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Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/29/17 12:13:58PM
1,227 posts

Has anyone done a past life regression?


Empath

@calmidwester,

Are you familiar with healing hands therapy where they just move their hands over you in certain energy patterns and do not even have to touch you? The most famous for teaching this is the Barbara Brennan School of Healing. I had a session with a practitioner once where I could feel her moving inside me. It was kind of scary actually.  (All of these readings and sessions were before the 2008 crash rendered me too poor to do such things any longer).

She told me she was given a clear message that she would not be allowed to heal me, since my chosen life purpose this time was to heal myself  through spiritual means only. She said that is why every time I've found a medication or supplement that works, I have an allergic reaction to it, which is true and has horribly frustrated me.  I will not be allowed to heal any other way. I feel I've bitten off far more than I can chew with this. I know how I need to live and think that would go a long way, but don't know how to get there anymore on my own, since I chose my marriage over my preferred way of life before I knew I was an empath and needed it to be okay. That was a long time ago, and that has cost me my health. To be fair, there is no practical way for my spouse to earn a living at what he has always done in a rural area, and we are both too sick to live far from help, but I feel the pull to one place so strongly I would step out on faith and trust that would all take care of itself. 

Please do let us know what happens in your regression session. Curious minds want to know, lol....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/29/17 09:48:37AM
1,227 posts

Has anyone done a past life regression?


Empath

I had a past life review done by a local psychic who had her own TV show at the time. The review was cheaper than a full blown regression, and since I can see what people are thinking if emotion is involved, I simply watched what she was seeing in her head and saw what she was telling me about w/o having to be under hypnosis.

The purpose was to find out why I am so unhealthy in this lifetime and what I can do about it. She showed me many lifetimes in a row with illnesses and injuries and said she thinks I've simply forgotten what it feels like to be healthy, since I've had so many lives full of illness. I also got to see my last healthy lifetime, which took place a long time ago when Sparta and Athens, Greece were city states, at war with each other. That was also my last life as a man, so I guess I'm overdue to be one again.

I've read Brian Weiss too, and hoped that knowing the reason for the illness would make the sickness leave, as he says he has often seen after a regression, but that did not happen, maybe because it was not a true regression. I have continued to be more and more ill, and despite the reading, I believe it is happening because I am trapped living in a situation that is intolerable for an empath. I am much too overstimulated in the noisy, crowded  city where I cannot control my  contact with people and the noises they make, etc., and I need to go back into the woods where I used to live, away from this sick society, but have no way to do it, now that I am too sick to live alone and can't drive anymore. My husband refuses to move. He is not a risk taker. 

The most interesting thing to come out of my reading was confirmation by the psychic, with 95% of details the same, of a series of dreams I'd had about a previous incarnation in England in 1550, in which an inlaw in this life tried to kill me in that previous life. She failed, but severely injured me, ruining that life and cutting it short. It explains why I never could stand being around her. She passed a few months ago w/o having made any effort at all to make up the karma, which was why I felt we were put together in this life. Oh well. I did a ritual I found online to free her from that karma, since I'd rather not come back and be with her again. I'd rather just forgive and forget if it keeps me from having to come back to this looney bin. 

I hope you get some help from your experiments with this!

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/27/17 12:32:29AM
1,227 posts

Requesting a reading on what field to work in.


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Hi merin-eliz,

None of this post has to do with your job question, sorry! it is all about other things you mentioned.

Re: The TV show ZOO:   The show is called The Zoo. Go to www.animalplanet.com and I think you may be able to watch it online. There are lots of interesting video clips and articles there about it. They just hatched some  rare penguin chicks that you can watch.....adorable. Last week they did surgery on a flamingo's leg, helped find a picky, nocturnal Kiwi a mate she liked, tagged sand sharks, moved king cobras so they wouldn't eat each other, put down a sick snow leopard, and more. I hope you can get the animal planet channel where you are, but if not, you may be able to see a lot online.....I don't know what country you are in. :-)

Re: The drug withdrawal:  I am up at 3 am typing this with my orange glasses on to block the blue light from the computer screen, having gotten zero sleep so far tonight, besides a total of 8 hrs. sleep in the last 5 days put together. From now on I am sleeping whenever I can. At 3 pm, I was fighting to stay awake, having been told not to take naps. No more listening to experts. This is far too serious now and I will sleep whenever I possibly can so I don't have a heart attack. I agree it can cause more damage while GABA receptors are trying to get back online in my brain. I could get any major disease from lack of sleep, or become psychotic. My A1C has already jumped from normal to bad. It horrifies me that many doctors are taking people off benzos cold turkey or very fast ( 6 wk. rehab is common and not nearly enough). I read the blog of an M. D. who had that done to her and 6 of her friends, all trying to get off. She lost 4 yrs. of her life and had to be cared for 24/7 for 10 months. All 6 of her friends committed suicide. 

Wishing you sweet, drug free dreams, once it's bedtime where you are,

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/26/17 02:55:22PM
1,227 posts

Requesting a reading on what field to work in.


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Thank you, Calmidwester.

I am what is known as an "accidental addict" since it was prescribed, I never took extra, and in fact was constantly trying to get off of it. I succeeded in getting off all by myself 3 times, but all 3 times, I could not walk within 3 days of stopping due to the muscle spasms returning. Nobody knew what Lyme Disease was back then and it took 21 yrs. for me to be correctly diagnosed. I wish I had stayed off way back then, but it was  either that or a wheelchair at the time.

I hope your friend's child got off and stayed off of the heroin. These things can be so tough with no easy answers. I hate to see these things  banned due  to kids who get in trouble, when some people really have no life without them. For example, My husband is in awful pain from 49 yrs. of construction work, and must take Oxycodone to be able to continue working, and that is basically synthetic heroin. He has no genetic tendency to be addicted like I do, and can stop taking things easily, but it is still very bad for his health. Without it, he could not work and probably could not function enough to want to live anymore. I have seen this happen to people due to doctor's cutting off those who are in real pain due to fears of addiction. Their lives are taken away from them and they can no longer be productive or have any quality of life. That is the flip side of this problem. 

I will shut up now and let us get back to helping merin-eliz decide on his future job. :-)

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/26/17 11:04:39AM
1,227 posts

Requesting a reading on what field to work in.


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Meditation was impossible for me at first, but with the supplements I am taking now, I can listen to isochronic beat music with subliminal sleep messages. That alone is not nearly enough. Withdrawal from this drug (xanax) causes sheer terror, severe shaking, raging anger, crying, sweating, nausea, throwing up, hallucinations, heart attacks, seizures, muscle pain, high blood sugar and pressure, racing pulse, and a lot more.  I am using all natural treatments, including the strongest one alt. docs I know of prescribe for this problem, Seriphos. Removing the Xanax removes the brakes from the fight or flight nervous system, so your "rest and digest" functions are turned off entirely. I have a minimum of 60 more weeks of tapering off of this, since it is life-threatening to quit it too fast, so thanks for the prayers. I am seeing a holistic therapist in two weeks for advice. It will also take a minimum of 17 years to get my brain function back, if it does come back, so I will not live to see complete recovery. I hope this will scare anyone reading this away from benzodiazepine drugs. They are never worth it! Back when I was put on them, they were not even sure they were addictive, or so they said.....I don't trust Big Pharma as far as I can throw them. 

