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crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/10/18 08:27:15AM
138 posts

Dream about telekinesis


Dreams

@hermes Very interesting. Thank you.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/09/18 06:00:12PM
138 posts

Herbs knowledge anybody?


Empath

I mean herbs in general. Cooking and oils are great. I've recently started working with them.
I'm finding them to be a good match for my life so I've been study growing, herbal remedies, and even what they can be used for.

Right now I've been making a lot of different kinds of teas and broth. It's been a great edition to my tools for dealing.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/09/18 04:03:14PM
138 posts

Herbs knowledge anybody?


Empath

Hey everyone, I'm really getting into using herbs for all sorts of things.

I've been doing my own research but I was wondering is anyone particularly knowledgeable on the subject?

crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/09/18 11:27:48AM
138 posts

Shortcut To Calm


Empath

@hop-daddy
I have also used CBS in the past. It does work.

Though it can affect people differently, like anything.

I am curious if you have ever thought about trying a fast before you have to fly? I'm not sure if that is something that would be possible for you.

I have also found that some foods do make dealing difficult. I actually didn't fully realize this until I started eating after a fast and I felt my energy shifting.

I truly think it has to do with the sacral chakra having the job of processing emotions and it is close to our stomach. Then there is the fight or flight response which largely affects the digestive system.

Any way it's just a thought.

I think it's great that they are able to sell the gummy bears in all 50 states. There are truly many benefits to cbd, if only we could get past the taboo. Some people don't even realize that cbd does not get you high. That would be thc, and cbd counters the psychotropic effect of thc. One day maybe.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/09/18 11:12:57AM
138 posts

Dream about telekinesis


Dreams

Here's the dream...

So I was a young boy, which I have never been. I was living with a family who was hiding me. I was being hid because I was from Jupiter I think.

We where found out and they tried to run. The original couple that was hiding me was captured, maybe killed.

I was in the car with a different couple and lots of police cars where lined up on the streets. We couldn't get out when suddenly I used my hands to make a pulling gesture. Then trees came out of the ground and slammed into the police cars and made a way.

There where also these messages that kept appearing to me in a language I've never seen. I used a similar gesture to make them disappear in order to protect myself.

We got away and I woke up.

Any thoughts?

crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/08/18 07:53:14PM
138 posts

Tools I have found helpful


Tools for Empaths

In the past I have tended to be viewed as an extremely emotionally unstable person. People have shied away from me and the energy of my life was just difficult. 

Fortunately for me I am a determined,  open minded, fast learner. Once I decide I want change I work hard for it. I accept that there will be difficulties and am not afraid to be broken down by those difficulties because I trust myself to get through it.  

With that being said here is what I have learned. 

It is an understatement to say that we are all different. I have found for myself that most of the conventional methods for dealing with empathy do not work very long for me. These things do.

The first and newest tool for me is fasting . I began this a little over a month ago and once I did my first full day, I noticed an immediate change. I also learned even more just how food affects me.

I noticed that I could feel people more deeply and that the energies left me as soon as I was no longer in their presence. I am an experimenter of sorts so I tried different methods and analyzed their effectiveness. 

The most effective approach I found was what some would call a super fast. 

 I consume absolutely nothing. Not even water. After the first 12 hours I noticed my body begin to chill and my heart beat slow. During sleep, which was hard to accomplish, I felt my mind completely empty itself. It felt as though the energy was being pulled out of me. When I awoke I felt amazing. The heaviness of the world was present but not inside of me. Later that coolness that felt seemed as though it was energizing my body. I still had plenty of energy in fact I felt I had more. Large crowds where a bit overwhelming the first time but not so much that I had to remove myself. 

The second method that has greatly improved my quality of life includes an herb heavy diet. For myself I have found mint to be very useful. It is the most effective when I consume herbs first after a fast. I either eat or drink them in a tea or broth. I have learned what I believe to be the true meaning about our living in a digital world. Using herbs as an example, a lot of what today's medicine attempts to do herbs can naturally do, without the side effects. For me medicine is the digital mimicry of the analogous herb. 

Following with the digital v.s analog idea I view a lot of food items in the same way. In doing so I have changed how often I eat. With chakras the emotions are processed in the sacral chakra which is by the stomach. Being that empathy deals with emotions and most empaths I talk to have issues with their stomach I believe that is why fasting has had such a great effect for me. I have taken it a step further and most days I only eat once. I know this sounds extreme however I have also found it to work greatly for me. The reason I chose this way of consuming foods is because of how I feel when I do this. I feel good and at peace with myself.  I wait 12 hours between meals and I will consume food for up to a 4 hour period. 

