Forum Activity for @jonig

JoniG
@jonig
09/18/17 05:13:40PM
33 posts

Question for Empaths


Empath

Interesting question! I feel the turmoil too, like you all...I feel the unbalance. All energy is tied together right? The "Pollyanna" in me is hoping that all the unrest is leading to an awakening, not an end. Love Pollyanna, sure hope she's right 😏
JoniG
@jonig
09/18/17 05:04:07PM
33 posts

Signs everywhere


Empath

IF I were more disciplined, I would certainly benefit from a journal. Unfortunately, I'm not...LOL. I totally understand your post. I'm getting better but, Im usually best at interpretation after the fact. Must be that's how we learn? 😉
JoniG
@jonig
06/20/17 05:37:47PM
33 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

"Resurrection" with Ellen Burstyn! This was the universe's first message to me about being a healer...I LOVE those messages 💜 I was totally enamored with the concept. It opened my mind right now & my heart recognized the message. It was a beautiful thing & I'm still so very grateful for it!
JoniG
@jonig
06/13/17 03:15:44PM
33 posts

Agh.. this will be a little crazy about my life right now...


Empath

Can you stay at your college, or get a place to live with student loans? Then you've cut a major drain. Your job...if you quit right now, would the stress be more from lack of money? The key-fob issue sounds annoying but, will end right? Sometimes, just allowing your mind to figure out what you need & possible ways to get those things will alleviate a lot of stress. I'm sorry everything is hitting at once, that is overwhelming for anyone but, especially us empaths. I'm rooting for you to find your balance agai. & happily move forward!
JoniG
@jonig
06/01/17 08:19:58PM
33 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

P.S. Looking back on my medical issues: hernia, gallbladder out, 3 c-sections, coneoscopy for pre cervical cancer, and colon cancer...all in the same region....coincidence? 😛
JoniG
@jonig
05/31/17 02:48:05AM
33 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

Thank you! This is yet another piece in my puzzle! I DO experience this...I just hadn't put 2 & 2 together yet...I will ponder this more...hmmmm...
JoniG
@jonig
05/16/17 02:04:49PM
33 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

I've been through periods like that...long stretches of years! Health, finances, relationships all bad at the same time, I felt marked 😔 What seriously started changing my life for the better (I've never been happier!): letting go and accepting life exactly how it came to me & the biggest thing...I put myself into the happiness mix! I started asking myself what would make ME happy. Not in a mean, to heck with the rest of you way...but, considering my feelings first & along with others. The best advice I ever received from a dear friend has helped me a lot in implementing this change in thought patterns...he said, "You give the best advice! Why don't you ever take your own advice?" I would ask myself in difficult times, what advice I would give someone I care about in my shoes? It helped! I found I am a good giver of advice, CAN help myself in this way & as an added bonus, it greatly enhanced my self esteem!! I hope this is helpful to you in some way....I've been there! Best of everything to you...especially when you are mindful enough of YOURSELF to ask for it!! 😍
JoniG
@jonig
05/15/17 04:56:59PM
33 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

@calmidwester...I am closer to 60 than 50. I honestly can't remember ever picking the smart, calm, normal person. Sad to say but true. I bend to my heart always. I am in a relationship now with a REALLY great guy but, still find myself missing that intense element. I don't want to rescue people for the rest of my time, I would like stability but, I am missing those feelings. Because if that lack I'm finding it hard to commit to this relationship. Mostly because I don't trust my heart to not lead me on a wild goose chase. I don't want to hurt this great guy by being a flake. I'm honest with him about my feelings. He's so great, he gets it and is STILL willing to be whatever it is now. I'm disappointed in myself...for not being able to commit to healthy, for not feeling intensity for this man, for still wishing for more.....I really would like to know if anyone really does have it all? And, if they do...what does that look/feel like?
JoniG
@jonig
05/14/17 07:35:28AM
33 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

Unfortunately, one of the conclusions I'm coming to is....we as empaths feel so much for damaged individuals that it hits our hearts intensely. "Normal", well adjusted individuals are better for us in all ways but the intensity factor. Since we are all feelings, this doesn't ring in as "in love" although can be very loving & healthy. I feel cheated! I want both!!!!! Is it possible? Do I have to give up the intensity for safety? This is a very sobering thought for me 😔
JoniG
@jonig
05/12/17 01:19:01PM
33 posts

How to Cut Off These Damned Feelings


Empath

I TOTALLY get it & I do the exact same thing!!! That's why I wondered if anyone/empath had been or was in a normal relationship...meaning not the huge bells & whistles kind of thing...and are/were they hapoy/satisfied? It takes forever for me to let go mentally & I can't tell if Ive just invented or unconsciously picked up their feelings? Either way, its REALLY painful. I obsess & imagine. I have no advice because I'm still trying to understand it. I would LOVE for my heart AND head to be on the same page for once! I'm tired of being in lopsided relationships because my heart led me there without consulting with my head...
JoniG
@jonig
05/07/17 04:17:25PM
33 posts