I hope the job works out for you. It sounds very interesting and rewarding in terms of service to others......the number one requirement for happiness in a job for most of us who are empaths. Designing humane zoos will become very important as we continue to lose species in the wild at a rapid rate. There is a really good TV show on right now called "Zoo" about the Bronx Zoo in NYC and what goes on behind the scenes that is very interesting, if you can get it where you live. 

Regards,

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/26/17 10:19:27AM
1,227 posts

Requesting a reading on what field to work in.


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I would LOVE to get some sleep. I am withdrawing from the hardest class of drugs to get off of in existence......it's harder than heroin to quit (benzodiazepines). It was prescribed for me for 33 years for muscle spasms, but is now destroying both my body and brain. Recent research shows they cause dementia. I have joined a huge forum for others also doing this, and severe insomnia seems to be the number one problem. I am trying every supplement suggested with no result other than nice relaxation, but no sleep. Some of us end up on other addictive drugs for the insomnia. I do not want to be one of those! Prayers are appreciated. Thank you for the concern and best of luck with whichever job you go with......

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/26/17 09:59:54AM
1,227 posts

Requesting a reading on what field to work in.


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In the vision, you were in a large office in a city, and you were discussing something with two other coworkers. I did not feel you were the boss, but neither were either of them. One of them was higher up than you, but not an administrator. Few of us start out in administration, so maybe that would be something happening later on, or more likely, I was not seeing the administrative position but the other one or maybe a third job you don't know about yet. I do think the job was new, since there were no other pieces of furniture in the office, which was very strange and could symbolize the start of a new job. You seemed to be part of a team, so you would be working with people, and you seemed to like the people you were talking to, since you were smiling and laughing. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/26/17 09:26:11AM
1,227 posts

Requesting a reading on what field to work in.


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Hi merino-eliz,

     When I read this, right away I saw you standing next to a drafting board, wearing earth toned clothes, all browns and greens......brown pants, an olive green shirt, and a brown vest and cap. 

    This could be symbolic. It does not necessarily mean you would be an artist or graphic designer. I do feel some connection to earth/nature is involved somehow though.

     Drafting boards are used for all sorts of  things.......you could be designing sky scrapers with roof top gardens, zoo layouts, landscape designs, all sorts of things. You could be using an x-ray drafting board to look closely at plant leaves for diseases in some kind of scientific research. Loads of possibilities.

   I hope something makes sense here. I have been extremely sleep deprived lately, so I may be way off in some galaxy far, far, away, lol, in which case, I hope you get a good laugh out of this. 

   namaste, ;-)

   C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/23/17 02:25:46PM
1,227 posts

Zodiac Signs of the characters in Alice in Wonderland


New Age

Hi merin-eliz!

This thread is really a blast from the past! I wonder though.....where are all of Snake Medicine's posts that we are replying to? They do not show up on my screen. I hope that is not the case for you, or this may be rather hard to follow. 

I agree with you....I am not at all sure which sign the Caterpillar would be. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/18/17 12:32:46PM
1,227 posts

Requesting a life purpose reading


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Welcome cistamonte,

     I can't give you the answer you are looking for, but I can give you what I got, FWIW. When I saw the title of this, before I even had a chance to click on it and read it, I was shown and told loudly TEACHING, and I saw you surrounded by a tight circle of about ten teenagers in a classroom painted a fern green color with a blackboard and light colored desk behind you. Girls were wearing green tops and plaid skirts, boys were in green polo shirts. This may be symbolic, or signify a religious school. The teaching may involve economics or business practices in some way and may even be some kind of extra-curricular activity for those interested in learning about having their own businesses. I know teaching is probably not what you wanted to hear, but it is what I got, and I got it very strongly, so I am throwing it out there for you to ponder......

Glad to have you here at EC,

Cheshire Cat

     

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/12/17 09:36:19AM
1,227 posts

Energy body restoration/ soul retrieval


Healers

Hi GEH,

You mentioned leaking energy.....I was told by a psychic once that I had loads of tiny holes leaking Chi energy out of my aura (just like bijoublue said above). I had seen a diagram of this before in a book by Barbara Brennan about her Healing Hands school. One of her trained practitioners worked on me once too. In case of interest, she was told in no uncertain terms she would not be allowed to heal me because I had chosen healing through spiritual means only as my life's work this time around. Biting off much more than I can chew.....sounds just like something I would do, lol. 

Lyme Disease aka borrelia burgdorferri is a pleomorphic bacteria, so it changes shape to evade the immune system, and one of it's shapes has no cell wall as you mentioned. In it's spirochete form it can also burrow into places the immune system does not reach (it shocked me to know there are such places!). People can have it for years and not get sick. Most Americans are carriers now....literally ticking time bombs. I had it until I moved to a place I detested where I did and still do not fit in, and had to work in a job that made me cry on a daily basis. Then my immunity was lowered and it came out.

And, yes, these parasitical creatures can cause any type of mental anguish you can imagine, including dementia and homicidal rages. That is one reason why almost 1/3 of us who have it kill ourselves eventually. I am dealing with severe cortisol induced insomnia caused by them right now and despite supplements designed to help this, am averaging about 2.5 hrs. of sleep per night for months now. My short term memory is shot and so is my ability to make sensible decisions or play necessary social games that life requires, and worst of all, my abilities are gone due to this deprivation. My throat chakra has  gone from dark to light blue.....maybe that is why. 

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
03/01/17 09:53:23AM
1,227 posts

Sleep issues


Empath

I have serious sleep issues myself, a lot of it due to the mega-stress of being in withdrawal from a long term prescribed drug (xanax) in the same class as valium....please DO NOT take that sh*t! It is crazy addictive and harder to get off of than heroin!

As a result, I've found the usual suggestions of valerian, Mg, chamomile, lemon balm, passionflower, epsom salt baths, etc. to be way too weak to help me, though I do take Mg for other reasons and have found the ionic powder to be the strongest form for me. 

Major stress causes cortisol to be raised at night, when it should be lower. If stress is a problem, I highly recommend PhosphatidylSerine. It is the only thing strong enough to work for me. Take it about 4 hrs. before you need it to work and repeat during the night if needed. It is safe to take a lot more than what is on the label if needed. I've found Jarrow brand sofgels to be the strongest bang for the least buck.

During the day, Theanine is known as "the natural xanax" and is great for calming without drowsiness. If you are really stressed out, I highly recommend tart Cherry extract capsules, which can increase your exercise tolerance, lower inflammation and raise your melatonin and serotonin all at once, and it is quite affordable. It can  be taken every 2 hours if needed.