Another change I have made is how I speak. I try to only speak in terms of I, unless I am directly addressing someone. When I do this I feel the energy of people change both within themselves and towards me. It is also my way of fully acknowledging that we are all different. Things that I may find helpful may not be helpful to another. Words are also very crude symbolic representations of things they could never truly explain. Even all the things I have written thus far could be interpreted by another in terms completely contrary to what I mean to express.

I have found that changing my view of myself, particularly with relationship to the world we live in has also relieved a great deal of stress. I am different, I view the world differently, even from those who are like minded. Sometimes those differences are very small, but I have found it useful to give respect to even the smallest part of myself. In doing this I have felt life open up for me. Even the way I interact with the world has changed for the greater. I do not expect myself to fit into any category nor do I expect to be understood. 

I also listen to myself fully and trust myself, even if my thinking seems crazy. As I have said earlier I believe words to be crude symbols of what is. Even my own interpretation of what I am feeling is a crude representation of what my intuition is trying to show me. So rather than try to fully understand I simply trust myself. The more I do this, the greater my understanding has become and the better my days are, even the bad ones. Even when they I bad, I knew, without knowing, what I was getting into, so I am able to handle it.

I have let go of the concept of morality. I have often read or heard stories told of an event by several people involved in said situation. What I have noticed is several interpretations all of which defining their moral rightness in the situation. When I hear with an open mind I can understand where all are coming from and I can also see how we got so disconnected and judgemental of one another. I interpret what it means to be moral different from the next person, and because of this I find it impossible to live harmoniously with others using moral guidelines. Instead I do not worry about right and wrong, I give attention to what is and if it is possible to change, or if change is even needed.

Lastly I have changed I view my existence. I do not take in the world as others do. Most of what I feel does not even belong to me. Once I accepted that as my reality, dealing with others has become easy. For example when I engage in a conversation and feel nervous or angry, or whatever I feel, it is more often than not the other person feeling nervous, or angry, or whatever. I do not just see the world with my eyes nor do I simply feel myself, I feel the world. 

crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/06/18 04:16:41PM
138 posts

Can you help me to understand my failed relationship


Empath

@womanwhowalks
The person who started this thread has respectfully asked us to end this.

With that being said, if you want to send me AXA private messages I am more than willing to respond. But not here. We can even start our own thread if that is better for you. I'll leave it up to you.

@manwhoislost. I wish you the best. I meant what I said earlier, after reading some of your post, particularly the one about the plants, I think whatever you are is truly amazing.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/06/18 01:26:51PM
138 posts

Can you help me to understand my failed relationship


Empath

@womanwhowalks
Actually based on the description of some of his experiences I would say @manwhoislost is on the same level.

I can recall a few of your post that similar to his original question.

It is not for you to say who is right for this group or any other.

There is a difference between being direct and just down right sarcastic.

There is no right way to approach empathy or any other topic for that matter.

Someone having a different point of view is no reason to attack. In fact becoming aggressive after a different point of view is expressed is a sign of limited understanding.

It is okay to be strong in ones believing. It is also okay to doubt, it is only human.

It is okay to have a firm sense of direction just as much as it is to be lost.

It is the foolish and insecure person who cannot be honest about uncertainty. Particularly when we we live in a world that is uncertain.

To be able to admit being lost, is to state that one us truly ready to seek a greater truth for self. There nothing wrong with that.

There are plenty of people on this site that have vastly different views and that is the best part of this place.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/06/18 11:28:08AM
138 posts

Can you help me to understand my failed relationship


Empath

@hermes
You angry and forceful. I would think a so called "empath in the truest form" would understand that there is no right answer.

Everything is simply an opinion.

Maybe it is not your place to go around pushing buttons.

If everyone's journey is their own, how can you judge who is advanced and who is not?

Mr Hermes.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/05/18 11:30:46AM
138 posts

Can you help me to understand my failed relationship


Empath

ManWhoWasFound:
Quote:  You can only love someone to the extent that you love yourself. 

This is common wisdom, but I disagree. New born babies do not love themselves or anybody else. They learn to love if they are lucky enough to have loving parents. So the love comes from outside first, and then they learn to see themselves as lovable beings. So, I would say the truth might be completely opposite: You can only love yourself in extent that you have been loved by others (caregivers, spouses etc). 

I am not one of those lucky babies. My parents were alcoholics, and my father was extremely abusive mentally and physically, at least according to my mother. Well, he is dead now. 



I grew up with a similar lack of love. On some levels I agree with both of you on others I disagree with both of you. I believe that behavior for the most part is learned through experience and our interpretation of the experience. Yes there are experiences that can make expressing emotions difficult.

