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Zacharias
@zacharias
07/13/17 01:20:05PM
75 posts

Empath meme


Empath

I have to share this: I showed this post to my wife. I want her to know herself better and understand the dynamic she created. It made her feel bad. So I told her, don't worry, there are many people much more screwed up than you are. She said, "That is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me!".

Hi Honey, I'm talking about you. You know it's cause I love you so much!!! Just the way you are.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/13/17 12:27:46PM
75 posts

Does trauma enhance our abilities?


Empath

Your talking about hyper alertness. Many of my friends are Vietnam vets(those that saw action). We have a kinship they don't understand. They assume I was in the military, and are very surprised when they find out I wasn't. It happens over and over. One guy, talking about the war over lunch, thought I was actually in Vietnam. He asked where I was stationed. Dude, I was born in '71.

@trevor-lewis - I'm reading your book

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/12/17 02:03:50PM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

Thank you @empathinboston, I love you back. It felt good

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/11/17 10:58:22PM
75 posts

Empathic practices


Empath

It is awesome. The change I made was to stay around people that work at it. They have to want to grow and become better than they are. I find that I can't help those that don't want help, and even if they do, they have to ask for it. I'm blocked otherwise and I waste my time trying. I am subject to the spirit of others. Once I realized this it was easy to find those that could help me.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/11/17 04:41:01PM
75 posts

Empathic practices


Empath

Wow, yes. People come up to me after say things like this time it was different, or better. I see that my presence has an effect, but I don't know what I'm doing. I feel that if I think about to much it won't happen. So this is something I'm not trying to figure out. 

Sunday one of the girls sang a song that overwhelmed me. I couldn't help but cry. She has been one I've watched since I've been there. She's the most beautiful loving caring being in that church. I am in awe of her. That's her gift.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/11/17 04:09:49PM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

Man do I love you guys. I knew the answers to my questions would be here. Otherwise, I wouldn't have wanted to come back. It is so what I need to hear. This gives me insight and direction. 

@empathinboston - I'm open to anything you want to send me. I'm reading a lot right now. I found so much information that it will take time to digest it all. Whenever the sensitivity increases I go on a search for as much info as I can stuff in to my brain and sort it out as I go through life. If you give the name of this book, I can find it. Don't worry about my spinning mind. I'm used to it. 

As I go through that list, I see the things that I have been "led" to do. So this is conformation that I am on the right track. I'm not working right now because I was sick of sucking sawdust and climbing through attics. Mostly, I was tired of picking up that energy in peoples homes. Being a handyman has been hard. I want to be a blacksmith. 

@hop-daddy - I may never know the truth of what happened that day. I have a feeling is all. If could go back in time(which I be able to do some day) maybe I'd know, but it's not important to have the answer. What's important is that we question. The root word is "quest" after all. These events spur our drive to understand. Thank you for sharing. Skeptics have been a wealth of knowledge for me. 

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/11/17 09:11:42AM
75 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

It's very easy. He's a classic narcissist, like my wife of 25 years. These people are easy to be around until they aren't. They feel they have to control you and they work very hard at it. It's how they survive, cause life is hard on everyone. No one gets a free pass to live a life without pain. He responded to the pain by blocking it out, but never learned how to control others. So he drank to socialize. He's just afraid. Most people are. The ones I worry about are the ones that are not.

I do feel his judgement and it makes me sick. I want to say, how can you of all people make a judgement of me? But I don't, cause that IS a judgement. So lets break it down:

A sitting judge is taking in all this information from evidence and testimony, but withholds making a judgement until all the information is available to be analyzed. Then at the end he, or she, comes to a conclusion, and uses a gavel to let it be known the judgement has been made, and so ends the argument.

So it isn't judgement per se that you need to avoid. It's coming to conclusions. In order to understand why you have to look for the black goose. After all, not all geese are white.

I say this to you to spare you. No one wants to be around someone they perceive as judgy. You'll be a much happier person by not judging at all. That doesn't mean you don't read them to understand their motives. Please do, that helps to protect you. Just know it gets complex. They are trying to survive too in the way they know how. We are not about convincing people they need to put up those walls of "self protection". We're about tearing them down. It's all it how you react to what you learn. Try not to, but don't ignore it. Your not suppose to know these things anyway, right? If they think you do they get scared. We have to live in secret for their sake. But don't worry, they'll come around some day.