I also switched all night lights in our house to red bulbs to block blue light and I wear orange glasses for an hour before bed time and every time I get up during the night. They are dirt cheap at Amazon and will block the blue light that turns off your melatonin. Blue light is why screens of any kind are bad close to bed time or if you are up during the night. The glasses will allow you to use the screens anyway if you need to. Likewise, bedside clocks  with blue numbers should be switched  for ones with red numbers. Just two seconds of blue light can stop your melatonin production for the night. 

I've tried  loads of things, but these are getting me through literal hell that will go on for at least one more year. I still have some partly sleepless nights, but I no longer go totally w/o sleep, and I no longer shake like a leaf in the morning, or feel totally suicidal in the morning like I did. Long, slow walks taken in the morning can also help to wear off excess cortisol from stress, and getting outdoors doesn't hurt either. 

My memory is all but gone due to lack of sleep, and I am making loads of mistakes, so this can get serious, aside from the dramatically increased risk of major diseases in those who sleep less than 7 hrs. per night. I wish you all the best in healing this problem. 

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/20/17 12:47:55PM
1,227 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi corey,

Have you ever heard of a "walk-in"? That is the only thing I can think of that sounds like what you are talking about, but I wouldn't think you would be aware of it, if that was what happened. It sure is interesting!

C. Cat


updated by @cheshire-cat: 02/20/17 12:48:42PM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/20/17 12:46:31PM
1,227 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi hop-daddy,

  It felt to me at the time like the voice in my head in the 3rd story was my lead spirit guide. I've never heard from him again. I saw a mental picture of what he looked like. He was the bossy one, not the one that looked like the Archangel picture. I think that event did not have to happen, and since I'd had so much misery, he was strident about trying to spare me even more. 

  The first one was not threatening in tone of voice at all, just matter of fact, but I was just a kid and knew nothing about choosing lives, etc. and also had no idea it was an angel. It was also my first vision ever. That is why it scared me. I don't think it was malicious. I feel I was being offered a rare gift, a chance to go back on my stupidly overambitious choice. I have had spirits mess with me though and even pretend to be archangels, so I know what you mean. I ask now if they are of the light and find they cannot lie about that. The fakes will often speak to me using their mouths and I've never had anything but telepathy from real ones.

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/20/17 12:37:36PM
1,227 posts

Astrology is all wrong?!


New Age

Wow, Lotusfly! Like merin-eliz I had also seen Indian astrology and the differences in it and wondered what was going on. My husband of 31 years and I were supposed to be an awful match before and now I think it is even worse, lol! I will go look it up. 

It makes sense, as I had even asked his mother if he was born late, since he acts so much more like the sign before him, which is what the link says he is. I also have had close to a whopping 90% of my exes and friends in my life from the sign this says I really am, one not particularly a good match for me in my sign according to western astrology. I guess they aren't really the same sign though......they'd be the one before it, which is not a good match. 

Both of us do have some strong characteristics of the western signs, but they make up about 1/3 of who we are, I'd say, so this makes sense. 

I just saw something earlier today which said your present rising sign can tell you all about your past life and why your karma is what it is now in this life. It said your sun sign in your last life was the sign prior to your rising sign in this life. That would imply linear reincarnation though, and I do not believe time exists.......this is all enough to make you pull your hair out!

Very interesting......

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/19/17 12:38:52PM
1,227 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

Well, hop-daddy, I may have you reading for hours here if you want stories......I'll have to choose my stories, otherwise I'll be here all day typing. I will pick 3 very different ones and then shut up. I could go on all day, especially about my recurrent series of reincarnational dreams, and my big, white ruined building dreams, which are constant, but I won't. 

1) I was 8 yrs. old and had no religious training. My parents were atheists. I was born spiritual and decided to study world religions myself, to find the "right" one. I know better now, but was only  a kid then. One night during this time, I woke up to see a huge man standing against the wall by my bed. He was so tall his head hit the ceiling. He wore a black toga with gold dental trim, had shoulder length, curly dark blonde hair, and held a huge sword upright in his hand. Telepathically, he told me that when Jesus came, if I did not stop looking at him, I would die. Then I saw a tiny Jesus speeding towards me from far away and knew when it got to me I would be dead. I was terrified and dived under the covers, putting them over my head. Later, my best friends, who were Catholic, told me I'd seen an Archangel. I had no idea what it was, since my idea of angels was secular, ie. small fairy like beings floating around in white with wings. They got me a card from their church with the exact angel on it holding the sword upright. I believe it was either Michael or Gabriel; not sure anymore which one it is that always holds that sword upright. I now realize I was being given a chance to get out of this lifetime I had chosen, as I'd been warned I may have bitten off too much. I have had a hellaciously difficult and painful life. If I had it to do over, I would have taken the chance and left, but at the time I was just a scared kid. 

2) I had a dream of sitting around a round table with a whole bunch of women I'd never seen and having a long conversation. For some reason, I remembered every bit of this seemingly mundane dream. Two months later, I had just started a new job, when I walked into a committee meeting and realized that here was that room and those people. The meeting proceeded and the conversation was word for word the same as in my dream. 

3) I was newly engaged and meeting a couple of friends of my finance's for the first time. After dinner, we walked toward a huge lawn which ended in a pier over water. It was very dark outside by then. Just before stepping onto the lawn, I heard a man's authoritative voice in my head, which conveyed info at a speed that would be impossible on earth. It told me if I walked across the lawn, I would be stung and have a major allergic reaction. I had never had an allergic reaction to stings and had been stung many times, it was dark and stinging insects go back to the hive or nest at night, there were no flowers anywhere; in short it was totally illogical, and I thought if I tell these people what just happened and that I can't walk across that lawn, they will think their friend is marrying a nut case, so I said nothing and went ahead. I was wearing sandals. We got all the way across the lawn and were two feet from the pier when I thought to myself how ridiculous that was and I am so glad I did not listen to whatever that was. It was right after that when I felt the stinger go into my big toe. The reaction started immediately. To cut to the chase, by the time they got me to the ER, my pulse was 232, and I'd been begging God all the way there that if he let me live I would listen to anything that voice said to me in the future. I've been allergic to stinging insects ever since then and now wear socks with my sandals, lol.

Cheshire Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/10/17 02:08:28PM
1,227 posts

15 Powerful Beliefs That Will Free You From Negativity


Library of Light

Yikes, hop-daddy,

    I think that might scare people. ;-)   Seriously though, I felt like I was light years older than those other kids in suburbia when I arrived, even though I was actually a year younger, having been allowed to skip a grade. Naive does not even begin to describe how they seemed to me. Not that being as worldly as I was at that age is a good thing. It's definitely not. I never got to be a kid in many ways.

    A cat that disappears leaving nothing but a smile behind is strange enough.......and I'm so out of practice by now (I am about to turn 66) if I tried any switchblade tricks, I'd be off to the emergency room post haste! 

