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Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/14/18 08:44:17AM
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Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


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@zacharias,

 Stomach issues here in America can also be due to the GMOs and pesticides allowed in food, which are not allowed elsewhere. There is someone on this forum who moved here from Britain, never having had any trouble, and as soon as he got here, his digestion went haywire. I do not mean to say that emotions are not involved, since they are, especially with us! I mean to say it could be a combination of things, and trying to eat organic food with no GMOs for awhile to see if it helps may be worth it. if your tummy lining is irritated, L-glutamine is an excellent supplement to treat and soothe it. It is very safe, as long as you don't take more than 5 gms. daily. I hope you and your daughter feel better soon. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/13/18 03:53:55PM
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Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


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Thanks for pointing this out, @hop-daddy. I especially loved the first link. I wish everyone I know would read that.  I've done chakra cleansing for ages with no results. Also daily cleansing and shrinking of the solar plexus chakra and shuttering it. No results. I think it will be this way as long as I live in a crowded city.

The book she wrote specifically for empathic INFJs looks good. I have every single health issue she listed except migraines and colds, and I used to have those when I was younger.

My number one tip is set boundaries and stick to them. Selfish, narcissistic and psychopathic people will keep on violating your boundaries and pushing you, and you will be forced to confront them which is SO hard for a decent person to do, but once you have gotten some relief by doing so, you will never go back. You are not responsible for anyone else's life choices, so don't let hem make you feel that you are, or sickness is inevitable and I am so sick I am terminal and cannot drive, barely sleep, and can only walk two blocks now, and slowly. history is repeating itself, and people are literally trying to drain me to death, and this is important for all you newbies, they do NOT care and feel NO remorse.  I watched my unaware empath mother become a depressed hermit and die at only age 60 from the overwhelm and disappointment caused by selfish, nervy people. Not everyone is decent like empaths and not everyone who claims to be one really is an empath. The problem I think is the empath's push-pull relationship with people, especially for INFJs, of which I am one. You can feel compelled to be involved with people and help them, but despise what you can read in them at the same time. I hope lots of people read these links and put themselves first always. Then choose carefully whom you help. Imo, most people these days are so desperate for a connection with something other than their phones that they are bottomless pits of need. You will be drained dry, but  they will never be filled up. I think some of us, and I am guilty, confuse being a friend with being a therapist, and even a therapist gets to be off work and have down time. If someone needs one, you are not doing them any favors by substituting for what they really may need...think about it. A real friend does not expect free therapy from you.  Ok, end of rant. Thanks again for posting this. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/13/18 03:25:24PM
1,378 posts

Lost and Confused


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@so-echausted-from-users,

I love your screen name, and it could be mine. @hop-daddy alerted me to this thread, since I am older and hopefully wiser, lol, but I am way behind on email and just now saw it. He has already said everything I could say and then some.

I agree with him on soul mates and twin flames. I've seen too many people use those overly used, romanticized labels as a reason to stay and put up with abuse or a bad match. I tend to think people who feel that strong an attraction to someone  they've just met are either people we were with in other lives, or people who subconsciously remind us of our parents. For more on that last part about parents, see Alain De Bouton's YouTube video on "Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person". It explains the childhood psychological imprinting that we are all subject to and how its influence is so strong nobody escapes it and it never goes away, no matter how old we are. Knowing his helps us to deal with the way things are. 

I have a constant feeling of dread despite being married a long time. I feel it is due to some coming natural catastrophe of huge proportion and I am not the only one who feels this. You may be a physical empath if that is so. There are several types of empath and you may be one or several. My point is are you sure it is related to this man? This may take time. That is what your therapy is for. Ask yourself also if this therapist is the right one for you and if this is the right type of therapy for the problem.

He is also right about calming down, grounding and also shielding. I still have issues with this, so will not claim to have it licked. I am a hermit as a result, but have found that I can be "exhausted from users" even by online people who prey on us empaths, and it is even harder to spot them w/o being able to see them. They make me furious. Be careful here and elsewhere and though it's hard for empaths, put yourself first, always.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/05/18 01:53:59PM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

Here are some gloomy articles about the rise in Narcissism sent to me by an alert EC member. They are definitely worth reading, imo.....


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Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/02/18 08:45:18AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


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@zacharias and @michelle,

What a fabulous story to read this morning. NO coincidences indeed.. your poster story made my day. Thanks for letting us all know about it. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/01/18 09:44:45AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


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@zacharias,

Glad to see another fan of Mark Passio. I do wish Mark would not make the same point over and over though. His talks could be 1/3 as long and still make the same good points. Mark also gets very worked up and angry and I pick that up, making my own anger problem worse. I also love Jordan Peterson....seems you and I think a lot alike. 

 I have the same love-hate problem with people. I think it's from easily seeing negative traits that other people don't seem to pick up, not to mention all the lying that goes on. I think that push-pull people thing is common in empaths, and more importantly, I believe most people would feel that way too if they picked up what we do, so please don't be too hard on yourself. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/01/18 07:54:25AM
1,378 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@aiden,

The part time Soc. Serv. job sounds like a great idea. My husband made his house into a duplex and rented half of it out while growing his business, then converted it back to single family once he was making enough. We do whatever it takes to get it going if the passion is there.

