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Stills
@stills
05/24/17 12:39:03PM
13 posts

A question to male Empaths


Empath

I'm actually quite 'masculine' in many ways I'm a typical guy. But I grew up an introvert. I pretty much was raised by my sister and mother so perhaps that got me in touch with my feminine side. I've always liked hanging out with girls but also need time with the lads too. It was a girl who made me realise I was an empath, she sort of got me in touch with my emotions and that's when I started noticing that I was picking up on other peoples thoughts and feelings.
Stills
@stills
05/22/17 02:11:47PM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Can you tell me more about the crystals and medicine pouch? What they are and where to find them? Thanks.

Stills
@stills
05/22/17 02:01:08PM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Yeah the sword thing I've never used on her.
Stills
@stills
05/22/17 11:52:32AM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

I agree, they are totally a real thing. There have been times I've meditated and discovered one person may have multiple cords into me, groin, stomach, head and I simply imagine myself pulling them out, they thrash and fight to reattach but then I use a sword of light to still up the shaft of them. Sounds crazy but I swear I've been doing it for years. Just with this girl I felt I needed to allow myself to be vulnerable to really take a leap of faith on her and the connection went deep but circumstances prevent us being together. I think I haven't made the conscious decision yet to detach which is why it's so painful to try.
Stills
@stills
05/21/17 04:24:24PM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Yes. I tried to but it backfired and hurt me even more. Hard to explain. Perhaps I'll try again.
Stills
@stills
05/21/17 04:17:07PM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Thinking about it now seems to be a big one around my solar plexus
Stills
@stills
05/21/17 03:46:14PM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

I know exactly what you mean. Ive used that technique for many years, I close my eyes and sense a cord, or more like a tentacle and using visualisation techniques, like martial arts, I detach them and repel them. But this one is a little harder, probably coz it's more deeper. Doesn't even feel like a cord, feels more like she's attached to me herself. When I've tried to detach I experience great pain, like I'm tearing a part of myself off, it just doesn't work and I'm afraid to try again.
Stills
@stills
05/21/17 03:28:06PM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Yeah, I have the same kind of issue. Like is the pain I feel when we're not speaking my pain, or hers? Or both? I ask because it's an unusual pain, like it's not mine. As an empath you guys know what I mean. When you just feel like a feeling in you is an interpretation of someone elses energy. I just don't know.

Stills
@stills
05/16/17 05:00:48AM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Well, I've had a realisation that those intense feelings, that pain, is real love. Can't avoid it. Love is pain. It hurts. I've been in relationships before where I love the person dearly but the intensity, the pain isn't there which is probably why it fizzled. This girl has me sobbing like a baby coz I'm crazy about her. I need to stop denying those feelings, probably because I'm afraid of the intensity. I'm afraid because it can detroy me but I guess that's the leap of faith I need to take. I can't live a lie, and I don't want to be a coward. So I emailed her these thoughts and feelings and emailed back basically telling me she feels the same and hopes I make the move (there's distance between us logistically).

Sorry to hijack this thread but I'm thinking these feelings will never leave. Ever.  They'll probablu become manageable in time but it seems the only thing that can ease the pain is the cause of the pain. I've got to go for it as scary as it is because as Aimee Man sings: 'It's not gonna stop until you wise up." Even if I don't get her, I got to accept that I'm in love with her, it's beyond logic, embrace the pain, let it make me a better person and channel it into something creative.


updated by @stills: 05/16/17 05:11:00AM
Stills
@stills
05/13/17 03:12:35PM
13 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

I think everyone who has empathy is a potential empath. The difference is empaths have acute knowledge and vision of what they are feeling at any one time, so we are able to disect a feeling and say to ourselves 'that's not mine, it's that persons'. Most people are so cut off from their own emotions that they'll never truthly know their potential. They can feel other peoples feelings and simply think it's their own. I see it all the time.

