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alijay
@alijay
09/20/18 05:30:55AM
18 posts

stuck in love


Empath

I thought I'd be upset about it, cry at losing him, try to evoke emotion or anything. But I honestly couldn't give a shit.

It's not the first time he walked out, I was just a fool for assuming this time he wouldn't. How many times he's done that been a piece of shit and I was just too sweet for him to handle, who needs a f* bag like him anyway..

I just find it oddly weird that from past experiences I'd sulk and cry.. now I feel I don't have to do anything, he can just be gone and know that I'll breathe and live without him just like I was before I met him..

And instead of me wishing I didn't exist because of the sheer awkwardness of some of it, instead I want to actually condition myself to believe that he didn't exist, why should I mourn over someone who couldn't have the decency to be real, to be honest, if he thinks what he has is real love, that was love based on the idea of me and of others he had created in himself..

I'm not bitter about it, not sad, not mad, not nothing, shit everywhere reminds me of him, but I learnt today that why should I drop some of my standards who couldn't drop some of his own for me, and why should I raise mine to prove I can get on without him, truth is dropping/raising anything would have shown that I ever cared, that he meant anything to me, he did for some moments but what I needed was a man not a boy who thought he'd figured out what love was all about..

Thank you for your support, and on that note I'm wondering if someone whose gay or bisexual has taught me this important lesson? Since I know fully well I'm not in my own energies but what this person feels about this male is quite spot on how I feel about this ex..

Having said that could it be external influences of thoughts/perceptions? Or could this person be experienced someone else's sexuality too but I'm aware? I'm a light worker so can help heal him perhaps?
alijay
@alijay
09/16/18 12:17:00AM
18 posts

stuck in love


Empath

Thank you both for your replies, I pretty much have on all that I could where time is concerned; 

just wish I had his strength sometimes to move on as quickly as he does, why are men so easily able to do this? as if they can leave you just as quickly as they fall for you? like we never mattered or existed, as if they found the one thing they were longing/looking for, only to have it then be so unappreciative of?

as much as this is a girly rant, id love to hear what men have to say? I know women can be like this too, and i have known some.. guess helping understanding the process, might help cut that chord Attachment for me one day..

I have only been in a couple of serious relationships, before I met him, so I do consider myself inexperienced as much as I know how to make em last, 

does anyone sense any baggage from it? like I feel like I want to move on, I feel ready to find someone new, or old? 

alijay
@alijay
09/14/18 01:34:50PM
18 posts

stuck in love


Empath

A few years ago I fell in love with someone I met online, guess you could call it love at first sight, we drifted apart over some time for many reasons, I still love him, but need to learn to cut the chord, ive tried for months almost a year, I still love him very much and always will.. by far the toughest cord ive tried to disconnect from, what would you recommend?

alijay
@alijay
08/12/18 01:45:15PM
18 posts



My bf, at 16 he was my first true love, best friend. lost him a year later. will always miss him and remember him, truly one of a kind. I still have his blue shirt that he loved to see me wear and cosy up besides me.. those bitter sweet memories :(

alijay
@alijay
07/29/18 06:24:50PM
18 posts

Spirit Guides


Psychic and Paranormal

how do you feel about your guides? for those that feel they have a connection, just like we have an aura or something about us that tells us something is unique about a person, do we sense the same when we feel its our spirit guides calling us? or us being called to them?

alijay
@alijay
07/29/18 06:22:07PM
18 posts

Telepathy


Psychic and Paranormal

i have often felt this too and from people iv'e spoken to in the past who have psychic abilities, that there is always a common trait of mental illness. did people have their mental illnesses before or after psychic abilities? as much as this can affect us in everyday life because of what and how much we take on, its more than likely that we would encounter something at some point?

I wonder if a failed or lack of support networks is sometimes the cause? im grateful that I have the people around me that are patient and willing to help me through, but im wondering when it gets too much and people reach out to general professional authorities, that a failure to understand in our abilities is the cause for the diagnosis we end up with? and whether we just go along and accept what we get diagnosed with because we know how difficult it is for anyone to understand or accept how the unseen really affects us?

anyone else have thoughts they want to share?

alijay
@alijay
05/09/18 12:57:19AM
18 posts

My cats been attached at my hip lately


Animal Empaths

@warden lol why am I able to relate to your cat in a human way haha.. this friend had been asking me to go out with her for coffee etc, but I'm really self conscious around food and around new people. then I thought after she'd been nagging me what the heck why not, what do you fancy? I couldn't do that in the past, one colleague got really offended several times when i did that, I just saw the funny side cause she was trying so hard... she bought me a coffee and I didn't drink it she was pissed hehe, and why some want food from I will never know, this old colleague used to do that.. anywho..