I messed everything up


Empath

💜
JoniG
@jonig
05/07/17 11:58:04AM
33 posts

I messed everything up


Empath

First, I object to you thinking your judgement is so bad & belittling yourself 😔 I understand your feeling that way because you're hurt & embarrassed but, your judgement is better than most, don't discount it!! Of course he knew & was stoking his ego at your expense...sad but not uncommon right? You also kniw he has feelings for you. We KNOW these things. He's not able, or unwilling to openly act upon these...not really a surprise but hurts our all knowing heart right? I totally understand this pain. The psin of knowing someone is vibrationally in line with you but states otherwise. It hurts!! And, who do you talk to about it that would understand? I understand! And, I applaud your honesty & bravery! Get a new person. Thus will leave you open to him contacting you if he is also gutsy enough...it gives the Universe some room to work with. People I feel like that are like a drug to me...it's overwhelming & feels so urgent & insistent. Sorry to ramble. I DO get it. I think you're being WAY to hard on yourself because of your emotions. Practice self love right now, dream of the future, be positive...you are loved 💜
JoniG
@jonig
05/03/17 02:57:46PM
33 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

I totally understand that feeling of being cut off! Pot did that to me & now even a bad head cold can do that...ugh! Do you think all people feel that connection? I know we feel more but, do you think most people feel like they're in their own heads & bodies, not everyones? I "changed places" with a guy I was with once...it was an experiment..we tried to inhabit each others space instead of our own for a minute. It sounds weird I'm sure but, it was VERY eye opening for us! He couldn't believe how much I felt & I couldn't believe how isolated I could feel was his reality! This was way before I had heard the term empath. It was kinda scary to me to think that other people felt that way naturally, it was so very different than what I perceived as normal/natural. In light of this conversation, it makes me wonder if most people felt (or rather, don't feel 😉) like him?!!! It's a very interesting concept. I'm not quite sure how to find the answer? How do you compare something like that?!! Wow!!!
JoniG
@jonig
05/03/17 06:30:58AM
33 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

I'm glad you asked this question! I stay away from all meds as much as possible because of my body's reaction to most of them. I even had abdominal surgery once and requested only Tylenol after because as I told the nursing staff, I would rather deal with pain than my mind going in a million uncontrollable directions!! My reactions to medicines and even herbs can be intense & opposite of most peoples. I have panic attacks & am reluctant to experiment with anything ingested because I can't control how I respond & then, I feel stuck inside of my body & racing head......

JoniG
@jonig
04/26/17 08:28:26AM
33 posts

emotionless empath


Empath

This is an interesting discussion...a topic I had never considered but need to examine, thank you!!! I also appreciate the recommendation of the book...I just ordered it from Amazon :) 

JoniG
@jonig
04/20/17 11:46:43AM
33 posts

Teeth ?


Empath

This is very interesting...I had very bad teeth...not from lack of care either. My Mom, Grandma & Aunt all have the same teeth. We all have dentures even, they were that bad! All of those women are empaths too. I realize you are talking about feeling in your teeth (and that is very interesting!) but, I'm wondering now about teeth in general? I will be watching to see if anyone else comments. Thanks for the mind expansion :)

JoniG
@jonig
04/16/17 05:57:28AM
33 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

I am finding more people opening up to their abilities too 😊 Ashville, NC? May have to plan a visit? Am being drawn South, wasn't sure where...love the love letters from The Universe 💜 I have understanding friends but, no empath connections openly yet.
JoniG
@jonig
04/03/17 12:20:03AM
33 posts

Breaking up with someone


Empath

Boy, do I ever understand this! I know exactly what you're describing...it's very painful & does feel like a tearing away, a physical withdrawl. My explanation as I see it? Even if I've cut ethereal cords etc., it's like they are still a part of my heart. In my life, if I have ever loved you, I will always love you. It won't look the same or feel the same but, it's always there. I feel it's because we love at a soul level. There are many earthly reasons why we must release lovers to stay healthy but, when you love a person's soul...it doesn't get purer than that. To me, that's how I love. I love the soul primarily, the person just comes along with it! So, how can you remove one soul light from another? And, why would you? I can distance myself ect. but, your light has become a part of me forever. Anyway, that's basically how I see it. Hope it makes sense to you & answers your question...you are not alone in this!
JoniG
@jonig
03/27/17 05:52:25AM
33 posts

Good vibes please


Empath

Sending love & good healing energy <3

JoniG
@jonig
03/16/17 08:33:38AM
33 posts

Heat/burning sensations


Empath

I get sensations from people concerning their illnesses. I would wait & see if you can identify them as yours or not? This has worked best for me. Both books you mentioned are excellent!!! <3

JoniG
@jonig
03/16/17 06:35:27AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

It's not his appearance that isn't attractive to me, he's very attractive. It's that unspoken pull, the electricity, the spark.