   I am just very glad you jumped in and helped those kids. Sadly, at my school the athletes were the most common ones doing the bullying. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/10/17 01:54:33PM
1,227 posts

15 Powerful Beliefs That Will Free You From Negativity


Library of Light

hop-daddy,

     I can totally relate to your story. I grew up in a very tough inner city area and was in a street gang ( an all female one!). We moved to a nice suburban city when I was 12 and it was a real culture shock. I was teased at first due to my tough looking clothing, but nobody did it more than once, like you said, and I quickly learned to change my wardrobe, and ditch the switchblade, lol. I never gave a sh*t about being "in", since I was lumped in with the "brains" anyway, and always immediately came to the defense of anyone being bullied, especially those who were teased about their old clothing, as a result of being poor like I had been. My steady boyfriend all through high school was 6'5" and didn't take anything from anyone, so I was never hassled, despite deliberately doing my best to humiliate the bullies. 

    I do think we empaths would notice this behavior more than others and rush in to defend the victims of it. I would be surprised if we didn't.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/10/17 10:44:58AM
1,227 posts

Ghosts,Spirits, or Guides maybe?


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi rhyanon,

     Were these "comet-like" apparitions pointing in any particular direction or just floating in many directions? The reason I ask is that I had a psychic see the same thing when reading me once, but the comet-like white energies were all moving away from me, with the rounder, denser heads moving away from my body as if they were shooting out of me and leaving temporary spaces in my aura as they left. 

      She told me my aura was leaking Chi, aka the life force. She said this happens when people have one foot here and one foot still on the other side, since they are not sure they really want to be here on earth. In my case, that really hit the nail on the head and still does.

     This may not apply to you at all, but I thought I'd ask, just in case, since I've never seen orbs with comet-like points, which seem to imply they are streaking away in a certain direction.

     If not, maybe they are spirits of loved ones who like to be around you. That would be nice. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/07/17 02:08:45PM
1,227 posts

Empath Related Illnesses


Empath

lucky-seven,

Thank you for the prayers, and I will pray for you also. There is someone on YouTube named Victor Oddo who has a huge series of very practical videos on how to handle the awakening and many on being an empath that you may enjoy, if not already familiar with him. 

Hang in there,

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/07/17 02:06:32PM
1,227 posts

Empath Related Illnesses


Empath

Hop-Daddy,

     For me the stress was producing massive amounts of cortisol, especially in the morning, when it's already highest. I am now on 3 supplements for that and am sleeping again and have even been able to speed up my withdrawal.

     In the case of burnout, it's usually just the opposite and you could use higher cortisol, so adaptogens make sense, unless you have high blood pressure. I've found they all raise it a lot, no matter the claims to the contrary. I hope you have one that works for you. 

 C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
02/06/17 01:26:06PM
1,227 posts

I think we can all relate


Empath

Excellent post, Rene. It explains why so many of us are depressed too, or maybe I should just speak for myself in interpreting it that way.

Thanks,

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/29/17 01:33:57PM
1,227 posts

Empath Related Illnesses


Empath

lucky-seven,

   Of course I appreciate your prayers, and I will add you to my prayer list also. I am very glad your dad gave you a message that will keep you around. I've lived long enough to know the future is rarely what we imagine it to be, and most negative things we worry about never come to pass or end up having a good reason for them in the end,  though it may take a long time for the good part to arrive. I just have to remind myself of that a lot, and I hope you will too.

   Take care,

    C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/28/17 10:34:31AM
1,227 posts

Empath Related Illnesses


Empath

Hop-daddy,

     When I started my long withdrawal from benzos recently, the intense fear and anxiety to the point of terror that is generated even by slowly removing the drug took away almost all my abilities and my trust in my judgement. I assume they will not return until I am done withdrawing, which will take at least two years! I do miss them, and feel at a disadvantage when making decisions about people. Since fear is the very lowest vibration, I am not surprised this happened and am certainly not happy about it. 

    You've gotten sick several times very close together, and your immunity may be low or your adrenals worn out. If so, it will take awhile to come back to normal, especially if it's low adrenal function and you don't treat yourself with great kindness, ie. put yourself first! Saying you are no longer anxious at all is a huge clue your adrenals may be worn out from all that sickness. If you look up "adrenal fatigue" you will find loads of suggestions on how to recover. 

Best wishes for your health,

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/24/17 11:55:47AM
1,227 posts

15 Powerful Beliefs That Will Free You From Negativity


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Dear Bing,

     Thank you so much for this timely post, especially #15. I've had a hard life, but am going through by far the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with, and it will take more than two years of enduring. I have a sticky note on my computer that says Gratitude! five times in bright colors. It reminds me to distract myself from the pity party and be glad for what I have. It's not easy, but it will be SO worth the freedom I will gain.

    Your posts are always inspiring,

    C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/17/17 08:06:10AM
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Memory Issues


Empath

Snap - Yes, I have stage IV Lyme Disease and a list too long to type of the diseases it causes long term. No, it is no longer curable and I have had all the treatment I could afford. I have total malabsorption of fats, since my body no longer makes any digestive enzymes, thanks to Lyme, and must take very expensive medicine to eat at all, with only a minimal amount of fat, or I would also have heavy cream....I envy you. I mostly drink plain Kefir. I use coconut oil to get more fats, since high fat is needed for Lyme, and coconut oil does not need to be digested at all. 

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/16/17 08:13:15PM
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Memory Issues


Empath

Snap - The prescribed diet by Lyme Disease expert doctors is no simple carbs, low complex carbs, medium protein and high fat (except trans fats). I find it does work best and it lowers lipids, proving what a scam the whole cholesterol thing is. :-)

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/16/17 07:10:09AM
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Memory Issues


Empath

Snap,

Alzheimer's is now being called Type 3 diabetes by some. I already eat a low carb, super healthy diet and do not have diabetes. I am checked every six months. The diet, which I've been on for a few years, also fixed my lipids, which are now normal for the first time in my life.

Lyme causes dementia all on it's own, so does brain damage from head injury, and so can long term use of benzos. It's a toss up as to which it is, or maybe all 3 in my case. Oh, old allergy drugs can also cause it, like Benadryl. 

I hope your dad will find a cause that can be helped for his problem.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
01/06/17 07:46:34AM
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Memory Issues


Empath

Hi snap,

Thanks for the good points you raised. It helps to get a scientist's point of view. I do know correlation doesn't equal causation, but it still sounds scary, especially when you are having symptoms like I am.

To emphasize one of the good points you made, I do have another circumstance that is supposed to give me a 4 times higher chance of getting AZD than average, which would be 400%, a lot more than the 84% from benzos. And you are correct that I have to ask 4 times what? The base risk is never mentioned in anything I've read. I had a closed head injury, and was declared dead at the scene. Surprise! I was just mostly unconscious for one day. It was found in studies of identical twins (Univ. of Minnesota) that previous closed head injury was the only factor affecting their differing rates of AZD later in life. They never said what the actual risk was that mine was 4 times higher than, so your point is well taken. 

