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GardenTiger
@gardentiger
07/06/17 06:53:40AM
2 posts

Strange Encounter - Hurt for days (I am new to this)


Empath

Dear all,

Thank you very much for your answers so far, this is really helpful and I'm very glad I found this community!! I doubt people who are not 'affected' by this would understand. I will definitely check out Trevor's book as at the moment I want to know everything there is to know :) 

I think the two of us do have a strong connection, it's just hitting me so hard because before this, we really did not speak for about 10 years, but I know that he liked me a lot back in that day and vice versa and he even mentioned that he drove out that day especially to try and meet me. Anyway, I know now firsthand what he is going through - he is nowhere ready to meet anybody 'new' in his state of mind - but it's good to know regardless. As I mentioned, I think he is angry/disappointed with me for leaving so abruptly and I may feel this as well, lots of negative stuff. At least I can now be sure this aches are not mine and I can actually deal with it with the techniques.

Thank you also for the tips on ridding myself of these feelings, I will try them out, I try to spend a lot of time in nature so will actively seek that these days.

I also have the impression that we may be able to feel when someone is thinking strongly about us i.e. a lover/husband or a relative/good friend especially etc.  

Thank you, it will be an exciting journey that's for sure but I do feel so much better recently (apart from above problem), I wouldn't want it any other way :)

GardenTiger
@gardentiger
07/06/17 03:22:56AM
2 posts

Strange Encounter - Hurt for days (I am new to this)


Empath

Hi all,

I am very new to this whole topic of being an Empath but I have to say after reading about it, it felt like a real eye-opener, and I believe I might be an Empath.

One question that was not answered anywhere online for me (or in Elise's book which I read in one sitting on Sunday :) ) is, can it be that some negative feelings I get from a person last within me for multiple days or even a week etc.? I had an encounter with an old friend of mine on Friday, which I haven't seen in years, we talked we touched and eventually we briefly kissed. I left rather abruptly because I did not feel comfortable with the situation for some reason, I think he was angry then which may play into the problem I have now. 

I know that he has serious issues at the moment, he was just dumped by his girlfriend of many years for another man and was obviously in pain. The strange thing is, that I felt really really bad the next day (when the Alcohol was out of my system I guess!) I felt real heartache and it felt like I was going through a break up myself (which I'm not!) I felt such heartache and pain and did not know why, until it dawned on me that those might be HIS feelings and not mine at all! I found this website and tried the technique of turning down his and other peoples volume - instant relief! But I feel that it's coming back in waves here and there so now I'm struggling with this since almost a week. Is this 'normal' that these aches can last for such a long time? Also, does it mean he is feeling that at this moment in time, or does he think about me and hence extending his pain to me at that moment, or did he more like 'dump' these feelings on me at that point when we met and merrily went his way leaving me to deal with what he left me? I'm trying to understand how this works exactly, also to prepare myself for future encounters like this.

Also I must say that the past week/s I went through kind of a transformation, I feel like the 'real me' is emerging again after being dormant for many years, I cannot really pinpoint why but it feels good, even though many things happen at the same time now, like the above issue I had.

Thank you already for reading this and I'm hoping someone has some info for me regarding this :) 


updated by @gardentiger: 11/03/17 08:21:58AM