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crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/22/18 05:04:48PM
124 posts

Fasting


Empath

@hop-daddy
That's interesting. I haven't gotten past 24 hours yet. The irony is that I am a chef and it is kinda hard. However I am very interested in the bit about the endorphins. The motivation for the fast was between having issues with digestion and mood regulation.

I've just been doing a lot of searching for different ways to feel good and live healthy. I have been exploring methods that are both inside and outside of the box.

The fasting was a whim, but it is truly working. I also find that I am getting the most out of it when I do a cleanse first. After I wake up I look fully refreshed. I am working my way up to two days. I didn't want to feel like I was punishing myself so I started slow.

Energy also feels different after a few hours. Crystals the were pretty intense to me before feel like nothing.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/22/18 11:40:19AM
124 posts

Fasting


Empath

So, I tried a type of fast yesterday. I won't go into the specifics of what I did exactly. It was a work of my own creation, more of an experiment of you will.

Why I was at work I noticed a great change.  Things that would normally be overwhelming just weren't. They where annoying. I maybe even got angry but it wasn't all consuming. I felt connected but not drowned by the world. I was even in the city which I hate. However it was like being there completely went over my head.

Has anyone else ever had this experience during a fast?

Cuz I gotta say it felt good! Like addiction worthy good.

crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/11/18 10:52:45PM
124 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

Is there someone around you who is particularly stressed out? One of my bosses just about causes an earthquake in my body when ever he shows up. He is very tight wound, angry, insecure, and a whole list of heavy emotions. I know he's there long before I see him. It always takes me a bit to adjust to his presence.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/11/18 10:49:03PM
124 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

I just realized that you already went to the doctor. That's what happens when you read with tired eyes.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/11/18 10:45:04PM
124 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

@curious-child I'm not really sure how to explain.
Instead of trying to make the feeling go away, I embrace it. I bring my focus to what I am feeling and I sit with it. I allow the feeling the freedom to exist. But I also accept that it is coming from outside.
When I internalize a feeling it is out of fear. For example I feel sad and fear something is wrong and then I get lost trying to figure out what it is. In turn I end up holding on to the energy rather than letting it pass. I think that is why we get so tired. It has to take a lot of effort to hold on to anything especially when it is not ours.

I have found this helps even when I am overloaded. When I try to make it go away I struggle more.

The best example I can use is a current situation. I am working with this man who is struggling getting along at a new job, but I am also new to the job. Lately he has been taking his frustrations out on me. The result is that when I leave for the day I feel like the worst person in the world. I realized yesterday it was his energy I was dealing with but not at first. At first because I was trying to fight with the feeling I ended up internalizing everything, that's why I thought I did something wrong. It's funny now because as I write I realize just how much I internalized. Anyhow rather than trying to find reason with the feelings I just sat there and felt it. I acknowledged that it was not my energy. Instead of treating it like it was mine and there because of something I had done. Slowly I felt it go away.

After talking to him today he described everything I was feeling yesterday, especially the fears.

I have felt the heartbeat thing too but not for long periods of time. I agree with @hop-daddy. Definitely go to the doctor just be sure.

Sometimes when I sit with the feeling it does hurt. In my experience, I have found that pain to be fear more than anything. I think fear is reasonable. I simply tell myself I am afraid and it is okay to be afraid and it helps. But sometimes my fear does win and I think that is also okay. I think it is important to be honest about my limits.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/10/18 02:40:12PM
124 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

Have you ever tried sitting with the feeling and connecting with it? Sometimes doing this helps me get a read on where it is coming from.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/10/18 01:05:10PM
124 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

How long has this been happening?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/03/18 09:31:54AM
124 posts

Offering a free mini reading


Request a Reading

Past life please and thank you!
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/26/18 10:36:24PM
124 posts

extreme restlesness


Empath

Try taking a salt bath. Use sea salt. I just did a cleanse and I feel brand new. Play a song that allows you to go to your happy place.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/24/18 03:10:22PM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy lol I just realized I meant to write that comment in a different post...oh well.

I've heard the thing about not shielding. I do find that I cope a lot better when I don't shield. But I agree some energies are just too much. One thing I've learned is that if I take those energies in small doses, over time I am able to handle them without shielding. There was a girl at my job whose energy just made feel horrible. So I first would speak to her unless I had to, then I just kept a few feet in between us. Before when she would talk I would feel like both ears had infections, now she doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes I don't even know she is there.

As far as the pain goes, I think it's my own that I have been ignoring. In a sense it seems that the crystals where helping me face it. Every day I wake up feeling stronger. It's strange,but I am noticing a dramatic change in my overall being.

I have all those crystals you mentioned. I regularly carry the black tourmaline. I also like to keep jet, tigers eye, and rose quartz. I were the black onyx occasionally and sleep with the malachite. I dont use the obsidian very much, idk why.

