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GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/30/17 03:27:08AM
13 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

@hop-daddy : Hematite works wonders for me :) I feel really energized and alive when wearing it, and yes a little all over the place as well but I kinda like that haha. It's just so different than before, especially when I didn't even know how to protect myself yet. I will clean it and recharge it regularly, thanks for the hint. :) We're going to the gemstone shop on Saturday and I will buy and test a few more stones and hopefully I'll have the right combo that works for me as well.

Personally I react really bad to marijuana, I cannot function anymore like some people can (even going to work stoned and such!), so I stay away from it in any case. No temptation there.

@angeldelight : Alcohol just numbs all your senses, especially if you are empathic I would say. I feel it after as little as one glass, my sensors and my "broadcast" are completely shut down and I only "exist" without picking up on stuff and my environment, misjudging the situation because I don't "work". Hard to describe. But it should not become a habit to feel less pain and less anxiety, like it was unfortunately for me in the past. 

My friend is fine haha, saw him briefly the other night and we had a good time. Seems like he is doing really well these days, less drugs. I hope it stays that way. I always have the feeling that he kinda wants to turn his life around but doesn't really dare to or doesn't really know how, perhaps this is why he "chose" me and we met, unconsciously searching for someone to pull him out of it and help him evolve. Unfortunately I don't really have the energy for that stuff, I did it in the past with/for people and it is simply too draining, especially if it's not a close partner, or even a relative.

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/30/17 02:11:57AM
13 posts

Empaths and Food


Empath

To be honest I never really though about the Energy from the people handling my food, very good point. Perhaps this is why the same dish in a restaurant does not always taste the same, indeed! I have to pay more attention to that. I usually try to eat fresh food only and prepare a lot myself, I try to avoid processed food, but of course nowadays it's impossible to avoid other people handling your food, even the healthy stuff like vegetables etc.., unless you live exclusively out of your own garden and who can do that :/

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/27/17 02:20:57AM
13 posts

Empaths and Food


Empath

Great that you are transitioning to vegetarianism, I can only recommend it. It's also possible to eat enough protein without meat, legumes are a great source for example :) 

I tried a juice cleanse in the past, for 3 days. it was easier than I thought and I didn't feel hungry at all. Good luck with it, I should do it again sometimes.

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/25/17 01:59:04AM
13 posts

Empaths and Food


Empath

Hi all,

Have I mentioned already how much I love this community and this forum? I really appreciate having found it as I get so much great advice and input here, so thank you all already for reading this.

Now, I am curious about what you other Empaths out there eat. Do you take some special care in your diet? i.e. are you vegetarian for example or avoid certain foods for reasons of your empathy and how the food makes you feel?

For me, my relationship with food has been very difficult all my life and I see now this may be connected to me being an empath. As a child I ate virtually nothing. My parents dragged me to doctors for that reason, fearing I may be suffering of malnutrition because I avoided so much food and simply could not eat it. I don't know where that came from, suspect it could be linked to a past life but a not sure. It became better when I grew older but food is a 'problem' for me still.

I became a vegetarian when I was around 16 years old, and a vegan bin my late 20ies up to today. I remember a few instances in my childhood where I felt really really bad after eating meat and I believe now, I picked up on it's energy back then. For myself I can say since skipping meat and especially since skipping all dairy and other animal products, I feel so much more alive and energized! This type of food didn't do me much good and for me it's the right way to cut it out completely (this of course may be very different for you others out there, I'm not being preachy or anything)

Recently, I have been receiving lots of signs about wheat and refined sugar. I keep on bumping into the topic and it made me curious so I read up on it and learned how destructive both really are to the body. I try to skip wheat for now completely and try the same with sugar later on and see how I feel about it. For wheat I can say that most bread and products made of it feel simply 'empty' to me, so I try to eat more food that has good and clear energy, such as salads and fresh vegetables. Wholesome food so to say. 

Long story short, I believe food can have a great impact on us and affect our wellbeing considerably, since we pick up on it's energy and may feel this much more intense than other people. Would love to hear how it is for you and what your relationship to food is like :)

Much love.


updated by @gardentiger: 12/10/17 11:53:55AM
GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/25/17 01:34:28AM
13 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

@hop-daddy : Yes, this sounds exactly like what I used to do in the past years.. get home from work, open the bottle of wine, eat a lot of sh*t and 'relax'.. took me too long to realize that there is nothing relaxing about that in the end. I don't do that anymore (only on the weekends sometimes) to try and be more in touch with myself and my feelings and emotions. But it is hard to suddenly feel everything, after numbing oneself for too long with that stuff.

Thank you for the tips about the stones, I will look them all up and get me some crystals for the office as well, the energy can get quite bad there at times. Building a collection so to say, haha. I already have a Rose Quartz here I can start using. I am wearing Hematite now since a few days, and wow was the effect immediate! My spirits are up there and my energy levels are so high, it's really great, I will never take it off again haha.