But I we believe we can teach ourselves to love in ways we where never truly exposed to as children. I feel as though I have done that for myself. Relationships are still hard but they get easier as time goes on. In a lot of ways I think I am lucky to have grown up in a bad situation. I came into adulthood with no preconceived notion of what it meant to be happy, loved, and for life to be good. I got to paint my own picture. Now I look at myself compared to others and I feel like I love myself so much more wholly than others do. I wouldn't trade this love for anything. And while I truly would love to share this love with someone not at the cost of taking love from myself.

Long story short I do not believe it matters how others love you. I believe we can grow within ourselves the kind of love we want. We just have to be willing trust ourselves.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/03/18 02:28:35PM
138 posts

Can you help me to understand my failed relationship


Empath

You are a truly magnificent being.

While I understand the desire to want to be "normal," I have never found greater peace than in acceptance of my differences.

The path you chose, is exactly that, your choice.

But I honestly think the answers you came looking for all within you.

As you said you are a highly sensitive person so it makes sense that you pick up on others. While you do not identify as an empath you seem to possess many of the traits but at the same time so much more!

I think it is amazing, and am grateful to you for sharing.

From my own experience I would say that was your friend. And I agree with how you feel about narcissism. After all nothing in this world is truly black or white. It simply is.

Biggest peice of advice I would give...Trust yourself. Trust what experience and feel.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
07/02/18 02:10:15PM
138 posts

Can you help me to understand my failed relationship


Empath

I have been in a similar situation.

First I am curious if you identify as an empath?

The reason I ask that is because it sounds like you where picking up a lot of her energy.

I've learned to be careful who I associate with. I have a strong tendency to pick others energy and if I don't recognize it as another's than it gets internalized. Once I internalize that energy it changes how I react to things, it also clouds my so I cannot think. Instead I become disconnected from myself.

One way I get a clear view is by asking myself the reasons I am feeling a certain way. If I find that there is no logical path to what I am feeling, then it is the internalized energy I have picked up.

Some ways I have found to keep from internalizing other are as follows.

I build boundaries with people in my life. It keeps me grounded and gives me time and space to deal.

I use crystals and salt baths to cleanse my energy.

I also make sure I get good sleep.

A new addition to my personal health has been fasting. I am finding it to be the ultimate cleanse.It is still very new but I do recommend looking into it to see if it is for you.

I would also look into cord cutting. It has honestly never worked for me, but I know it works for many others.

It's good that you talk to therapist and have found ones you can trust.

It does sound like you had good reason to cut ties. She seems like she had deep issues that she needs to deal with. That does not mean you need to be the one who has to help her. Also that fact that you even ask the question says you are not a narcissist. Narcissism is not with whether it is right or wrong.

Good luck to you.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/26/18 08:35:35AM
138 posts

Fasting


Empath

Being at the same place as yesterday has been a great tester. I am starting to realize where some of my struggles come from. People who I would normally allow myself to associate with and the ones I chose to stay away from almost completely changed while I was fasting. At this job being that I don't know anyone, had I not come to the experience completely empty I would have made a mistake I often make. I would have befriended the wrong people and stayed away from the good ones. While today I am not as in tune as I was yesterday I am borrowing from the insight I gained yesterday and it is totally working.

When normally I would have been confused about a certain occurrence I am not because of yesterday.

To describe what I felt is difficult. But there was a heavy heat to it sort of. Some of it was just instinct. I knew not to go near them or even look at them unless I could find no way around it and i spent the day finding ways around it. Energies that would normally attach themselves I could feel trying and I just ignored them.

Noe I mentioned hurting. Dont get me wrong it was actually easier than I thought however when I was around a lot of people I felt woozy. I had to sit with my eyes closed and then life was good. Sleep was what made me stop after 42 hours. Finding sleep was the hardest thing and I didn't sleep long. However when I did I woke feeling the best I have ever felt.

In fact today I woke up miserably which is what is inspiring me to try again. As difficult as it was I want it back.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/26/18 06:48:52AM
138 posts

Fasting


Empath

Omg. I have to be quick because I am working.

Ok so I am slowly extending my time fasting to more days. This time I was able to successfully fast for 42 hours. While that was not a very long time with respect to others. I must say the experience was amazing. I felt the energy of other with more awareness than I have ever experienced in my life. I do a lot of temp work, makes life as an empath easier. I am at the same place today that I was yesterday. Now that I have eaten the experience is totally different. I am not as in tune. And while being so in hurt quite a bit. I miss knowing exactly whose energies I could interact with and the ones I needed to stay away from. I'm going again. All empaths should do this there is absolutely nothing like it. It does hurt so be prepared. Silent sitting helps and sleep is hard but strangely good. I'll share more later.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/22/18 05:04:48PM
138 posts

Fasting


Empath

@hop-daddy
That's interesting. I haven't gotten past 24 hours yet. The irony is that I am a chef and it is kinda hard. However I am very interested in the bit about the endorphins. The motivation for the fast was between having issues with digestion and mood regulation.