Social services pays horribly as I'm sure you know. Teachers are rich by comparison, lol. I grew up very poor and that actually helped me there, since I never had trouble living on what others considered a too low to live on salary. I wish you the best possible outcome for all of this. I too find this forum to be a life preserver in a sea full of sharks!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
12/01/18 07:44:08AM
1,378 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias and @michelle,

I really don't feel I can add much to what michelle said, since she did a good job, and I have a serious rage problem from the Lyme Disease being in my brain, and have avoided crowds for over 3 decades now due to the overwhelm, so I have not been in that situation for a very long time. I have no right to say what to do, since I could not handle even being there in the first place!

In the past I have been in situations like that and I usually tried to make a joke out of it and say to the aggressor something like "hey man, you must be having a really bad day and Im sorry, but it's not her fault", meaning the stranger who was being harassed. I am not sure that will work today, when people seem angry for no reason at all., as if they were being manipulated like marionettes. Like michelle, I suspect more interference by the dark side, and maybe even from all the radiofrequency pollution going on. There are videos on YT by Edge of Wonder about mind control through smartphones. Sounds bizarre I know, but I don't think we need microchips inside us to be controlled by them (mark of the beast), and it is one reason why flip phones are back in style with those who are awake to this. The 2 guys who make up Edge of Wonder are Christians and they try to keep even heavy subjects hopeful. They have a 2 part video on this subject which is about 20 mins. total for both parts.

I think helping someone who needs it is always better than not helping, but we need to try to avoid burn out somehow. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 04:56:54PM
1,378 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


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@michelle,

I am sure there may be a few other ENFPs. The "N" is the thing that would be most likely associated with empaths, imo, though being an 'I' type may be easier for empaths, since we get overwhelmed by being around people too much and 'E' types really need people. ENFP is INFJs best match though, so you should get along great with most of us. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 04:10:57PM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

You said: "I just have this unrelenting compulsion to KNOW." This is off topic, but there are many threads at EC on this subject if interested.....do you know your Myers-Briggs personality type? That quote makes me suspect you are an INFJ like so many of us here at EC, the world's rarest type, but common in empaths. The Enneagram type and the Big Five typing are also interesting. The MBTI and the other two are free online. I find they help me understand people better, and as an INFJ, I need extra help with that, since I often feel like odd woman out!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 12:18:10PM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

That was some HEAVY stuff. Like most of what P.K. Dick said, I needed to re-read some of it, and I definitely need to think about it for awhile. The idea of death of the ego and submission to the Urgrund reminds me of the traditional concept of needing to be born again. A lot of the simulation theory being tossed around by physics seems to fit in there too. The total indifference of this reality experience we are living in rings true, unhappily, since I loved the idea of a personal God, whom I could actually petition and influence. I admit I have seen little evidence of that possibility, but it has happened to an amazing degree at least once in my life. There's some ego for you, lol. Something about the basic concept feels off to me, but I cannot articulate it at this point. I need to chew on it awhile...thanks very much for posting it and giving my tired brain a good workout. I'd love to hear your viewpoint on it. I recommend  the Cold Case Christianity videos on YT to you, since they seem to take away much of the need to make the leap of faith he speaks of, before one is allowed to experience the Urgrund for oneself. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 09:09:53AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

I think I have read every word Tom Montalk every wrote, sometimes more than once, so we are on the same page! I have also read several of Phillip K. Dick's books, since I love sci-fi, partly because it so often becomes reality, or maybe already is a hidden reality. Thanks for the link, which I will enjoy while eating lunch. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 08:27:17AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@aiden,

I could have written your post. I certainly empathize with all you said and was also told that I was a master healer in a previous life and am a light warrior now.

One thing I can add is that I never had those  job problems you described when I was employed in my field, which was social services. The employment dog-eat-dog stuff only started after I had to relocate for health reasons and could not find a job in my field, so was forced to work in the business world. My mother once told me that "business ethics are an oxymoron" and I found out just how right she was. I know empaths who manage to work in business and come out unscathed, but I think most of us do far better in service jobs where we are of service to others and (I think) are much more likely to find other people like ourselves.

  I remember you saying you have your own business now and that is bound to be better. That's what my HSP husband had to do, though he and I both still had to deal with some unreasonable clients. I hope what you have chosen is compatible with who you are. When I was young, I thought I was unlimited and could mold myself into anything I wanted; that I should and could fit myself into any type of job, if need be. That belief turned out to be so wrong that it cost me my health, permanently. I would not wish that on anyone.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/30/18 08:12:24AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@zacharias,

Thank you for that very good and moving post!

