to do the things I want to do with my life. Fortunately, it's a temporary job and I only have it until the end of June, but seriously, the energy of the job feels like it does when I'm around a narcissist. Anyone else have this before?

Sarah
@sarah
04/18/16 08:43:44PM
386 posts

Is It Just Me Who Attracts Narcissists/ Sociopaths?


Empath

Hell yes. I am a narcissist magnet. They can spot me miles away. I'm still not great at setting boundaries with them yet, mostly with my dad and other family members who are narcissists ,because I'm not sure what to do when it's family and they pretend to care about you, even when you know they don't. I know that sounds silly, like I should be able to just drop them and move on, but I don't really know how to do that. My narcissist dad is probably an energy worker, too, but for the dark instead of the light. To most everyone else, he is funny and fun and nice and a religious leader, but to me, he is a different person entirely, and I have a hard time being around him at all without getting sick or being off for weeks after because he is just so dark and can send such dark energy to me to try and keep me from seeing what he's doing, or to punish me for being me and not feeding him. It's all so weird.

I think it would be easier to have a father that hit me, so at least I could pin point to someone what he is doing, rather than trying to explain energy abuse and narcissism/empath dynamic.

I tend to draw narcissistic people into my life all the time. I'm better at spotting them now and cutting them off before they cause too much damage, but it might always be a bit of a weak spot with me.

Thank you for that article!

Sarah
@sarah
04/18/16 08:34:17PM
386 posts



I think there is no country that is all good or all bad. I do get frustrated living here in the U.S. Sometimes, though--probably more than just sometimes. It feels like our country is in the middle of a huge energy shift that is causing all kinds of crazy right now. Like a person, it has the right to choose to move towards light or back towards dark. I very much hope it picks light, but who knows. I'm with Trevor who says our country and the world can use all the light workers it can get right now.

I don't think you can get away from the hard stuff in other states or countries. I think it is the nature of our earth life that these things will be this way. We just have to do our best to choose light and good and to heal where we can and use our empath gifts to help move things forward for the greatest good.

I live in Salt Lake City, UT the heart of some really crazy political stuff, and it can be a challenge sometimes, but at the same time, I can hopefully be a source of light to those that are struggling and shifting around me, and be a source of unconditional love, and try to see the beauty of living in a time of such huge energetic shifting and changes in human consciousness.

Sarah
@sarah
04/17/16 10:27:58AM
386 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

That's a good way to look at it.

Sarah
@sarah
04/16/16 07:58:08AM
386 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

You're welcome and I'm sorry you can relate. :(

Sarah
@sarah
04/15/16 05:16:20PM
386 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

Here is a page I found helpful when I was starting to learn about that dynamic. I very much hope it is not relevant to your childhood.

http://www.bandbacktogether.com/adult-children-of-Narcissistic-parents-resources/

Sarah
@sarah
04/15/16 02:47:14PM
386 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

I was raised by narcissist parents, too, and had to be on prescription stomach meds for years because of it. Stomach stuff is still how my anxiety and panic attacks manifest, too. I think Narcissism is the darkest of the dark. I'm very sorry you had to go through that. :( No child deserves that ever.

Sarah
@sarah
04/13/16 03:44:34PM
386 posts

Problems with attending spiritual events


Empath

Sheesh, I'm still a little shaken up by it all. I hope I'm not putting any of that energy here in this thread talking about it. I'll see if there is anything to clear. All this makes me more grateful for places like this that feel safe and smooth and clear.

Sarah
@sarah
04/13/16 03:34:25PM
386 posts

Problems with attending spiritual events


Empath

Yesterday or the day before I joined a light workers group on Facebook. I just now had to leave it because the energy was so jumbley. I even posted on a thread there, that seemed good and positive, and all of a sudden felt a negative chording happen. I deleted my comment and released the chording, then left the group and I feel like I have to release the residual energy from it. I'm sure most people there are very good people and genuine light workers, but there is some other stuff going on there and I'm too sensitive to be around it, and like you said with your experiences, I've just walked out with more crap energies than when I went it. I better be more careful about that stuff.

Sarah
@sarah
04/13/16 03:31:05PM
386 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

Weird, I went home early from work today with a funny tummy. I know I'm not ill and I know it wasn't food poisoning, but something was definitely not feeling good.

My solar Plexus chakra has been opening lately. Maybe I am releasing some toxins or feeling some growing pains. I've also heard some people on a light workers Facebook post talk about an energetic shift that is happening and is making their bodies feel off. I don't know about that shift thing, though. If anyone else knows, I'd like to hear more.