I get the spiritual affect but I also get a very strong physical effect from mycurtails, especially during my initial connection with them.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/24/18 02:01:34PM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy the crystals I'm referring to are apart of my regular armor I guess. I'm fine wearing them until I go certain places or am around certain people. Or after being around a lot of people for prolonged period of time.

I've had a similar experience with hematite, although I had a different outcome. I was always taught that pain was actually a sign of healing. So when I experienced the discomfort with the hematite I kept it on me. It took a few days, which sounds like a crazy thing to go through I know, but it felt like something was being pulled out of me. I had to keep going to the restroom and then, it all went away. I felt a weight that I wasn't even aware of lift. Now I carry that same piece of hematite all the time.

I dont fully understand what is happening but in the end I always feel healed. It's like I'm being made a new, it just hurts a little sometimes. Have you ever experienced anything like that?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/24/18 09:26:00AM
124 posts

Shielding yourself


Empath

One thing I have also noticed regarding Crystal's is that once I start to feel overwhelmed I remove them all and it is like removing the weight.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/23/18 07:51:24PM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@nea would you be willing to share the technique?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/23/18 05:15:43PM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@nea how does the technique of returning work? What are the other things that can be done with the absorbed energy?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/16/18 05:14:22PM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy I go through similar cycles. That is what is motivating me to try this out. I need more consistency.

I think it may have been a passage from the tao te ching. It was the idea of learning to be okay with the bad because it wont stop coming. It's just a way of not getting so overwhelmed by it. I struggle with that idea. But in trying to focus on the good, I am learning to stop trying to fight with the bad. Kinda of like the idea of radical acceptance. It does not say you agree with what is happening, just an acknowledgment of what is happening.

If it makes any sense at all focusing on the positive doesn't even truly take away the down moment but it does seem to make them easier to deal with. Like I said sometimes I won't even talk just to give myself time to rebuild

I've only been at it for a few days now. It's starting to feel almost like I am focusing my empathetic nature to pinpoint what I am trying to feel.

What I notice it that the negative energy is a massive size while the positive feels like a dim light.

Also I just wanted to clarify, it's not my mood that I'm trying to amplify. In fact it is my mood that I am trying to give less attention to. My mood often gets so muddled by the world around me it can be destructive to my life. It's like looking for Waldo. I don't know if you are familiar with the children's books. Each page is a picture filled with an insane amount of details and you have to look to see where Waldo is.

I am feeling outside myself trying to find the positive energy and then intently focusing on that energy so that I can build a strong connection to it. I feel like if I can connect empatheticly to people over great distances, then with practice should be able to find waldo(positive energy) wherever he/it may be.

Thank you for your words.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/16/18 11:07:56AM
124 posts

Who can Relate? (Share stories please)


Empath

Hey! @loconnoro I can relate. I have those moments when I have completely picked up someone else personally, mentally, emotional state, etc. Its like I become them.
I have found that when I let their emotional state play out ( not by acting but by feeling) it usually fades quickly. Some are more stubborn. I also find that it can be a part of empathetic overload. I try to take regular breaks from everything so that I can reconnect with self. Sometimes I can reestablish that connection without the break. I do that by bringing awareness to my physical body.
I don't view it as a negative, just something that happens.

As far as enhancing goes, that's a favorite topic of mine.

http://mysilentecho.com/dreamtongue1.htm

Above is the address to a free book. So far for myself it has been the best. It is unorthodox as some would say. However the more I understand the more I realize that it is not. The author teaches us to get rid of words like supernatural and think of ourselves as just natural. It's a dense read. I have read it several times and am actually about to read it again.

Happy travels
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/15/18 04:28:36PM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy
I have definitely had the experience of being like an aspirin. I do pick and choose who I help.

I have gotten a lot better over time at grounding the negative energy and hope that practice and time can make me better.

I will say I have been trying out the amplification thing for a few days now, and I feel like there is something to it.

I agree about grounding the negative energy. I notice that when I am in a room that has a low energy environment if I focus on letting it pass through me the mood of the room changes. Sometimes while I do it I can't talk. It's like the minute I open my mouth that energy gets internalized. So I still need to practice more. I do find that it's easier if I dont try to shield. Instead I just feel what ever it is and it passes more quickly.

However, I'm curious what effect I could have if after I ground the negative energy I focus on amplifying the positive energy.

It's not an end all. For example, I was having a rough day a work. There are two people who bring everyone down, you know the kind of people who are not comfortable unless everyone around them is frustrated. Since I'm not the quickest to ground I felt that energy starting to effect me. Then I saw a co-worker, who is always smiling,who hadn't been there in a while. I told her I was going to focus on her energy to help me through the rest of the day. She smiled even bigger and said okay. I turned my full attention to her and it seemed like the room was suddenly filled with all my favorite people. I was still a little upset but everytime I got ready to feed into it, something funny would happen. Or someone would show me a sign of solidarity.