I would also like to recommend a series on YouTube for anyone like me who was taught that the Bible was written hundreds of years after events and so it could not be accurate, the apostles had lots of reasons to lie to create a religion, the church has changed a lot of the writings to fit their agenda, nobody other than the apostles saw Jesus after he died, there is no historical proof he even existed, and many other things you may have been told and taken as truths and as reasons to doubt the whole story, like I did. The series of videos is called Cold Case Christianity. I especially recommend the one about whether the resurrection really did happen. It knocked me upside the head, since it is so logical when you know the facts. I am not trying to convert people. I myself am leery of accepting any labels, since that can stop spiritual growth cold. I just think it's always helpful to get as much info as possible and keep an open mind. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/29/18 07:49:15PM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@michelle,

 Thank you for the link to that EXCELLENT article! I encourage everyone to make time to read it.

I feel a reset and start over is what will happen now as I believe it has several times before...the monuments from those prior advanced civilizations are all around us if we would only open our eyes and see them. I think we do not want to face it that we have blown it over and over again. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/29/18 07:40:06PM
1,378 posts

Feeling a little down and confused...


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@michelle,

I read that incense is really, really bad for your lungs and indoor pollution in general. So are all candles except beeswax ones. It does not bother me nearly as much as sage though, so that shocked me. I love the idea of taping myself with the back of a hair brush. That I can do w/o spending cash I don't have. I like the chanting too. I wonder if the Lesser Banishment Ritual wouldn't be as good, since it is recited out loud. I have never tried dragon's blood and will look for it online. Thanx!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/29/18 11:38:52AM
1,378 posts

Feeling a little down and confused...


Empath

To anyone who might know,

What can be done about coughing and choking on the smoke from saging? I use cedar, since I have two cedar trees. It is really hard to take, since I already have sinus problems. It is too cold right now to open windows, but I agree that it helps as long as it is not too noisy outdoors. 

I read something this morning about how just rubbing sage leaves between your fingers can work. I do have a Texas sage in my garden, but it has short leaves, not the long ones normally used to sage a home. Do you think it would work just as well?

I've not had much luck with saging or with the stones I use, but I feel our house is unhealthy in some way I cannot perceive yet, since I always feel better when I go to someone else's house and I sleep much better away from home also. Since retiring, my husband's previously good health for his age has fallen apart alarmingly, and I do not think it's a coincidence that he is at home most of the time now. 

Thanks for any ideas. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/29/18 10:19:17AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

That is a very good way to look at it. Please do put yourself first to rest and heal. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/29/18 08:24:10AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

As you know, I've had a similar experience with using Jesus' name as the only effective way to remove negs from my home, and also with healing, though that part was only temporary for me. I am working on healing my toe, which has broken again just from walking two blocks, and has been broken since July 19th. It will not heal and I am totally out of shape as a result. What you don't know, is that I too saw 5:55 all the time during that period. I am now seeing 3:33 and 4:44 a lot instead. How do you reconcile this experience with your very logical doubts about salvationism? I cannot do it and must not deceive myself, so I just let the uncertainty exist, though it is very uncomfortable. I can empathize too with the unrelenting illness and resulting frustration. I hang on by my fingernails and could never do it w/o my husband. I am sending you warm hugs....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/29/18 07:54:15AM
1,378 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@kate,

Your idea of "scattered spirits" is a very good one. As you say, there are so many things that are wrong with our world, it could be any or a combination of all of them as the cause. It does take tremendous will to pull oneself into a clean space and remain there. It truly is a matrix, a huge web of interlocking obstacles to purity of heart, mind and soul. I have indeed noticed the lack of attention when talking in person, and the generational difference you mention. Most people my age do not have better health habits, at least not the ones I know, but their lives have moved much more slowly, without constant demands on their attention, and w/o smart phones attached their heads. The way we are rushing into A.I. and 5G is terrifying. It seems to be a death wish on our part and/or a feeling of helplessness against the small number of psychopaths who run this looney bin.

Also:

I saw an article yesterday about more new narcissism research. It is even worse than the one I started the thread about. They said that about 40% of the population now has narc traits and a whopping 10% have full blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. When I was learning about this in college, it was only 1% , and I was told I would never encounter a single case in my career. The article also mentioned a 50% drop in empathy scores. Yet, I constantly hear the new age gurus talking about how much humanity has awakened and is raising their vibration for the better, and how we will soon ascend to a higher level. I wish I could believe that and I want to, but I cannot deny that I am seeing the opposite. It seems to me like they are only hanging around with each other and not mixing with ordinary folks.

Are we empaths supposed to counter this, and if so, how???

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/28/18 08:22:24AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

Thanx for the thoughtful response. When I blew up at the neighbor, I got the same reaction as your friend with the 'flying chair'....her eyes popped and she ran away. That was many years ago and lately she is trying to worm her way back in  and involve us in her life again. She had to evict a "friend" who was staying in her house, and came over to tell us so. I made my husband go to the door. She came again a few days later and he was not home, so I ignored her pounding on the door until she left. I will not allow her in my space again. I have boundaries now, finally! Better late than never. 

I also have conflicts about the salvation system and the concept of eternal hell. I can be a stickler for justice,  and do not forgive easily, but even I would not condemn the worst being to eternal fire and any god must be far better than I am. I also lean towards pantheism. However, having tried every other name and found only Jesus' to work, it has made me reconsider, and I just finished reading the entire NT again. I wonder if all of us, including Christians with a capitol "C" aren't misunderstanding most of it. I do see how  the underpinnings of civilization depend on it, with the invention of hospitals and public schools as good examples of things not even thought of before it, but I can't buy all of it w/o a leap of faith too far for me to take w/o some logical explanation. This subject should not be on the forum, so if you want to discuss it, let's take it to PM. 