Sarah
@sarah
04/12/16 07:44:07AM
386 posts

Losing my Ability to Believe


New Age

This is just lovely! Thank you!

Sarah
@sarah
04/12/16 06:03:14AM
386 posts

Losing my Ability to Believe


New Age

Thank you, your response has such gentle, calming, reassuring energy. I think I needed that. Thank you.

Sarah
@sarah
04/11/16 09:16:25PM
386 posts

Losing my Ability to Believe


New Age

I especially like what you said, "I think what helped me move out of the void was that I started talking to The Universe (Mother Earth, God, The creator-whatever name you call your higher power) and just expected an answer." I like this. I guess it doesn't really matter what god is or if it isseparate from us or not, all that matters is that I can ask and get answers.

When you mentioned the Universe being real and being Love, Irealized that I think I need to open more to love. It is my natural state, but after the ravages of going through thisspiritual crisis and getting abuse from so many who were angry that I was going through this, even though I couldn'thelp it. I think my ability to receive love is injured, because the abuse came from loved ones more than anyone else. I think if I can receive love more, I can connect more with theuniverse or god or whateverbecause that is so much of what it all is. When I think about it, I can see that theuniverse has been putting extra opportunities in my way toexperience love in many ways lately. I'm going to give this some thought and meditation and see where this idea can take me. Thank you!

Sarah
@sarah
04/11/16 09:09:57PM
386 posts

Losing my Ability to Believe


New Age

I've definitely moved on for the most part. When I saw that leaving my church was how it was going to end up, I made a conscious decision to not stay stuck in anger or grief or any of the hard parts of it all. I would allow myself to be in those places when they served me, then let them go. I still have anger and grief sometimes, but not at all like before, and that is a relief to know that I can do what I hoped of moving on when I was ready. I expect I still have much healing and processing to do, but it is so much smoother than it was before. I guess I'm just at the part where I'm having to decide what to believe and how to believe in a new way, and I'm not totally sure how that will be.

Sarah
@sarah
04/11/16 09:07:28PM
386 posts

Losing my Ability to Believe


New Age

"I think it is partly to force yourself to look more inward." I took a walk with an empath healer friend today and I told her about my having trouble believing and she said what you said, that instead of my beliefs coming from outside myself, like a godseparate from myself, my soul is stepping into it's own power and I am starting to be able to see that the power comes from inside myself instead of outside. I guess she isright, I have been going through a big shift lately and that is the part my soul is working on now.

I can so relate to your comment. I'm pastthe dismantling stage for the most part, and I'm in the rebuilding part, and boy, I had to shed most everything associated with my past, too. I do grieve that, but my new life feels SO MUCH better, the grief was tough, but a lot of joy followed. :) I hope that part was your experience, too.

Sarah
@sarah
04/10/16 09:07:40PM
386 posts

Losing my Ability to Believe


New Age

Ever since I went through my spiritual awakening and left my church, I've sort of lost my ability to believe in some things, and it seems to be getting worse in some ways. I'm hoping these things come in waves because I miss spirituality. I'm not saying it's not part of my life, but I seem to be much less able to believe in things I believed in before, like god, and I'm struggling to believe more and more lately.

My spiritual awakening involved waking up to many spiritual gifts like sensing beings on the other side and healing gifts and all kinds of things that many of you already do. I realized the church I was part of wasn't serving me well and I started to peel away my beliefs in it one by one, in a long and hard process. I resigned last November and never looked back. It was a very hard core church so that was no small process to leave. According to the church, I've lost my family and my soul for eternity for leaving, and I used to believe that stuff. That's the thing. I used to believe lots of things.

When I started to wake, I actually started believing in many more things than before like angels and spirit guides and reincarnation and lots of things, all while I stopped believing in other things like the divinity of Jesus or a God that was a judging, often angry man/father figure. I started connecting with my heavenly mother and reframed what I thought of god all together.

Lately I find myself wondering if any of this is real at all and wondering if it is all just created with in us and there is nothing past that, no god no angels, no guides, no other lives. I can't help believing in healing gifts because my life is so very different now than before I started this, but what if those just come from inside myself? What if the divine is just us and nothing else? I don't like feeling like there might be nothing, and I feel afraid of going into another spiritual upheaval with the resulting life-reframing like my awakening.

I know I will be okay either way, but I don't like how it feels to feel disconnected spiritually and to not be sure any of it is real in any sense of the word. I also wonder if I have just incorporated my new spirituality so deeply, that I just take it for granted now and it's like nothing to me, if that makes sense.