But unfortunately it doesn't seem to do enough for me regarding grounding (I got it for that in the first place) I went out with my friend yesterday and the moment I set foot into the room of the bar I felt really really bad, completely all over the place and anxious.. I just wanted to turn around and run again it was almost unbearable.. It was really shocking to me because this was the first time I fully realized this and that I realized this is exactly the feeling I was trying to avoid the recent years and the reason I never went anywhere again and became basically a hermit. Totally shocking and I need to get a grip on that. After drinking some beers it was considerably better but of course that can't be the solution every time now but I see now very clearly what got me into drinking too much in the past in the first place! I assume many empaths can relate to this.

I met my friend by the way and at least in that regard, I was completely fine and still am feeling well now. So the grounding and light exercises I did and possibly also the hematite did their magic there :) he was also on drugs by the way so am especially proud of myself I managed to steer clear of those vibes and his emotional baggage, while having a good time with everyone anyway in the end! Let's hope I manage that again for tonight.

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/25/17 01:15:36AM
13 posts

Why Does It Have To Be So Strong?


Empath

@alledius : it makes total sense to me, I also feel energy through songs sometimes. I love Jimmy Eat World by the way :) the song that I feel most is "23" though, that one really resonates with me. Perhaps this is a way to describe how it is for me, it resonates with my own energy somehow, I 'get' the song and the energy and feeling it carries. A good example is MCR for me, although the music is not especially positive, it lifts my spirits every time and I'd even say it gives me courage, making me feel that life isn't so bad after all (very hard to describe indeed) Placebo on the other hand I loved in the past, now I find it challenging to listen to because the vibes of their older songs are quite destructive. Still a great band though.

A medium once told me that they are unable to listen to most classical music, because these hundreds of years old songs have picked up so many bad vibes over time that they can't bear to listen to it and feel all that, something like that. Maybe it's different for everybody though. Classical music often makes me feel simply overwhelmed, might be just an echo from the past, I don't know.

Perhaps these feelings are so deep because they try to tell you something or to make you realize the abilities you have in you? I believe this is truly a gift we have. Be glad you can feel these things so clearly, especially in people, it really helps in life in my opinion :)

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/24/17 06:55:42AM
13 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

@zacharias : Yes, I agree, this is really a fantastic and very positive community :) I am really glad I found this website.

Yes, I have been prone to improve myself and to find my place and purpose in this world all my life, so I take this as an opportunity to learn and grow. I just hope I can somehow 'save' my friend or at least help him to get to the right path. Maybe he just needs a nudge in the right direction, again I think there is a reason why we met, too many "coincidences" have been involved in this story.

Thank you for the article, very interesting read and it really makes sense to me even though I don't smoke pot I've seen enough people slowly deteriorate because of it... Possession by entities is something that could also be the case for my friend, I'm afraid to open that can of worms to be honest, first I probably need to find out if he is even receptive of help and would accept guidance... maybe I'll have some news about what to do after we met this weekend. Wish me luck. :)

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/23/17 08:34:11AM
13 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

Yes this makes perfect sense... as it takes the connection between two people to a whole other level. I don't want to know how I would have felt if this would have gone even further...oh my.

Yes, I also want to quit drinking and smoking actually.. (even though I only do it more or less occasionally, I feel it's not good for me) and it shuts me down completely somehow.

I think there is a lesson for me to be learnt here, perhaps to protect myself more thoroughly and start to take responsibility for what I am and to be finally able to handle myself, so to say. I feel that also some connections to other people start feeling 'wrong' now that I listen into myself more, especially to those people who like to complain and have a very negative outlook on life etc... time to start cleaning out my emotional closet I guess :/

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/23/17 05:55:22AM
13 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

Thank you all for your answers!

@Zacharias: Yes, I really don’t think he is a narc, that vibe is completely different to me, but may have some traits. I am also certain he would not hurt me or anyone for that matter on purpose i.e. being selfish and only looking out for himself, that’s not his character at all.

I would like to help him but have to see what this does to me over time, if it gets too much or is a fruitless exercise, I will stop and try to distance myself. A relationship is not on the table at all for us so it will not develop into a romance, I rather have him as a friend. I do believe we met for a reason because there were a lot of ‘coincidences’ involved and it seems to me that at least for now, our path is intertwined.

@womanwhowalks:  Interesting point, maybe he is so ‘low’ that he unconsciously reaches out for help and finds people like me to share his burdens with and feel better after the encounter. I never felt other people’s being stoned myself lol but perhaps that’s also something that could happen to me if we keep closer contact! He does not strike me as unhappy to be honest, he keeps on saying he is content and happy with his life, perhaps this is all denial though. He IS a different person when he is sober though, no surprise. The funny thing is I was completely fine when we met, until this one kiss happened, I NEVER picked anything up from him, but this was also the case in the past, very weird, as if something shifted in that moment or I opened myself up to his energy more unconsciously or something.

