Forum Activity for @kristin-r

Kristin R
@kristin-r
01/20/16 08:15:15PM
11 posts

My therapist showed and shared her concerns with me and now I'm scared!


Empath

Thank you for sharing, Lotusfly! As a therapist, I encourage clients to make sure that I am a good fit during our first few sessions, and if not then I have a list of therapists that I suggest that may be better fits based on what the client needs. It never hurts my feelings when I client decides that I am not the right fit for them, and I am glad to help out a colleague with a referral. You have the right to receive services from someone that you feel validates but challenges you to move forward, and also feels safe. If that is not the case with this therapist, consider finding another therapist. A bipolar diagnosis is very serious, and really should come from a doctorate level psychologist, doctor or psychiatrist. Unfortunately not all therapists are fantastic, but there are many fantastic therapists out there!Your journey sounds amazing, and I wish you all the best as you move forward. Awesome work on maintaining boundaries even when discouraged by others! Such a hard thing for use empathic individuals!
Kristin R
@kristin-r
08/05/14 01:40:52PM
11 posts

Feeling like a social pariah


Empath

I have been feeling like a social pariah at work lately. I feel like people are giving me weird looks when I talk, don't understand me, think I'm generally odd, and I feel often forgotten. I don't think I have worked at a workplace, before, that has made me feel so out of sorts. It's starting to cause me major social anxiety, and I feel like I am withdrawing from others more. On top of this, I'm feeling burned out at my job from long hours, an insane pace, detailed and intense paperwork, constant corrections and over-management...I'm feeling like I'm becoming worse and worse at my job and I'm losing all interest in being social. I'm not sure if I'm posting this more for my own need to finally say how I feel about things or for help. With that said, I would greatly appreciate feedback and suggestions from you all. Thank you.
updated by @kristin-r: 01/22/17 12:17:27PM
Kristin R
@kristin-r
06/07/14 08:21:42AM
11 posts

Difficulty cultivating friendships outside of work


Empath

Emmy Long,

It's like you just wrote about me! I can relate to all of what you said. I spend my day as a counselor working with a high-needs population. When I'm done with work, I need to go home and relax. My co-workers go out for drinks or dinner, and I can never understand how they can keep going through the night and get up and feel rested in the morning. I'm exhausted at the end of each day, and need to retreat to my home to unwind and get sleep. I've tried in the past to go out with co-workers after work and it undid my whole week; I was so tired and drained I barely functioned the rest of the week. I think since starting this discussion I have started to realize that I don't feel like I fit in socially at my work place (and don't feel respected for who I am), causing me to feel more and more isolated from others. I'm starting to consider creating my own private practice so my work can be my own, and then my social time can be of my own creation - rather than coworkers I feel forced to engage with.

Kristin R
@kristin-r
05/30/14 11:23:40PM
11 posts

Overwhelming feelings of dread


Empath

Hi Emmy Long,

My better half often gets this experience, and I'd say about 50 - 75% of the time it is proceeded by bad news, a difficult experience, or an unexpected stressful event. One of the things we always do together when she gets those feelings is to do some positive self-talk about recognizing she has skills to handle whatever comes her way, and that she can trust her ability to handle anything that comes her way and prepare herself so that she doesn't feel blind-sighted. We treat those feelings as a "heads-up" and practice trusting ourselves so that she and I both don't live in constant anxiety and panic about the world around us. I hope this is helpful!

Kristin R
@kristin-r
05/18/14 10:09:47AM
11 posts

Difficulty cultivating friendships outside of work


Empath

Thanks Lightworker,

I like your suggestion of looking into a shared community, like an empath or hsp group. My spouse liked the idea, and wants to look into it further. Thanks for the suggestion!

Kristin R
@kristin-r
05/18/14 10:04:18AM
11 posts

Difficulty cultivating friendships outside of work


Empath

Thanks DoorMA49,

This is great insight into our current culture. I am married, and my spouse is also an empath and a sensitive. We moved to our current location about a year ago, and we naturally enjoy spending most of our time together. However, we are feeling isolated as a couple, and this is where I'm struggling with finding additional people to add into our lives. I do have one person at work that I feel pretty comfortable with. Unfortunately, she will be leaving in the near future for another job on the other side of the country. I think I will be taking Lightworker's suggestion and find a church or empath/hsp community to join.

Kristin R
@kristin-r
05/18/14 09:50:29AM
11 posts

Difficulty cultivating friendships outside of work


Empath

Hi Huey,

My anxiety usually comes on a little while after starting a social activity, but it comes on strongly, and it's like all my energy gets drained, and all I want to do is go home and sleep. And then I'm exhausted for days! I'm thinking of social events that involve several people or going to a busy location. If it's one-on-one, I pick up the person's feelings and thoughts, and if the person is saying one thing but their feelings and thoughts are incongruent, I get anxiety about what is true.

Kristin R
@kristin-r
05/18/14 09:37:30AM
11 posts

Difficulty cultivating friendships outside of work


Empath

Thanks Rachel,

I experience much of what you talked about, and I think I put it off as just anxiety. But, under that anxiety is really that I get easily overwhelmed by others. I sense people's emotions and thoughts when I start to build closer relationships with them. It's also anxiety about being misunderstood, as I have repeatedly experienced in developing friendships.

