Forum Activity for @zeca

Zeca
@zeca
09/18/16 09:12:41AM
116 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

@Sequoia, I sometimes really envy an INTJ's ability to go on their merry way despite other's dramas. I think INFJ's are in the process of sorting this out, learning to see what feels good and right and what is usury. And INTJ's are in process of opening themselves to chaos as well.

And @ John, yes, it becomes our own, or feels like it so much so that you have to get away from the situation sometimes to realize that it wasn't really you. It is kind of like having to ignore a belly growling fiercely for food. The need to please can feel primal. It feels like something that has to be fixed pronto! 

But I think as we get older and exhausted, self preservation kicks in and starts refusing to acquiesce, which is a major challenge when we feel guilty already for not doing enough, without piling on more guilt. Still, you can't help much when you are a wreck and self help will eventually help everyone. Being honest about our needs and limits, even though it can feel dangerous, is where we need to be going.

Zeca
@zeca
09/14/16 06:28:56PM
116 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

I highly recommend finding your MBTI type. I realized I was an empath, came here some years ago and then moved into MBTI research. INFJ's are likely to research the heck out of this. We have Fe, which is Extraverted Feeling and it pretty much equals HARMONIZING. The online tests are sometimes inaccurate so I do suggest taking many of different varieties, look on YouTube for examples of type, understand the functions, read, read, read. Learn your Enneagram too. Joshua French does some funny talks on Enneagram.

Mirroring in my opinion is energy related and a form of empathy. I understand you are seeing a difference, loconoro, but my mirroring is involuntary and natural, and I feel I have no walls, and energy transfers and I emote this other person. I feel that is different from my understanding what is needed/wanted and giving that vibe. That is Fe, harmonizing and Ni [Introverted Intuition]. Empathy can be separate from mirroring, it's own thing for sure. 

There are times when I don't mirror, and just feel pain or discomfort but I don't think I'd be mirroring if an energy transfer was not involved. It feels different than empathy alone, yes. I know both and I usually have to be talking with or closely involved with people to mirror, even in posts I begin to mirror without thinking about it. Empathy without mirroring can come from anywhere and often feels more like a jolt of emotion as you are experiencing it too, than being a reflection does. Mirroring is more like a bizarre ride and often both people are kinda surprised and aware of you being different. With empathy alone, the other person won't necessarily know you know or have felt them.

Editing because as I was showering, an example came to me of mirroring that is not harmonizing. When someone is angry at me, or expressing anger even if it is not about me, I can become angry too, and I wasn't before, and it feels reflective. 

At one time a friend of mine was going through a rough patch, and though I didn't mirror her directly, I would come home after being with her and blow up when I got home. It took me several of these happenings for me to identify where it was coming from because though she was showing exasperation and frustration, she was being friendly and not angry at any of us who were with her. So the energy transfer can be held off when your focusing on harmonizing as well.

Dislike can do the same. Throwing a feeling at me can be a bad idea. If I feel disliked or judged, I can feel it bouncing back towards the giver. I will often fight to overcome this, and try for harmony with the person as best I can. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. These last are infrequent, but difficult for me. 

And I once picked up a drunk hitchhiker, and felt drunk. He was distracting, yes, but I seriously felt loopy and my driving was worse for it, whereas I'd been fine before he got in the car. I did intentionally make an effort at harmonizing, but the mirroring just seemed to seep into me. 


updated by @zeca: 09/14/16 08:17:40PM
Zeca
@zeca
02/24/15 12:21:16AM
116 posts

Introduction


Empath

Welcome Scott. As ever, there are no right words, but know that your coming this way touches so deep my eyes are tearing. Come and be warm.

Zeca
@zeca
02/19/15 03:07:26PM
116 posts

I Feel Empty Most Of The Time?


Empath

Heya Kaitlyn, though you may feel like it, you are not quite on the moon and ought to be able to have at least some sort of social life off the internet. Is there a library where you could post an afternoon tea get together with kids your age, or a book club or group posting you could join? You might also post another interest, and see if anyone bites. I bet your parents would take you. I am a mother of four, and I really want my kids to tell me what they need. Even when I look busy. Try.

