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D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/27/17 08:07:18AM
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Empath

TigerLily: I'm really happy to hear such a success! You are an amazing man and I can tell you love her dearly. And clearly nothing to hide :)

Yes I truly do love her unconditionally and with everything I have. She was drawn to me during a very dark time in her life, she was going though so really bad things at the time we met and those thing I wouldn't wish on anyone. She truly was at the end of her rope and ready to give up on everything to include her life. I could have been just like a lot of other guys and just brushed her off because they didn't want to deal with someone and there damage. But I couldn't do that to her I had this unexplainable need/want to bet there for her and help her. At the time I wasn't even looking to be anything more than a friend and a shoulder for her to lean on, I was also willing to carry her as long as it took for her to no longer hurt and for her to come out of the darkness. We did end up both falling in love with each other and it really didn't take long for that to happen, I was able to help her get past everything and come out on the other side. Now it took a few years for her to get past everything but it didn't take anytime at all for us to fall in love. It was like the moment we started talking it was already there. We have had our problems over the past few years but we have worked past them and this last problem we just had truly opened both of us up to each other more than we ever thought could happen.  

D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/26/17 06:24:15PM
8 posts

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Empath

Ok so I wanted to do a update for anyone that wanted to know how things are going. I have been working on opening myself up and trying to allow my wife to read my emotions and such. It has been going really well she has been able to read me on a more regular bases and it has been good for both of us. We haven't really gotten the time to get into meditation yet as she works a lot, we have been talking a lot and I have been trying to figure out if I am a empath why I have blocked it off. I couldn't really understand what in my childhood could have done it but after talking to my wife she did help me realize that there was a lot that happened to me that if I was a empath could have made me shut down. The last time I truly felt a really strong emotions was when I was around 5 or 6 and my fathers mother pasted away. We went to her funeral and even thought I really didn't know her I had this overwhelming emotion of sadness and couldn't handle it and couldn't stop crying. My sister had to take me outside and that didn't work so she ended up taking me to the basement on the funeral home and they had it filled with money and stuff from all over the world. This is honestly one of my strongest memories as a child outside of the night my mother served my father with divorce papers and she had the cops outside when he got home to keep him from coming inside and he ended up going to jail the night because he stated to pull his gun out of his van and started putting it together. This happened when I was 4 years old. There was also a lot more death that followed all of this to include my grandfather committing suicide and he was someone I was very close to and spent time with on a daily bases and at his funeral I didn't allow myself to feel any emotions at all.

But on a happy note things are going great between myself and my wife. Things are also going great between myself and what was her friend that is also a empath that has now become a friend to me as well. All in all things are looking great and I can't wait to see what the future holds for us all.

D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/16/17 04:41:36AM
8 posts

People who block yoi


Empath

The problem is I truly don't know how to, and that's the reason I have been doing some research. In the past she had told me just a little about her being an empath and she really didn't go to far into it as, although I told her I was open minded and wanted to know about it she didn't feel she could full make me understand so it kind of just ended up not being talked about very much. Until recently after she made friends with a family that are empaths, my wife and myself started having some problem after she started spending a lot of time with them and it didn't help that one of them is a guy around her age. She ended up having him come to our house for a weekend so she could teach him how to cook. While he was here I didn't feel right and started to feel that there was something more going on, at the time I didn't know that he was also a empath and I couldn't understand how they got so close so fast. After that weekend she finally told me that at least him and his mother are empaths and that he can't control his abilities, that helped me understand how she could become so close so fast. We do still have some problems but things have gotten much better.

Also would like to share this. So yesterday my wife was having a bad day and for one reason or another she was picking up way more that she normally does, we had to go the store and while we were there she became overwhelmed. I could tell that there was something wrong and that she wasn't doing well so I stopped her and wrapped my arms around her with her back to my front. She decide to try and have us breath in sync with each other and as she knows that she can push anything she feels to me and it doesn't affect me at all, she did so and then tried to use me as a shield/barrier. It seemed to work at least for some time.

I have started to think that ever since she started spending time with this guy and his family she no longer had much of a shield and she seems to always be picking up on him even when they are so far apart.

D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/14/17 03:59:58PM
8 posts

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Empath

thank you for the help

D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/14/17 03:48:50PM
8 posts

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Empath

I want her to be able to read me if she so chooses. I know she has tried to but is hasn't been able to read me. She is thinking that if we meditate together we might be able to open myself up. And figure out what is blocking or why I have a block.

D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/14/17 03:45:56PM
8 posts

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Empath

I truly don't know if I am or not to be honest. My wife feels that I could be but she is unsure as well. I am 31 will be 32 in march.

D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/14/17 02:31:55PM
8 posts

People who block yoi


Empath

Ok so I just joined this community to try and help me understand empaths because my wife is one.

I am posting in this thread because my wife has never truly been able to really read me. She has on occasions very few in our 6yrs together, but most of these times are just before I am about to loose my temper, not really even that it's like she feels that there is something about to happen that will make me loose my temper, (like once she was at work and had a feeling that I was about to find something that was going to cause me to loose my temper, so she called me just as I woke up and shortly after I found our kids in there room and they had gotten into the fridge and took everything out of it and dumped it on there bedroom floor) She says that there have been a few other times that she could read a little bit from me but for the most part she can't get anything. I don't mean to block her or anyone at all I don't even know how or why I am. I have tried to let her in but it really doesn't work.

I am not a bad person I know that, I truly love her more than anything and what nothing but her to be happy. I truly care for her. I know about her darkside and things that she has been through that aren't good and also know about all the good things she has been through. People find me easy to talk to even when they don't really know me they just start talking to me and telling me about things that are bothering them and going wrong. I listen to them with my full attention and do my best to give them advice if I can. but most the time I just listen and they end up telling me that they feel so much better after talking to me and that they truly don't know why they felt the need to tell me everything they did. I don't go seeking people out at all, I've never really liked large crowds of people.

Don't know what I'm really looking for here I just feel that I wanted to add to this post because it is about people that block empaths, I do it and I have no clue how or why I do, I don't try to at all its just something that is there some how.

D.Heidler
@dheidler
01/14/17 05:43:23AM
8 posts

Question/help


Empath

I have a question, My wife is a empath and she has never truly been able to read me. There have been some times that she has been able to pick up on some things but not really much. I know it's also nice for her to be able to come home and not have to worry about dealing with what ever I have going on. But I would love to find a way to be able to share more with her. I don't know why she can't really pick up much and I know it's not just her that can't really read me. I don't know if its something about me and if it is I just wish I knew what it was. Also to add my wife has recently met and started hanging out with a family of empaths and one of then is a guy that is near her age and he has no control over his empath abilities. I know she finds him attractive and the fact that they can connect on levels that we can't. I know all about my wife's dark sides, we have been together for 6yrs and going on 7. I do my best to help her stay grounded and to also walk with her through her darkness. I just wish there was more I could do for her and that we knew what it was that is blocking me from her and all others.


Any help would be gratefully appreciated.

Thank you,

David.


updated by @dheidler: 05/29/17 01:33:20PM