Have any of you gone through this?


updated by @sarah: 06/14/17 10:38:04PM
Sarah
@sarah
04/07/16 06:17:44PM
386 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


Empath

I'm a writer, too, and most of my writer friends are empaths as well. It must be connected. I wish I lived in Southwest England, but alas, I live in the western U.S. To pay the bills between book sales, I work at a school. I love working with kids. Their energy is so bright and fun and crazy in a good way.

Sarah
@sarah
04/07/16 02:19:07PM
386 posts

Super Hot Feet and Hands - Help?


Empath

My hands get burning hot when I"m doing Reiki. They swell up with heat and turn red and I call them hot dog fingers. :D Even when I'm around someone with strong healing energy, my hands get like that.

Sarah
@sarah
04/07/16 06:27:07AM
386 posts

Does anyone else get very agitated, upset with the change of season


Empath

Wow! This is exactly my experience every year!

Sarah
@sarah
04/06/16 10:28:19PM
386 posts

Does anyone else get very agitated, upset with the change of season


Empath

Yes, I have a tough time with seasonal transitions. It's like everything gets jumbled and I get anxious and feel things too strong or something. I'ma actually doing fine right now, which is really unusual in April for me. I'm crossing my fingers I can sort of breathe through it and enjoy it as much as possible with as little jumble as possible.

Sarah
@sarah
04/05/16 07:57:58PM
386 posts

Found a book that really seems to help make being an empath a bit easier


Empath

A month or so ago, I started reading the book Become the Most Important Person in the Room by Rose Rosetree. It has been so eye opening and helpful. I read a chapter or two, and do the excercises she gives us and then move on. After doing the exercises for a few days, they become more natural, and I've started doing some of them without even thinking and it feels really nice.

The funny thing is, when you are an empath, we have to learn the opposite things than what non-empaths have to learn. I didn't really think about it until this book because I didn't know what it would feel like to be a non-empath or what their experiences are like in the world. The author helps you learn to choose when to do what she calls empath merges, instead of doing them automatically. She teaches you how not to be responsible for everyone, and bunches of other basic stuff that a lot of us empaths (well, at least I) need to know.

It's been the most helpful book I've read on the subject and I'm not even done with it yet. When I'm done and have done all the exercises, I'm going to flip it back to the beginning and read it again as a reminder.

Also, the author is funny and straightforward and it is really refreshing, and enjoyable to read. I hope it is helpful to some of you, too.


updated by @sarah: 01/15/17 02:54:59AM
Sarah
@sarah
04/05/16 07:46:37PM
386 posts

Ghost smells.. ??


Empath

My mom has those abilities. She senses her grandma's spirit is near her when she smells her perfume.

Sarah
@sarah
04/05/16 07:43:17PM
386 posts

Frustrated


Empath

I don't tell my husband about all of my abilities, but he knows very well I'm an empath and that I do energy work and all that stuff that is often connected with empath-ness, but he doesn't know the extent. At first he told me he literally hated it, then he saw me go through a healing transformation. Our family got healthier as a result and so did our marriage. He still doesn't know what to think about me having crystals or doing energy work for myself and friends or being a Reiki master and all that, but he has seen real, measurable results, so he has definitely warmed to it all, and sort of just lets it go. I still struggle feeling free to be open about it all, but I think it's okay to just keep some of it to yourself if you don't think others can handle it. That's why it's nice to have places like this where just about everyone can relate.

Sarah
@sarah
04/05/16 07:32:20PM
386 posts

Feeling under attack.


Empath

Amanda, YEs! That's exactly what it is, someone with gifts like ours, but who uses them to hurt people instead of spread light.

Psychic attack is just sending negative energy to someone. It could be for a lot of different reasons. For me, I've had it happen a lot from my dad because he's a narcissist and I'm the scapegoat kid. A lot of times from him, it's dark energy to keep me from seeing what he's actually like and what he's doing and to keep me infantilized and feeling small, so I can't stop him or expose him and things like that. It's really pretty sad. I've gotten it recently from a friend that asked for advice on a personal matter with her family. I could see what was going on, so I gave her some advise and she pretty much opened the gates of hell on me. Except for my dad, I"d never felt such strong negative energy before and it took days to clear. It was like screaming, shrieking angry energy that wanted me to suffer so greatly, I'd be very sorry I called her out on something that was going on with them. No one wants to be called out on stuff. I totally understand, but I didn't know she was a dark person, so I didn't expect psychic attack.

Also, your ex sounds like a perfect candidate for someone who would use psychic attack. Usually control or power and things that go along with those are the motivations for doing that to people. Those pains and things like that sound exactly like what it can feel like. I bet you have a lot of energy chording to him and a lot of dark devices from him to keep you in his power and control and punish you for trying to break free.