So I'm thinking maybe we can do both. I know that there are some people who I won't always be able to help. But for the ones I can, I would like to experiment with this idea more to see what comes of it.

Thanks for writing in, I enjoyed reading what you wrote.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/13/18 05:54:29PM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

These are all great comments. I posted this question on another site and an interesting point was brought up.

A few people suggested that the energy that seems to be the strongest feels that way because we notice. I know that sounds a bit confusing so I'll phrase it another way.

Our ability allows us to amplify energy. We do this by simply acknowledging that energy and then paying attention to it.

I thought this was a neat idea, so today I changed my approach to the energy around me. I still feel all the different energy but I have given a stronger focus on the positive. Today was the first full day and I have noticed a great shift.

When I found myself in situations where there was a lot of bad energy I focused on my heart, thinking as a seed of positive energy and using my focus to amplify it.

Has anyone else had this experience?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/13/18 07:19:27AM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

MIA= missing in action. It just means I disappear for a little while.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/12/18 10:42:26AM
124 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

So lately I've been wondering. When we pick up the emotions of others do we take them away from them, or do they stay with them?

The sad and angry emotions stay with me longer. In fact they usually dont go away until I either go MIA for a while or allow them to be expressed.

Now I've gotten to a point where it doesn't bother, I understand the process.

What I dont know is it if I'm actually taking a bit of that pain away, or just sharing?
If it is being taken away does it apply to all emotions, or just the ones people want relief from?
Just curious.

crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/01/18 10:05:57AM
124 posts

Just wanted to share


Empath

I was taught by an energy work that feeling vibrations is a sign of energy that does not belong to you. That is not to say that is the only sign. I bring this particular one up because it is the one I have been working with the most, and I wanted to share a major change I have noticed.

I used to do these meditations that involved me observing the sensations in my body. Rather trying to do a specific breathing technique I would simply observe the natural breathe. To put it in other words, for me it is like giving full autonomy over to my body. I do this as a way of strengthening the connection to self, and also because my body knows what it needs more than I do.

I actually hadn't done this meditation for years. I traded it out for newer, more elaborate techniques. The change that came about from that trade happened so gradually that I only recently realized what happened.

I have always been an empath, but was always blissfully unaware. There was no major occurrence that forced a need to know. I dealt with life easily. I just didn't know what exactly it was that was helping me deal.

Over that last three years I experienced major empathetic overload to the point that I no longer recognized myself. That was when the understanding of my empathic nature came. I always knew there was something going on, I was just at peace with who I was so I never needed to label it. Well after the overload, I needed to know that I would know how to take care of myself.

So long story short when I give over control to myself, this is what happens. Instead of trying to get rid of the energy it works better for me to just feel the. Sometimes it can hurt, be scary and overwhelming like the vibrations are never going to stop, but they always do. I have noticed myself get stronger, and I need less and less alone time. Like now I am an environment that is usually the most difficult and it is not phasing me. I have also never been more intuned then I am now and it feel great. My head is clear and I feel as though I know exactly what to do and when without actually knowing how or why I do.

I'm not saying this is what everyone should do. Do what works for you. I'm just sharing in case it may be helpful to someone else.

Take care and much love.

crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/28/18 08:38:31AM
124 posts

Vitamin/Mineral Deficiency in empaths


Empath

If you can't do salt alkaline water is also very good.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/28/18 08:37:15AM
124 posts

Vitamin/Mineral Deficiency in empaths


Empath

Protein heavy diets are helpful.
As well as lots of water with a little salt.

I know the salt part sounds strange, and dont misunderstand, I dont put it directly in my water. I just take a pinch of salt for every quarter gallon of water that I drink. Salt helps the body absorb water.

I also feel better when I eat a lot of vegetables. Not just physically, I feel like I have control over my empathetic nature.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/28/18 08:30:35AM
124 posts

Empaths and food


Empath

It almost sounds like there may be one person in particular in your life whom you are connected to.

Being aware of an energy does not always make it easy to ground it. Some energies can be stubborn, and that case I find that it is because there is a specific person deeply attached to that energy.

It may not be someone you know. Could have been something that was picked up at one of the restaurants you like to go too.

If you are aware enough of the energy feeling like it is coming from outside I dont think it is yours.

I would pay attention to the people I talk to or are around. Check in with how you feel after the interaction.

Also some time alone connected with my true self, not the self affected by all the outside energies, really helps me get a handle on what I am truly feeling. It also helps me ground any of those stubborn energies.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/24/18 12:01:27PM
124 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

Glad to hear it @guitarherogod47

I just wanted to comment on your post about feeling like being given a heart attack and also @spiritualskies.


