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Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
08/27/17 06:43:57PM
13 posts

I fear that if I love again , again I will love a Narcissist . How to end this cycle.


Empath

Indigo Dog's Tips For True Love after a Narcissistic Train Wreck-

1. End the relationship with that soul sucking narcissist and burn the bridge behind you.

2. Heal. Take walks in nature. Get a cat. Spend time with friends that love you. Do the things you really enjoy. Remeber how fun and cool you  are. Once you have your confidence back and you feel pretty great , now you can put yourself out there.

3. Start with group dates with a bunch of your friends. Keep things light and fun. Try new hobbies, join some clubs to meet new people. Have fun socializing with lots of diferent folks to give yourself a lot of options and keep from falling into the trap of obsessing over one person. Take your time and keep working on your self.

4. Here is the key, if you are being dazzled by somene who flatters you and they almost bulldozer you over, that may not be love. It might be just manipulation. If you are not sure if you are with a narcissist pay attention to how they treat cashiers, wait staff and people who get in thier way. If they dote on you, make you feel special ( at first), but are rude and unkind to the waitress, just get up and run in the opposite direction.

5. Make sure to date a variety of new people. The love of your life might be someone you never expected. Be mindful of your personal bounderies. Just because you have the ability to do things and favors for others, does not mean you "have" to all the time. You are a human being worthy of respect not a doormat.

6. Repeat step 2. You are aware. You'll be fine. You carry the wisdom of your past. You're loveable.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
08/27/17 05:56:16PM
13 posts

Night Skies, planes,an Angel and energy


Psychic and Paranormal

What an amazing experience. Mine was not as cool as yours but still wonderful to me. A large hawk and two Kite birds circled overhead during the peak of the eclipse at my house. The energy was high and my husband and I celebrated it together, cheering. 

Astrologically, eclipses are great for closure and ending things. It could be tying up loose ends, finding a feeling of closure in a relationship or even clearing out the spiritual cobwebs to make room for new and better things.

I have seen angels. They have saved my life on three occasions. I have sighted a couple of them also, just doing thier job protecting someone or protecting a location. If they show up I tend to pay close attention. They are always accompanied by a feeling of divine peace, profound love and wellbeing.

Perhaps during this spiritually charged time, a divine messenger came to lend you support and encouragement concerning your NPD mother. I personally think you have the best and most balanced approach to that relationship. ( Good job!) It is sometimes challenging for an empath to imagine that another person could be devoid of emotional sympathy. We have so much of it. *laff.

Enjoy this time, as the effects of this eclipse will continue to be in effect for a couple more weeks. You're doing great. Blessings, Indigo Dog

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
08/21/17 02:29:06PM
13 posts

Happy eclipse day


Empath

Wonderful experience today! I placed all my stones and crystals out, lit insense, called in all my guides and gaurdians, toasted with wine and had a hawk and two kite birds circle us overhead at the height of the eclipse! Blessings to all!

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
08/18/17 08:44:18AM
13 posts

Questions on being Psychic...


Psychic and Paranormal

Clairvoyant- The ability to percieve things without the use of the 5 senses. Maybe you will like this word better. Perhaps you have a negative feeling about people who call themselves Psychic. People in my life who are not very empathic or pshychic make fun of me, have disbelief and mock my gifts. It's OK, they are scared and a little confused by it. I love them anyway and don't make a big deal of knowing everything I do.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
08/18/17 08:33:27AM
13 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

Cat-Whisperer said it best. I must admit when a Sensitive looked into my soul and just told it like it was, I was shaken. No one likes to feel vulnerable. No one likes to face thier hang ups and dark places. I pay more attention to how to soften my responses and be mindful of how the listener might feel if I reveal something personal to them. I know I am impulsive and awkward in social situations and say things without thinking too. I make mistakes. I give myself a lot of slack. I have lost friends, however I make friends easily. People love to talk to me and share the most personal details. One thing I have learned is that sometimes the thing that is most disturbing to me when I am confronted with a friend or family members behavior is really just a mirror of my own faults. They are just meeting me at that vibrational level. The negative that I see is really the parts of me that still need some work.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
08/16/17 07:42:52AM
13 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

Netfix has a new series about Empaths called Sense8 that is kind of fun, if a little violent. Lots of nudity, so be warned not safe for work viewing. lol

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
07/23/17 10:50:06AM
13 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

I have been pondering the Narcissist/ Empath Co-dependant dance for a while now. For myself, I feel that I developed sensitivity as a survival technique. While I think I would have been intuitive from birth, having to navigate a childhood with parents who both had high narcissistic traits, made me more Empathic. What better way to desperately get attention, love and approval from perfectionist parents who constantly moved the bar than to "game" the emotional blackmail by knowing what they were feeling, thinking or wanting before they even verbilized it? 

