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Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/17/18 11:14:00AM
1,330 posts

Emotional eating


Empath

Hi Zacharias,

I will give a very brief explanation, and you can probably find videos at YT that will explain INFP-T  in more depth later, if interested, or just use a search engine to read about it more. Your actual number scores are meaningful, as they show the degree to which you lean one way or another. For example, my J score is 92, which means I really don't like surprises and I am very organized. My F score is only 19, so I do use logic and factual proof almost as much as I use my gut feelings. You can also look up which types of jobs are best for your type, and which types make your best friends and partners. If you study the 16 types until you have the basics down, which doesn't take that long, you will find you can type others pretty well, and it will go a long way to explain why they think and behave as they do. 

I = you are more introverted than extroverted. You look inward to think about things, rather than trying to find answers in the external world. You need some alone time to recoup your energy, since interaction with people takes your energy rather than giving you energy. 

N = You see the big picture more than the details and are more interested in the future and possibilities than in the present and proven facts. You find connections between things that others may not see. You are highly intuitive.

F - You use feelings more than thinking to make decisions in life. You trust your gut more than logic, since you know there are many unseen factors in life.

P - You are comfortable with letting things happen as they may, are spontaneous, and enjoy surprises. You don't plan ahead much and go with the flow. You may not be very neat or organized, though being an empath, you may be an exception the the usual P type, since empaths tend to get physically sick in chaotic surroundings. You may have a flexible view of deadlines.

T = You are more moody than even-tempered and may react more strongly to emotional triggers than average.

I hope that helps! There is a lot more to learn. The MBTI is used more by companies to match employees  to jobs than for anything else. If you are looking for a change, it may help to point you to one. I have found it immensely helpful with one on one relationships that baffled me. 

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/17/18 09:52:58AM
1,330 posts

Emotional eating


Empath

@ zacharias,

My edits delete, etc. icons are gone!  Wonder where they went....

I forgot to say you did not mention how you came out on the MBTI. The INFJ type is only 1% of the population, but many INFJs are empaths, way above the amt. you would expect. There are previous threads here with surveys that prove this.

You mentioned despising humanity, and that is such a common feeling among us empaths. You do not need to feel alone in that. We also tend to feel guilty because we think it is bad to feel this way, but we can read negative things in others that most of them cannot see. I always remind myself of that when I hear the 3 ESFP friends I have say how much they love everyone! They are the type least able to see the bad in people, and I have seen them be horribly taken advantage of due to that. Knowing this helps me feel less bad about it, since I realize that if they had my personality, they would most likely feel just like I do. This is even known as the empath push-pull. We feel compelled to help people, but we can't stand them at the same time. To me, this is one of the two hardest things about being an empath. The other really hard thing is warning people of things, for example that a person is very bad and will hurt them, being ignored almost always, and then watching them become angry at me after they've been hurt just like I told them they would be, because every time they see me, I remind them of how foolish they were and they project their anger at themselves onto me. Ya can't win with people....we are all flawed. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/17/18 09:39:30AM
1,330 posts

Emotional eating


Empath

@zacharais,

  Lol, the MBTI is quite confusing to those who are not trained in the meaning of it's buzzwords like I am. "Judging" does not mean judging at all! It means you are a person who prefers order to chaos, a planner rather than spontaneous, a neat person who wants his or her ducks in a row. Being the Perceiving type means you are fine with going with the flow, are not a planner, easily adaptable and usually not as concerned with being on time as much as a J type would be. I very much wish the professions would stop using babble words to make  it impossible for others to understand basic concepts. It is ridiculous bid for exclusivity, rooted in pride, and as a former psychotherapist, I find it quite embarrassing. Most professions have their language of exclusivity, not just psych. I think the MBTI is a great tool for everyone,  but it does take some study to learn how to interpret it, and this kind of blurring of meaning is making it hard for everyone to have access to the good it can do. You might try taking "The Big 5" personality test, if you cannot relate to the MBTI. Or, you can try the Ennegram test. All are free online, and I think all are valuable in their own ways. Most free MBTI tests have a report they give you that interprets the scores.

   You are so right that nuts are a great snack, but most of them should be soaked for 24 hours and rinsed and dried before consuming, or they bind to any minerals you ate at the same time and take them out of the body undigested. Native peoples know this and laugh at the way we eat them raw. They soak, dry, roast and pulverize with a mortar and pestle. Then they bake them into flours and breads. That's a lot of work! Almonds actually taste sweet when they are soaked, so you might try them. Cashews should not be soaked, but I find they are addictive just like candy, so I avoid them. Another slightly sweet snack that is really good for you is dark chocolate, with at least 60% cacao. I worked in a bad office environment once and became addicted to peanut M & Ms. I had to quit cold turkey to make it stick. Chocolate binds to receptors that help pain, so that may be one reason why we go to it. Good luck! 

   I am also in horrible chronic pain, and have been for 32 years now. it destroyed my life and took away my career, forced me to move to a place I despise, cost me more than I even want to explain, since it will sound like I want pity. You are so correct that untreated pain makes people testy and negative, esp. if it makes it impossible to sleep. They have taken legal pain control away from those with real pain in the service of ending street addiction, which will not be affected. I am lucky if I get more than 4 hrs. sleep a night. I hope you have a better support system than I do, since the quality of your relationships with others is everything when it comes to happiness and also goes along way to help distract us from pains or all types. 