You're post also reminded me of a set of books you might like... I don't remember the author but the Titles were Cinder, Scarlet and Cress. A really cool take on Fairy tales, sort of. Not exactly the classics. Sci-fi. You might also like a guy named Joshua French on Youtube, he does talks on happiness and your Enneagram, a kind of personality test, but he makes some good points. His 'life is a game' videos are good. I just got done watching and anyone at any age can benefit from his reminders.

Zeca
@zeca
02/07/15 12:27:46PM
116 posts



I think a lot of children are empathic, and that our culture roughens us up some, and for some more than others. I've always been an empath. I was only vegetarian for three years though in my very early twenties. It ended just before I became pregnant for the first time, when I realized I would in fact kill an animal to feed my child. As a little child I grew up eating out of a garden and eating some of the farm animals. My father later also raised chickens and pigs when I was a teen and made a point of showing and telling us that they were treated well and had a good life before they became dinner. I agree with him that it beats the heck out of the meat farms that are miserable places to live before becoming meat. I have not gone to this effort as an adult, but I think it is honorable. My husband is just SO not a farmer or rancher, but I could do a better job of buying well. I even support hunters, when their goal is food for their family, because those animals were wild, and had a good life.

It sounds like you eat really intentionally, and I think following that course would be good for him, whether he is going to be full on empath or not. To buy a well treated animal and freeze it, if you are going to eat meat, could help him to see that you do care for the animals you do eat as a family, as much as possible. Buy organic if you can, etc and explain your intention to him to do as best you can. And of course, everyone's best is going to be different.


updated by @zeca: 09/25/17 11:46:58AM
Zeca
@zeca
02/04/15 02:18:33PM
116 posts



I should say I have had panic attacks, but not due to social interaction.

Zeca
@zeca
02/04/15 02:17:43PM
116 posts



I'd call what I have social awkwardness. I haven't had panic attacks but I think I can make myself sick, hence the perfect excuse. It is not like I try to do this, my body just accommodates me like it's my pal and understands.

I can more or less deal with people socially from day to day picking up kids and grocery shopping etc, but I avoid parties, and get togethers with more than four people can be rather daunting and I avoid them mostly. Part of the problem in social situations is that I am reading and it is hard to listen and process information at the same time and keep up with the conversation, so I keep quiet a lot and just listen.

I am a hermit as much as I can be. Having children, I am forced to socialize more than I'd choose to, but it is probably good for me, because I'd just be more awkward with less practice. And I love people, so me and just a few are great here and there, just not too often. I am very much an introvert.


updated by @zeca: 10/22/17 05:17:41PM
Zeca
@zeca
02/02/15 03:48:23PM
116 posts



If someone repeats to you that they've heard you are a sociopath, ask them if they believe just anything anyone tells them. Recommend they look the term up and draw their own conclusions. Sorry you are having to be in the same workplace. That blows.


updated by @zeca: 04/06/17 12:22:24PM
Zeca
@zeca
01/30/15 11:16:41AM
116 posts



Empaths can be dark and angry and lost at times and I imagine can drain others, especially another empath when they are out of sorts. Mostly though, I think empaths will do their best to stay away from others so they don't bring them down. The difficulty is that empaths with family in the house or that you have reason to be in contact with, never can really get away and this causes a lot of stress. Make sure you're mom understands that you don't expect her to tend to others' needs. Give her permission to relax and do for herself and back away slowly. She can call if she needs you, but she needn't for your sake. I recommend if she likes reading that you encourage that. Losing family makes for hard times. And even really wonderful people can change faces to the point that shocks. I've seen it happen. It is sad. I truly hope she can recover. Walks are a great way to be together healthily if you feel she needs you and I bet it would help her too.

Zeca
@zeca
01/30/15 10:38:04AM
116 posts



For starters, family is just different. I will do for and put up with certain things from family that I would not with others. I would be direct and tell him just to ask for help next time, and give as much notice as he has, like call you right away when he knows he is going to need help.

And I do feel guilty refusing to help, even when I help a lot, so I've kind of fallen into a pattern of being very helpful in ways that I like, or just don't bother me, so that I feel I contribute to community without feeling overly guilty about doing things I don't prefer. For instance, I'll go on lots of outdoor field trips as volunteer, but I don't go to PTA meetings. I will drive kids home to help their parents out, or kid sit, but I won't go clean someone else's house, but I will help someone move if I can, like that. It makes me happy to help, but if I start feeling like someone is taking advantage of even what I like to do, or trying to push me to their preferences, I will back off and become cool. I don't do confrontations if I can help it, and woe be them when I am pushed into one. I expect people to know better than to use other people, and those that step on gentle, generous people deserve the cutoff they get when they walk all over them.