To avoid him and his circle of friends completely is virtually impossible as we all live in and around the same town and cross paths all the time anyway, haha. But I will take care about protecting myself going forward and take extra care from now on. I’ll wear protective stones next time and see if that can prevent that I take on any future aches. If all fails I can still try to distance myself from him then.

@hop-daddy: May I ask what stones you are using? I know it may be best to try for myself how each of them feels like to me, but some inspiration would be nice, I’m curious which ones other people use and help them.

I share your “Angel/Devil” theory there, a medium told me something similar many years ago as well, and I think it’s logical, if I choose to destroy myself with drugs and alcohol I also refuse help ‘from above’ in that moment. This is just my opinion, of course this help from above can be regained by a change of ways and lifestyle, but how can the universe/god help us if we shut ourselves down and lose all connection? That’s exactly what Alcohol feels like to me by the way, as if my antennae is completely switched off and I am unable to connect with anything or anyone at that moment. Unfortunately sometimes this is exactly what I want but I try to limit my consumption to 2x a week max.

I will continue to ground myself daily and before going out, also some exercises like turning the volume down or encircling myself in light has been really helpful.

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/22/17 01:04:01AM
13 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

Hi all,

First of all, thank you for your answers, you helped me a lot to make sense of this situation :)

@trevor-lewis: Thank you for your answer, I did not realize that we can also pick up on ‘old’ feelings that the person has buried underneath, since the last time this happened I was pretty sure I picked up on their current state of emotions (it was someone else not this friend), while this time it really makes more sense that this could be something old he buried within himself and never resolved. Since he had very bad luck regarding love all his life, it is very likely there is a lot of hurt. From what I know so far he is not a very spiritual person and rather suppresses his emotions. I will try not to push this further and protect and ground myself before I see him again in person.

@hop-daddy: You are absolutely right about that, I feel that my Empath skills have strengthened considerably since I found out what is really happening with me, I can now immediately detect the energy in a certain room, from people or a certain environment and even feel the energy from healing stones etc. which has never happened before! (I bought some for helping me to stay grounded and for protection and it is amazing how they can improve my mood and my feelings) I still don’t really know how to transform the bad energy at the moment, but I will keep on trying, as it can be very overwhelming at times, especially in the office and in situations like traffic jams or a packed mall, unbearable at times!

About my friend, I don’t think he is a narcissist, but granted, I only know him since a few months and may have a wrong impression there, but my gut feeling tells me he isn’t one, but learning to trust that feeling is another story. I dealt with a narcissist in my past (of course I only realize that now, I didn’t at the time know what he is!) and it was a nasty story that gnawed on me for years, I avoid this type of people as much as I possibly can now!

His drug use is quite frequent so perhaps this is why I picked up so much negativity from him in that situation. It never happened before though even though we are close since a while now, I guess I just have to protect myself better if I want to keep spending time with him. I really do like him and value our friendship so I rather not cut the ties completely, unless the situation gets worse and unbearable for me.. I’ll see how I can cope with this next time we meet, possibly on the weekend. Thanks a lot for your insights and your help! :)  I will also now read through the topic you mentioned, perhaps I am wrong after all about him being a narcissist.

Have a nice day!

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
11/21/17 03:12:49AM
13 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

Hi all,

Trying to keep this short :) I am relatively new to this, I only found out I’m an Empath few months back, after opening my first topic in this forum and after reading ‘thriving as an Empath’ and Elise’s book, which were both very helpful. I get better at this step by step I hope, but now I find myself wondering, how empathy is perceived (if at all) from the other side of the spectrum so to say.

I took on very strong emotions from a good friend of mine again recently, and I had a very hard time to shake them off (it took me a few days, almost a week! – feeling miserable all the way through) this person is a new friend I ‘found’ a few months back and we get along very well, safe to say we clicked from the start and have a very special connection and I believe it is not a coincidence that we met at this exact time in my life, which is quite difficult for me as I feel adrift and stuck in a rut since a few months – but I’m working on resolving this.

He is a free spirit, no attachments, an artist that does whatever he feels like and abuses drugs – I know his lifestyle, which I kind of envy, is showing me what is currently missing in my life and should be lived and brought to the surface by me again (especially being creative and free, but not the drugs of course, I don’t use drugs except Alcohol) that’s probably why we clicked so well.