I think of my purpose like being a sponge. I find that to work very well for me.

When I get hit with those strong energies, be they stress, pain, sadness or other wise I do not push them away. I find that it is harder to push anyway. Instead I sit with the feelings. At times I do try to determine who they belong to, because it is my way of developing my awareness of my empathic nature. However what I always do now is ground them.

I focus on taking that energy and sending it down through my feet and back into the earth. I do this so that the energy can be properly cleansed and rebalance and then sent back into the world. I honestly believe that to be my purpose.

I feel much better and less affected by negative energies when I do this. I also see changes in my environment and the people around me.

In the past when I have tried to push or shield I notice the energy gets stuck inside and then I get sick.

It is how I help heal others and myself. The more o do this the stronger I get and the more I can handle. I have also noticed a lesser need for time alone as well as aids for grounding. I stay grounded all day.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/24/18 10:10:36AM
124 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

Just a side note. I'm not speaking against healing. I just think that we must also teach people how to take care of themselves. Because you can heal a person as many times as you like, but unless they do the work to maintain, it can be for nothing. It is overwhelming to heal a person and then try to live their lives for them so they stay healed.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/24/18 10:07:50AM
124 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

So I was curious as well about how you mentioned not wanting to get unstuck because you could cause harm.

In my experience when I detach myself from someone it is not what causes them harm. The harm that occurs was already happening due to their own imbalances. By being attached to them what I was doing was protecting them even from themselves. That is another time when I feel their presence within because want to be protective. However, I do not think 8t is a good way to live.

I have been so deeply attached to someone that I have experienced their depression for them. The minute I cannot take it anymore and decide to let go of the attachment all their problems go back to them.

The thing about healing people is that it can sometimes make them weak. It is not be because of how you are healing. It is because with some people, if they know they can be healed by an outside force they may choose to not take responsibility for their own lives.

I realized this long before I even realized I was an empath. A good friend was convinced I was psychic. (I guess she knew before me. Lol) she would always call me about situations she was in and ask me to tell her what to do. Usually I would give her my insight on the matter. During a meditation, while can never remember exactly what happened (I never do), I somehow came to the realization that this was not helping. Sure, the short term affects were satisfying, however in the long run this way would not work. So, I listened to the message I received and stopped giving my insight. I was met with a great deal of hostility, which surprised and hurt me. I had always thought my friend was growing with me during this journey. I realized she was not, because I was shielding her from the pain of life. I now know that, that was something she needed at the time.

Someone can tell a good piece of advice, no matter what, over and over again. It is not until we have our own experiences that we truly come to understand exactly what they meant.

So I do not think you are hurting people. You are simply removing your shield from them, allowing life to naturally occur. We may have control of a considerable amount of things in life but there is still a considerable amount that we do not control. To accept this is to be closer to peace.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:54:07PM
124 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

My mentor would tell you that to feel lost is a good thing although it may not feel good. It means you have detached from all the expectations of what others or even you may think you need to be and are now ready to connect with your true self.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:52:05PM
124 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

Ok now as I said I am no stranger to hopelessness. I recently went through a phase of feeling lost and not knowing who I was anymore.

I have also experienced the feeling of life messing around with me. Getting what seemed like blessings only to have them come to a painful end.

One of my mentors is not an empath, in fact I'm not sure how she feels about the matter. However she is still a very wise and insightful woman nonetheless.

Her advice was to first figure out exactly what I needed in life to give myself some peace. Spend less time doing and more time reflecting.

Sometimes we jump into doing and it works out for a while but because we may be detached from what we need the longevity never follows.

In order to find out what I need she told me to daydream about what I wanted, but not take the dreams seriously as if it was what needed to be done. Instead I was to ask myself what needs are being fulfilled by this dream.

For example I often dream about being found by my lover but also by friends that feel more like family. When I think of why this dream feels good I realize that it is because in the dream I have a team of people who trust and accept me as I am. I have people who respect who I am. Once I saw that I realized at least a few things that I needed in my life. More than love I need people who I can trust to be there for me no matter who I am, no matter how I change. I need people who are willing to work with me that offer/accept guidance. I need to feel a sense of equality. This knowledge has changed how I approach people and situations. I understand now that when I get upset with certain people, particularly ones I'm close with, it is because I am looking for them to fulfill a need they cannot. So now I look for people and even work situations that can fit who I am.

Our needs often define us. When we know what we need our paths become a lot clearer. For me life has become so much easier.

I took that advice a step further and began to analyze what I like to watch, the books I like to read, and past situations that I felt should have worked out.

In doing so my list of need grew until a full image of myself became clear before my eyes.