Yesterday, I almost ran out of benzos, because the doctor's office was so busy, they hadn't looked at renewal messages for a couple of days. The law no longer allows you to call for renewals of controlled substances more than two days ahead of running out now. I finally sent them a fax, twice. Running out would have forced me to go to the ER to prevent death by seizure, heart attack or stroke, and they would have thrown me into inpatient detox, since most of these bozos do not understand that benzos cannot be withdrawn from fast like alcohol, heroin and opiates. (I did a pretty fast opiate withdrawal after the first 12 yrs. of my illness and though it was hell, it was a piece of cake compared to just lowering my dose of benzos). Fast withdrawal also causes heart attacks, etc. as well as the PAWS, which can go on for years and often results in patient suicide because it is unbearable. At the last possible minute, they called the script in, but I do not not want to be this dependent on a broken medical system. I don't like being dependent, period. 

So, I may spend what could be my last two years of life working my way off this poison, only to find I don't even know what planet I'm on by then, but if I don't try, I will be even more dependent, and will have raised my dose to the max and be stuck in tolerance withdrawal forever. I am at 3 mgs. daily now, and 4 mgs. is the max most docs will give you. So, I will try my damnedest to get off. 

I really am quite surprised that nobody here is on benzos after reading that empaths are 7 times more likely to be addicts, but I can hear you saying 7 times more likely than how much? Maybe people just don't want to admit taking them. I am angry, but not ashamed, since I was flat out lied to when I was put on these, and their addictive potential was unknown way back then. I am still being told I am dependent not addicted, as if that made a damn bit of difference when trying to get off of them. 

Thank you for pointing out the way stats can be manipulated to the desired effect. There is an excellent quote from Mark Twain about damn lies and statistics, but I cannot remember it at the moment. I am very slow to retrieve memories, one of the symptoms benzos can cause long term. I see stats used in the MSM all the time to create the fear porn that TPTB are constantly programming us with for their enjoyment and control. 

Namaste,

C. Cat

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01/05/17 07:53:26AM
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Memory Issues


Empath

Hi snap,

    I just pasted a quote  below from an article in Psychiatry Advisor. There are many more sources for this that I found easily. Yes, I am aware there are also studies that contradict this and I pray they are correct. Someone forgot to tell the CDC and the DEA though, and doctors are being scared off by the CDC guidelines, even if they are no good as you say.

     I went through this once before in the early 1980's, when the only drug that worked on my migraines was banned due to junkie abuse, and I lost my job as a result of the inadequate substitutes I was given, so I see the writing on the wall here. Sweden and Norway have banned benzos entirely and UK has restricted them. I can see a ban coming here on doctors writing scripts for benzos and not including adequate time for those who are hooked to get off. Yes, there are genetic differences in addiction. I know two people who took a benzodiazepine for 20 years, quit cold turkey and had zero withdrawal. All my doctors told me that is unusual though. I also read an online blog by a doctor who became bedridden for 10 months, forgot how to use a computer and much more basic stuff, and saw 6 of her friends commit suicide from being forcibly withdrawn too quickly from benzos. As I said, most docs will not write them anymore at all, at least not where I live, and evidently not where that doctor lives either. Rehabs tend to do it in 6 weeks, which is way too fast, unless you're on a low dose for a short time, for most of us. There are always lucky exceptions and I wish I was one, but I am not.  

     There is one expert who says people with Lyme, Fibro and CFS need some sort of anti seizure drug and he prefers Klonopin, a benzodiazepine. Another fibro expert says once you are well, it will be easy to come off the benzodiazepine. Maybe so, I do not know, but I am running out of time, already having lived more than 2 yrs. past what doctors told me was my sell by date, lol. After reading extensively about PAWS, I have a strong empath gut feeling that getting off xanax will get rid of a lot of my other health problems, which are really caused by PAWS. 

    However, regardless of the AZD issue, I DO have serious memory issues, which are not normal and have been progressing, so I think in my case, I should consider it a possibility that the drug is involved, since the Neurologist could find  no other reason. I also really do not like being addicted to anything and want to get off. I do not like being dependent on conventional medicine, since I consider it barbaric and obscenely putting profits first, not caring who is hurt. I did not know any of that back in 1986, when I was put on this stuff. Most doctors are so afraid of the DEA, they do not give you adequate time to withdraw. They simply cut you off, at least where I live. We had to find a new primary doctor recently and it took us 6 tries and we had to go 40 minutes away to find one who would even consider prescribing xanax. The other doctors, when I asked about it, talked to me as if I had just crawled out of a gutter and was some kind of subhuman. The first one even made me cry, and blamed me for taking them, not the doctor who told me I needed them.

Here is the quote:

"Using benzodiazepines may increase a patient’s risk of developing dementia and could even lead to death.
Helene Alphonso, DO, Director of Osteopathic Medical Education at North Texas University Health Science Center, and colleagues say that a recent Canadian review of 9,000 patients uncovered that those who had taken a benzodiazepine for three months or less had a dementia risk the same as those who had never taken one.
However, taking one of the tranquilizer drugs for three to six months boosted the risk of developing Alzheimer’s disease by 32%. And taking a benzodiazepine for more than six months increased the risk by 84%. The researchers said similar results were seen in a French study that examined elderly patients.
This is not the first time a call has been made to limit the use of benzodiazepines. In 2012, the American Geriatric Society said the drugs were “inappropriate” for treating insomnia, agitation, or delirium because of those risks of falls, injuries, accidental overdose, and death in this population.
“It’s imperative to transition older patients because we’re seeing a very strong correlation between use of benzodiazepines and development of Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias,” Alphonso said in a statement. “While correlation certainly isn’t causation, there’s ample reason to avoid this class of drugs as a first-line therapy,” Alphonso said."

     Other articles can be found by Googling "benzodiazepines cause Alzheimer's". 

     Since nobody here but me seems to have this as a possible cause of their memory loss, I am going to quit talking about it here, since I feel like I am sidelining the original thread's purpose. I would like to know more about the ORMUS that you mention, so I will be looking it up, as soon as I get a break in my work today. If you have time to explain to me why the studies that show benzos cause AZD are no good, please do PM me with that info, as I always want to learn more. I have read the contradicting studies.

     My husband is in surgery right now as I  type this, so I am rather preoccupied with that and hate it that I can't be there, since I must run his company 24/7/365, and having zero time off work ever is reason enough to take benzos, IMO, though I still intend to try my best to get off. 

   Namaste,

   C. Cat

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01/04/17 12:39:04PM
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Stress


Empath

Thanks for saying that Rene. I forgot to mention that my stomach is so nervous I am only able to eat liquids and baby food, and only if I take Benadryl to control the nausea. "Tied in knots" is a good description. I feel like I am about to give a speech in front of 10,000 people and I've just realized I left all my notes at home! 