May God bless you with the best possible outcomes, C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/16/18 07:23:41AM
1,330 posts

Talk Them Up and They Come?


Psychic and Paranormal

A  thought came to me right away after reading your latest post. I think all of this could be proof that you are on your correct path in life, which is wonderful. Life is supposed to flow smoothly, with lots of synchronicities, if one is on the correct path. The reason it seldom happens to most people is that most of us have strayed from our path, including me. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/14/18 10:25:43AM
1,330 posts

Talk Them Up and They Come?


Psychic and Paranormal

@lessita125,

 I would look at why you were talking about the person, and see if maybe, in light of what happened when you encountered them later, you might have actually had a premonition, as opposed to somehow making them appear, though that would be amazing if you can do it!

Let me create an example so this is clearer. I am making this up as I go, so bear with me. My friend Mary and I are planning to go to a blues concert in 3 weeks, and are excited because we both love to listen to blues. Mary mentions that she wishes our old pal Tammy was in touch more often, since she loves blues too and she might go with us. I agree with her and say how much I miss seeing Tammy. One week  later, we run into Tammy on the way to our work place, when we are passing buy the venue where the concert will be. She is buying tickets for it. We are amazed, since we haven't seen her in months. It is logical that Tammy might be there if she is still in town, since she loves blues, but us thinking about her may have been a premonition that she actually would be there at that particular time so we'd see her. 

I hope this makes some sense. If nothing like that is involved, then I am just gobsmacked. This is a talent I wish I had, lol. I do not know if there is a name for it when you can conjure people up! I don't think it falls under any of the 'Clairs', but I may be wrong....

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/14/18 08:02:27AM
1,330 posts

Emotional eating


Empath

@zacharias,

     Thanks for the pep talk, it helps. :-)

     Not being attached to the outcome is so necessary in other situations as well. When we do a favor for someone, we may be attached to the outcomes of being thanked and having them do something for us. That may not happen, and we get disappointed. I learned to let go of it intros cases, but also keep watching for a pattern of a person who never thanks anyone, and never does anyone good turn. I run from those, since they may be narcs and will drain me. 

     I have a two-pronged problem with this. One is that I am an INFJ, and the J is my strongest score, at 92%, which is freakishly high. For those who aren't familiar with the MBTI personality types, that means I am very much into seeing justice done, and I want life to be fair, which it isn't. I have problems with that too....I have a lot of questions! The other is that I have late stage Lyme disease, and it is in my brain. This results in a thing called Lyme Rage, which is simply awful. It is one reason why I am mostly a hermit now. I have about 1/2 second to get control of myself, or the rage is off and running and I do not even remember what I said later. It has actually helped in 2 cases where horrible neighbors were driving me crazy, and I was kind to them despite it for 4 and 12 yrs., respectively, until they finally pushed me so hard I went into Lyme rages. I scared them so much, they ran away from me and haven't bothered me since. I hate to lower myself to that level, but it did work and nothing else had. It's a sad comment that non-reaction only encouraged them. 

     I am very glad that you now have a great job with a good boss! That is rare and something to be grateful for. I will keep working on non-attachment, since I agree how important it is. I do think it is far harder for empaths to do though. My husband compartmentalizes things, which I learned in psych classes is a much more common thing in men than women. He just puts things he doesn't like away somewhere and locks them up and lets them go. If you can do that, you are lucky.  wish I could do that!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/13/18 01:43:00PM
1,330 posts

Emotional eating


Empath

@zacharias,

 I agree with what you said, though I've found that there are sometimes exceptions to the rule.  If the narc is part of the family and you don't give them what they want and/or keep showing them up in any way, sometimes they won't just go away. Instead, they will try to learn all they can about the things that are good about you, and then spread the exact opposite in the form of blatant lies to destroy you. This has happened to me and to a good friend, different Narcs, same tactics.

That can come back to bite them though, since some people they tell the lies to will like you and not like them, and will come and tell you about it. They definitely have weaknesses, one of which is that despite their lying, they cannot read other people, or tell at all when they are being lied to, so flattery can be used to control them easily, they are so desperate for a supply of attention. They can't keep friends, and have no concept of the loyalty involved, so they will go and spread lies to your friends, who will tell you what they said or did right away.

How do you not show any emotional reaction, especially being such a feeling-dominant person? That is the question for me. Studying detachment should help, but I can't seem to master it, despite years of meditation on it. Do you have any helpful hints on how you manage to stay detached? Many things work for me in practicing when meditating, but then one of them drives me right up a wall again, and I blow a gasket. I have tried admitting I can't handle it myself and giving it all to Jesus, but it is still going on. Can you always keep your cool now? 

