Boy, do I ever understand this! I know exactly what you're describing...it's very painful & does feel like a tearing away, a physical withdrawl. My explanation as I see it? Even if I've cut ethereal cords etc., it's like they are still a part of my heart. In my life, if I have ever loved you, I will always love you. It won't look the same or feel the same but, it's always there. I feel it's because we love at a soul level. There are many earthly reasons why we must release lovers to stay healthy but, when you love a person's soul...it doesn't get purer than that. To me, that's how I love. I love the soul primarily, the person just comes along with it! So, how can you remove one soul light from another? And, why would you? I can distance myself ect. but, your light has become a part of me forever. Anyway, that's basically how I see it. Hope it makes sense to you & answers your question...you are not alone in this!