You are so right about anger being all right if it results in productive action, and not always being nice being not only okay, but a requirement for assertiveness and boundaries. I was brought up to never, ever get angry and still feel guilty when I do, but thanks to Lyme disease, I have full blown rages now, often over little things, another reason to isolate myself. There have been quite a few murder/suicides in Lyme patients due to these rages. 

I come out of a church that teaches healing by spirit alone, but decades of working at it have not healed me. I am presently working on healing 4 other people. I figure why not try? I don't know if I can trust what I pick up or not. In one case, I strongly pick up that the diagnosis is wrong and he has something entirely different. I have not said anything yet, but am working on removing what I see. I have predicted 2 people's deaths and what they died from before they knew they had anything wrong, but have not healed anyone yet, except once when I told someone a supplement to take that got him off the heart transplant list. There is a strong genetic component to what I have also. I am reliving my mother's life to a tee, and cannot see the point of doing that.

Re: your ow cortisol. Have you tried Niagen? It is the new hot shot mitochondrial supplement for this problem, available at the store at prohealth.com. My cortisol is too high at night, but is too low during the day. I could not stand Niagen, since I am 'wired but tired' and it really raises energy. It has some side effects and I had all of them, probably since I am such a nervous nellie. Might be worth a try.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/24/18 08:54:13AM
1,378 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@michelle,

I have found the white magic of The Lesser Banishment Ritual to work well for getting negs out of my home, and if they do come in, ordering them to leave in the name of Jesus works better than anything else I've tried. However, getting neighbors to move is one thing I have not mastered. The Dalai Lama also said that his religion is kindness, and unfortunately, that is something I had to leave behind to get those neighbors out of my face. After more than a decade of bullying to the point where I was afraid to walk out of my house to get the mail, I finally blew up and gave one of them a dose of her own medicine to the point where she ran from me. That was the only thing that has worked with these people who are so spiritually undeveloped that they only respond to that type of treatment. Kindness only made me seem like better prey to them.

I agree about the adrenals and  disciplines to keep my circadian rhythm in line have helped. The supplement Seriphos has been essential to keep high cortisol down at night. I need a lot of supplements just to function at all. I must be a slow learner. I was told back in 1988 that I could go at nay minute. In 1994, I was put on terminal/incurable disability w/o even asking and was told I should not even be able to walk w/the amt. of brain damage I have. In 2007, I was told I would never live past age 63 and that if I was still alive in 2017, I would have cancer. I am 67 now. A healer from the Barbara Brennan School told me my mission in life this time is to heal myself through spirit alone. I've been sick since 1986, and getting worse all the time despite never ending effort to get well, so I must be a very slow learner despite my empathy, or maybe because of it....at least that is how it feels to me. I am so sensitive that I can't handle things that others are not made sick or even stressed by. My spouse is not bothered by living next to these people, so does not see a need to leave the home he loves, and just tells me to stop thinking about it.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/24/18 08:02:14AM
1,378 posts

What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

@jerrysto,

I have the same problem and nothing I've tried has helped. I live in what I call a 'darkness sandwich', in a house bordered on either side by the two darkest individuals I've ever known, and I can't move for several reasons. I pick up their negative mood all the time and it geometrically adds to the depression I already have. I keep looking for ways to get relief. I have a friend who says she can turn her ability off and on, but I have only seen the results of her having it off and being taken for thousands of dollars by 3 different people who fooled her, so I think it is necessary to also know when to turn it off, not just how.

@michelle,

I use the exercise you outlined every morning, slightly altered, so I can combine it with the moves in my daily Qi Gong routine. Like my daily meditation, it makes me feel wonderful while I am doing it, but the effect does not last. When healing, I find that locating the problem areas first, bringing in green healing light and then visualizing the area as healed works best for me. If I find dark spots in my own aura, pulling them out, digging out any roots, filling it in with white light and then patching my aura seems to work best. 

As an interesting aside, all of my symptoms, both physical and mental, disappear w/in about 30 hrs. of starting to take an antibiotic called metronidazole, and they stay gone for about 2 wks. after I stop taking it. Our guts can really mess up our heads.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/22/18 07:48:00AM
1,378 posts

Pets


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Hi TL,

I have not seen any research about Narcs using dogs to attract prey, but it makes total sense that they would do that. I have known normal men who loved their dogs and just accidentally attracted women while walking them. Dogs are also a good excuse for a woman to walk up to a man, when she wants to, but otherwise wouldn't dare. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/21/18 12:59:12PM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@michelle,

Wonderful post, thanks! You are right that the subject matter will have to be continued elsewhere so we don't go far astray of empath subjects. I live in an area where about 1/3 of kids are homeschooled, due to the prevalence of a religious group that does not allow public school attendance. The difference between those kids and the others is marked. Most regular school kids here drop out at 16, do drugs and slack off, while most homeschooled kids here go to college at 15, are avid learners, and are respectful to adults.  I minored in Fine Arts and can see how they are badly needed, especially with so much over scheduling stifling creativity. We also need recess!