 Also, this guy is learning humility! I've seen the change happen. He is humbled by all the people that have surrounded  him to help him though this. We do it, because we can't throw people away that make mistakes. If we did, we'd all be in the trash heap. It's just a shame someone had to die for this change to happen. He's been sober for a few months now. He says it's been 18, but I know that's a lie. No one else knows this. I keep his secret without ever letting him know that I know. It's a crazy world.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/11/17 12:19:03AM
75 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

There's this guy I take to breakfast every Friday. He did something very bad. He got drunk one night and drove the wrong way down the highway til he ran into a guy on a motorcycle. He's going to prison. I started this friendship with him to find out what happened in his life to bring him to this point. 

I had to put away all judgement and show him that I care in order to open him up. When I look into his eyes it's like staring at a blank wall. He has become so disassociated from his emotions he doesn't know what he's feeling. I do now, but not at first. The reason he is so interesting, is that when I met him he had already done the thing he did and had shut down inside. The cover emotions he uses are from an out of control ego. It's not easy to sit there and listen to him talk about things that he should be crying about and yet he stays perfectly calm. Up until the moment when he feels something, then the subject changes. He thinks he's about to lose it, and shuts down again. He learned to do this at around 8 years old. That deep sadness is still there. It's strong. He had a friend that moved away. To him, it was as if he died. Some one probably told him to "suck it up and deal with it". His grandparents died in a car crash a few years ago. He said "I didn't feel anything, is that bad?" I said no, it's normal.

The things you see when you put away judgment are the things you really want to know. His eyes are not draped in a shade, it's a blackout cover. He doesn't want anyone to know what he perceives as weakness. What I see is that little 8 year old boy that can't grow up.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/10/17 11:33:42PM
75 posts

Empathic practices


Empath

Ok, here's another one: Aikido

Of all the different martial fighting methods Aikido is the only one that claims to be a practice in empathy as well. The reason for this is how they practice. You train with a partner. You take turns. One person attacks, the other defends. You do this four times, then you switch. It takes a lot of non verbal communication to respond correctly and not get hurt, or hurt others. Your not suppose to speak on the mat but in most dojos the rules are pretty lackadaisical. It's called the martial art of peace, but people seriously get the wrong idea about what that means.

For me personally, my training increased my awareness of where people are, and helps to discern their intent. In any conflict you have to figure out if they really mean you harm or if they're just barking. Otherwise, you can escalate a situation that didn't need to be. When it comes to conflict I'm so glad I'm an empath. But most of time.....

I'm looking for more of these places where people are creating bonds and learning to empathically communicate. You understand if they do, we can have peace.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/10/17 09:55:07PM
75 posts

Does trauma enhance our abilities?


Empath

I can tell many of you have had very hard lives. I've heard the stories. Ones I won't repeat. The horror of humanity I know full well. 

I assumed I never became a serial killer because I was an empath. I fit the profile otherwise. Now I'm thinking the things I went through could have served to enhance my abilities. It's hard not to believe I was born this way since half my family show empathic traits, and a few of us know we are. My cousins are drug addicts and alcoholics(myself included). They are able to drown it out and learn to survive without ever being aware of what they are. I was never able too. I knew what people were thinking. Many times it keep me from being molested or otherwise injured by those out to get me. So empathy started early. Was it the trauma that made me more aware? Can you relate?

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/10/17 09:20:34PM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

My father was a mechanic for the airlines all his life. So I got free tickets. Back then it cost me $27 to fly to London. I use to love flying. 

Things have changed that's for sure, but this was different than anything I had experienced before. I remember a flight with a crying baby. She was in extreme pain because of pressure in her ears. The rest of people on the flight just wanted to "shut that damn baby up already!".(please never fly with a baby). I could pick out those that were more angry than those that were trying to ignore and just felt irritated. And yes, all I wanted to do was to hold that baby.

If someone on that flight felt that much panic. I assume I would be able to pick them out. I was looking for that person and couldn't figure out who. Once people get on the plane they relax and calm down for the most part. That was the vibe except for me.

I don't panic, I've been trained not too. So I knew it wasn't me. Yet, since then I have. It happens when I'm stuck in traffic on a Saturday. Not so much during weekday rush hour, but Saturdays are dangerous. I think about going off road and just getting home anyway I can. The difference is in that situation is it builds up. I can feel it coming on. My mind gets cloudy till I can't think then the run response kicks in. I say a prayer and it goes away. When I was on that plane, it hit me so quick I wasn't aware it was happening. It was like road rage. When someone slaps you with anger. 

What I've been reading about is what happens in the spirit world during these events. I get attacked for it. Depression and anger is normal to me, but not anymore. That leaves me to think there is something someone or some thing doesn't want me to know. So @hop-daddy, your an interesting guy, I have a question: If i'm right about what I was picking up on, and these women had attacked me some how, what would you consider them to be and where did they learn to do this? 