I even asked myself what need is being fulfilled by my desire to develop my empathetic nature. For me it is my strength. It gives me a place in the world but also gives me the ability to handle what life may bring, the good or bad. The most important thing I get is freedom.

I never fit into this world until I accepted my empathetic nature. Now, while there is still work to be done, I no longer feel hopeless. Instead the life I want feels realistic.

Hope you find something that helps.

Just know you are not alone.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:27:37PM
124 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

Ok so first I can understand that feeling of hopelessness. I have been there, I'm sure we all have at one point.

This is a book I read that was really powerful in helping connect and shape my empathetic nature. Maybe it could help you too.

On a personal note the author is unorthodox and it took me a while to really understand what he was trying to say. I had to read it like three times.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://mysilentecho.com/dreamtongue1.htm&ved=2ahUKEwi828iHxtHaAhUps1QKHXSfBkAQFjACegQICBAB&usg=AOvVaw01McMK4wYYBFDQvmpCgtMi
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:20:04PM
124 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

I'm glad you worked it out.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 11:17:36AM
124 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

I feel that presence everywhere unless I am at home. For me it was a sign of being more in tune with my empathetic nature.

The best way I have learned to deal is through accepting and acknowledging. I accept that empathy is one of my senses like touch or smell. It in s the way I take in the world. Some see it, I feel. I acknowledge that the energy does not belong to me and only wants to pass through. It is the gift and burden of who I am. It hurt to do this at first. However as time went on it got easier and easier. It's like learning to walk and run 3 miles. It is hard at first then it just becomes normal. I have more to say but I'm at work. Ttyl
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 08:12:54AM
124 posts

Shielding yourself


Empath

Since we are talking about Crystal's. I had a strange/ good? Thing happen. I went to the crystal shop yesterday with a friend. Normally something calls to me. A new energy that I need to add. This time it was like all the crystals were telling no. As if to say I am finished for now with this part of my journey, it's time for the next step. I've been having a similar experience with my personal crystals. I usually won't leave the house without my necklace or ring. The necklace is a combo of black kyanite and tigers eye. The ring is amethyst. I always feel like I need them for different reasons to face the day. When I realized I didn't have them I got this feeling l I'llke I would be okay.

It's funny but i actually am okay. Just give an example i am currently sitting next to a very aggressive and mean person. One whom I typically avoid because she is always trying to cause trouble for me, but I am okay. I have been shielding less and grounding more. Her energy can touch me without me feeling fear and internalizing her dissatisfaction with life.

Perhaps the crystal safe is no more. I love how life is ever changing. I am forever grateful for the healing energy that crystals have given me.

I wish the same peace for all.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/21/18 05:52:54PM
124 posts

Understanding Empaths and complex relationships


Empath

I've done the whole doctor thing. It actually worked for me. I had to take the time to find a doctor I was comfortable with. Although she does not talk about empathy and I actually doubt that she understands it she has been amazing.

My work with her often reminds me of many Tao sayings. The name that can be called is not the true name or the truth that can be understood is not the true truth...or something like that.

From her I have realized that just because she does not view the world the same way I do does not make her any less apart of the world.

I have come to realize that every question I ask is answered. I only have to pay attention and be present in the world around me.

Often times when I talk to my doctor she'll bring up things that have been on my mind, and almost fill in the blanks. She's not the only one. Sometimes I'll see a billboard, or a coworker will make a comment, or I'll overhear a conversation in passing that is directly related to what I need at the moment.

The two, the way, God, the gods, the universe however you want to call is everywhere and in everything and everyone. It does not matter the path we only that take it and trust and have faith.

It's when we try to control things that we lose way and our faith.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/17/18 09:38:58AM
124 posts

Understanding Empaths and complex relationships


Empath

@tigerlily I have had the same experience with people thinking I'm judgemental or crazy. However i have found that in time they start to see what I saw. When i stand my ground on the issue i get more trust and respect in the end.

And yes the grounding never ends for me either lol.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/15/18 01:01:43PM
124 posts

Shielding yourself


Empath

@krosskelt I am learning this about the nature of Crystals. I just lost one of my raw emerald earrings. I just thanked it for the time and loving energy it gave me. And am trying to look at it as a good omen for things to come.

I am getting better at dealing with sf. Just worked there last night. Reminded myself before I went that the energy was not mine and to not react or internalize. I have also switched the crystals I carry. I have started working more with rose quartz. A beautiful thing happened when I got to work. I only had one piece of rose quartz and was wishing for more. I can't afford to buy any right now. When I got there a coworker had bought me two lovely pieces. He didn't even know I would be there but he was carrying them just in case. When we first met he was having a rough day and was saying he wish he had brought some with him. As I had other crystals, as I usually do, I let him use my rose quartz for the day. The two pieces he bought me were a thank you. It was a hard but really good day.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/13/18 04:11:22PM
124 posts

Understanding Empaths and complex relationships


Empath

For myself I have learned through my failures that I am not interested in a relationship. Whenever I say this to people they immediately go to the "what's wrong" route. For a while I did think something was wrong.