For the carb cravings, you might try a magnesium drink like Natural Calm and use it to wash down a couple capsules of L-tryptophan. That would give you the same hormones as most carbs, though not as many as chocolate. Chocolate raises every neurohormone that feeds any type of addiction, so I hear you loud and clear on those M & Ms! ;-)

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/13/18 08:45:43AM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

Hi TL,

I hope there is a way you can promote that one hard working young man at your job. Talk him up to the boss above the narc's level, write him a recommendation, or whatever helps him. We love complain about bad people, but rarely take time to applaud the good ones who need encouragement. Why should they be good when they see the ruthless get ahead instead of them and when psychopaths run everything?

This is one reason empathy dies, imo. I've written letters to people's bosses when I get excellent help or service and given a copy to the employee to use as he sees fit. They look so happy and surprised, as if they never get praise for jobs well done, and I bet they don't!

I never got offered raises, except once, and while I got praise, I also got suspicion that nobody could possibly do as much work as I had, so I must be cheating somehow. The last job I left had to hire 4 people to replace me. I was a fool to work that hard for nothing, so I partly understand why they don't want to these days. Nobody trusts anyone now, and you have to give in order to get, but that works from both sides. Too late, I understand I should have been pushy about raises, but being that assertive is so hard for me. As an empath, I think people should consider it from my point of view and offer me one, since I would do it for them. Others just are not like that for the most part.

As for the doctors, I cannot comprehend why they feel they cannot help their patients while also making money, or worse why my doc said they seemed so gleeful that they wouldn't have to, almost as if they hate us. They already make an average of 6 times what the average family of 4 makes. When I was young, they made 2 times as much, and were quite happy with that, plus they came to your house when you were sick, knew your whole family, and you could pay them w/o ins. in the middle to quadruple the cost. If they needed lab work, they drew your blood at your home and took it with them! 

I think we are living in a repeat of the fall of the Roman empire, the British empire, or any other previous one you can name. It is sad, but they all rise and fall the same way, or so it seems.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 04:55:56PM
1,330 posts

Beautiful radiating energy


Empath

Wow, TL,

This sounds really interesting. Could you try and have a lucid dream and ask if you've known him before? Or ask your guides that question?

I think I'd try smiling at him a lot and if he looks at you with the question of "why are you staring at me" just say lightly and with a smile that he looks very familiar to you, and ask if he recognizes you at all.... If he does anything other than say no and then turn away, then he may be interested too, and then you can slowly move forward. That way you don't look forward or pushy, but you still find out. Or maybe not. I have ben out of the dating pool for so long, I would not know what to do.

Good luck!!! 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 04:41:28PM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@tigerlily,

Good for you! You did not lower yourself to their level and you kept at least one good friend out of the deal. :-)

If it helps any, I can testify that sometimes when you do keep old friends who are far away, like I (mostly) have, they can change over time into someone you don't even like anymore, let alone love., or you grow enough recognize serious issues, like your friend being a narc.  I try to stick with it out of loyalty, and sometimes got hurt badly. While old friends are usually the most understanding, since they know your backstory and know WHY you do what you do and think how you think, they can end up being so different that there is no common ground. It is not all them of course, we also change over time. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 04:34:27PM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@hop-daddy,

My primary doctor is 61 and recently he told me about a CEU class he went to with many young doctors. The speaker, who my doctor said is a bad doctor, told about a new plan to see more patients per hour and make a lot more money without having to help the patients. The young doctors gave him a standing ovation and my doctor got up and walked out. 

Unfortunately, there is a doctor shortage, especially of primary doctors, so they may get what they want. It may be worse here, since we have the worst shortage of any urban area so far. it was the total lack of ethics that floored me. Narcissistic people are out for themselves. That normally does not go away. I wonder if there is a way to change it though, like strict societal sanctions....that would be hard when most people think that way though. 


updated by @cheshire-cat: 10/12/18 04:35:08PM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 04:12:41PM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@TigerLily,

    WOW is all I can say about those salary expectations. It is much worse than I thought. 

    I also wish someone would explain to me why you'd bother to get together with others, if you are going to be on your phone??? I hope someone younger will post and explain that one.

     When you are my age, and your friends have all moved far away, lost touch due to the demands of taking care of kids and their parents and working, or are sick at home, or have died, you will wish you had just a couple of those people to talk to face to face. 

     Every piece of research done on what makes people happy has found it is the quality of our relationships, period. Who are you most likely to get that quality from? Your childhood friends. Researchers wondered why they always found that people who stayed within 50 miles of where they grew up were happiest, and narrowed it down to just one thing, keeping your childhood friends. It seems like people just discard others when they move now, as if friends are all the same and interchangeable. I do not understand that one either. 

     I guess I am just obsolete in this new society. Either that, or we've really screwed ourselves over, and have a long way to go to get back to Pooh corner! How can we get back what we've lost or create it again?

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 03:39:09PM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@hop-daddy,

The symptoms you've just described sound like the very definition of addiction! We already have research showing social media creates a dopamine addiction in many people. So, do we treat this problem like an addiction to narcissism? I think you're onto something there. 

I also think Dr. Gray is right about unsupervised play time though. It fosters both empathy and creativity. We need to bring recess back again, for starters. We need to teach people that self esteem must be earned. Also, that nothing will make you happier than helping others. Help others and watch your self esteem go up, etc. These things were just common sense when I was growing up. That would help with the narc stuff, but what about raising empathy?