A lifelong habit of not watching the boob tube is a priceless time saver for your son. I never owned one until I got sick, and as a child, we did not have one until I was about 9 yrs. old. I think that helped. I won't even get started on Commie Core, which came from China, the model for the NWO. Ah, the Travistock Inst., and the CFR, the TLC, the Club of Rome, Skull & Bones, The Bohemian Club, etc. I can see you are also familiar with Kissinger's comments about our military being the "meat based cannon fodder for our resource wars". You are also quite correct that most people simply cannot face knowing about, let alone connecting all the puzzle pieces, and I find the more educated they are and the more they have in the game, ie. kids and grandkids, the less willing they are to listen. They will even say they do not want to know the Matrix is real because they can't take any more stress. Wow. I will stop typing now before I get in trouble! ;-)

I will end with some good news about empathy! I just saw some new brain research today in my Alumni magazine. They have created video games for young kids with the purpose of teaching them empathy! They created an alien world and give points to the players from earth for recognizing emotions correctly and responding to them when they see them in the faces of the aliens, who are cute, green leafy looking characters. It's not a bad idea, since kids are going to play these games anyway. :-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/21/18 07:46:29AM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@michelle,

Hmm...this is my thread but I did not get notification of your post, just Tiger Lily's that came after it. Strange!

Anyway, I thought your post was very much on target. True Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the hallmark of which is a total lack of empathy, is most often created in infancy, when the child does not bond with the primary caregiver, usually due to that caregiver being preoccupied with an older child she is totally doting on, a spouse who gets all her attention, or, in recent decades, a drug addiction or workaholism, basically anything or anyone that drastically lowers the time spent in forming a tight bonding, and then allows the child to start pushing away from that bond to become a separate individual, while still retaining the bonded feeling to the primary caregiver. This is how the child comprehends that there is more than one person (himself) in the world. That is very important, because a lack of this understanding is why Narcs have no empathy. They are the only real person here in their minds, and you are just another part of them, so if you are not thinking and acting just like them, it is as if for example, their right hand balled into a fist and kept punching them in the face....it is unthinkable and intolerable and either must be subdued or destroyed. I hope I explained that well enough. If not, there are plenty of good websites which explain narcissism.

I don't know if this is true, but I have read several things stating that when one of the dark side orgs. (The Bilderberg Group) met after WWII, a member of the American leadership (David Rockefeller) supposedly brought up that they should be getting tax income from the female half of their herd of workers, so would now make women think they needed to stay in the workforce after the war, and teach that all women should have careers just like men. They claim they invented, financed, and pushed feminism to achieve this end. They said this would also help accomplish their goal of breaking up the family and making everyone dependent upon the state. Daycare is one result of this. In some other countries, either parent can stay home for the fist two years of a child's life, and get paid and keep their job. I don't know what is right here, but I suspect  there should be many options for child care. I do think we need to start by ditching our national religion of materialism, despite the economic effect of doing so, as it is bad for our souls and worse for the planet. I am just reporting what I heard so you can think about it, and don't have a horse in this race. 

Namaste,

C. Cat

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11/20/18 11:19:22AM
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Pets


Empath

P.S. For anyone who likes goats and needs a pick-me-up....try videos on YouTube from Sunflower Creamery. They have many adorable videos of their goats, including new babies, and baby goat pajama parties! 

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11/20/18 11:17:29AM
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Pets


Empath

@womanwhowalks,

OMG, I did not say anyone who loves or has dogs is a Narc! Not at all. I just said that of the full blown Narcs I've known personally, which are only about half a dozen people who actually would qualify for a diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the majority had dogs, as a way to get a constant supply of uncritical attention. If all dog owners were Narcs, we'd be living in a hellish, unbearably cruel and selfish world. That would surely be awful. I was trying to say how most dogs love everyone, even Narcs. It is well known that most dogs will even love someone who beats and starves them. It is pack loyalty plus obedience to the alpha dog, which is the owner. I agree with you that dogs are wonderful and my favorite pet of all was a dog, my Corgi. Namaste. :-)

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11/20/18 07:09:19AM
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Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@tigerlily,

That is very sad, but I am not surprised. I guess all you can do is be a beacon of light in that sea of darkness, and maybe some others will decide to join you and shine their lights too. 

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11/19/18 06:54:31PM
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@hop-daddy,

You hit the nail on the head. I had a reading once where the psychic said she saw tiny holes all over my aura that are leaking my chi energy, and she said she only sees that when the person has one foot here and one foot on the other side, and does not really want to be here. 