I've just been doing a lot of searching for different ways to feel good and live healthy. I have been exploring methods that are both inside and outside of the box.

The fasting was a whim, but it is truly working. I also find that I am getting the most out of it when I do a cleanse first. After I wake up I look fully refreshed. I am working my way up to two days. I didn't want to feel like I was punishing myself so I started slow.

Energy also feels different after a few hours. Crystals the were pretty intense to me before feel like nothing.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/22/18 11:40:19AM
138 posts

Fasting


Empath

So, I tried a type of fast yesterday. I won't go into the specifics of what I did exactly. It was a work of my own creation, more of an experiment of you will.

Why I was at work I noticed a great change.  Things that would normally be overwhelming just weren't. They where annoying. I maybe even got angry but it wasn't all consuming. I felt connected but not drowned by the world. I was even in the city which I hate. However it was like being there completely went over my head.

Has anyone else ever had this experience during a fast?

Cuz I gotta say it felt good! Like addiction worthy good.

crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/11/18 10:52:45PM
138 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

Is there someone around you who is particularly stressed out? One of my bosses just about causes an earthquake in my body when ever he shows up. He is very tight wound, angry, insecure, and a whole list of heavy emotions. I know he's there long before I see him. It always takes me a bit to adjust to his presence.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/11/18 10:49:03PM
138 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

I just realized that you already went to the doctor. That's what happens when you read with tired eyes.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/11/18 10:45:04PM
138 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

@curious-child I'm not really sure how to explain.
Instead of trying to make the feeling go away, I embrace it. I bring my focus to what I am feeling and I sit with it. I allow the feeling the freedom to exist. But I also accept that it is coming from outside.
When I internalize a feeling it is out of fear. For example I feel sad and fear something is wrong and then I get lost trying to figure out what it is. In turn I end up holding on to the energy rather than letting it pass. I think that is why we get so tired. It has to take a lot of effort to hold on to anything especially when it is not ours.

I have found this helps even when I am overloaded. When I try to make it go away I struggle more.

The best example I can use is a current situation. I am working with this man who is struggling getting along at a new job, but I am also new to the job. Lately he has been taking his frustrations out on me. The result is that when I leave for the day I feel like the worst person in the world. I realized yesterday it was his energy I was dealing with but not at first. At first because I was trying to fight with the feeling I ended up internalizing everything, that's why I thought I did something wrong. It's funny now because as I write I realize just how much I internalized. Anyhow rather than trying to find reason with the feelings I just sat there and felt it. I acknowledged that it was not my energy. Instead of treating it like it was mine and there because of something I had done. Slowly I felt it go away.

After talking to him today he described everything I was feeling yesterday, especially the fears.

I have felt the heartbeat thing too but not for long periods of time. I agree with @hop-daddy. Definitely go to the doctor just be sure.

Sometimes when I sit with the feeling it does hurt. In my experience, I have found that pain to be fear more than anything. I think fear is reasonable. I simply tell myself I am afraid and it is okay to be afraid and it helps. But sometimes my fear does win and I think that is also okay. I think it is important to be honest about my limits.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/10/18 02:40:12PM
138 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

Have you ever tried sitting with the feeling and connecting with it? Sometimes doing this helps me get a read on where it is coming from.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/10/18 01:05:10PM
138 posts

Feeling own heartbeating.


Empath

How long has this been happening?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
06/03/18 09:31:54AM
138 posts

Offering a free mini reading


Request a Reading

Past life please and thank you!
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/26/18 10:36:24PM
138 posts

extreme restlesness


Empath

Try taking a salt bath. Use sea salt. I just did a cleanse and I feel brand new. Play a song that allows you to go to your happy place.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/24/18 03:10:22PM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy lol I just realized I meant to write that comment in a different post...oh well.

I've heard the thing about not shielding. I do find that I cope a lot better when I don't shield. But I agree some energies are just too much. One thing I've learned is that if I take those energies in small doses, over time I am able to handle them without shielding. There was a girl at my job whose energy just made feel horrible. So I first would speak to her unless I had to, then I just kept a few feet in between us. Before when she would talk I would feel like both ears had infections, now she doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes I don't even know she is there.