I agree that narcs are unhappy; after all they are very insecure down deep. I do know people who are unselfish who are unhappy though, esp. empaths, who tend to give themselves away totally, often to people who do nothing but take, and/or are toxic, and then they have nothing of themselves left. I did that for a long time. I think there has to be a balance. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 02:37:04PM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@cat-whisperer,

 Yes, that too! Did you happen to see the article about all the people who have died while taking selfies? Really horrible that this happens. Falling off cliffs, etc. is the number one way. I have seen people walk full force into glass doors. 

This brings up the issue of whether tech is causing a lot of this all by itself.....I think it is. If so, what can we do about that? It seems overwhelming. Nobody wants to give up the convenience of tech.

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 02:33:44PM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@hop-daddy,

 Phew! I am safe since I'm in my 60's, lol. I think (and hope) you are talking about people with varying narcissistic characteristics, rather than full blown NPD, which is still supposedly rare. 

Dr. Gray says the self esteem movement when they were kids is also to blame for the entitlement, etc. All the trophies just for showing up, the grades just for coming to class, etc. and constantly being told you are special for no reason, etc. 

People with full blown NPD, which is set in stone by age 4, cannot be helped, but I pray the narc tendencies can...but HOW?

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 01:50:31PM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

@hop-daddy,

Thanks, those song lyrics really fit this discussion well. 

I've been alarmed when watching videos on empath subjects on YT, and reading the comments. An large minority of younger people seem to think empathy is "a mental illness" or "a weakness". That is terrifying, and I agree we need to fight back and somehow make it cool to care. It's Cool to Care would be a good motto, actually. Empathy is absolutely necessary for a moral and compassionate society.

I hope the pendulum swings back, as you say, but as you know, there may be forces behind the scenes orchestrating this for their own gain.

I also want to be clear that I do not want this thread to start a generational war. This change may be seen mostly in the young, but it was us oldies who raised them that way, so we all need to work together to fix it. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/12/18 10:37:02AM
1,330 posts

Does it seem like Empathy is disappearing? You're not imagining it!


Empath

I read an article from Psychology Today by Peter Gray, PhD, entitled: "Why Is Narcissism Increasing Among Young Americans?". 

To summarize, it said that studies of thousands of college students over time show 70% of today's group are significantly more narcissistic and less empathetic than their counterparts were 30 years ago. Specifically, there was 30% more narcissism, and 40% less empathy now than there was then. 

So, if you are feeling more and more like your empathy is the exception, not the rule, you are right. The author says he thinks the lack of free play time for kids is to blame. Kids who are allowed plenty of unstructured play will reward caring, cooperative, empathic behavior and shun kids who are selfish and do not play well. Since we are social in nature, this teaches the shunned ones to correct that behavior. Having every minute planned and structured does not allow for any of that, and it is necessary for kids to learn empathy. He also said this lack of free, creative time is causing depression and anxiety in older kids. 

I hope we can all agree that empathy is needed to have any kind of a decent society. What do you think should be done about this trend? Are there any other things you believe are causing this problem or adding fuel to the fire? I can think of a few, but would like to know what you all think.....

Cheshire Cat


updated by @cheshire-cat: 10/12/18 10:40:21AM
Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/11/18 06:35:16PM
1,330 posts

Penny Roll-A Message from the Dead???


Psychic and Paranormal

@lessita125,

Sometimes dreams can be precognition which is not being an empath, per se, but many of us also have the "clairs" as well. It would depend on if your dreaming about events that happen later on. 

As far as questioning your reality, what is reality anyway? The older I get, the more I realize I have no idea!!!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/10/18 08:27:43PM
1,330 posts

Emotional eating


Empath

Yep, it's the carbs when things get hairy! They raise serotonin and make me happier and calmer. I do try taking Natural Calm magnesium powder first, but can't take enough to do the job sometimes. Dark chocolate especially calls to me....it raises levels of all the happy hormones: serotonin, dopamine and GABA. If I am very stressed though, I lose my appetite. Joni's post just made me start craving a peanut butter cup, lol. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/10/18 08:23:14PM
1,330 posts

Have you ever heard of Clairgustance and Clairsalience?


Empath

Thanks for this. I had just been wondering if the weird things I've been smelling that cannot possibly be there are spirit induced. Today I smelled nail polish remover in 2 rooms of the house and I do not use it due to chemical sensitivity. We don't have any in the house.

I don't have the other one and have not heard of that, except for in a few heart transplant patients who crave foods their donor ate that they had not liked before. It is interesting that it seems to only be heart transplants that pass that along, as far as I know. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
10/07/18 08:43:21AM
1,330 posts

Penny Roll-A Message from the Dead???


Psychic and Paranormal

@lessita125,

     I'm not sure what your question is about the first incidence, or what the 6 means to you. Were you asking about the number, or does it already mean something special to you?

     It is common for the dead to use coins to communicate, as well as items that conduct electricity. I think you are probably right as to who it was, due to the timing.

     If the question is why did he pick you, when you were not that close, I'd guess most likely that is due to your vibration being the closest to where his was after death, so it was easier for him to lower his vibration down to yours to be able to communicate. Not all souls are proficient at this, and humans who vibrate higher are much easier to reach. 