@womanwhowalks,

   I sometimes see people as various stages of rotting meat. I thought it was just me who was PO'd about having a body. Thanks for having the courage to post that. I sometimes have tantrums about having the very sick, high maintenance body I have now, which requires several hours of work to keep going day to day. It seems ungrateful, but I have asked to have a walk-in who wants to be on earth take over for me, and so far there are no takers, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
11/19/18 12:20:12PM
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Pets


Empath

As if you couldn't tell by my Avatar.....CATS!....CATS!.....CATS! I could not count the number of cats I've had in my life. If I had unlimited money, I would be a crazy cat lady by now.  We only have one cat now and she is a time share, lol. She comes from a home with 11 cats and wants to be an only cat, so she chose to come to us, and despite my now being very allergic to some cats (boo hoo, not fair!), we care for her w/o letting her in the house, except when we got hit by a hurricane and did bring her inside. She has a custom made, sheepskin lined bed in the office in my husband's workshop, and since our climate is very mild, it's no problem. 

In this location before I became allergic and before we were on a fixed income, we've had as many as 8 animals at once, all rescues: a giant Flemish rabbit, 2 cockatiels, 2 dogs, and 3 cats. I once had 9 cats at once, back in college. It is hard to choose a favorite, but if forced, I would choose my Corgi. She had been though such hell on the street, yet was always smiling and happy, even after she became partly paralyzed later in life and I had to carry her around; a real lesson in perseverance in spite of illness for me! 

The cats definitely seem to sense spirits, and we seemed to have a lot of them in our living room at night. Our tuxedo cat always knew when I was really sick and would lie right by my side all night, though he was not a lap cat normally. I did feel more protected with cats inside the house and wish I could have our time share cat indoors w/o my having sneezing fits. 

Our dogs did not seem to discriminate. They just wanted attention. Not all, but most Narcs I've known have had dogs, since they give unconditional attention w/o criticism, what Narcs crave most. I had one cat who could tell if someone did not like cats, but we've never had dogs who did that.

We have a neighbor who walks his 2 goats on leashes like dogs. We would love a couple of goats to mow our lawn, but I think they would eat all the flowers too, and I've  heard they are a major headache despite the cuteness factor. Anyone on here have goats?

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11/19/18 09:11:53AM
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@aiden,

Good for you to recognize this before it's too late! A job I hated, but felt I had to stick with was the last straw for my immune system, and at age 34, I became seriously ill. It ruined my life. I wish you all the success in the world at being your own boss. :-)

If you are able to do lucid dreaming and/or can mediate deeply, you might be able to find out exactly where you came from, like I did, or at least I've got a heck of an imagination, lol. That feeling of being an alien at such a young age is pretty telling, unless you watched a lot of UFO movies as a kid. When I was a kid, there were no UFO movies, lol. I just  always knew that I was part of an all encompassing, sentient oneness, which included trees, plants, animals, etc., and I could not handle the way in which other people treated them as inferior. For example, xmas trees being cut down made me cry and also made me very angry. I got a lot of side glances over things like that, and I'm sure you know what I mean!

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11/19/18 08:41:02AM
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Re: not fitting in

Does anyone else think maybe most of us feel like we don't belong because we did not come from here? I feel like I came here from somewhere else, somewhere way older and more advanced. I have seen the place in detail often when meditating. 

IME, we can adapt to any role and fit in temporarily, especially those of us who have the INFJ personality type, since that is one of it's traits. But for me, as I got older, it became more and more difficult to force myself to be fake, even for a little bit or for a little while. It wears you down, so I do not recommend putting yourself in those situations too often, so you don't wear your self out when you are young like I did. 

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11/16/18 02:16:03PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

@hop-daddy,

   It happened so much to me that I had to switch to plastic drinking glasses, and metal coffee mugs with secure tops that work like sippie cups. They keep coffee hotter and water colder anyway. 

   I need one of those chains around my neck like grandmas used to wear to keep my reading glasses from falling off my head, which is where I push them up so I  can walk. Just 3 wks. ago, a pair fell off my head and a chunk broke off one side of a lens and one bow came off. It is now secured with thin copper wire, lol. 

   One thing I have not done is get rid of throw rugs, which are very dangerous when you are this clumsy. I trip over the ends daily. I've tried 3 different kinds of no skid underlays, and all of hem fail after exposure to 2 wks. of air conditioning. 

    The latest is  that I press buttons to turn various appliances on and they do not come on. My DH comes over and easily turns it on, whatever it may be. I am also having smoke alarms go off, and only when I am alone. Replaced the batteries and am waiting to see if it keeps happening. 

    I am not sure in my case if this is related to being empathic or to having fibromyalgia, since it is a well known phenomena that many fibromyalgia sufferers can stop a watch cold just by putting it on. I do not own one anymore, so I am not sure if I can do that or not. I also have a great left beating nystagmus, courtesy of the fibromyalgia, which in plain English means my balance stinks. In your case, it seems a lot more mysterious...

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11/16/18 08:44:24AM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

@hop-daddy,

You may want to reconsider using drinking glasses, lol. I use plastic cups to drink from now, and metal  H20 containers w/closed tops when in the car. I also use plastic and bamboo dishes most of the time, since I've broken so many regular dishes. I still use ceramic coffee mugs, but broke my favorite one two weeks ago, when it slipped from my hand while I was drying it. I also smash my fingers on the oven door at least twice a week, bang shoulders into door frames, and broke a toe on a bifold door awhile back. I swear they reach out and grab me!