As far as the pain goes, I think it's my own that I have been ignoring. In a sense it seems that the crystals where helping me face it. Every day I wake up feeling stronger. It's strange,but I am noticing a dramatic change in my overall being.

I have all those crystals you mentioned. I regularly carry the black tourmaline. I also like to keep jet, tigers eye, and rose quartz. I were the black onyx occasionally and sleep with the malachite. I dont use the obsidian very much, idk why.

I get the spiritual affect but I also get a very strong physical effect from mycurtails, especially during my initial connection with them.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/24/18 02:01:34PM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy the crystals I'm referring to are apart of my regular armor I guess. I'm fine wearing them until I go certain places or am around certain people. Or after being around a lot of people for prolonged period of time.

I've had a similar experience with hematite, although I had a different outcome. I was always taught that pain was actually a sign of healing. So when I experienced the discomfort with the hematite I kept it on me. It took a few days, which sounds like a crazy thing to go through I know, but it felt like something was being pulled out of me. I had to keep going to the restroom and then, it all went away. I felt a weight that I wasn't even aware of lift. Now I carry that same piece of hematite all the time.

I dont fully understand what is happening but in the end I always feel healed. It's like I'm being made a new, it just hurts a little sometimes. Have you ever experienced anything like that?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/24/18 09:26:00AM
138 posts

Shielding yourself


Empath

One thing I have also noticed regarding Crystal's is that once I start to feel overwhelmed I remove them all and it is like removing the weight.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/23/18 07:51:24PM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@nea would you be willing to share the technique?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/23/18 05:15:43PM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@nea how does the technique of returning work? What are the other things that can be done with the absorbed energy?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/16/18 05:14:22PM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy I go through similar cycles. That is what is motivating me to try this out. I need more consistency.

I think it may have been a passage from the tao te ching. It was the idea of learning to be okay with the bad because it wont stop coming. It's just a way of not getting so overwhelmed by it. I struggle with that idea. But in trying to focus on the good, I am learning to stop trying to fight with the bad. Kinda of like the idea of radical acceptance. It does not say you agree with what is happening, just an acknowledgment of what is happening.

If it makes any sense at all focusing on the positive doesn't even truly take away the down moment but it does seem to make them easier to deal with. Like I said sometimes I won't even talk just to give myself time to rebuild

I've only been at it for a few days now. It's starting to feel almost like I am focusing my empathetic nature to pinpoint what I am trying to feel.

What I notice it that the negative energy is a massive size while the positive feels like a dim light.

Also I just wanted to clarify, it's not my mood that I'm trying to amplify. In fact it is my mood that I am trying to give less attention to. My mood often gets so muddled by the world around me it can be destructive to my life. It's like looking for Waldo. I don't know if you are familiar with the children's books. Each page is a picture filled with an insane amount of details and you have to look to see where Waldo is.

I am feeling outside myself trying to find the positive energy and then intently focusing on that energy so that I can build a strong connection to it. I feel like if I can connect empatheticly to people over great distances, then with practice should be able to find waldo(positive energy) wherever he/it may be.

Thank you for your words.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/16/18 11:07:56AM
138 posts

Who can Relate? (Share stories please)


Empath

Hey! @loconnoro I can relate. I have those moments when I have completely picked up someone else personally, mentally, emotional state, etc. Its like I become them.
I have found that when I let their emotional state play out ( not by acting but by feeling) it usually fades quickly. Some are more stubborn. I also find that it can be a part of empathetic overload. I try to take regular breaks from everything so that I can reconnect with self. Sometimes I can reestablish that connection without the break. I do that by bringing awareness to my physical body.
I don't view it as a negative, just something that happens.

As far as enhancing goes, that's a favorite topic of mine.

http://mysilentecho.com/dreamtongue1.htm

Above is the address to a free book. So far for myself it has been the best. It is unorthodox as some would say. However the more I understand the more I realize that it is not. The author teaches us to get rid of words like supernatural and think of ourselves as just natural. It's a dense read. I have read it several times and am actually about to read it again.

Happy travels
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/15/18 04:28:36PM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

@hop-daddy
I have definitely had the experience of being like an aspirin. I do pick and choose who I help.

I have gotten a lot better over time at grounding the negative energy and hope that practice and time can make me better.

I will say I have been trying out the amplification thing for a few days now, and I feel like there is something to it.

I agree about grounding the negative energy. I notice that when I am in a room that has a low energy environment if I focus on letting it pass through me the mood of the room changes. Sometimes while I do it I can't talk. It's like the minute I open my mouth that energy gets internalized. So I still need to practice more. I do find that it's easier if I dont try to shield. Instead I just feel what ever it is and it passes more quickly.

