Forum Activity for @tami
Funny, I have been wanting to start a discussion on this very subject for the last couple of days. This site has a few articles on relationships and understanding them and they have good advice. I think part of the journey is just discovering who you are and what works best for you.I have some close friends who are good friends but I have a hard time making new ones because I tend to hold people away from me. If they get too close before I get to know them then their energy messes me up. Most new people I meet are just drawn to me because they sense I can help I guess.My family chooses not to be a part of my life because they don't understand who I am. That's been painful for me but it's their choice and I have learned to make peace with it.My intimate relationship is a work in progress. I make him read everything on empaths haha. It's getting easier for me because I can step back and say ok, that is not my emotion or feeling. I don't like fighting but now I don't run away every time something comes up. Things can be discussed calmly and rationally.
I too have trouble letting people go. I recently broke off friendships with a couple who had so much drama that it made me physically ill. It was very painful but I know it's for the best. I hear you in the way that it is always me checking up on everyone else. Some friendships are definitely one sided. As for my guy and I, our fights seem to be getting resolved a lot quicker these days because I am finally understanding whose feelings are whose and we are able to laugh about it more now. Lucky for me he believes in the empath thing and tries to be very understanding.
updated by @tami: 01/13/17 02:23:29AM
I'm with Stephen as I try to go shopping after hours. And like Tina, it helps if I shop with my significant other- then I can focus on him. It doesn't always work though. I get anxious and really bad headaches if I stay in the store too long so I try to get in and out as quick as possible. Sometimes I hold a crystal in my hand while I shop-that seems to calm me.
Horses, meditation, creek
A recent dream was short and simple. I wonder if anyone can tell me what it might mean. I am sitting on the edge of a creek in grass. I am meditating with my hands outward and palm side up. Two horses come and put their noses in my palms. The colors were very vibrant. It was a peaceful dream and maybe a freeing one. Any thoughts? Thanks.
updated by @tami: 02/23/17 04:05:18PM
Tools for Empaths
Thanks for sharing your story. It's nice to hear other people's experiences. I'm glad your cleansing experience was successful. I inherited my mother's house. She was a hoarder. There is this heavy feeling in the air that drags me down every time I am there. I can't wait to rid the house of that feeling.
Tools for Empaths
I'm new at this too. I understand that saging and smudging are the same thing. I have never done it yet but I have done some reading that it rids the negative energy. There is a specific way to do it going clockwise from the front door and doing closets as well. Some people say to open windows while you are doing this to move the negative energy out faster. I have read that people feel a lightness after saging their house. Let me know how it works for you when you do it.
I'm with Romantok on this one. I prefer uplifting movies or movies where the character overcomes a challenge. I can't watch blood and gore. It doesn't give me nightmares but rather an uneasiness in my gut. Besides, I can watch the news for bad stuff....I don't even like watching television much.
Family tree connections
I have been interested in genealogy all my life and have my family tree researched back to the 1600s with the help of my mother's cousin. I feel a strong connection with two women on my family tree. I understand that we tend to come back with the same people around us. Is it possible that I was once those women or am I just picking up feelings on their lives? I would appreciate any insight on this.
updated by @tami: 07/05/17 12:12:28PM
New and a little lost here.
I too don't feel comfortable in groups. Like you, people tend to seek me out and tell me things they would never tell others or tell me their life story. I know the feeling of listening to them but not feeling like it is reciprocated--who can I go to?
I can relate to your feeling of not being from earth. When I was younger I always felt like I was in the wrong generation. I longed for a simpler time when people actually cared about one another instead of what they can do to get ahead, etc. Today I feel like most people simply don't get it. They don't see life for what it should be. I don't know if this makes any sense or I am just rambling along....
I have more male friends than female friends
I have always found it easier to talk to and befriend men rather than women. Can anyone give me some insight on why that would be? My reasoning is that I was closer to my dad than my mom. I had a mostly good relationship with my mother. She could be critical at times. My dad never was. I am not a girly girl-maybe that keeps me from fitting in with most women. I'd rather be out in nature or with my pets than sitting around gossiping and having my nails/hair done. I'm not really a loner as I do enjoy the company of people.
updated by @tami: 10/21/17 02:00:14AM
I'm sorry. I know how you feel. There is only one person out of my friend/family pool whom I can talk to about these things. No one else understands.My suggestion to you is to see if you can find a meetup group with like minded individuals. Meetup.com has groups for just about everything.As far as dating goes, that's a tough area. I wouldn't share your gifts right away. I would concentrate more on meeting new people and having a good time.
working at an animal hospital
I totally understand. I've been in situations with people and animals (I work with the elderly) and I see things clearly on how they should be treated or how the situation could be different. It is saddening when others just don't see what we do. The animals (and some people) know the difference in who is more trustworthy, compassionate, etc. Sounds like you are their advocate. Hang in there, the animals need you.
I have heard that things show up around the age you passed previously. For example, if you start having pain in your leg when you turn 30, that might be attributed to something that happened to you in a previous life at the same age. So maybe something happened to you when you were 33 in a previous life? Don't know if that makes any sense or not.
Hi, I'm new...
I enjoy reading about everyone's past life experiences and how they are still tied to us today. I am drawn to water but I don't enjoy being in water that I can't see the bottom. I am also afraid of heights. Years ago I went to a seminar for a psychic and with him was a past life regression guy that I had never heard of. I ended up not even liking the psychic guy-I thought he was rude to people-but to my surprise I got so much out of the past life experience. I experienced my birth. I also learned that I was pushed off a cliff and drowned in the ocean. I stood at the beach with my spirit guide in disbelief that I died so young. That explains my fear of deep water and heights. I would like to explore this avenue more. I am drawn to certain things/cultures and often wonder if there was some connection to a previous life.
updated by @tami: 07/03/17 10:05:13AM
New to this site
Hi. I was told back in 2010 that I was an empath. I never did anything with that knowledge until recently when I dove into research and discovered that I am not alone in this journey. All my life I have felt different from others. I have trouble finding close friends because I find that it is difficult to meet people who are genuine. I know when people are lying. I often feel drained by people. I need a lot of quiet time to recharge and this makes me weird in other people's eyes. Recently I had to end a friendship with a narcissist individual. It was very painful as I want to help people all the time but I am aware that the relationship was a toxic one. I was emotionally and physically exhausted by this person.
On a good note, I had things happen in my childhood that I didn't really understand at the time. I always knew what people wanted or what they were going to say. I did soul travel. In my 20s I had my children which seemed to open the spiritual floodgates for me. I had a lot of dreams, visions, experiences with a spirit guide, seeing people who passed. That all seemed to go away when I became depressed about my failing marriage and I just got busy with my kids lives, forgetting my own.
Now I am ready to explore this talent and grow with it. I am confident that I am here for a purpose. (I work with the elderly). I need to learn to control my chakras as far as blocking negative energy that comes at me and open them when the time is right. I am also interested in finding new friends who understand.
Thanks for letting me air my feelings.
updated by @tami: 03/13/17 05:04:16AM