Fact is, there is nothing wrong with me.

Every relationship I have had in the past has always been about trying help someone heal. Once I realized this it became clear that the I was the reason these relationships failed.

I had no real romantic interest in the people I have dated. I was just confused on the roles I wanted to play in their lives.

The people I would always connect with were only used to people who had romantic interest in them showing any real desire to be around them. Which is what drew them to me.

I come from a background where the idea of what love is and means was severely distorted. Any show of affection toward anyone outside of family was seen as having a sexual nature. Before I was taught what loving actually was, I thought this perception to be true. So that is what drew me to these people.

Thinking this way facilitated my isolation from the world. These relationships that I didn't know, where not what I wanted made me feel like I had bad luck with people.
It was also keeping me from figuring out what I truly wanted from life and the people in it.

Situations in my life like bad interpersonal skills forced me to begin working on the boundaries I set with people. Setting those boundaries had the strangest effect on my life and the way I perceive myself.

In order to successfully set boundaries one has to know exactly what it is they wish to achieve. So in order to figure out what my boundaries where I had to figure out who I was. What could i realistically handle? What did I want to put up with and how much of it?

This lead to other questions like what kind of people did i want to be around? What kind of environment did i want to work in? How much of myself did i actually want to give to the world versus what i thought i should give? And how do i communicate this to others successfully? How would i respond when they did not meet my needs?

There were many other questions that came up especially concerning romantic matters.

When it was all said and done i realized i didn't want a romantic relationship. Some people do and therefore date until they find their match. I never really dated to find a match only to have fun. At time due to concerns I would end up in relationships. Ones that never worked because as I said it was for the wrong reasons.

I had to be brave for myself and learn to say no and walk away.

I now realize that when I was dating I was really looking for lasting friendships not intimate relationships. However because of the earlier stated view on affection, I did not know that was what I wanted.

I still have and will probably always have some soul searching to do. However in the mean time I am much happier. Connecting with people is much easier and more pleasant. While I notice those who need healing I am much less inclined to feel as though it is my responsibility. I do try and help if I can but I do not sacrifice myself anymore.

Life is strange and that's how I got here.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/10/18 03:48:53PM
124 posts

Soul infusion


Empath

@spiritualskies ok thank you for clarifying. I'm the same way, I'm a big thinker.

While I have not heard of it being called soul infusion I have heard of something similar as far as how empaths and people in general recieve information. There was no name for it. There is a book I read that was a 101 guide to empathy. In this book it talks about how everything thing is an empathetic message. What we see, feel, smell, touch, all these things are filled with empathic information. So basically our senses and our interpretation of what is being sense are all empathetic.

For me once I tried thinking in this way. Once I began to view every experience as an interpretation of messages being recieved from the outside world, it changed being an empath for me.

The inner empath, the soul, dreams, and other things that are not easily understood do not speak using language. Language is but another crude way of interpreting these thing. However because language is so crude we can never quite explain what it is we are sensing.

The questions of the universe would be better understood in a painting or vague poem or proverb. Something is capable of changing and not concrete.

If I am remembering correctly, it is the right brain that is capable of processing pictures than the left side.

Because of that the idea is that if we can tune more wholly into the vague quiet voice of the universe and let go of words which at times can leave more questions than they answer, we become more in tune with the universe.

Meeting people, smelling, seeing and so on are just ways of the universe communicating with us. Everymoment that happens is symbolic of the voice of the universe.

At least that is how I am understanding it. So it would seem that by learning to open up to those messages,well I dont actually know what happens when we do that. I just know that sense I've started viewing every occurrence in that way being an empath is less and less painful and life is more calm.

For example I am actually in the hospital writing this message. Something fell on my head so the people who like to poke have to make sure I dont have a concussion. Usually I cannot stand to be in a hospital. It makes whatever I'm going that much worse. But its, not bothering me. Everytime I do get a little worked up there is a voice in the back of my head that just says you can get through this. And it'll be fine. It is so calm that I can't argue with it. All the usual worries come up but I feel like more of an observer than anything.

Life is strange and that's how I got here.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/09/18 11:10:33AM
124 posts

Soul infusion


Empath

I looked up soul infusion to see 8f I could find a better understanding of what you are asking. Unfortunately there is also a restaurant with that name that seems to be dominating the web.

However from what I could gather it seems to be a way of reaching the higher self by engaging the right brain and opening up senses we have forgotten how to use.

Is this what you are talking about? If not could you please explain? It sounds like a really interesting topic and I would like to know more if you have time.