In my opinion Empaths are simply emotional scientists with a clear and functional working knowledge of the emotional vibrations in and out of their bodies. Our emotional bodies are the same as everyone elses, it's just our inner vision and emotional translation is alot better than most.


updated by @stills: 05/13/17 03:17:34PM
Stills
@stills
05/12/17 02:01:52PM
13 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Yup, I'm going through same thing. I knew her from university and we've been in contact over the years but past six months it became very intense emotionally. I think I pushed the romantic with her and she sort of was into it but I too had to be honest with myself and realise that she just isn't that into me. My head knows it was all kinds of wrong but the pain after we stopped speaking was immense. I suffered badly for about a week and I still have some sleepless nights.

Like you, I'm mad at my heart for holding on to her when my head knows it's not the right match at all. Like it's becoming annoying and really affecting my life on a day to day basic. I'm funcioning but every now and then I dabble in looking at pictures of her and even send an email.

It's like our emotions made a connection and once broken all that's left is a wound that's taking its time to heal and every now and then cries out for relief. It's an emotional and sexual thing but intellectually we have nothing in common and I really just want to move on. Someone needs to tell my soul that though.

I think dealing with the pain head on helps the healing though. Perhaps directly after your break with him you never confronted your feelings of the breakup so you never really let the pain go and after seeing the picture it all came flooding back. I would say allow yourself to grieve the loss, feel the pain. It could take a few months but if you confront your feelings research shows that you'll begin seeing the positives after 11 weeks. So they say,


updated by @stills: 05/12/17 02:31:43PM
Stills
@stills
04/05/17 02:50:47AM
13 posts

Breaking up with someone


Empath

I think to be honest I'm starting to realise that she was a narcissist and I fell for the games. I don't think she was fully blown narc but I think she had strong narc traits with a tiny bit of light inside that I tried to reach. But I cannot heal such damage, I have to accept that. Thankfully I'm seeing the light and hope in myself and I'm starting to heal. Still a few sleepless nights but the trauma in my body isn't so acute. Hopefully I learn from this and learn to love someone who deserves my care and attention.


updated by @stills: 04/05/17 02:53:24AM
Stills
@stills
04/02/17 02:31:08PM
13 posts

Breaking up with someone


Empath

Hi, I realised a few years back that I easily absorb the feelings of others and even more so when I make a connection with them over time. Well in the last six months I made a connection with a girl. We spoke alot on messenger and met up a few times but it was a more emotional connect. Being an empath I learned to shield from damaged people but for some reason I let my guard down, choosing to trust her but in the end she had some issues (ex boyfriend that she was getting back with as well) and I had to cut off.

It's been a week and I'm still feeling her inside me, I know some hurt is mine but I can feel her pain and essense if that makes sense and it's causing me a great deal of pain. She was very clingly emotionally and I allowed her to attach to me, I suppose I was lonely myself or something but I dropped my guard. I think she is a love addict and I was feeling her euphoria and I mistook it for love. I know that sounds calculated but I've loved a girl before and it was more dear than this. This girl isn't someone I really match well with, we have not much in common but that we communicate on this emotional level. I'm more star struck by her, but not sure if it's love. Perhaps crazy love but real love I'm not sure. I feel like I because more addicted to her than loved her if that makes sense.

Now I feel like I'm trying to break free from drug abuse, going cold turkey, but there's a gut wrenching feeling most nights that prevents me from sleeping and even has me throwing up (nothing). I'm trying to detach but it won't stop, it's like someone has a grip on my insides and it's ripping me apart. Sorry to get so heavy but I was wondering if anyone has experienced this before. I know for most, breakups are painful but I think for empaths it's extra acute because we're so sensitive.

I've tried visualizing sheilding, pulling away etc but it seems to come back even stronger, as if punishing me for trying to break away from the pain. It's like I have no choice but to wait it out but for how long?


updated by @stills: 08/05/17 08:34:16AM