Zeca
@zeca
01/06/15 10:46:58PM
116 posts

I think I am an Empath...would appreciate other's comments


Empath

I also think their is often more to such an urge than the person's feelings alone. I think spirit is involved. It is a call, but I think there is no judgement on your response, other than your own judgement.

Zeca
@zeca
01/06/15 10:43:22PM
116 posts

I think I am an Empath...would appreciate other's comments


Empath

Yes, I'd say an empath could feel that. But sometimes we don't. And sometimes others who may not consider themselves empaths can feel things like that, my husband, for instance can on occasion. Are you an empath is something you have to decide for yourself. You can though. Research. Read here, a lot. Weigh and contemplate and weigh some more. Revisit past incidences/experiences and ask yourself if they make sense from an empathic pov.

As for this man, I do recommend following your feelings. Don't fret about interrupting him. We are all here together for a reason, to help each other if we can. I know a desire to be left alone, but even I would not mind if on an occasion that I seemed to be in need, that someone looked in on me. I know it can be hard to make that move, and if you cannot, then you won't and that is alright. But if you can, if you are moved to, then give it a go.

Zeca
@zeca
01/06/15 01:03:30AM
116 posts



And I take the anger and rage standing. This is bad for me. And you, anyone. I need to learn to stop it from happening. To verbally shut it down before being bombarded. Start now. I've waited so long. Show yourself respect and don't be a proverbial punching bag or even just a handy canyon for someone's venting. We don't need that.

Zeca
@zeca
01/06/15 12:56:51AM
116 posts



Anger and rage freak me out too. And yet, people tend to share this with me. And not only are you filled with the ire, and if you are not careful, send it back, you will no doubt be in danger of mirroring as well. Or, I guess that's kind of the same thing. I tend to accidentally mirror intense energy, even if it's not anger, just hyper or loud people too. It can be embarrassing because it happens so fast and people look at you funny, like who the heck are you, even though it is them they are seeing.

As a kid, this happened on a bus once on a field trip. The bus driver was angry with me for being so loud, and it wasn't till decades later that I realized I was caught up in the energy of a bus full of 13 year olds and it was nothing like me to be that wound up.


updated by @zeca: 07/25/17 10:44:17PM
Zeca
@zeca
01/06/15 12:41:59AM
116 posts



I met my husband by letters, a service back when the internet stuff was just kinda beginning. Dinosaur. Anyhow, I FaceTime only with my sister. I totally get how vulnerable you are to just any time or anyone. Mostly I answer my sister, but there have been a couple times when I just let it ring. I just couldn't. If it is hard for me to use the phone, it is doubly overwhelming to see face to face when you are not actually face to face.

This is the thing. Be who you are from the start. If they can't take it, then they are not for you. Communication is so much of a relationship, so much! And trust. Fare thee well.

Zeca
@zeca
11/24/14 03:51:15PM
116 posts



I actually really enjoy shopping sometimes. Not always, I go through times when I have no desire to, but I prefer to shop alone mostly.

Zeca
@zeca
11/22/14 09:42:49PM
116 posts



One of my daughters hates trying clothes on. But I hate returning items far more than trying on.


updated by @zeca: 03/25/17 06:32:52AM
Zeca
@zeca
10/31/14 11:28:46AM
116 posts



I think your ambition worthy, but tricky to begin. I'd start small, but in a big enough community to find a handful of takers. It is the parents you'll have to convince of your legitimacy and potential for their young. But you might start something like people offer piano lessons. It could be awesome. I hope you do it.
updated by @zeca: 01/20/17 11:47:40AM
Zeca
@zeca
10/26/14 10:12:17AM
116 posts



There is something to going out and making it happen. Had I not been able without intervention, I'd have tried that, or adopted, somehow. Some way. I've had five. I lost the first to a genetic anomaly. Had a miscarriage also. If it matters that much, find a way.And no parent is perfect, we are human and I've rarely been so disappointed in a person as I have myself, but I have four warm, kind and intelligent children who do make this world a better place.
Zeca
@zeca
09/28/14 09:52:35PM
116 posts



If you have an inclination to create, in any way, insist on time to do it. Carve out some time weekly even if you can't do daily. Sing or crochet or paint or take photos or something. Anything where you can lose time in the pleasure of doing for just you. Everyone is capable of creating. Build Legos, bake... Anything that you want, love.
Zeca
@zeca
06/08/14 09:20:31PM
116 posts

Hey everyone!


