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cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
07/11/18 09:41:20PM
17 posts

Thinking about people


Empath

I only have it about one person in my life. I only have had it for the past year and where we have fallen in love we are not together currently.. We spend more time apart in turmoil feeling each others feeling than we have spent together. However we know that absolutely moment when each other has hit rock bottom and we need each other so we contact each other..
Then we have to be separated for the healing process can take place. I didn't believe that it could actually be possible but as I am working on healing my soul his soul is also being healed. the ledgen says that we both have each half of the same soul and they vibrate on the same frequency so we can hear each other's souls talking to each other.. I didn't actually believe that either until I went through the rest of my awakening process now as of March I can hear his soul telling me what he needs.. He is currently going through his spiritual awakening, and starting to hear mine however he doesn't understand exactly what is happening and from everything I have learned is that I can't just give him the answers but let him find them on his own time.. it could be tomorrow or years from now before he understands it and comes to me..
so yes I totally understand where you're coming from and I know for a fact that the other person can be in the same energy vibrations as you are in..
I am very curious about the process as once I found out and I am constantly asking him for clarification on what it is that he feels and letting him know exactly what I feel.. It has given both of us huge amounts of validation that we are not going crazy but this is actually what each other feels..
Hope this is helpful..
I hope you find the answers u are searching for..
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
07/08/18 06:08:45PM
17 posts

Not sure if this is where I belong


Empath

Been there done that, don't worry so much about it. I find that the harder I force it the crazier I get.. I have only this last few months stop fighting mine. I am lucky enough that my therapist is an empath also.
Cause I can't meditate he told me when I am feeling that crazy feeling find your ground (I am still looking for mine but I spotted my son's right away, as soon as I learned what I was I spotted it in my family like, my dad is one also along with my son) A lot of people find their ground is nature.. I sit in a hot bubble bath and try to sort through the feeling/ thought.. what am I really feeling and what do I know about those around me are dealing with.. It is harder when people don't own their feelings or are ready to share... If a feeling doesn't match what I am going through I file it in the back of my mind for later.. Those are the things that I should know but I do.. When people are ready to share it finally clicks.
The more you can learn to let the emotions flow through u the less crazy u will feel.. it isn't easy and I am still struggling with it.. being linked with another doesn't help either and I am watching him start his awakening process.. He doesn't understand yet why he is feeling my energy so strong and I am afraid to tell him to quickly.. There is also a desire level there for each other but we are not together as he is dating someone else. His emotions are the hardest on me cause I know his soul and ours talk together even when we are no where near each other.
It is so crazy to hear his calling me when he needs help and mind does the same to him.
I find that when I am the most lost and think I am losing it that it is my kids or this other persons emotions and not mine.
Hospitals are also extremely hard on me expecially if there is someone close in the final days or hours. My mom spent 6 months in the hospital last summer and I still didn't know that I was an empath.. There were so many days I would go home and cry but not understand why.. I could sleep, eat.. I felt like walk dead expecially from long days there and when someone had been so close to death.. i felt everyone elses pain as they were saying goodbye.. I went through a lot of Ativan and a lot of therapy appointments to keep me from feeling like I was going crazy.. I never put the signs together that I was feeling everyone elses pain. Swear I saw a few of the people afterwards.. once I accepted the empath I realized that I did and have seen spirits all my life..
Finding a therapist that is an empath has helped me out so much.. finding people who believe u and u can talk to to help u sort your feelings and thoughts out will help big time.. this chat community is an awesome resources but having someone else to confide it will make it real.. something about saying it out loud to another person makes it so it isn't all in your head but real... I have my therapist (There are alot who don't believe in empaths or can give u the wrong advice so be careful as u go looking if that's what u want.. I watched as the person I am linked to had the wrong one.. it caused him to feel as he was totally crazy.. Once I realized that was happening I talked him into stopping seeing his... We will find someone to help not hurt him)
I also have a friend who for the last 5 years has been there for everything.. making sure that I don't fall off into the crazy.. she wasn't sure at first about me but I knew things about her that she never shared with anyone and I couldn't explain why I knew or why for the first time I felt I could trust someone else enough to start sharing.. She was skeptical at times but never doubted me but what I said would come true.. She now helps me sort out things and helps when she lets me know what are her emotions..

