How do you deal with having a crush on someone ?
To: womanwhowalks...I get it...you're not alone, thanks for sharing!
I'm glad you asked this question! I stay away from all meds as much as possible because of my body's reaction to most of them. I even had abdominal surgery once and requested only Tylenol after because as I told the nursing staff, I would rather deal with pain than my mind going in a million uncontrollable directions!! My reactions to medicines and even herbs can be intense & opposite of most peoples. I have panic attacks & am reluctant to experiment with anything ingested because I can't control how I respond & then, I feel stuck inside of my body & racing head......
This is very interesting...I had very bad teeth...not from lack of care either. My Mom, Grandma & Aunt all have the same teeth. We all have dentures even, they were that bad! All of those women are empaths too. I realize you are talking about feeling in your teeth (and that is very interesting!) but, I'm wondering now about teeth in general? I will be watching to see if anyone else comments. Thanks for the mind expansion
Wow, you have!?! Well now, I know it can exist...thank you!!! I am currently in a relationship with my twin flame. I feel so comfortable and challenged in a good way by this man. I am not attracted to him That is so very sad to me!! I wondered if it was possible to have both? You have answered my question, thank you!!! Enjoy your wonderful find!
I understand somewhat what you are talking about. I took for granted & thought that everyone felt things the way I do. But, when I have a serious head cold or when I was younger and tried pot or other mood altering things...I feel totally disconnected & in my own space only. It is terrifying & I am VERY uncomfortable with it! I think that controlling your energy yourself would give you the freedom to go back to the way things were if it were too uncomfortable? I have never been able to disconnect enough voluntarily to feel angst, only relief!
, I understand what you are saying...completely. I was really trying to see if someone had actually found a combination of head and heart successfully. My attractions seem to be well defined by one of those two categories. Just wondering if any empath had found a combination, or if for us, the direct distinction is universal?
@calmidwester..If you and I lived close to each other we would probably be fast friends....and maybe get into a bit of trouble together? Lol! I appreciate your input...I think that their probably aren't any happy AND healthy relationships. If there are, they are rare it appears. I don't want to have to choose one or the other...my heart or my head...that is not the romance I have pictured in my head since I was a little girl....sigh
Thank you all for your responses! I intellectually know the pitfalls, the attractions that are one-sided, etc., ect......I am really looking for responses from people that are actually experiencing either side of this coin, happily. I am well versed in narc behavior and will totally stay away from that! But, as a healer, as are all empaths, can a happy relationship exist? My work affords me all the chaos & healing opportunities that you would think one would need. I find this very a different part of my heart.
I love that you responded, thank you!! I have been married 3 times...I'm 56. My last husband is a diagnosed narcissist. I will not repeat that again...whew!!! I am aware of my patterns somewhat...I need space, want to help etc. I never knew until aprox. a year and a half ago why. The term empath opened many doors for me, thankfully! I am trying to do new things in regards to relationship. My friends and family are asking, why don't you ever find someone that is good for YOU instead of the other way around. I am trying. I have a friend that feeds my head, is healthy, kind etc. But, I am attracted to another man who is an alcoholic. Granted, he is a laid back, gentle, kind man....but, I cannot figure out if the attraction is because I innately knew he needed help or not? I love the normal healthy man. I feel in love with the alcoholic. I know I live by intuition & my heart...I always have. I am worried that if I choose my head over my heart, I will be unhappy & subject to another that could touch my heart instead of my head! I don't want my life to always be hard...that's why I was wondering if anyone has had a long term successful relationship with a "normal" person who didn't trigger the empath bells? This is very hard for me......
Here's my question & issue: I am drawn, like irresistibly drawn to men who I feel intensely...unfortunately, that usually means some sort of "fixable" issues. I'm afraid if I commit to the nice guy that my friends and family all want, I'll end up feeling trapped & bored...resulting in me hurting them by being attracted to someone else I feel more....Am I alone in this struggle? Has anyone taken the relationship plunge with the person who doesn't ring all their bells & are they happy? Is this a common problem for empaths? I wonder if relationship happiness is even possible? Thanks all 💜