Cheshire Cat
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11/15/18 06:08:21PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

@hop-daddy,

 I had a session with that son of Sylvia Browne. His name is Chris Dufresne. He is very good. He was so detailed and accurate I was gobsmacked! 

I had not thought about telekinetic being involved, but it might also explain all the clumsy episodes where things fall out of my grip and fly halfway into another room. It just seems like really bad luck, but now I wonder.....

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11/15/18 06:05:35PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

@michelle,

Thanks for the link....I will read it tomorrow! 

I have Virgo rising, and also am a neatnik, which is common in empaths anyway, since clutter is too much overwhelm for many of us. I too am a Type A and have severe adrenal fatigue. I have to take Seriphos every night to get any sleep at all. I also have fibromyalgia, which wears out the nervous system, among other things. 

I can do natal charts and know mine, but I cannot do the progressive charts and know little about the houses. We have a member here who has not been here in ages who was really good at astrology. I wish she was still here to contribute to this thread. 

Thanks again for the link and have a good night...

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11/15/18 01:30:36PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

It seems I have major screw ups with every business I have to deal with, and most especially with electronics, especially computers, and even with the power going off at our house during retrogrades. I do freak out, as hop-daddy says and blow up from the endless problems.

It also seems like we are approaching, leaving, or in retrograde a whole lot of the time. The breaks in-between are not nearly long enough for my taste! 

I liked the part of the article where she said that some people may be introverts because of all the toxic energy they absorb and the need to retreat from the overwhelm it causes. I agree with that. I come from a family of extraverts, in which my mom (also an empath) and myself were the introverts. I have become almost a recluse, due to living around so many negative people, with two of  the darkest people I've ever known living on each side of me, like a sandwich. Non-empath spouse refuses to move. 

Does anyone know if different zodiac signs are more or less affected by mercury retrograde? I am just guessing that Gemini might be most affected, since it is their ruling planet. Anyone know?

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11/13/18 05:28:05PM
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@michelle,

Thanks for posting the info on the Gnostics too. Finding that material a couple of  years ago was a revelation! 

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11/13/18 04:19:18PM
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@michelle,

Ditto what hop-daddy said. Another light warrior here, and have fought them on the astral in my sleep. Exhausted from it and discouraged by the lack of awakening in the general population. I know of 2 more of us who are members here and there may be more. I also think of us as a clean up crew. People have different roles as you said. I also wonder what  the heck I was thinking when I decided to come here. I can also relate to people not listening to me, even people who've seen me predict things that came true or other things like it over and over. I am also older like you, and want you to know how you are not alone! thanks for posting this...it has helped me too. :-) 

Cheshire Cat
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11/09/18 07:16:49AM
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What is your biggest issue as an empath?


Empath

from @kate:

"The mental way of feeling someone when you know what they say is in contradiction with what they really think. Fake everything: laughs, thoughts to "push through", public belittle-ing to cover for personal issues, etc."

A huge issue for me is how to handle this dichotomy in people who claim they are very close to you. It forces me to chose between being just as fake as they are by not saying anything and condoning by ommission, or withdrawing, which is what I've done to the point of it being very bad for my health. Being around that and doing nothing feels far worse though. I want to scream at them, and no longer trust myself to hold it in, but that is not productive.

Cheshire Cat
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11/07/18 02:29:42PM
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Meditation


Tools for Empaths

@mike-simpson rogers,

You might want to try a simple yoga breathing technique. Breathe in through the nose to a count of 4. Hold for a count of 7. Breathe out through the mouth to a count of 8. Repeat. Concentrate on your breath. Works for me.

I've not used a crystal ball, but I've read you can get better results in a mostly dark room. Raymond Moody, of near death studies fame has written quite a bit about scrying, which is what crystal ball gazing is called. You may be able to find info by searching for scrying. 

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11/01/18 10:00:36AM
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Poll related to chemical and food choices


Empath

@catwhisperer,

 AWWW... which cat is this? it's been awhile  since you changed your avatar. I love orange kitties; they have quirky personalities! :-)

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@LoconnorO,

Have you taken the "Big Five" personality test? Many psychologists are replacing the MBTI with it, saying it is more accurate. I still prefer MBTI, but the Big 5 is interesting, and they say it is 100% accurate in predicting your politics too...

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10/31/18 05:52:57PM
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Talk Them Up and They Come?


Psychic and Paranormal

@lessita125,

     I am borrowing from many, many metaphysical teachers who have all said that about synchronicities. You can probably do a search for "synchronicities and life path" and find lots of stuff about it. 

     According to those teachers, when not on your correct path, everything seems to go wrong, and constant obstacles are placed in your path, getting worse and worse, until you learn from them and go where you should no matter the cost, and I can personally testify to the truth of that one.

   If you are unsure of a choice, there are several things to try. I would ask for a sign that only you would know to be shown to you if your choice is correct.  Another would be right before bed, ask for a lucid dream about your question and keep at it every night, as that may take awhile. A search for "how do you know when you are on your correct life path?" would also gain you plenty of good reading and videos as well. There is a load of info on this subject!