Empath

Thanks, it is almost summer, then at least I get to sleep in!

Zeca
@zeca
06/07/14 11:55:34PM
116 posts

Hey everyone!


Empath

Hey Jonny, I am around, good to see you. I am such a jumble, sometimes really good, so often tired, occasionally melodramatic. I'd like to post more, but gathering my thoughts coherently seems like so much effort since they slip like little fish through my fingers. And you, friend?

Zeca
@zeca
06/01/14 01:51:40AM
116 posts



Hugs and loves, Hammer. It is hard to be left behind.

Zeca
@zeca
05/31/14 09:29:29AM
116 posts



Wonderful that your uncle has you, truly.Cutting or plucking chords is, I think a last resort solution for very unhealthy relationships where abuse is not stopping no matter what is tried. I think, like you do that they are important and a pathway for love in every other case. I've never had to sever. But I have heard cases where I understand the need.
Zeca
@zeca
05/26/14 01:10:06AM
116 posts

Why so serious?


Empath

You are in a good place, which is awesome! He needs your shine, but even though you are married and close, you are both going to trip if you are tied together at the ankles, {proverbially speaking}, your ways while near are not the same. He needs your love and your gratitude for keeping you both afloat. Acknowledge his devotion to your well being. I have such a man. I am forty three and have been given the gift of being home with my kids. He is giving you such a gift of love. Love him without reservation, listen with your optimistic heart so he knows you are present with him. He sounds like a very good man.

Zeca
@zeca
05/26/14 12:33:52AM
116 posts



I've only just seen this, and the date is last month on it, but I hope you've been in contact and encouraged a meeting. My only advice is if you feel like you have to walk on eggshells with him, not saying this is true, but if it were, consider the relationship very carefully. If the hope is for someone special and long term, his willingness to share his presence and communication are so vitally important. Hope all goes well.


updated by @zeca: 03/01/17 03:05:07AM
Zeca
@zeca
05/26/14 12:19:15AM
116 posts



I don't think 'moving on' is cause for shame. I know it can make you feel guilty, but it is a survival thing, in my opinion. I still have these people in my heart, I think of them, I still care for them, even though there is often no contact, but I am not bereft. I am grateful for the part they had in my life and they are dear. I cherish people, even as I have trouble being near them too much.

I've been this way, well, I remember being this way from about fourteen after a break up, when I realized that while he was a good person, he was not meant for me or I for him. And there was no point in pretending. He'd broken it off and had second thoughts, but I was done then. Same with moving and friends. I knew it to be necessary. I had to go.

Before, as a little child though, I was moved and it broke my heart. Until the day I realized my new home was as important/right as my childhood home.

To be honest, there are a couple people I've had a harder time letting go. Maybe I'll see them in my next life. Maybe there is more to be had between us.

Zeca
@zeca
05/25/14 11:08:43PM
116 posts



Jadeemane, as they say, do no harm, but take no shhhite. He is angry and insecure and will push you until you let go of any desire to cater to his whim. Empath does not mean doormat and your patience is doing you more harm than him good. This is a person that has come to teach you strength, by pushing you to develop it. It is a good thing. And not saying immerse yourself in his presence, not at all. But don't run either. It is your house. Your life. Chin up.

Zeca
@zeca
05/24/14 12:37:57AM
116 posts



Realize their issues with you are probably projections, their own stuff. You can feel it, but you needn't own it. Much harder said than done, but try.


updated by @zeca: 02/26/17 08:03:43PM
Zeca
@zeca
04/16/14 02:13:50PM
116 posts



Of all the crowds to be found, I think music crowds are the best to be around. If it really doesn't float your boat right now, don't go. But if you are any bit hesitant to miss out, I'd go with the intent to be infused with music and happy emotion.


updated by @zeca: 01/13/17 02:49:23AM
Zeca
@zeca
12/24/13 06:54:04PM
116 posts

Help


Empath

I am really sorry, Chris, truly, but hold on. The pain is there for a reason, and when you can get back up, and it may be a while, you can work to make it better, work it out. You'll have to figure that one out. But you can, in time. Love to you.