Kristin R
@kristin-r
05/10/14 09:07:00PM
11 posts

Difficulty cultivating friendships outside of work


Empath

I'm wondering if others experience the difficulty I have in making friendships out of structured environments. I made friends easily in school (through post-secondary), I made friends easily when I attended church, and I make friends easily while at work. But, I struggle to extend those friendships outside of those environments. The thought of spending time with my work friends outside of work feels overwhelming and draining; to the point of inducing anxiety.

Do others experience this difficulty?


updated by @kristin-r: 02/20/17 09:42:38PM
Kristin R
@kristin-r
11/13/13 07:11:05AM
11 posts

Dreams of family that have passed


Dreams

Thanks Bill, for your thoughts on my bio dad. I would really like to think that he was trying to apologize, but he made it clear to me that he had nothing to apologize for and wasn't going to do it. Maybe one day, but as the case goes with any abuser (alive or not), I'm not counting on it, and it's better that he does not visit me anymore.

Kristin R
@kristin-r
11/10/13 08:51:23AM
11 posts

Dreams of family that have passed


Dreams

Candice, thank you for sharing. It is truly peace-making to know that other people have similar experiences. I recently told my spouse after years of having these dream experiences because it was eating me up inside to not have someone to talk about it, and was so grateful to get love and support in return. I feel like I got that here as well.

I don't think I've experienced a message from a family member before. I imagine that would be an incredible experience. I have grandparents that very occasionally visit just to spend time with me. As for my father, he has not visited my dreams since, but I've had him attempt to visit me when I was awake. Told him to leave again, and he hasn't come back, but I see a pattern developing. He will probably try again in the future; abusive in life, and abusive in .....(what is death, another stage in our existence, a regeneration of life in a different form, I don't know. My experiences have made me question my Sunday-school views of Heaven and Hell. Maybe the whole point is that we don't fully know. I guess that is a discussion on a different board. :) )

Kristin R
@kristin-r
11/10/13 08:41:31AM
11 posts

Dreams of family that have passed


Dreams

Nancy, that sounds intense. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

Kristin R
@kristin-r
11/10/13 08:40:32AM
11 posts

Dreams of family that have passed


Dreams

Sometimes I have the sweetest dreams of my pets that have passed. Thank you for sharing your experiences. It has helped me so much to share my experiences and to know that others experience something similar.

Kristin R
@kristin-r
06/01/13 11:14:41AM
11 posts

Dreams of family that have passed


Dreams

I posted something similar on an HSP group, and thought it would be interesting to see if other empaths experience dreaming about family members that have passed away.

I have had many dreams in the past of my father, who died when I was 13, from ALS. In my dreams, over the years, his health slowly returned to him, and he became more and more interested in reconnecting in a relationship with me. Some back story, he was a disconnected father, who was abusive towards my mother. These dreams always upset me, and I was always uncomfortable having these dreams, and having to be near him in the dream, and most of the time (in my teen years and early 20's) I was trying to get away from him in those dreams. As I've gotten older and have had a better sense of how to have boundaries and that I don't have to be a victim of my past, I was more able to tolerate those dreams. Then I started having this sense of his presence when I was awake - not all the time, just sometimes - like he was visiting me. It started to effect my life when I started having dreams and intrusive thoughts during the day that he wanted me to think better of him. When I prompted the thought during those times I felt him present that he needed to make a serious apology for his behavior during his life, and ask for forgiveness, his presence during the day turned sour, and his behavior in my dreams became abusive. At this point, I called my mom because it was starting to effect my life and bring me to tears. She said that I needed to tell him to go away and stop visiting me, and that he could no longer come into my dreams. She said that it would be nice to have an apology from him, but didn't believe that he would evolve enough to do so.

I've since worked on setting boundaries, stating that he is not allowed to come visit anymore, and that he is not welcome. I haven't had a dream about him since.

Does anyone dream about their pets that have passed? I had a close connection with one of my dogs growing up, and once in awhile I dream about her. They are usually some of the best dreams.


updated by @kristin-r: 06/15/17 07:36:14AM
Kristin R
@kristin-r
05/26/13 01:50:43PM
11 posts

Sensitivity to Food


Empath

We are already so sensitive, it only makes sense that our bodies would also be sensitive to different foods, especially in this age of poorly grown, overly-chemicaled food. There are many foods I have found that I can not eat over the years...first milk, then gluten, bananas, tomatoes and peppers, and blueberries and strawberries. I'm developing a sensitivity to soy as well, so I try to watch how much I intake. Every person has their own set of foods that they are sensitive to, and there are is no rhyme or reason (though there is some genetic trends) to which sensitivities you have. I work with naturopaths, and they always recommend starting with an elimination diet to figure out the big ones. I've figured out the small ones thanks to a terrible blessing of developing hives and taking a couple of years to figure out everything that was causing them. The remainder are foods that result in me feeling phlemy after eating them. There are different resources online on how to do the elimination diet, the rest is up to how in-tune you get with your body and stomach each time you eat. Best of luck in your venture.