There are lots of methods to get rid of energy chording. Here is one that work for me. It may or may not be one that help you, but it's a start. I go into a meditative state, I don't even totally have to do this anymore. After practice, I can do it fully conscious and even sitting in my desk at work. I don't know what kind of healer you are or what works best for you so do it the way you feel the most comfortable and that will be the best way for you. Anyway, look inside and ask to see unhealthy energy chording. When you start to see it, imagine an angel or yourself or god or whatever makes you feel the most comfortable, cutting them. I imagine a sort of machete chopping them down like those thick ropes of vines on jungle trees. Watch them sever and then ask to clear them out, and watch them leave. There are probably layers of chording, so once you feel they are all gone, wait a few minutes and ask if there are anymore. Plus, with psychic attack, you are more likely to have hidden chording, you can ask to be shown those and cut them, too.

You also probably have devices. Those are energetic tools that are positive or negative. We can make positive devices to help people. An energy worker friend made me an energy device to help me because I'm so empathic. It was an energetic mirror that when people sent energy to me, it hit the mirror instead and went back to them. It sounds super weird, but it helps. Anything can be created out of energy, positive or negative or neutral. People can create dark devices like ones that make your body hurt like you said, and ones that turn your vision dark and hurt you in other ways. You can get rid of those the same way as chording. Ask to be shown all negative devices, hidden and unhidden and command the angels and guides and god or whatever you are working with, to remove them all. Then see them come up and get removed.

I hope this is helpful. Good luck!

Sarah
@sarah
03/30/16 07:30:02AM
386 posts

Fish in the Washing Machine


Dreams

Sheesh! I just had a dream that there was a beautiful baby deer that was being studied to see what different types of hunters would do to it. I saw a huge snake, bigger than any in real life with it's mouth open and a dead baby deer inside. Then I saw the game keeper trying to get different animals to kill the live baby deer. None of it had worked so far, and as the dream switched, they were about to send a pack of wild giant dogs after the poor thing. I feel upset thinking about it.

Then my dream switched to my husband and I doing very well and being happy and moving forward in our lives, when all of a sudden, dark things invaded our home. My husband in real life doesn't really believe in energy work or any of that that I do, even though he sees it is of benefit to me and supports it. In the dream, he could for the first time see clearly that energy is a real thing because he could feel the darkness. It felt really dark and really bad. Again, I feel upset thinking about it.

Whatever is going on inside of me feels big, but I don't totally get it.

Sarah
@sarah
03/30/16 07:20:55AM
386 posts

Fish in the Washing Machine


Dreams

Interesting. I did have a friend a day and a half before I dreamed this ask for some advice about a family issue. I gave her advise, meaning to be helpful, but she took it wrong and lashed out at me and told me she never wants to be friends with me again, and then went on Facebook and told everyone that she knows a terrible person who spews hate and all this stuff. It was super alarming because I meant no harm at all, and I can't even begin to see what part of what I said was hateful. It was like it was all in her imagination and she is punishing me for it. She is doing psychic attack on me and I keep having to clear dark stuff from her. She wants me to be as miserable as her so I will feel deep remorse for the advice I gave her, which is completely irrational. I don't want her to be miserable, and me being miserable wouldn't change what I said to her. I guess part of me still doesn't want to hurt her at all, but another part of me is super alarmed at her extreme reaction, and I see that it's a blessing that she cut off our friendship. Her behavior set off a series of PTSD triggers I have from growing up with narcissist parents and being the scapegoat kid. It didn't matter what you said, or if you meant it nicely, it could all blow up at any minute and you are blamed and called a bad guy, while you are just reeling and trying to make sense of something that makes no sense.

I do think negativity has permeated everything since I got this job back in October. I feel blue most of the time, unless it's the weekend or a holiday, then I feel more myself and can have fun and do things I enjoy. It's not even a bad job, and I love the people I work with and all that, but for some reason, the energy of the job is squelching my soul. I don't even really laugh or anything much anymore and if you know me, you'd know that was a very big deal. At least it's temporary, because the job ends at the beginning of August and I can move on. I don't know how to leave work at work and clear all that energy before I get home, because part of me just knows I'm going back the next day and have to do it all over again. It's like my spirit is coping by just being defeated. I guess I can try some other energy techniques and all that, but I'm not sure what, and taking care of how I tend to my body and life is always good advise. Yes, my house has gone to the dogs since I got this job, too. I just don't have time or energy to clean up after anyone anymore, and I feel like I've sort of lost touch with it.

