Forum Activity for @jan-howorth

Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
08/17/17 06:20:20AM
10 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

Hi, I too am just starting on the journey and finding things out about myself, but have also found no one to talk to who knows the answers. I have just taken a level 1 Reiki course and it has opened my eyes to things that are around us that very few people know are happening. I have told my family about it but they too are sceptical and my son just laughs. I was away on holiday the last few weeks and had a couple of medical issues with two members of the family and I placed my hands on them for a few minutes and the pain and the issue went away, so now they have proof its gone a bit quiet!  

I have always known I could heal but only my partners have known about it. I have also only just realise in the past year or so what an Empath is and that I am one.  The journey you are going on will primarily be a solo one unless you can find a kindred spirit to bounce off and help you. I am totally non religeous and very scientific so I need evedence. I went into the Reiki with an open heart and mind and it has changed my life.

When I held a girls head I felt like I had her soul in the palm of my hands. I told my tutor before she woke up ( es thats another strange gift I can hold someones hand and send them to sleep in a few minutes. Why is this and what can I use it for- non anaesthetic operations?) she said to the tutor she felt like she was out of her body when I held her crown.

I dont think "Normal" society is ready to accept this yet and you will always get the kind of reaction you get unless you confide in a loved one who is willing to take you as you are. My partner of 5 years takes me as I am I am blessed with her. She has seen what I can do and trusts me 100% with it, but still she doesn't understand what is happenning inside my head.

As a guide you should do the exercises on Elises page to block stuff out, read up on stuff for your journey and talk to whoever you can find who will listen. You will be able to spot the narcissists or vampire drains easily who are just there to leach you and you must practice trusting your instincts. If you think somthing is wrong then it is, fact. The sooner you start doing this the stronger you will become and the smoother your journey.

By the way I am a 58 year old man with 7 children, who has been a roofer for 21 years until retraining as a Maths, English and Motor Vehicle lecturer at 52. I wonder sometimes why I have found all this out about myself so late in life. I am sure my daughter is the same as me. If you are still reading thanks for listening and hope it helps.

Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
06/17/17 02:10:43PM
10 posts

Sickness and shutting down


Empath

Regarding the shitting down, my wife has been keeping up with me on reading about Empathy and when I go quiet she knows what's happening, I have been recognising and understanding it more and it's great to know I'm not just a moody git in my old age. It sounds more common than I first thought.
Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
06/17/17 02:07:19PM
10 posts

Sickness and shutting down


Empath

Because I have never known it was a gift I wasn't sure if I was harming myself. I have a lot of kids who used to rely on me and I've recently got remarried and moved 50 miles away basically because they drain me. When I go over for a day visit I have to do the blocking exercises to let them keep their own issues. I used to come home exhausted but since I found out about the exercises it's a lot better. I've just bought a Tourmsline bracelet to ward off bad energy and I'm looking at some grounding crystals tomorrow, any advise on which is the best would be greatly appreciated!
I also teach students with Educational and Behavioural Difficulties and I used to take all the bad vibes home with me but it's a lot better now. I've changed jobs to teach better behaved students and as yet my health has improved.l tremendously.
Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
06/17/17 01:29:00PM
10 posts

Sickness and shutting down


Empath

Hi, I am 58 and only just found out about Empathy. For all those years I have just not understood life, I've just got through it the best I could. Now I'm finding loads of things out about myself and it's turning me s but selfish. For example my family have known for years that when they get hurt they just have to hold my hand and their pain goes away. My daughter ( now 25) still tells people about when she broke her arms in her teens and I held her hand all the way to the hospital until the doctor told me to go, then she started screaming in pain and I was allowed back in till they had set it.
I have always offered my services to people without any returns and I have recently started to wonder if what I have been doing has been draining me physically and emotionally. The selfish part is tgat now I just want to concentrate on myself and try and become a balanced Empath. I am avoiding trying to help people from afar and wishing them luck, I want to regenerate myself as I've had a few illnesses in the last few years and wonder if they are a result of my giving myself away.
I have started reading up on Reiki and I'm hoping to go on a course this summer to see if I can understand my own energy and what is possible. Life keeps getting in the way though!

Thanks for listening and I hope you don't think bad of me. 😊
Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
06/07/17 02:15:59PM
10 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

I have the same feeling, my solution to this, and you might think I'm crazy, I twist it back to the bs'r. I have said to all my kids and students I have a bs bell inside my head and every time I hear some it rings and it's just gone off. When they try and dig their way out of it it's Oh! There it is again, and again. It's a lighthearted way of challenging them especially when others join in and give it to them too. It's helped me through the years. Hope you have stopped laughing now!

Jan
Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
06/05/17 12:05:55PM
10 posts

Sickness and shutting down


Empath

Wow the words are the same, shut down, cope, sane, inside, plot the more I read up on Empathy the more I seem enlightened, it's like a whole new world I've discovered at 58!

Jan
Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
06/05/17 12:03:40PM
10 posts

Sickness and shutting down


Empath

Hi, I have a similar coping mechanism, I purposely don't remember deaths as I try and shut them out. My only sibling brother (the narcissist!) gets depressed a week before and a week after each one. It's 20 since my dad died and if I see anything happening between a father and son, be it in life or on film I still crack up. I can shut out emotions at will and find it easy and as the saying goes bitterness will eat you from insid, it doesn't bother me. Like you suggest it seems callous but it's the only way I can keep my emotions stable. My mother, who abused me, was schitzophrenic and I didn't see her for 20 years and when I met up again she did nothing but talk about my brother. I use her as a yardstick to keep sane, if I feel myself losing the plot I think of her and withdraw till I'm in control of my own mind again. I've just bought a Tourmsline bracelet and feel as though it's helping me, I have just done a term teaching and don't feel as stressed as before.

Jan
Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
03/02/17 11:38:35AM
10 posts

Sleep issues


Empath

Recently we have just fitted blackout curtains as my wife works shifts and has to sleep during the day sometimes, I have found I am having a deeper sleep through the night now and not waking up as often. It is something to do with the light stimulating your eyes and waking you up. If you keep your eyes partially shut when you nip to the loo it lets less light in and you fall back to sleep easier afterwards, but the curtains have definitely made a difference.

Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
03/02/17 11:23:16AM
10 posts

Anybody feel depressed in a college atmosphere?


Empath

This is rife in the workplace today, I was recently let go from a job that paid 50% of the normal teaching rate and it felt like a relief when it had gone. I couldn't understand why I had been there so long. We tend to take the negative energy on board and its difficult to get rid of it before it impacts on your life. Its a vicious circle I'm afraid

Jan Howorth
@jan-howorth
02/22/17 12:56:41AM
10 posts

Looking for direction/doubting your instincts?


Empath

There are loads of cliches you can use here, but the best way to describe your predicament would be: It is better to regret doing something than not doing something. Just have a go and you can always say "I did it", rather than when you are older and greyer "I wish I had". I have had a fear of being a "cowboy" all my life and it has always led me to undervalue myself, but recently I've though I might as well not worry about it as everything I do turns out OK, my fears are the fear itself. The worst thing that can happen is you find out you don't know as much as you think, but that is all part of the learning process. If you get answered a question you can't answer then research it untill you can.

Hope this helps