JoniG
@jonig
03/15/17 06:30:21AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

Wow, you have!?! Well now, I know it can exist...thank you!!! I am currently in a relationship with my twin flame. I feel so comfortable and challenged in a good way by this man. I am not attracted to him :( That is so very sad to me!! I wondered if it was possible to have both? You have answered my question, thank you!!! Enjoy your wonderful find!

JoniG
@jonig
03/15/17 06:09:38AM
33 posts

Being afraid to stop absorbing the energy of others


Empath

I understand somewhat what you are talking about. I took for granted & thought that everyone felt things the way I do. But, when I have a serious head cold or when I was younger and tried pot or other mood altering things...I feel totally disconnected & in my own space only. It is terrifying & I am VERY uncomfortable with it! I think that controlling your energy yourself would give you the freedom to go back to the way things were if it were too uncomfortable? I have never been able to disconnect enough voluntarily to feel angst, only relief!

JoniG
@jonig
03/15/17 06:01:49AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

@lotusfly, I understand what you are saying...completely. I was really trying to see if someone had actually found a combination of head and heart successfully. My attractions seem to be well defined by one of those two categories. Just wondering if any empath had found a combination, or if for us, the direct distinction is universal?

JoniG
@jonig
03/14/17 12:44:42PM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

I live in a rural community...not much in the way of variety of thinking. I would so love to have a community of like minded individuals. Someone to hang out with that doesn't require an explanation of how I could possibly think that?!! Not feeling the the square peg in a round hole world. Just be & be understood, not just intellectually but in the heart!!!
JoniG
@jonig
03/14/17 12:02:05PM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

@calmidwester..If you and I lived close to each other we would probably be fast friends....and maybe get into a bit of trouble together? Lol! I appreciate your input...I think that their probably aren't any happy AND healthy relationships. If there are, they are rare it appears. I don't want to have to choose one or the other...my heart or my head...that is not the romance I have pictured in my head since I was a little girl....sigh

JoniG
@jonig
03/13/17 08:40:18AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

@tigerlily....I completely understand your feelings! I feel drawn like a magnet to some men & not others. It's frustrating...it feels so uncontrollable. I know I can control my choices & my actions...however, I would love to have my feelings engaged also or I fear I will be bored or feel trapped. I am having a very hard time commiting to a relationship that on paper looks custom made for me. My feelings aren't engaged beyond a brotherly type of love. Who wants to kiss their brother, ya know? I was wondering out loud if anyone had any experience being in a healthy AND happy relationship...I don't know how I can be in obe without that familiar heart feeling...
JoniG
@jonig
03/13/17 08:28:39AM
33 posts

Empaths and NDE's or Near Death Experiences


Empath

I have not had a nde. I do however have family members who I believe are empaths. I say believe because a discussion of this nature wouldn't occur for religious & fearful reasons. Sad, we could be a hood support for each other.
JoniG
@jonig
03/02/17 07:54:07AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

I REALLY appreciate your responses calmidwester....it is the kind of thing I am looking for...experience. Thank you so much for your time!!!

JoniG
@jonig
03/02/17 06:35:42AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

Thank you all for your responses! I intellectually know the pitfalls, the attractions that are one-sided, etc., ect......I am really looking for responses from people that are actually experiencing either side of this coin, happily. I am well versed in narc behavior and will totally stay away from that! But, as a healer, as are all empaths, can a happy relationship exist? My work affords me all the chaos & healing opportunities that you would think one would need. I find this very a different part of my heart. 

JoniG
@jonig
03/01/17 08:20:14AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

I love that you responded, thank you!! I have been married 3 times...I'm 56. My last husband is a diagnosed narcissist. I will not repeat that again...whew!!! I am aware of my patterns somewhat...I need space, want to help etc. I never knew until aprox. a year and a half ago why. The term empath opened many doors for me, thankfully! I am trying to do new things in regards to relationship. My friends and family are asking, why don't you ever find someone that is good for YOU instead of the other way around. I am trying. I have a friend that feeds my head, is healthy, kind etc. But, I am attracted to another man who is an alcoholic. Granted, he is a laid back, gentle, kind man....but, I cannot figure out if the attraction is because I innately knew he needed help or not? I love the normal healthy man. I feel in love with the alcoholic. I know I live by intuition & my heart...I always have. I am worried that if I choose my head over my heart, I will be unhappy & subject to another that could touch my heart instead of my head! I don't want my life to always be hard...that's why I was wondering if anyone has had a long term successful relationship with a "normal" person who didn't trigger the empath bells? This is very hard for me......

JoniG
@jonig
03/01/17 04:35:08AM
33 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

Here's my question & issue: I am drawn, like irresistibly drawn to men who I feel intensely...unfortunately, that usually means some sort of "fixable" issues. I'm afraid if I commit to the nice guy that my friends and family all want, I'll end up feeling trapped & bored...resulting in me hurting them by being attracted to someone else I feel more....Am I alone in this struggle? Has anyone taken the relationship plunge with the person who doesn't ring all their bells & are they happy? Is this a common problem for empaths? I wonder if relationship happiness is even possible? Thanks all 💜


updated by @jonig: 07/18/17 01:07:29PM