I think I need to find more ways to increase my positivity in my energy and body and soul and home. I can thank my soul for letting me know that this job is not a forever job for me, but I can tell my guides or whatever that I need it to be a better situation while I'm in my last few months of it, so I can not lose so much of my soul and happiness to it.

Sarah
@sarah
03/29/16 11:19:01AM
386 posts

Fish in the Washing Machine


Dreams

Oh wow! This is so helpful! Thank you! I hadn't thought of it this way. It really got me thinking. I think the fish must represent people in my life who are bad for me, that I am still loath to hurt with my healing, and sort of skirting around healing because I don't want to hurt them or toss them out. I need to, though. After your comment, I was able to do some energy work to help me begin to let go of people that don't have my highest and best good at heart, and to not worry so much about hurting them. If they really had my best interest at heart, they would be happy for me, not angry and hurt that they can't control me or use me anymore. I'm going to have to get rid of that metaphorical fish, and it might hurt it in the process, but I need to be brave enough to do it, for my best good.

I'm going to follow your advice about focusing on protection coming from my divine spirit and do the bathing ritual to help me replenish my positive energies. You are right, they are very depleted. I can do this.

Thank you so much!

Sarah
@sarah
03/29/16 07:17:31AM
386 posts

Need help with narcissist friend


Empath

Oh my gosh! I can so relate to this with several people in my life. I had a recent episode with a friend who is on that spectrum. I told her the truth about some of her behavior in private, and she was NOT happy and posted about what a terrible hate-spewing person I am and all this stuff. I was totally shocked. I had no idea she'd take my message that way. I meant not disrespect or harm. In fact, if I didn't think she was able to address this issue or would take it SO PERSONALLY I would never have said anything at all. She sent me all kinds of dark energy and bad things, and I was so off, I had to have an energy worker friend clear them. I guess there are a few hundred people now who think I'm a hate spewing person and my friend is now decided to be a bitter enemy. This is super crazy to me because I can't understand that reality of narcissism.

Definitely stay away from this person. I do think some narcissist are good at psychic attack. Look up psychic attack and see what you can do about it. I used energy work to clear mine, but it was hard work and took a couple of days. Something else might work better for you, and videos and articles about it can have some good advise what to do. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Narcissists are drawn to empaths like bees to nectar so it's always good to learn about that dynamic and learn to protect ourselves from those kinds of people. Hugs, friend! I hope you feel some peace and calm and resolution, soon. I'm glad you are staying far away from that person!

Sarah
@sarah
03/29/16 06:53:06AM
386 posts

Fish in the Washing Machine


Dreams

I just had a weird dream that I feel was saying something, but I don't know what. I can't remember the rest of the dream, but I remember stuff felt off and not good. The part I remember was opening the washing machine to do a load of laundry and there was sort of fetted, greenish shallow water with some sort of flat, kind of gross bottom feeding fish. I tried to get it out, but accidentally started hurting it because pieces of it were coming off, but I didn't mean to hurt it. I wasn't sure what to do, and I didn't know how to get it out or clear out the bad water.

I think it might have to do with a few things, but I can't connect the dots. I'm in a job I don't like. I wake up every morning since I got this job last Autumn panicked and sick because I don't want to go. Don't worry, it's a job with an end date, and I'm only a couple of months from the worst part ending, and after that I only have two more months of a much easier work load with it, and then I'm done with it for good. Also, my husband works days and nights at two jobs he doesn't like. We just really need some changes in our employment and financial situation, and I was thinking about that when I woke up for an hour or so before I had this dream. Most mornings I am going to this job, I have nightmares for an hour or two before it's time to get up and go, but this one felt like it meant something.

Also, I've been doing some big energy healing and clearing out the old to make way for the new and I have hope that things will keep getting better for me, but I'm in that place where I'm ready for the new, but it hasn't quite arrived, except that I feel better about my life (except for the job situation for me and my husband), but overall, I like where things are for me. I've been clearing away old traumas and old wounds and old unhealthy patterns I was carrying. I think whatever the dream means, it must have something to do with all this. Anyone have any ideas?


updated by @sarah: 02/26/17 06:26:16PM
Sarah
@sarah
03/04/16 01:48:10PM
386 posts

Feeling under attack.


Empath

You're welcome. I hope you get some relief very soon and that it all helps. I know there are lots of things on the internet that tell how to get rid of psychic attack, too. Good luck!

Sarah
@sarah
03/04/16 07:03:28AM
386 posts

Feeling under attack.


Empath

I have trouble with that stuff, too. It's very hard for me to be around rude, mean or harsh people. I bet he did psychic attack on you. It's like a whole other level of being mean. It attacks your spirit and soul and sort of sticks there until you can get it out.

