Thanks for the pep talk, it helps.
Not being attached to the outcome is so necessary in other situations as well. When we do a favor for someone, we may be attached to the outcomes of being thanked and having them do something for us. That may not happen, and we get disappointed. I learned to let go of it intros cases, but also keep watching for a pattern of a person who never thanks anyone, and never does anyone good turn. I run from those, since they may be narcs and will drain me.
I have a two-pronged problem with this. One is that I am an INFJ, and the J is my strongest score, at 92%, which is freakishly high. For those who aren't familiar with the MBTI personality types, that means I am very much into seeing justice done, and I want life to be fair, which it isn't. I have problems with that too....I have a lot of questions! The other is that I have late stage Lyme disease, and it is in my brain. This results in a thing called Lyme Rage, which is simply awful. It is one reason why I am mostly a hermit now. I have about 1/2 second to get control of myself, or the rage is off and running and I do not even remember what I said later. It has actually helped in 2 cases where horrible neighbors were driving me crazy, and I was kind to them despite it for 4 and 12 yrs., respectively, until they finally pushed me so hard I went into Lyme rages. I scared them so much, they ran away from me and haven't bothered me since. I hate to lower myself to that level, but it did work and nothing else had. It's a sad comment that non-reaction only encouraged them.
I am very glad that you now have a great job with a good boss! That is rare and something to be grateful for. I will keep working on non-attachment, since I agree how important it is. I do think it is far harder for empaths to do though. My husband compartmentalizes things, which I learned in psych classes is a much more common thing in men than women. He just puts things he doesn't like away somewhere and locks them up and lets them go. If you can do that, you are lucky. wish I could do that!