     In the second case, I think that you were on the astral plane during sleep as usual, when this gentleman passed through it on his way to 5th density, what we call 'heaven', and he encountered you and let you know he was fine. 

    I have often seen those who passed while asleep, and  the surroundings often indicate that  the deceased and I are working on projects together while we sleep. In one case, I had continued repeating dreams of working on setting up a hospital with someone for an event to come here on earth, which would result in many casualties. You might look for evidence of that sort of thing the next time it happens! Some say open grassy fields like you saw are a temporary area set up by thoughts, that a spirit uses as a stage to help you feel comfortable, so you can understand what you are seeing, while they are on their way through to another place. 

   I hope that made some sense, lol. It's hard to express something so different from our 3rd density reality in words. I also await others experiences....should be interesting. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/26/18 08:15:12PM
1,330 posts

Can spirits make you taste and smell?


Psychic and Paranormal

The answers at our house turned out to be non-paranormal. The cigar smoke was coming from the relative of the woman next door, who had come to visit to escape the hurricane and smoked cigars out on her screen porch at night, just a small way from our window, which must leak a bit for me to smell it inside. She admitted that the cigars "reeked". He is gone back home and so is the smell. 

I've had another audio wake up, this time by a clinking noise, like someone dropping a bell. It happened right after falling asleep. The smoke alarm I heard did not sound at all like ours, once we tested it to see, so I am pretty sure all of these noises are hypnogogic hallucinations, which are common in people with severe sleep disorders and always happen right before going to sleep or right after waking up. 

I totally agree about animals. Our dogs didn't pay much attention, but the cats were always watching with wide eyes and following unseen things across the rooms, especially at night. I hope your issues are resolved this easily. 

C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/24/18 12:55:53PM
1,330 posts

Can spirits make you taste and smell?


Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy,

Thanks. I know you have loads of experience with this. I hope it does decide to leave. Maybe he will notice that I am too weak to help him. I had to take a heart rate rescue pill after hearing that alarm go off. My adrenals need rest, not excitement. 

The revolving door portal we used to have seems to stay closed now. That was all negs. This presence feels like a normal guy. 

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/24/18 10:49:40AM
1,330 posts

Can spirits make you taste and smell?


Psychic and Paranormal

    I've smelled cigar smoke the last 2 evenings in a row when sitting in the same place in the living room. No other strange things happened along with it.

   Last night around 2 am, I woke up to the noise of someone dropping what sounded like a box in the kitchen and got up to investigate. Nothing. Later, a bit after 6 am, I woke up and flew out of bed at the loud sound of a smoke alarm going off just one time in the dining room. When I got there, I could smell cigar smoke in the area within about 4 ft. of the alarm but nowhere else. I actually went out in the yard to see if our attic was on fire. 

   Members of my husband's family have lived in this house for 60 yrs. and nobody lived here who smoked cigars or anything else. After reading this thread, I guess I can expect escalation of activity. I just wish it wouldn't wake me up, since I get so little sleep already. 

   Does this sort of thing usually get aggressive? Should I try to send the spirit home somehow? I have premonitions and things like that a lot, but have never experienced anything like this before.

   C. Cat

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/18/18 01:14:19PM
1,330 posts

Reading Minds


Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy,

It's a bit different for me, in that the voice I hear in my head with telepathy is someone else's voice, and usually male....maybe guides?  The image for me is like a movie that I see superimposed over the person's forehead if they are there in person. If I am channeling, I see the person who is coming through just to my left and up about 3 ft. off the floor, and I hear their voice in my head.

I can't finish people's sentences like you can, unless it is one of the stories my husband tells over and over, lol!

Cheshire Cat
@cheshire-cat
09/18/18 08:42:09AM
1,330 posts

Reading Minds


Psychic and Paranormal

Zacharias,

    I agree on empathy and telepathy. In addition, I hear telepathy like a voice in my head, only way faster than it would take to say the words out loud, if that makes any sense. It is like I hear it outside of time. Empathy is a feeling, in my case often accompanied by a visual of what the other person is thinking and feeling. 

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09/16/18 10:36:12AM
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Left, right, or both


Empath

I also love this topic. It made me think about things I hadn't asked myself.

I am totally right handed, but notice I seem to give off energy with my right hand and take it on with my left. I seem to absorb negative energy into both arms, just below the shoulders, at least that is where I see it when I scan myself. 

Curious Child, thanks for the brain test. The left side of my brain feels much denser and heavier. The right side feels almost empty, lol. That fits my overly analytical nature. Since developing my intuitive abilities a lot more, I have deliberately used my right brain to make decisions though, finding it "smarter" than the logical left. 

I was using black tourmaline to help with suspected electrosensitivity aka EHS. It did not work. I tried holding it in my left hand yesterday, by accident, since I had to use the right one to operate the mouse. It really did help when in my left hand, confirming what TigerLily said.

A friend is having really serious EHS problems and she pointed out that I have more symptoms of it than she does, so I read an article about stones for EHS, and was sad to see that it says quartzes, except for smokey ones, can concentrate and draw in more electro smog! Rose and clear quartz are my go-to feel better stones. Generally, if you have this problem, black stones of all kinds seem to be best. 