Zeca
@zeca
11/19/13 08:18:54PM
116 posts



In you and through you, the universe flows.

Zeca
@zeca
11/19/13 08:17:48PM
116 posts



I don't think it is conceit. I think it to be energy and expectation. Yours to be exact. Things are flowing in you. It's all good.


updated by @zeca: 01/13/17 02:24:52AM
Zeca
@zeca
11/19/13 08:02:45PM
116 posts



It takes me a minute or two, and then she switches frequently. Harder to get her to go counterclockwise and she starts out clockwise, but I can.

Zeca
@zeca
09/13/13 10:41:05AM
116 posts

Being treated like a celebrity at times


Empath

Take your week of solitude, Jonny, the world can handle it. Irritable empaths are not a favor. Love you, and rest dammit.

And I think we come off far more confidant than we feel, somehow... we kinda know what we want, what is simple and good and don't beat around the bush. Occasionally I feel I just make decisions, cause they make sense, but I don't always wait for people's thoughts to reach their mouths, and so I think they think they didn't have a say, even though I was pretty sure we were on the same page to begin with. I try to back off, but I get impatient with long verbal trades when I already know the gist. Then I wonder how people put up with me... but they do, regardless of how much time I insist on hiding.

Zeca
@zeca
09/05/13 01:00:37PM
116 posts



I remember children when I was in high school, committing suicide. I didn't see it coming. And I believe that was entirely on purpose, the hiding, I mean. And still I can't always pick out what is me, someone else, but I had so little awareness then of what I might be capable of. I've been thinking about it since that time.

The word scared my parents. It was not to be taken lightly. The two things I got from them though in talking about the kids in school, were that once it was done, there was no changing it, or anything, and that it would devastate your loved ones. As a parent, my response to this idea is that once you leave, you can't get us back. You may come back, but to what, and where, who knows? It is unlikely we'd know each other and you'd still be working on your 'stuff'. The circumstances just change, the lessons will remain similar until you understand. So if things are pretty decent, stick around and see what can be done with this life.

I've lived years with depression, since about 27, and I know how to hold my stuff together to be social as needed. I don't go out of my way to be social when things are bad, but if I have to, I can look almost cheerful. And most people are not going to look farther. Even people I believe are empathic will not dig past my effort to get by. Most of them are busy enough with the onslaught of their daily challenges as sensitive people. Every one of them would help if asked, but empaths rarely burden others with their pain. And that brings me to people who are so sad, they 'leave'. I believe many are sensitive. Maybe most. Some will be empaths. I read an article by an author that I respect, about the number of writers that take their lives, that they had a high incidence, but it was a plea to carry on. I think many of these people are if not empaths [probably often not aware], then sensitive and likely on the path, but most importantly, the hope for better or different has left them or the sadness drowned them.

For me, I have dealt with it for long enough that I see cycles. That I've come out of some of my worst pain, that I can, for a while. But I've seen that place where dying looks like release.

I had a good childhood, and was not in danger until I'd had time to grow and begin understanding, and my stance is 'change'. If it gets that bad, everything is open to major change. I believe in the ability to walk away. Even if wherever you go, there you are, still, change offers possibilities. I think just believing I can make changes, allows me to work through the worst of it, or just rest and wait until I can get up and try again. It is alright to back off. I think if rest and change were better understood in society, we'd see less desperation.

My way of coping with the loss of a person who has left is my feeling that they 'went home' to rest. They are soul, they left this incarnation. They are not dead, they just were done with this experience, this time. It is devastating for those left behind. That is the hardest part. They want more than anything to make and allow for the change and hope and help that might have kept their loved one's here. That is those of them with family and friends. Imagine how hard it is without one or the other, or both. And sometimes I think some lives are just too intense given what you have to work with. Sometimes, we are born incompatible with life, maybe with a 'heart condition' that won't give us long, and I mean that either way.

Love to you.