Cheshire Cat
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10/31/18 12:47:46PM
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The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

LoconnorO,

You are certainly not offending me! I have had the same experiences, including a few people who were on this forum pretending to be empaths, even a couple who were here looking for prey.  I only came across the term about 6 yrs. ago and was always called "high strung" before that, which did not explain everything involved. I share your concerns. I have found isolation the only way to limit the amount of damage I sustain, and allow me to keep enough of my own energy for the few people who really do care about me. There are people here who do have success with the methods you mention though and maybe they can help you understand why/how it works for them. 

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10/31/18 07:51:47AM
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Poll related to chemical and food choices


Empath

1) Severe MCS. Can't tolerate formaldehyde, paint, vinyl, laminate, plywood, carpet, or new anything. Can't go in a new building for about 2 yrs. Allergic to insect stings, pollens, molds, many drugs, but no foods (had lots of testing, conventional and alternative). Due to Lyme Disease.

2) High nutrition diet due to advanced Lyme disease with exocrine pancreatic insufficiency. Lots of protein shakes and smoothies w/ greens and fruits and kefir, organic baby food. Aim to get 3 times normal nutrition in easy to digest form. No junk food.

3) Not into superheros at all. I like the quiet unsung, everyday heroes :-)

4) MBTI type INFJ-T. Enneagram type 1w2. (There are previous threads on this you can look up. Lots of INFJ and INFP here, as you would expect with empaths).

What is your thesis on this? Are you thinking we would be more physically sensitive as well as in other ways? Interesting idea....

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10/28/18 06:38:56PM
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Birds as Omens and Signs


Library of Light

Thanks Bing. My DH always has flocks of crows watching him wherever he goes and wondered what it meant. This was very helpful and interesting.

We have screech owls hooting in our trees all the time at night and once had one of them fall down our chimney and get stuck in our fireplace insert. We opened the doors and it flew silently out the back door. I am glad I did not know it is a portent of death when that happened!

Cheshire Cat
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10/26/18 03:07:02PM
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Selene.


Arts

@curious-child,

I love poetry and I really liked yours. Thanks for posting it. ;-)

Cheshire Cat
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10/17/18 11:14:00AM
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Emotional eating


Empath

Hi Zacharias,

I will give a very brief explanation, and you can probably find videos at YT that will explain INFP-T  in more depth later, if interested, or just use a search engine to read about it more. Your actual number scores are meaningful, as they show the degree to which you lean one way or another. For example, my J score is 92, which means I really don't like surprises and I am very organized. My F score is only 19, so I do use logic and factual proof almost as much as I use my gut feelings. You can also look up which types of jobs are best for your type, and which types make your best friends and partners. If you study the 16 types until you have the basics down, which doesn't take that long, you will find you can type others pretty well, and it will go a long way to explain why they think and behave as they do. 

I = you are more introverted than extroverted. You look inward to think about things, rather than trying to find answers in the external world. You need some alone time to recoup your energy, since interaction with people takes your energy rather than giving you energy. 

N = You see the big picture more than the details and are more interested in the future and possibilities than in the present and proven facts. You find connections between things that others may not see. You are highly intuitive.

F - You use feelings more than thinking to make decisions in life. You trust your gut more than logic, since you know there are many unseen factors in life.

P - You are comfortable with letting things happen as they may, are spontaneous, and enjoy surprises. You don't plan ahead much and go with the flow. You may not be very neat or organized, though being an empath, you may be an exception the the usual P type, since empaths tend to get physically sick in chaotic surroundings. You may have a flexible view of deadlines.

T = You are more moody than even-tempered and may react more strongly to emotional triggers than average.

I hope that helps! There is a lot more to learn. The MBTI is used more by companies to match employees  to jobs than for anything else. If you are looking for a change, it may help to point you to one. I have found it immensely helpful with one on one relationships that baffled me. 

C. Cat

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10/17/18 09:52:58AM
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Emotional eating


Empath

@ zacharias,

My edits delete, etc. icons are gone!  Wonder where they went....

I forgot to say you did not mention how you came out on the MBTI. The INFJ type is only 1% of the population, but many INFJs are empaths, way above the amt. you would expect. There are previous threads here with surveys that prove this.

You mentioned despising humanity, and that is such a common feeling among us empaths. You do not need to feel alone in that. We also tend to feel guilty because we think it is bad to feel this way, but we can read negative things in others that most of them cannot see. I always remind myself of that when I hear the 3 ESFP friends I have say how much they love everyone! They are the type least able to see the bad in people, and I have seen them be horribly taken advantage of due to that. Knowing this helps me feel less bad about it, since I realize that if they had my personality, they would most likely feel just like I do. This is even known as the empath push-pull. We feel compelled to help people, but we can't stand them at the same time. To me, this is one of the two hardest things about being an empath. The other really hard thing is warning people of things, for example that a person is very bad and will hurt them, being ignored almost always, and then watching them become angry at me after they've been hurt just like I told them they would be, because every time they see me, I remind them of how foolish they were and they project their anger at themselves onto me. Ya can't win with people....we are all flawed. 

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