Trust in yourself.. and allow time to help.. I have no patience yet I am now having to learn it.. it is a hard thing to understand but it will come.. Go with the flow...
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
07/07/18 09:22:11PM
17 posts

Not sure if this is where I belong


Empath

I suspect that u are exactly at the right spot.
All my life i swear i knew what others were thinking.. I knew when something emotional painful was headed my way.. My friend would humour me and say yeah, yeah so and so is going ro hurt u.. After time she stopped doubting me and tried so hard to comfort me that it wasn't going to be that bad.. sadly it was.. She started to call it my superpower... as for superpowers it is a really sucky one.. I also could've explain it but i knew things i shouldn't have..
I always knew that I was going to die around 40 also. 5 years ago at 39 i actually almost did die, i lost 3 litters of blood internally and there is no medical reason why I should still be here. 4 years ago my life turned into a nightmare when my husband and soulmate walked out of our marriage and because extreamly emotionally abusive with the kids and i... Trying to hold on to my sanity by my fingertips I started to see a therapist 3 years ago. Not once did he make me doubt what I knew of could feel however he got on my case to read a book by Judith Orloff.. Between legal mess, my kids and not really ready to do the reading assignment i found a million of reasons to put it off. A year ago I attempted to try dating again after 20 years and the universe put my twin flame in my path.. A twin flame is where u and this one person share a soul, it intensifies all relationship emotions however magnifies the pain and forces you to start to heal.. Yes there is lots of passion involved but the pain is not fun. A constant rollercoaster of emotions and seperation from the other person as you both are trying to work things out.. I don't wish a twin flame relationship for anyone. The up side is rhat it makes u do the painful work of evaluating your emotions and the pain so instead of running from it you face the pain and heal by makinging it strength. After a horrible week of crying and fighting with the pain i picked up the book he wanted me to read.. I have now read most of her books in the last couple of months.. I swear that she was telling my story just from another view point.. I understood why my therapist wanted me to read it... I had fought for 44 years against being an empath and it was tearing me apart.. I am now learning how to incorporate the empath into me and i don't feel so crazy anymore.. I also now can pick up on positive energy vibration not just the negitive ones.. I don't meditate as suggested.. It is a skill i suck at along with visualizations.. But as weird as it sounds i hear voices.. Not other people's but my thoughts are constant voices who are always talking.. there are several of them.. its refered to a monkeys mind.. where the mind is never at rest..
U are not crazy.. Trust me.. u are just lost.. Work on finding out how to accept the empath in u and I can't promise that things will be better but it will help so u don't have that feeling like u are going crazy... Judith is one of the top doctors in her feild in the states and is also an empath.. There are several techniques she talks about in her books to help to embrace the empath.
I wish u good luck and know u are not alone...
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
06/10/18 09:25:39PM
17 posts