There are a few things you can do. You can call on god and angels or whoever you believe in, and demand that they remove it from all the cells of your body. Or you can go inside and imagine the bad energy he put in you has a form. See what it looks like, a black slime, a dark chunk of black concrete, whatever you see. Then you can imagine gathering it all up and tossing it forcefully out of your body and soul and aura, like taking out the garbage.

I struggle with this, too. There are certain people in my life who do this to me from time to time as a method of punishing me for not giving myself to them to control. There is also a person I work with who is a very unhappy person and does this to me sometimes. I go home from work and have nightmares and all that. I've been reading and practicing the book The Most Important Person in the Room to help me learn some tools to not take on that stuff so much, and it's helping. The truth is, just as there are light workers in this world, there are dark workers as well to create a balance. He was probably a dark person. Just as a lot of people here are healers and want people to feel happy and send positive healing energy almost without knowing it, some people do the opposite and send bad energy. I bet he was one of those.

I hope this advise helps. That bad stuff doesn't belong in your body. I hope you are able to remove it soon and feel whole and calm and learn how to receive less of that, because it's not yours and it doesn't belong in you. Hugs! Good luck!

Sarah
@sarah
02/14/16 03:52:19PM
386 posts

Australian Uluru Stone


Tools for Empaths

Beautiful!

Sarah
@sarah
02/11/16 07:07:33PM
386 posts



How lovely! Just be gentle with yourself. Only explore and learn what you feel drawn to learning. I totally know what you mean by being overwhelmed and having to step away and getting headaches and all that. Those headaches might be signs of empathic growth, actually, as strange as it sounds. You don't need to jump in with both feet. Just be gentle and let it come to you naturally. You are going to do great. :)

Sarah
@sarah
02/10/16 09:19:12PM
386 posts

Exhaustion


Empath

Do any of you get totally exhausted at your jobs, or even just from life? I've been an at home mom and a work from home mom for 20 years. I've had jobs at home and out of the house during that time, but I've only worked full time or close to it twice in those years and one of those times is now. I took a 30 hour a week job at the end of October and I'm utterly shattered at the end of the day. It feels discouraging because my main job is being a writer and a mom, but I don't have any energy left for either of those after a day of work, or for hanging out with friends or enjoying nature or doing art or music or anything that makes me happy. I pretty much just go to my job, come home and lay down exhausted until it's time to go to sleep, then repeat that pattern every day. I do yoga so at least I'm getting some exercise, but that's about all I can do. I don't feel that way on the weekends or holidays when I don't have work, but it sort of hangs heavy on me on work days, and when I know the next day is a work day, too. When my coworkers say they are tired at the end of the day, I know they aren't my level of tired, even when their jobs are harder or more stressful than mine and they work more hours. There's tired, then there's this kind of tired that is hard to function under.

I don't love the job, but it's not a bad job. I work at a school that I love with coworkers that I love and with kids that I love. There is really no reason I should feel like this about this job, but I do and I don't know why. I worked at the same school for much fewer hours last year and the beginning of this school year in a different position. I loved it and had fun doing it, and it felt balancing to me. I took this new position for more hours and money and it is draining me dry.

I keep wondering if it's a thyroid thing or a healing thing as I'm healing from some trauma stuff in childhood and other things or maybe it's the fact that it's winter and my body is trying to hibernate, or whatever else I can think of. I think it's all those things, but I think the big one is the fact that I'm an empath. I know something is draining me there, but I have no idea what. When I worked full time before about 14 years ago, I was like this, too. My work took everything out of me and there was nothing left. I worked with energy vampires in that old job. I wonder if I work with some here, too. I just can't tell. Have any of you had experience with extreme exhaustion from your jobs?


updated by @sarah: 01/11/17 01:41:05AM
Sarah
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02/10/16 09:03:34PM
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All you said sounds so familiar. I've been reading a book about how to be a skilled empath lately. I've read a lot of those, but this one seems to be of more help to me than the others. It's called Become the Most Important Person in the Room by Rose Rosetree. I'm only half way through, but it uses such a different approach than most books I've read on the subject and, at least for me, it is very helpful. I have a long way to go in being a skilled empath, but this helps a lot.

I get totally drained at my job, too, to the point where it is pretty much all I can do, because I don't have the energy to do anything else when I get home but lay down until it's time to go to sleep, and that gets depressing.