There was a movement with some metaphysicist that used the phrase "keep right" to get the message out. It was all about being balanced and using both sides of the brain but especially getting in touch with the right as it is believed to contain greater knowledge and using it would inspire greater being. I am going to keep looking into the topic.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 09:16:43PM
124 posts

Shutting out the world around us?


Empath

When I was a child I often got called a space cadet. It was because I would often zone out and be almost completely unreachable. People would have to scream my name several times before I would respond. 

As I got older I was harshly judged for this habit. So much so that I would either be referred to as mentally retarded or rude. No one could ever quite figure out which one it was. Some thought I was doing it on purpose, I wasn't. Those where the ones who called me rude. Others thought I could help it, the thought I was mentally retarded. While, yes there where times when I did it unconsciously, I am definitely not mentally retarded.

The truth was it was just who I was. It was like I lived in two worlds. The one in my mind which, while people thought I was daydreaming, was vague and often blank. I honestly don't know how else to describe it. And then there is this world that we all live in, and truthfully I found, and still find this one to be very boring.

The funniest thing about the whole situation is that i appeared to be happy to everyone. And for I time I truly was. I was before people started bothering trying to force me out of my head.

So I have been doing an experiment lately. You see I have been wondering if that is my true home, or place of existence. Maybe our minds are all of our true homes and this world is where we meet one another. I have often wondered about descartes I think therefore I am. Maybe he meant I think and that is actually who I am and also where. The world we see with our sense is symbolic a mere figment of the collective consciousness. Like the allegory of the cave the reality we see is but a shadow of what is truth.

So I have gone back to being a space cadet only with actual intention this time. And must say while I still do not know what happens in that space, the feeling I have when I come back is that of being cleansed and whole. It's like I went home to safety with family and came back strong and fully prepared for the world.

Has anyone else ever had this experience?

crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 08:57:34PM
124 posts

Does the empath have a purpose?


Empath

I would just like to thank everyone who participated in this discussion. It has been great hearing all the different opinions. I love that, even though we share this great gift,there is so much diversity among us.

I also love that we can freely share our opinions with one another so openly.

I thought it would be fun to post this question just to see what we feel our empathic nature is for, and can do.

Once again thank you.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 08:50:42PM
124 posts

My daughter is struggling


Empath

http://mysilentecho.com/dreamtongue1.htm

This is an online guide to getting a handle on your empathic nature. I will say the book is very different from most. It pushed me to really think outside the box and change how I understand my empathetic nature. Every experience for empaths is an empathetic one. We do not experience the world in the same way. It's not just like we have a sixth sense, it more like the way our senses operate are different. Once I started to understand what he was trying to teach us in this book a whole new world, a whole new way of living has opened up. I no longer get drowned in the outside energies because I have learned that what we see and feel and so on it the world, not just self. Once 8 realized that I was able to see what energies where mine and what energies belong to others. The answer was 98 percent. I know that sounds like putting blame on others and using empathetic nature as a crutch but the proof is in the freedom I now feel. The love and joy I find in my nature. We are not like other humans, we cannot fully understand ourselves on those terms. Once we let go of traditional ways of thinking we find our truth.

I will keep your daughter in my heart and prayers. I pray that this experience strengthens her and turns positive. It may give her a push to really get control of her empathic nature. That this is happening while she is still young and in your care, while it is not ideal, is a blessing. She has your support and strength to help her through and grow into a strong and healthy empath.

Many blessings
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 08:35:43PM
124 posts

My daughter is struggling


Empath

There is some good advice.

From my own experience I have taken the meds and the right ones will help. I did not have to take them long term. Empathy is being studied, just not every where in the states.

Someone mentioned judith orloff and she is good. She is actually a professor at UCLA where they allow her to research empathy and she is also an empath.

While being on hold at a hospital can be scary it can also help. It helped me. No they did not talk about empathy however the tools they gave me for coping help. And whether they acknowledge it or not most of the people there are empaths. They may not know they are empaths but because they have the same experience being around them did wonders for me. I know that most are completely against conventional therapy, I know from personal experience that is throwing the baby out with the bath water.

There is always the option of her studying music privately.

I am classically trained pianist. After a while because I am an empath the conventional study of music did not work for me either. Musicians are filled with heavy energies and being stuck around the wrong ones, like the jealous ones can hurt like hell.

I took gabapentin and zoloft. After doing research on my own I found that gabapentin can actually dull some of the empathic nature. It gave me time to get control of my empathic nature. I took it for almost a year and then I was able to stop

In therapy we learned about setting boundaries. That was the greatest tool any empath can recieve. Un my life being able to do this has helped me keep the unwanted people away. They also know that they cannot bother me because I have made it clear what I will deal with. Having a good sense of boundaries developed a great trust in self. When I am not trusting of myself I do not feel safe and my empathetic nature flares up.