We were very drunk and kissed a few weeks back, and afterwards I felt simply completely awful, it felt a lot like having a broken heart going through massive heartache, which is strange, as this is not an emotional state he is going through at the moment as he has no partner or lover in his life at the moment (we are not lovers just like each other a lot what somehow led to this slip up – confusing this strong attraction we have for romance). It was also the first time I picked anything this strong up from him. Usually it’s just some ‘light’ stuff which I can cope with easily and ceases after a day or two and cutting ties to him. This time it didn't work. So why did it feel like that to me this time? Is it an echo of HIS feelings after all or do these emotions unloaded onto us Empaths always feel the same kind of awful? Again, I only started paying attention to this recently so am quite inexperienced in really listening into myself and feeling others emotions.

Anyway, my friend does not know that I am an Empath, no one of my friends and family actually knows this, hence I found myself wondering, I felt miserable for a week after our last encounter, but how did he feel? I know from reading up that the others usually don’t feel the same emotions that we Empaths take on from them, but do they feel relieved from this emotional baggage after such encounters perhaps? What’s this whole experience like ‘from the other side’? I know this is not the main focus for us in general and perhaps not even that important, but I am curious because it would explain why some people I find exhausting are drawn to me, just for unloading their emotions and feeling better afterwards, perhaps? Do the others feel nothing at all and merrily go their way while we deal with the damage we never asked for?

Also, why do some people unload stuff on us and others nothing at all? I don't usually take on such strong emotions, not even from people who are much closer to me, or even family.

I would love to hear your opinions on this matter. This forum is the only place I can talk and read about these things, I am so glad I found it.

Thanks for reading and have a nice day!


updated by @gardentiger: 12/10/17 12:20:30PM
GardenTiger
@gardentiger
07/06/17 06:53:40AM
13 posts

Strange Encounter - Hurt for days (I am new to this)


Empath

Dear all,

Thank you very much for your answers so far, this is really helpful and I'm very glad I found this community!! I doubt people who are not 'affected' by this would understand. I will definitely check out Trevor's book as at the moment I want to know everything there is to know :) 

I think the two of us do have a strong connection, it's just hitting me so hard because before this, we really did not speak for about 10 years, but I know that he liked me a lot back in that day and vice versa and he even mentioned that he drove out that day especially to try and meet me. Anyway, I know now firsthand what he is going through - he is nowhere ready to meet anybody 'new' in his state of mind - but it's good to know regardless. As I mentioned, I think he is angry/disappointed with me for leaving so abruptly and I may feel this as well, lots of negative stuff. At least I can now be sure this aches are not mine and I can actually deal with it with the techniques.

Thank you also for the tips on ridding myself of these feelings, I will try them out, I try to spend a lot of time in nature so will actively seek that these days.

I also have the impression that we may be able to feel when someone is thinking strongly about us i.e. a lover/husband or a relative/good friend especially etc.  

Thank you, it will be an exciting journey that's for sure but I do feel so much better recently (apart from above problem), I wouldn't want it any other way :)

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
07/06/17 03:22:56AM
13 posts

Strange Encounter - Hurt for days (I am new to this)


Empath

Hi all,

I am very new to this whole topic of being an Empath but I have to say after reading about it, it felt like a real eye-opener, and I believe I might be an Empath.

One question that was not answered anywhere online for me (or in Elise's book which I read in one sitting on Sunday :) ) is, can it be that some negative feelings I get from a person last within me for multiple days or even a week etc.? I had an encounter with an old friend of mine on Friday, which I haven't seen in years, we talked we touched and eventually we briefly kissed. I left rather abruptly because I did not feel comfortable with the situation for some reason, I think he was angry then which may play into the problem I have now. 

I know that he has serious issues at the moment, he was just dumped by his girlfriend of many years for another man and was obviously in pain. The strange thing is, that I felt really really bad the next day (when the Alcohol was out of my system I guess!) I felt real heartache and it felt like I was going through a break up myself (which I'm not!) I felt such heartache and pain and did not know why, until it dawned on me that those might be HIS feelings and not mine at all! I found this website and tried the technique of turning down his and other peoples volume - instant relief! But I feel that it's coming back in waves here and there so now I'm struggling with this since almost a week. Is this 'normal' that these aches can last for such a long time? Also, does it mean he is feeling that at this moment in time, or does he think about me and hence extending his pain to me at that moment, or did he more like 'dump' these feelings on me at that point when we met and merrily went his way leaving me to deal with what he left me? I'm trying to understand how this works exactly, also to prepare myself for future encounters like this.

Also I must say that the past week/s I went through kind of a transformation, I feel like the 'real me' is emerging again after being dormant for many years, I cannot really pinpoint why but it feels good, even though many things happen at the same time now, like the above issue I had.

Thank you already for reading this and I'm hoping someone has some info for me regarding this :) 


updated by @gardentiger: 11/03/17 08:21:58AM