"Know your enemy as you know yourself, and you will not be harmed in a hundred battles" Sun Tzu

You do understand I have to learn how to fight back.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/09/17 01:26:43PM
75 posts

Speaking in Tongue


Dreams

I grew up around a lot of people that could fake speaking in tongues. A few actually did. Mostly women. By about 5 to 1. My mother, for instance, does this on a regular basis. She calls it her spirit language, or prayer language. She was the one who taught me. If you focus on the gibberish they babble than you'll miss whats happening. I know this language because I was born with it. It's how I told my mother I had a dirty diaper or needed a bottle. Everyone is born with it. They just forgot. Some of us don't forget. This language is a pure form of communication. One without inference or misunderstanding. It's imparted meaning, or impression. I think you know what I'm talking about here. Some call it Dream tongue. It's great way to pray when you don't know what to pray for. 

My mother is an empath, but she is considered an intercessor. She is told to pray and so she does. She has interceded for me many times. Last time was in October when me and my daughter had a crash. We both walked away from it. The truck was totaled. She had some glass in her shoe. That was the worst of it. I thank God that He woke my Mother that night.

You can call it the language of Heaven and angels. You would be right in saying so, but this is also how people speak to me when they're not talking. @bill-walker you already know this language! I call it empathy.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/08/17 08:00:55AM
75 posts

My latest rescue


Animal Empaths

How cool. Brings a tear to my eye. My daughter brought home two farm kittens with the sniffles last weekend. One has a broke leg. They are now healthy and happy. This brings the cat population in my home to 13.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/07/17 01:16:43PM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

I do agree. I will study it. Knowledge is power after all, but I have access to power much greater than any would be vampire can conjure. It comes from the source of all power. Wielded by the Ultimate Empath. Love is our weapon, Love our shield. Forgiveness allows him to work. This is Truth 

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/07/17 11:58:20AM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

Ahh, oh yes! I forgive them. I don't care who they were or what they have done, I forgive them. There. Now all attachments are broken.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/07/17 11:50:11AM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

Yeah, it helps. This has been my lesson over the past few months it took to learn. STOP RESISTING. It's so hard to understand the why and how of all of it. Yet the most profound understandings come to me when I give up trying. So this is me giving up, or actually giving in.

All my life I keep thinking if look hard enough I'll find the answer that leads to being healed of this affliction. I didn't talk, I didn't share, it was my problem not theirs. I have to say it can be much more difficult for a man to be empath than women. Probably because we hang out with other men.  To see it as a gift embrace it is............just difficult.

Thank you

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/07/17 09:44:31AM
75 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Yep, makes sense. Your using your intuitive perception to figure them out. The more you do, the more feed back you get, the better you are at it. I love it.

Something Buddha said "if you want to know the Truth, hold no opinions"

Something Jesus said "Lean not on your own understanding"

We are perceiving things we don't fully understand no matter how well we think we do. What you pick up on through your spirit you filter through your mind. We add our own judgments. To be right, you have to recognize it and stop it. Why, because it does harm to our spirit.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/07/17 05:41:49AM
75 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Be careful. Many times I have gotten the wrong idea about someone because I was looking at one single aspect I pick up on. As I look deeper I see how complicated people are. It's said "The eyes are the windows of the soul", and it's true, but windows have curtains and blinds. You can only get so much information of the lay out of the inside of a house by looking through the window. If you want to be right in your judgement, they have to open the door and let you in. I would ask that you withhold judgement until you gain their confidence and trust. That's when they let you in, and you get to see more. We have extra information yes, but it doesn't mean your any better at judging them than they are. If you make a judgement find out if your right. 

Personally, I'm not near as accurate as I'd like to be, so I make it a point not too. I find that by understanding them instead I'm able to help them. Think of it this way, we have to feel the judgment of others and we know they are wrong. If you do the same to them then you are no better.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/06/17 04:59:16PM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

I don't know enough to do this on my own. This was years ago, but I've thinking about how the relationship with my wife soon after got very rocky. I couldn't believe she was doing and I don't believe she knew what she was doing. It got to the point where I asked for a divorce. We didn't, we worked through it. Our relationship now is better than ever. I believe we broke any link or attachment, but just to make sure, I asked God to take care of that for me and surround my wife with a shield of light. This is all I know to do. Thank you for responding. 

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/06/17 11:54:32AM
75 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

I want to know where they learn how to do this. I'd also like to know why they do it.