There is also dialectical behavioral therapy. Most congnitive therapist teach it. It is actually the ground work for getting a handle on your empathic nature, the doctors who teach it just don't realize that. This therapy is all about being mindful and living in the moment. It also involves a lot of meditating. The cognitive therapy also teaches you to control your mind and be aware of what is going on at all times.

For myself as an empath being aware of what is going on inside my head has made being an empath fun.

I went through the suicidal phase. It was horrible and confusing because the truth was that I did not want to die. In fact I believe I was picking up so much negative energy that it got internalized and manifested into suicidal thoughts.

After taking the medication short term, going to therapy, and doing my own work with my empathy I feel much better.

I'm not saying your daughter needs meds. In Hope's that something in my experience can be helpful.

I will say the gabapentin helped much more than the zoloft. In fact I think it was the only med that helped. Once I started taking it I was able to stop taking the zoloft. I will also give you a heads up in case you are interested in the gabapentin. It has such a mild effect that the dose prescribed can be very high. However it is also one of those meds that the doctor gave me freedom with. He gave me the prescription and told me to take what felt right for me.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 08:04:50PM
124 posts

Feeling good?


Empath

Okay so as the day went on it started to get a little heavy. I wonder if I am just learning my limits. Either way, I am grateful for days like today.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 04:03:56PM
124 posts

Feeling good?


Empath

Also I am in an extremely crowded place and I don't feel bothered by it.


updated by @crystalsage: 04/08/18 08:03:11PM
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 04:00:26PM
124 posts

Feeling good?


Empath

I have noticed a major shift and I'm not sure how it happened.

A couple of days ago I decided to pull up the selenite grid that is around my room. When I pulled the first crystal I felt and instant life of the weight I have been feeling. Normally my room stays pretty messy. In fact I am never motivated to clean it. Been like that my whole life. However after I removed the grid I cleaned my room. Now it's not spotless but anyone who knows me would be amazed. 

Today I went to work and noticed more positive but strange things. There is this girl who is nice, but I cannot stand to be anywhere near her normally.  She has an energy that makes me sick.  However today she had no affect on my.  I didn't realize it at first.  Usually without looking I can tell she's there. Today she stood right next to me and I had no idea she was even there.  I was even able to talk to her without feeling sick. 

Last night after letting the selenite rest on my window sill for a day I reset the grid letting the crystals tell me where they wanted to go and burned some lavender. I meditated for 30 min with my malachite. I also gave the crystals I work with a lot a break from me for a couple of days. And I removed the wire wrapping from my main pendent which is a combo of black kyanite and tigers eye. And went to sleep with her, black tourmaline, and hematite in my hand. I didn't feel a major change when I woke up. But I am noticing a lot of changes.

I'm wondering if anyone else is noticing any shifts in energy right now? Because some of the things I did are not new. But the outcome has been amazing. 

It's so different that I almost feel confused. I wish I knew just what changed so I can do it all the time.

Living in a beautiful moment 

crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 10:31:54AM
124 posts

Energy attack/ how to diss O’Conner form one


Empath

Screaming and loud singing can also help remove energies. The exhalation is a release of the old and the inhalation brings in new.

When we hold oil n to hard to old energies we start to feel anxiety in the chest because that is where most of the movement that needs to happen takes place.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/08/18 10:28:51AM
124 posts

Energy attack/ how to diss O’Conner form one


Empath

There is some really good advice here.

I agree with grounding. It is the best way to expel all energies that do not belong to you.

Sometimes grounding is hard. In my experience it can hurt at times and it generally takes time but is worth the work.

As my name suggests I like crystals as aids for grounding and protecting. Malachite is great for drawing out negative energies.

Other things that help are deep meditation, good sleep and a protein heavy diet.

Sage and lavender help me change my mood as well as changing my room around to shift th energy in my private space.

I also have a grid of selenite around my room to help me cleanse.

If you use crystals they may need to be cleaned and recharged. I recently had to to that to the grid in my room. Although selenite technically doesn't need to be cleaned it can get overloaded with the energies it is absorbing from you, the same way all crystals can. I have noticed that after a long day the best thing I can do is remove move my crystals. I have noticed that in doing so I also feel the energies being removed from my body. At times our personal crystals absorb so much that the energy I don't want is kept with me until I remove them and give them a break from me.

I have also found that blunt honesty with the person can help. For example I have a friend who has a strong tendency to latch on to me so I stop answering the phone and become distant. She gets upset no matter how I try to say what I need. However this has been a good thing. I have noticed that when she gets upset she begins to distance herself from me and in turn she helps me cut the cord by inadvertently cutting it on her end too. It can be harsh but it keeps me mentally and emotionally healthy. When I am healthy I am in a better position to help when I can and life is just better in general.

Hope it all works out and remember....nothing last forever.
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