I do chakra work, too. I'm a reiki master and use the chakras when I do reiki and it really helps me feel more calm and balanced. It's pretty neat when you start meeting other empaths in person or here online and start developing your gifts. I bet you have more than you know, and I hope you have fun exploring them and learning all about them. :)

Sarah
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02/04/16 10:32:49AM
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Energetic healing from narcissistic abuse


Healers

I think the creepiest thing I found was a bunch of devises and dark things designed to silence me so I wouldn't tell anyone what he was doing. :(

Sarah
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02/04/16 10:32:01AM
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Thanks for telling me about your own healing experience with it. I went back inside my soul today to see if I had that cording in my chakras and blocks to healing so I couldn't get the help I needed. I found a TON. That feels a little discouraging to me because I've been working for a few years now to clear this stuff, and very intensely since last July when I saw my dad for what he really is. I know seven months isn't enough to clear 42 years of deep narcissistic abuse, but it feels frustrating to me that there always seems like there is so much more to heal.

I'm home sick from work today and I'm just going to do Reiki and rest and heal and make a sacred time to get rid of all I can at this point. It seems just unbelievable to me that so much damage could be caused by one selfish, small person. I don't want to make him or his abuse the big looming flavor of my life. I want him to have no power over me and I want my health back and my peace back, and when I say "back" I probably never had it in this life. I expect his abuse of me started in the womb.

Sarah
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02/03/16 08:27:06PM
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Interesting! Maybe it's not all that important where the pain comes from--inside or outside, but just that there is healing left to be done.

This makes me realize that I guess I have another issue I didn't realize I had--I guess I don't trust that there is enough healing for me, or that god or the divine or whatever will give me what I need to heal. I believe there is enough healing in the universe for all people to be whole and complete, but for some reason, I just don't think the universe will apply it to me. Hm. I didn't realize I thought that way until I read your comment. I think I probably think that about many areas of my life. Maybe that's what comes of having parents that didn't give me what I needed, but I'm an adult now and have been for a long time, and I guess I'm still stuck in a pattern where I think of the divine like my parents where I can get only what I need if I work super hard and put myself away and, even then, it's only scraps of what I need, so I learn to be pleased with scraps. I guess I think the divine is like that to me, but not to others, to others it is generous and abundant. Yikes! I guess I found some more stuff to work on. Maybe if I work at this level of healing, when that pain comes--either from inside or outside myself, I can learn that the universe is powerful enough to protect me and give me what I need, because I sure don't believe that now.

Sarah
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02/02/16 09:32:56PM
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Good luck! :) I bet you'll do great!

Sarah
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02/01/16 08:16:48PM
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I'm so sorry you understand this, too. Writing it out helps me a lot, too. I'm sorry that your parent singled you out like mine did. No one deserves that. I'm glad you have reached forgiveness. I know I can get there, too, but sometimes I'm too fast to forgive. I need to be angry and heal myself for a little bit before I forgive him all the way. I will be very happy when I get to that point, but right now, I just have to keep healing. Hugs to you and I hope you find the peace and love and happiness you deserve.

Sarah
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02/01/16 02:58:17PM
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Pain changing forms? Is this possible ?


Empath

You were probably sending her healing energy when you touched her. That must have been so hard. Hugs!

Sarah
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01/30/16 09:19:49PM
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Pain changing forms? Is this possible ?


Empath

Your poor friend. That must be just devastating! Yes, I sometimes feel people's emotional pain in a physical way in my own body. I am always sick around my dad who is a very unhealthy man. No matter how much I shield myself or whatever protections I put in place, I can just feel his bad energy and it translates to headaches and stomachaches and that kind of thing. I get that from other people, too, but probably the strongest is from my dad.

Sarah
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01/30/16 05:34:27PM
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Oh wow! That's amazing! I'll have to find some sort of ritual like that to rid myself of my dad. I left the church I was raised in recently. It was a rather agonizing journey because I was taught from childhood that it was the one and only true church and the only way to god and to leave it was to get damned and all that. I officially resigned in November and am no longer affiliated with any church. I had a moment last summer when I had been inactive from my church for a year where I received a spiritual message that if I never left my church, I would have never been free of my dad's narcissism. For me getting out of that church was to have a choice about my life for the first time in this lifetime. It was all tied up with my dad for me--control, abuse of power, threats, intermixed with what seemed like love and safety. It was very confusing, but I'm very happy to be out. I still have layers to heal from my dad, though. I will check out that book. I've heard about it recently, so maybe it would be very good for me.

I also want to see if I can find a ritual where I let something physically go--like you did and put my dad's energy in it and get rid of it for good. Thank you!