Cheshire Cat
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01/04/17 12:32:35PM
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Memory Issues


Empath

Anyone taking drugs that affect memory? If not, you can skip this long post. If yes, please read this! This post is about benzodiazepines, but the older antihistamines can also cause severe dementia. 

I have rapidly increasing memory problems, way too weird to blame on my age. My MRI shows no signs of Alzheimer's though. Cannot walk and talk at the same time, or I speak gobbledygook. Cannot multi-task, including making meals with many dishes in them. Cannot spell vowels. Can't remember fiction I read, but can remember non-fiction. Zero working memory. I'm mis-remembering long term things now. Cannot find words I know and often use the wrong word with a similar meaning, such as saying I need to "mow the rug". A lawn mower moves just like a vacuum. 

In researching this, I found out that empaths are 7 times more likely to be drug addicts than the general population, whether legal or illegal. This was no surprise to me, given that we live on a looney bin planet and are so sensitive.

And, it's usually calming drugs, like benzos, that we go for, since we are so overstimulated.  I just found out I have been "accidentally addicted" to one of these drugs for 31 years, meaning they were prescribed, not illegally obtained. I was put on them for muscle spasms from fibromyalgia which kept me from being able to walk, and at the time, it seemed like a miracle.  I always took less than the amount allowed, never craved them, and kept trying to get off them. Doctors told me I "needed this like a diabetic needs insulin" and that I was dependent, not addicted. Semantic bulls*it. 

However, that does not change the fact that benzos are by far the most addictive drugs on earth and much harder to get off of than heroin, none of which I was told back then. Benzos also uniquely cause something called PAWS, which stands for Protracted Addiction Withdrawal Syndrome, with symptoms due to developing a tolerance to your dose that can get you diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and then put on benzos for it, which make you feel better temporarily, but you will never heal, since you are merely feeding the addiction. Instead, you develop many  other health problems, all of which I now have, some of which could kill me.

I tried to withdraw too fast and got sicker than I thought it was possible to be and still live. I am now being stabilized, then starting a very slow withdrawal, against my doctor's advice, but he is reluctantly helping me, and they tell me doing it safely will take a minimum of two YEARS with symptoms that may last up to four years longer! The important reason why I have decided to put myself through this hell at my age is that benzos have now been confirmed to cause Alzheimer's in 84% of people who take them long term, which is defined as longer than 6 months. They also cause many of the symptoms I have that I have blamed on my Lyme Disease, such as rages, depression and anxiety, none of which I had before taking them. It may already be too late for me, though most of the brain damage they cause is reversible with time. Back in 1994, I was changed from regular disability due to severe fibromyalgia to "incurable/terminal disability" due to the severity of my brain damage. 

Doctors never tell you this when they put you on these poisons, and many of them don't even know it. People have been killed by heart attack, stroke and seizures by being taken off benzos rapidly, as you can do with alcohol, heroin or opiates. Docs don't know that you cannot do it fast with benzos.

I sincerely hope this does not apply to any of you who are having memory trouble. It came as a huge shock to me, and I want to be sure others who may be affected know about this. I am still coming to grips with the extreme anger I feel at the psychos who run Big Pharma.

Namaste,

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
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01/04/17 11:49:58AM
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A quiz just for fun


Empath

I came out as Arcturian. I would have sworn I am a Lyran, since I have detailed memories of my life on a planet in that constellation, but that may not have even been one of the choices. I don't know. 

Cheshire Cat
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01/04/17 11:34:02AM
1,227 posts

Stress


Empath

tiger lily,

     I am a nervous wreck and very shaky. I have no idea why. I am under some extra stress right now, but there is aways extra stress around here, lol. If you figure out what it is, please do share! 

C . Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/07/16 05:48:44AM
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We as empaths need to unite together PLEASE READ and share your input


Empath

snap,

I hope you are right and that what's going on right now is just the darkness before the dawn. My guides have not spoken to me for over a decade, so I am heartened to hear such a positive message from yours. 

P.S. Love your Avatar

Cheshire Cat
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11/26/16 11:12:36AM
1,227 posts

The announcement of Fidel is Dead.


Empath

Paul,

   I also felt he'd died back when he had the cancer. Do you think Raul is any better of a man though? He seems quieter, but quiet can be deadly. I would think the lifting of the embargo will change many things, some for the better, some not. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/23/16 10:18:40AM
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We as empaths need to unite together PLEASE READ and share your input


Empath

Hey Paul,

   I do remembering discussing this with you before. I really hope it is being prevented, however it happens. That is very good news indeed and something to be grateful for this Thanksgiving. :-)

   C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/17/16 11:32:57AM
1,227 posts

Lesson from my mind


Empath

Hop-Daddy,

     Very glad to hear that! I wish I could say the same. I think maybe what you've done would help my Fibro somewhat, if that is all I had, but my Fibro is secondary to Lyme Disease, as Fibro often is, and that does not respond as much to grounding, protection stones, etc. Getting toxic people out of my life has helped, but I think that would help everyone. 

    Wishing you continued good health. :-)

    C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/17/16 10:56:03AM
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Lesson from my mind


Empath

Hi Hop-Daddy,

    It actually sounds like you may have Fibromyalgia. Neck pains, headaches, muscle aches that move around the body, lousy sleep and a very irritable bladder are all symptoms. So are sleep disorders, particularly 3 kinds of them, one of which is very particular to this illness and is called alpha-delta sleep anomaly or alpha- delta sleep intrusion.....

     One of the symptoms of the prolonged sleep disruption it causes is something called hypnogogic hallucinations, which are mostly sudden noises just as you are drifting off but not quite asleep, or they may occur as you wake up. The most common ones reported to me when I used to run a Fibro support group for 3 cities were the sound of a wire shorting out, the sound of a slamming door, and a loud bang. I had the slamming door one, and it was so convincing that I would prowl though the house checking for intruders.

     They key here would be whether you have pains in all four quadrants of the body, not just the neck. A diagnosis of  fibromyalgia requires symmetrical pains at certain exact points in all four quadrants, though they do not have to be equally as bad on both sides. You might want to get checked by a Rheumatologist to rule this out if you meet this criteria. You can look up the many other symptoms online and see if it fits. 

   I am anticipating what may be your next question, and no, I've known plenty of clueless people with fibromyalgia who were definitely not empaths at all. While some with fibromyalgia are definitely more sensitive, and I've read that some Indian tribes consider all fibromyalgia people to be automatic Shamen, I knew too many people who had it who were not emotionally sensitive at all, and so consider the increase in sensitivity among some people to be part of the overactive sympathetic branch of the autonomic nervous system in fibromyalgia, a physical reason for hypersensitivity of all types. 