However, I'm curious what effect I could have if after I ground the negative energy I focus on amplifying the positive energy.

It's not an end all. For example, I was having a rough day a work. There are two people who bring everyone down, you know the kind of people who are not comfortable unless everyone around them is frustrated. Since I'm not the quickest to ground I felt that energy starting to effect me. Then I saw a co-worker, who is always smiling,who hadn't been there in a while. I told her I was going to focus on her energy to help me through the rest of the day. She smiled even bigger and said okay. I turned my full attention to her and it seemed like the room was suddenly filled with all my favorite people. I was still a little upset but everytime I got ready to feed into it, something funny would happen. Or someone would show me a sign of solidarity.

So I'm thinking maybe we can do both. I know that there are some people who I won't always be able to help. But for the ones I can, I would like to experiment with this idea more to see what comes of it.

Thanks for writing in, I enjoyed reading what you wrote.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/13/18 05:54:29PM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

These are all great comments. I posted this question on another site and an interesting point was brought up.

A few people suggested that the energy that seems to be the strongest feels that way because we notice. I know that sounds a bit confusing so I'll phrase it another way.

Our ability allows us to amplify energy. We do this by simply acknowledging that energy and then paying attention to it.

I thought this was a neat idea, so today I changed my approach to the energy around me. I still feel all the different energy but I have given a stronger focus on the positive. Today was the first full day and I have noticed a great shift.

When I found myself in situations where there was a lot of bad energy I focused on my heart, thinking as a seed of positive energy and using my focus to amplify it.

Has anyone else had this experience?
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/13/18 07:19:27AM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

MIA= missing in action. It just means I disappear for a little while.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/12/18 10:42:26AM
138 posts

Empathy absorbed?


Empath

So lately I've been wondering. When we pick up the emotions of others do we take them away from them, or do they stay with them?

The sad and angry emotions stay with me longer. In fact they usually dont go away until I either go MIA for a while or allow them to be expressed.

Now I've gotten to a point where it doesn't bother, I understand the process.

What I dont know is it if I'm actually taking a bit of that pain away, or just sharing?
If it is being taken away does it apply to all emotions, or just the ones people want relief from?
Just curious.

crystalsage
@crystalsage
05/01/18 10:05:57AM
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Just wanted to share


Empath

I was taught by an energy work that feeling vibrations is a sign of energy that does not belong to you. That is not to say that is the only sign. I bring this particular one up because it is the one I have been working with the most, and I wanted to share a major change I have noticed.

I used to do these meditations that involved me observing the sensations in my body. Rather trying to do a specific breathing technique I would simply observe the natural breathe. To put it in other words, for me it is like giving full autonomy over to my body. I do this as a way of strengthening the connection to self, and also because my body knows what it needs more than I do.

I actually hadn't done this meditation for years. I traded it out for newer, more elaborate techniques. The change that came about from that trade happened so gradually that I only recently realized what happened.

I have always been an empath, but was always blissfully unaware. There was no major occurrence that forced a need to know. I dealt with life easily. I just didn't know what exactly it was that was helping me deal.

Over that last three years I experienced major empathetic overload to the point that I no longer recognized myself. That was when the understanding of my empathic nature came. I always knew there was something going on, I was just at peace with who I was so I never needed to label it. Well after the overload, I needed to know that I would know how to take care of myself.

So long story short when I give over control to myself, this is what happens. Instead of trying to get rid of the energy it works better for me to just feel the. Sometimes it can hurt, be scary and overwhelming like the vibrations are never going to stop, but they always do. I have noticed myself get stronger, and I need less and less alone time. Like now I am an environment that is usually the most difficult and it is not phasing me. I have also never been more intuned then I am now and it feel great. My head is clear and I feel as though I know exactly what to do and when without actually knowing how or why I do.

I'm not saying this is what everyone should do. Do what works for you. I'm just sharing in case it may be helpful to someone else.

Take care and much love.

crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/28/18 08:38:31AM
138 posts

Vitamin/Mineral Deficiency in empaths


Empath

If you can't do salt alkaline water is also very good.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/28/18 08:37:15AM
138 posts

Vitamin/Mineral Deficiency in empaths


Empath

Protein heavy diets are helpful.
As well as lots of water with a little salt.

I know the salt part sounds strange, and dont misunderstand, I dont put it directly in my water. I just take a pinch of salt for every quarter gallon of water that I drink. Salt helps the body absorb water.