Sarah
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01/30/16 07:11:46AM
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Okay, good! I hope healing is as fast and as painless as possible and that you enjoy your new wholeness. :)

Sarah
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01/29/16 09:18:27PM
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I'm so sorry. I hope it's okay to realize this and I haven't just opened an incredibly painful can of worms for you. I posted this here because I know narcissists are so very often attracted to empaths, so I figured many of us would know exactly what I was talking about and have some tools to deal with it.

What you said about romanticizing your childhood, I was doing that so hard for so many years. The reunion slapped it out of me, but I think it was pretty much the way I saw my past, and it wasn't real. I'm very sorry you have experience with all of this, too.

Good things have come out of the healing, even the terrible painful parts. I know better how to recognize dark souls--even when they lie that they are good. It's a lesson I'm not necessarily happy to have to learn, but I'm glad to be able to learn it. I'm still pretty new at it.

I've also learned that lots of times when I felt sick or off or anxious around my family, it wasn't me, it was my dad using psychic attack on me, then punishing me for being weak and a mess. Again, not a lesson I asked for or am happy to learn, but it's good to know, because it happens sometimes in life, besides just with narcissistic parents.

I've learned that narcissistic parents usually treat the healthiest and most aligned to love and goodness kid the worst. They lie to the child and treat them like they are trouble and difficult, but really what they are is goodness. That makes me feel better about some of it, even though it wasn't fair.

The real truth is, it totally isn't fair and there is no way to heal, but to address all the painful emotions that the abuse created and release them. I know some ways to do it, but not quite enough yet. I hope you have some tools to help you release the pain you experienced. Ask your angels and guides to help you though this as gently as possible. It won't be gentle, but hopefully, there can be some beauty and love in the process for you.

Sarah
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01/29/16 08:13:31PM
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About ten years ago, I realized my dad was a narcissist, I'm sure if he ever sought help, which he would NEVER do, he would surely be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. This summer at a family reunion, I suddenly saw his behavior fully and completely and it was so terrible. I am an empath and a healer and a light worker, so I am his scapegoat kid. My brothers he approves of and disapproves of on different levels, but he seems to have a deep resentment and almost hatred for me. I found out that he thinks that I came into his life to wreck it all up and cause trouble and ruin everything that is important to him--I'm not on that list of things that are important to him apparently. It was so shocking and traumatic to realize that he actually truly thinks that, and all my life I've loved him and looked up to him and tried to help him heal and listened to him and believed in him. All while he was filing me with negative devices and bad energy to keep me down so he could look good and not have me mess up his life and make him look bad somehow. I'm not sure what he thinks I'm doing that could make him look bad or ruin his life, but none of this is based in rational thought or reason, so there is no use trying to solve it.

I was very traumatized when I realized what was happening and it took me a month of hard core all day energy work on my own and with some mentors and friends to clear me of the bad things he's done to me. It's been six months since that terrible revelation and I have good days and bad days about it. Part of me is still in shock that a dad could do that to his daughter who loves him and is an empath and a highly sensitive person and a healer. It was terrible to realize how much of my life and my free agency and my choices were not even really mine, they belonged to my dad, and I didn't have a choice about it, and I didn't even really know it was happening. Now I know and can choose for myself and honor myself and not let him or anyone else treat me like that. Still, somedays are hard. Today I got that yucky feeling again like I will never be free of him and his bad behavior toward me. I think it is because some old stuff came up to heal, but I'm not totally sure how to heal it with the tools I have.

Being an empath, I can even sometimes feel his disapproval and hatred of me and anger and need to control and dominate coming to me from him, even though we live in different parts of the country. Sometimes it's just old wounds coming up for healing so it's coming from inside me in my unhealed places instead of him. I feel angry that he never gave me what I needed, never saw me or heard me or valued me, or had any empathy towards me, but pretend he did, so I raised myself the best I could, filled with guilt and shame and anxiety and letting people and institutions take advantage of me and lord over me.

I feel like I don't know enough healing techniques to get all this out of my system and healed. I for sure want to go to therapy. I was going for a few months recently, but found out my insurance didn't cover it, so I had to stop until I can afford it. In the mean time, I use my healing gifts like reiki and being able to remove trapped negative emotions, cutting unhealthy energy chords, healing past lives and things like that. I feel like I need to add another healing gift to address this stuff, but I don't know where to find it. Have any of you had to heal yourself or others from abuse? What methods do you use? Where did you learn them from?


updated by @sarah: 03/23/17 12:37:43PM
Sarah
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01/28/16 05:25:11PM
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Full Moon and Emotions


Empath

YEs! I get all out of whack and I have trouble sleeping and it feels like all my emotions are turned up. I just ride it out as best as I can.

 
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