Empathy


Empath

Interesting..
I was in therapy after my husband had walked out of the marriage he became extreamly emotionally abusive. I was telling him in one of the first appointments I have always known things I shouldn't and my friend calls it my super power however i hate it, I can a lot of times tell if something negitive is about to happen in my life however just not always what it is that will happen, I just now I am about to be emotional hurt. I also told him as weird as it sounds, when i worked in bars/pubs and later on when I would go as a customer i could tell if it would be a good night or one where there would be lots of fights, I could pick up the energy somehow. There are also certain people I refuse to get close to and find excuses as social functions to never be near them.. He never doubted me like most have in my past and over the next 2 years told me about books I should read by Judith Orloff. I had so much crazy going on at home I never bothered howver i do read a book every couple days iwanted to escape wheni can, not learn The abuse just kept getting worse and he cause of his career was involving different agencies to facilitate the abuse. The kids were also receiving it also so all my energy was focused into protecting then. He then gave e an audio book and wanted me to listen to some chapter out of it.. took me another 4 months before I got around to hearing it.. Well crap I am an empath and he knew a along, it was confirmed on our next appointment... reason why he didn't tell me was that this in more about the self understanding than the diagnosis. I suspect u are at this state where u know have learned but u haven't gotten to the actual self understanding. Trust me there is a huge difference.. Took me another 3 months before my soul finally understood what my mind knew.. I had been fighting my empath side for almost 44 years and i didn't see the up sides only the negitive to this point so i ran from it and half of who i am. I was working through other issues (I found my twin flame accidentally also and that throws so much more craziness and issues to heal) and after 2 days and nights of none stop crying i had finally stopped. I had also finally borrowed from the library one of Judith Orloff's books a week before. I stopped crying finally, picked up her book and the next 16 hours I read the whole book. It made so much sence and has helped me to finally start actually understanding it. I still have a ways to go as these discoveries started the last week of December and first week of March. My therapist is helping fill in the blanks. Be careful with therapist as not all believe in empaths and can do more harm than good. Mine believes and knew what I was as he is one also. It was harder for him when he went looking cause there was less recognized medical doctors talking about it then.
Hopefully this will help u some.
Good luck
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
04/23/18 06:00:06PM
17 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

As someone who has been to hell and back some days you need to remember to breath. People can only take from u what u allow them to take. It has taken me a long time to learn that lesson. The loss of your empath abilities is cause she messed with your mind. our mind can do more damage to us by believing in someone else crap that anyone else can do. Start small with your empath abilities and slowly work on it plus work on your self love. self love is the hardest love to achive to the most rewarding. As for the soul mate /twin flame they are 2 very different things. He may very well be a soul mate. A soul mate can be any one who as souls have traveled life times with yours. Not every one is romantic, My closet friend and I are mirror soul mates. Also a romantic soul mate may not be in your life forever. My ex husband and I are soul mates but is was never met to last a lifetime as u can tell by the ex part. At this point you should be thankful that he wasn't a twin flame. A twin flame is not a romantic love story but the hardest most painful and hopefully most rewarding love you will ever encounter. Not everyone's twin flame is on the physical plane currently. The reason I know this is I stumbled upon mine and if i knew then what I know now I would have ran as fast as I could the other way. Twin flames make u face everything that hurts inside of u and then they disappear for a bit while u purge and work through the hell u are in until you heal some then they show back up in your life to only have this process repeated until u are finally able to surrender and come into a union. Some people get luck and can go through all this in a few short cycles but most of us are not that lucky and end up with this cycle for years. I hope like hell that my cycle isn't going to be one of those that take 25 years to complete.. I don't think I could handle that much pain. Through the hell I am learning how to love myself and that is my reward, I don't know if i will get the guy at the end or if we will need a few more life time cycles.
I don't know if this helps. If u want more info private message me, I don't mind sharing.. But the first thing u do need to find is your love for yourself.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
04/09/18 06:32:36PM
17 posts

Diet and Intuition


Empath

I don't see there being an effect.. I eat meat however do to major oral surgery hav ing issues I have been on a very soft diet for several months but I still have meat in my diet. There were no changes on my empath abilities.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
04/08/18 07:48:02AM
17 posts

Energy attack/ how to diss O’Conner form one


Empath

I won't lie, brand new at this. In my 40's and with my therapist (who is also an empath) help has been teaching me was of dealing with negitive energy. The first major lesson I needed to learn was to identify where it is coming from. I was only a couple weeks into acceptance of my empath side where I would get these overwhelming moments where I wanted to do and I felt that if I wasn't here I would stop disappointing everyone. I wasn't worth anyones love and I just needed the world to swollaw me up. Only it didn't go with my mood. With my therapist he helped me identify that those were not me but someone at the time I am bonded to by destany, our two vibration are on the same frequency for energy vibration so even with him 4 hours away working and we haven't spoken in person since the end jan, time means nothing with this bond and I know realize 2 things,
#1 he needed help and I wasn't sure what to do. He ghosted me so I was letting him have his space.
#2 How much others effect me and how what I took as my own self hate was really others hitting me with their negitive energy (i have some but not close to what I feel)
After identifying where it is coming from, try to stop it. I finallly reached out to him and we are talking again. we are a ground for each other and he is already doing better.
After grounding yourself is also important. take a walk in a park, play with some plants and the dirt, do something that is your grounding feeling and for most it has something to do with nature. Then meditation, or just imagine that dark energy leaving you how u will feel once it is gone. some meditate in nature to the energy can be released back in the universe, some meditate at an alter where they do every day, I lay in my bed and place different rock crystals on my chakras that are blocked and let their energy vibration help pull are i imagine and pushing out my negitive energy. As an empath there is healing power in your hand. Place rose quarts in your hand, put your hand over your heart and imagine the love. love is more powerful that any other energy out there, the rose quarts amplifies the love touch. It means unconditional love.
Hope it help and I with u all the success in your journey.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
04/04/18 06:42:30PM
17 posts