    I will say this, and this is just my observation from 10 yrs. of having running a support group and 4 yrs. running a call in info line, so it's not scientific.....I did see what appeared to be a correlation between how severe the fibromyalgia was and the sensitivity of the person, with more sensitive people being much worse afflicted by the other symptoms of the disorder. I was told I was in the bottom 10% in terms of severity, for example. 

    This may be a chicken and egg illness, ie. which came first, the physical symptoms or the sensitivity? In my case, it was definitely sensitivity, from birth. We do know there are mutated detoxification genes involved. What I think matters, and why I wanted to post to you, is that if you have the diagnosis, there are treatments that will help besides just metaphysical ones, or harsh drugs, and the ones I think work best are natural and safe when properly used, so I think it's worth knowing if you fit the diagnosis for that reason. Just my two cents. :-)

   C. Cat

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11/16/16 11:15:29AM
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Neighbors miserable kitten


Animal Empaths

@4peace,

    OOPS. Senior moment. I got you mixed up with Cat Whisperer, when I mentioned your previous Avatar looking like a cat I had long ago named Rhonda. That was her previous Avatar, not yours. That must have confused you, sorry. I have a serious brain injury and memory problems from Lyme Disease as well, and sometimes my eggs get scrambled.....in this case it was scrambled cat Avatars, lol.

Cheshire Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/16/16 09:55:45AM
1,227 posts

Neighbors miserable kitten


Animal Empaths

That sounds like a very good compromise. I hate it when they subject pets, especially small ones to pesticides. 

I am glad your husband has caved. Mine would already have the neighbor's cat that we take care of inside if it were not for me and my allergies. He loves her dearly, since he misses our last cat, who was his lap cat. She was an Abyssinian rescue, and they are the most affectionate of breeds.  I haven't seen the meme you mention, but I have seen one where the husband does not want the cat, so she is offering up the husband for sale instead. ;-)

I am married and own a home now. My experience that was so similar to yours happened a long time ago when I was single, but we presently have what I call a timeshare cat, lol. The cat comes from a home one block away with 9 others and she wants to be an only cat, so she came to our house, choosing the only nearby home with a totally fenced yard that did not have a dog, but did have lots of landscaping to play in and a couple of suckers for cats, ie. myself and my husband. It was obvious the cat was being fed, but not enough, due to her refusal to go home, so we followed her back to her home when she got hungry, and I've become friends with the owner.

The owner provides the food and Vet services, though she gets no shots, due to this woman's religious beliefs,  and we provide flea meds during summer, since she does not believe in medications and we got fleas in our house at first. The cat lives outdoors except that it sleeps in my husband's workshop office in a bed he made her which I lined with sheepskin for cold nights. This is central Florida, so she is in no danger.

I am allergic to cats now, so promised the doctor not to get anymore after our last one died, and we are old and cannot afford the Vet bills now, and have no friends left who are willing to take the cat if we pass on. It works pretty well, though sometimes we have to buy food, since she doesn't have time to come over and deliver it in time, and we are feeding only what she wants to feed the cat, which is the very best, plus evaporated milk, which I do not agree with for cats, due to their lactose intolerance, but it is not our cat, so I oblige. 

Cats always seem to know how to find those who love them and can't turn them away. They are not only beautiful and unique, but smart, as I'm sure you'll agree. :-)

Cheshire Cat

P.S. I think I told you this before, but I had a cat named Rhonda that looked almost exactly like the one you used to use as your Avatar. 

Cheshire Cat
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11/15/16 07:36:45AM
1,227 posts

Neighbors miserable kitten


Animal Empaths

Hi Rhonda,

I have been in this situation too, except I was not allowed to have any pets at all, and I really feel for you. I felt I just had to rescue the kitten and was prepared to violate my lease, forfeit my security deposit and move. I told my landlord exactly what had happened and why I had the kitten, and he surprised me by actually having a heart. He told me that I was such an excellent tenant, always paying rent on time, being quiet, and keeping the place clean, that he would let me have the cat, since he knew I would keep the place clean even with a pet. This was a 3 apartment house though, not a huge impersonal apt. complex. I don't know your situation, but I find that often when I step out on faith and I do what I feel is right, things fall into place. Only you can feel what is right in this one. Maybe the kitten could live with you, but you can say it just "visits" you a lot because it likes to play with your other cat, and the neighbor could agree to go along with this story and say it is still hers and lives with her, in case you get caught. This is breaking my heart too, and I'm not there......I wish you the best solution for all involved. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/13/16 04:09:17PM
1,227 posts

Differences between Bipolar Disorder and Being a Empath


Empath

Hi mommy4,

I used to be a psychiatric social worker, (now disabled) so I will address your question about Bipolar Disorder specifically from my training and point of view.

There are some very bad therapists out there, especially at the pill mills, where you cannot actually get any talk therapy now days. They'll gladly diagnose you in five minutes or less with whatever the latest expensive pill from Big Pharma is treating, just so they can win a free trip to the Bahamas or some other bribe. If you've encountered one of  these, get another opinion please!

They have a relatively new diagnosis, called Bipolar Type II, which is almost indistinguishable from atypical depression aka agitated depression aka irritable depression, a much more common condition that affects 40% of all those with depression, in which irritability replaces apathy in an otherwise common presentation of depressive symptoms. There are no other symptoms of Bipolar Disorder or they are very mild, and IMO, may describe almost anyone. This again gives them the right to hand you some very expensive and dangerous anti-psychotic meds, when you may really need treatment for depression instead. If you've encountered this, please get a second opinion!

Having said all that, Bipolar Disorder Type I definitely exists and is a very serious psychosis. However, nobody with decent training would ever confuse it with being an empath. I will give you 3 examples of  typical Bipolar manic behavior from actual patients I've had. Ask yourself if any of this sounds like an empath to you.....

1. This patient went into a manic episode and decided it would be fun to steal a car and drive it over 100 mph on the highway, in the wrong direction! She eventually went off the roads when  the cops chased her. She gave no thought to the danger or consequences, as is typical during these episodes.

2. This patient told her husband she was expanding her business to another nearby town. She then went on the Internet and arranged hookups with many different men at motels in that other town about twice a week, until he finally got suspicious and followed her. Promiscuity is a very common manic symptom.

3. This patient was worshipped by his adoring wife. He died, and afterwards she found he had several secret credit cards with thousands of dollars in debts from paying for porn on the Internet. Big spending sprees are another common feature of mania for some, often including gambling, but  in this case it was combined with the urge to be promiscuous. 

I don't know any real empaths who behave this way. Causing others this kind of pain is something we empaths work hard to avoid. I hope this will help you sort this out.

Regards,

Cheshire Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/16 05:59:07PM
1,227 posts

VENTING!


Empath

Hi Renee,

Thanks for your perspective. I have just recently mended fences with two people I was in this position with. There is one more I wish to do so with, but like your friend, I can't push her. It's not my job to fix her, but to be there to listen, which I can't do when I am being rejected due to her bitterness over her situation and her guilt because my situation is worse but I handle it better. We are different and she should not compare herself to me. I have made some peace with it, but it is sad. I hope your situation will have a happy ending as well, and that your example of success will show your children and your friend a way out just by being who you are, a shining example for when they are ready.