@just-stevie cats and animals in general, there are ways people can read their thoughts and emotions too, sometimes they might eve resonate as you walk past them. last week I was walking home and it was a beautiful day, so happy in my lifes usual vibes... so I was just thinking about some stuff, not very nice, must have been in someones energy too, or maybe pick up from the houses I walk past etc, dunno? but I saw this huge dog, it was actually beautiful but I didn't sense good vibes off the owner, poor dog sounded sad inside, it didn't lie the life it had, or how it was being treated

alijay
@alijay
04/30/18 07:39:32AM
18 posts

Empaths and food


Empath

@guitarherogod47 I've tried that in the past and quit, I know what I absorb whether it's mine or not, but healing I'm just done with it, usually I'll pick up what others are feeling from locating pressure points, but I've trusted my intuition long enough to be able to do that without any direct contact or other resources I might have utilised in the past.. but thanks

@crystasage thanks IV been doing that too and am aware.. I've just used some of elises techniques instead of bingeing I'll. just wait to see if I can muster up the courage to wait for it to pass and it seems to have worked.. so thanks for the input
alijay
@alijay
04/27/18 12:25:08PM
18 posts

Empaths and food


Empath

What were Ur probs with eating issues if u don't mind me asking? @sasha-supertramp.. I've read alot of teen magazines in the past especially were eating disorder and stuff was concerned, plus my friend is a recovered anorexic and so I can understand somewhat.. so I can understand yo some extent what ppl are going through, but I forget sometimes like genuinely forget that this is not my

emotional/psychological problem.. Not saying I'm not a binger, but I changed my lifestyle where eating was concerned like 2 yes ago so I can balance, cause I'm not bothered about it right now have I opened myself up to it? Last yr I was really grounded.. Thanks for the read, nearly choked on my herbal tea lol... I don't get those often.. Other times I might literally be in someone's head space if u will and I act out on what they might be trying to cover up..

Tbh with you I can't disassociate from this stuff, I been watching lots of Netflix and I'm just absorbed in the energies that goes through ppl's minds when watching there's literally nothing I can enjoy in my own space anymore.. I can ignore sublke ones it's not a problem..


updated by @alijay: 04/27/18 12:27:48PM
alijay
@alijay
04/27/18 11:59:46AM
18 posts

Empaths and food


Empath

Lol! Thanks.. but its my brain needs work, like I know I'm not hungry, and because it's picking up from ppl around I forget and assume I need to snack or something.. and it's weird like u no we do light work an stuff does that mean we have to heal ppl who need help in serious matters like we're ED are concerned? Just something that occurred to me.. how do u heal with Ur hands?
alijay
@alijay
04/27/18 09:52:44AM
18 posts

Empaths and food


Empath

Ok I'm a big foodie, weight gain is not that much of a concern right now, but what does bother me is keep eating out of other people's energies lol

I don't know of anyone has gone through anything similar.. it's annoying! I pick up on girls mostly with insecurities who eat out of frustration, eating disorders/ +mentality.. it's like such bad cravings, I'm definitely not putting anything on my shopping list that I k own I'll be likely to binge on (which is what some are doing-self loathing energies, and drowning they're sorrows in food) heck today I wanted to puke up after I'd eaten..

Anyone have any tips on grounding this? Like so many times I'll make myself drinks and stuff that I don't actually want or need... If going on a diet for girl is bad being an empath and trying to go on it is worse..

No offense to anyone with genuine issues around food x


updated by @alijay: 09/05/18 10:47:27PM
alijay
@alijay
04/25/18 05:15:20AM
18 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

@cat-is-very-broke lol Ur post made me laugh, (not in an insensitive way)

Tf journeys are really tough, though I haven't met mine yet, my friend has and she had the most craziest dream about they're situation.
alijay
@alijay
04/10/18 12:31:45AM
18 posts

Diet and Intuition


Empath

iv'e never personally been affected by diet where food types are concerned, sometimes if people feel iffy around it in anyway I would question where the source of it bought from? but on another aspect, I can sniff negative energies from miles away, way before any contact with the person its emenating from, its a lesson learnt

alijay
@alijay
04/10/18 12:25:50AM
18 posts

Seeing Strange Lights


Psychic and Paranormal

lots of vibrations and frequencies emenating lately from the atmosphere, seem to be bouncing off and escalating? 

I don't know what to suggest or what these 'entitys' want from me? conveynce of something resonates, ohh dear life..

alijay
@alijay
04/08/18 04:29:49PM
18 posts

Feeling good?


Empath

that's great to find something is working with you. I tried something yesterday and it was fine, again this morning was fine too and more recently. usually it was mind meditation, but this time without. and just contemplated naturally.

don't get me started on messy rooms (eye roll). I think having a routine works, setting out chores for specific days and not over doing it, some times a little mess is ok, I know people whose environments are spotless and then I allow mine to have some to give it a homey feel and to feel the pressure to compare with others, that can feel like a chore in itself.

actually when I have the kids around we all get together and I get them involved, make it a competition and reward, then have a little talk afterwards about what the lesson of the purpose was. takes some effort but I notice when I don't make them feel like its a chore and it more optional activity it works wonders, if they're younger I'm so ocd about them making more mess, but let them, they practise to clean as they go along depending what it is, just have to crush urself not to get snappy as I used to lol.. other times, but this my case where I have a ton family kids around


updated by @alijay: 04/08/18 04:46:00PM
alijay
@alijay
04/06/18 07:26:17PM
18 posts

Telepathy


Psychic and Paranormal

if you don't mind me asking, what's it like to be diagnosed with schizophrenia and being an empath?

alijay
@alijay
04/06/18 07:22:22PM
18 posts

My daughter is struggling


Empath

some very distressing situations people have been placed in due to bullying, I'm sorry for what you all are going through and have been through, I hope that with time your situations improve and your children get the help and support that they need.

alijay
@alijay
04/06/18 07:18:29PM
18 posts

Does the empath have a purpose?


Empath

very-well said @hop-daddy.

@spiritualskies whats it like being an empath as a muslim? iv'e never met another? (saw ur post on a thread, cant remember which one)

intrigued to hear from others, if they're ok with sharing?


updated by @alijay: 04/06/18 07:19:45PM