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09/15/18 08:56:17AM
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Sage?


Psychic and Paranormal

@nocturnes-angel,

   How can we use cinnamon to get rid of negatives? Is it burned, sprinkled?  I am very interested, since I've used cedar in the past and found the smoke very irritating.

   Thank you in advance.....

   C. Cat

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09/12/18 11:38:54AM
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Reading Minds


Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy,

    You are so right! I am so sleepy, I mixed up telepathy with empathy. Sorry. I should not post unless I start sleeping more than 4 hrs. a night! I've never had telepathy except from spirit guides and it's been a long time now since that has occurred. 


updated by @cheshire-cat: 09/12/18 11:39:15AM
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09/12/18 11:01:57AM
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Reading Minds


Psychic and Paranormal

Mine is the opposite. Accurate mind reading for me occurs most often when I am face to face with someone who is being very emotional, whether positive or negative, though I tend to auto-read negative situations....I guess my brain regards them as a threat and kicks in right away. I see a vivid color picture of what the person is thinking, superimposed over their forehead. 

I don't know if being relaxed would make it even easier or more accurate since I am so sleep-deprived now that I just zone out when I relax, neither awake nor asleep. I am starting to think electro-hyper-sensitivity is involved, which would be a disaster, since I have to have bluetooth on right next to my head all night in order to breathe when I sleep. 

Does anyone else notice that the intensity of emotion is directly related to how much info you get and how accurate it is, or is it just me?

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08/07/18 02:01:38PM
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I have another email address I never use, but I hooked it into my apple mail account, so I will go switch to that email in my account settings and make sure I am still signed up to get notifications and see if it helps. If not, I will just have to try to check in here a lot more. Sorry if I ignored any other posts. 

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08/07/18 01:58:55PM
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Hi @spiritualskies,

Nope, definitely not patronization from me. I was dead serious and very upset that I might have been lowering hop-daddy's vibration by stealing energy from him. I do NOT want to do that to anyone. I have double depression and a terminal diagnosis and lots of other stressors. It helps me to be around people like me, and I sure don't want to hurt them. 

NOTE: I am no longer getting email notifications when someone answers a thread I posted on. I only knew about this because hop-daddy was kind enough to tell me.

    Elise says my email is listed wrong, but it is not wrong, so I do not know what to do. If I do not answer one of you, it is not me being snooty. It is just that I did not know there was a post directed to me. If anyone has ideas on how to fix this, please let me know. I am not a techie. Thanx.

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08/05/18 10:27:14AM
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"As an empath, a severely depressed person will present to you as emotionally black (if that makes sense). There is a darkness in the severely depressed that is really unsettling that I pick up on. It is so intense, that it can be very challenging for me to try to help as an empath and remove some of that darkness from them. At that point it's like a 2-3 empath person job to try to offload some of their pain and darkness since the emotional low energy is so strong. And when I say darkness, I don't mean evil. I mean their inner light is being extinquished, and it doesn't feel like their soul is 100% here."

Wow, @hop-daddy, as a severely depressed person whom you have communicated with a lot on here, I apologize if I have inadvertently made you feel this awful! It is bad enough that I feel this way. I would never want to make anyone else feel it too. 

I must be much more self-deceptive than I think, since when I visualize my aura, it is a dark gold color, not black. Do you see different colors for different types of depression? For example, there is situational depression due to things like severe illness (me), existential depression aka dark night of the soul (also me), and then there are people who don't appear to have a reason to be depressed but it happens anyway. Do we all appear the same black color?

Curious and horrified that I am exposing anyone to this...

Cheshire Cat

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07/24/18 12:53:53PM
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Human and Dolphin Empaths


Empath

I just got done reading some amazing things about elephants and wolves that make me wonder how much we underestimate them as well. We humans tend to anthropomorphize other living beings and judge accordingly, always with us at the top of the pile. Pretty arrogant, IMO. 

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07/23/18 06:50:02AM
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Offer is closed.


Request a Reading

Hi Nocturne's Angel,

Thank you....that was right on point!

I wish they would talk directly to me again. They have ignored me for more than 10 yrs. now and I don't know why. They want me to do something they know I just cannot do anymore though. The well has run dry and the trials have been way too much to take for way, way too long, and have now become impossible. I now have to find a way all alone to take care of my caretaker. If I am to keep going on earth at all, I need HELP, but no matter how much I fall apart and how many times I ask, I get no reply and no help, only worse and more problems piled on me, though they must know I am already totally broken.

Your message fits me for sure, thanks again.

C. Cat

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07/21/18 10:14:58AM
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Human and Dolphin Empaths


Empath

There is an old book called Unobstructed Universe, I think, written about 1938, where a man channels his deceased wife, who tells him that cetaceans are the most evolved beings on this planet, not humans. She tells him cetaceans are so evolved they can live without altering their environment for the worst like we do. 

Hermes, some place in the Nag Hamadi or the gnostic bible, not sure which one, I think there is something about man being given languages to divide him up and make him weaker. My memory is messed up, but I do remember reading that. Kind fits with what you said.

