Sounds like you're in a pretty good space, John. One of the things I was left with after mine was "how could I have put myself through that for so long - what's wrong with me?" My lack of an impulse to take care of myself became really apparent to me. It is what put me on a healing path so I have no regrets...
I apologize because I hadn't read the rest of your posts where you talk about paranormal stuff happening. Turns out, I had similar stuff going on last spring and one of our dogs was being terrorized by something that neither my husband or myself could see. I felt that it was stemming from a very large mirror (so large it has to sit on the floor and lean on the wall).
I was seeing fleeting shadows and my dog was going nuts at night - tracking something around the room. I also caught a definite orb on my camera.
One night a friend and her dog slept over. She slept on the sofa nearest the mirror. In the middle of the night, her dog went ballastic - barking and growling at the mirror. Well, that just confirmed what I had been feeling.
I asked around for suggestions on what to do because the only I knew to do was to sage the H of the place. I wasn't having it. I got the following advice from Lon Strickler who does spirit rescue:
"...Instead of smudging with white sage, I recommend using lavender oil in a diffuser or lavender incense. Frankincense and myrrh resin placed on a small charcoal wafer are also very good. If you prefer long-term protection, I suggest acquiring black tourmaline crystals...placing in different parts of your home. Pendants of black tourmaline or red jasper are also very effective. Make sure to dedicate each stone (with a simple affirmation with a directive of protection) before placing."
Here's what I did, I painted the whole mirror with white Gesso (an acrylic primer), leaving a little space in the center unpainted (for the whatever to pass back through - my own theory).
Then I waited until I was in a really good, strong mood and I opened a window in each room (cracked - 'cause it was coooold), then beginning at the top floor and going all the way to the basement I walked around with the burning incense and smudged each room thoroughly. I didn't say any formal prayers but I expressed my intention for anything non-seen to leave immediately. I tried to stay in a powerful head space, yet compassionate toward any lost souls (or maybe the souls of my beloved passed over pets). I remained confident that this would work - I wouldn't allow myself any doubt at all. After I finished the "manifesto" in each room, I sprayed the lavender oil (mixed with water in a spray bottle) and I placed a Black Tourmaline somewhere in each room.
When I was done, I took my acrylic paints and painted a large angel on the mirror. I don't know if this would keep anything from passing through but I just thought it might be a good touch and I didn't want to look at that mirror anymore - plus it's way too heavy to move.
That was the spring - it's winter now and it's been good ever since - so I would recommend this or some similar ritual.
I'm not one to believe in spirits in just the traditional Spiritualist sense. I believe that the many different dimensions are teaming with life - some good, some bad, some neutral. I don't want any of them getting too comfortable here lol. I don't necessarily trust 'em. I've hear that some can take on any form they want.
I've taken away the mirrors except for the bathrooms and I keep those doors closed. I'm not sure what happened if something wandered through some portal but Max (my friend's dog) seemed to confirm it was the mirror and things are calm and peaceful now - so the proof's in the pudding. I will no longer buy or acquire antiques either.
Good luck with all you're going through. I know you'll find lots of support on these boards.