My daughter is struggling


Empath

I have had huge issues in other areas of life with my children. The number 1 thing you need to do is piroritize what is the main couple issues u want looked at.. u need to have a main goal. The rest will be sub point. If not as u found with the fight with the mental doctor who didn't understand empaths things get lost very quickly.
A really good author who is also trying to educate doctors in North America is Judith Orloff, M.D.
My therapist told me one of the fastest ways of finding out if i want to let a doctor know I'm an empath is to ask their views on her medical opinions, if they share the same views then feel free if i choose to open up, but if not or no idea who she is then keep very quiet about being an empath. It is only starting to become a recognise medical opinion in some circles but most my life until I got the right therapist to help me understand what it was and why I feel things i don't understand (I fought my empath side most my life) did I have any idea who I really was. Before this doctors like to use the term Borderline personality disorder which for the right person is very helpful but an empath just gives the doctors the right to perscribe at will and the diagnosis doesn't help us at all. I tried all the treatments and came out more confused. So yes, be very careful with what is the diagnosis and monitor your daughters medical file, with the digital age that doc you fought with may have wrote down something that has nothing to do with empath and it could come back later and create issues for her, expecially with a career choice where medical records are required.
The other thing is why is your daughter skipping band and is it only band? When my children where skipping the majority of the answer was they were being bullied which could answer the reason why she expressed suicide. Then this become back to a school issue that the make big noise on the media they are trying to stop but alot of school look the other way or pretend it isn't happening.
I hope this helps you out. I wish you the best. It is going to be a thought road ahead but nothing is more rewarding than knowing that you have protected your child's rights.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
03/06/18 09:52:08AM
17 posts

Grief


Empath

Very interesting
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
03/05/18 05:47:07PM
17 posts

Meeting your spirit guide


Empath

Thank you.
I never realized that they have been talking to me my whole life. Until extreamly recent I had ignored my empath side and everything that was being told to me through the empath abilities. I learned the hard way to never ignore my gut. Then as time went on I was able to pick up on the negitive energy vibration. It is only now I heard them talking. I am still learning what it means and how to ground myself.
That blog was extramly helpful. Thank-you for the link.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
03/05/18 01:56:43PM
17 posts

Meeting your spirit guide


Empath

What is a spirt guide?
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
03/03/18 03:52:13PM
17 posts



what ever you did for that last message I got it however it isn't appearing on the board. If u want to sent me an email the same way please feel free to.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
03/03/18 03:49:39PM
17 posts

Grief


Empath

Finally accepting my empath I can tell you that those feelings are 100% real. Sometimes it is a internal fight others are having and not ready to accept the pain they are in. After being bonded to the guy I just had to say goodbye to I understand so much more. Before this I thought empaths were a myth and all mine and others pain i tried to ignore and burry. All that succeeded in doing is making me very sick as my body attacks itself, causing me to almost die - a few times now.
Acceptance is the key but it is extreamly hard and painful. I am still trying to figure out how to ground myself now, wonder what others do. Also wonder how others process the emotional side, now that I am now willing to process mine without my body absorption of the emotional pain and attacking it self.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
03/03/18 02:21:43AM
17 posts