I also feel better when I eat a lot of vegetables. Not just physically, I feel like I have control over my empathetic nature.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/28/18 08:30:35AM
138 posts

Empaths and food


Empath

It almost sounds like there may be one person in particular in your life whom you are connected to.

Being aware of an energy does not always make it easy to ground it. Some energies can be stubborn, and that case I find that it is because there is a specific person deeply attached to that energy.

It may not be someone you know. Could have been something that was picked up at one of the restaurants you like to go too.

If you are aware enough of the energy feeling like it is coming from outside I dont think it is yours.

I would pay attention to the people I talk to or are around. Check in with how you feel after the interaction.

Also some time alone connected with my true self, not the self affected by all the outside energies, really helps me get a handle on what I am truly feeling. It also helps me ground any of those stubborn energies.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/24/18 12:01:27PM
138 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

Glad to hear it @guitarherogod47

I just wanted to comment on your post about feeling like being given a heart attack and also @spiritualskies.


I think of my purpose like being a sponge. I find that to work very well for me.

When I get hit with those strong energies, be they stress, pain, sadness or other wise I do not push them away. I find that it is harder to push anyway. Instead I sit with the feelings. At times I do try to determine who they belong to, because it is my way of developing my awareness of my empathic nature. However what I always do now is ground them.

I focus on taking that energy and sending it down through my feet and back into the earth. I do this so that the energy can be properly cleansed and rebalance and then sent back into the world. I honestly believe that to be my purpose.

I feel much better and less affected by negative energies when I do this. I also see changes in my environment and the people around me.

In the past when I have tried to push or shield I notice the energy gets stuck inside and then I get sick.

It is how I help heal others and myself. The more o do this the stronger I get and the more I can handle. I have also noticed a lesser need for time alone as well as aids for grounding. I stay grounded all day.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/24/18 10:10:36AM
138 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

Just a side note. I'm not speaking against healing. I just think that we must also teach people how to take care of themselves. Because you can heal a person as many times as you like, but unless they do the work to maintain, it can be for nothing. It is overwhelming to heal a person and then try to live their lives for them so they stay healed.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/24/18 10:07:50AM
138 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

So I was curious as well about how you mentioned not wanting to get unstuck because you could cause harm.

In my experience when I detach myself from someone it is not what causes them harm. The harm that occurs was already happening due to their own imbalances. By being attached to them what I was doing was protecting them even from themselves. That is another time when I feel their presence within because want to be protective. However, I do not think 8t is a good way to live.

I have been so deeply attached to someone that I have experienced their depression for them. The minute I cannot take it anymore and decide to let go of the attachment all their problems go back to them.

The thing about healing people is that it can sometimes make them weak. It is not be because of how you are healing. It is because with some people, if they know they can be healed by an outside force they may choose to not take responsibility for their own lives.

I realized this long before I even realized I was an empath. A good friend was convinced I was psychic. (I guess she knew before me. Lol) she would always call me about situations she was in and ask me to tell her what to do. Usually I would give her my insight on the matter. During a meditation, while can never remember exactly what happened (I never do), I somehow came to the realization that this was not helping. Sure, the short term affects were satisfying, however in the long run this way would not work. So, I listened to the message I received and stopped giving my insight. I was met with a great deal of hostility, which surprised and hurt me. I had always thought my friend was growing with me during this journey. I realized she was not, because I was shielding her from the pain of life. I now know that, that was something she needed at the time.

Someone can tell a good piece of advice, no matter what, over and over again. It is not until we have our own experiences that we truly come to understand exactly what they meant.

So I do not think you are hurting people. You are simply removing your shield from them, allowing life to naturally occur. We may have control of a considerable amount of things in life but there is still a considerable amount that we do not control. To accept this is to be closer to peace.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:54:07PM
138 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

My mentor would tell you that to feel lost is a good thing although it may not feel good. It means you have detached from all the expectations of what others or even you may think you need to be and are now ready to connect with your true self.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:52:05PM
138 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

Ok now as I said I am no stranger to hopelessness. I recently went through a phase of feeling lost and not knowing who I was anymore.

I have also experienced the feeling of life messing around with me. Getting what seemed like blessings only to have them come to a painful end.

One of my mentors is not an empath, in fact I'm not sure how she feels about the matter. However she is still a very wise and insightful woman nonetheless.

Her advice was to first figure out exactly what I needed in life to give myself some peace. Spend less time doing and more time reflecting.

Sometimes we jump into doing and it works out for a while but because we may be detached from what we need the longevity never follows.

In order to find out what I need she told me to daydream about what I wanted, but not take the dreams seriously as if it was what needed to be done. Instead I was to ask myself what needs are being fulfilled by this dream.