Zeca
@zeca
09/02/13 03:07:55PM
116 posts

rough day for me


Empath

I am sorry. I have a bit of an online habit, but nobody is going to die if I am on facebook or here or whatever. Maybe kids have to wait a bit for dinner, but nobody is starving. Frankly, if I were in the truck with her, I'd rip it out of her hand and toss it out the window. I don't have a death wish. And like comet chaser says, most of the rest of the drivers don't either.

While I am generally very understanding, my 17 year old is out on the road too and in a less than two years, my second son will have his license too.

Sometimes with extreme behaviour, extreme wake up calls are in order. Again, I am sorry. Your job is not going to be easy, but consider the alternative.

Zeca
@zeca
09/01/13 11:27:50PM
116 posts

Empath dream


Empath

Though I do know some people in my dreams, I don't think I knew this couple, though I think there may have been someone I did know too, I can't remember. I often get combinations of people.

And I've also read that we go help in our dreams. I like that idea. I hope it is true and I was in fact exhausted upon waking. I don't remember what I actually said to the girls, but maybe it doesn't matter that I remember here. I truly wonder about the incredible things we don't know yet, about the magic humans are capable of. I get to see some here, and it is another reason I love reading, especially authors and people who dare to open up. Thanks for sharing too :)

Zeca
@zeca
09/01/13 12:31:06PM
116 posts

Empath dream


Empath

I had an empath dream last night. I don't remember the entire sequence, but there was a couple who I knew in the dream. They had little children, and were separating, she was moving to California and I was expected to drive her and the children there though I think I knew the father better or was relating more to him. The thing is though, the whole while interacting with them, I was crying so hard, and they were not, just sad, but I was utterly heartbroken and in the dream, I knew it was because they were in so much pain and neither was expressing it for themselves. [I think the husband was the man that played Bilbo, lol].

Later I told the two girl children something, and was told it was not appropriate, like they were too young to hear it or something. And I said, 'If I'm asked, I will tell the truth. I am an empath'. { I don't go around telling people this but I told him. I think to help explain all the crying as well.

-------------------------

I mention this because I've found that in my past, for those that can cry, I remain strong and listen and don't feel inclined to cry, [unless the pain is something that affects us both individually], but I've seen that for those that can't cry, I will cry for them. It is not like a decision. It just happens. I've cried deeply for people I would expect and some I would not expect, because I have long distance relationships with them, and really know them very little, and yet, when they've been in terrible pain [death or divorce] it spills out of me, whether in a wracking deluge, or sometimes just silent tears. I know I have a connection to these people, but was still surprised when their pain hit me so hard over long distances.


updated by @zeca: 01/13/17 02:22:48AM
Zeca
@zeca
09/01/13 10:36:01AM
116 posts

Tiring


Empath

It does sound like a bunch of knee jerk yammering and drama. But I think while they do love you, they are caught in some silly looping chat with each other, that they aren't thinking clearly enough to get out of. I think their expression of worry is in fact inclusive and nice. It means you are on their mind, in their hearts, even if they can't find their way out of an unproductive drama that really has little to do with any sort of reality. Communicate as you do, and try not to worry about the overhead chitchat. I find I can be prey to that too. Like I take things way to literally sometimes and I become confused when people say they want to get together, and then don't answer my emails. And I think at the moment of saying that, they really do want to make something happen, but the moment you are not standing there and they no longer feel the social need to make arrangements, their priorities revert back to where they were before you showed up. And lol, I know this because I've done it on occasion myself, so I don't get very bent when it happens to me. And yet, I still sometimes come out confused due to their enthusiasm when we talked...

I am actually pretty bad with phone calls. In part because my life is not so exciting most of the time and I can feel the boredom on the other end of the line. And I wouldn't share it, but people keep calling and wanting to chat, when I have very little to say.

So, don't take the worry literally. Take it as love with the wrong words, but good intent. And carry on being you. It sounds like you communicate plenty, but maybe I am not a good judge, cause most people have learned they have to call me. That or my very infrequent need to chat just doesn't come often enough to suit them. Good luck Jonny. Honest communication can be so damned tricky.

Zeca
@zeca
08/27/13 10:51:49PM
116 posts



We just took a vacation too, and I feel actually really good, which considering my recent year is such a relief. We did rivers and lakes, but oceans are wonderful, I love them too.