May you be blessed,

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/12/16 02:09:34PM
1,227 posts

POST HERE for Peaceful words from 11/11-11/14


Empath

Wow, C.W., now I really feel ancient. Your question made me laugh. 

I am a dinosaur who only uses an old flip cell phone for emergencies,  and when I post pics here I do it by finding one I like on my iMac desktop and just dragging it into the text box here at EC.

I'm sure someone else will give you the right answer to your question, but I just had to post. I was so amused at how far out of the tech loop I am...... ;-)

C. Cat

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11/11/16 03:25:03PM
1,227 posts

VENTING!


Empath

Thanks for the caring, Nikki.

It is now 54 yrs. of friendship by my count, since we never stopped loving each other. We were just both too proud to be first to ask to try to work it out again. Stupid pride. 

I also have 2 other friendships that have lasted 54 years, since all of them started when I moved to a new state and began the 7th grade. One I hear from rarely, but the other is still a close one and I trust her totally. She has known me since I was a 12 yr. old wild child, lol.

I found the childhood friends are the ones who stick with you when you become seriously ill. The friends  I'd made where I live now as an adult all left me when I got sick, with only 2 exceptions, and they were both casual friends who turned out to be life savers. 

Studies show the happiest people are those who never move more than 60 miles from where they grew up. Other studies were done to find out why and it turned out only one thing mattered....those people still had some of their childhood friends. These folks bond with you just like siblings, before you are old enough to start discriminating, so the bonds tend to be more unconditional. 

I made a point out of keeping old friends despite moving so far away, since it is hard for me to find people who meet my ethical standards and have enough brains or curiosity to interest me. I'll bet you can relate to that. I think all empaths want people with high ethics.

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/11/16 02:05:39PM
1,227 posts

VENTING!


Empath

For anyone who has been reading my posts on this thread:

Amazing news! I did decide to go ahead and write positive 11-11 messages of love and forgiveness to both my 52 yr. long BFF, who ended it a year and a half ago, and to the person who has been my closest friend for the last 3 yrs. and got very angry with me a few days ago. I am not sure how that last will be received yet and wish her well no matter what, but am glad I expressed my gratitude for having had her in my life, regardless of outcome.

The good news is I now have my oldest friend back after a nasty and seemingly final end to a very long friendship and a year and a half apart! We just got off the phone. It turned out she'd been feeling just as bad about what happened and my email love offering was an excuse to tell me so. I was shocked, since I did not expect any response. We talked it all out, I was assertive about how much it hurt me and how I would not tolerate certain things, and we agreed to only use the phone from now on, since email misunderstandings due to the tone of voice were the main cause of the problem to begin with. I will not be super trusting here until I see what happens, if ever, and it will be a less close relationship than before, since we are so different now than in younger days, but it shows what you can accomplish when you reach out in humility and love. 

For anyone who has lost a dear friend, there may be hope if you can make the first move. :-)

Cheshire Cat
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11/11/16 12:30:10PM
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Nikki,

   Yep, we sound a lot alike, except that I have very advanced have Lyme Disease, and instant, uncontrollable  rage is an unfortunate part of that. I had zero temper before I got sick and in fact, no temper was pretty much a requirement for my former profession.

     The non-attachment meditations and huge doses of Omega 3 fish oil I take are helping a lot with keeping my cool, but I also avoid people who trigger me like the plague and isolate a lot to do it, since I do not want to go off at people, and like most empaths, I hate confrontations.

    Like you, I normally remove myself from those people, having moved and left jobs numerous  times to avoid confrontation when I was single, but I now live in a place I cannot move from due to my husband's business, where I have horrible neighbors on two sides, and was subjected to almost 3 decades of abuse from a Narcissist FIL and BIL. The BIL still lives next door, but we cannot move for reasons I won't bore you with. I use very strong shields, and our 6 ft. tall solid wood fence helps too. 

   At 43, I think of you as a spring chicken! If I was 43, I'd be in graduate school, making up for the biggest mistake I ever made, which was not getting my PhD so I could do challenging work instead of the boring stuff I got with only a BA. I also needed it so I could be in a job where i could surround myself with other brainiacs like me and not feel like such a freak among the people I am exposed to. I would put serving the happiness of men in my life last instead of first like I did, and serve my own happiness first. I had hoped my generation was the last one to do that, but I have seen some disturbing evidence that it is not so. 

   There is a famous saying about us being crushed between regret over the past, which leads to depression, and fear of the future, which leads to anxiety. I think staying in the present would got a long way to ease the endless ruminations empaths are prone to, but it sure is hard to maintain!

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
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11/11/16 10:28:44AM
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Empath

I feel led to post my favorite prayer and I hope nobody is offended. Happy 11-11 everyone!

The light of God surrounds us

The love of God enfolds us

The power of God protects us

The presence of God watches over us

Wherever we are, God is.

And all is well. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/11/16 09:58:30AM
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Nikki,

I don't know how old you are, but I would have written exactly what you just wrote when I was  much younger. I think I was about 50 when things started to change and I stopped seeing only the good. I'm a slow learner, lol, and am now 65.  I realized that potential is just that, potential only, and I can't make anyone use it. People rarely change. I think this is not just an empath issue. I have noticed that young women are far more likely to fall in love with potential than men are, and to think if we just love someone enough, they will change for us. I said "young women" because I don't know anyone near to my age who still believes that.  I also have to look at my own unused potential and my own bad choices, many of which were not really clear until I was too old to do anything to reverse them. 

Like you, I've also been told by friends that I am "too easy" and that I put up with mistreatment far too long before I speak up. That is true. I tend to be so shocked when people behave in a way that I never would that I just do nothing. I don't know what to say to them, since I can't conceive of why they act or speak that way. Once it builds to where it becomes intolerable to my self esteem, then I blow, like a volcano. That rage is something I am working on, but it's darn difficult after a lifetime of this garbage and when I know that even an early, reasonable attempt to disagree with someone will result in them dropping me, so I keep holding on, which I know is stupid. If they're going to drop me for something ridiculous, then let's get it over with and quit wasting my time. 

I am also old enough to remember when almost everyone respected other people's right to disagree and they were still friends! Imagine that. That is as rare as hen's teeth now. 

I am considering writing to both my former BFF and my recent BFF since it is 11-11, and sending them positive appreciation magnified by the date 11-11, in gratefulness for all I learned from them, sine I truly do not feel any animosity at all, a wonderful gift from my studies of non-attachment and huge doses of Omega 3 EPA oil, which have helped calm me down tremendously. But, I don't expect anything to change from that. 

I think it wonderful that you are starting to realize these things at such a young age. Hopefully, you will not end up as worn out and untrusting as I am as a result of your early insights. :-)

C. Cat

 
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