Grief


Empath

How do other empaths deal with grief ? I just lost someone who has only been in my life gor 7 months. We have had an on again off again relationship where each time he has ran away. Just over night disappeared from my life. We also have a spiritual bond that will always be there for every lifetime. Being with him gave me this feeling of total completeness. The love between us is so overwhelming, that is scares us both. I was in a 20 year marriage 3 years before this and that whole time i have never experienced a love like I do with him. I have had a lifetime of emotional hurt however i have always run from the hurt and buried the pain.. Found was to self mediate or cause physical pain until the emotional pain was not around.. even though it has always been a part of me I have ignored the empath side of me. Did even know that i was one until the end of December when after my therapist had give me the book about it but I didn't bother reading it for the past year an a half. He has been showing me the path but wanted me to do the work and knew when i was finally ready i would go through the book or other information. It wasn't until after meeting this guy and losing him the second time that i was ready to look.. Being conected to him allowed my soul to open up ready to listen. it wasn't until the end of feb that my soul was final ready to listen. I found out there are 3 part... my brain getting the information and understanding...my soul understanding.. and my gut instincts where i receive all the empath energy. Now that my soul is finally open I am really grasping all the energy not just negitive energy vibration. But I also know that I will never see this guy again.. The feeling and bond between us is just to much for him and his soul isn't ready to be open to us. Now I grieve, this emotional pain is like nothing I have ever felt. It is actually also a physical pain. my heart feels like it is having a heart attack.  My gut is so upset that i can't hardly put food into it. I have momments where i can hardly breath.. Besides meditation how do others deal with emotional pain this strong? I am looking for positive ways to deal.. I don't want  my old habits which are extreamly self destructive.. I want to accept and process this hurt for the first in my my life.


updated by @cat-is-very-broke: 03/09/18 01:46:05PM
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
03/03/18 12:25:47AM
17 posts



private message me if u would like more information on tf.
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
02/27/18 11:46:57PM
17 posts

Have you ever gone through a transition that really changed your whole life?


Empath

I just actually had my ahh momment when everything finally clicked. The emotional hell I have been put through was a journey I was set on to actually understand stand. I have always read the self help book.. seen countless counselors and in the past few months actually learned about empaths and a twin flame bonds however the more i learned the more questions I had and less I actually grasped. I found with myself this whole time my biggest problem was me. My brain was learning my soul wouldn't listen and I found was to numb the empath energy. I ended up after fighting with myself after 3 days of no sleep i finally started to listen to myself and the energy the universe has been sending my way. Wow.. First thing I am way to stubbron for my own good.. And second I have heard but never actually listening to the answer I had been looking for.. I still have a ways to go and I somehow have to get my twin flame to catch up on this journey with me. He is just barely at the point where I was 4 years ago.. but our energy is so connected and only just days into having my ahh momment I can't shut off his negitive energy and it is making me sick. The emotional stress is eating away in my body through my blood.
I have no idea if it will help any one else but the biggest obstical in life is the fact that we are not always ready for the answers we seek.. somehow it is more about the journey to get u there than actually grasping it. it has to be heard not through your ears but through your soul.. And until u are 100% ready to grasp the answers u are looking for everything will be in front of u like a puzzle that none of the pieces actually seem to fit. Where I go from here I have no idea and that is tbe beautiful gift about life as one door close other ones open.. It just took me forever to grasp it
cat_is_very_broke
@cat-is-very-broke
02/26/18 12:11:21AM
17 posts

Have you ever gone through a transition that really changed your whole life?


Empath

My whole life is like that only it is one heart break after another after another.. Just when I am barley catching my breath, this last time it even added in a couple months of pure happiness after 4 years of pure hell, but i didn't mind the hell as much when I had my happiness too look forward to then the happiness was ripped from me just like that and I was sent back into grieving, only this time it feels like I have lost so much more and now all I have left in my life is hell.
I know I have changed I don't ever want to let any one ever get that close to me again. The thought of never being loved hurts but the thought that I could allow someone to hurt me like this ever again makes me sick to my tummy. That is my legacy is to have been abandoned by everyone I have ever care about and I am tired of hurting. There has got to be a better way.