Zeca
@zeca
08/07/13 01:39:35PM
116 posts

Is being overwhelmed a normal issue for Empaths?


Empath

Yes, I feel overwhelmed very easily too. I feel expectations too, and they along with emotions can push me under very quickly. And to add to that, a houseful of family and never enough time or energy to make much of a dent in the chaos. And actually I like a certain amount of chaos, but it tramples me too, I know.

So far, my only solutions are backing off from society/resting, and working on my positive thoughts. This is always a battle between the voice of condemnation and should's and gentle intelligence and love.

Even though I can 'see' a person, I've been very gullible through my life, and people could in fact confuse me pretty easily, on the surface. Under the surface, I always knew enough core information to make my way with people, even looking the gullible fool on the outside. I feel lies, sometimes, and often too late I realize the off feeling was a lie. I can feel manipulation as if it were a fog horn though and quickly, but sometimes it is easier just to let it be and deal in a passive aggressive manner, which I admit is not a good solution, but to avoid confrontations I think it is used by empaths frequently.

I feel like this is a bit scattered, but hopefully you get something from it.

Zeca
@zeca
08/04/13 07:51:49PM
116 posts



Local [crucial] raw honey, preferably from a beekeeper in your neighborhood. And reduce your dairy intake as much as you can during allergy season, none would be best, but that's hard. Also recommend documentaries on food, if you haven't already looked. How is your salt intake/processed food consumption? There is a lot of learning we can do and much that we can help ourselves with even without insurance. If you are in school, the nurse may have some options for help with insurance or other options for seeing doctors, if your blood pressure is scaring you. I'm afraid I don't know very much about blood pressure accept that my dad takes medication for it.

No, I don't get sick that long, but I have had two summer sore throat/cough/congestion which is not usual and one was right during allergy season, pretty miserable. I take vitamin C, as often as I can remember to. My body is crashing in other ways though.

This is hard to hear, but being sick is often an issue, as well as diet and immunity. I find if I am sick, I get a --justification for being left alone and not being social/busy/responsible -- card. I'm working on that one, but it is an ongoing thing. I do however believe that we have the power to overcome this. Somehow. I have to hope anyhow as I think I probably have fibromyalgia.


updated by @zeca: 12/19/16 08:02:38PM
Zeca
@zeca
08/04/13 10:28:17AM
116 posts

This connection


Empath

In the end, people have to solve their own problems. That being said, it helps to know friends and family are on your side. That they believe in your strength to overcome. I think the best way to help her, and yourself, is to be a friend, as much of one as she can respond to. Be loving, encouraging, be subtle with it, and be warmth, be kindness, a whisper of care with nary a demand for attention. There may be more to the two of you, there may be not, but as I see it, your best intention would be for friendship either way.

Zeca
@zeca
08/04/13 10:04:44AM
116 posts

who is a people watcher


Empath

Absolute people watcher since I can remember. I don't go out of my way, I like being home with just family, but anytime I am out, I am watching. I watch my husband and kids too, for that matter. I think most mothers do though.

I was a bit careless as a child, blatant staring. I prefer not to bring myself to attention that way though, so I curb it a bit better now. But I am always interested in people being people.

I love it when people who notice, smile.

Zeca
@zeca
07/25/13 05:17:40PM
116 posts



I can't leave this one out, it is where I go when I can't take anymore anything.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fo_enc7uKYU

Careful, you may fall in love with him.

Zeca
@zeca
07/25/13 05:00:23PM
116 posts



If that is not an empath song, I dunno what is, awesome. I love Natalie Merchant too. One of her songs though, 'beloved wife', I can't hear without crying. Her voice is amazing, powerful.

Zeca
@zeca
07/25/13 04:52:44PM
116 posts



I do that too, I love Youtube!

Zeca
@zeca
07/25/13 11:43:17AM
116 posts



Had to add this one too. I put this one up before. An empath on one of those days, you all know the ones.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TSFF5PveANo

Zeca
@zeca
07/25/13 11:18:29AM
116 posts



Here is mine, I mean there are so many! But this is mine. The logical song is coincidentally the second of mine, and I heard it this morning on the radio, how's that for serendipity?

Anyhew... picked this version because it has lyrics below in the comments.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zSAJ0l4OBHM

 / 3