Because everyone wants to feel connected, loved and complete, we all do what we can to get that feeling of unconditional love. Narcissists are so disconnected from a sense of wellbeing and connected to divine love that they manipulate others into feeding them from their own energy. Empaths are almost too sensitive,( feeling everyone's emotions, able to sense when they are happy or not.) I was often drawn in by simple Narc manipulations and games, like " Poor Me I need to be Rescued and Loved but I'm a Narc and I will never love you back", or " I would feel better if You would just Bend Over Backward to Please Me "( Rage tantrum if I didn't ), or " I'm Bored so I will trigger you into a fight for my Narc amusment and Attention."

I am grateful for the selfish people who have made me what I am today. I am also working to clear out all those lies and energetic blocks that crippled me spiritually. When Depression decended yet again, or I found myslef in another Narc, Empath relationship I now trace the original memory of when I spiritually agreed to allow that negative belief to play out in my experience. I hunt it down and dissolve it with Source energy, Divine Love, Positive Light, God and replace that old faulty belief with one that is good, loving and serves me in a positive way. I am on my journey. I find plenty of energetic crud to clear out. It gets better.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
07/17/17 09:48:08PM
13 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

Weirdest thing I ever saw was a gnome strolling down my neighbors driveway. Honestly, I first thought it might be a little kid but on doing a double take it was a perfectly proportioned classic leprochaun. He wore a bright blue suit, nice shoes and he seemed just as shocked to see me looking at him as I was. He ducked behind a pine tree. I blinked, wondering if the blue suit was just a trick ( we all have bright blue rubbish bins.) Nope, it was a wee folk. Not a little person, because he was smaller than that. I just nodded politely and hustled inside my house as fast as I could. I'm not sure where I read if you disrespect a gnome they could cause you trouble. I never saw him again.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
07/16/17 09:14:46PM
13 posts

Not sure


Empath

I'm sorry you are so unhappy. It must feel horrible to be emotionally abandoned so abruptly. I'm glad you feel brave enough to share this on the forum. Even if you knew every detail as to why this has happened I don't think it would make it any less painful. You seem to be a very loveable person so this is a real gut kick. Everyone posted such excellent responses for you. What a great group. 

1. Distract yourself from the hurtful situation to give your heart and mind time to regroup and recover. Pet you cat, watch an uplifting show, play some music, hike in nature. 

2. Realize that her actions are her issues. Your inner being knows that the reason it feels so bad is because it knows that this situation does not match how really great you are and how good your friendship is.

3. Be good to yourself. Eat well, sleep, and surround yourself with positive and loving people.

4. Ground and sheild yourself spiritually. 

5. Outrage, frustration and depression are good signposts. They tell us that we are being shortchanged in certain areas of our lives. If you feel inspired to, follow those signs and threads to where you feel shortchanged, cheated and needful. Ask your inner being/ higher self, or God connection to show you how to heal and triumph in those areas.

I was shut out by someone I considered a close personal friend also. She just stopped returning my calls, no explination. Some months later I saw her and her children( I used to watch her kids and missed them,) they were at a grocery store. She dragged her kids down an isle in a effort to avoid me. That really hurt. I went home and confided in a friend and she was very comforting. That helped a lot. Ultimately I had time to review the whole relationship and realized that it wasn't that healthy and it probably would never develop any deeper because we were just at different places in our life's journey.

@windwolf I hope you find that the space you have now will be filled with even more rewarding friendships and personal fulfillment. I hope that as you fight for your own peace of mind and happiness that your friend will come around again and you will both be more balanced and kind to each other.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
07/14/17 10:42:30AM
13 posts

Important Advice Needed


Healers

Blessings to you and your Mom @alexsisw. It is OK to do nothing sometimes. If you are not feeling inspired to do your usual healing, feeling blocked or just backed up with resistance, just take a beat. Step back from the whole situaltion and emotionally, spiritually let go of it. Sometimes being really invested and upset and putting a strangle hold on the situalion that you do not want can create big blocks. This struggle might be an important lesson for you both. A little life's contrast and hardship can really be the springboard and motivation for a person. Be at ease about all this and stand back to let God do the details.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
07/14/17 09:46:59AM
13 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

I have lost a few friends for being too "judgy" or for just blurting out things I intuited. People don't like having thier private thoughts read. It is embarassing and personal and I was a big mouth. Sometimes their thoughts and feelings are so loud I forget and just start talking about it. Not to be a jerk, but because I am genuinely compassionate and can feel how dominant these topics are in them. I am trying to help, but sometimes I just creep them out. I may come off as canny and weird because I just know stuff, but I come from a pure place of loving intent. It must be tough for people to be around empaths when they want to have secret feelings and thoughts.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
07/14/17 09:37:53AM
13 posts

exclusivity in a group & how that affects an empath, insight please?


Empath

Nice thread. It is natural to outgrow a group that no longer resonates with you. You still love them but is feels off putting to be with them when they no longer reflect your values or energy vibration. Some will keep up to speed with you and some will fade out of your life. I think your gut is telling you to be true to you. Don't hold back your awesomeness just to try and force yourself to fit in.

Indigo Dog
@indigo-dog
07/02/17 07:16:29PM
13 posts

29 Signs That You're A Healer


Library of Light

Great List!. I laughed at #29.