For example I often dream about being found by my lover but also by friends that feel more like family. When I think of why this dream feels good I realize that it is because in the dream I have a team of people who trust and accept me as I am. I have people who respect who I am. Once I saw that I realized at least a few things that I needed in my life. More than love I need people who I can trust to be there for me no matter who I am, no matter how I change. I need people who are willing to work with me that offer/accept guidance. I need to feel a sense of equality. This knowledge has changed how I approach people and situations. I understand now that when I get upset with certain people, particularly ones I'm close with, it is because I am looking for them to fulfill a need they cannot. So now I look for people and even work situations that can fit who I am.

Our needs often define us. When we know what we need our paths become a lot clearer. For me life has become so much easier.

I took that advice a step further and began to analyze what I like to watch, the books I like to read, and past situations that I felt should have worked out.

In doing so my list of need grew until a full image of myself became clear before my eyes.

I even asked myself what need is being fulfilled by my desire to develop my empathetic nature. For me it is my strength. It gives me a place in the world but also gives me the ability to handle what life may bring, the good or bad. The most important thing I get is freedom.

I never fit into this world until I accepted my empathetic nature. Now, while there is still work to be done, I no longer feel hopeless. Instead the life I want feels realistic.

Hope you find something that helps.

Just know you are not alone.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:27:37PM
138 posts

I need help or something/anything


Empath

Ok so first I can understand that feeling of hopelessness. I have been there, I'm sure we all have at one point.

This is a book I read that was really powerful in helping connect and shape my empathetic nature. Maybe it could help you too.

On a personal note the author is unorthodox and it took me a while to really understand what he was trying to say. I had to read it like three times.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://mysilentecho.com/dreamtongue1.htm&ved=2ahUKEwi828iHxtHaAhUps1QKHXSfBkAQFjACegQICBAB&usg=AOvVaw01McMK4wYYBFDQvmpCgtMi
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 04:20:04PM
138 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

I'm glad you worked it out.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 11:17:36AM
138 posts

Thing about this year


Empath

I feel that presence everywhere unless I am at home. For me it was a sign of being more in tune with my empathetic nature.

The best way I have learned to deal is through accepting and acknowledging. I accept that empathy is one of my senses like touch or smell. It in s the way I take in the world. Some see it, I feel. I acknowledge that the energy does not belong to me and only wants to pass through. It is the gift and burden of who I am. It hurt to do this at first. However as time went on it got easier and easier. It's like learning to walk and run 3 miles. It is hard at first then it just becomes normal. I have more to say but I'm at work. Ttyl
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/23/18 08:12:54AM
138 posts

Shielding yourself


Empath

Since we are talking about Crystal's. I had a strange/ good? Thing happen. I went to the crystal shop yesterday with a friend. Normally something calls to me. A new energy that I need to add. This time it was like all the crystals were telling no. As if to say I am finished for now with this part of my journey, it's time for the next step. I've been having a similar experience with my personal crystals. I usually won't leave the house without my necklace or ring. The necklace is a combo of black kyanite and tigers eye. The ring is amethyst. I always feel like I need them for different reasons to face the day. When I realized I didn't have them I got this feeling l I'llke I would be okay.

It's funny but i actually am okay. Just give an example i am currently sitting next to a very aggressive and mean person. One whom I typically avoid because she is always trying to cause trouble for me, but I am okay. I have been shielding less and grounding more. Her energy can touch me without me feeling fear and internalizing her dissatisfaction with life.

Perhaps the crystal safe is no more. I love how life is ever changing. I am forever grateful for the healing energy that crystals have given me.

I wish the same peace for all.
crystalsage
@crystalsage
04/21/18 05:52:54PM
138 posts

Understanding Empaths and complex relationships


Empath

I've done the whole doctor thing. It actually worked for me. I had to take the time to find a doctor I was comfortable with. Although she does not talk about empathy and I actually doubt that she understands it she has been amazing.

My work with her often reminds me of many Tao sayings. The name that can be called is not the true name or the truth that can be understood is not the true truth...or something like that.

From her I have realized that just because she does not view the world the same way I do does not make her any less apart of the world.

I have come to realize that every question I ask is answered. I only have to pay attention and be present in the world around me.

Often times when I talk to my doctor she'll bring up things that have been on my mind, and almost fill in the blanks. She's not the only one. Sometimes I'll see a billboard, or a coworker will make a comment, or I'll overhear a conversation in passing that is directly related to what I need at the moment.

The two, the way, God, the gods, the universe however you want to call is everywhere and in everything and everyone. It does not matter the path we only that take it and trust and have faith.

It's when we try to control things that we lose way and our faith.
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