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07/21/18 07:15:19AM
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Chakra work


Empath

@hermes,

Thank you very much for the reassuring information. I can feel them spinning when I concentrate on that rather than on visualizing them. I broke my foot and we have a desktop computer, so I won't be on here very much the next two months, since I have to keep it elevated. I will have lots more time to sit still and meditate on chakras though. I've not seen any lotus flowers....very nice.

Cheshire Cat
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07/19/18 12:20:05PM
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Chakra work


Empath

@hermes,

Thank you for the clarification. I try to keep my chakras at about 2 1/2 inches diameter, since that seems to feel right.  I have trouble keeping my 3rd eye one that small, which may be why I am overwhelmed so much. I also have trouble keeping my root/base one that large...it keeps trying to fade away, a reflection of my desire to leave this planet, no doubt. No amount of grounding can fool your soul, which knows what you really desire. 

I did notice that part about keeping them spinning and I've never seen that before in a couple decades of doing this! Mine just sit there like floating, colorful clouds. I will change how I visualize them so they spin, thanks.

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07/19/18 08:34:19AM
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Chakra work


Empath

Thank you, hop-daddy, for posting those links. I learned a lot from them.

The positions used in #2 would dislocate my knees, ouch! I liked the simplicity of #1, and the suggestion about making the solar plexus chakra more dense. Mine look like gas clouds, so they may be much too thin to be safe. I was confused about Ms. Pavlina saying they should be 4-5 inches diameter normally and up to 12 inches when reading people, when #3 says to not try to open them up, because you pick up too much from others and can even end up in a mental ward!  They all seem to say most people's chakras are not open at all, and as a result are non-functional. So, which is really better, open or closed? 

confused,

C. Cat

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07/17/18 03:20:44PM
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Chakra work


Empath

FWIW, I read somewhere awhile back that chakras should be closed once you clean and balance them, except for the crown and the root, which must always be left open, so your Chi can flow properly. Anyone else learn that?

I do all that each morning as part of a Qi Gong routine. It does not take long to make sure they are all the right color and size, then put shutters over them, or portholes, or whatever you like, leaving the top and bottom open, then seeing the Chi flood through me as white light, fill my aura, and run down and into the earth beneath my feet to ground me. Then I do a Qi Gong exercise to let all the excess white light pour out into the world, spreading love. 

I also read that empaths tend to have our solar plexus too far open, and closing it a bit can help keep us from picking up too much of other's negative emotions. Has that helped anyone?

I seem to have problems keeping my 3rd eye chakra closed enough to prevent overwhelm, and my root chakra is too closed, so I feel derealized when out in the world, wondering what strange planet I've landed on, lol. 

LOVE that chart, Krosskelt!


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07/16/18 03:02:36PM
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The Empath Experience- An Empath Physician's View


Empath

Hi Elise.

I am so glad you posted!  I PMd you in Jan., Feb., and again in May of this year about my not being able to PM someone (I was not the only one) and got no reply, so I was really worried about you, and posted asking others if they had heard from you, but nobody seemed to know, at least not then. I am not on FB, so I asked people to check there too, but did not hear back. Phew! Maybe my PMs to you never went through either. I am very relieved.

About your thesis and book: Isn't there some way to legally stop Dr. Orloff and be compensated for what she earned from copying your work?  I would think there must be some kind of legal recourse, and I'll bet many lawyers would do something like this pro bono, especially since Dr. Orloff is widely recognized as t.h.e. expert on being empathic. This should be exposed. I have read many things by her over the years and am now wondering how much of it was stolen from others, including her many best selling books! Did you not copyright any of it? This really stinks! I am so sorry this happened to you. 

Sincerely indignent on your behalf,

C. Cat


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07/13/18 04:03:34PM
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I have read that book and am practicing some of what I learned from it. I already knew but had not tried one of the short rituals that I am now using to try to close a persistent portal in our bedroom.

I also see the idea of mental illness differently after reading this, compared to my training that field. I had begun to wonder if some of the more serious aspects of certain mental illnesses were not due to some kind of attachment or even what is called possession, and this book came at just the right time to help me explore that. I also read about a prominent psychiatrist, Dr. Gallagher, who recently came out and said he believes some mental illness is possession, due what he has now experienced, and he now works with exorcists w/in the church, a complete turnaround for him.

This all fits with what I've learned about the archons over the years. We call this force by different names at different times and places in history, but we are all talking about the same thing. I am still adjusting to this myself, but it aligns with my feeling that I am sometimes just not myself. He describes in the book the type of physical symptoms this manifests, and I was shocked, since he described the same symptoms the doctors most often say are impossible. Worth a read by anyone dealing with entities, no matter what you may think they are. Practical and easy ways to work on ridding yourself of them are detailed in the book. 

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07/12/18 05:31:51AM
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Dreams about suicide


Dreams

Often, if we are in a building in a dream, it may represent the state of our lives at this time. You were in a shed in yours....Do you feel like you are in a tiny minority and set apart from others for some reason? Is it bothering you that you are thinking or believing differently from the people you are closest to, or do you feel they are living false lives in some way? Do you feel crowded or restricted in your life or that you only have time or energy for a few people right now? I ask since you were in a small shed.