I was on airplane about to take off when I felt PANIC. I undid my seat belt and started to get up. My thought was if I just get off the plane for a minute I'd be ok. My wife saw what was happening and calmed me down. She said "It's somebody else on the plane, not you". She later admitted the thought occurred to her that this was a psychic indication the plane was going to crash, but I when it happened I thought the same thing and dismissed it. I wasn't afraid of the plane. So, I sit back down, put up my shield, do my grounding thing, and sit back to read a book. Well, for the entire trip I was being stared at by two women a few rows behind me on different sides of the plane. It was easy to pick them out. So when we got off the plane we waited around to watch for them. I asked my wife to see if she could pick them out. Well, they made it easy because they got off the plane together. The strange thing was they never spoke to each other. They didn't sit together on the plane, yet they walked through the concourse together without even speaking. Women always have something to talk about.

This has always been a mystery. What were they? What did they take from me? WHY?

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/06/17 10:20:25AM
75 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

Good! I'm not the only one that doesn't call them out. With my wife a daughter, yes I of course I do, but the rest of the world? I'll let them live with their lies. It tells me all I need to know about them. 

But! sometimes, Someone will say something I know for a fact is not true, and yet they are not lying. They believe it. So utter denial fits in here some where. 

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/06/17 09:57:00AM
75 posts

exclusivity in a group & how that affects an empath, insight please?


Empath

Good question. I don't have an answer, but I've done the same. I broke away from the group I was with as teenager. Ever since I go from one group to another. When I start to develop a history with people, I move on. There is a point where people start to be less considerate because they know you well. That's when I find another group. I try to be a bit intimidating and extremely nice at the same time. It's my way of controlling their emotions and judgments. If they start to get to that point I'll do something that confuses the hell out of them. So far it's worked with the groups I'm with now for about 2 1/2 years. I have structured socialization sessions. I very rarely let anyone come to my home. I always drive my own vehicle anywhere I go. Oh, and I pray alot. It still makes no difference what I do. I don't have any desire to stay with the group anymore. I'm ready to move on even though I haven't been pushed out this time. It's seems to be something God is guiding me to do. 

These are my techniques that I have developed in order to keep my sanity. Also, I value truth above all. It's necessary to go from group to group in order to understand them. Personally, I am incredibly curious about what makes them do what they do. They still confuse the hell out of me.  

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/06/17 08:04:42AM
75 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

Not sure why it is that many of us end up living these extremely traumatic lives, and want to live with borderline sociopathic people that tend to traumatize us further, but I end up doing many things I'm compelled to do without knowing why. The empath meme post from Tigerlilly was interesting.

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/06/17 07:40:25AM
75 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

Don't forget the TV show "Hannibal". The main character is an empathic FBI agent. 

Zacharias
@zacharias
07/06/17 07:03:12AM
75 posts

Empathic practices


Empath

I've been reading all of your posts for 5 years now. It's been a wealth of information that has pulled me through the dark times and keep me from permanently leaving society. I thank you all for your wisdom and guidance.

I moved out of a very small town where I stayed hidden for 20 years. For the last 5 years I've been living on the outskirts of a  fairly large city. This gives me the ability to pick and choose who I interact with. I find myself drawn to activities I would never do on my own, but end up being a form of therapy. I consider these empathic practices.

Any time an unspoken bond is created with a group of people I like to be in the middle of it. I get to listen to them and they seem to hear me (some do). We exchange impressions which increases commuication. One of these practices seems to be singing in choir. So for the last 2 years I've been a member of a Baptist church choir! For a 45 year old metal head like myself it's fairly crazy.

Before you start making any kind of judgment, let me explain. First off, I am not a baptist. I went to this church because I was led to it. I thought it a great way to get over my animosity against the church. I felt strongly this was something I needed to do anyway. It wasn't reason I went. I'm reluctant to say that God told me the answers to my questions would be there, but that was my perception of events. I found the people to be very open and genuine. I was accepted by them and started singing with them. 

I didn't know these songs they sing, yet I always do. I know the words and the notes right before we sing them. I don't need to practice the music because these people have been in choir most of their lives and know the music well. I simply visualized my circle of power expanding out to cover the choir loft and I sing without thinking. I can't read music so I don't bother looking at it.

These people have a deep bond with each other, yet they don't seem to be aware of that unspoken communication that I am, more or less, eavesdropping into. I will never be able to explain to them what I sense going on because they are not open to the idea. That doesn't seem to matter. These people are practicing empathy! I have found by mingling with different groups at the church that they are doing the same thing in many different ways. It's not just singing and worship service. They have a way of leading these different groups into lowering their defensive walls and triggering emotions that they share.  What I feel from it, at times, is being enveloped in perfect love. It's like visiting heaven.

I would love some incite into this, as well as, other groups of people you see growing in this empathic awareness that seems to be spreading.  

 
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