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07/11/18 03:58:33PM
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Hi Nocturne's Angel,

I would love a Spirit Guide message if you have time. :-)

Thanks,

C. Cat

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06/27/18 10:13:08AM
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Vision boards


Empath

Hi TL,

My church actually holds classes where everyone brings in piles of old magazines and they do this together, only they call it Treasure Mapping. I did one once, but it made little difference.

I agree with Hermes.V that it depends on your natural way of perceiving things. I am a very visual person already, so adding the board with photos of all my wishes did not make much difference, since I already picture things in my mind a lot. If you are not so visually oriented, it may help a lot.

Using affirmations and taking actions that will help things to happen are, of course, needed too. There have to be more thoughts that favor your desired outcome than otherwise. That can be really, really hard, since the brain is wired to focus on negativity, so give yourself a break and some time to work on it. :-)

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06/25/18 11:54:58AM
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@spiritualskies,

Are you hearing the same song over and over in relation to a particular person, or just in general? I was not sure from what I read above. The message might be for them, if it is related to someone other than you.

If it seems to be a message for you, this is popularly known as an ear worm, and is a part of OCD, though when it occurs by itself, it is considered normal. I have it badly enough now that I am severely sleep deprived that I consider it extremely annoying. 

In my case it did not seem connected to someone else, and it took me about 3 weeks of the same two songs playing in my head whenever I was not asleep before I finally figured out what they had in common and were trying to tell me about where I should put my attention in my life. Just as it was with Hop Daddy, both songs were not currently popular. At least I liked them. I have had songs stuck in my head that I did not like. 

I agree with Hop Daddy that if this is likely a message from your spirit guides, unless it is paired with other symptoms. For me it really helped to figure out what the 2 songs had in common. I hope you can remember the 2nd one and figure that out, as it might hold a clue. 

Cheshire Cat
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06/24/18 05:50:43PM
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Drink Up To Help Depression?


Empath

Hop Daddy,

Thanks. I read that link you provided and it did help. It may have answered some questions I have about why I cannot sleep past 3:30 am anymore and why the problem area seems to be in one corner of our bedroom. I also have the ear ringing before it starts, and I do see the entities, but only if I close my eyes, which seems strange. I do have depression and have to work very hard to try to keep my vibration up. Not sure I succeed. I have closed the holes in my aura as far as I can tell and there used to be a lot of them. The one time I did laugh at them, I was able to get them to leave a lot faster than usual. Lots to think about......

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06/24/18 01:04:30PM
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Drink Up To Help Depression?


Empath

Hi Hop Daddy,

    Thanks, glad you liked it. I have a head full of trivia, but can't remember what I ate for lunch!

    Did you ever finish reading "The Practical Psychic Self Defense Handbook: A Survival Guide" by Robert Bruce? 

    I've just finished reading all the free excerpts at Amazon, since my library does not have it or intend to get it. I remember you said you'd write up some basic pointers from it when you got done. No pressure.....but I am very interested, since I have felt my so-called "Lyme rages" may be due to a Neg, as he calls them. The rage attacks are totally out of character for the person I was before they started. I had almost zero temper before that. Recent blood testing revealed a suspicious profile, in that there are none of the usual Lyme co-infections present, a virtually unheard of situation. My results were more consistent with post-viral fatigue, extreme stress, and a past toxic mold exposure. Of course, I am appalled by the way I behave during rages, so it may just be wishful thinking that they could be something I can get rid of. I know many other Lymies who feel that way too.

     I am sure that others here would be interested in what you learned from the book, and it does apply to this thread, since he talks a lot about Negs causing depression, at least in the parts I was able to read online. 

Cheshire Cat
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06/23/18 11:03:11AM
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Drink Up To Help Depression?


Empath

Hi Zacharias,

   I totally agree with what you said, and I understand that you meant to describe the way most of the sheeple define "normal". I am so glad you can laugh about it. I tend to cry or blow a gasket, which is only hurting me, not the people I'm frustrated with. I am not too good at being detached, so I am sure I'd be considered to be a broken empath. I wish I knew how to let things go and laugh at them. Normal being crazy and vice versa is another example of how backwards things are on this planet now.

   Some interesting language origin info....the word anarchist supposedly means "without archons", which would represent the ideal way to live. (Ref. Mark Passio or the Nag Hamadi) The group of friends whom you don't want to bring this  subject up with probably would call the archons by another name, ie. demons, and every culture and time period has different names for them, but we are all referring to the same beings.

Cheshire Cat
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06/23/18 07:50:14AM
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Drink Up To Help Depression?


Empath

Hi Zacharias,

Here comes a pep talk. :-)

You said: "I think it's weird that we have to take drugs to act and live like normal people."

 I think we should not have to, and would not have to in any sane society. I think we are so heavily programmed in this culture that we don't realize how upside down and backwards everything is. And, you know whose realm that comes from.

As far as I'm concerned, we empaths are the normal humans. If most people were like us, don't you think the world would be a whole lot better? 

That we have to take drugs, or isolate ourselves, or make any other accommodations just to live in our culture, shows me how far away from normal this culture is. IMO, we are not the problem. Quite the opposite; we are the only hope of solving the problem.

I will end with one of my favorite quotes from Krishamurti: "It is not a sign of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."

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